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>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something that cannot be explained. You either have learned to intuit this or you have not. If you have not, the only way to learn is experience--there are no shortcuts. So it comes back to: Just ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
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>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
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Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
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Do guys like it when a girl rests their head on your chest?
>>17056261
Yes. At least I do.
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>>17056261
Shut up, womern!
Dayum ladybabble.
>>17056261
I'm big on cuddling, so yea
Why do women even date/marry men? Men are universally ugly as shit and have almost no social worth. Never made sense to me.
>>17056287
Basic biology
>>17056287
Feminist lesbian pls go. Men are cute, and if I had one I would make him a sandwich
>>17056287
Companionship and the annoying chemicals in brains that make us fall in love. Also, it's easier to have kids, a family and manage finances in a marriage. Plus the notion of spending the rest of your life with a single person is a romantic one, so it appeals to women.
will reask because I went unanswered
in summation
>was a fat hairy sadsack
>am now in shape, well groomed, and have a good attitude
can a girl who knew me before every find the improved me attractive or will she always see me as my worse self?
>>17056302
One way to find out. Ask her out.
>>17056302
I will actually find you more attractive because you improved yourself.
>>17056302
Probably the attitude change is the best thing u could do
>>17056299
Most of that is just the status quo though, isn't it? Adoption and sperm banks if you really need to have your own are a thing. They're just not as affordable as they could be because of a lack of social and political acceptance.
I feel like a teenager again...ugh!
I ran into my friend's cousin last week who I had a crush on when I was young. Since then we have both been through shit. We talked for a while and joked around and it was nice conversation. He even remembered running into me at my old job-10 years ago, which I don't remember. He told me to hit him on Facebook because of current circumstances he doesn't have a phone. When I left he stood up and iniated a hug. I friended him and immediately he accepted and messaged me. We chatted for a bit and at the end of the convo he sent me a smiling sticker. Since then, nothing. I said Hi to him last night and knew I should have said more than hi but then I didn't want to double text. Still nothing. I have a bf and he knows. I don't want to start a relationship with him but want to hang out with him, innocently I guess. Should I just write it off or is he trying to play hard to get? Is that even a thing? Should I even try to initiate any more contact?
Dunno if sex related questions are allowed but dunno where else to ask
Tips on how to give a blowjob
What do you personally like? Where do/would you like to cum?
>>17056330
no teeth
on to an eagerly waiting tongue ready to be gulped down
>>17056330
Use your tongue
Lick and suck on the head
Your mouth is more versitile than a vagina, use it
If a guy wanted to feel like he was fucking a vagina he'd just fuck your vagina
>>17056330
Deep in the mouth, in the open mouth from the outside or face and tits.
Be passionate, don't forget you can use your hands too, be very into it. Try to read his signals on what he likes.
>>17056330
Take your time. I like to start it kind of slow and teasing, with lots of tongue and kind of exploratory, before you even try to take all of it. Be careful with teeth, unless it looks like he's into it. Keep an eye out of his reaction (and eye contact is also hot), if he likes something do it until he's about to cum and then stop. Find the next thing his into and repeat. I like to take my time. Make him frustrated, a bj is your show, so don't let him interfere. Try to keep him on the edge for as long as you can, it makes the release even sweeter. Test things out to see what works for your guy, they're all kinda different in what turns them on.
>>17056330
Cradle the balls, gurl
>>17056287
according to what? women have shorter and wider faces, fatter body on average and lower height than men
>>17056330
NO TEETH
Use a lot of droll
and NO FUCKING TEETH
>>17056261
It literally makes you feel like the best man on Earth.
>>17056323
Similar story here but instead i am the guy.
He just got bored and maybe think is not worth it, to much problem and complicated.
Being friendly doesn't mean atracction and i am sure he knows that.
If you are really interested why you give him something
to encourage him.
>>17056304
oh gosh, I'm nervous
I think she would say no right now, we are at a stage where if I text her she sometimes doesn't even answer which obviously means she doesn't view me romantically. But I hope some day she might.
and then I also question how I could even have developed romantic feelings for someone that doesn't even respect me enough to respond to a text message. and yet here we are
>>17056261
Love it
>>17056330
Don't neglect the balls
There's this college event coming up which is nothing special, but this girl friend of mine asked me if I want to travel there together.
She lives farther away from the college event place than me, but our route is mostly the same beyond that. Should I surprise her and go pick her up?
Seems like a sweet suggestion to me, but I don't know if it's too much. We've been close for a while, and I'm interested.
ladies,
didn't get a response so I'll try again:
is a the use escorts/prostitutes a big deal?
>>17056540
We have this question every thread
That terrible feeling when you can tell the girl you like is losing interest in you.. :(
Guys,
Is it weird after a really bad girlfriend to not date for a couple years? I had really awesome sex, plenty of confidence when it comes to dating, and I know I can get a girlfriend in the first place.
It's been a while since I've been single, and it sounds so relaxing. I just don't want to feel like I'm giving up, rather giving myself a really long break
>>17056498
Ok. What do I say? I was gonna ask him he wanted to hang out after I get my kids in bed but I don't want him to think I'm saying come fuck me. Cause I'm totally not.
>>17056574
Not dating is only sad when it's involuntary.
Girls, or guys too: So my girlfriend broke up with me about a week ago, we had only been together for two weeks. But she told me that she doesn't think things will workout, but we always got along and I always made her laugh and were into the same stuff etc. etc. I think things may have gone too quickly for her. Also I dont think she has ever had a boyfriend. So I talked to her about it and she said she just wants to be friends and if things go okay then we can take it from there and be a couple again. So I haven't been texting her or anything, just giving her space because she knows my intentions. I brought her donuts and gave them to her after class yesterday, she didn't wanna talk though, she kinda dipped out after class. But I caught up to her to give her the donuts. She thanked me, and I asked her if she would want to hangout again, she said yes. She then texted me like an hour later thanking me again for the donuts. So do you think there is a chance? I plan on just giving her space and not texting her and just saying hello in class.
>>17056574
Not at all. I was single for a while after a long relationship and it was great. I didn't have to worry about a relationship, I saved money and was able to do whatever I wanted. Like taking years off of dating might be weird, but a year or so is cool.
>>17056589
That's how I feel. I've been there, done that. Unless I find someone I really like and think would be a good partner, what's the point of going out, spending money on a girl, just to fuck her a few times and put up with her bullshit later down the road?
