My fiance keeps pictures of his ex stored on his cloud services. Like DriveHq, Google Drive, Dropbox and oneDrive. Along with apps like picture safes on his phone. He has also hid the pictures from me, and lied about having them.
What does this mean?
>>16928879
That he has mementos of his ex and is under the impression you wouldn't like it if you knew.
Nudes or just photos?
>>16928879
If it's just pictures, it's probably a porn addiction. How's your sex life?
>>16928889
He had nudes, I found out and he "deleted" them. I find the same ones again. And he lied about it when I showed him that I knew, and finally accepted and deleted them in front of me. But he probably still has them somewhere. But I know for sure he still has regular pictures.
I deleted all pictures of my exes when I got with him.
>>16928899
>we stalemate now
Sorry, I don't know where to tell you to go from here. Make peace with it or let it remain a point of contention or force it to become a source of resentment or get lucky somehow. Those are the options I'm seeing.
>>16928895
He also kept looking her up on Facebook, bit that was eight months ago, and I haven't seen him do it since. Our sex life is good. We have sex on a daily basis, but he hasn't gone down on me in three months.
>>16928879
how should I put this.
Evey man keeps a collection,it doesn't mean anything.
>>16928922
He's selfish and have feelings for his exes. Dodge this bullet lady!
Do they talk?
>>16928922
Great to hear you have a good sex life. I can see he's sort of trying to stop the behavior, but he'll need professional help if he wants to completely stop.
On a side note, I feel that he is simply unaware that you want him to go down on you, so maybe bring that up on a nice day.
>>16928975
No, they don't talk as far as I know. When we first got together, she kept messaging him about wanting to be with him, how she can't live without him. He would ignore her, but never completely blocked her from his life. This went on for like three or four months. Then I found the nudes of her and all that drama happened like a month later.
>>16928984
I bring it up every once in a while. It just never happens because he says he's tired from work. Or wants to relax. Or that his tongue and jaw get tired too quick. I'm not really too bothered by it because I have a low need for orgasms, but he gets upset when I watch hentai to masturbate but he wants to keep pictures of his ex?
>>16929008
Anyone who gets pissed off at their so watching porn in their off time is not a good match, imo.
>>16929008
You two really need to see a therapist about this. Don't get married until these issues are resolved.
Best of luck.
>>16928879
He wants some goddamn privacy is what it means.
>>16928879
If you looked to see if he was hiding something, you probably have trust issues. If You find something, there is probably something to hide. Issues all over the place here.
>>16929058
He had privacy until he lied to me and pretended to delete them.
>>16929066
I didn't have trust issues before I knew he had the pictures. But I definitely do now, I know.
>>16929076
But how did you find them in the first place? were you snooping/going through his stuff?
>>16929089
He told me to go on his phone to look at pictures of our vacation together and to upload them to Facebook. I saw nudes of her and a few regular pictures. and that kinda piqued my curiosity. I asked and he just lied and said he had no clue who it was. I'm not wrong in snooping after he betrayed my trust like that the first time.
>>16929076
I think you've made a clear effort to satisfy his needs and made reasonable requests. Even though you're in the right, he's not going to appreciate being told to do anything. You two need to seek counseling before deciding to live together for the rest of your lives.
