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>>16927135
Question to anyone, just looking for advice in general. There's this girl who I'm friends with, not best friends but friends, and she's lesbian which is cool and all, I don't mind and I'm not vain or stupid enough to think every homosexual out there wants to sleep with me.
Now, according to a mutual friend, she does though. Well, or she has a crush on me I guess, apparently she asked around if I'm single or interested in girls and some such thing.
She's a really sweet girl and all but I just literally cannot imagine ever being with a girl, romantically, sexually whatever. Zero interest there.
How can I make that clear to her, in a soft, polite way? I don't want to hurt her or drive her away because I really like her and I enjoy her company.
So, yeah if anyone has any advice on that, that'd be great. Maybe someone who's had a straight crush before? I know you can't help who you fall for so I don't want to hurt her. Maybe if that lesbo girl from last thread could chime in that'd be great.
Girls-
I've been soft rejected by a girl in the past; told me she had plans on the date I suggested something but never attempted to reschedule. Then had her flake at the last minute before.
We are still casual acquaintances, and I have an event coming up and need a date, and my friends who know the story suggested I ask her. I'm not against it, but part of me feels like it might come off as clingy / needy at this point considering she's been clear (though indirect) up to this point.
>>16927159
Well, I suppose it depends on how/why she rejected the earlier date. Might just be that she really had something else coming up, that happens.
I always think asking can't hurt, I mean sure if she cancels the sixth date you've invited her to, maybe take the hint, but I'd say asking her for another is okay.
Do you meet her casually or talk to her, text her something like that?
And do you just want to fuck her, or what's your goal generally?
>>16927135
A girl at Uni is getting really touchy with me, and she's cute af. But she thinks I'm gay, what do I do in this situation?
>>16927173
Tell her you are not gay and ask her out on a date and then touch her more.
Girls dont touch you because you are gay, they touch you because she wants to be close to you.
>>16927154
That's really tough. Crushing on people you shouldn't crush on happens, and it rarely ends well.
I assume your friends have told her that you're straight? Because if she's not stupid or heads-over in love with you, she'll probably just realize that you're not meant to be. It happens, there's like 3 lesbians for every 100 girls. It sucks but that's how it is.
If you're her friend, try to let her down easy, comfort her but also make it clear that you're friends, and that's it. DO NOT lead her on. I'm not saying you're like that but more than enough people like the attention of being desired, or maybe are simply too hesitant to reject someone properly. Don't do that to her, it'll break her heart and ruin your friendship.
I guess just handle it like you'd handle it with a guy you like but are not attracted to? We're not a whole other sort of people.
>>16927164
We talk casually, yeah. We are classmates, so most of our conversations revolve around our mutual class.
As for the original date, she just said she had plans and never elaborated. I didn't push the issue. When she flaked on studying together, she at first said she was going to be late and then said she was sick and wasn't going to make it after all.
As for my intentions, eh. When I first started talking to her, my intentions were a relationship. I guess they still are.
But yeah, rejected twice (softly) -- so this would be the third time. I figure it doesn't hurt to ask, but I don't want to creep her out and make her think I'm some type of needy wack-job at the same time.
>>16927179
>Tell her you are not gay
But I told her that I was gay in the first place. Should I tell her that I meant bi/am interested in girls as well?
>>16927173
Tell her you're not gay? That's pretty much a no-brainer. Why would she think you're gay in the first place?
>>16927180
Thanks a lot Anon. I'll try to sit her down over some coffee and explain it to her.
And no I definitely don't want to hurt her or lead her on. I just thought that maybe if I show some attraction or attention even, maybe it'll be easier on her if her advances weren't completely in vain or something? I don't know.
>>16927187
Well, three's the charm as they say. Like I said I think it'd be okay to ask her, but as you can read I'm not the inter-gender relationship expert here.
Good luck anyway!
>>16927192
I got really nervous at the start of Uni and told her that I was gay and in a relationship. I don't know why, I just panicked.
>>16927191
Why would you tell anyone you're gay if you're not?
>>16927192
No problem Anon.
And no I really don't think acting as if you might be interested will do her any good. Let's take that to the extreme and say you sleep with her out of 'pity'. Disregarding that sexually she won't get a lot out of it probably, no offense, do you think that would make a subsequent friendship any easier?
>>16927199
See: >>16927198
I panicked.
>>16927206
That's one of the weirdest panic reactions I've ever heard of honestly.
Have you talked to her about it since then, told her what a sweetheart your boyfriend is or something? Because the longer you keep this lie up the harder it'll be to break through.
>>16927173
I'm assuming other people also think you're gay now.
Get them together some time and get them all drunk. Drunkenly "admit" that you're starting to wonder if you're bi. They will, most likely, ask why you're thinking it. Be non-committal and vague in your answers.
See if she's different the next time you talk to her. If she's still clingy, or even moreso, she's probably into you. If she's suddenly less touchy-feely, she was fag-hagging.
>>16927211
It's been nearly a year now, I told her a few things and then told her that we broke up after the holidays.
>>16927217
Okay, good idea. I just need to remain calm while drunk.
>>16927217
>>16927219
That's an interesting idea I guess. Make her cure you from your excessive gayness, hah.
>>16927225
Maybe this would make it easier to suggest anal.... I may have accidentally done something incredibly smart.
>>16927154
Kek, I read this the whole time assuming you were a guy, got real fucking confused for a bit.
>Wait, he's gay as well? What are the odds?
Anyway, I personally wouldn't do anything at all unless she actually comes on to you. Like >>16927180 said, surely your friends have told her already, and lesbians are damn used to crushing on unattainable grills.
Has she said anything or made any move at all? If not, I'd think she's probably just trying to swallow the crush and get over it with minimum awkwardness.
>>16927241
>three weeks later, Anon found himself on the business end of a strap-on
>>16927248
Kek, I don't know if I came across as a bottom.
>>16927206
AHAHAHAHAHAHA
That's some real sitcom shit, Anon. Amazing. I have no advice for that kind of pickle, I just want you to know that you brightened my day.
>>16927135
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
>Anywhere outside. Or online.
Please, you can do better than that.
>Would you date a virgin?
>As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
That's more of a "can't fix it, so I'll ignore it" rationalisation. Some people wouldn't regardless.
And if it's a girl asking guys then the answer is wholly biased towards "yes".
Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery
Again, you can do better. Depending on the relationship some of those are out of the question/ a definite possibility.
>>16927253
I wish I was making this up, it's a really stressful situation honestly.
>>16927198
This is some Curb Your Enthusiasm or The Office shit. You can't make this up.
>>16927252
You'll know soon enough.
>>16927246
>I read this the whole time assuming you were a guy, got real fucking confused for a bit.
Haha, nah sorry. Maybe I worded it confusingly.
>lesbians are damn used to crushing on unattainable grills.
I suppose so yeah, but she's incredibly sweet and I feel like I'm about to kick this cute little kitty whose done nothing but rub up on my legs for warmth.
>Has she said anything or made any move at all?
Well, she's been touchy with me but not considerably more touchy than girls generally are I think. Nothing that seemed in any way sexual to me.