>>17056624
Thanks anon. I might just break up my current girlfriend soon. If she stops being a whiny mute dipshit, gives me some pussy, then I'll keep her around.
I feel like shit right now. I can tell the girl I like is starting to lose interest in me. I just feel so unattractive now. I like her a lot, and she used to show interest in me, but I can tell its going away, and there is nothing I can do. ive been positive lately and thought ive made good improvements, new hair style, new clothes, I've been working out. But I just looked into the mirror today and feel fucking terrible. I feel like the improvements were pointless and im still stuck here with shit hair, shit smile, shit skinny body, shit brain, shit everything. God dammit. What's the point
I have a habit where I walk on my toes, especially if I'm not wearing shoes, and especially if I'm not thinking about it. How unattractive is this?
>>17056686
to fall and stand up, you cant always get the girl you want no matter how hard you try, accept this and move on
>>17056287
>Why do women even date/marry men?
Because men are awesome and I love them. My boyfriend is amazing in all aspects and I want to spend the rest of my life with him.
>>17056704
I do that in the kitchen for some reason.
>>17056704
I think no one gives a flying fuck.
>>17056704
Sounds bizarre enough to be a cute quirk rather than an unattractive habit.
>>17056713
Another anon but I need to ask: what does your bf do to make you feel like that? I ask because I sure as hell would like to have my gf feel that way about me.
>>17056708
What does moving on even mean? Everyone says this
>>17056713
But he is just a penis, isn't he?
>>17056727
Forget this pussy and go after the next one.
>>17056727
That instead of wallowing in misery forever you start to focus on other things, other people and slowly forget. Keep yourself busy and one day you'll realize you're over it.
>>17056723
I think, as tired as it sounds, it comes down to compatibility between two people. I fully understand he's not perfect, but he's perfect for me, if that makes sense.
Also, you have to be with someone who is the type of person to want that whole "partnership for life" in the first place. Some people just aren't into that and that's just the way they are.
Other than that, just get down the basics of communication, openness, honesty, trust, and mutual respect and you'll be a great partner.
>>17056742
>But he is just a penis, isn't he.
He is so, so much more. He does have an amazing one though.
>>17056744
>>17056742
>Forget this pussy and go after the next one.
I hate this answer because this doesn't apply. I haven't been purposely out trying to find a girlfriend. That hasn't been a goal. This is a female friend I happend to develop feelings for. So going to find other girls doesn't make sense. Because that hasn't been my objective
>>17056756
You don't have to find a new girl to move on. It's more about accepting that nothing's gonna happen and then just doing and thinking about different things until one day she just doesn't cross your mind anymore.
>>17056756
I think you shouldn't be listening to someone who says men are just a penis.
Guy is clearly trolling or delusional.
>>17056763
It's just really hard because she's my best friend..
Girls
How and when do I tell you I have hsv1? I also found out it can be transferred to genitals reading about it recently and I love eating pussy. I should use a dental dam, but how do I introduce that?
>>17056576
Hey anon you want to hang out?
But still, if you don't interested sexually i really doubt he want to hang out just because.
Unless you have something really in common and you can do together
>>17056768
Then either take time and distance to sort yourself out or focus on changing your own mindset about her. It's gonna be hard for sure, but these things always are. Give it time.
>>17056779
You just tell them. It's not a big deal.
>Hi I just wanted to tell you that I think you're pretty great. Love, R
What did she mean by this?
>>17056793
That she thinks you're pretty great.
Girls, how big of an age gap until it becomes too weird for you?
I've been talking to this girl for awhile and I really like her. Problem is I'm 5 years older than her (she's 18 and I'm 23), it makes me feel a little strange about the whole thing, but she is totally my type and I've not been interested in anyone in so long I'm happy to look past that. It's not like it's illegal or anything.
But that's just me. I know everyone is different, and you can't possibly know what she's thinking, but what your opinions be if you were in the same situation as her?
I spent the whole day after school with the girl I got a crush on.
At first, I went to knock on her door in the student apartment complex we both live in, in order to ask her if she would like to come to the store with me. She said yes, but didn't want to go just yet, and she invited me to her room to spend time with her.
We played some stupid browser games together, and joked around a bit, for about a hour or so, maybe more, after which we went to the store together to buy food. When we got back, we spent some time playing board games together, after which we cooked together, and then went our separate ways as it was getting pretty late.
All in all, it was pretty pleasant. I really enjoy this sort of interaction with her. The only downside of today was that it became apparent that she wouldn't be able to come to the Museum with me this week, like we had agreed upon earlier, due to her being busy at work. It is a shame, as I had intended to tell her about how I have a massive crush on her in the museum.
Anyways, I am still unsure if she is actually into me, or if she just seems me as a friend. Is there any way for me to figure that out from her behavior?
I'm sorta dreading telling her that I got a crush on her, due to the fact that she has spoken pretty negatively about a bunch of guys she knows online, who are crushing on her or trying to hit her up. I fear that she would dislike me too if I told her that I have a crush on her.
>>17056779
They say the bad part isn't having the virus, it's knowing you have it. The vast majority of girls you come into contact with will already have HSV, but more than 80% of them won't know it. The way we go about HSV needs a lot of reform.
But regardless, I agree with >>17056787
>>17056801
5 is my limit. I think the closer in age, the better.
>>17056801
5 years is nothing, especially once you're a bit older. It's only somewhere around 10-15 years when age gaps can get a bit weird.
>>17056786
I wish there was a way to turn off your sex drive forever. God dammit
To either side,
How long do you think is enough to consider a relationship with someone, starting from the day you met?
Curious how much time each side feels to be the minimum amount spent dating and getting to know eachother before considering being bf/gf's.
>>17056832
Personally, I think it's best to become as close as possible and know each other as much as you can beforehand. I knew and talked to my boyfriend all day, every day for three years before we became a couple.
>>17056849
Did you have sex or anything intimate with each other before you actually became a couple?
>>17056787
>>17056803
I think it's worse not knowing you had it or being dumb about it. My ex had it and she would break out and I never did. I gave it to a friend I hooked up with even though I never broke out. Friend is 100% sure she got it from me. I did a lot of research after finding out I actually have it.
>>17056532
Anyone?
Guys,
If you've participated on online dating, how successful were you? Messages you sent per day? Received? Etc.
