I think I am just about done trying /adv/. I am 26. No girlfriend ever. Probably no masculine spark or whatever women are after. At this point, I think I might have to try and live vicariously through something.
What does it feel like to actually have a girl like you back and WANT to be around you? It must feel amazing. I can only try to imagine the feeling of acceptedness. You don't have to put on some sort of facade.. you can just be YOU.
Describe to me what it feels like to have a girl like you back?
I have no idea no what is wrong with me. I honestly feel like I lack some sort of masculine spark. I remember a really nice looking girl who I thought I would be great for started dating some dude who was addicted to scratch tickets, sold busted cars for a living and constantly abused her trust. I honestly don't understand what he had over me but whatever.
What the fuck does it feel like to be liked back by the opposite sex?
29 virgin here
its a pretty good feeling, i actually thought girls were kind of lame...she rejected me and it crushed me but i moved on the best i could...thought for sure she liked me
a few months later she was staring at me a lot and being very nervous around me, i guess the feelings simmered a bit and developed a crush...because she clearly is acting differently
she was staring a bunch, acting nervous, being shy and flustered, when a beautiful woman acts that way around you you cant help but feel great about the whole thing.
its not meant to be, but damn do I have good dreams about her when i go the sleep
I really wish I could figure out whats wrong with me and why I can't really keep a womans attention yet other seemingly.. really shitty guys can.
iktf
and yeah I don't know, I agree about the 'masculine spark', I'm actually a pretty good looking guy and I'm still a kissless virgin at 21 because I'm shy.
I think girls gravitate to guys who seems dangerous or 'an adventure', often to the point where they'll take someone mean over someone nice just because of that.
>>16954242
i'm 21 and just got out of a 2 month relationship (my first girl ever)
i was extremely happy at the beginning, having someone who cares about you is something truly magical. however, it was all lies, as i eventually came to admit that she probably never cared about me at all.
so yeah, the feeling is very nice, but when it is faked by the other person, it hurts you a lot more than it may have made you happy.
It feels great.
>>16954242
>What the fuck does it feel like to be liked back by the opposite sex?
idk these feels anon
>>16954242
https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Song+of+Solomon+1
>>16954242
I wish I could tell you. The only affection I've gotten from women is friendly/brotherly affection and whatever "affection" strippers give you. I'm sure it's a nice feeling, though, to be able to express that kind of passion to someone and have them reciprocate it...
It feels like this:
One week in: everything is nerve wracking but exciting. You have kissed a few times and it's all you can think about. Text all day, talk all night.
Two months in: everything is fucking amazing. You laugh and joke all the time. Your eyes light up every time they walk in the room. Sex is bliss, you love exploring each others bodies. Cuddle sessions on the couch, movie marathon for days. You tell each other you love each other and it feels like you've become one with that person.
6 months in: you decide to get an apartment together. It's exciting and fun, you're starting to feel like you're grown up for a change. You're excited about the possibilities of the future. Sex continues to be mind blowing. You've had a few big fights, but you're comfortable enough in the relationship that things always work out. She cooks all her best dishes and you surprise her with flowers.
1 year in: you're shitting and pissing with the door open. You've grown used to the scent of dirty bloodied pads or tampons in the bathroom trash, she's gotten used to your skid marked underwear you leave on the floor. Life has become a bit monotonous as the work/pay bills/clean house routine sinks in. Sex is still great, but it's not as often anymore. You start fapping again occasionally. She finds porn on the computer and you spend the next three days convincing her you still find her attractive. Maybe marriage will shut her up.
5 years in: your children are sticking their tiny fingers under the bathroom door as you try to take a shit. Your wife looks like shit as she tries to force feed the baby something other than gold fish crackers. You haven't had sex in ten days. You hate your job but have to keep going because you live paycheck to paycheck. She hasn't cooked breakfast in months so you stop by McDonald's for the fourth time that week. When you come home, she instantly starts bitching about how you don't help out enough around the house.
This is what love is like.
>>16954462
I want it
>>16954462
>Maybe marriage will shut her up.
lmao anon, please tell me this isn't what happened to you?
>>16954462
>having kids
wew lad
Has this thread had it's question resolved? is OP satisfied or seeking further answers, because I'm on right now and would like to help if he still needs someone to talk to
Don´t be too down, OP. It´s not about masculinity or such things. There is someone for everyone.
>>16954498
help
>>16954503
I hope there is someone for everyone but I feel as if I have been waiting a really long time and anytime I think "Maybe this is it!" Something fucks me over.
More rcently, at my job, they announced that employees cannot date students about a month ago. I work at a large university so I see like a billion girls a day that I would want to date and I am not that old. Now they tell me I can't even CONSIDER dating any of the females here. Just fuck my shit up.
>>16954242
post a picture of yourself. lets see waht you are working with. we'll go from there.
Honestly. It comes down to fuckin nature. Most good lookin girls want guys to be able to protect them. Provide for them. And make them happy. If ur muscular u already standing out from everyone. If u hav a good job. They see a comfortable life. If u make em laugh. They want to be happy all the time. They want the best for them. So sadly relationships today are like competitions. If ur first u get the pussy. If ur second and below u get friendzoned and are (led on) or (are stuck waiting for a breakup). So the best way to find someone u like and actually be in a relationship with them is to work ur ass off in the gym. Work ur ass off at ur job or school. And work ur ass off at keepin her happy. If u cn do this u will be satisfied with watever the outcome. Trust me.