We've made out once, sorta drunkenly. Which, I know, was immensely retarded on my part. That was before I knew she was interested in me though.
>>16927256
Anon, that's just the thousand-times-copied OP.
I'm on a bit of a loosing streak when it comes to asking women out. A few people have mentioned, fairly blindly, that it's probably my approach.
Is a straightforward "will you go out with me" too confrontational? Should I be opening with some not-date date bullshit if I'm not good friends with the person beforehand?
>>16927225
>Make her cure you from your excessive gayness, hah.
As much as I don't want to encourage Anon to become a manipulative psychopath, I think many of you would be surprised how much shit straight girls let a gay guy get away with. I don't mean "oh but when he fondles my tits it doesn't count, he's gay", I mean like "oh but that doesn't count, he's gay, we were just working out if blowjobs feel different depending on if it's a guy or a girl".
>>16927256
>That's more of a "can't fix it, so I'll ignore it"
That's more of a stay away from "omg, i'm 22 and I never had sex, I wanna kill myself, like is pointless I am not a real man" people.
They don't need gfs, they need therapy.
>>16927262
Glad you're having fun at least...
>>16927266
I suppose.
>>16927267
>Anon, that's just the thousand-times-copied OP.
Then it's good that we've stated in this thread that the OP should not be copy pasted into the next when the bump limit is reached.
>>16927270
Wait, WHAT? What?! I mean, what? This is a thing? I could do that? I could lead that kind of life?
>>16927274
Oh, it's you! Go fuck yourself. Take your animu wallpapers with you.
>>16927273
>WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU TOLD HER YOU WERE GAY LARRY?
>I DON'T KNOW, I PANICKED, THERE WAS A THING AND I JUST ...
>WHAT THING?
>You know, a thing.
>A thing?
>Yeah, a thing.
>(beat)
>There's only one thing you can do now.
>What's that?
>You need to get up in that ass Larry.
*cue Curb Your Enthusiasm music*
>>16927269
Personally I think that's too straightforward if you're not friends with the girl. Do some casual stuff, invite her to coffee or some such shit.
>>16927270
>"oh but that doesn't count, he's gay, we were just working out if blowjobs feel different depending on if it's a guy or a girl"
Seriously? I am a straight girl and that seems absolutely absurd.
>>16927267
>I suppose so yeah, but she's incredibly sweet and I feel like I'm about to kick this cute little kitty whose done nothing but rub up on my legs for warmth.
I'll just come out and say it: you gotta get used to that kinda shit. Nobody likes a wishy-washy "soft" rejection better than a hard rejection, as long as you're not an outright dick about it. Look at this guy >>16927159, he's not exactly cheering about the situation being vague, is he?
Think of it as pulling the kitty out of a piece of plastic packaging it got stuck in, instead: probably going to hurt the cat for a bit, but it has to be done and afterward the cat will be relieved. You can't always help painlessly. Ask a doctor.
>>16927277
Yeah, nah. Not me.
>>16927281
I don't watch TV and we don't have that show here, but I think I get the gist of it.
>>16927284
>Nobody likes a wishy-washy "soft" rejection better than a hard rejection
Yeah I suppose you're right. I want to try and do it as nicely as possible but still make it clear that I'm not interested.
Like I said, she's a really wonderful person altogether and I enjoy spending time with her. Don't want to make it weird.
>>16927276
>This is a thing? I could do that?
What did I JUST say to you, Anon?!
>>16927282
>Seriously? I am a straight girl and that seems absolutely absurd.
Told you you'd be surprised. But yes. Doesn't work on all girls, obviously. But you know how some girls feel relaxed around gay men because "they're not interested" so "they don't have to constantly guard against" and blah blah? Basically girls who have a real antagonistic idea about dating and hooking up, if you want to get psychological about it? Yeah, they can take that relaxation pretty fucking far.
>>16927287
>Don't want to make it weird.
It's gonna be weird for a while. She will need some time to get over you.
>>16927289
I'm intrigued. Tell me more, how do I become a manipulative, terrible person?
>>16927289
Well, I understand that having gay friends can be a nice counterweight so to speak, someone who has an insight into the male mind without having to be wary of his intentions, something like that.
But the jump from "its okay to sleep in one bed" to "well lets suck some gay dick" is a pretty huge, absurd one to me.
But obviously I don't know. I have like one gay friend and he's pretty chill, I should ask him if he's ever had anything like that happen to him.
On a related note, why would a gay guy *want* a blowjob from a girl anyway?
>>16927294
Yeah I suppose so. Fucking hell I'm not the kind of person to grieve over, I wouldn't even make a good lesbian gf I'm sure.
>>16927303
The heart wants what it wants. Look at the bright side of it all. She saw something in you that made her go "woooooooow, she is perfect" so instead of saying stuff like
>I'm not the kind of person to grieve over, I wouldn't even make a good lesbian gf I'm sure.
you need to notice it as well.
>>16927303
>On a related note, why would a gay guy *want* a blowjob from a girl anyway?
To figure out if girls do it differently. To help her practice, etc.
>>16927270
To give a lesbian perspective, I have known of similar things happening. Straight girls who came on to me in the "it's okay, just experimenting" way. Sexuality is weird and not always all that clear cut.
>>16927303
Oh don't put yourself down Anon, pretty sure you'd be a absolute qt gf.
girls:
first date with her on saturday, after she rescheduled it on short notice
should I keep text silence or chat with her before
>>16927307
Haha, thanks Anon. Yeah I was just kidding, not fishing for compliments or whatever. I mean I just never saw myself as the kind of girl that'd attract other girls, but maybe that's just me stereotyping.
>>16927309
I've never thought about that really. Never wanted to practice blowjobs on anyone except boyfriends either, but of course that's just me.
>>16927310
>pretty sure you'd be a absolute qt gf.
T-thanks.
>>16927314
Well I suppose texting her a bit doesn't hurt but don't text her constantly if you're seeing each other on Saturday anyway.
>>16927300
Fool, you wouldn't even like it. At first maybe, but then you'd become like those redpill retards who come to hate the women they're with for being so easily manipulated, not realizing that the girls they're with don't represent all girls, or that they've actually become incredibly good manipulators so talking as though everyone who falls for it is a simp doesn't make sense. It turns you bitter and hollow, don't do it. Just come clean to this girl.
>>16927303
>But the jump from "its okay to sleep in one bed" to "well lets suck some gay dick" is a pretty huge, absurd one to me.
Maybe it'll make more sense in your mind if you add one or two of the stages inbetween, like "playfully feeling each other up as a joke (a "joke")" and "being tipsy". This post >>16927217
is pretty much talking about that same thing,
>If she's suddenly less touchy-feely, she was fag-hagging.
>On a related note, why would a gay guy *want* a blowjob from a girl anyway?
Well obviously if you're GAY you DON'T. But, if you're bi, or just an asshole, and you may have said some things that were maybe misinterpreted so now you're "the gay friend"...
Or hell, maybe you are gay, but you get bicurious, and you're drunk so your inhibitions about saying personal stuff drop, and you tell one of your girls, and then things snowball from there.
