I caught my gf stripper lying to me about going to a customers house, I confronted her, she said it was just lapdances for money, I come to find out months later that it was full on BDSM (him beating the shit out of her) and her masturbating to daddy daughter porn afterwards. She was a victim of sexual abuse as a child. I left, to take some time away, she then fucked the guy saying that she believed we were done anyway.
Now she's playing mind games on me saying she doesn't know whether or not she wants me back. Even though she drunk dialed me one night telling me the other man is disgusting.
I know I was a dumbass for trusting her that much but I feel like I'm going to hate women and the BDSM community forever because of this. I just can't take the feeling that she would go behind my back with a rich man doing this while we were intimate.
Is a healthy happy relationship even possible after this?
no anon, i think you already knew that answer though. you're just looking for someone out there to tell you otherwise, because you have this feeling in your heart that still loves her. the logical side of your brain knows the answer.
>>17116936
>gf stripper
Ok anon hold on
You knew this was coming
>>17116945
I think I know her answer and that she doesn't want to be together and rather be with this rich sadist over me cause I'm blue collar.
Just can't shake the feeling of the one that got away and that she is a sweet girl, who has issues. I feel like the whole BDSM stuff is just totally unhealthy for her, especially when her abuse coincides with her BDSM fantasies.
NEVER
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NEVER EVER FUCKING EVER EVER EVER
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date a woman with a promiscuous past. EVER. NEVER EVER. they cant change. they're literally incapable of compassionate and consumate love. they are incapable of intimacy.
anyone that disagrees is someone that's currently in a trap by a promiscuous woman who has fooled them or a delusional promiscuous woman that thinks she's capable of love but internally is waiting on the next man to prey on.
this is a lesson to everyone. THAT IS A HUGE RED FLAG, ANYONE THAT IS PROMISCUOUS YOU IMMEDIATELY DUMP. THEY CANT CHANGE. THE SCORPION AND THE FROG.
>>17116936
>my gf is a bitch
well shit an-
>my stripper gf
Ok hold on dude
>>17116957
>Just can't shake the feeling of the one that got away and that she is a sweet girl, who has issues. I feel like the whole BDSM stuff is just totally unhealthy for her, especially when her abuse coincides with her BDSM fantasies.
She's a fucking stripper that probably fucked an old dude behind your back for money and then fucked him again when she had the chance.
Are you crazy???
Why are you doing this to yourself???
>>17116965
IDK bro, she had the same interests, politics, lifestyle as me, she was my first real long term relationship. Just caught in this scarcity mindset that she's the best I'll ever find I geuss, some part of me believes it. She's red pilled but then likes to have the best of traditionalism and feminism when it comes to her being unfaithful.
>>17116969
You got caught on with a stripper, if her wasnt a stripper wasn't big enough of a problem it was kinda obvious she was gonna do something like this, she's selling herself for money because the has low morals and lo and behold she did that, and who knows what other things she did.
As a guy that got completely heartbroken on the first long relationship, it'll pass with time and you'll learn how retarded this is and you gained experience in relations that will help you for life.
It's gonna hurt, but you got tangled with a horrible woman, sorry anon, just because someone has some of your same interests doesn't means they're meant to be with you.
>>17116957
>I think I know her answer
Who gives a fuck what she wants? She just proved to you she'll chase the money and dick.
>she doesn't want to be together and rather be with this rich sadist
1. She's a whore
2. She's a stripper
3. He payed her to do those things
>over me cause I'm blue collar.
Missing the point.
>Just can't shake the feeling of the one that got away
Top kek. She's a stripper m8.
>she is a sweet girl, who has issues
She really got you good didn't she?
>I feel like the whole BDSM stuff is just totally unhealthy for her,
No she's unhealthy for you.
>especially when her abuse coincides with her BDSM fantasies.
Her bullshit aint your problem anymore.
>Is a healthy happy relationship even possible after this?
Of course it is.
>>17116977
thank you bro, tough love, i like it.
As a person that dated a stripper I'll say, you are probably 95% fucked with some bad stuff down the line because he job involves manipulating and meeting men who promise them the worlds, I just lied to myself that I was part of the 5% that works. I just want to find a pretty girl that I can hold decent conversation with, guess I'm pretty fucked for a while.
>>17116976
thank you bro, just sucks cause I invested so much in the relationship.
She shamed me saying that I'm not a real man and that he hit her out of mutual consent and pleasure, while I hit her (in defense, more like shoving her away if she was ever going crazy) and that I was a weak man.
She also said our attraction wasn't "chemical" and that she likes the man, I'm 25 and he's 44.
Is every girl out there gonna run off for some sadist? I thought the good ole choking, spanking, and dirty talk was enough but she wanted to get hit so hard it left marks, be called little one and slave, and so on.
The part that pisses me off the most is her saying he treats her better than I did.
>>17116986
>Is every girl out there gonna run off for some sadist?
>The part that pisses me off the most is her saying he treats her better than I did.
No you just GOT A FUCKING STRIPPER
SHE LITERALLY SELLS HER BODY FOR MONEY TO HORNY MEN
SHE'S A SLUT, A WHORE WITH NO MORALS, NOT SOME PURE GIRL IN A BAD SITUATION THAT YOU COULD RESCUE HER FROM
THE FASTER YOU GET THIS THROUGH YOUR HEAD THE BETTER
Dude, your hero complex is gonna get you an STD.
