So I saw my gf lock herself in the bathroom to use her vibrator, I told her not to do, it makes me feel less of a man hearing her make sounds with a vibrator she never makes with me, and she this is what she told me
"Fuck off anon you know I never even get even close to orgasm with you if you don't let me have my pleasure you don't love me and I don't want to be with you if you're going to be like that"
I feel really hurt and offended at this. It's true that she's never had an orgasm with me but she is capable to, I heard the sounds she makes when she's alone with her vibrator, if she really wanted she could make those sounds with me also. It makes feel like a cuck knowing that she puts that machine of hers higher than me just because it gives her orgasms and I don't. How do I get my gf to be sweet and nice and not such a cunt?
Pros: At least she is not going to someone else for that orgasm
Cons: She is and insensitive cunt. Rub one out when she is around so she can see how it's like.
You've been cucked by a vibrator!
You're dumb for feeling jealous of a piece of plastic. I bought my girlfriend a vibrator and we use it in bed as a part of sex. Fucking her in the ass while the vibrator is embedded in her pussy feels great for both of us.
It sounds like you two have some communicating to do.
Step up your bedroom game anon, jesus.
Come hither motion with your finger in her cooch. It's not that goddamn hard.
>>17110933
Drug her
Maybe you should try to give her an orgasm? Both men and women goes crazy after not getting off for some time.
What is your sex like?
>>17110949
What this anon said, the one technically being a cunt here is you. It's a sex toy, and to be honest it's nothing to be ashamed about that she uses. Instead of getting all insecure about it like a little bitch. Sit down and have a talk with her, say you wanna experiment incorporating it into your sex routine. Actually climaxing off of just penetration is very difficult for chicks. A good portion of the pleasure comes from hard to reach spots within the vagina, and by stimulating the clitoris. You need to show her you want to improve and get to know what works for her better. And that vibrating rubber dick might just be your sidekick in this adventure. If you can stop being so worried about yourself.
>>17110939
She has no problems with me masturbating without her, I've already done it and it didn't even phase her, and it doesn't even bother her when I mention porn because she likes japanese gay porn and will just go for that if I start watching my porn. Like I'm watching my porn and she looks at it for a second with a neutral face then she says "I don't like it" and she leaves to watch her asian homos porn somewhere else. It pisses me off that she won't watch porn with me just because it's not her flavor, I'm not into asian homos.
>>17110949
Look she refuses to use her vibrator when she's with me, we tried a few times and she said she couldn't even feel anything. Apparently not even her vibrator works unless she is completely alone. It's not one of those ones that go inside the vagina it's a clit wand massager she doesn't want me to touch because het clit is very sensitive to pain and she says the slightest wrong movement will hurt her so she only trust herself to use it. When I put my fingers in her she doesn't feel them, she's repeatedly asked "Is it in yet?" when I had my finger completely inside her making the come hither move you suggested. Fuck off.
>>17110990
Kek Jesus Christ
>>17110941
i shouldnt laugh at this
>>17110949
if she actually directly said "Fuck off anon you know I never even get even close to orgasm with you" the only communication he needs to do is telling her to get her shit and get the fuck out
>>17110990
how tight is she. how many guys fucked before you? are you a virgin
>>17110957
How do I give her an orgasm when she never reaches any decent amount of pleasure no matter what I do to her? Licked her, she said it was nice but not enough and if I lick not the exact precise way she likes she'll complain it hurts. Told her to masturbate in front of me, she couldn't feel a thing and even hurt her clit. Told her to use her vibrator in front of me, same thing. Fingered her, she couldn't tell my finger was even in and I have a big ass finger. Nothing makes her feel pleasure but a shitton of things make her feel discomfort and pain and being super extra careful about not moving my tongue 1 mm above a certain zone because she'll scream ouch at that is tiring.
>>17111015
I'm not a virgin, she is. I haven't put it in her yet because even tho she doesn't feel my finger inside her she has no problem screaming in pain at her entrance being entered. She doesn't feel the tip of my finger that's supposed to make her feel good but she plenty feels the root of my finger stretching her entrance and it causes her discomfort at best screaming in pain and kicking me off at worst.