>>16927318
>bitter and hollow
I'm already halfway there, please teach me or tell me how I can become that kind of person!
>>16927310
>To give a lesbian perspective, I have known of similar things happening. Straight girls who came on to me in the "it's okay, just experimenting" way.
Yeah, this is also classic, just like "the only gay guy in the frat" constantly doing stuff with his "not gay, definitely not gay" frat bros. In my experience about one-third of gay guys had this type of experience in college and the others all go FUUUUUCK I DIDN'T REALIZE THAT WAS AN OPTION AAAAAHHH when they hear about it.
>>16927318
That seems like straight ouf of some erotica smut story to me, but as I said my experience with gay guys is confined to exactly one dude who's basically a housewife and has been with the same boyfriend for four years.
So maybe I just don't know the real thing, I dunno.
Interesting to hear about it to be sure. I gotta ask around in my circle of friends if they'd get touchy with a gay guy just for shits and giggles.
>>16927282
>Do some casual stuff, invite her to coffee or some such shit
how is that not a date?
why would I want to introduce ambiguity into my level of interest?
I foresee some kind of
>not date date (coffee)
>some time later... couple
>turns out she was seeing other people up until now
>because it was "not a date"
line of events. Isn't that a likely problem?
also, is saying yes to a date some kind of investment? I've discussed the topic of "the first date" with a couple of female friends before and they seemed to think saying yes meant that the relationship was a done deal.
As if the whole point wasn't to get to know each other and find out if things can work.
Of course they also mentioned series' of prior date sounding events that didn't count.
Reminds me of a couple TV shows I've watched where the girl claims it was love at first sight, then the guy mentions "first sight" was three weeks after they met.
I'd really like to express what I feel as I feel it. But 0-12 and here I am.
>>16927322
To be honest I think it's just the hormones going crazy and all that. I went to a pretty strict, Catholic all girls school, boarding school and all, and turns out locking 600 girls together in small spaces isn't the best way to discourage them from getting feely-touchy.
Once in the "real world", hardly any of those girls turn out to be actually gay, with the exception of yours truly.
College is probably pretty similar.
>>16927317
we had a few nights where we texted each other for like 3 hours thats why I dont know if I should stop texting now or keep up like that, I dont want her to get sick of me or to run out of things to say but I dont want to go too cold or make her reschedule again
>>16927300
get manipulated by terrible people
>>16927332
Well, that would be true if the frat guys couldn't find any women on campus...
I definitely know what you mean, though, boys' only schools seem to be much the same way.
>>16927314
I've been stood up due to radio silence. Don't.
That said, "I forgot" is a large red flag so it probably wasn't much of a loss.
>>16927332
>crossdressing boy in Catholic all girls boarding school
>hormones going wild
>tfw manga and anime wasn't lying to me
>>16927329
It is a date, but it's not as straightforward and committal as "Do you want to go out with me", I think.
It's not really ambiguous I think, just not going like a bull at the gate.
And no I don't think a date is an investment, it's just a date. You tip-toe around each other a bit, sniff each others butts so to speak, see if you're compatible. If not, oh well. No biggie.
>>16927333
Well if you generally talk to her a lot, over text or otherwise, I'd say just keep it up.
>>16927337
Yeah but frats are still 'boy clubs', that's what I meant.
I recently read some book about British boy boarding schools, I think by Stephen Fry. Much the same there apparently.
>>16927342
Well except there were no boys at our school, crossdressing or otherwise. Sorry Anon.
>>16927341
>>16927345
ok I'll send her some stuff tonight, I think she might be busy later today so I wasnt sure but I'll do it
how likely is she to stand me up if I'm talking too much instead of not enough
I want to ask a girl out on a very casual date. It's a girl I've only chatted with a few times irl, we got along nice, but now I can only contact her through social media. She's online like only once a day so it's impossible to actually chat. Should I just message her asking her out? Otherwise it's like I can only message her once a day and I want to do something tomorrow.
Thanks.
>>16927350
>Well except there were no boys at our school, crossdressing or otherwise. Sorry Anon.
Yes, but IF there had been any they would have gotten all the pussy. Literally all of it, anime is real.
>>16927351
Personally I'd much rather be texted often than not at all. If a guy I'm having a date with doesn't text me I'd probably keep wondering if he really likes me or if I said something wrong etc.
Plus, girls like attention. It's good to know someone is interested in you.
>>16927352
Sure, why not. Give it a try, worst comes to worst she'll just say no, happens.
>>16927359
>Catholic schools make anime real
Praise the Lord.
But yeah that's exactly the reason why there were no boys in the first place.
Invited a girl to watch a movie. She said "depends on if it's a good one" and eventually it fizzled out because everything in cinemas right now is shit, though we've put the plan on ice until a good one comes out
If a girl's this picky about plans when a guy asks her out, is she really even that interested to begin with? I presume she is and act like she is, but honestly I'm not very sure anymore whether she actually is.
>>16927371
if shes interested she'll find excuses to be with you not excuses not to be with you
>>16927345
>not committal
Committing to what exactly? it's fairly important she show up.
>not ambiguous
Your male friends wouldn't ask you to grab a coffee if they wanted coffee? it's completely ambiguous, no level of interest is specified
>>16927351
>how likely is she to stand me up if I'm talking too much instead of not enough
Assuming women flake and reschedule in that situation rather than outright stand you up, that's happened to me too. In my limited experience that's just as likely.
She then failed to find the time and after 6 weeks I cut contact.
>>16927361
alright I hope this is what she wants, I actually really want to talk to her a lot more than I already do but I dont want to come across as needy
>>16927373
yeah I'm super worried for some reason that this is going to be a pathological rescheduling situation, I want it to work out but I feel like the longer we go on texts only the harder it will be to get that date
>>16927371
If I really like someone I'd be okay with watching Sharknado: The Sharkening if it means I can spend time with him.
But of course she could just be picky. Maybe she's interested, or not sure yet herself.
>>16927373
>Committing to what exactly? it's fairly important she show up.
I meant it's not outright romantic interest so both of you can keep it up without it getting too awkward if you happen to not be interested. "Want to go out with me" seems, to me, to be much more "serious" and thus harder to break off if it turns out you're not all that into her, or vice-versa.
>Your male friends wouldn't ask you to grab a coffee if they wanted coffee?
No, sure, but if it's a guy who's not a really good friend, or just an acquaintance from uni or something, and he asks me to have coffee with him, just the two of us, I'm going to at least assume there's the possibility that he's interested in me.
Girl or Guy,
I had a thing for a girl, but it's been 4 year since the last time we spoke, alot of shit got in my way, but now I'm back on track, she single, is it worth starting something or would be like "WTF is this guy doing"
>>16927388
your chances of success with that are basically zero, you need to get to be her friend again first
>>16927388
I would try to slowly initiate contact and try to talk more with her again, and not just outright asking her out.
>>16927388
>>16927392
Yea, I disagree with this guy. Ask her to catch up and in no time at all things will be right back where they were. Then ask her out. Better chances than with a stranger imo.
