Infrequent lurker, less frequent poster here. I know how much you folks love helping people with dating advice so here goes. Imma try hard to keep it short so I may leave out some details that I will fill in if necessary.
>be me, 23 m working at hotel
>qt blasian oneitis works in resturaunt inside hotel
>awhile ago i dated another coworker of ours, after the qt informed me she already had a bf
>during my relationship with the coworker, qt mentioned she was jealous of our relationship
>coworker and I split up a couple months after that
>i got fit in the last 6mo or so
>qt has started noticing, makes it a point to see me as much as possibke at work
>she's flirting hard and I suggest we hang out
>she agrees but bails on me for legit reasons
>make plans again
>she tells me day of our plans that she just split up with her bf and "isn't ready to just hang out yet"
>she's still flirty af and I'm still trying to get her to hang out
>was maybe a tad pushy but nothing cringeworthy
>weeks pass and she's still flirty but never hits me up to hang out
Now Idk what to do /adv/, I kind of want to talk to her and figure out what's up because today we didn't speak at all. I saw her and I know she saw me but she never said anything so neither did I. I'm trying to figure out if I did something wrong or if she's back with her bf or what. Any honest help would be much appreciated.
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>be shortly after I started working with qt
>try to get her to hang out and smoke marijuanas
>she says she's nervous about hanging with one guy and refuses to go
>tell her i want it to be a date
>she says she has a bf
>she also never speaks of him
>when she does she complains
>sounds like he's legit emotionally abusive
>she knows and handles it well but has been with him for 4 years and she's 21
>I know she was jealous of my relatuonship with coworker
>she said it outright to my face
>when she informed me she was single most recently, she made it a point to lmk that she really wanted to hang out
>she was adamant about making plans the next week but our schedules just didn't work
>this weekend is the first time she hasn't texted me at least once about trying to hang
>today was the first day she didn't lmk when she was taking breaks at work
>can't think of anything that I did to yield this reaction, other than maybe being too adamant about making plans, but I didn't sperg out about it
I'm so confused, and I can really only imagine 2 possibilities. Either she got back with her bf, which wouldn't be a huge surprise as they're pretty on/off, or she's legit still not ready to hang out now that she's single because she doesn't want to rush things? I fear it's the former, but even if that's the case I think I may still have a fighting chance if I play my cards right.
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she may just want somebody to flirt with at work? sometimes i just like to flirt with people at work but keep em at arms length - it keeps work fun but doesn't impact my Real Life. Anyway I think you should be straight-up with her and ask if she's really Down to hang out or what's up (you can ask this without making it Weird btw, just be cool), I don't think the subtle courtship games are doing it for you
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That's what I've been thinking but I've been hesitant because I've had a history of splerging out and confessing things when I shouldn't, you know typical autismo behavior. I think I can do it right this tine thiugh, I really like this one and she makes me feel comfortable so it shouldn't be too hard. Thank you for your help anon, I appreciate it.
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same anon, just sayin good luck OP!
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Thanks again!
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>>17156714
She clearly wants your dick, op. Rape her to help her make up her mind.
You'll thank me later.