>>17111038
This chick is. FULL OF SHIT.
>>17111038
just make her really wet and try to stick it in. have her suck your dick too to get it wet
>>17111019
>>17111038
>>17111019
>>17111038
There's an amount of mental illness here I can't even begin to determine
>>17111050
Nah she really is a virgin, there's a barrier that puts up resistance when I finger her and her entrance is too small and tight to be used.
>>17111038
She's a wack job dump her and let some other dude deal with her oversensitive and particular sexuality
>>17111051
Her vagina gets decently wet all right but she still doesn't show any pleasure. It's like her head and her vagina are disconnected. The vagina will get wet enough but she won't make a sound of pleasure, and even when she's wet she'll still complain it hurts and after a little while she wants to stop. I'm pretty sure if I just stick it in without waiting her ok first she'll scream rape and I don't want to end up in jail over rape, man, I don't want Jamal to rape my ass. She's tried to suck my dick once but she has huge gag reflex and it makes her feel like vomiting, most she does is handjob with kisses.
>>17111068
I don't want to dump her... it's so hard to find a virgin these days. I don't want to end up with used goods.
>>17111061
No, I mean all that shit about
>it hurts
> it's too sensitive
Is horse shit. She has some kind of insecurity or mental problem. She is frigid. Ands she is going to make you frigid unless she opens herself up to experimenting with you. If she can cum with the vibrator there is no reason she can't teach you to do the same thing with her. She is either a secret lesbian, soul crushingly insecure, or traumatized and mentally ill in some way.
>>17111099
>this mentality
Haha shit nigga you retarded
>>17111107
Roll
Threads of men being clueless about women drive me up the fucking wall.
No, this girl is not full of shit. From everything I've read it sounds like OP is doing a shit job at turning her on. If it hurts when you try to stick your finger in her: she is not aroused. If she doesn't feel anything when trying to stimulate her clit: she is not aroused. If oral sex doesn't feel great: SHE IS NOT AROUSED.
You are not turning her on OP, and you need to talk to her about why this is. Maybe you need to do more foreplay, kiss her the way she likes, touch her skin all over, kiss her all over. Tell her how much you want her. Pussy should be DRIPPING before you ever even touch it if you want to have a good time.
From everything you've described it just seems like she's not turned on while being with you. If a girl's pussy is not engorged with arousal then she will not feel much of anything pleasurable when touched, and it can even hurt when trying to force it.
Since she has no trouble getting off alone, she could just be nervous with you as well. I've also heard people who get off exclusively from vibration sensations can fuck up their sensitivity to being touched in other ways, so if nothing I've said so far rings true to you consider asking her to take a months break from using vibration to get off.
>>17111101
Well she did experiment with me with all the stuff we tried, but it's always failed.
She tried telling me how to pleasure her and showing me how she masturbates but my fingers are too big to do it the way she does. Her fingers are small and she can get exactly to the minuscule spot that gives her pleasure and not lose grasp, mine don't have the same precision and always slip away somehow. After multiple failures we just agreed not to bother. I'd be happy if she could masturbate in front of me just so I could see her orgasm but she can't even do that, she needs to concentrate on her fantasies to achieve orgasm and she can't do that if there's someone else in the room. She doesn't want to tell me what these fantasies are, she says they're her most sacred and intimate and she feels violated at the idea of sharing them during sex.
So two things:
1) Women typically experience nonconcordance between physical and mental arousal. So while they might show physical arousal, they need mental arousal to get off.
2) Something like 2/3 of women can't orgasm through penis-in-vag alone, they need supplementary stimulation
>>17111135
Lesbian.
>>17111131
If you're in a long term committed relationship with someone who doesn't turn you on at all, you are mentally damaged.
>>17111135
You are shit at reading what her body responds to then. If you touch her and she's not responding move around until you get back to the place that gets a response. It's not fucking rocket science.