But it does depend on the person. Some people kill you off in their minds the second they say goodbye. Others will miss you.
>>16927388
You don't just "start something" like that. 4 years is a long time. Chances are she doesn't even remember you. Imagine someone from a distant past going "I've always had a thing for you and here I am". Even if that happens in movies, those two have a romantic history together; not whatever it is that you two are.
If you were close before, go ahead and hit her up and ask how she's been, at most. If you hit it off, go ahead and meet up. Be gentle, and be realistic. If all you had was a quick elevator conversation, don't bother.
>>16927399
It depends on what they were like before. If they were good friends, sure. If he is a sperg who made her his waifu with a projected personality after a single conversation, best not to.
>>16927381
I don't want to get blown off because she already had her morning coffee, or her bus was late so lets just not bother, etc.
Time, place, appear there. I want it to be serious.
>I'm going to at least assume there's the possibility that he's interested in me
Then I have to play the balancing game of overtly flirting enough that she's sure I'm interested (which I find varies hugely depending on her self esteem), and ensuring I don't seem desperate (even though I am).
>>16927401
>If he is a sperg who made her his waifu with a projected personality after a single conversation
Ah, but is there a way to tell? I don't think you can ever really tell how one sided a relationship is.
>>16927415
Well coffee was just an example. Ask her out for dinner or go to a movie together, I dunno. Just whatever people do together on dates.
I'm just saying bluntly asking her out if she wants to go out with you feels..awkward to me.
>>16927399
>Some people kill you off in their minds the second they say goodbye
I do this. It's for the best in my humble opinion.
>>16927372
That's what I was thinking as well. She hit me up with those excuses before, where she wanted me to visit and be with her for whatever reasons. In person she's very chatty towards me, and the both of us are very touchy and lingering towards each other.
On the other hand, over text she switches between winky+engaged and matter-of-fact+distant. She always sends me paragraphs, but mostly of the latter. And when I'd think out loud to make impromptu plans, she'd shoot them down with other excuses.
>>16927381
Yeah, maybe she's just picky. She's quite a movie buff with a certain taste in films, after all. Then again, so am I.
And maybe she just isn't sure of her interest. She likes me, that much I can tell. We'd be (and lately have become) good friends. But more than that? I really don't know.
>>16927442
>And maybe she just isn't sure of her interest.
That's gonna sound like a lame excuse, but I honestly believe girls oftentimes don't know what they really want.
If she likes you, and she's a friend, maybe she actually just wants to find a good movie.
Should i end my relationship? The problem is that my long distance bf barely talks to me and he always tells me that hes super busy.
We talk like 1 a week and its always a really short conversation. Is it possible that he just doesnt care about me anymore?
He told me that he cares and loves me but its not showing.
Am i missing something?
>>16927430
>I do this. It's for the best in my humble opinion
There haven't been enough good people in my life that I'd ever just let go.
My feelings about someone will scarcely change after decades.
Seems more honest to me.
>>16927428
ate already, saw the movie
there's always a bad reason to say no
>feels..awkward to me
I'd like to get to the root of that. Maybe there's a third way where she's not scared and I don't get shafted.
>>16927469
I'm not sure why she would get scared. If you talk to her and decide on a movie, or a day for dinner together, she'd have to be really not interested to then watch that same movie before she'd be watching it with you, or already eat if she knows she's supposed to have dinner with you that evening.
Girls, is it sexist if I want a GF/Wife mostly for sex?
Yes I'm a virgin.
>go out on date
>have a pretty good time
>don't hear from her in a week
>she's still actively posting on facebook.
Is this non-verbal communication for, "yeah, nah, this wont work?"
>>16927520
>week
Technically not a lot of time.
The average person only has about 3-5 hours of free time every day.
Except for me since I'm on sick leave until September 1st, which means I have more free time than the average person.
If there's no first kiss at the end of the first date does it mean the date failed?
>>16927528
No.
>>16927519
No, it's just stupid.
>>16927494
>she'd have to be really not interested to then watch that same movie before she'd be watching it with you
That did happen. She delayed her answer for like a day or two, went and saw it, then told me no.
I'm not talking about someone going out of their way to make things difficult, but about someone saying no for some trivial or unimportant reason because she thinks I don't particularly care.
Also we seem to have skipped along here. If she says yes then then there is no problem.
.
>>16927534
So which is worse?
Sexism or stupidity?
Reposting cause thread died.
Girls. I'm thinking of buying an expensive ring and wearing it like a wedding band but I'm not engaged or married. Opinions of this?
I've read studies showing women are more likely to pursue guys with wedding bands but I'm not doing it for that, I'm cashed up and my idols are guys like Skepta and Stormzy.
>vid related https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LxSoZyxqzSc
>>16927537
They're usually related.
>>16927542
>They're usually related.
>usually
How exactly?
I'm usually not intentionally sexist, but I could be accidentally sexist without even realizing it.
>>16927519
No, it just severely limits your options and most people wouldn't call that a relationship/GF/wife.
I don't drink alcohol, is this ever a problem?
>>16927556
Yep. Listen to mainstream music. Watch any mainstream tv show or movie, everything is and always will be about alcohol and to a lessor extend drugs, (yes ik alcohol is a drug) and everyone you know are consumers of that media.
>>16927556
are you a man or a woman, I'm a guy who doesnt drink and I feel like its held me back with girls since often the first move happens with alcohol lubricant
>>16927568
Hexagram cultist pls go
>>16927556
I wouldn't say so, that's your choice. You can go out to bars and clubbing and whatnot without drinking.
>>16927556
No, as long as you don't lecture me every time I drink a beer or a glass of wine.
>>16927575
What are you even on?
I'm right, fact.
>>16927577
>You can go out to bars and clubbing and whatnot without drinking
You can?
And here I thought it was mandatory or some shit, or I get beaten up by a bunch of roid raging berserkers for not being "manly enough" to drink beer.
>>16927539
I find it attractive. Go for it.
>>16927585
Well I don't know what clubs you go to, but I've had long periods where I didn't drink since I was on meds, and it didn't make any difference whatsoever.
Sure, people might ask why, but you just tell them you're not into it or whatever.
Ladies, how does it feel knowing that you've social engineered your way into never having to worry about anything? The law is 100% on your side in most things and there's so many unwritten social rules regarding your special treatment. Its such a brilliant dynamic that you've created its a shame its so morally reprehensible.
>>16927457
Unlike girls, men don't lie and manipulate to survive, neither do they have issues trying to figure out what someone really means because of it. I know you aren't getting attention from a constant source anymore, but you can't be that cold-hearted can you?
>>16927600
>men don't lie and manipulate to survive
the fuck you talking about. I bet you don't work for a living.
>>16927600
>men don't lie and manipulate to survive
Want to know how I know you don't have a job?
>>16927600
>Unlike girls, men don't lie and manipulate to survive, neither do they have issues trying to figure out what someone really means because of it.
Guys lie and manipulate a lot, just like women do. Shitty people are shitty people.
I've been cheated on, lied to and manipulated by men, and many guys received the same treatment by women.
This kind of attitude is as idiotic as tumblr feminism.
