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As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
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No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon and frogposters
Fuck off
General question about these threads. Does anyone actually give a fuck whether there's link to the old thread in the OP of these threads? Because whoever else makes these threads keeps putting in a link, and I have no idea why.
Explain the science in disliking penises is more gay than disliking vaginas.
>>16874989
Sometimes people ask questions in old threads, walk away, get answers, and can't find the old thread because it's been bumped off. Saves people having to dig through the archives.
>>16874997
Wat
Just in time.
New thread be /r9k/ theory free please
>>16875052
Dude you only encourage them by saying stuff like that
What advice do you guys have to ask an acquaintance out? Should I give any preface about my feelings, or just ask her out on a date straight up and see the reaction?
>>16875127
Don't spill spaghetti to strangers (or anyone you're not in a romantic relationship with).
Just ask her out.
>>16875008
Well, one fellow anon said last year that it is more gay to dislike penises than it is to dislike vaginas.
>>16875134
Well that makes no sense to me so heck if I know
Ey qts
What do you think of large masculine dudes with stubble who like watching anime about cute girls doing cute things?
>>16875140
I'd rather a guy who liked watching me doing cute things.
My professor flirts with me to the point that two friends/classmates even pointed it out to me after we left his office hours a couple weeks ago. He's young, very early thirties, and I'm a 25 year old grad student. No he's not my advisor, he's just a professor for one of my classes. It's weird though. I actually do like him a lot but this sounds like a fucking recipe for disaster. I'm not particularly drawn to him because he's an expert in my field or anything. It's actually the opposite. His class is required but not one of my interests. Anyway, I'm not really sure how to proceed. If I give him the cold shoulder, he'll stop helping me in office hours and those are more valuable than lecture because it's almost like one-on-one or small group tutoring. On the other hand, I do really like him and feel inclined to flirt back because we get along so well in a personal sense and he's not much older than me, but I fear I'll catch feelings (or worse, he will) and that will be a shitshow.
Any tips, /adv/? For background, he's one of those unnecessarily snarky nerds who is always throwing around sci fi and vidya references, even in a room full of normies, but for some reason I find him incredibly charming and I guess we have enough of the same interests that I always get his references, which I'm assuming is what made him notice me in the first place.
>>16875140
Breddy gud
>>16875150
Don't get involved with him, at least while he's your professor.
>Want to get pussy
>Fear of the Dark - Iron Maiden.mp3
>Afraid of getting beaten up
>afraid of getting stabbed by bush people
>afraid of bears
>nightlife became more dangerous to me
>not a lot of friends to hang out with
>most of my friends already have BF's/GF's
>try finding girls during daylight times
>sit in the cafe drinking coffee, expect a girl to come up to me
>nothing happens
>tfw an unknown force prevents me from building my confidence stats
>mfw I'm scared of dating
Any one else been in a situation like this?
Any advice and tips and hints and stuff to give 'n' share?
>>16875155
I'm not going to get involved with him. I'm asking how I should handle him flirting with me, unprompted. It's kind if awkward.
>>16875159
Talk to the dean or head of school or whoever is his boss.
>>16875137
A heterosexual man who dislikes every other penis except his own is more gay than a homosexual man who dislikes any and all vaginas.
That's what that anon basically meant, I think.
>>16875183
That still makes no sense to me. I guess that means I disagree.
>>16875164
That seems a bit extreme and also detrimental to me getting through his class.
>>16875193
I don't see how. All they'll do is talk to him and possibly give him a warning. It'll stop him from making passes at you. It might come back to bite you (and him) in the ass if someone else reports him and it turns out you've received preferential treatment. If you've encouraged him, then it might mean that the higher-ups might be inclined to do something that'll make everything even worse for you, like lower your grade in that class. And I mean, other than talking to him yourself, what else is there you can do?
>>16875206
If I find a way to report anonymously then I will definitely do that. Thanks anon.
Does it make me a shitty person to want to avoid seeing someone today on account that they hurt me emotionally? I just want to know from my friends that this person squirmed and worried over my well-being.
>>16875193
Anon just tell him to wait with that stuff until after the course is done. If you're interested. It's way better because he will like you more and he probably understands that it's awkward.
>>16875329
Nah... Just kind of really immature and childish. That's something someone who's 12 does. Adults don't tend to pay attention to that shit.
>>16875335
o shit. well, i don't need the immature bs then.
thanks, anon.
(mostly) reformed shut in here. So when I meet a gal she'll often asked me about my history and I've never really knew how to address that, so I try to avoid the topic.
Basically after 16 my social circle fractured and I just distanced myself and focused on nonsense like MMO's. This kind of continued on for a while after I graduated, and most of my significant experiences have been in the past couple of years when I started forcing myself to leave my comfort zone.
Anyone been in a similar position? Kind of lost on how to proceed.
>Beta male dancing
>gets laughed at, shits and pisses his pants, and looks like a retard
>Alpha male dancing
>Cool 'n' smooth, good rhythm, later fucks club sluts in the VIP room, then gets bankrupt from child support later that year
>>16875351
What history? Relationship history? Job history? General past? Just tell the truth.
You used to suck, now you don't.
>>16875359
>What history? Relationship history? Job history? General past?
All of the above really. As far as coming clean I suppose you're right but it's a very unpleasant situation.
>>16875362
I'd respect more a person who turned his life around, than a person who just had been lucky with it. Really, do not worry.
men and women: is it ok if your partner has had sex iwth over 40 men/women?
>>16875432
I'm a girl. Honestly, it depends.
In general, no. I think of sex as the physical expression of an emotional and mental connection. He clearly wouldn't think of it in the same way. I wouldn't give myself to a person who feels the same way I do about love, relationships, sex and feelings.
If he had 40+ partners BUT he changed his views, I'd be really careful but I'd eventually be okay with it. But, like, he would need to not have had casual sex for a while, not be too pushy, respect me, and wait a LOT before he gets some sex.
>>16875156
1. Obtain a hobby
2. Find women who share the hobby
>>16875432
As a guy, I wouldn't date a girl that has had more than one partner.
40 is disgusting. That person is trash.
>>16875432
Considering the average American woman has had about 37 partners you don't have a choice.
>>16875472
Source?
>>16875155
Have sex and then accuse him of rape, then sue the school for massive money.
You're holding a winning lottery ticket and you don't even know it.
>>16875469
> i wouldn't date a girl that has had more than one partner
seriously. so then since i've had 5 you wouldn't hypothetically date me? ok.
