>>16974166
is pic related a man

The guy she was cucking you with probably dumped her so she had no choice but to release her frustrations in you.

I've had this exact same thing happen to a friend.
She'll probably leave you in a week or two if he doesn't come back to pursue them again.

>>16974166
My ex started doing new shit in the bedroom, that's how I knew she was fucking someone else.
If she's changed overnight that means somethings changed for her.
Has she been acting differently out of the bedroom?

Sounds like she's fucking someone else.

>>16974261
Yes, she has gotten alot more active. And she started having a positive outlook on life. She's usually quite pessimistic, blaming herself for everything. and now she keeps dropping bombshells like 'while you're alive, there are many options", "good health is all that matters", "there's always time to improve yourself as long as you try your best". Those things she says feels like not her.

I know people think it's cheating, but we both work from our homes for a long time now(freelancing) an it has been moths since we seperated for even a couple hours.

So unless she does it while i'm taking a shower, cheating would be damn hard to pull of.

I know I should be happy for these changes, but these things are making me upset.

>>16974166
Ok well it's POSSIBLE that she's cheating on you but it could be any number of things. Ask her what's up. Say that you've been thinking a lot about that fuck and you aren't sure how to receive it. If she gets defensive about it, the odds that she's cheating just went up.

>>16974306
Well I guess in the end it will be best to talk with her after she wakes up. Cheating would be #1 on my list, but again our lifestyle would make it very very difficult for it to happen. Im honestly trying to think of a way she could of done it and nothing pops up.

Maybe she found some weird porn on your computer

>>16974344
Maybe she was just fed up with her own shitty attitude and outlook on life and decided to change it ?

>>16974376
How can people change this fast and this drastically? Is it even possible?

>>16974409
Of course. If you're really sick of who you are and you're told "mind over matter" "fake it till you make it" she'd probably go above and beyond to change who she is if she's tried of being a mopey cesspool of cyclical frowning and doubt

>>16974409
Yes it is possible. It happens all the time.

not the one ur replying to.

>>16974303

Anon talk to her. Don't make the mistake of throwing away a good thing especially because she's sounds like she might have found some motivation.

I know it's vague but I went through something recently and now I can actually be bothered putting effort into everything I do.

Ask her pls

>>16974180
>>>/pol/

containment board pls

This is exactly how my girlfriend acted when she cheated on me with another guy.

She liked the way he had sex with her and wanted to bring it back into our relationship.

I got suspicious, checked her phone while she was in the shower and broke up with her a few days later after I found evidence on it of an affair.

I would get suspicious if I were you anon. As others in the thread are also testifying, this is standard behavior after someone has cheated.

>>16974166
Is your dick big?

>>16974166
She cheated on you, my fiancé did the exact same shit to me with the exact same scenario. Here's what you don't do and what you do

Don't:

Ask her if she's cheating in any way what so ever; she's going to hamster and deny all allegations. Don't even try

Don't act passive aggressive

Don't raw dog her

Dos:

Do keep your eyes, ears, and senses peeled

Do keep it cool and coy, don't be a nervous wreck. I know 4 years is long but be a man.

Do Keep fucking her but wear a condom that you BUY FOR YOURSELF AND IS UNDER YOUR VISION/HAND. Always.

Do focus on yourself and on your life more. Meet new people without her, men and women.

Do improve your game

And ultimately when you happen to see more evidence and/OR find another girl to be with seriously in a committed relationship (or find girls for fwb casual shit, depending on how you fee), leave and dump her

Might as well enjoy the ride. My fiancé was in the exact same position as yours. She did the same what she did with him, except faking it. When she was "relaxed" it turned out she was not interested in me. A little before she took a sharp turn to be wild, she started seeing a guy through a friend of a friend from work. I didn't know because she "came from work late" sometimes and other times she was "hanging out with her female friends."

Her female friend covered her ass. Probing work got me a suspicious lead as the security guard told me she wasn't doing overtime. I smelt something fishy, so I ended up snooping through her phone. She didn't completely cover her tracks, as she got a text from the guy who she erased the convo from, with a time and date.

I played stupid when she was about to leave and left to the address. First thing I saw was him opening the door and her acting all giddy. I didn't have to do anything afterwards. Went home, packed her shit up, she came, denied, water works, shifted blame for her infidelity, tried to manipulate with sex, then left proud but regretful she got caught

>>16974632
It's also possible she's afraid of losing him to other women, hence the change and complete 180

And thusly, this is why I refuse to get involved with people on a romantic level these days. Maybe when I'm older but, being 25, I value my dignity more than having somebody. Just say no to games.