Also, either gender,
What the actual fuck do you do in bars to flirt and such? Every bar I've been to has been this over packed, loud af, everyone's in there with their crew environment. I can't imagine anyone being 1 on 1 in there.
>>17056861
I dunno maybe one or two new messages a day? I was on okc before and still have tinder but mostly to boost my ego. I don't like dating off apps anymore since I hate being disappointed and would hate if I ever ended up disappointing anyone with my appearance. Out of the 1000 or so matches I've only met up and dated maybe 10 girls. But I've made a bunch of friends to chat with when I'm bored and new Instagram followers so that's cool.
Why girls get interested in older men? Like seriously older, not just a couple of years.
And how do you feel about that sort of thing? I personally find it wierd and kind of gross
>>17056902
Because older guys tend to be more confident and self-assured as well as have their shit together. It's attractive.
>>17056802
Spend time with you doing stupid shit together.
She is into you, escalate physically, Grab her hand, try to be near her, hug her when you say goodbye etc etc. Then show dick
Na, then after things getting hot is when you say you like her. NOT BEFORE
>>17056902
Because men our own age are morons
>>17056532
>We've been close for a while, and I'm interested
If you want to do it , do it , cut the bullshit
>>17056905
I don't know how to escalate stuff physically. I got zero clues on when it is appropriate to touch her, of if she even wants to be touched by me.
>>17056945
Do it or lose her.
In this kind of interactions never ,never use your mind it always come with excuses.
Relax and use your heart or dick (both are useful)
She is soft? she smell good? what about her skin, her lips, her ass, her smile. She is near you, and you have her trust, what else you need fucking need?
>>17056902
Older men are sexy, I don't know what kind of justification you want.
>>17056832
A month. At least.
>>17056802
Make a move.
>>17056801
About 15 years older is when it starts to get weird.
>>17056855
Nope
>>17056978
But I don't friggin know what to do. I have never dealt with this sort of shit before, and I am utterly fucking clueless.
This is probably gonna sound weird but asking a girl out on Facebook even though you're not friends is a big no right?
We have messaged each other before but she's one of those, 'I'll only accept your friend request if we actually know each other' kinda girls.
>>17056986
>Make a move.
How?
What does "make a move" even mean?
>>17056611
Any advice on this?
>>17056989
If she won't even accept your friend request, you chance of getting a date is zero.
>>17056991
You're doing friend things. Step up to more than friend things.
>>17056989
Correct. If you haven't even met, trying to use Facebook as a dating site is bad social etiquette.
I have no problem socializing with girls when i have friends with me, but when i'm alone i become kind of shy. fact is, for some reason i can make moves only when i'm alone- meaning, when my chances are pretty low. how the hell do i resolve this?
>>17057000
>Step up to more than friend things.
What exactly, would those be?
We have been out together a bunch of times already, but as it is, I don't fucking know what to do. I like her really much, but apparently telling her that is a big no no, so I am left with very little options.
>>17057004
Initiate physical contact.
>>17056261
Personally, yes. In general, I can't imagine someone would dislike it.
>>17056323
I'd say wait for him to make the next move
>>17056532
Don't surprise her, offer beforehand
>>17056574
Just play it by ear, see what comes, don't miss an opportunity because you've decided to take more time off than you need
>>17057000
We have met and share a class together. I added her because someone made a group chat for the class so we can ask questions/help each other etc. so I figurered I might as well add them all anyway and she didn't accept.
Mutual friend of ours said she doesn't accept many people so I just forgot about it. However I think she's pretty attractive but the problem is classes are now over so I won't see her in person for quiet a while.
>>17056988
Fuck, i already told you.
You like her? use that! relax and stop using your mind , which always have not clue at all.
You want to hug her? do it, you want be near her? do it you want to grab her ass fuckiiing dooo it.
Are you having thoughts of "i am ugly, she does't like me, she will hate, me loser, i know dont, i know dont,i know dont yadayada" shut down your fucking brain and do what you want to do, easy. do not expect nothing.
You already did the hard part.
>>17057100
>You want to hug her? do it, you want be near her? do it you want to grab her ass fuckiiing dooo it.
You can't just hug a person, let alone grab her ass out of the blue. That would be super god damn pervy, and rude.
I don't even know if she likes me that way.
>>17057108
You CAN just hug a person. It's a common sign of friendship. If she seems into it, you can escalate. If she doesn't, you can play it off.
>>17057127
>You CAN just hug a person. It's a common sign of friendship
Not here in Finland.
And play it off how? "Oh sorry, I just made an unwelcome advance on you, hopefully you don't mind", is hardly playing it off.
>>17056764
LOL
>>17056768
Either you stop being that close to her or, as I said, go after another pussy. These are the only options. Unless you want to cut your dick off...
>>17056802
If you keep being just friendly, you will get in the friendzone and will never be able to get out.
>>17056857
How did you get it? Lots of unprotected sex?
>>17056861
If you are ugly or average, you will have MUCH more luck IRL than online dating.
>>17057132
Just tell her you like her, then.
>>17057154
>If you keep being just friendly
Then what the hell should I do, other than be friendly?
Be rude to her?
I'm trying my best here, but I got zero experience with this type of shit.
>>17057159
But I have been explicitly told her that doing that would be a BAD idea.
Getting mixed messages here.
>>17057165
*told here
>>17056912
Feel the same way about women my age. :)
>>17057179
Good for you, that's got nothing to do with the question
>>17057132
Start a staring contest with her
>>17057165
>several people give advice
>"b-but this is too hard"
>"can't do that"
>"Finns don't do that"
Why don't you fuck off, then?
>>17057108
Virgin thoughts
You have to take the risk, women don't do it. Do whatever you want in the context you consider but you have show her you like her, and the best useful method is physical then some words for secure.
Story time about how escalete:
>Meet girl when traveling for my job
>Ask her out for a coffe
>Chat
>Walking grab her hand like couple, says nothing
>Put my arm around her
>She looks at me , we kiss
>Next day hang out with her friends
>Tell her i just want to be with her (My flight departs tomorrow so am in a hurry and horny)
>She say ok
>Start kissing her in the moment we go out of the restaurant
>Grab her ass
>Put her hand in my hard on
>Tell her i want to fuck her
>She is blushed and warm, she take me to a hotel
She told me, thought you always ignore me anon. what.jpg?
