>>17087663
I feel like I've done everything I can on my end. Most of our relationship is just me being patient on her. As the relationship goes on I feel a pressure to commit more. But she doesn't have what I need to commit more.

I feel the second we move in she'll become more lazy.

Give her an ultimatum: Get a job or your relationship with her ends.

>>17087678
This is basically what I said.

IT honestly feels like her plan on life is as follows
>I have debt
>maybe if I don't talk about it , it will go away
>someone else will deal with it

seriously I don't understand it at all

anyone been in a similar scenario?

She clearly lacks natural ambition. Even if you gave her an ultimatum to get a job, you two would still be incompatible on an aspirational level (which is kind of important for long term relationships). I'd recommend breaking it off, though I know that's easier said than done.

Very common nowadays.. NEET lyfe

>>17087766
Kind of. I had to dump my gf of 3 years because she decided she was going to be a "home maker" and eventually a house wife so she quit her job. She said we'd probably get married soon anyway and I make enough to pay for everything so what's the fuss? It was pretty ridiculous and gave me the go ahead to drop her.

Your situation would be much easier for me. She's probably depressed and living with an inferiority complex and with the debt on top of that it should be easy as pie to kick her to the curb. You're giving her too much slack and you're clearly more mature.

>>17087663
Doesn't really seem like there's any point in continuing the relationship. Clearly you don't want a partner who's a financial burden, and she's not interested in doing anything to change her situation. Don't be a dick about it, but it's better to end a relationship sooner rather than later if it's failing.