>she needs to concentrate on her fantasies to achieve orgasm and she can't do that if there's someone else in the room. She doesn't want to tell me what these fantasies are, she says they're her most sacred and intimate and she feels violated at the idea of sharing them during sex.
More evidence that she's just not turned on with you. Good sex comes with trust and communication. Tell her you're interested in her fantasies, that you want to help her get off from them. If she's afraid, maybe start off by telling her any weird fetishes you have.
Your relationship obviously needs more trust in it. If you can't trust a sexual partner with your desires then what's the point.
>>17111131
I don't think it's the vibrator that makes a difference sadly. She was like this even before she got her vibrator, when she just rub her clit with her fingers to get off.
>>17111168
And yet a lot of people end up in relationships like this because they don't communicate and therefore suck at sex.
>>17111182
the problem is that you're a fucking moron and that she's a fucking lesbian/retard and you two are acting like 13 year olds.
Jesus christ dude, she's your partner how the fuck are you two so doubtful of each other?
I have never come from sex. It doesn't bother me because I enjoy sex too much to stop it.
Took me a while and a couple of relationships to be able to let my partner make me come. Never looked back.
Anon if she really said that to you why are you still seeing her?
>>17111175
Her body's too hard to read man. I never got a moan of pleasure from her. At best she'll have a fit of giggles and little shrieks and she'll say it tickles her (even when I'm licking her vagina it tickles her) but even that stops quickly. Even a spot that seemed good before stops being good all of a sudden and she just wants to stop immediately, there's not a spot on her that guarantees I give her pleasure.
>Tell her you're interested in her fantasies, that you want to help her get off from them
She says I'm not a tentacle beast or a bunch of anime dudes so "don't bother."
>If she's afraid, maybe start off by telling her any weird fetishes you have
I already have, she did indulge me to an extent. She won't go into detail but she says I can't stand up to her fantasies because they're too elaborate and too specific about specific characters and situations reality just doesn't match. She likes to go to cosplay conventions and she always get these huge wide hungry eyes whenever she sees an attractive dude dressed up as some favorite character of hers, but I'm not going to pretend I'm someone else in bed, it feels like I'm cucking myself if I did. There was a guy dressed up as Sasuke she got a look in her face over she never had with me. I don't think she's a lesbian she's too attracted to hot male cosplayers for that.
>>17110949
Using a sex toy is fine. I wouldn't care if my gf wanked herself off silly with it when I wasn't around. If she went to sit on the toilet with it I would be upset though.
What kind of shit is that? It's an obviously a fuck you to me because she's horny and I'm sat right there. I'm so undesirable and such a shit lover that she is sitting on the shitter to have a wank and she doesn't care if I know it. I wouldn't go in the toilet and loudly beat off to porn.
>>17111283
Hey if you can't pleasure her you are a shit lover. Do you want your gf to be miserable and unhappy never getting any satisfaction?
>>17111010
This,man
And that's how I feel
OP this really could have just been a sex habit for the both of you but she is the classic example of a woman who fiddled her clit so much with toys that it's the only way she can get off
But she sounded like a stupid cunt the way she worded it, hurrr if I cant buzz my it you dont love me. She obviously decided her pleasure over you, so let her have her sex toys and she can be alone all she wants with them
Perfect example to see any vibrator as a red flag
>>17110933
Maybe it's easier for her to get off on the toilet. Have you ever fucked while she was taking a dump?
>>17111302
She's not into scat.
>>17111268
Sasuke
the 14 year old Naruto crush
your story just finds more ways to annoy me, my dude
>>17111304
Is she taking a dump while getting of with the vibrator?
Find her a black bull that can satisfy her. Tell her to let you warch if you are a good boy.
>>17111311
I don't think so. She just locks herself in to be alone with her fantasies and keep me out.
>>17111323
What are her fantasies?
>>17111326
She refuses to go into detail about them but apparently they involve tentacle beasts and/or her favorite anime guys.
Maybe I'll know more about them when she finishes drawing her gay porn comics. She refuses to share her fantasies with me but she has no problem drawing them out to share with other girls.