>>16875432
You shouldn't be asking how many people they've slept with. What sort of a question is that? You're just going to dwell on it and it'll undermine your relationship.
>>16875432
Depends on the age. Just calculate it. If she had 1 sexual partner per quarter of year and is 25 and got sexual active at maybe 15 then it just doesnt seem to be that big of an issue. Im pretty sure sooner or later she/he will leave you but eventually most people settle down at some point and maybe you are the lucky one that she/he settles down with, so i dont really see a problem.
>>16875156
try tinder
>>16875509
My acne is augmented.
I have the tendency to either be extremely compassionate and caring or extremely flirty and snarky. They're just moods I'm in, and I don't know how to switch between them consciously.
When I show care for this girl friend I'm interested in, she seems to just dismiss and grow bored with me. Everything seems to hint at that she hates me if I'm like that. Yet when I'm in that mood where I don't give a fuck, she's all over me and goes along with everything I say and do.
What should I do with this? Should I just avoid her from now on when I'm in the wrong mood? I can't do better when I'm like that, and it's painful when I have to witness that partial rejection.
Girls
I'm really baffled right now..
I meet girl, we become friends, feelings develop. I ask her out she says "anon, I really like you. But after my last breakup I'm not looking for another boyfriend". Ohk I respect that. We stay friends but if elevates to above friend level. she tells me how much she cares about me. Sends me sweet voice messages while I'm sleeping so I'll hear them when I wake up. says how she wants to kiss me and cuddle, that I make her feel so safe. Everything is great. Well today she sent me a message saying she is going to the Festival of Colors this summer. So I said "that's great! Are you going with your friend *****?" She said "no, I'm going to go with my future boyfriend" so I said "oh ok! Let me know the dates so I can buy my ticket ;) "
No reply in 5 hours. And she's read it.
Can you explain this to me? I can't be in this delusion that she actually likes me. I mean, she has gone way out of her way for me in the past. And spent a lot of money on me when she didn't need to. She tells me I make her feel so protected and same. And I have been a positive energy in her life. But then she tells me this. I don't understand.... And if she is means someone else.. I'm going to be very, very hurt.
Help
>>16875829
How old are you guys?
>>16875605
She sounds like the kind of chick I would avoid. Low self esteem and all that.
Unless by compassionate you mean overbearing which some people are.
>>16875836
I'm 25, she's 23
Girls
Your bf shows you his 4inch erect penis. What do you do?
>>16875829
>>16875852
Sorry for your loss. You're nothing more than her emotional puppet.
This happens constantly, and guys can't seem to figure it out, ever.
If a girl says she doesn't wanna date you, and keeps you around as a "friend", then continue to 'deepen' your relationship by dumping all of her problems on you, you've become too valuable for her to risk a relationship. She doesn't want to lose you in the event the relationship goes south, so she keeps you on the side.
>>16875873
Keep doing whatever I was planning to do. If I love a person, his dick isn't a deal breaker.
>>16875852
That's what you get for being an beta orbiter, grow some spine and don't talk to that bitch again, she used you as an emotional tampon because of her break up, now that she is healed she is going after a man that she wants to actually fuck, learn from this and never let this happen again
>>16875881
>If I love a person
And how about if you have a realistic impression of the developed world, where the overwhelming majority of couples will get intimate long before love enters the equation?
Let me put it another way:
>Your date stops answering your messages after several dates with no physical action. What do you do?
>>16875873
laugh
>>16875891
I never had sex with someone I didn't care about and loved. So, yeah, a small cock wouldn't be a deal breaker. It's just a cock. There is so much you can do in bed, even without a cock.
If I was looking for a hook up, I don't know, maybe I'd care. Wouldn't laugh for sure, I'm not a bitch - maybe just have some oral sex and leave, but I don't know.
Is it lame to ask somebody out on facebook?
Where do I meet girls who don't care about money?
I sold my company a few months ago. It's not much, but it's a lot for me coming from a poor family. I got around $370,000 after taxes to be distributed in four equal payments by the end of 2016.
I find myself in the position where this money isn't making me happy. My whole life I've focused on school and work, and at 25 years old I find myself with very few friends, none of which I really connect with on a personal level. My friends are the kind of friends I hang out with, get invited to weddings, etc, but none of them I could realistically talk about my depression or anything intimate.
I want to meet women but I don't think I could keep my small wealth a secret. And even if I was upfront about it, how would I know they like me for me and not just a meal ticket? I want to meet a woman who is happy to be with me broke or with this money.
>>16875939
Yes, woman or man. It demonstrates a lack of confidence or care. That's not to say people won't accept it anyway.
>>16875945
Girls are interested in money so far as to ensure their well-being. The more money a man has, the safer she will feel in the end.
Of course, there are gold diggers and shallow women out there, but in general financial stability is a huge matter. If you can hardly take care of yourself, financially, you won't come off as a very attractive choice. Unless you have something else to offer that makes up for it.
>>16875939
Yeah, a bit. Always better face to face, but if circumstances won't allow for that facebook is okay. The success rate goes down with that, though.
>>16875956
>>16875959
and what if we talked in person before, but its hard to find ways to meet her face to face.
whats better, ask her out on facebook, casually start talking to her on facebook, or ignore that, and maybe i can find a way, to meet her randomly, or just forget it.
there was a girl before, that was almost the same condition, and asked her out on facebook, but it took her 1 month to reject me, kinda sad.
How do I know if a girl likes me or not?
Because I think that I am starting to like this one girl, and I don't really know what to do. I enjoy hanging out with her, and she is fun to be around. I haven't had this sort of feelings in nearly over a decade and I am confus.
>>16875876
It reminds me of that episode from HIMYM.
Every one had someone on their "hook" just in case. You may do things kind of "intimate" with that person but it never goes further.
"I can't be with you... for now"
and it keeps going again and again.
>>16875965
jesus just read the first post
"ask her out"
>>16875973
I did ask her out to go to see a movie with me and we did so yesterday.
Now what?
>>16875939
You should show them that you really care. You will have to break through and start talking to them in the real life anyway so you can treat it like a challenge getting you out of the comfort zone and thus making you more confident. If you feel like the facebook would be a much more convenient option then maybe just ask them if you could get a chance to meet and talk sometime and then elaborate and ask them out seriously when you meet. This doesn't necessarily make a big difference to anyone but to me it would. If you want to spend your time with someone for real, start real.