>>16927539
you only have the one finger or some shit?
>>16927603
I bet you're fat with an ugly face.
Post timestamped pics or I'm right, you fat ugly fucking faggot.
>>16927610
What are you religious or something?
It's called preference. When you buy a ring you can choose where to put it, till then shut up or give your opinion like that other girl.
>>16927612
Timestamps can be photoshopped
How can I turn a casual 2 person hang out into a proper date while we are in it?
>>16927627
Get physical: kiss, hold hands, whatever. If you're the guy, pay for whatever activity you're doing.
Girls
Let's say you were good friends with a guy, or even if you liked him. Would you ever suggest he changes his looks/style? I feel embarrassed. A girl who I'm very close with started up a conversation about looks. And was sending me different haircuts that she thinks I should do, or clothes I should try out.
I don't know why, but I feel embarrassed and even a little intimidated/pressured now.. I mean, I know I'm fashion blind. I am more of a minimalist in the sense I just dress for comfort (Solid color plain T shirts and jeans) because I don't know what looks good for bad. But I just feel very pressured that a girl is telling me these things.
>>16927635
Well if she's a good friend (or even interested in you) then maybe she's really just concerned about your appearance, if you are self-confessed fashion-blind.
If I had a good friend who, to my eyes, doesn't care about what he wears at all maybe I'd try to pretty him up a bit, if I think he could look much better than he does.
>>16927635
I've been there with a friend (guy here btw) to be honest, she might just be sending you something because she thinks you'd like it.
A change could be fun, you might end up liking that look on you better, who knows. And of not, it's easy to just let her know it didn't work for you, but if you're actually interested, you'd like to see what else she could show you. if not that, I'm sure your style is fine.
>>16927635
Yeah, I suggested a change in my boyfriend's style. He actually enjoyed having me helping him while he was looking for new clothes/hairstyle/glasses, or at least he said so.
If you're uncomfortable, just talk to her. If she's not dumb, she'll understand and apologize.
>>16927556
Alcohol is your best friend in social situations but the older you get the less it matters. Offer to drive people and you'll always be invited back.
guess I posted in the wrong thread before
Girls
do you mind guys you're on friendly terms with asking you, whether you have a bf or not? How would this influence your future relationship if you had one or didn't like your friend that way?
Would you prefer they asked a friend of you, whether you're in a relationship or not?
we're planning to meet up in the future for nonromantical stuff (with a few other people too I assume), should I would until after we did that?
>>16927741
The friend will tell her you asked so keep that in mind
>>16927749
yes, I figured that much hence my question
I mean, if she's going to know I'm interested anyways, would it be better to directly ask her myself
also I'd probably want to do the unromantical stuff regardless of the question, would that be as awkward for her as for me?
>>16927754
I'd ask directly because you can phrase it better then girls gossiping about it. As for the awkwardness it just really depends on how she takes it which relates on how you ask.
>>16927658
>>16927657
>>16927654
it just feels difficult for me, because she just suggested I get this haircut. And I don't think I could pull it off. it doesn't look bad to me, but I'm not "cool" or "alpha" enough for that. I think it'd make me look weird
>>16927775
Honestly that's a shit haircut imo.
>>16927777
>They haven't really mentioned looking forward to it and have just been quite matter of fact whenever I've brought it up. I don't sense any kind of excitement or enthusiasm.
Did this change from excitement and saying they were looking forward to it? I speak matter of factly all the time and I can be very much looking forward to a meeting
>>16927782
see, like I said. I'm fashion blind. I literally can not tell.
>>16927777
Read the image. Don't overthink it. Go there and make the most of it.
>>16927764
yea, that's what I thought
I fear that I might not be able to hold my spaghetti if she says she has one (which I think is highly likely)
think I'll wait until after we met, though
gives us both more time to get to know each other
Question for girls (I am one, but I don't think guys will be able to help me on this one).
Been on the mini pill for about two and a half months, had about three periods in the past six weeks. Not missed any, taking it at the same time every day. Was super excited for Saturday as I'm seeing a guy I really like and BOOM it hits for a third time. Very light now but I fucking know the flood gates are going to open, making sex not an option.
What the fuck is going on? Three periods in six weeks? Is it somehow linked to my brain and knowing I'm going to sleep with someone? I honestly nearly cried when I found out today. It's driving me mad. Is there any chance this could just be a tiny one and I'll be fine by tomorrow?
I fucking hate my life.
One of my friends got drunk and sent me dick pics on snapchat. He's engaged, I am in a long term. I don't think he remembers about it, he was really wasted.
Should I just ignore it? Should I tell him? Should I tell my boyfriend?
>>16927271
I need to get laid so I dont end up like one of those people. I've had no luck with online dating sites so far.
>>16927832
You need the dosage adjusted. While there is indeed a chance that one is light and short, the bigger issue here is that you can't depend on the efficacy of the pill at this time. You really need to go back to the prescribing physician.
>>16927832
>What the fuck is going on? Three periods in six weeks? Is it somehow linked to my brain and knowing I'm going to sleep with someone? I honestly nearly cried when I found out today. It's driving me mad. Is there any chance this could just be a tiny one and I'll be fine by tomorrow?
It is a fairly common problem with the minipill. Not linked to your brain or whatever. It's just the minipill, it might cause longer or more frequent periods. One of the side effects.
Keep trying it, if it's not the right method for you try to get on the "regular" pill or on IUD, either the hormonal or the regular copper one.
Sucks for tomorrow.
>>16927842
I assume that you didn't screencap it so it's gone now? In any case, you should tell both guys. First tell your friend "I don't know if you remember, but while drunk you sent me some inappropriate snaps. I'd appreciate it if you never did that again." Then tell your boyfriend "I don't know if he remembers, but while drunk my friend sent me some inappropriate snaps. I've told him to never do that again."
So in my social circle there is this one that I like, and one that I really like. Whenever we're at parties I intend on getting to know the first one better, but the second one is like a band-aid and wont let go of me. I've been an asshole and clear that I dont want to hook up with her anymore, but everytime I get drunk i eventually give in and sleep with her rather than the girl I like. Should I stop drinking when the girl I like shows up? or; how do I make the other girl stop liking me?
>>16927887
>I like this girl
>I like this other girl more but I still go for the first girl
>how do I make her stop liking me
This is why we have frogposters
>>16927872
>I assume that you didn't screencap it so it's gone now?
Yeah, it's gone. I kinda laughed at it and fell back asleep, didn't even rationalize it.
I am scared that it'd become a bigger deal than it actually is.
I honestly think it was a mistake since me and my friend's fiancé have similar names on snapchat. My friend is faithful; he loves his fiancé a lot and never flirted with me.
>>16927736
>Offer to drive people and you'll always be invited back.
>drive
Can't
>>16927906
There are a couple ways to make it a big deal.
1) Accuse your friend of being an ass.
2) Talk to your boyfriend without having contacted your friend first.
3) Involve his fiancee.
4) Say nothing to anyone and then discover much later that he is indeed an ass.
Handling it with the wording I suggested is the simplest route. There's no accusation of intent, it handles the issue of mistakes just as well as deliberate sending and it clears the air between you and your boyfriend.