>>17111332
>She refuses to go into detail about them but apparently they involve tentacle beasts and/or her favorite anime guys.
>autism
OP here. So what do I do?
I mean she's a great chick otherwise. She's very affectionate, she kisses and hugs me spontaneously, she cooks for me, she's very supportive when I am stressed over something and she laughs at my jokes. Cuddling and kissing with her is fantastic. She's happy to give me handjobs, even goes as far as caress my balls and kiss my balls/penis, and she doesn't mind letting me cum on her. It's only when I try to give her sexual pleasure that it all fails. She says she doesn't mind as long as she can give it to herself in privacy and I don't interfere with her gay anime hobbies. It hurts my pride as a man though.
>>17111099
oh my fucking god
>>17111301
Pleasure is important. You would deny your gf her pleasure and force her into depression just because your fragile ego can't handle the truth?
>>17111418
Is your pride more important than her happiness and well-being?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Classical_conditioning
>>17111010
>>17111301
>It's the girl's fault that OP sucks in bed
>>17111418
>muh pride
No, seriously. If you can't get her off she'll get herself off and you should be damn grateful that she's not just dumping your ass to find someone who can satisfy her.
That she's that patient with you and still stays with you although you are evidently an absolute twit in bed is a huge favor she's doing you, and you have the nerve to complain that she'll masturbate after you fail to please her, while she gets you off nicely?
Fuck that. Buy her a Lelo toy and pray she stays with you.
I love reading these stories about a situation that sounds like the main problem, but in reality is just a symptom of the main problem as we delve deeper into OP's life. You're royally fucked, OP.
your problem is that porn changed your and your gf view on sex dramatically. maybe it helps, when you and your gf stop watching porn.
obvious b8
>>17110933
why don't you propose to help her with her vib instead of just letting her go to in by her own?
>>17111038
She has vaginismus. Not her fault.
Surprised nobody has said this. I think this is a 2D>3D or illusion>fantasy issue. Sounds like your gf is the female version of the over frequent porn watcher or the guy that can't get off to 3D women. I'd say it's her own issue that she needs to deal with on her own because it is her perception that is messed up.
One thing doesn't help though
>prefers only virgin women
OP you won't get what you want by de flowering women who have zero sexual experience, even lacking masturbatory experience themselves. Literally if this is such a big hurdle, find another experienced lady to have sex with, preferably a girl who knows her body well and doesn't only rely on gimmicks to please herself.
>>17111900
Or maybe, just maybe, OP is really simply shit in bed?
>>17111038
lel
does she have a listerfiend too?
>>17111590
>>17111450
Yeah ok
Can't wait for the inevitable cuck thread with you doormats defending OPs gf her right to her own pleasure by letting other men who can pleasure her fuck her
I dated a girl with the same anime homo fetish thing. It's called yaoi. She couldn't get off either because she wanted to be a man or some shit and be gangfucked by other dudes.
Run op, she's one of those ultra-weebs and it only means bad things. I didn't know she was an ultra-weeb in my case at first either, but just leave man. Sex is better with people who aren't living in a Chinese cartoon in their head.
>>17112587
>every woman whose boyfriend can't get her off must be some crazy weeb with a gay gangrape fetish
Do you hear yourself?
>>17112601
Have you not been reading OPs replies?
>>17112601
He's not wrong
>>17112611
I have, and he's evidently a cock who has no clue how to get his girlfriend off.
>>17112616
>>17112616
But he's clearly tried to get his girlfriend off
- he's tried going down on her
- he's tried fingering her
- he's asked her to masturbate and show him how she does it
- he's then tried to replicate those movements
I don't see how OP could be doing a better job to improve the situation.
>>17112616
You sound like you haven't got it off in awhile.
see >>17111268
Dude seems like he's trying, but she's too much of a retarded ultra-weeb.
>>17112621
Well just fingering and oral is fine, but obviously you can get better at that. Or, you know, good.