>>16875443
And here I am wondering if I could be comfortable with my current girlfriend had she slept with someone before me.
I am in love with a friend of mine, she knows I really care about her but I don't think she knows I love her like that. Over the course of 4 days during valentines we would have sex, cuddle, talk, and have sex again. How would I find out if it was more than a 4 day fling without risking losing her entirely?
Girls (Guys can answer too, I suppose)
How do you let someone know you're not interested in them?
Specifically, the kind of things you do or say which mean 'take the hint, I'm not interested'
I've had a lot of girls just disappear and stop talking to me but I don't know if there is anything I should notice before that happens.
>>16875985
Not a girl here but I am pretty sure if a woman decides to have sex with you, she must be taking a longer term relationship into account.
She probably is wondering the same at the moment, and with you treating this as an adventure being much more probable, just go for it and act like you are dating. If she doesn't explicitly tell you that she won't date you, then she had a relationship in mind from the very start.
>>16875989
Same here, I think they usually just think it's obvious. And it's fucking not, we, men, are dumb as rocks and we really need to be told to fuck off so we get what you mean.
>>16875981
well, i dont have problem to talk with girls in real life, last time we talked 1.5 hour straight when we went with the train to the college.
i just find it hard to find time, when i can find meet her, without asking her out, thats all.
so i got 3 options:
-i ask her out on facebook
-casually start talking to her on facebook
-wait for that random moment, when we meet and talk to her and ask her out.
>>16875990
>I am pretty sure if a woman decides to have sex with you, she must be taking a longer term relationship into account
Not always the case. Plenty of women have sex with men even though they don't want a long term relationship with them
>>16875981
but if i just ask to meet and talk, that equals, if i just asked her out on facebook, not?
>>16875994 (im the same guy)
>>16875945
Its pretty easy to hide your wealth if you have a modest vehicle, no toys(ski-doos/quads/boat). I drive an old truck and live as someone's roommate and I'm very well off. Girls are suspicious I have money, one even flat out asked me, I told her thats an awfully personal question.
>>16875989
Entirely depends on the individual girl. Some girls will be very obvious (Ignore your existence entirely), while others do not wish to come off as a bitch, and will try and deal with you in a more 'gentle' manner, usually by leading you on infinitely (Because otherwise would be cruel).
Common examples include, but are not limited to;
"You're a great guy, but I'm not ready for a relationship right now."
"Sorry, maybe we could be friends, for now?"
"I have a boyfriend" (Clearest case of zero interest)
"You're a sweet guy, I consider you my best friend ever." (Too valuable to risk losing over a relationship/friendzone)
A girl who wasn't interested last year suddenly matched with me and contacted me right away on Tinder.
Couldn't join me to the party I was at but agreed to come to my next proposal.
Could she have changed her mind about me? Does that happen?
I also proposed to go to a party at my friend's house this week-end and she told me she was spending the week-end with her parents. No other proposal on her side or mine since.
Any ideas on what to do/propose next?
>>16876015
Lots of undisclosed variables here.
Was she in a relationship with someone else the first time around? If so, did she break.
How much history do you share? Would she even remember you?
Are you attractive? (Gauge)
Last, but not least, what do you expect to get out of this 'reunion'? Sex? Romance?
>>16876014
Not that guy but I have a question.
What do if that girl is the one who now comes to talk to you, even though you have no friends or anything in common and the very reason why you talked is that you were interested in her?
I'm asking because I dropped the whole thing with a girl who said she was lost right now and didn't want to give me false hopes, and then she was the one who came talking to me. I thought she would just cut any contact and expect me to move on, as I did.
It is still impossible to get a date with her (even ask her on things I'm already doing), as I noticed since I tried two times after that and gave up. (three times is my utmost maximum).
Has anyone here ever had a guy piss in their vagina? My girlfriend wants me to do this but not only is it physically difficult but I'm not so sure of it. I can't imagine it feeling good.
>>16876015
Nothing. Two offers is more than enough. I'm not saying that like "bitches ain't shit" or anything. Just think about it: you keep inviting her into your life. You go to parties and she can't come. You hang out with your friend and she can't come. Let's pretend I wave a magic wand and now she's your girlfriend. Does that sound like a happy relationship to you? You keep having a life and she can't come.
It's nothing personal. She's just not a good match. She doesn't offer you even the most basic part of a relationship. The point of dating is to learn this kind of stuff. You learned it even before your first date. Be happy that you found out before wasting your time.
>>16876025
You have to ask yourself what it is you want out of a relationship, platonic or romantic, with this person. Are you only interested in her friendship? If so, stick around her. If you want more and she can't provide it, you move on.
Don't act like you owe her anything, because you don't. You're your own person, and living your life takes priority, always. If she thinks you're a dick because of it, that's her problem.
Chances are you were a source of stress relief for her, and your sudden vanishing left her with a sudden hole you used to fill. She's chasing you in the hopes she can lure you back in.
>>16876028
Urine is sterile, there's no risk. But, I hear peeing with a hard-on is difficult.
>>16876023
>Was she in a relationship with someone else the first time around? If so, did she break.
She wasn't. Last year she was part of a group where people kinda fucked with each other. (I discovered that later on). When talking and catching up she told me she stopped going out every night like last year because her grades suffered from it.
>How much history do you share? Would she even remember you?
I met her through a friend, and when i made my interest known and started talking to her more, she told our mutual friend that I was "cute but too nice". Last time I saw her was on he rbirthday in a bar. (I was there to join our mutual friend, not for the birthday.) The best friend of that girl insisted that I went to see her and wish her a happy birthday, that it would make her happy, but I didn't care anymore and I was busy anyway (the reason of my presence there).
I received the Tinder note yesterday, and she talked to me right away, asking how I've been, and talking to me for the rest of the evening.
>Are you attractive? (Gauge)
Well I guess that depends on the person's tastes. My exes would say yes and some girls would say no. I don't know about her precisely.
>Last, but not least, what do you expect to get out of this 'reunion'? Sex? Romance?
I'm moving away from town in a few months and she isn't the relationship type anyway.
>>16876005
I don't think so, I mean... the actual moment when you get serious about asking her out is alreay face to face so I would rather take it as I would take just talking face to face from the beginning.
>>16876042
Sounds like she may be interested in sex. I'd say be upfront about it. You're obviously not interested in any sort of relationship, so you may as well be 'beneficial' friends until you leave.
If nothing else, it would help you on her comment that you're "too nice".
>>16876056
Any ideas on how to bring it up?
