Hey /adv/, I'm looking into taking the plunge and starting online dating. But what's the best site to use? Do certain types of people use different sites? Any tips for particular sites? Any information would be helpful, thank you.
If you need some info, I'm male, 20 years old, and living in Britbong land. Pic unrelated, of course.
>>17000926
Bump a rump.
unless you are physically attractive your success rate will be close to nil
>>17000926
Nothing at all? Damn,
Honestly yeah, unless you're somewhat Above-Average looking, have fun sitting on that Dating Site for a long ass time. The amount of losers messaging/liking/stalking/trying to flirt will pit you against a tough crowd.
Especially nowadays with how many guys send unwanted Dick Pics and lame "lmao come chill" Pick-Up lines, its pretty much a waste of time.
Honestly youre better off meeting people through mutual Hobbies, or going to the Bar. Ive been using MeetMe and Tinder, while many girls message me and view my profile, half the time they dont initiate anything and are just bored or cant sleep at night.
I've dated over 100 women online, and it got to the point where my time and energy to date was the limiting factor. I'm not rich, I'm a little chubby, and the girls were mostly in the 5-7 range (sometimes better, sometimes secret internet fatties but I got gud at identifying those pretty fast)
so yes, it can work. But I can also pull 8/10s off the street so don't expect it to be a magic bullet. All it is, is a tool - but it makes your 'potential women' pool quite a bit bigger.
>>17005227
How do you identify secret fatties?
>>17005236
Look at how the face is cropped in the image.
If you only see part of the face, that's a huge fatty tell.
>>17005236
he dates them
>>17000926
If you are average or ugly you need something else to be going for you. No, being smart of funny is not good enough to compensate for looks.
Do you have money? Like, a lot of it? Are you well connected? Do you have a talent or skill that's impressive? Like being in a really good band, a photographer, or being a great artist?
I'm super not pretty myself and I'm chubby. I don't have any money either. But what I do have is a talent that lets me easily super attractive to women. Women that could easily be 10/10. My talent somehow makes them think I am a celebrity at times.
if you have none of that going for you then good luck.
>>17005236
Unless there is a clear photo showing her body, assume she's fat. Don't even bother looking at their descriptor, fat women will call themselves "thin" sometimes; can't weed them out that way.
>no body photo at all? She's fat.
>some photos are thin, but not all? She used to be thin but now she's fat.
>"myspace" angle from above? She's fat.
>baggy clothing? She's fat.
>3/4th side angles? She's fat. (this is insidious)
>can't see collarbone? She's fat.
>broad shoulders or wide body, even if half-naked? She's fat.
>Arms/wrists are thick? She's fat. (it's really hard to hide fat wrists)
basically assume SIF status unless proven definitively otherwise.
>>17005248
I have obviously gone on dates with chubbies (which can still be fun, and they will pay for your drinks sometimes), but I don't go on second dates with 'em.
>>17005242
you cannot tell weight from the face, some fatties have super thin faces.
clear body shot or she's fat. Skinny women KNOW they have an asset, and they're not shy in showing it off; there's always a reason if you can't see it.
>>17000926
>only ever use dating apps as a supplement to your real life dating.
dating apps are toxic. consider the following
>people use dating apps because they arent having much luck in real life
>they go to a dating app where they are introduced to an entire smorgasbord of men who want nothing more than to bang and/or date them
>after just one day they will have seen everyone in their area
>within one week they would have talked to everyone they are interested in
so anyone who has been using the app for more than a few weeks clearly has some sort of issue. likely, they are the female equivelent of what i discussed in my first post.
they want a 'bf' but because they have a very specific idea of what a bf is, they arent finding it anywhere. instead of seeing if they have real chemistry, they are simply walking down the aisle, trying to figure out what is the ONE thing at the groccery store they can buy, based solely on pictures and labels.
if a woman is on tinder for too long, they are losing their ability to feel chemistry.
you as a man can fall into a very similar pattern here, but with the added harshness of constant rejection.
it is an app made for people who want to date, yet no one seems to have success there for very long. that should tell you something.
>>17005330
>but anon, how do i use it as a supplement to an existing dating life if i dont have a dating life.
effort. lots and lots of effort. and also, doing what you like. going out is in no way restricted to bars and clubs, though if that is what you enjoy, by all means, go to bars and clubs.
the truest way to find chemistry is to experience your life in the most enjoyable way, and see how you match with the people who come into it. interacting with someone in a casual way shows you how you ACTUALLY get along, not how you hope to get along cuz you really want this to work cuz you need a gf.
so write down a list of all your hobbies, and find a way to externalize them. most people live at least near a city these days.
go to any and all hobby shops and ask about local events. gun shops might have hunting trips. or you can just go to a shooting range. comic book stores have game nights. or live commentary movie nights. if these shops do not host events, offer to host one through them, after all it will only lead to more money through them.
you can even go to a more casual store, lets say, a book store, and stand in your favorite aisle (lets say, horror). talk to everyone who comes by looking for a book. ask what book they are looking for. tell them what book you are looking at. try to spark a conversation abotu your favorite author. maybe take some suggestions. if you really hit it off, try to trade numbers.
its okay if it doesnt pan out. this isnt a scoring system. there is no man in a cloack in space making down on a cosmic chalkboard how many failed conversations you had. 99% of interaction is dumb. you are waiting for the 1% and enjoying talking about your favorite things with strangers until then.
>>17005335
>but anon, going outside somewhere to find out if maybe they have an event doesnt suit my lazy lifestyle!!1!
and for those who simply cannot bring themselves to get up out of the house without a guarantee go to meetup.com and look for something of your interest. no matter what your interest it is on there in a group you can meet with. and if not, you can start your own meet up.
Now, some of you may argue that these sorts of tailored events are attended mostly by men. yes. mostly. but some women too. whats important here is you will be doing something you love, with people who love what you love, and when the right ladies come along you'll know they love it too. you will have that common ground.
>>17005354
>dont just hit on a woman
its no secret that women are the ones who are approached, and they make decisions on which men to keep in their lives. that being said, desperately drooling over each and every girl as if they are a potential love interest is silly.
give yourself more value by not letting a woman sway you on first impressions alone. before you ever begin to say anything remotely flirtatious, talk to the girl. see what she actually acts like when you interact with her. have a normal conversation. if there isnt anything special there beyond her looks, friendzone her. or simply stop talking to her. you do not need to hit on each and every girl that looks good enough to be your partner.
doing this gives you more value, and the psychological effects are great. in addition, women will take you more seriously. instead of being 1 of 500 men in new york who went straight for the kill, you took the time to get to know them. whether it goes anywhere or not, this approach also just gives you practice talking to girls in a casual context. its less pressure than trying to impress them.
