Hello everyone
I'm currently a neet that wants to get out of the house more and be more social with others. Can anyone give me some ideas of fun/productive things where I can interact with people more?
Also any productive hobbies you can think of would be great
I already started lifting and running.
>>17131327
a hobby is only a hobby if you enjoy it. otherwise its simply slave labor. my advice is to take something you already enjoy and reverse engineer that. like video games? design one. like music? write some (or rather, start by learning to play an instrument). like books? write one. like movies? make one. comics? draw one.
productive hobbies produce something. even if its just carpentry. but obviously oyu mean what are some fun things to do that you can meet people. for that i have some copy pastable advice. it was written to teach people how to find and meet women, but it works a LOT better for making friends.
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>>17131344
effort. lots and lots of effort. and also, doing what you like. going out is in no way restricted to bars and clubs, though if that is what you enjoy, by all means, go to bars and clubs.
the truest way to find chemistry is to experience your life in the most enjoyable way, and see how you match with the people who come into it. interacting with someone in a casual way shows you how you ACTUALLY get along, not how you hope to get along cuz you really want this to work cuz you need a gf.
so write down a list of all your hobbies, and find a way to externalize them. most people live at least near a city these days.
go to any and all hobby shops and ask about local events. gun shops might have hunting trips. or you can just go to a shooting range. comic book stores have game nights. or live commentary movie nights. if these shops do not host events, offer to host one through them, after all it will only lead to more money through them.
you can even go to a more casual store, lets say, a book store, and stand in your favorite aisle (lets say, horror). talk to everyone who comes by looking for a book. ask what book they are looking for. tell them what book you are looking at. try to spark a conversation abotu your favorite author. maybe take some suggestions. if you really hit it off, try to trade numbers.
its okay if it doesnt pan out. this isnt a scoring system. there is no man in a cloack in space making down on a cosmic chalkboard how many failed conversations you had. 99% of interaction is dumb. you are waiting for the 1% and enjoying talking about your favorite things with strangers until then.
>>17131327
i played 40k but it it got expensive (even more expensive rather)
try a dnd group
larrping lol
shooting, i used to shoot clays on the weekends and old dudes like to chat
car club if you have one but they can be full of asshats
mens book club
low stakes (like $5 buy in) poker games
i hang out at a cigar shop lounge sometimes but that can get pricey
i play airsoft but its not always for introverts
i used to build scale models and go to competitions so there was some interaction there
used to golf but that was $$ and a school club
used to fence but that was also a school club
but you could google non school clubs
if your 21 you can head to a dive bar that has like 1 or 2$ bud at happy hour, chat with guys getting out of work.
friend of mine used to hang around a coffie shop (like a private place not a starbucks) and chat with the baristas
uhh. thats all of the top of my head
>>17131346
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>but anon, going outside somewhere to find out if maybe they have an event doesnt suit my lazy lifestyle!!1!
and for those who simply cannot bring themselves to get up out of the house without a guarantee go to meetup.com and look for something of your interest. no matter what your interest it is on there in a group you can meet with. and if not, you can start your own meet up.
Now, some of you may argue that these sorts of tailored events are attended mostly by men. yes. mostly. but some women too. whats important here is you will be doing something you love, with people who love what you love, and when the right ladies come along you'll know they love it too. you will have that common ground.
Could someone please tell me how people post college became friends pre internet? It feels like my only chances of getting married is finding a woman on tinder
>>17131346
Thank you man for posting this advice. This is actually pretty helpful
>>17131371
when it comes to women specifically here is some advice:
advice
>dont just hit on a woman
its no secret that women are the ones who are approached, and they make decisions on which men to keep in their lives. that being said, desperately drooling over each and every girl as if they are a potential love interest is silly.
give yourself more value by not letting a woman sway you on first impressions alone. before you ever begin to say anything remotely flirtatious, talk to the girl. see what she actually acts like when you interact with her. have a normal conversation. if there isnt anything special there beyond her looks, friendzone her. or simply stop talking to her. you do not need to hit on each and every girl that looks good enough to be your partner.
doing this gives you more value, and the psychological effects are great. in addition, women will take you more seriously. instead of being 1 of 500 men in new york who went straight for the kill, you took the time to get to know them. whether it goes anywhere or not, this approach also just gives you practice talking to girls in a casual context. its less pressure than trying to impress them.