I'm not really good at this stuff and a word to start might be useful.
>>16876056
>>16876059
An example of how hamfisted I could do things if left alone :
>"So I realize I didn't even ask you how come you found me on Tinder. You horny? "
This is not something I would normally say. This is my vision of someone who isn't "too nice".
>>16876055
but it will be obvious, she will know from that point, that if i ask her to meet in face, i want something, so in my eyes the two things equals, but maybe it depends on the girl, how she look at it, i dont know.
Also second question, that might mean nothing, but i ask it anyway:
If she mentioned during our last talk, that she hates people and how many man approached her during the past, and how she stood against them, and she felt it that everybody just approached her, because she was a "fresh meat", or something like this.
Is that got any message towards me, maybe like this: "you shouldnt approach me", or she is just proud of that and got no meaning at all.
>>16875996
What would you suggest? I really want a relationship with her, but I don't know how to go about asking.
>>16875978
pls respond
>>16876081
>>16875978
She likes you enough to go on a date. Keep hanging out with her. Literally tell her your feelings about her. Jesus christ, anon.
>>16876059
The next time she makes idle chatter, ask her out for coffee or some other cookie-cutter coax. If she's interested in you enough, she'll comply. Then, at the given time, you can narrow in on her. The fact that it will be done in person makes it harder for her to dodge.
If she doesn't accept, tell her you aren't interested in idle chatter, and unless she had something in mind, you're not interested. It'll force her to either come up with some half-assed reason (that you may use as you see fit) or she will be 'whatever' and it will be the end of it.
And, yes, inviting her out to coffee is the better move, and the least you can do if you're going to fuck her later anyway.
(If you're in need of a killer that will put her 'on the spot' so to speak, straight up ask her why she is all of the sudden so interested in you, since she said you were 'too nice'. Her answer will almost guaranteed tell you whether or not she is interested in sex, or more asinine bullshit.)
>>16876076
Try being honest and direct. Tell her you want a relationship.
>>16876083
Is just going to see a movie together enough to be considered a date though?
I have done the same thing with many of my other friends too, and I wouldn't consider them to have been "dates". This was the first time I went to see a movie with a female friend though.
I do intend to keep hanging out with her, but I don't really know her that well yet. We have known her only for few weeks after all.
This is the first time in years I have felt anything remotely like this towards anyone.
>>16876094
Yes, that's a date if you intend on being romantically involved with someone. Make it clear you want to date her. Ask her out more. Make an effort to get to know her and show it. Good luck. :)
I invited a lady friend to my place for our second date. I made a wonderful dinner. For appetizer, I had a general antipasto platter but added my own things to it. One thing I like to spread on bread is:
- 100g sundried tomatoes
- 15g roasted peanuts (optional)
- 2tbsp olive oil
- small knob of butter, not melted
- 1/4 crushed garlic
- 1/3 teaspoon grated ginger (optional)
- 1 or 2 olives, no pits, whole
- salt and pepper
- blended so it's a chunky paste
She loved this in particular so I made her a jar to bring home for her family. A friend of mine says this is something a friend would do, not someone who is romantically interested in you. He said what I should have done is tease her and say she can have it next time she's over.
I don't get it, honestly. I was being nice.
>>16876102
>Make it clear you want to date her. Ask her out more.
Easier said than done.
God damn why has this sort of shit have to make me feel so anxious and scared.
>>16876111
Your friend is dumb.
So folks I'm dating a women 6 years older than me and she's 30
Yesterday I found out she's dated men as old as 45 and while I didn't care at first my friends are disgusted by it.
Should I care?
>>16876111
Your friend is correct, but that doesn't mean you're stuck in a friendzone all of a sudden. But, it is hard to gauge your chances without more knowledge of your relationship with this person.
>>16876094
Yes, it is a date. Especially if you don't know each other all that well. When you're at the movies, make sure to pick a movie that isn't depressing or too philosophical. Either pick a typical action movie, or a sappy romance. Don't be afraid to exchange looks with her now and then. Gauge the territory, and if you see a chance, either put your hand around her and pull her a little closer, or try for a hand-hold. It's not a big deal if you fail either, but it would be a plus, and show her you are obviously interested.
>>16876125
Well, it's a bit late for that advice, as we already saw the movie (Deadpool). She seemed to like it thankfully, and we had pretty good discussion about it afterwards. I was also able to get to know her a bit better both before the movie and after it, by just chatting about stuff. Like where she had studied before, her interests etc.
This all is whole fucking new territory for me, and I am so damn scared (though I hope my anxiety doesn't show on the surface.)
>>16875876
>>16875890
Then why does she tell me how she wants to kiss me and cuddle? Why would a girl or even a guy for that matter tell another person they really want that, If they actually don't??
>>16876084
I just texted her something to know if she was interested in sex since he used Tinder (in the absolute sense, not with me specifically)
>"No I just saw you and matched you. I match everyone I know. I don't go on Tinder to date"
What do.
Do you care how fast I come as long as you're satisfied? I cum in two minutes, sometimes I cum without stimulation (from just eating a girl out or even just kissing). Say she orgasms multiple times, then I'm in and out in two minutes, is this okay?
>>16876151
Full text translation : No. When I saw you I thought it'd been a while. I like everyone I know. I don't go on Tinder to date.
Question for the guys:
I'm extremely pale which I don't mind in the winter but in the summer I hate it so I fake tan. It gives me a slightly tan look. Natural and not orange looking in my case.
Do you mind this or do you dislike the fact that it's fake despite the fact that it looks entirely natural?
>>16876139
Because in the real world, words mean nothing. Action speaks volumes, and it doesn't matter if she continues to tell you how much she 'needs' or 'desires' you, if she never makes a move.
She said that she wasn't interested in a relationship. Now, all of a sudden, she talks about a 'boyfriend'. You assume it is you, yet there's no guarantee. Being boyfriend & girlfriend isn't a decision made by one person.
>>16876151
Doesn't tell shit. Ask her out for coffee as I said earlier. If she is unwilling to even do that, she doesn't want you. In which case, you move on. Nothing gained, nothing lost.
>>16876152
Depends. I mean, if I am satisfied, it would imply I don't want or need any more action, so no?
Still, with that said, there's something about finishing together in each other's arms that can't be matched, and fulfills me in another sense than a mere orgasm or seven.