>>16927135
Ladies, why do you have a problem with whores and strippers so much? Are you upset that guys can cut the bullshit and get straight to what they want out of a woman so you have to go out of your way to demonize them as much as possible?
>>16927939
I have no problems with prostitutes and strippers, or their clients.
I just don't want to date a guy who fucked one. Preferences.
>>16927939
I don't care about escorts or strippers. The actual human trafficking for the purpose of sexual slavery is an issue but I don't have problems with women who do those jobs. I just have no interest in dating men who blow all their money on that stuff.
Gentlemen, why do you have a problem with sluts so much? Are you upset that girls can cut the bullshit and get straight to what they want out of a men so you have to go out of your way to demonize them as much as possible?
>>16927954
its not men, it's just the manchildren on here who think the world owes them something.
>>16927954
If you want to start a fight or throw down bait can you do it in r9k?
>>16927954
My problem with sluts around here is that they typically refuse to admit being sluts and accept the consequences that come with that. Other than that they're free to live their lives as they deem fit and I won't give a fuck.
>>16927954
I wouldn't say that I have a problem with them. I certainly like the act of cutting bullshit. The problem that sometimes pops up in dealing with them, though, is when they have a blind spot that's the exact shape and size of their entire self.
There are a disproportionate number of sluts who are that way because they can't see anything wrong with themselves. They're driven batty when anyone else sees something wrong. I can't stand to be around anyone who cares more about my judgment of them than I do. That's why I was put off so much by all of that Slut Walk business. It perfectly embodies a group of people caring way too much about whatever negative feelings I might have about them. Sorry that it's such a threat to their pristine sense of self.
>>16927954
I dont hate sluts, but I would never consider one for a long term partner
>>16927946
>>16927949
>I have no problems with those things
>I won't date someone who does those things though
How do you not realize that you're contradicting yourself? Holy shit.
Girls,
Sex while on your period, yay or nay? Does it just depend on the moment?
>>16927954
I love sluts. I don't fucking care about any of this purity or wife material shit. Fuck all that.
>>16927990
some girls love it, some girls are so against it (mainly because of mess)
But i've been lied to by my ex gf countless times. she KNEW she was on her period just pretended there was no blood.
>>16927986
I don't care if a woman wants to sell her body, I don't care if a man wants to buy it. It's not my business: their bodies, their money, their lives. I don't have anything against it.
But I would never have sex with a person I am not in love with, and I want my partner to feel in the same way. I am not interested in casual sex or people who do it.
>>16927990
Yay if it's almost over and there's just a bit of blood. But with condom. Otherwise, nope.
>>16927990
blood is just another variety of natures lube
>>16928008
So you do have a problem with it. Don't say you don't have a problem with it when you actually do have a problem with it.
>>16927832
Me again. So do I tell him that there won't be any sex this weekend? Or just heavily imply it once I'm there. I don't really want to see him under false pretences but I don't want to end up sperging if he does make a move.
>>16928024
Tell him that you might be on your period and maybe you won't be able to have sex.
I usually prefer to be clear with this kind of things so I don't panic and he doesn't feel rejected.
>>16927990
I dislike it but only because I feel really bloated and unsexy.
Guys/Girls, if you've ever cheated on your partner, what was the reason? Just a spur of the moment thing, did you feel like your relationship was just not working, drunk etc?
Should I shave my facial hair?
I got this situation that i really want perspective on from the female sex.
I'm a 21 male virgin who has had some serious insecurities due to a curved cock.
Now, after having had surgery for the third time very recently, my cock is actually straight (it started out as a 90 degree curve). Kinda weird looking due to the surgery, but not really bad.
I'm still insecure though. Due to the fact that i don't know how females would react to surgery in the dick and me being a virgin at age 21.
If i told you i was average looking and wasn't fat or bald or anything like that, would you still be turned off by this information all? Just picture an average 6-7/10 guy where you knew these pieces of information about him.
Would it turn you off just a little bit?
Thanks in advance.
>>16928060
I really couldn't care less about you and your 'problem'
>>16928080
As in it doesn't matter? I obviously plan on telling whoever i manage to drag to bet about it beforehand. Just want to prepare myself of possible reactions.
>>16928052
It looks alright on you so long as you keep it neat in my opinion. If you shave it you'll look much younger if that's what you want.
Just never go mustache only because you might look like a pedo without the bottom scruff.
>>16928060
all dicks look weird, I wouldn't notice or just assume it's normal
>>16928115
Also if there are noticeable bumps under the skin? I'm just not sure how much girls sexualises cock (like men do boobs for instance)
How do I refrain myself from talking to a man?
>have a fiancee
>a guy adds me from some website
>guy professes his love for me
>reject him several times
>he gets his feelings hurt (of course)
>we repeat this pattern over and over again for a period for some 2 months
>then I either message him or he messages me and we end up full on talking to each other again
>we always have the most bizarre conversations (rape, murder, trolling other people together, ect)
>he ends up insulting me and i end up insulting him, then we stop talking to each other for literally no more than 13 hours
>then we end up going on like it's nothing
And the cycle goes on and on and on
This feels weird as shit for some reason BUT I CANT STOP DOING IT. HELP.
It's addictive but feels so damn creepy and bizarre
>>16928150
I'd like to add I did this with a (lesbian) girl before and it was the same but it feels more unsettling and dishonest with a man
Are the dynamics different if it was a man vs a woman or am I just exaggerating my emotions?
>>16928150
Delete him from your account.
>>16928021
That isn't what they said
They just said they didn't like it personally and in their own relationships
It's ok to dislike meaningless sex
You don't have to pay for it!
>>16928148
It's nothing like how guys view breasts, at least as I understand it. General opinion seems to be "dicks look weird". A girl might not even notice, or if she does you can always just explain you had surgery. I didn't even know a "curved cock" was a thing. I wouldn't make a big deal of it.
>>16928156
yeah but it's hard i got an addiction talking to this person
he's a male version of this girl i used to know
we both feed on each other's negative thoughts
it's terrible
>>16928174
Okay thanks for the answer!
So, question for all 6+ girls and above:
have you ever fucked chad (extremely good looking guy, top 20%)?
after that, have you ever fucked a normal guy?
have you been satisfied after that?
did you fuck again chad after ons or ltr with normal guys?
>>16928262
>have you ever fucked chad (extremely good looking guy, top 20%)?
No, r9k
>>16928262
I have not, no. I have only ever slept with my boyfriend of two years.
Girls:Do you like a guy that moans in bed, or is excessive moaning a turn off?
>>16928284
Moans remind me of gay porn, grunts are better.
>>16928173
So they have no problem with it but they don't like it? Whatever reason they don't like it is the problem they have with it. This can't be happening...
>>16928284
moans are submissive
This girl doesn't trust me, and I want her to.
I share a few classes with her and see her rarely, though we're close and have been for a long time. Yet whenever something's up, she goes to this other guy: one who shares all her classes, is around her all day, and actively helps her with schoolwork and daily life. They're not dating; the guy even pushed me to ask her out even though we already went out a few times by then.
