Hi,
I'm a straight male. Over the years I gradually fantasize homosexuality. I even fap to the idea of being fucked and bugger some gay arse. I think porn and chans have a role in this but that's not the matter. The problem is I don't like this situation, not one bit. I personally think that this is a disease of mind and body. So, what do you you recommend to solve this problem? noporn? nofap? and for the record after I cool down from a masturbation session I terribly regret it and loath it.
Nothing is going to change it. If you're fantasizing about fucking dudes and getting fucked by dudes, then you're gay. Period. Quit being a homophobe and just accept it.
>>17090468
>I'm a straight male
>But I fantasize about getting fucked by guys.
>Oh, and I fantasize about fucking guys, too.
>In fact I masturbate to it.
Yeah, okay, whatever you say.
>>17090468
this is not unique to you. I've dated a lot of dudes. I was the first for many of them cuz i came out early. it was always the same thing
>IM NOT GAY
>I DONT LIKE THE GAY LIFESTYLE
>I STILL WANNA SETTLE DOWN AND MARRY A WOMAN AND HAVE KIDS
>I CANT IMAGINE THAT WITH A GUY
>I JUST USE DUDES FOR SEX BUT AM ONLY ROMANTIC WITH WOMEN
every single one of them got over it. the big issue is really that you are afraid of the gay 'brand'. having sex with dudes isnt what repulses you, obviously, its really a fear of being a gay person.
and I get it. i share that fear. I came out of the closet in 8th grade, but two years ago i went back in. because being defined by your faggotry sucks. no matter how accepting people claim to be, its annoying. its almost just as annoying when they 'love it' cuz they want you to be their gay friend. and thats all you become to them, a gay friend. its hard to just be someones bro or best friend, cuz you'll always be their 'gay best friend'.
its hell. but you get over it. like i said, every guy i ever dated got over it. it goes from
>i only use dudes for sex
to
>its strange ive only really been seeing dudes lately
to
>im basically a power bottom who wants to get gangbanged
its pretty funny. you'll get over it to. my advice? stay in the closet for as long as you can after meeting someone. they dont need to know unless they need to know. this lets a bond develop before they can try to write you off as just a gay.
>>17090468
DITCH THE BINARY, OP!
Seriously, the entire problem rests around a faulty construction of sexuality as existing in only one of two categories. Fuck that. Literally and figuratively.
I'm sure some anonymous post on a message board won't be able to undo all of the cultural programming that led you to fear homosexuality and view it as a negative. I can only hope that you'll explore the assumptions that underlie those views and question how useful it is to maintain them.
There's nothing wrong with you, and you don't have to identify as "gay" just because you're attracted to men. I know this will sound crazy to you at first, and to many others, but if you pay attention, society is starting to accept the truth that human sexuality is waaaaay more complicated than we want to believe.
Just accept yourself as you are. You literally cannot control who you're attracted to, and it's okay. Even if you just masturbate to men and maintain physical relationships with women, it's okay. Why would anything be wrong with that?
The gender binary we are taught to accept as standard or normal is only a construction of statistical averages at best, and a carefully constructed effort to sell things at worst. It has nothing to do you with you. You are just you, and you are allowed to be attracted to whomever you are.
Sorry to be so preachy and impassioned, but I just see this issue as affecting so many people, and I just want everyone to be happy...
>got a flu
>try to heal
>ask for advise
>they give you more virus instead
>mfw
>>17090609
>comparing a sexual preference to a debilitating illness
ur lifei s exactly the same as it was an hour ago. the only difference is you've now admitted you want to stick ur dick in a slightly different hole,.
>>17090574
There's that pesky SJW.
>>17090468
OP, if I may interject for a moment to contradict the stream of Tumblr consciousness that has made its way into this thread, allow me to offer advice from a different perspective.
You said, verbatim, "I personally think that this is a disease of mind and body." I agree with this statement. In my experience, I have learned that moral degeneracy is a sickness that is propagated by negative societal influences. The people in this thread enabling the fantasies that personally offend your conscience contribute just as much to your decline as partaking in things like pornography. You should separate yourself from pornography, reject schools of thoughts which encourage you to indulge in these fantasies, and struggle within yourself to reconcile yourself back to the higher moral standard that you perceive.