>>16876177
>>16876158
>>16876151
Follow up, another text from her
>I'm on there because my friends manage my account, and we have good laughs
The most sensitive part of my body is my left foot. I got some kind of infection on that foot in 2009, and while the infection is gone, the skin is scarred and scaly yet feels A+ when itched. I take a pumice stone and scrub it from time to time and I can seriously ejaculate from it with little effort.
Would it weird a woman out if I asked her to rub that foot? I've been recently getting a sea salt scrub and scrubbing it, it feels divine. I'd love a woman to do this for me.
can it turn off a girl, if you like drastically different kind of music, like she like the pop, electro kind, and i more like the heavy music. It doesnt affect my clothing, or appearance.
Have you ever thought of wanting to switch sexes?
I know, I know, sex changes exist, but it's just a cosmetic feature in the absolute very end.
If you truly wanted to change your sex, you would have to do it on an atomic level completely and entirely, this is what I mean, but at the moment, a procedure like this is not available yet.
>>16876170
pale skinned girls are qts, you should just avoid fake tan altogether
>>16876223
Yeah, sometimes. But, I'd probably waste all my time stroking my penis. Just to experience the difference in sensations, for science, of course...
>>16876223
Yes but not because I actually want to be a man. I'd want to see what it's like to be one but not forever. I want to know how they think, their attraction to girls, what it's like to have a dick etc.
>>16876170
Just don't. Embrace it. Some guys like pale skin on a girl
To both sexes of advice, do you usually cut contact with someone you no longer have feelings for or can you carry on with a friendly relationship.? Im in a situation where i want to get over my ex but she constantly contacts me making me think about her and think i still care deeply for her.
>>16876236
Cut contact.
I did with my previous ex. great decision.
I sort of did with my last too, but we're still in the same school and see each other. The one time I talked to her again was because she was crying. I cheered her up and she started saying she was glad to talk to me, that she missed talking to me and wanted to do it more.
I told her that since she broke up she lost certain privileges.
No news since and I don't miss her.
You need your distance to heal.
Not a question for the opposite gender, but this thread is where everyone is always, so, guys: we're social beings, we think about girls they're pretty important we can't help it, but we also need to think of our goals with lots of determination. What do you guys think is the golden ratio in terms of level of importance for a 21 year old between thinking of ladies and pursuing your goals
>>16876286
Male here. 23. Goals first. And that's coming from someone who's constantly chasing someone. The older I get the more I realize that goals matter more. It's all about self realization, and actually achieving things.
>>16876236
EXACT same situation as you. Luckily I had two girls I missed deeply one I completely cut contact with and the other I still hangout with her as friends when ever she said she missed me even tried for a week to make it work again. I'm 100% over the one I cut contact with and still get so stressed out about the one who I still talked to (and that one broke up with me 2 years ago, and the one I'm over we broke up a year ago.) This little experiment pretty much proves you can't be friends with your ex, seeing as I was over her for a whole before we started hanging out and talking again.
>>16876293
Thanks man your input.is greatly appreciated, it hasn't been untill recently where I learned how true this is. As that weed smoking Rastafarian said, no woman no cry. I find things less complicated when I'm in the dental lab although it IS complicated work
>>16876293
One more thing, maybe it's only true for me. But once you get in a relationship with a girl do you find yourself less ambitious ?
>>16876304
Yeah it sucks but i usually cut contact but she is adamant about talking to me. I really dont know how to say fuck off without sounding hurt and mean. And the thing is she broke up with me
>>16876122
Not if you make each other happy.
>>16876203
Most girls I know are pretty judgmental of other people's music tastes, so unfortunately yes anon.
>>16876170
If it looks good then it's fine, but I've never yet seen a fake tan that looks entirely natural. Our eyes might be better than yours.
>>16876111
>say she can have it next time she's over.
Sounds like your friend is a dick but you're very sweet to do that for her. I'd never friendzone a guy for any of this, wtf?
How do i act around my bf's friends? They are 4 guys that are really close and they do a lot of stuff together. I met my bf cause one of those friends is my best female friends brother. I knew them for about 2 years till my bf and i started dating. In those years, every one of his friends tried to make a move on me. Now it feels awkward. I'd like to be able to just relax around them cause they are a bunch of very neat guys. But now that i'm dating my bf it feels weird and i'm concerned that i might be too friendly with them. Especially since they all made it clear that they are/where interested in me at some point. How do i deal with this awkwardnes? I am afraid one might have catched some serious feels... Shit
>>16876346
Yeah I was the same. And she broke up with me as well. She was so fucking adament. I had to tell her so many times can't do it. The. Shed convince me again. Untill finally I'm like you know what? No, NEVER talk to me again. Apparently she's been trying to ha gout with all my friends recently but at least not me
how realistic is it to get a gf or have any sort of dating life without some sort of social circle?
>>16876386
Act as you normally would. The only considerations you need to make regarding the "awkwardness" are
1) don't hang out with or make conversation with any of them one-on-one and
2) tell your bf if they cross any lines.
I know the second one sounds tough because they're his friends, but you can't hide forever from learning the truth about your bf's loyalties. That's basically the whole upshot here. You need to stop wanting to hide away from potentially bad outcomes. The only thing that it accomplishes is to guarantee a bad outcome down the road. Learn to accept things that are outside of your control and just go on with your life.
>>16876115
You don't have enough practise yet, that's all. Only experience makes those feelings go away.
>>16876122
No.
>>16876152
Yeah, that's probably fine. It matters more what she thinks, though.
Hey girls what is in your opinion the best way to be approached without the guy sounding needy but not fake-alpha either?
>>16876194
It's not weird as long as you offer to do the same for her.
>>16876203
No. My bf and I have very different tastes in music. We just put up with the differences because that's what adults do.
>>16876419
Solid advice, thanks anon.
I'm also not sure if i should tell my bf about the moves they already tried or not. But so far i figured that those thinga happened before we started dating and thus isn't that relevant anymore. Problem is, i really like to talk with one of them. He's a shy and awkward neet, he has had a very tough childhood and i think he's holding up amazingly for the start he had. He's the one i suspect has catched a feel. And i really don't want to hurt him by being a bit more cold and distant, but i don't see a lot of other options... He's just not very stable and well, i have no idea how i could let him down easily
>>16876286
Goals first. It's easier to date when you have a strong personal identity.
>>16876404
Pretty unrealistic, unless you have inexplicably good social skills.
>>16876452
Moves from before dating are absolutely irrelevant. Never bring those up. Just act accordingly with the consideration that they did happen at some point.