Yet by the looks of it I'm just that guy's backup, the one to turn to when he isn't available. She tells me she's busy, then makes plans to study with him at that same time. Lately she's all serious business around me, and won't even sit near me. This wasn't always the case, and I want to bring that back.
How do I regain her trust with the little time I have together with her? How do I stop her from handing me the second fiddle?
Girls; do your feet ever get smelly? Do you ever get flustered about it?
Just asking ha ha
>>16928342
Seems like she likes the other dude and not you.
>>16928284
Guys who are completely silent aren't very much fun. Too much might be a bit off-putting, though. Wouldn't you be bothered if a girl made no noises at all?
>>16928284
Grunts, moans and heavy breathing are sexy as fuck.
As long as you don't moan like a japanese porn star, it's fine.
>>16928346
Of course they do. My boyfriend and I gross each other out by sticking our smelly feet in front of each other's noses.
How do you convince a girl that is borderline/bipolar that you actually like her? she finds a insane troll logic way out of every present, detail, display of affection or thing I've done for her as fake or thinking it no longer applies, and thinks I'm going to drop her any moment now once every few weeks, and I want to stop that
>>16928316
I like being submissive in bed.
Guys, if I'm female who is not fat or ugly, is it safe to assume that most, if not all, my male friends are attracted to me in some way? Even if they won't make a move?
>>16928354
I got that vibe too, but she told me she doesn't. The only reason she spends so much time with him is because they're around each other so much. If anything, it's convenience. Before she met that guy, she was that close to me too.
>>16928396
Sure, if that gets you off.
>>16928396
Not really. I have lots of female friends who are just friends to me. I'm not attracted to every girl I run into.
>>16928396
It depends on how many friends you have, and how attractive you actually are, but it's safe to assume at least one would like to bone you.
>>16928376
Give her a big kiss X
Girls, how is a guy supposed to tell you're okay with being touched and where? I really don't know how to feel things through, in a manner of speaking.
for girls: lets say you work at starbucks.
I went to starbucks today to buy a drink and this girl behind the counter just seemed really happy, and kept smiling at me. I'm terrible at reading signs and couldn't tell if maybe she thought I was cute? I messed up my order and she laughed a little, and after I gave my name for her to write on the cup, she said "thank you mark~" like that with the ~ at the end. Maybe I'm over reading this? I dunno it was something.
>>16928438
Being kind and smiling while making you coffee is literally her job,
It is nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
>>16928418
If I don't like being touched, I'll tell him.
If she rejects your advances, stops or starts being uncomfortable, you'll probably notice, and (hopefully) stop.
>>16928284
Hot as fuck. Only turn off is if it's high pitched or whimpery sounding. Moans etc are fucking rawr.
>>16928150
Are you bored as shit in your relationship or something? Honestly asking here, are you?
There's no trick. You have the self control and make the decision you want to make, or admit to yourself that's *not* what you really want and make the opposite decision.
>>16927990
Yea. Throw down towel, hop in shower, whatever.
>>16927939
I don't.
No.
>>16927887
Stop leading her on. What you're doing is cruel. It's alarming you can't see that.
>>16927635
"I get that you're trying to help but I'm fine with the way I dress and style myself, so this is all coming across a little weird."
Rephrase it to fit of course but that's the basic msg.
>>16927627
Flirt. Gauge response.
>>16927600
...what the actual fuck is wrong with you
>>16927594
The r9k is strong today. You should flip a coin to see which is worse: that this is actually how you see shit or that you envy it.
>>16927556
Anything can be a problem if you're committed enough to making it so.
>>16927520
You're not out of the game completely but generally this indicates she didn't feel there was a strong connection.
>>16927519
If you insist on carrying on a facade of calling a fuck buddy a gf or marrying her, yes. Sexist and a dick to boot.
>>16927457
>Should i end my relationship?
Do you want to?
>Am i missing something?
Probably. You need to be asking him this. Communicate these thoughts & feelings to him.
>>16927388
Were the circumstances under which you stopped speaking strained in any way?
>>16927371
>>16927372
>>16927269
Yes. 100% yes.
>...wut? We know nothing about each other. Who even are you? Why are you asking me ou-- oh. None of that matters to you. You just want to get laid.
>"Thanks but not interested."
That's what's happening. Get to know each other a bit. Flirt with her. Express a growing interest if one sincerely exists, & give her a chance to develop the same from her end.
>>16928438
Dude, did you stop for a second to think that the people who work at starbucks are supposed to be friendly?
>>16928451
Oh yeah sorry for being envious of having the entire legal system catering to you simply because of your gender. Gosh, you're right. I better not be envious of that. Shut the fuck up
How do you tell a clingy boyfriend he's being too clingy without hurting his feelings?
The last few months he keeps on complaining about how much he misses me despite the fact that we see each other regularly. He always wants to call me despite having nothing to talk about, resulting in many awkward silences. He always wants me to sleep over when I visit him, and when I try to explain that I can't always do that because I sometimes have important stuff to do early in the morning, he'll guilt trip me into staying anyway by spending the entire day complaining about how much he'll miss me and accusing me of not wanting to stay with him.
I don't know why he's acting like this, he wasn't this clingy before. And I don't know how to tell him to calm down without hurting his feelings or being accused of not wanting to spend time with him.
>>16928462
Happily.
>>16928438
Former barista here (not Starbuks, but a mom&pop cafe)
Baristas are never interested in you unless you're a regular and tip well.
My friends and I would be super nice to everyone because we got paid minimum wage and tips were a big deal to us. I'm sorry but it's nothing, anon.
Question for guys (and an update for the anon from a few threads ago who was interested, if she's still around):
Yesterday I had a date with the nice nerd I have a crush on and it went pretty well. We've known each other for about 8-9 months but this was the first time we've gone out or even spent much time alone. We sat in a coffee shop and talked for three hours straight before he realized how late it was and had to go (he needed to drive down state to visit family, so it turned out we spent way more time together than planned). When we left the cafe, I briefly showed him this movie/comic shop that he thought was cool and we planned another date for later. I'm actually really happy that it went so smoothly, because it's the first time we've seen each other outside of school (grad students here) and talking to him for so long was just effortless, even though we knew it was important he leave at a decent hour to not make his family wait up for him to arrive.
So, the question is, how likely is it that he jacked off thinking about me at the end of the night? lol
Why is sex with this one girl so much better than the sex I have had with other girls
>>16928418
It's pretty safe to assume she doesn't want to be touched at all, but I recommend watching how she interacts with her friends and noticing if she's okay with light touching. It's still a risk though.
>>16928547
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>>16928542
I'm one of the anons from the other thread, first congratulations on the date! Looks like it went well. Have you made plans to meet up again?
And I'm no guy but odds are good I'd say. I mean, if he liked you and you clicked and he finds you attractive, sure why not. I mean, have you diddled yourself thinking about him? Haha.
>>16928547
That's love, anon.
Why would a girl make you think she wasn't with anyone, even a guy friend?
>>16927939
It's just repelling and I therefor would never date a guy who is into that (or any other promiscuous behavior).