Honestly, the only thing that makes me think you are mentally ill is the fact that you can't be honest with yourself about your homosexual desires. I would respect you more as an openly gay/bi man than I would if you were a bigot.
No, homosexuality is not a mental illness. You need to stop lying to yourself about your sexual preferences.
>>17090645
>tumblr
You stupid nigger. People have been accepting homosexuality since before tumblr was even a thing.
Ask me how I know you're an underage fuck.
>>17090468
>Hi, I'm a straight male
No you're not, you're bi.
>>17090662
You probably think I'm underage because that's your go-to insult. Luckily for me, degeneracy is correlated with a lack of critical thinking to such a degree that I highly doubt you'd be able to say anything that has any capacity to faze me.
>>17090468
It's not a disease. Just play it safe and go out there and have fun before you get caught up in a relationship like this anon. If you're too late you're gonna regret not doing it.
>>17090678
>Luckily for me, degeneracy is correlated with a lack of critical thinking to such a degree that I highly doubt you'd be able to say anything that has any capacity to faze me
You can't be serious with this shit. How retarded are you?
>>17090692
You tell me. I'm sure you're more familiar with your disabilities than I am.
>>17090697
Anon.. You should probably be aware that everything you've said in this thread has been fucking retarded.
>>17090692
>>17090701
to be fair
>>17090697
as far as bad insults go^ this was pretty good. got a chuckle out of me.
though in
>>17090692
>>17090701
your^ defense, i actually do have some technical form of retardation
>>17090645
>fun is overrated
>if the food tastes good, spit it out
>god is dead
etc. The ultimate childish behaviour always comes from the people who want to project a ridiculous moral standard as maturity. If you're serious about this post, you ought to turn off your degenerate computer right this second.
>>17090645
I know it's a hardship and I know I've a long way to go. Thank you.
>>17090645
>pesky SJW
Notice how you literally can't come up with any flaws in what was said, so you just apply a label to it so you can safely disregard it? That's what people are doing with they call something "gay."
The rest of what you said basically places you as the sole arbiter of what "positive" and "negative" societal influences are. Good job on being god, anon. We're all god, though, so if you wouldn't mind just being your own, that'd be great :)
>>17090745
Seriously, OP, were you just looking for someone to go along with you making yourself feel bad here? Is that really what you want? You are actually thanking someone who just told you that you should feel bad about something you have no control over; that's not how it should be! There are so many people who think you're okay, and don't think you have any "disease" or any such problem, and you are ignoring them in favor of people who want you to feel shame! I don't know your life, but if you can find a way out of whatever situation is supporting this kind of abuse, you should take it. You deserve to be happy.
>>17090468
Look OP, I know this might sound weird but no one can really tell you about your sexual preferences except for yourself. You may very well be repressing your homosexuality, but you may just fetishize the idea of being dominated in a way that women aren't typically thought of as doing.
As well, I can speak from experience that sometimes fantasy does not exactly line up with reality. I used to really fantasize about eating/fucking a girl's ass, it was like one of the only things I would fap to for a long time. I was so convinced that it was the hottest thing ever. Then, I finally got the chance to try it, and it was pretty bad. The ass tasted fine, I made sure she was clean, but there was nothing sexually fulfilling about it. Then I tried anal, and it was just uncomfortable for both of us. I haven't really done it since, but I still fap to it.
I wouldn't recommend going out and getting fucked by a dude to test if you really want it or not, but I would suggest seriously thinking about what exactly it is about this gay porn that turns you on. If it is indeed purely the act of men having sex then you are at least bisexual, but I don't feel that that's the case.
>>17090505
Pretty good post.
It's common to think of homosexuality as an illness, because society stigmatises a really powerful urge you have.
I'm straight and if what turned me on was labelled disgusting and immoral i'd feel like i was afflicted with some horrifying mental illness, as it's part of every day, every hour and won't go away. Trying to squash it would just make it distorted and probably truly pathological.
TLDR you gay but hate the label.
>>17090574
>>/lgbt/