You can talk to that guy while hanging out in groups. Hell just invite him to hang out with you and your bf. But while I understand the sympathy you feel for the him, think about the outcome if it goes wrong. Your bf will be upset that you set the scene, he'll be upset for getting his hopes up and you'll be doubly upset for disappointing two people. No. You make the decision today to come to grips with the idea that his social issues and his feelings are neither your fault nor your responsibility. This is exactly what I mean about stuff that's outside of your control. You live by that understanding now or you just suffer through it four times worse down the road.
Girls
At what point does a guy become clingy/pushy/generally annoying? I usually have a wait-and-see attitude, but I didn't want to miss my opportunity with this girl and now I'm afraid she might be getting a little bothered.
>>16876439
All we want is to be treated like a person equal to you. So, don't treat us like we're better than you (needy guy) or just a prop (alpha guy). Be confident in your own worth as a person and you'll be a worthy person to date.
For me, the best way to be approached is just, "Hey, I'm So-and-So," with a confident demeanor. No dumb come-ons or m'ladies or whatever. Just... as if I were an interesting person you might want to know.
>>16876484
There's no universal answer to this question. Basically, if I make it clear I'm not interested and he won't stop hitting on me. Your best bet is to just say you want to date her and deal with her answer.
>>16876484
Whenever he doesn't get that I don't appreciate his attentions.
If a guy flirts with me even if I don't, he's clingy and pushy and annoying. If a guy writes me every day when I never initiate and I am always the one ending conversations, it's clingy. If a guy gets mad if I don't reply to his texts, it's clingy. If a guy sends me 3-4 messges in a row, it's clingy.
Girls
What do you think about guys with a small social circle? i.e only like 3-4 friends.
And what about how much they post on social media?
>>16876439
Be in a situation where you have an excuse to talk to me, do not stop me if I'm doing something else. Smile and be chill. Treat me respectfully, as >>16876494 said.
>>16876538
>only like 3-4 friends
Doesn't matter at all.
>how much they post on social media
If it's A LOT, like addiction-level a lot, then it's a big turn-off. If it's little to none, that's a really good sign in my book. Balanced people are most attractive.
grils
how much is hair is too much
>>16876538
> small social circle
Perfectly fine. I'd rather be with someone with a small but solid, long lasting social circle than with a party guy full of friends.
>how much they post on social media
Turn offs: posts a lot of selfies, posts updates about whatever he does, posts a ton of things, posts ugly/stupid stuff
In general if someone doesn't post much and I do like the things they post, it might be a good sign.
>>16876560
Different anon here but I'm curious. Is it weird if they don't have social media? I don't have Facebook, Twitter or anything like that.
>>16876579
I don't really use social media much, and I don't like posting personal things on them, so I wouldn't care. But if you date a girl who is obsessed with it, especially one of those who like posting relationship-related stuff on facebook/instagram/etc, it might be a problem.
>>16876579
Not weird at all. I don't judge anyone for using it, but I personally really dislike facebook/twitter. Not using it is better than using it a lot.
>>16876558
Uh. It's a personal preference thing. I like really hairy guys, so I'm not sure anything short of full-on wolfman would be a turn-off for me. Other girls feel differently, though.
>>16876591
Perfect already weeded those ones out by default then!
When exactly am I supposed to ask you girls out on a date to avoid the Friendosphere?
On the same hour we met or a few days later?
>>16876622
Few days later. It's weird to ask someone you just met on a date. She needs time to google all your social media accounts and find out you're not a serial killer.
I'm only half kidding.
>>16876622
I usually prefer if he puts some effort to get to know me/know what I like etc so I know it's not purely physical etc.
So a couple of days. But I prefer if he flirts a bit while he does so.
>>16876628
So meeting a girl and asking if you can buy her coffee sometime is a no? That's against everything I've ever been taught
>>16876622
Flirt from the start but be casual about it. Depending on response, it can be okay to ask when you first meet someone.
Just had sex and I queefed a lot. It was doggy, which always does that to me, but the guy was kind of rough and took it in and out a lot, so it was a million times worse. He didn't say anything but I was pretty embarrassed.
Men: Do guys know what queefs are?
Women: how do I prevent this?
>talked with girl this past Tuesday; I suggested that we get coffee sometime; she smiled and said yeah
>talked to her today and asked what all she's got going on this weekend
>said she has a lot of work tomorrow and Sunday
>asked about tonight and I think she said she was relatively free if I wanted to hang out
>I said that it depended on if she wanted to hang out or not
>at this point she notices kale or cauliflower and walks over to see what it was to buy time to think
>after the kale thing, she told me she isn't really looking for dating and/or romantic stuff just so I don't get the wrong idea
>I kinda paused but said it was cool and that I'd still like to hang if she wanted to
>after that she asked how I old I was; I said 22 and she nodded and said something about being able to drink
I'm pretty sure that she's about 24 so it makes sense that she'd ask that. I joked about her thinking that I'm 17 and she said she kind of assumed everyone in our class is 18 (low level undergrad class). A while after that she had me put my number in her phone and I think she mumbled something about brunch next week(end).
Do you guys think she lied about not wanting to date because she assumed me to be like 6 years younger than her?
>>16876659
shit dude, i queef anytime my pelvis gets tilted upward too much and/or i use certain muscles in my abdomen. it's just another thing that makes me keep a tight leash on how i act during sex, which prevents me from fully getting into it
>>16876659
If he laughs at or gets grossed out by your queefs he's either a little boy or gay. For me queefs make me almost cum, what's gross in normal day life , buttholes sweatiness , bodily smells. Are the sexiest aphrodisiacs in the bed, I assume because when you have sex you're getting to know each other at the most intimate physical level. And those smells and functions are part of that.
>>16876659
>how do I prevent this?
kegels and/or keeping your butt lower during doggy. Or get used to it because they're normal.
>>16875127
In general, never talk about feelings before you even have a first date. It's creepy. Yes, ask her out, though. Women love that. Just be chill with it. If acquaintances don't ask each other out, how would anyone ever get a date?
>>16875150
Hit it. Damn I wish my sexyfine profs would flirt with me.
>>16875156
Your anxiety and fear isn't helping you in life. So rip it out and throw it away. I've done this and now life is awesome. Basically you need to get over the first mountain, which is the highest. Every hurdle after is smaller and easier. The further you go, the better you get. So just start asking girls out and learn from any mistakes you make.
Also, don't go in sniffing at the pussy. Go in with a "let's have fun" approach.