She was interested in me but never show it
See what i did? i did all the fucking job. Women like sex, but most of them are dumb to something about it.
Again, relax, expect nothing and do want you want to her.
>>17056986
I'm just trying to wrap my head around it. Like my brother is 18 and I'm 21 and dating someone his age weirded me out, so someone who is like 25 years older gives me the heebie jeebies
>>17056532
>>17057058
I offered it. She said it was okay and told me not to, then explained she'd hit me up when she's nearby with a winkyface.
I just got shot down, didn't I? Is it time to stop bothering?
>>17057288
She doesn't want you to pick her up, but she wants to see you there. The winky face is a good sign.
>>17057154
>how did you get it
From my ex, it's only oral hsv1
Girls,
Would it make you uncomfortable if your bf is good friends with a couple of girls he orbited when he was younger and a couple of girls he slept with? Which is worse?
>>17056298
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To girls, how can you tell the difference between cocky and confident?
>>17057376
Cocky = confident but also conceited and arrogant
>>17057376
Guy here but cockiness is obnoxious and usually unsolicited. Confidence is being comfortable with yourself.
>talking about yourself when no one cares
Cocky
>having other people wanting to know about you
Confidence
>>17057376
Cocky and beta orbiters are 2 sides of the same coin.
>>17056330
there are FUCKING LOADS of nerves concentrated at the base of the underside of the penis (where it joins onto the scrotum). lick there. it feels amazing. the reason guys like going balls deep is though to be related to giving sperm the best chance of fertilization, so men evolved to have loads of nerves at the base of the penis so they'd like going balls deep. so give that area a go
>>17057393
>>17057399
>>17057405
>>17057393
>>17057399
>>17057405
Ok this is all helpful, what could I do to be confident instead of cocky? I am confident in school, and work but when it comes to social interactions, and with females especially, I do struggle. What do?
Also, I have been recently told that through my body language I communicate arrogance, and I am working on fixing that. But that has gotten me thinking, what are some other ways a person could show they're being arrogant even if they aren't?
I am really trying to better myself here, thanks for all the help
>>17057376
Confidence is natural. Cockiness is forced.
>>17056557
peep.....talk to her? if the process isn't complete, then try to stop it. if you're not willing to fight for it, then do you really want it?
So question time. I just found out recently that my girlfriend was bi and shes been hanging out with her best friend a lot lately. All the conversations we have are starting to get all fluffy and lovey dovey and whenever we are not doing that it normally ends with her mocking me about something and trying to agitate me. So question to girls, Is this something common to do when you develop a intrest in someone other than who you are with?
>>17056992
literally treat her like a friend. there's a few possibilities here:
1) you treat her like a friend, and she realises that she's actually not that into you, in which case it was NEVER gonna work out as something more. but hey, you'll be friends.
2) you treat her like a friend, and she realises that she actually wants to be more than that. hey, you are now going out.
3) you never communicate to her (except I pressume when she texts you first), and she realises that you aren't friends and doesn't want to go out with you. and now you have no gf and no friend either
I don't want to micromanage your life here bud, but like, just treat her like you would any of your friends and you literally can't go wrong.
This question is for the like, what, 6 black women on adv/.
Do black women like Southern White guys? I just moved to Baltimore and I've never gotten so much female attention.
>>17057338
Why didn't you get her tested before touching her?
How should I kill myself
>>17057457
>>17057376
Confidence is the opposite of insecurity while cockiness is the opposite of humility. You can be confident and humble and cocky and insecure. You sound really insecure. Just work on being comfortable with yourself. Confidence isn't trying to compensate for your shortcomings but accepting and working with them.
>>17056686
jesus, fucking talk to her guy. maybe it is something you're not/doing, but maybe she's going through shit and that's what's causing her to pull away. you're wasting your time guessing what's going wrong. if you ask, you can find out
>>17057494
Eat a whole bottle of flintstones gummy vitamins
>>17057494
I think with a gun is the best options. You'll likely fail using any other method.
>>17057498
Any tips of learning how to be comfortable with self?
>>17057493
You get it from sharing drinks too. She was my first gf and I was young and thought condoms prevented most things.
>>17057502
If he uses a gun he should put it in his mouth and aim slightly upwards. Make sure to hit the cerebellum.
>>17057501
JUST FUCKING KILL YOURSELF
>>17057494
Real talk if you're serious then best way to go is by doing a lot of drugs + hookers. If you are already going, why care?
>>17057506
Self improvement. Try to be the best version of yourself that you can be. Set goals and attain them. Break up lofty goals into smaller steps. Be patient. Practice mindfulness.
How do I stop my performance anxiety? Met this amazing girl but been anxious ever since because of how much im into her. Knowing how i felt i told her that my soldier might not show up to which she was cool with. Luckily I'm in her words" amazing" and make her feel like a "horny teenager again" cause of what I can do with my hands and mouth and how I kiss her everywhere. This is the first time performance anxiety has striked me so hard and I really wanna get out of it to start really enjoying my time with her to the fullest. I been so anxious lately any help?
>>17056861
why flirt at a bar? its overpacked, loud af etc. find a hobby that involves meeting up with people (like a club or a team or some shit). meeting people you know you already have something in common with makes talking a whole lot easier. and flirting is pretty much just talking
>>17057345
Yes. Both.
>>17057001
can you socialize 1-on-1 with girls you already know?
>>17057523
I think that self-improving has made me more cocky. I use to be a beta and didn't care, just did whatever.
Since I have gotten "cooler", I have become addicted with self-improvement and that has made me arrogant/cocky
>>17057529
before sex/doing anything sexual just take a couple breathes and walk yourself through it. Remind yourself that sex is simply physical affection and the reason you do it is for enjoyment. Focus less on thinking and more on the orgy
>>17057529
Anybody for this? pls
>>17057534
Would you not trust him even though he has no romantic feelings for his friends?
>>17057559
I actually noticed that by the end we were cuddling she started kissing me and it sprang up like a spring board. Wiuld have loved to use it but she was too sensitive from the orgasms I had given her( not bragging) So i diden't want her to be uncomfertable. So that's the good news but its judt today i find myself thinking a lot
>>17056261
>Do guys like it when a girl rests their head on your chest?
It's one of those things you'd think is kind of annoying, but is surprisingly actually kind of comfortable.
>>17056611
> So my girlfriend broke up with me about a week ago, we had only been together for two weeks. But she told me that she doesn't think things will workout
I'm not sure two weeks is really even enough time to call her "girlfriend"...