>>17112624
He's trying, I'm not disputing that. It's just evidently not working. So it's either his fault or hers, but if she can get off by herself just fine, something is not working. Could be they're just not sexually compatible, of course.
And I get off regularly, not sure how that's relevant except for some shitty ad hominem.
>>17112631
Shut the fuck up you dumb fat weaboo bitch
>>17112631
>obviously you can get better at that. Or, you know, good.
How do you get better/good at pleasing a woman whose clit is so incredibly sensitive that small mistakes lead to pain?
>>17112636
Yeah, your arguing kills have me baffled Anon.
>>17112637
Well I don't know her obviously, but if she can use a vibrator just fine she can't be sensitive to the point of pain.
>>17112642
Do you think OP could be mistaking one of her fat rolls for her vagina?
>>17112642
>if she can use a vibrator just fine she can't be sensitive to the point of pain
Yeah, you got me there.
OP, it might be that how she's masturbating is fucking up her clit. It's happened to me before from shower water streams that were too strong. Felt great at the time, but it left like raw spots that were painfully sensitive as a motherfucker. Maybe she's having something similar? Try asking her to hold off on the vibrator for a few days. Tell her it's important to you that both of you work together to try and improve things in the bedroom
>>17110933
Jesus Christ, Anon, stop being such a selfish whiny cunt. If you're not meeting her needs in the bedroom then you need to talk to her about that and figure out what you can do to get her off. She's the one who's suffering in the bedroom, but you're acting like you're the victim. Arguing about her masturbating won't help you out in the bedroom and it's only going to piss her off because you're acting like the orgasm police.
Solve the ORIGINAL PROBLEM before you go around making an ass of yourself to your girlfriend and on this board. When you're having sex, ask her how she likes it instead of using her as a cumdumpster.
Seriously, imagine if you had a girlfriend that blue-balled you and then yelled at you when you tried to masturbate afterwards. Wouldn't be much fun, would it? (unless you're really into chastity ;)
>>17112647
You mean OP is so shitty a lover, he can't even locate her pussy? You're a mean boy, Anon.
>>17112649
Good thought, the "dead clit" thing is basically a cliche by now, and vibrators can be the cause, ie being only able to get off with vibrators after using them for so long.
But seriously OP talk to her, press the issue.
>>17112651
sounds like somebody didn't read the rest of the thread
>>17112654
Well I mean, it might be the opposite of the dead clit. I've definitely had times where the bf couldn't really touch my clit. However, those were temporary times, either I'd recently cum or I'd fucked up my clit from my weird masturbating ways. OP's girl either has it permanently, or she's not letting her clit's raw spots (or whatever the fuck they are) heal
Women never know what they want. Force it
>>17112657
Yeah you're right, dead clit was the wrong way to put it. I meant both getting oversensivity and killing it off.
And yeah I get what you mean, I've gotten pretty sensitive from either overstimulation or just menstrual fuckery.
>>17111761
This
most sexually dysfunctional couple I've ever seen. My best wishes to whatever therapist gets to untangle these two in a few years.
If what OP really wants is a virgin just hang around the local [s]high school[/s] middle school and pick up girls there
>>17110933
How about you actually do foreplay anon, and communicate with her to find out what she likes and how to get her there.
Then you use the plastic thing together.
>>17112636
>>17112642
God that made me laugh
>>17112666
>>17112657
Using a powerful vibrator can definitely desensitize you but it's also not a permanent desensitization. It will fade after a while and with an effort to use softer stimulation.
OP,, watch out for vaginismus. You both need to learn how to have sex without hurting her, and you both need to be patient.
Go slow, be gentle, use lots of lube.
If she's used to experiencing pain from sex then it's absolutely no wonder she can't orgasm from it. Unless you're a masochist, pain kills arousal. And if he body is expecting pain (a natural reaction to having a history of experiencing pain), then she's going to be dry and unaroused which essentially guarantees more pain.
Slow. Lube. Gentle. And try taking her to a therapist who can give you both relationship, communication, and sexual advice. It sounds like you both need it desperately.