>>16954539
>>16954562
roswell/10
Okay I am 21 I had a relationship for 3 years at most and I have dated and been with other girls and I go to the bar/club once in awhile. I have had experiences of sever depression, im currently on meds for that, in my depression I have shut my self in my room and not spoken to even my own roommates. my room is sometimes messy and sometimes I'm very upset with the way I look, But I learned what was really important when it came to everything in life, opposite gender, work, your physical appearance and just about anything you struggle with. The first step is to understand that nothing is more important than you and your interactions with others there is no impossibly large scenario or task or goal that takes extra human capabilities to perform. the answer why bad men get with good women is a>, most women are stupid when they are at bars or clubs, don't go there expecting anything more acceptable than a hump and dump. b> even you are capable of connecting with your target person because its just human interaction, of course there is a right way to do it and a wrong way and i can help you out with anything you want to know, but first please please understand that nothing is out of your reach because everyone can do anything, its just about succeding or failing, its not predetermined its just yes or no, and i believe 9 times out of ten, people just don't know what success is and associate a lack of it as impossibility or being an exception to the rule, so first what i want you to do is accept this rule. after that i can breakdown anything else you need information on OP btw I'm very new to 4chan but i really wanted to help since i saw this post on advice while looking for help myself.
>>16954562
You look pretty decent OP, experiment with haircuts, see if you can find a better cut. Maybe you need to broaden your horizons? Go out more, try different places. I went to a club, almost got laid, but I blame that one on my smoking habits.
>>16954562
Not OP. But I fucked up with my ex, I didn't treat her like I should. Only realized what I had once she left me. Now she's off living life, and I'm still jobless.
But we've been writing letters while she's in bootcamp. She asked for a book as a gift, and I got it, so I'll be seeing her soon. Should we catch up as friends, or should I tell her I still love her?
>>16954623
>she's in bootcamp
What branch, anon? Its important that I know.
>>16954623
My advice is to tell her what you have realized, the best thing for when i was talking to my ex when we reconnected is to tell her how i feel and the conclusion I came to, find closure in your resolution and find out what she thinks about your resolution then you can let her open up to you about her feelings, if she is as decent as I think she could she will answer you honestly and you will just know what to do. i'm rooting for you!
Hey, you´re not bad looking at all. I would second the haircut consideration
And if you really want to step it up, you may look at wardrobe too (shirt (not t-shirt) and jeans work very well as casual (from girls point of view) Just browse some sites about male fashion or some fb group like "hot guys" etc. often girls comment there on both the guys AND clothing, so you can learn what may be popular. I´d still go with a bit classy over anything too "street", though :)
As for the students... as you are forbidden to date them, can you still socialize? Friends are great for meeting more people from different groups.
Ah... and I forgot one more thing... Try to smile at people, especially when you talk with them (even routine in work etc.) It makes them see you as more warm, open person and it makes conversation easier.
Good luck to you!! :)
>>16954641
Thank you very much. Means a lot, man. Gotta ask, how did things go reconnecting with your ex?
>>16954242
It's nice, like makes you feel real fucking good about yourself, but all that doesn't seem to matter when it comes to an end, then you forget all those feelings and just kind of curl up and regret everything you did.
>>16954562
Just do something with your hair and then try Tinder.
>>16954733
>then you forget all those feelings and just kind of curl up and regret everything you did.
This. So much.
I would give anything to go back to how it was before I ever met her. It sounds dramatic, but I will not ever be the same.
Nobody wins either way.
>>16954327
It's probably because they are better looking. Same shit with ne
>>16954727
She ended up hooking up with a a guy, he is an electrician, she just had her baby a few days a go, and we talk about how life's going, we both learned about what happened what went wrong between us and thanked each other for that wonderful time we shared together, we both realized to late that we had something real together, like end game marriage stage shit but it just didn't work but we know how the other feels and we can stay friends and be there for each other in any bad situation, the point is to just understand each other and be thankful for what emotion, events or things they had given you or taught you. look for that when you reconnect, maybe you might end up like us separated but on happier terms
>>16954794
I see. Thank you for being honest with me. I appreciate this.
>>16954562
>get a haircut, no bangs, short on sides long on top style upwards
>gain some weight and lift some weights
>stop acting like a helpless faggot
>stop using this board
youre not ugly nor were you handed some bad fate like the virgins on this board will make you believe. youre just not doing the right things to help yourself - everything is under your control when it comes to success with women, unless youre hideous (which youre not)
>>16954810
No problem I am in need of some interpersonal dialogue cause it seems everything is going wrong, somehow i managed to get short 7 bucks for my 6 hour bus ride to pops place for eater tomorrow. now I'm scrambling to find a solution.
>>16954242
To answer your question, it feels pretty amazing at first. Eventually you get used to it, realize it never was that big of a deal and /facepalm at how for so long you deprived yourself of something so simple.
>>16954462
>kids
>ever
We all make mistakes, many of which we can take steps towards fixing.
That ain't one of 'em.
>>16954408
Seriously, stop.
