I hate my girlfriend. I can't stand the sound of her voice, the feel of her touching me, or even fucking seeing her. Even in my dreams, I scream at her to get her hands off me. I've gotten to the point where I don't even jerk off to porn anymore, the only way I can get off is to go on POF and look up girls in my area and imagine I'm with someone else.
I've wanted to break up with her for a while now, but I don't know how. I made the mistake of taking her virginity, and now she's way too attached. She spent the last couple of days with me after not seeing each other for almost a month, and before she was originally going to leave, she starts blubbering crying about how she loves me so much and doesn't want to lose me, and the only thing I felt was fear that I'd be with her for the rest of my life.
How do I break up with her without her killing me?
Tell her you hate her. That'll put it in motion
Tell her she makes your skin crawl
Also why is it telling me connection error when I refresh? Every other board works fine but here I have to reply from my phone
First up get rid of that cuntish attitude you have towards her, you're clearly too much of a cunt to take responsibility of a lesser minded individual at this moment of time
Secondly, consider the situation, and whether or not her presence is too clingy and intrusive, consider also your feelings for her and why you feel that way. If you want to break up with her, just speak to her in person and tell her you want to move on in life.
>>17121482
What do you mean cuntish attitude? Can I control the fact that I don't feel shit for her?
And you can't just ditch her and cut her out of your life, try to help her out a bit, she's clearly quite isolated and depressed, do something fun with her in a friend-like way before you dump her, otherwise you'll probably have her a satellite after you dump her and she'll guilt the shit out of you, believe me.
You need to take responsibility to the fact that you've engaged yourself with someone with a mind of a child, and you need to distance yourself while keeping her stable and yourself satisfied for the sake of protecting yourself and living a more rested few months
>>17121492
>>17121492
this is an obstacle in your life bro, like an exam, you either handle it well, showing her you still value her as a "friend" and save yourself in the long-run or you fuck it up and fuck yourself over.
>>17121506
But how can that be shown to someone as clingy as her? As >>17121495 noted, she's very immature, and I know she'll overreact to anything negative I say.
But odds are I'll just fuck it up like all my other relationships. Whatever.
Do her a favor and break it off with her so she can find someone who actually cares about her.
Girls take it hard for a while but get over it.
>>17121523
this should be a signal for you to stop living such a poor quality life, going through relationship after relationship and start following something greater
you don't need to have relationships to have sex, just work on your professional life and personal growth as much as you can and you can easily get one-night-off stands in the process
unproductive relationships are made when people start slowing down in life and are too lazy to achieve more
>>17121477
Kill her, kill her! It's the only way!>>17121477
>>17121556
I know I don't need to be in a relationship for sex, ya dingus. I'm just in too deep on this one. I think that if I break up with her, she'd go full stalker. It doesn't help that she has a key to my apartment
You can do little things that will create disgust to you in her opinion , and she will want to leave you from proper initiative ...
>>17121598
Such as? I've already gone completely apathetic, and she doesn't care when I do gross shit around her.
Why didn't you think a little ahead? You should have fucked some random slag.
>>17121606
I've fucked plenty of random slags. I was thinking ahead in dating a girl from a well-to-do family with a college degree. Dear god, if I could take it all back, I would
>>17121477
/r9k/ here to save the day.
Have no fear, I'm a natural born wymyn repellent;
>Play videogames. Talk about them non-stop. She won't be interested.
>Take it a step further, play trading card games.
>NEVER EVER TEASE HER ABOUT ANYTHING.
>Act desperate and clingy, treat her like she can do alot better than you.
>put her on a pedastal.
And if none of that deters her, you'll need to up your "creep" factor;
>Do romantic stuff from movies... in movies it's fine, in real life it's creepy. Go to her at midnight with flowers and a boombox playing some rando song.
>Talk about how many kids you want in the future.
>Wink. Too much.
>Get down on one knee just to ask for a date.
If that fails, there are 2 much more extreme options;
>"accidentally" get caught trying her clothes on.
>Tell her that you're gay.
Hope this helped.
If she sticks by you through all this, or she figures out what is going on and decides to play along to fuck with you... marry her, because you found the perfect woman.
>>17121614
Fuck off you stupid virgin
>>17121611
You are actually a fucking sociopath. Hope she kills your ass.
>>17121614
Holy crap r9k has a use. Or he could just tell her they're done. Pulling the bandaid slowly or fast.
>>17121620
How am I a sociopath? I wouldn't be surprised if I actually am, but how have you come to that?
>>17121635
Because of your obvious lack of any kind of empathy.
>>17121635
I think he was implying that your nanchalance towards other people and relationships means that you don't feel emotions the way normal people do and that you see them more as objects you can manipulate to gain a better standing in life.
I don't co-sign that though, could just be incompatible with a lot of people.
>>17121637
I have empathy, just not toward her
>>17121651
And what did she do to you to deserve it other than being naive?
