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How do I delicately suggest to my boyfriend that I would like two boys fucking me at once? Or should I just shut up and pretend I'm a good girl.
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>>16977470
Bring it up in bed as a fantasy. See how he reacts.
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>>16977470
These thigs are always a leap of faith if you tell him and he's completely closed to the idea there'll be a seed of distrust between you two.
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I think you know if he'll be willing to or not. If you think you have to put it delicately, he's not going to like it. And if you have to pretend that you're a good girl, then it won't last. Just break up and visit a sex club or something.
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>>16977470


oh dear.
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>>16977532
This. I don't understand why OP would want a relationship if she only wants to sleep around.

We are being trolled, though.
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Try it. If need be tell him if he does you'll do the mff threesome next to sat his desires. It is all about a little give and take I think. Though if he has some crazy morals and you know that then... Well ya will probably get a no. IMO if you can't ask the relationship has bigger issues.
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I'm personally super into this kind of thing, but some people can be really sexually possessive. If you know him well enough, know if he is possessive or laid back, then make your determination there.

If he is possessive/controlling, suggesting it may hurt your relationship, also weigh out how badly you want this. Will it kill you not to do it?

Plan "fuck this shit" could just be doing it and not saying anything to him, which will depend on how guilty you feel about that kind of thing.

The world is your oyster, OP.
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>>16977551
>being monogamous means you are controlling

What the fuck?
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>>16977551
>not wanting your girl to fuck others is possessive
lmao
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>>16977551
>monogamy is patriarchal oppression of womyn
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>>16977640
fucking SJWs

i seriously hope i never have to deal with some bitch in the future who sleeps around with other guys and doesnt tell me because muh strong womyn politics

feel like there'd be red flags... but still there's people like this mate who's answer to every relationship problem is "you're a powerful wymm you can do literally anything you want!!"
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>>16977470
Offer the opposite and he'll do even more for you. Or do a foursome with an other couple you both both find attractive
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First ask yourself this OP, are you OK with him fucking 2 girls at once? If the answer is no then stop there.
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>>16977633

Human beings are animals and the animal kingdom is not big on monogamy.
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On the off chance this isn't bait just ask him his opinion of threesomes. Youll know what to do by his reaction and answer of the matter.
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>>16978038
Except it is

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Monogamy_in_animals
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There's no delicate way to cuck a man. You have to be brutal about it and totally crush his ego first.
Ask your doctor for some Xanax and take one before sex. Then just lay there in the missionary position while he pumps away on you. Say things like, "it's not you, it's me, i'm just not into it, but you go ahead and enjoy yourself" hint about how much tighter your vagina would be with a cock in your ass. before long you'll have him right where you want him. he'll be begging for another man to please you.
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>>16978038
Some animals are monogamous. Some people prefer monogamy and others prefer polyamory, sleeping around, open relationship etc.
There is not a right way to go about it, but forcing your preferences on others is ridiculous. Everyone likes sex, but some people, when they get in a relationship, prefer monogamy. If you know your partner is monogamous and he's not compatible with your lifestyle but you still try to force it on him and your relationship turns to shit he's not the one at fault.
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>>16978067

might be a treasured value in many human cultures, but monogamy is rare in the animal kingdom at large.

Of the roughly 5,000 species of mammals, only 3 to 5 percent are known to form lifelong pair bonds. This select group includes beavers, otters, wolves, some bats and foxes and a few hoofed animals.

And even the creatures that do pair and mate for life occasionally have flings on the side and some, like the wolf, waste little time finding a new mate if their old one dies or can no longer sexually perform.

Staying faithful can be a struggle for most animals. For one, males are hardwired to spread their genes and females try to seek the best dad for their young. Also, monogamy is costly because it requires an individual to place their entire reproductive investment on the fitness of their mate. Putting all their eggs in one basket means there’s a lot of pressure on each animal to pick the perfect mate, which, as humans knows, can be tricky.
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>>16978075

If someone respects you and they want to have sex with you then they will have to accept you as you are.

No one needs to compromise more than, this is me.
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>>16978071

You sound like a crazy person who browses /pol/ regularly.
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>>16978100
Agreed, then people should be clear about what they want from the start to be sure they're compatible
Coming up with open relationship and the like only after months or years is a russian roulette.
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>>16978117

What are we supposed to do if we walk into a relationship with the intention of performing a purely monogamous performance and in time we develop feelings that we need to nurture sexually for other humans?

I'm supposed to just only open my legs for one man because you said so? because muh feels? because all women are whores?
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>>16978141
>because all women are whores?
Never said that. Not everyone here is a /r9k/ retard.
>What are we supposed to do?
I don't know, it depends on you and him. If you really want to go for it try suggesting it, just don't blame him for being closed minded if he refuses it.
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>>16978090
monogamy and life-long pair bonding have nothing to do with one another.
you can be monogamous for 3 week, break up and start another monogamous relationship.
In the animal kingdom, many males fight to be alpha and get exclusive rights with all the females. Spiders eat the father of their children after mating.
Just be glad that you aren't one of the species that reproduces by ripping it's mate's penis off.
Not even after sex, it's before. He doesn't even get to enjoy it.
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>>16978141
>What are we supposed to do if we walk into a relationship with the intention of performing a purely monogamous performance and in time we develop feelings that we need to nurture sexually for other humans?

>Need.