Sounds like you smothered her, and she thinks you're cool enough to be a friend, but what she saw in those two weeks didn't really intrigue her for a partner.
There's this thing called the honeymoon phase where you're head-over-heels infatuated and can make a lot of the shit that would normally bother you in a partner feel alright.
Typically it lasts 2-8 months.
If it lasted 2 weeks for you, that means she wasn't in to you.
Sure there's like a .0001% chance.... but more likely you're just stringing yourself along--especially because it sounds like if anyting did happen, you're go straight back to smothering her again. Move on--not only is it better for both your sakes, it actually improves your chances.
>>17056832
>How long do you think is enough to consider a relationship with someone, starting from the day you met?
Two to three dates over like a month is like the absolute minimum, but the average is probably more like 5-8+.
Length of time is kind of irrelevant really, because you could know someone for a year, but never go and a date with them and therefore never get to know them one on one.
>>17057550
Do more improvement on the mental and emotional side, since that seems to be where you need the most work. Realize your reasons for self improvement have been shallow and truly improve yourself.
>>17057569
Overthinking and worrying and whatnot. Could be my general anxiety but its creeping in that side of my life and i don't enjoy that
>>17057529
you watch porn? if you do, stop. that'll help. if not, just relax. it's an unfair truth that the more you think about it, the worse it'll be. just enjoy what you ARE doing with her. Accept that you might not get hard tonight, but still have fun doing stuff for her pleasure. the less you think about it, and the more you relax, the easier it will be for you to perform
>>17057582
Wow that's an eye opener, thanks
>>17057508
I'm paranoid, but sometimes I forget how easy it is to catch a disease. Thanks for reminding me.
Note to self: only touch others with a 10' pole.
>>17057519
I agree, but the last step still should be a gun.
He might survive if he catches STDs and/or overdoses on drugs.
Girls, how do you react to autistic ogling AKA looking at a girl until you realize she's looking back, blush and try to avert gaze while fumbling with whatever is at hand ?
It seems like it's the only kind of interaction I manage to have with females I find attractive
>>17057590
I actually just stopped like last week cause i haven't been feeling too horny these days but i saw my ex and i felt all horny and whatnot. I guess its just the trust i'm lacking... But yeah I stopped watching porn and this happened? Perhaps im getting used to not using it at all and i need to have other triggers work just as well?
>>17056330
>>17057563
It's not really a trust issue. We are human, we are vulnerable by nature. And no girl wants to know another girl is getting her guys attention. I'm sure if your girl was hanging out with another guy you would trust her but you would still have a ting of nervousness? If we are in a relationship than we need to consider the other persons feelings. In sure there are exceptions to every rule but I'm talking I'm general.
>>17057596
Agreed. Also take a huge loan from the bank and give the money to people that are important to you (like me)
>>17056861
Guys,
If you've participated on online dating, how successful were you? Messages you sent per day? Received? Etc.
Umm... It's been over a year since I've been single but think I got bored and decided to break it down once.... IIRC over the span of two years and some change, the average was some like:
Visit 100 pages,
Send 50 messages
Get 20 replies back
Message back 10
Have a back and forth convo with 5 (that lasts at least 3 messages)
Find 1 interesting enough to ask out
Find 1 out of 3 girls interesting enough to go on a second date with.
I went with out with nearly two dozen girls before I met my girlfriend. So she's like 1 out of 20,000 pages I visited.
>What the actual fuck do you do in bars to flirt and such? Every bar I've been to has been this over packed, loud af, everyone's in there with their crew environment
You merge crews or you just be someone who looks like they're fun to be around, and people will naturally gravitate towards you/find your presence more acceptable.
E.G. A way I end up in a lot of other peoples groups is sometimes I'll just casually overhear something about a convo, and I just say something that's helpful/insightful to what they were talking about. I answer. I look aloof enough that it's obvious I'm not trying to butt my way in, but intriguing enough that I seem like someone worth talking to.
The way group dynamics works is that naturally, it's pretty difficult to talk in large groups evenly, so what happens a lot of time is that within a group, it will splinter off in to smaller groups of 2-4 (depending on how large the parent group is). If you see someone standing solo, it's pretty easy to say hey what's up, if it's a small group, dropping in to a conversation isn't too hard if you ACTUALLY have someone interesting to say and can organically do. You can't really drop in if you're just waiting to pounce though, because unless you've got mad game you're just going to come off as desperate as all fuck.
>>17056330
note that these are not complete, just a good base
>>17057609
And no one you have slept with or had a relationship, no exceptions.
>>17056330
good blowing
>>17057480
Any answers?
>>17057612
That's dumb. Whether you're alive or dead the bank will come to collect, and you'll bankrupt your family.
>>17057607
aw guy, that's probably your problem. how much did you watch porn? like a lot or only occassionally?
so, I've been workin out for a year and a half now
>been a fatass with shitty long greasy hair
>thought i was ugly bcs hair made me look ugly
so now, can u honestly r8 me, i mean, it would mean a lot bcs some ppl tell me that i'm nothing spec and some tell me that i'm hot... i'm just confused.
>>17057602
I think it's creepy.
>>17057619
That's for eating pussy, not blowing dicks.
>>17057645
erm
sorry about that, I could have sworn it was the blowjob one
anyway it's still a good guide
I can't find the other one
I'm bad at talking with girls. Took me a lot effort to ask a girl her name, but it feel very good. How do i ask if she's single? I wanna invite her out.
>>17057638
I watched a lot yes....19 years old so ya teenage boy and whatnot...
>>17057635
Tell me, my father has a mortage on him and a line of credit and what not. He also has insurance but once he passes away, what will happen with the line of credit and mortage and other money owed under his name?
We live in Canada.
>>17057655
Not that anon. They'll probably sell the house and use the money to recover the credit and what's unpaid on the mortgage, and the rest will go to his estate
>>17056209
girls...if a guy(not quite a stranger but not an acquaintance) walked in someones garage and caught them double clicking their mouse(if ya know what i mean) wink wink what would you girls do if he asked if you needed help?