Why does that make you so upset? Because you can't get every woman and are angry your choices and preferences make you unattractive to some?
>>16928542
i'm a bit of a weirdo, so don't take this answer as a representation for that many guys:
if i really like somebody, i will not jerk off thinking about them. its kind of like i have more respect for the peson, so i wont "degrade" them by jerkin it to just a fantasy of them.
>>16928262
Nope. I've only ever been with my SO.
>>16928346
Surprisingly, no. I don't think my feet sweat or smell at all really. I guess I got lucky.
>>16928562
Because she isn't
>>16928554
>>16928559
Love is weird
>>16928584
Love is pretty great Anon. Makes sex waaay better.
>>16928565
Because of the bullshit catch 22 you put men in. A man who can't get sex pays for it but once he pays for it he can't get sex since he paid for sex. Can we please get nuked out of existence yet?
>>16928559
Thanks! Yes we did make plans to meet up again!
And yes ;)
>>16928571
That's not weird at all. That's a good reason for not doing it.
>>16928571
I think that's kinda sweet really, never thought about it like that.
>>16928590
Yay, congrats. I'll be eagerly following any new developments.
And well, there you go. I don't see why he wouldn't do it too.
I'm 22/f, this question is for males:
Would you be upset if your fiance didn't get you anything for Valentines day?
On V-Day I went to Dave and Busters with him like he wanted, and he got me a cute little poster and a baking dish that was engraved with my name.
But the dish is too perfect to use, so I've let it sit there.
And I didn't get him anything else. I got this little book and I was supposed to write him a note, but I can't find the motivation to.
My therapist got mad at me today when she found out I didn't give him a gift.
Is this a universal thing I'm missing?
>>16928606
I'm more concerned that you have a therapist who believes having a fiance at 22 is normal and gets mad at you for not giving people presents.
>>16928625
My fiance is 27 and I have depression and anxiety, hence the therapist.
>>16928606
i would be a bit disappointed in the situation where i got you something, but it wouldnt bother me too long.
>>16928542
hmmm i doooon't know ? Maybe ? your date wasnt really on a sexy mood, so if it was me, the chance that i would jack off to you would be pretty low, but i would be happy as fuck if it ended well :)
>>16928396
only the friends that find you attractive.
>>16927954
i don't have problem with sluts, i want to fuck them, but not date them, that's all.
Question for females.
So i see this girl on a dating site i have potential interest in and notice we both share an interest in dogs, i was going to send a message like this
Hey there, is that a .... breed of dog on your profile picture?
Would that be a decent message to send or not? if not could you give me a better example.
>>16928647
Well how do you plan on turning the convo when she says "yes"
I'm meeting up with a girl friend in a few hours, to spend some time together on the days off after our midterms. Thing is, I can't think of anything to say to her. We've known each other for a while now, but I don't really know anything to talk about. The past few weeks have been non-stop midterms for the both of us and I'm glad that's behind us, so there isn't that much to say there either. The past few days that we were around each other I didn't really know anything to say either.
Can you give me some ideas of what to talk about? "Anything and everything" probably won't fly here
>>16928583
What if she's secret about it?
>>16928650
You have a good point there, any tips you could give me?
>>16928651
Don't you have any interests or passions?
Whenever I don't know what to talk about around my girl I just start going off about computer architecture and programming languages
It never fails to get her loins frothing
>>16928588
Nah, you'll just have to deal with it.
>>16928651
There are sites that have good first date questions that don't even apply to only dates, just meeting new people in general.
FYI I'd avoid talking about midterms in case she feels she didn't do well on some of hers. Remember that you want her to enjoy this time with you, so try to keep things positive.
If a girl wants to bring a friend the first time you hang out outside of class, does that mean she's friendzoning you?
And if she is still okay with going with just you when the other person cancels, it means all is not lost?
>>16928670
It might just mean she's shy and wants a friend there to make things less awkward. I've done that once (and been the friend who was brought before).
If she is still okay with going with just you after the other person cancels, it's definitely a good sign.
>>16928676
Ok, because that just happened to me a few hours ago, and I thought the fact that she wanted someone else there (another guy at that) meant immediate friendzoning. Good to hear that. On the plus side, same qt asked me to go to a campus art show thing to show me her painting, thats definitely a good sign right?
>>16928659
I haven't done much with them lately and don't really know what to talk about related to that. Like I said, all midterms.
>>16928666
We go back quite a bit, and all those questions are things I spoke about with her before or found out otherwise. I could ask how those things are going, probably. It feels forced, but better than permanent silence from my end?
>>16928662
No, I think I'll just continue to lie to women's faces about who I've had sex with. They'll never know I've fucked countless whores. They can keep their ignorance :)
>>16928688
Sounds good
>>16928688
Lose the butthurt and you're golden.
>>16928683
Aw that's definitely a good thing she'd like to show you her painting.
>>16928685
In that case I'd suggest planning something specific to do, not just "hanging out". For example, this wasn't a date, but a friend and I who hadn't seen each other in a couple years planned to hang out during a summer between college, and we really hadn't talked much since high school so there wasn't really common ground any more. So I suggested we go to one of those pottery painting places where we could choose a ceramic item and the colors we wanted to paint with. It was fun and opened us up to talking because when the conversation about or general life stuff dried up a bit, one of us could crack a joke about our shitty painting skills or how dumb it was we chose to paint item x instead of y or z.
Maybe you should go to a mall where you can walk around and go into different stores, or go to a place that has something you can show her. Basically find a setting that will provide you with enough to talk about, so that your remarks are relevant and not just questions about how she has been in the last few weeks.
I was planning to ask someone out when we saw each other socially and talked regularly.
Things have gotten busy, we've barely talked in weeks, and I feel like I'll probably get rejected now.
But I should still do it, right? I want to know either way.
>>16928738
Just tell her you would like to catch up over coffee sometime since you haven't talked in a while
Does this type of message really work when on online dating sites?
I really liked what you said in your profile!
We share a lot of interests, like bowling and Wii video games. It also appears that we have similar music tastes too. Heavy metal is the best! What’s your favourite band? I noticed in your picture that a cute parrot. I have a parrot too, named Osama! He’s 2 years old.
Anyways, I hope to hear back from you because you sound and look really interesting. Have a nice day!
Ladies, what is a good vagina supposed to feel like? I've only felt one (and I didn't get to put my fingers inside) and it felt like loose skin with sticky wetness. It was a little underwhelming. Is this normal? Did I just hype myself up too hard since I'm a fucking virgin?
>>16928464
Guys develop feelings quicker and often in a more exaggerated way than women in new relationships, especially if he is not very experienced socially and/romantically. Be honest and express that you're feeling a bit smothered; if he understands and mellows out, all good. If not, you may not be the best match for one another.
>>16928783
The first time I touched a vagina I came in my pants
I was 13 at the time
Maybe you're just gay, dude
>>16928796
I am not gay, anon. I most certainly like women. If I was gay I sure as shit wouldn't be this old and a virgin.
>>16928783
how did you get to feel a vagina, but nothing more?
What does testicular torsion feel like?