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>>17131371
>only ever use dating apps as a supplement to your real life dating.
dating apps are toxic. consider the following
>people use dating apps because they arent having much luck in real life
>they go to a dating app where they are introduced to an entire smorgasbord of men who want nothing more than to bang and/or date them
>after just one day they will have seen everyone in their area
>within one week they would have talked to everyone they are interested in
so anyone who has been using the app for more than a few weeks clearly has some sort of issue. likely, they are the female equivelent of what i discussed in my first post.
they want a 'bf' but because they have a very specific idea of what a bf is, they arent finding it anywhere. instead of seeing if they have real chemistry, they are simply walking down the aisle, trying to figure out what is the ONE thing at the groccery store they can buy, based solely on pictures and labels.
if a woman is on tinder for too long, they are losing their ability to feel chemistry.
you as a man can fall into a very similar pattern here, but with the added harshness of constant rejection.
it is an app made for people who want to date, yet no one seems to have success there for very long. that should tell you something.
>but anon, how do i use it as a supplement to an existing dating life if i dont have a dating life.
please see:
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>>17131383
this all comes from my personal experience so should throw on this
>talk to people wherever you go where you arent in a big rush
>go to places that are outside your hobby scope
for instance, my last girlfriend i met at this thing called the 'no pants train ride'. its an annual event in major cities where you ride the train in your underwear and pretend like its really normal to confuse people. just a silly thing started by silly people. i only went cuz my friends wanted to and it was fun and i met a girl there and we dated.
>>17131359
Alot of these are relatable to my nerd interests, but I was actually looking into shooting and golfing as something to do
>>17131371
well before the internet people actually talked to there neighbors, people had things like bbqs ect.
also you stopped at the local bar with the guys from work and hung out before heading home. women hung out at book clubs, church functions ect and dragged there husbands. there were things like mens clubs (not stripclubs), golf clubs (people looking for a 4th ect), singles clubs, elks lodges, the masons, professional organizations etc. a lot of companies held fairs, picnics and had social clubs and activities to do.
with the internet and new age cost cutting corporate clulture a lot of that died
>>17131398
rem 870 at a gun show
golf clubs at a yard sale
google what to look for / how to buy.
don't shoot your eye out
don't go golfing in the rain.
>>17131327
A friend of mine used to play guitar while running in circles in a glen.
>>17131359
How is 40k more expensive than shooting?
>>17131404
I guess some of these are still possible
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>>17131379
Thanks, anon. I'm not a PUA and don't aspire to be one. It's crazy how all of these people are using such easy shallow ways to get to fuck someone. I'm not really looking for a relationship at the moment, but I have better hope now at talking to people in public. I go to my local park and library a lot, but the people there are always invested in something. Maybe I'm making up excuses not to talk to people, but I can change that
>>17131327
How about getting a job? That will fill all your required criteria
>>17131327
f#a# is better than skinny fists>>17131327
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>>17131432
40k has gotten assininely ASSININELY expensive.
i can feed a nagant, my shotguns, an ak, and my 22s for the same price as keeping up with rulebooks and unit creep. really.
also i can get a cheap shotgun, some bird shot, eye/ear pro and pay the 10bucks for a day of clays my range charges for like 200-300 bucks
good luck starting a 40k army for that, or at least something that you can win with. maybe some used ebay stuff if you are lucky.
Anymore advice? This is all good so far
don't bother , fuck reality.
>>17131802
This contradicts the 6th sin "Lack of Perspective". By not finding my path I can never live up to my true potential, brother.