>sit in the cafe drinking coffee, expect a girl to come up to me
This almost never happens. You're the man, you ask her out 9/10 times.
>>16876659
Man here, yes we know what queefs are, yes we know how to make women queef, it sounds like the guy knew what he was doing, but if he didn't react to the queefs, it didn't bother him, just like it doesn't bother most men.
Doggy is a position that has a lot of queefing, if you want less queefs, try another position.
>>16876666
>I said that it depended on if she wanted to hang out or not
Wrong answer. Try to have opinions.
Also nice quads.
Is it weird to ask a girl out multiple times in a week?
Like if I ask her out on Sunday, and then again on wednesday. We have only been on one date. We also work at the same company, different departments though so we arent really co-workers.
Late 20s female here.
If a man has been very flirty with you (just you in particular) for a few weeks and then suddenly stops, does it mean he has lost interest, or found someone else, or what? He's still friendly to me but doesn't seem interested any more. He used to flirt a lot and suddenly last week he stopped completely. I don't know what changed. It didn't die down slowly, just ended altogether. Did I do something that turned him off of me forever? Somehow that feels worse than him just finding someone else.
>>16876707
He either found someone else, is trying to play it cool or you weren't giving him signs you were interested
>>16876687
So you think she had me put my number in her phone for purely platonic reasons? She said she wasn't looking to date before finding out that I'm 4 years older than she thought...
Do you think I fucked up my chances completely?
>>16876720
Not initially, but you did something or failed to do something which in turn made her want to be purely platonic
>>16875432
That's not even that much. At ten years of sexual activity, that's only 4 partners a year, or one every three months.
When you get older than 20 you'll realize this.
>>16875873
I'd be pretty disappointed desu but I wouldn't dump a guy just for that. However, you damn well better eat and finger me so I can get off.
>>16875945
370k is nothing so you can stop pretending you're a closet millionaire.
>>16875965
Ask her out.
>>16875989
I used to do the whole "let them down easy" but it always made it harder and more complicated. Now I'm just more direct. Girls do things like ignore the guy, say they're busy every time you ask, or turn down a lot of dates you offer.
>>16876028
She goes to /d/ too much. No, that's weird.
>>16876111
Your friend has a point, but you're also really sweet and I don't think she'll dump you for that.
>>16876122
No. Your friends are jealous.
>>16876152
>she orgasms multiple times
I'd be very satisfied with that. On the converse, going too long can get painful so I'd rather a guy keep it around 10-15 mins. But if I get off, less is good.
>>16876194
That's pretty gross. Feet are gross.
>>16876203
Not unless he listens to faggot or nigger music.
>>16876236
Never, ever go back to an ex. My ex and I are no contact.
>>16876720
There's no way to know. But it doesn't sound like she's interested. Do you like her as a person or do you only want to date her? If you really like her, try being friends with her.
>>16875432
Female here and amount of past partners has never mattered for me or for my partners.
>>16876716
Does flirting back count as a sign I'm interested, or should I have initiated some of that myself? Do you think I should have made my own move instead of only responding to his?
I guess one of the differences in the past week has been that I haven't had any time with him alone: only in small group (3-5 people) setting. But usually he's fine with flirting with me in front of other people. I feel like I just got friendzoned.
>>16876538
I'd prefer a guy like that. I have like one friend. Extroverts are diseased. I give zero fucks about social media either way.
>>16876622
Either. Just less than a week.
>>16876720
I think you seriously increased your chances by letting her know you aren't of barely legal age, if that's the thought she was acting under before. At this point, you know she has your number (do you have hers yet? Did she send your number a text?) and you can now start communicating with her through that which I think is good. You have a direct line of contact.
>>16876758
I doubt not initiating caused this change, but you may as well try initiating the flirting now and see how he responds.
>>16876538
My opinion is probably irrelevant because I'm only 20-something I know who shut down their facebook and doesn't use other things like twitter or snapchat, but no that wouldn't bother me. I think people who constantly post on social media are trying to prove something most of the time. And there's nothing wrong with having a small social circle. I hang out with a medium-sized circle of people (10-15) but there are only like 5 of us that are really close friends, and the rest are acquaintances for chilling with.
>>16876769
No she hasn't sent me a text and it's been close to an hour since I gave her my number. Praying for a text sometime today. I'm really interested in her as a person which makes the possibility that I fucked it up even more self-loathing inducing.
>>16876420
Well, I haven't had much interaction with girls of my age, let alone actual female friends, in nearly a half a decade, so I am rather clueless in general how I should act towards her. Thus far, I have basically just behaved like I do with my other friends as well (though toned down the crude humor).
>>16876758
Have you initiated? Listen to all of the guys on here half the questions are "she hasn't initiated should I drop it ? " and the answer is always yes. You have to Initiate it sometimes
>>16876770
Good point. Thanks.
While we're at it, does anyone have tips on re-igniting a guy's interest? Guys, what would make you reconsider a particular girl, or what would you like to see her do to let you know she's interested other than flat-out saying so to you? Or girls, what have you done that has worked for you before?
>>16876672
>pelvis gets tilted upward
>>16876675
>keeping your butt lower
>>16876673
>>16876682
yeah, he kept tilting my ass upwards like a U. Really set it off. Alright, so I guess it's normal, just sounds freak me out like that. I didn't know men could like that.
I think he also was taking pics or videos or something, but I didn't ask.
>>16876777
>an hour since I gave her my number
Wow. Settle down. She might not text for like a week or two and that would be super normal.
>>16876510
>>16876528
Okay, the last time I spoke to her she was still kinda flirty, but she hasn't gotten back to me from when I asked her this morning if we were going to do something this weekend. :/
>>16876781
Sounds good. Just be confident.
>>16876787
What would re-spark your interest in a guy? Not much, that's what. If he has lost interest get over it and move on. So talk to him and straight up ask him if he's lost interest.
>meet girl, show interest
>she says she's lost and doesn't know. That she doesn't want to give me false hopes
>she still talks to me on Facebook though
>asked her out three times and gave up. She's always busy, always "can't" because of studies or others, and never reschedules.
>yesterday she's the one who texts me and asks if I'm at the same bar as her
>indicate where I am and tell her to come
>she says "Coming" and ten minutes later adds "actually I was joking. I'd love to but I have to go to sleep"
>I give up and stop replying
>she talks to me again today, tries to start a conversation and asks if I'm angry about yesterday since I'm barely talking
I then tell her that i'm busy with other things, and to wait. That I'd love to talk to her, and she knows why. But since she's impossible to meet face to face I really doubt she wants to talk. Unless talking on Facebook is all she wants, which is not what I want. (summed up).