>>17057651
then yeah, its absolutely normal. It's called flatlining. after using porn for so long, your body begins to associate getting erect with porn exclusively. so it takes a while to go back to normal. it changes from person to person. for me, it took about two weeks, for others it can take two months, but dont worry about that. the fact that you're with a girl can help, because you're reconditioning your body to react to the stimuli its supposed to react to. the flatline period is when you libido drops due to chemicals in your brain fixing themselves. don't watch porn, dont masturbate, and you'll be fine. legit, its not a problem to worry over. it passes
>>17057655
In Huehuezil, the property would go to whoever would legally inherit it and whatever he owed dies with him. I'm not sure about the line of credit.
>>17057684
I just masturbated now cause i wasen't feeling very well but diden't use porn, used my imagination. The orgasm was fine but i felt i diden't cum as much as i used to, i tend to cum a lot but i asumme thats cause i used to take my time. Ill just stop now but good news is in bonering a lot more then a few days ago so that just shows me i'm doing okay so far. However, i had nany partners doing my porn use and had no problem with them, hell i had ine two weeks before stopping. Is it the fact that I let the porn go completely?
>>17057698
like i said,without porn in your system, your brain is leveling out its chemicals. i can't encourage giving up porn enough, cause it's better for you to not use it. it can also be compounded with strong feelings for the girl. long story short, don't swweat it, just keep doing what you're doing
>>17057608
>>17057629
Both of these are great. The second one gave me a boner.
>>17057712
Oh ya I used my imagination and deleted all my porn! But ya does it explaij my strong feelings for her you say?
>>17057734
no no no, i meant the performance anxiety might be made worse by the fact that you're with a girl you really like and you cant perform (because of the porn use), so you're just getting more worried which is making it worse. that;s why i said not to think about it and just enjoy what you're doing
>>17057745
Oh i see, the fact she walked into my life at the prime of the flatine made me overthink it? I have to admit I boner just fine(just less then before cuz flatline(so its just with her i get so nervous haha
>>17056209
Girls, how would you feel about a guy asking you to call him daddy in bed?
>>17057321
I thought the winky face was her way of letting me down gently. Fair enough then, I guess.
>>17057757
yeah. just let it all take its course, and you'll be gucci senpai
Girls, if I have a fast car, will you force me to trade it for a boring minivan/SUV?
>tfw taking corners fast
>tfw spinning tires at street lights
>>17057800
You can drive whatever the fuck you want. But I kinda think guys who have this gotta go fast, street racer, fast and furious mentality are fuccbois in general.
>>17057790
Omigat for real thank you very much and thanks for letting me know about the whole flatline thing! At least I know its common and whatnot
Im a social idiot and was wondering:
why women stare at me and some of them smile. Im hypersensitive to light and sound so i look in the directions if i notice a flash of light out of the corner of my eye, sometimes if i look in a girls direction they seem nervous and start playing with their hair. I was at the gym running on a treadmill and a female trainer was on the one in front of me and i briefly mad eye contact and she smiled at me, then i gave her a dirty look and her smile went right away.
Do you think i strike people as like really creepy or odd looking possibly scary?
>>17057885
What dirty look?
>>17057885
>she smiled at me, then i gave her a dirty look and her smile went right away.
Answered your own question there anon
>>17057891
the look i usually give people starring at me, its the wtf are you looking at asshole type of look.
>>17057898
so im creepy looking?
im sorry i really dont see the answer you claim is so obvious.
>>17057899
again you wonder why they stop smiling/looking at you?
Just give a small smile back and all will be well
>>17057905
no i dont wonder why they stop, i hate people looking at me. I wanted to know why the fuck people are looking at me. I went to the bathroom because i thought i had something on my face or my hair was really fucked up, there was nothing amusing or out of place on my person.
>>17057904
>Obvious
Step 1. You smile at someone
Step 2. Anon frowns at you
Step 3. You think, oh shit i guess he doesnt like that i smiled at him
Step 4. Ok ill stop smiling
Step 5. Anon gets pissed he got the reaction that he aimed for.
>>17057904
Dude...
When someone smiles at you it's because they're trying to be nice, but instead of doing the normal thing an acting in kind, the first thing you do is to think they're an asshole and try to intimidate them.
You are an asshole.
>>17057914
Oh. Well do you not look at random people? The most obvious reason someone smiles at you is that they like what they see...
Imagine yourself looking at the most perfect cake in the world. And you smile. Its legit the same when it comes to people. I like what i see so i show said liking by smiling.
>>17056287
Because I'm a heterosexual female and I'm in love
>>17057904
>>17057920
You aren't creepy. He is isn't an asshole, anon. This post >>17057914 gives it away, he is autist.
>>17056302
I've known guys like this and I think you will be found more attractive now. It depends how quick the change was.
>>17056801
Totally not weird. The older you get the more bigger age gaps become acceptable
>>17057926
w-with me?
please say yes
I really need someone to love me
Girls:
Do you find it tacky when a guy uses coupons during a date? Restaurants, coffee shops, and movie theaters often have coupons, and they also happen to be very common dating spots.
If context matters, I am mainly referring to the early stages of dating (first date, second date, relationship "just became official," etc.). I am not necessarily referring to longer term relationships, because chances are you would be more aware & comfortable with your partner's eccentricities.
>>17057916
im pissed because i dont like being starred at and i dont know why they do it.
>>17057920
oh i dont try to intimidate people. why would they be nice to me i dont even know them.
>>17057922
i try not to look at people lol. i dont smile at all.
>>17057930
at least im not creepy
>>17057951
I think it depends on how you do it. For example, say you were just setting up a date and said "hey, let's go to this restaurant, it's really good and I have a coupon for it" or "I've got a coupon that can get us a good discount for this movie", then it'd be okay. I think if you just brought it up while you were paying, then it makes you seem like more of a cheapskate.
>>17056801
7 years
Girls
would it be acceptable if a guy asked if you are still interested/attracted to him?
Context- girl and guy have been friends for a while. There has been some attraction towards each other in the past. Girl and guy would flirt, and has sexted each other before too. Girl gets stressed with personal stuff in her life, so flirting stops. A few months later, guy tried to initiate flirting again. And doesn't really get any feed back.
>>17057951
If you insist on a restaurant just because you've got coupons for it, specifically if your date seems to not be super down for it, it's a little tacky.
Regardless, if you're the one paying, it's free fucking food for your date! If they have a problem with you trying to save money, they can buy their own damn food.
>>17057345
Yes.
>>17057376
It's obvious
>>17057800
Nah I like fast cars
>>17058013
Just ask her out
>>17058032
>just ask her out
That's not a option. And can you answer my question I asked?
