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I'm 19, haven't fapped or watch porn for over 3 months, seeing this girl for over 2 months, now my girlfriend(was a virgin before her,she doesn't know, still haven't had proper sex though). We tried having sex a week in but when I put the condom on I would just lose my erection, but now she's on the pill so I don't have to use condoms and just yesterday we were fooling around and I put it in in reverse riding position but only stayed hard about 8 seconds then it just kept getting softer and softer and started falling out till eventually it was soft and she tried giving me a blow job but it just wasn't going back up. Later I was the one top and lost it probably even quicker. What's wrong with me ? What can I do? I just felt like it didn't feel as good as the handjobs/blowjobs she gives me too but it still felt good so I don't know
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3 months isn't going to cure a lifetime of porn. You need to make it a year or more.

Also, performance anxiety could be the cause. Once you start getting soft, it becomes a freefall.
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>>16927193
I would hardly ever masturbate more than once a day though sometimes I'd go a couple of days without masturbating. And I can get hard through foreplay/kissing/cuddling and stuff. Could it be that she gives me too much handjobs? When I was inside her I tried going faster to help my erection but I think it hurt her because she told me to go easy so I couldn't and lost it
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>>16927186
Stop using a condom, it will increase sensitivity. Tell that cunt to get on the pill and pull out.
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>>16927226
I did say she's now on the pill and there's no need for condoms.
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>>16927193

>implying looking at porn will make you unable to get hard in sex

Yeah, guys who get laid totally never look at porn ever. You're a retard.
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bump, I'm either thinking its just performance anxiety or need to cut down on the handjobs/blowjobs, is that reasonable? And what do I do to help?
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Sort of a weird thing I've noticed, but this has happened to me in the past with the first girl i was with. You might not notice it in the moment, but if you're flexing your "dick" muscle chances are you'll lose your erection really quick. Just relax and let your body do its thing on its own.
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Interested in this as I have the same problem. I wonder if it's because of all the weird fetish porn I watched that a basic old fashioned guy + girl having sex doesn't work for me.
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>>16927186
have you consider the possibility that maybe she's ugly as fuck and your body is grossed out by that ?
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>>16927530
Well no because first of all she isn't ugly and second of all I can get hard by kissing her when I'm horny
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>>16927518
What do you mean flexing dick muscles? as in like kegel exercise muscles?
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>>16927546
I suppose that would be it yeah, sorry i dont know the specific name myself. i just noticed that doing that made it difficult to maintain an erection. if you just relax, or focus specifically on not doing that you shouldn't have much more trouble with it. thats what worked for me anyway.
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>>16927549
Okay I'll take that on board, thanks!
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>>16927555
No problem, hope it works out for you man!
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>>16927559
Sure hope so man, it's starting to get frustrating for me
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>>16927563
This could sound tremendously strange, but the best way to take the focus off for me, was to focus on my butt. Like, during sex, instead of thinking about your dick and potentially getting panicky, i just focused on my butt to relax. like, it's not doing anything right? and that worked for me. just another potential tip, i dunno.
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Same here help. I get boners but I can't keep them even long enough to switch positions and i get morning boners that are hard and don't leave

Help
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Just get cialis, doctors pass it out like candy or if you're too scared to talk to the doc you could buy it online
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Nerves and lack of practice. Keep at it. Use pills for help until you don't need them anymore. Practicing with condom also helps but apparently that's taken care of in this case.
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I wouldnt use pills. Instead use natural herbs extract. Hve you tried having sex at work? :)
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>>16927705
>don't use something that's proven to work
>use my voodoo grass that knocked out Lamar Odem
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>>16927699
What pills? When I looked at viagra and cialis theyre really expensive, being a student I can't afford them
>>16927705
What do you mean sex at work?
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>>16927762
There's generic viagra and cialis available depending on where you are. They should do the job.
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>>16927780
Is that a healthy thing to do at the age of 19? Would I get it for free if I went to a doctor about it?
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>>16927840
It's different in every country and with every doctor. A cool one might give you a free sample.
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>>16927186
I dunno how it's called in english because I'm too lazy to google it on mobile but you might have what we call "la galle" in french
It's little worms under your skin, a common disease but rare in western countries. The disease was common in middle-age tho
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>>16927186
Almost like nofap and yourbrainonporn is a bunch of bullshit. Who would have thought? What will you blame your ED on now, OP?
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>>16927186
Op what you have there is Flatline you can find more information about it from here:
http://www.nofap.com/rebooting/

>>16927308
Frequently masturbating to porn can cause erection problems. It did for me and has done so for numerous people. Really freaked me out on the first time I attempted to have sex, abstained from porn and masturbation for a week and could finally get erection and have sex but took me like month off porn before I could orgasm without a hand-job. People who get laid don't really need to watch porn all that much because they get the real thing.
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if I were you I would have killed myself already lol
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>>16927911
I haven't watched porn in over 3 months what else can I do to help me?
>>16928001
That sure is a vote of confidence for me.
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>>16927899
Not sure what you mean here
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Seriously taking an adv on 4chan seems the stupid thing someone would do. But ill give mine i think u have what we call dysfunctional penis and what you need to do is get another one. Good luck.
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You're saaaaaad. So many men with ED these days. Especially white men and western wannabe faggot men. That's why girls get so wet for those African and Arab immigrants, they know how to show interest and enjoy sex.

If I were your girl I'd cheat on you with Wissam from Syria
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>>16928225
Piss of you Syrian refugee. We are going to send you back to Syria and blow up your fucking mud hut you fucking shitskin.
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>>16928136
Well I'd say exercise, especially weightlifting can help you boost your energy and testosterone levels. Losing some weight or gaining some muscle can also do some good if you've lived sedentary lifestyle. Healthy food can also help you out, because I simply have no idea what sort of food the serve wherever you live.

You could also try Karezza with your girlfriend some say it has helped them to recover faster and removed a lot of the pressure placed on men during intercourse.

Some people take longer to recover from porn addiction related problems and it's good to understand that NoFap is not scientifically proven method, it's a method that a lot of people have successfully used to recover from these sorts of problems. For some it has taken couple of months to gradually recover, for some it has taken like a year off porn. But it's really all we have until there's more research done to this subject that isn't funded by people who just want to sell you pills of viagra.


But until there's actually some solid research done on the matter, something that's not funded by people who just want to sell you pills of viagra.
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