You don't "need" to have sex with other people, it's something you want to do. And if your partner is not comfortable with that and your value your "need" above them, you break up.
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>>16978038
Then you should live in the jungle.
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>>16978038
What an ignorant generalization! I'll clarify some things.
Monogamy is common in K-selected species with low reproductive output. Sharing the parental duties is adaptive, and monogamy gives the male a better likelihood that his effort is not wasted on offspring that isn't his.
R-selected species don't really have relationships to speak of, though. Most of these species don't form lasting pair-bonds, so it's not really monogamy, or polygamy/andry. Some just meet once to mate and fuck off from each other.
It all really depends on the reproductive strategy. There are myriad strategies in nature, all have costs and benefits.
You ought to read more pham :^}
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>>16978100
that "accept me for who i am" meme is why /r9k/ will never get laid.
I don't need to change, she has to love me for who I am. my feminist teacher/mother told me so. it must be true. they can't lie right

humans evolve, and it doesn't take millions of years. keep up with the changes, or breakup / divorce. needs change, many times throughout a lifetime. for a relationship to last, you have to adapt. it's a simple fact penises don't grow, but vaginas do. as she gets older, or has babies she's going to need more than you have. expecting your bride not to change is unrealistic. expecting a boy to manup is unrealistic too
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>>16978205
>humans evolve, and it doesn't take millions of years
Nice meme science
>she's going to need more than you have
So all men should be ok with their wife having sex with other men?
I wonder how SJWs would react if men started to advocate their right to cheat
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>>16977470
Tell him you want to watch porn with him and then, after he gets all excited and agrees, only watch cuck porn while giving him a handjob. You need to make a pavlovian association here. Then, broker the topic.

Good luck!
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>>16978192
sex is most definitely a need.

air, water, food, shelter, sex. You can choose to be asexual, but you can't live without sex. Man juice is toxic to males, it builds up and kills you. It's not toxic to females, and they need it. Not just to get pregnant. Exchanging bodily fluids is necessary.
Ask a woman how good she feels after taking a load. I don't mean after she orgasm I mean received man juice in any way. She'll tell you she feels great. It's like an antidepressant, but it really works all the time. it doesn't have to be internal, she can absorb it through her skin, or swallow it, or take it in the butt. regular doses stabilize her mood. regular output from a man stabilizes his.
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>>16978282

Lol no, sex is not a need on par with air, food, water, etc. There are plenty of people who have lived and died their entire lives without sex. You will not die by lack of sex.
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I think I'm done with relationships. Not worth it.
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>>16978282
Your pseudoscientific bullshit turned me on.
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>>16978219
no one said anything about cheating.
I said you aren't going to please her gaping hole by yourself. you and her have to chose what happens next. you jump to the cheating conclusion, but most people are not prone to cheating. divorce is an option. she goes and gets a bigger man after the divorce it's not cheating. or maybe she'll be happy with a dragon dildo, and you'll live happily ever after without cheating. or you agree to 3way or you become a cuck lots of non cheating options
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>>16978321
>you aren't going to please her gaping hole by yourself
Says who?
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>>16978038
Holy fuck.

1.) That's a complete fallacy. The naturalistic fallacy.
2.) Many many animals species are monogamous
3.) Just because most mammals, or most primates, or even our closest relatives (the chimps) aren't monogamous, doesn't at all mean humans aren't.

The closest we can get to studying "natural" human behavior is to look at existing nomadic groups, such as the Hadza. They are, surprise surprise, serial monogamists.
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>>16977524
Seed.
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Having a threesome is a very common fantasy, but it's not usually a realistic one. When you add in another sexual partner to your relationship it can fuck a lot of stuff up.

You also need a partner that actually want to see you fuck someone else and unless he is bisexual it's not going to do anything good for him.

So basically, it's unlikely to happen unless he's already expressed an interest. This is the kind of thing you do with someone you don't really want a romantic relationship with.

You can easily bring it up. Mention your sexual fantasies if he's open minded, and try to get him to admit he'd like a threesome. If he does, say you would as well and lay it on the table. You'd be interested in having a threesome and you could return the favor.

No pressure though.

Don't buy into the bullshit that your every fantasy and fetish needs to be fulfilled to have a good sex life though. Just have a wank like every other sane fucker on the planet.
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>>16978100
>this trololol
The insane Jacques panel "played straight" was an elegant touch, baitanon.
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>>16977478
>having frank discussions about new fantasies while in bed
No, no no no this is awful advice! Sex is when emotions are running high and everybody feels vulnerable. It's one thing to talk dirty about established fantasies, but bringing in new material is only going to put him on the defensive.
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humans throughout recorded history have mourned the loss of a mate, and moved on with their lives. life long pair bonding in one or two species out of billions of species on the planet is more than just rare it's an anomaly that can be discounted as nonexistent.

Eagles almost went extinct, because the would suicide when their mate died, but we retrained them. Showed them that they can love again, and now the Eagle is making a comeback.
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>>16978405
eagles almost went extinct due to hunting/poaching and DEET you fucking retard
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>>16978363
Not my seed
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>>16977470
Get your guy a Double Penetration Cock Ring, all the benefits of two dongs plowing you without the baggage of a second person in your bed.
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>>16978405
Kek, just making shit up wholecloth now
>we showed eagles how to love again
My sides can't handle these hard science facts
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VbG-LsMo6U0
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>>16977470
This is not a good idea if you want to stay with him long term. Seeing your partner with someone else may seem fun or even necessary at times, but after all is said and done it's a mindfuck that slowly destroys the relationship. Please don't do it.
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