>>17058013
>would it be acceptable if a guy asked if you are still interested/attracted to him?
If a guy said something as self pitying as this, I would be really turned off.
Ask her out on a date. Use the word date. Progress the relationship.
If all you want from her is sexting, and she's not flirting back, just move on. Don't make her "explain herself". She owes you nothing.
Guys,
Why am I so easily taken advantage of?
I'm 25, female autist, no friends. I've had at this point, 3 boyfriends, all long term (over 2 years).
Every single one of them has treated me like shi t. When I try to stand up for myself and tell them how I feel they tell me I'm dumb and do everything possible to invalidate my feelings
My biggest regret of my entire life is moving in with my current boyfriend.
>>17058060
Asking her out isn't a option. I wish it was.
This girl is special to me, I miss when we would flirt and talk affectionate toward each other.
>>17058071
Stop picking up assholes then.
>>17058071
Probably because you're a female autist with no friends. Are you a legbeard?
Try not to be too submissive and always stand up for yourself.
>>17058071
Cont.
His mom passed away and I stupidly agreed, 8 months into our relationship that I'd help him out anyway I could.
Well its 2 1/2 years later and I'm miserable. I'm nothing but money to him. I'm paying his mortgage. I'm contributing to his home with nothing in my name but nothing I do is good enough for him. He only cares about my money. God I want to fucking kill myself.
I always hear that women don't want men to care about their past but do women often care about a man's past?
>>17058082
Drop him then. If he's financially dependent on you, you wear the pants. Either force change or leave. If your power dynamic relies on money, then you are the one with power. You decide what's next.
>>17057800
I don't want kids so I don't care.
>>17057762
Refer to her as your "little girl" or "princess" or something like that, and observe her reaction.
Maybe try saying "whos your daddy?"
Alternatively: sit her down and ask her her kinks. Then she'll ask you yours.
Personally I have a DDlg kink so I'd love it. But some people, man and woman alike, think it's creepy and disturbing.
>>17057649
Ask her on a date first. Say "want to go on a date with me?"
>>17057345
I would be more concerned about the orbitees. Not that he'd cheat, but just that's unhealthy behavior and he probably idealizes them
The exes he got to know and learn about her farts and poops, so she's not too weird.
>>17058078
No I'm not a legbeard I shave and practice regular hygiene.
I just can't function with normal people though. At my shitty job I'm the weird one, the outcast. Sure, I can attract mates, and lonely men act like that makes being a female so fucking easy and great but not for me. My life sucks. I'm nothing but money and a Fuck hole.
What do girls like in a guy?
>>17058074
Why isn't it an option?
>>17058084
I usually don't care about a guy's sexual history.
But I've found myself getting insecure at times wondering how much my boyfriend loved his ex-gfs.
I guess I worry more about their past emotional ties to people. Like if they have an ex they deeply loved, and she dumped him. Or if he got rejected by a girl that led him on for months.
I worry more about those things. Because, in my dating experiences, guys have cheated on me with exs they had loved very much (and had usually been dumped by).
>>17058074
Why can't you ask her out on a date? Why can't you ask her to be your girlfriend?
>>17058071
>>17058071
Please get to a therapist. Escaping the cycle of abuse is a years long journey. We can't answer this in so many words.
Find a therapist with experience with abused women. Please. Please. I beg of you.
There are women's shelters you can stay at. Please don't stay with him.
Please hear what I am saying.
Don't do this by yourself.
If it's normal and okay, the therapist will just tell you that, right? There's no risk to going. Just peace of mind.
Please.
>>17058115
How about a guy's criminal past?
>>>17057345
>I would be more concerned about the orbitees. Not that he'd cheat, but just that's unhealthy behavior and he probably idealizes them
>The exes he got to know and learn about her farts and poops, so she's not too weird.
It is unhealthy and dumb.
The ex thing...he was also with her despite those things. If it doesn't bother you, great! If it does than you have every right to talk to I'm about your feelings. I would and see how the conversation goes. Find out how he reacts to your feelings and go from there.
>>17058131
I guess it depends on the criminal activity and if it is still an issue
>>17058114
>>17058116
because she lives far. And we've talked about this before. And she said she just wants to stay single for a while. She has a lot on her mind and she doesn't want any tie downs. Which I respect her view. The reason I'm confused, is because we've been flirty and all after she's said that. So yes, she doesn't want a relationship, but we do care about each other and it's obvious at least at some point she was attracted to me. But we haven't flirted since Febuary. She's seemed kind of conservative. Or at least more than she's been. So I'm confused if she's just lost interest in sex stuff in general, or if she's lost interest in me. We still talk every single day and enjoy our conversations, just, that 1 part of our talks is gone.
Note- this isn't just about sex. My "goal" isn't to fuck her. I mean yeah, I hope we will have sex when we meet this summer. But not just to bust a nut. But because I really like her, and it would mean a ton to me to share a moment like this with her: she used to tell me how she wishes I could hold her while she sleeps at night. Or how she wishes that we could just cuddle up close to each other and talk for hours in bed and kiss.
I want all of that.
Guys who don't have a girlfriend/can't get girls and it's not by choice: what do YOU think is the reason that you have trouble with women?
>>17058152
Sometimes things don't work out for reasons beyond our own feelings.
February to nearly May is a long time.
Maybe things will rekindle in the summer, but for now, put her on the back burner. Not everyone can handle long distance relationships. And flirting is definitely progressing your interactions beyond just friends.
>>17058071
People who are easy to abuse will be targeted by abusers, it sucks but its as simple as that.
Considering >>17058082 he knows he can do whatever he wants even though you are the one who actually holds the majority of the power in the relationship, he just has you blinded. You should really dump him, stand up for yourself, and see about going to a therapist to address your self esteem issues.
>>17058156
my physical appearance, which i honestly tried fixing. Few years spent eating healthy and excising, I mostly do it for the health benefits.
>>17058058
Yes it would it acceptable
>>17058156
I'm kind of weird and really bad with flirting. I think its kind of funny how people will often come to me for advice, but I get the lets be friend talk if I ask a woman out. I'm working on self improvement in every other avenue in my life but not really sure how to proceed I'll admit.
>>17057345
As far as I know, my bf has not orbited anyone. That would honestly creep me out a little if I knew he orbited them and is still friends with them.