>>17121657
I didn't say she deserves it. But what pisses me off the most is when she makes fun of things I say about when I was in Afghanistan. I pointed out one thing she did, wherein she laughed when I told her I don't eat pork because it smells like burned human, and shortly thereafter, she started her whole crying bullshit
Only one way op. You'll have to bite the bullet and sit her down. Virigins always get attached.
>>17121662
>I don't eat pork because it smells like burned human
Story time?
>>17121662
You're just on a different mental level than she is, she is less intelligent. Don't worry about hurting her feelings or anything like that, if you guys are on that sort of disconnect then she is delusional about where you guys are at in the relationship, at which point, does it really matter if her feelings are hurt or if she gets super depressed/clingy if the relationship is already a lie and only existing because of you not knowing how to proceed?
You'll never marry her or have children with her intentionally, gotta get it over with eventually and breakup with her, everyone does it sometime, part of being an adult I guess.
>>17121662
It sounds like you're a self-important cunt more than anything else. What was she supposed to say to your dramatic statement?
>>17121666
Those trips and that post...
Well played.
>>17121477
fuck her and leave her
>>17121668
I made no dramatic statement, she asked why I recoiled when she went in for a kiss after eating some sausage or some shit (this was a couple months ago). She kept pressing for an answer so I told her, and she joked about it.
>>17121666
No particularly great story. I was a dismount at the time whose job was minesweeping. The mk19 gunner shot a couple fuckers who were shooting from a mud hut so we had to go make sure they were dead
>>17121666
>666
Looks like posting about burning flesh summons the devil. Tell the story OP.
>>17121668
She was supposed to understand where he was coming from an see that it was a serious moment rather than something that was lighthearted, she was supposed to know how to react to things instead of doing the first thing that comes to her mind without processing information.
There's nothing wrong with being 'a self-important cunt' you are significant and you are the best person to tell yourself that, some people aren't compatible, realizing that isn't being self-centered or selfish, in fact it's selfish to stay in the relationship because he's leading her on because he's afraid of the unpleasant afterward.
some of these responses are cringe inducing. Several of them are definitely passive aggressive to the max.
you need to ask yourself why you're still in the relationship. Is it because you hope it will work? Why do you hope it will work? Are you in the relationship because you are just afraid of hurting her feelings, fear of the unknown?
It's possible for people to have too much of a good thing, especially if you spend way too much time around one another. But if you don't love her, then you spending more time in that relationship is 1. deceiving her by leading her on 2. wasting her time 3. wasting your time. All relationships ultimately have the chance at least of leading towards marriage.
I was in a relationship, with someone I didn't really love, but I thought circumstances would pull me away from her. I was on a contract job, in a foreign country. Didn't want to break her heart, so just thought we'd mutually separate when my job was finished.
Well guess what? instead of following my conscious, I pussy footed around, she got pregnant, and now I'm stuck with someone I don't love. Maybe not STUCK- guess you can always run away- but when a child is involved it changes everything.
Lay it out on paper, why you want to stay, why should you stay-and don't follow any of that 'make her hate you' shit. That's for assholes, I know! don't do that shit. You don't have to be an asshole when you breakup- you can still have humanity, but still, it's called a breakup for a reason- the relationship dies. That part is never easy.
And, well 4chan- lay off the porn. It clouds the judgement, makes you depressed and makes hard decisions impossible.
>>17121481
disable adblock
>>17121677
Sure she sounds borderline braindead but I don't think someone like OP should expect human decency and understanding from others.
>>17121680
>some of these responses are cringe inducing.
>Implying that isn't useful /adv/ice for preventing a woman from getting too attached to you...
Jesus christ, stop acting like you are all experts in this field. This is the one area of expertise us robots have. We know this shit.
OP, you must induce as much cringe as possible. I reccomend watching "peep show" and "the inbetweeners" for ideas on how to go about this. Actually, just about any british show will really help.
well, not I guess you could say I was implying it isn't useful- I mean, it IS possible to kill flies with a hammer, but it isn't very efficient.
Just hope the guy can do the most direct, forward upfront method for the task at hand. Anything else is manipulative evil shit
>>17121481
Adblock blocks it because of /adv/
>>17121700
>Anything else is manipulative evil shit
Not all manipulation is evil...
Telling a kid Santa is real, to fill his young naive world with a bit of magic before cruel reality sets in? Is that evil?
Is it evil to induce cringe, or manipulate events to make you less attractive to somone who has gotten too attached, just so they won't be as hurt when you end it?
It doesn't sound so evil, if it prevents her from suicide or doin' something stupid like that. It's manipulative, but it aint evil. It's damage control.
>>17121682
You just sound mad at someone you don't know, there's a lot of context that we don't have, he seems like a cunt, but she could be a super-cunt, hard to tell, so I try not to just assume people are twats, and that there's a reason if they seem cold-hearted or apathetic.
