How do I stop seeing flaws in little things that they do as time passes by and I get to know the person better?
After a while, I always end up questioning the relationship. I know it's stupid and an exaggeration, I don't expect a perfect person but even the things I found okish or somewhat fun at the beginning, in time they appear lame, pathetic and annoys the hell out of me to the point that it's hard to look past them and it clouds my feelings.
Am I utterly stupid or do I constantly make the wrong choices regarding people?
>>16955565
It's probably the people.
>>16955565
are you black ?
have the same thing, it happens to me practically every relationship. My problem is I think that in the beginning I'm just happy spending time etc. with a new person, and don't think about what could be serious character flaws. Then when the initial euphoria wears off you really see those flaws.
Another issue is that it simply takes time to get to know people, and some flaws might not show immediately.
>>16955627
Not that I know of
>>16955641
Not necessarily serious flaws only.
But little things like the way they laugh about something, the jokes they usual do and that get old, their childish behavior, stuff they say or how they react about normal things, etc.
Makes you wonder if you two are compatible, I mean the relationship may survive but it spoils the experience of love and affection. And I don't know man, the same things look/seem okay before you become intimate and get to spend more time with that person