As for girls with one night stands, eh, this is a weird place too. I've become friends with some girls my long term bf hooked up with (but he did not have sex with them, just like oral and stuff) like 10 years ago in high school. It took time. It had a moment of awkwardness. But the main thing was, they were nice and genuinely non-threatening to me. Seemed like they wanted to act like whatever happened in the past never happened. So I was fine with that.
There are a few, though, that seem to be very jealous and stand offish to me from the get-go. Like, I don't really give a fuck what they think about me, likely jealousy, but I cannot deny that I feel tension from them. It's uncomfortable to be around. But my bf doesn't actually hang out with them anymore, they're just social media friends.
So, I wouldn't really want either. But if one of these girls is really genuine and friendly and trustworthy to me, then I'll accept it.
>>17058156
I'm not very attractive, I'm socially awkward, my humor is too dark, I'm not motivated, my hobbies are niche, I don't go out much, I frankly don't try very hard to get one, and according to a girl I recently talked to I look "scary" and she didn't elaborate on it, despite proding.
>>17058145
What sort of criminal activity would turn you off and lets assume this is no longer an issue
>>17058161
I don't really know how to put her on the back burner. We've come quite close, and it's safe to say she's become one of my best friends.
I haven't been really trying to flirt with her. Because I genuinely respect her. she always tells me good night before she goes to bed, and sometimes she'll say "Goodnight Andrew :) I send you a hug and a kiss too! Text me tomorrow :)"
granted, she's very sweet to me. So that could just be normal talk. But it just makes me think a lot. Sigh..
Yes, you're right about LDR. developing feelings for her wasn't something I intended. It just happened last time we met. She's the most amazing girl I've met, and she's beautiful, and very very kind to me. I've never had this before, and it's just difficult for me.
>>17058182
Oh, and in case you couldn't tell, I'm not confident either.
>>17058156
Talking.
I don't have many things to talk about myself, i don't want to be creepy or weird asking things about her without knowing her first and it's not like something interesting happens whenever i need.
Also, bad locations and situations (like girls trying to get my attention at work by asking for help with work)
>>17058092
Awww, sis.
If I had a girl as nice as you, I'd treat her so well.
>>17058152
Seems like you want a future LDR. This won't work. Stop being dumb.
>>17058156
Ugly, shy, don't get out much. I'm working on all three.
>>17058185
Rape, murder, pedophilia, child/partner abuse/neglect. I guess violent and/or sexual crimes.
So I'm finally on the verge of having a girlfriend, I think?
I've been crushing pretty hard on one of my friends for a while now and its been really hard to not let that show in how I act.
One time while I was really wasted she and I were texting when she mentioned wanting a drink from the starbucks on the other side of our campus. Being drunk I thought it was a reasonable thing to do to run across our campus in the rain to get it for her, and ever since that she's been starting to subtly reciprocate things
Today it kinda got to a point where she was no so subtly telling me to confess to her already but I kind of just chuckled and shifted the subject. I've never been in a relationship before and the incredibly small amount of physical interaction I've had with women was the result of me being drunk and just letting them initiate and steer shit
I know as the guy its sorta supposed to be my role to initiate stuff like this but I don't really know what to say or how to be direct about this kind of thing. I asked her to hangout tomorrow after an exam and I feel like she is going to expect me to say something and I really think I should but like
idk I'm a fucking noob at this shit women please help
>>17058236
Hey I like you. You're really cool. I was wondering what you thought about me. Do you wanna hold hands?
>>17058236
Try this:
Instead of trying to watch for an indicator that she's interested, try to pursue her and watch for indicators that she's not.
Watch some TV with her. Preferably something without a very compelling plot, something mindless. Ideally something you've both already seen.
Cuddle up, get comfy. AND THEN FUCKING KISS HER
>>17058156
Well, I hate talking to people and none of the activities i partake in mostly don't have any women in them. I am not ugly or fat, i actually work out a lot. But for guys being attractive is not enough, you have to proactive about getting a girlfriend. meh
>>17058236
Best thing to do when your'e a noob, say fuck it, I'm a noob, i don't know what the fuck I'm doing and how this is supposed to work, so I'm just going to give you a heads up and do whatever the fuck feels natural and learn as I go.
It simultaneously indemnifies you, puts you in the mentality you need to be in, and makes you look confident and fearless to her.
>>17058245
>Do you wanna hold hands?
is this actually okay to say at a college level
I mean I would really love to hold hands with her but it just seems like a really juvenile thing to ask but again what do I know
>>17058250
I do know that she would be incredibly taken aback if I kissed her suddenly like that
I don't know if she'd be mad but it'd definitely be too fast for the type of personality she has
>>17058267
>is this actually okay to say at a college level
Say it in a joking/fun/cute way instead of a serious and nervous way, then it'll be sweet.
Replace my kiss her with FUCKING HOLD HER HAND then
>>17056478
Awwww
>tfw skinny af and always self conscious when girls rest on me because I know my boniness must be uncomfortable
some girl please talk about how they dated someone with this physique and how I'm being paranoid
>>17058267
>I do know that she would be incredibly taken aback if I kissed her suddenly like that
Re- read the other reply
>Cuddle up, get comfy. AND THEN FUCKING KISS HER
You don't start with the kiss, you start by getting close to her while watching TV so you aren't just focused on each other and nervous, then you start touching her in light innocent ways and put your arm around her and if she'll cuddle up with you it's probably fine to kiss her
Girls
Did I friendzone this girl?
>music tutor at college and this girl signs up
>she gives me her number in case she can't make it (even though you are supposed to call the office and she knows)
>She bumps my feet sometimes and giggles
>She brings me a cookie to the tutoring thing?
>She laughs at everything I say
>Her eyes dilate when she looks at me
>I'm texting her how she should hang out with me and my friends and I get a text back that she only wants to be friends.
I never was romantic with her, though I was always on the fence of being with her. Other things to note are that she is extremely sheltered and seems afraid of dating. This isn't a question to get with her. I'm just confused about what the fuck happened.
Do girls only go to clubs to fuck guys? Or do they legitimately just go and hang out with their friends? I'm asking because my gf is at a club rn and she keeps posting stuff and I'm going nuts because I'm insecure.
Girls, how do you feel about shy guys? Do you think there's any charm to them, or that there's no real draw to them in today's society?
>>17058340
She was having fun flirting but then things got too real