>>17121708
All communication is manipulation. Point. Blank.
he doesn't have to purposely mistreat her or neglect her to attempt her to dislike him. There are other ways.
I've had a woman pull that i'm gonna kill myself crap. It's the ultimate ace up the sleeve, trying to that protective gene in a man's head to turn on. Sounds like he's being manipulated himself possibly.
Women are usually pretty good at that anyways- not sure if it's taught or genetic, but look at how little girls can get what they want by essentially doing the same thing, looking sad and pitifu.
>>17121709
I'm not mad at all. I just find it funny that someone who treats others like OP gets offended when someone is less than nice to him.
>>17121722
Agree with you on that.
>>17121681
Why is that a thing on this board alone
>>17121765
Cause adblockers think the /adv/ means a folder for ads or something
>>17121781
Gay
>>17121477
there are better ways and worse ways, but there's no *good* way to dump someone. first you have to make up your mind to do it. have you done that? if not, then do that.
if you live together, move out. or if you're the main tenant, give her a few weeks to get out. maybe have some apartment listings handy so she can start looking right away. have the phone handy so you can call the cops and have her thrown out if shit goes down. when the time is up for her to get out, if her shit's not out of your house, move it to the curb. change the locks.
if you don't live together it's even easier. tell her in person that you're done with her shit and you can't take it anymore. then cut contact. don't call her, don't answer the phone or the door if it's her. if she tries to come up to you and talk to you, tell her to leave you alone. if this doesn't work, get a restraining order.
the key is to be firm and consistent, and to remember that *you are not responsible if she flips out and hurts herself.* you are not her dad. you are not even her bf anymore. it is not your problem, and to be honest the whole virginity-taking thing probably has less do with her clinginess than you think. nobody invests that much importance in ~*~giving away their preshus vurginitee~*~ unless they're massively insecure to start with. even girls. the underlying abandonment issues are gonna be there regardless of v-card status.
tl;dr tell her it's over and cut her out of your life. done.
>>17121903
She doesn't live with me but she's clearly obsessive and has a key
>>17122711
change your locks then
and the other guy was right about making your mind up. You have to be firm, don't leave it ambiguous. If she wants to freak out its on her. This isnt even anything, certainly doesn't deserve a 50 post thread
>>17121477
Yeah, I want to break up with my girlfriend too. She doesn't make my skin crawl, she's just a tumblr tard. I initially thought I could handle it and she was more open minded. Nope. Total echo chamber in her head
>>17121614
>>Act desperate and clingy, treat her like she can do alot better than you.
>>put her on a pedastal.
In my experience, this has always repelled girls from me. It may be better to do this if she is really attached because she won't have a revenge thing in her head afterwards
>>17121614
This seriously
If you can't man up and leave her this WILL work. Speaking from experience
>>17121651
Why? What's so terrible? Because she loves you and you lost interest?
>>17121614
>Talk about how many kids you want in the future.
I like this one
telling her you're gay can really backfire. Say you think you're gay, and talk about how last year you got drunk and kissed a guy 'accidentally'
>>17121662
Lol you sound like just as much of a drama queen as she does. I know WOMEN who were in Afgan between ages 18-22 who watched hundreds of people die, refugees and children toture ect and they don't act like little bitches
>>17121675
4chan laughs at women asking for safe spaces and not dating men who look like their rapists.
You sound completely on paar
>>17122759
Agreed. Even back in high school when I was a little on the clingy/dramatic side.. As soon as a guy I dated/liked turned m'lady:33 tier I was gone
Post pic of her
Break up with her. It's not rocket science.
Just say, "I don't want to be with you anymore. As of right now, this relationship is over".
Don't say "I want to break up" or "I am breaking up".
Say "this relationship is over".
I'd normally advise you to at least try to be her friend and help her through this, but you say yourself you hate her. So she's not going to benefit from your friendship.
Just sever ties flat out.
>>17121614
OP really doesn't need to put on a ludicrous performance like this (though it would be funny).
He could just break up with her by being firm. Firmness is something so many people lack these days...they have to play all these stupid games.
>>17121690
He's trying to get rid of one woman, not all of them.
Sounds like she's caught on and is manipulating you. If you've gone full apathetic she knows something is wrong. Just get her out of your house somehow and break up over the phone, or say you need a break/space and never speak to her again.
>>17122786
Same person here. I find the opposite works in the opposite way as well. If a girl isn't initially responding to you well, give her some space but still contact her. She'll come running. Women hate desperation. They are so good at picking up on it
>>17122802
Kek
>>17121477
Just break up with her. Anything that happens after that is not your problem.
>>17121477
I love my gf. But how can I make sure I don't end up feeling like OP a few years down the line?
>>17121477
Damn, really ?
I guess nobody cares but I'm literally dying/aching to get a girlfriend (even if she's clingy and annoying).
I think you're just exaggerating.
>>17123895
I'm not exaggerating at all, that's what's fucked up