Seriously; if you wanna take risks and ignore red flags when beginning a relationship, that's one thing. Hell, that can lead to good relationships, doesn't typically but it can. But this isn't a red flag. This is you dating a shitbag. And no amount of blaming BDSM or citing her potential goodness will make it a better relationship. You can't fix people/a relationship with "love", your dick isn't therapy and a relationship is built on trust and respect. Get a clue before you fuck your life up over a hoe, I'm sorry stripper. Who does sex for money. Like a hoe.
>>17116982
Well to be fair all women are whores in disguise. It's just that a stripper acts on it.
>guess I'm pretty fucked for a while.
Live and learn, go distract yourself with something else. It'll fade eventually.
>>17116986
Sounds like the old guy didn't take any shit, which is really what women are attracted to, men. You just happened to be her bitch boy she could run back to after who would coddle her.
>The part that pisses me off the most is her saying he treats her better than I did.
That's just her metaphorically stabbing you OP.
>>17116989
Nigger relax with the caps lock.
>>17116999
He's literally 5'2 and crippled, just happens to have all kinds of money.
She offered to "let me beat him up" because I'm 6'2 190.
I worked hard, 6 days a week at a warehouse and just figured she had a tough life and that she was doing it for so long and I could work to get her out of the industry.
>>17117007
If you want to save a life go get a dog from a shelter. You can't rescue people unless they want to be rescued, no matter how much you think they need it.
Let's just say I was married to this woman, I mean I would not be dumb enough to do that, is this going to wreck hell on me until the divorce is finalized?
Do I need to say divorced or can I say single?
>>17117007
Getting cucked by a disabled person, jesus dude.
This is just a fucking mess, you never white knight for a bitch, never. Drop her and learn your lessons for next time.
>>17117020
What?
>>17117023
Is she is a whore, then I didn't stand a chance anyway, especially when this guy appeals to her deviances and has a lot of money.
>>17117007
You keep saying she is sweet, but you might just feel sorry for her. She is a victim of abuse and is her own worst enemy. She is lost in her own life. From the earliest parts of her life she was abused by her father or a close family member. A child is completely trusting of adults in their life, it is how they learn, their attention validates them and teaches them who they need to be. We grow up to validate ourselves based on these lessons.
Her lessons were that she is a sexual plaything, an object to be used and tossed aside. What kind of value do you think she places on herself? If being used and treated poorly is what she was taught is the most important lesson about herself and the world then wouldn't such a man that does that to her make her feel validated and comfortable?
Wouldn't love make her feel maybe happy but extremely uncomfortable? People will gravitate not towards happiness but what makes them comfortable. What is easiest.
She doesn't understand love, she only understands being used, and thus her only mode of dealing with other people is to use them in turn, because again this is what her father taught her.
She doesn't understand your love.
She feels comfortable being used.
She feels it is normal to use you and others.
Do you understand now anon? She isn't healthy. She doesn't need a good bf right now, she needs a therapist.
>>17117025
You didn't, it was only a matter of time.
>>17117027
Probably the best response yet, I felt like taking my Saiga over to his house when I looked through her phone and him saying "ready to be my fucktoy tonight" and then throwing her ass on the bed and seeing the marks all over her. Thank you. Do you think I can move on after this and not hate or distrust women forever?
This guy is a fucking POS to, he said his disability and height and pain associated with that made him want to hurt others, leaving me for that, right?
He even said to her, he is affraid if she gets therapy for her abuse because she might leave him then.
>>17117020
Yes, marriage does make breaking up more difficult. More so when the end is messy, which I'd say this is.
>>17117035
I never suggested to hate her. I certainly wouldn't trust her but hate? No. She is pathetic and sad. If I were you, embrace your compassion to let go of your anger. I warn you, this will fucking hurt and the sadness will be overwhelming when the anger subsides. It will go away in time.
>>17116936
you're a fucking idiot.
>>17117059
thank you
She sounds like a raging asshole. Offered to let you beat the other guy, okay...
I think you should do your best to look as boring as possible to this person and get all traces of her out of your life. Then again you're probably attracted to drama yourself if you think all women must be like this so prepare to make the same mistake over and over until you learn.
do it the 4chan way OP
laugh it off so you don't have to cry
maybe she "needs" you, maybe she really does need you, but if that's the case there are a lot of fucked up women out there who need you too, and there's bound to be one out there who you need to, but this stripper is not the one. The most obvious reason being that a stripper with a troubling past can seek out fresh and exciting "help" from potentially 50 guys a week and you're not the only guy out there looking to play hero.
Move on, OP, embrace the apathetic feeling the passage of times blesses us with as soon as you can, and when she messages you down the line remember how much work you put into not giving a fuck. best of wishes OP
do it the 4chan way OP
laugh it off so you don't have to cry
maybe she "needs" you, maybe she really does need you, but if that's the case there are a lot of fucked up women out there who need you too, and there's bound to be one out there who you need to, but this stripper is not the one. The most obvious reason being that a stripper with a troubling past can seek out fresh and exciting "help" from potentially 50 guys a week and you're not the only guy out there looking to play hero.
Move on, OP, embrace the apathetic feeling the passage of times blesses us with as soon as you can, and when she messages you down the line remember how much work you put into not giving a fuck. best of wishes OP
>>17117065
you are so stupid that you do not even have a good comment, this comment shows that only shit comes from you
going back to the main post, let me tell you that most hookers were sexually abused, I think that makes them loose respect for their bodies, since not all women have gone through sexual abuse and became a hooker, of course not all women are the same
>>17116936
total fiction and bait.