You also can't expect her to give up her own pleasure completely when sex is painful, unfulfulling, or both. You need to work out a compromise both can live with until this pain and aorgasmia issue is handled.
>>17110970
What the fuck am I reading?
>>17110941
came into the thread just to post this.
I chuckled now but I knew this might happen to me too some day. Hopefully never.
>>17110970
>"i'm upset that my girlfriend won't watch porn with me just because she's not into what i watch"
>"i however refuse to watch porn with her because i'm not into what she watches!"
>>17113124
Please suggest something OP hasn't already tried during foreplay.
>>17113645
>Criticizing anon for not being bi
kek
>>17113657
it's just hypocritical
It's so hard to orgasm for a lot of women, it's something hard to understand if you're not her/in her situation.
Trust me, she's not "insensitive". I cannot for the life of me ever orgasm when it comes to sex, no matter what... but then I do my own thing (without a vibrator though) and can, it's hard to explain why and it kind of sucks but whatever.
You're guilting her because her body doesn't work like yours.
>>17110970
>anime porn
nice, I used to be into yaoi. She sounds cool anon.
I wonder if hentai and yaoi has created some secret mental-blockage in women around the world, like the japs have found a way to infiltrate the minds of americans and slowly ruin us in weird ways... including not being able to orgasm without weird porn.
>>17111135
>>17111268
>she can't do that if there's someone else in the room. She doesn't want to tell me what these fantasies are, she says they're her most sacred and intimate and she feels violated at the idea of sharing them during sex.
>She says I'm not a tentacle beast or a bunch of anime dudes so "don't bother."
oh fuck no way man you are trolling or dump her immediately she sounds like a psycho and probably raped
>>17111604
I just couldn't imagine this being said if the genders were reversed with a flesh light and lesbian porn, just saying. No one cares about OP's pleasure in this thread because he's a man, let's face it while also pushing all the blame onto him.
>>17113672
>I used to be into yaoi
how did you stop
please tell me your secret, my fetish is getting worse
Fuck, anon. Have you ever attempted eating her out? If you need help learning theres a great video by nina hartley, and plenty of tutorials. Maybe just eevn offering, and trying it out will be enough for her to be satisfied. It's not hard at all
>>17112097
Under rated post.
>>17110941
HOW CAN ORGANICS EVEN COMPETE
OP here.
She's pissed that I want her to take a break from her vibrator. She says she's fine with the situation as it is and I'm the only one who has a problem with it. She says she feels like I want to rob her of what she enjoys and she wants to break up. She says she wants someone who's not so insecure so not me.
Great job you fucking idiots you got my gf to hate me and dump me.
>>17110933
she seems like a "masturbate addict" not sure its the correct term, basically she is used to having unreal orgasms with the vibrator so she cant have the same experience with the D
>>17110939
this
you can do this
try getting sneaking a vibrator in during your next fuck session, trust me she will thank you for it. but seeing that she said
>"Fuck off anon you know I never even get even close to orgasm with you if you don't let me have my pleasure you don't love me and I don't want to be with you if you're going to be like that"
i dont think she is worth it.
>>17114535
She already dumped OP, retard.
>>17114502
op just seduce her back.
>>17114535
CLANKED
>>17114549
>op just seduce her back.
>i dont think she is worth it.
Why are you telling OP to seduce her back if you think she's not worth it?
LMAO op you braindead scum
>>17114562
so that the fool can end it on his own terms, hate seeing my bros hurt.
>>17111085
Obviously your girlfriend is a victim of sexual crime.
With this info you can work your way out of the shit situation you're in. It'll take some time though.
>>17111268
>There was a guy dressed up as Sasuke she got a look in her face over she never had with me.
This speaking for my victim theory. Only in a far away fantasy world she can relex and feel safe enough to be sexually aroused. There's a possibility she might even not know herself why she's like that. Repressed memories.
>>17110933
I assume it's similiar to the male DEATH GRIP.
I know that, for example, the hiabiatchi wand is very powerful and girls who use it often have trouble getting off any other way.
have you asked to use the vibrator with/on her?