>"Ok"
So I guess I wont see anymore of her, right? I may have came off as a pissy baby but I don't mind.
I just want to know, would you say I did the good thing here?
>>16876790
>I think he also was taking pics or videos or something, but I didn't ask.
Uh, wait, what?
>>16876782
I haven't just because whenever I ran into him before, he would start the conversation right after our initial greeting and I would respond positively to his flirting. I'm not really sure how to assert myself as the one initiating it when I'm already in a conversation with him....Should I pay him a compliment or something? Btw he's one of those kind of "off" guys who seems almost a bit aspie at times....
>>16876806
Well sorry but that's what I'm actually trying to figure out - whether he has moved on. How do you even go about asking someone if they've lost interest in you? "Hey there, I noticed you stopped flirting with me. So, what's up with that, eh?"
>>16876790
>taking pics
Why didn't you ask?? Or do you just not mind?
Ladies: I have a female friend who likes art so I drew her something for her birthday. I wanted to write her a little message on the back to let her know I appreciate her, and I'm just wondering how you guys would see it (meaning is this cringy, weird, sweet, etc).
Rough draft would be something along the lines of "I'm glad to have you as a friend, you're a wonderful person and I hope we stay friends for a long time."
>>16876830
I would assume you wanted to bone me if I read that. If you do want to bone her, then excellent choice of words
>>16876830
That's sweet, not cringy at all if you guys are just friends. :)
>>16876809
Yeah it's good IMO. Girls use "he was a whiny baby" a lot to deflect any kind of blame from themselves for how they acted. You couldn't win in your situation so you basically said you weren't playing her game, she may or not be mad, but it's whatever.
>>16876838
That is REALLY not the message I'm trying to send. I just want to get the point across that I haven't met a lot of genuine people in my life, but she is one of them.
>>16876840
Other anon said it implies I want to smash but hopefully she thinks like you lol
>>16876846
I'm >>16876840 and I honestly think it reads like something my girl friends would write in a card to me, so it's perfect. *shrug*
>>16876830
That's a good message that could go either way (to bone her or just show that you value her friendship)
>>16876826
>>16876813
I don't really mind, but it would have been nice for him to ask first. The angle didn't catch my face so idgaf. Well I texted him and asked and he's yet to respond so idk. It was just a hookup.
>>16876822
Do you want to be with someone who doesn't express themselves? Isn't communication one of the most important things in a relationship. These love games are very childish. Just be honest and ask him where you two stand.
>>16876830
No, that's pretty weird. A drawing would be cool though.
>>16876856
We've been friends for over a year so idk if she'd take it as wanting to bone her because I've never made a move on her.
>>16876865
What's weird about it? All suggestions / advice welcome
>inb4 loser.
What are anyone's thoughts on even getting advice on motivation / PUA?
I'm socially introverted and don't like putting myself out there so -based on advice- I read "Models" which I thought gave some pretty solid suggestions. i.e. developing independence, hobbies, fashion, being honest, not being clingy. Basic stuff that's not at all insulting like most PUA stuff is.
Anyways. More specifically, how bad would it be if someone you dated/hung with read something like that? How offputting?
are all girls who live in low income areas near military bases sluts?
>>16876859
>someone who doesn't express themselves
isn't that almost all men anyway? me personally i've never had a guy tell me they're interested in me. instead they do passive aggressive shit like act jealous when i show any other guy a sign of interest and then still don't ask me out until i have to talk to them about why they're being suck a dick.
women are better at expressing themselves. even the guys i have dated have still sucked at communication and have said they don't like talking about their feelings.
>>16876909
It sucks because guys have been taught their entire lives to suppress their emotions. Crying is seen as a weakness, emotions are seen as feminine. It makes me sad because it makes communicating more difficult
>>16876795
Wouldn't it mean she's only interested in being friends though? Or that she isn't that interested?
>>16876913
As in, waiting a week would indicate that she isn't very interested*
>>16876907
No, you asshat.
>>16876916
She's made it clear she's not super interested. You would know if she were interested. If she doesn't text for that long, it doesn't necessarily mean she's not interested because girls who are interested sometimes give it a little time like that. But from what you said, it sounds like she's not super interested.
>>16876912
it really does. communication is so important in any relationship, whether it's with family, friends, or the person you're dating. and guys seem to clam up when you ask them personal shit about your relationship with them. so what the fuck are we supposed to do? keep prodding them until they get mad at us and finally admit how they feel? that doesn't seem right.
>>16876844
Understood. Thanks.
>>16876909
Well maybe you're looking for"men" in the wrong g places you said yourself he's aspieish what does he do for a living is he ambitious? Sucsessful? Skilled at anything?
>>16876933
I've been dating a guy for over 5 years now. Over time, we both worked on our communication skills. I'd still like to get him to open up a bit more and talk more easily about how he feels, preferably without me asking. But it's possible to make progress, especially when the guy can see how opening up makes communicating easier
>>16876946
i'm not the anon who asked the original question. i'm just venting about being pissed off at the lack of expressiveness in the men in my own life experiences. my last boyfriend had a lot of "feelings" and shit but never wanted to tell me. his own sister was the one who had to let me know he even had a thing for me in the first place because he was too chickenshit to admit it to my face.
>>16876953
Well that's obviously not a man, and should have been a very clear detterent. Not all guys are like that. Have you ever dated a sucsessful or at least highly focused and ambitious person ?
>>16876946
I think you meant to reply to me, but yes he is ambitious and successful (he told me he's currently up for a promotion with another researcher on his team), but he's just a bit weird as a lot of engineers in his field seem to be, at least compared to the ones I've met. I wasn't really looking for anyone to date in the first place. We work at the same company but in different departments and ran into each other one day in the kitchen and bonded over mutual love of black coffee, and it started from there. Turns out we have a few similar interests and have a lot of fun talking to each other. But talking about your feelings at work, even if we aren't technically co-workers, doesn't seem appropriate.
>>16876906
I don't know what this "Models" thing is, but most PUA stuff seems offputting and to find out someone was interested in that or specifically was reading into it for guidance would be weird to me, especially if you were a potential date, yeah.
>>16876907
They're usually married to someone in the military base, I've found, so maybe look elsewhere.
>>16876969
You're making ME fall in love with him and I am almost certain I'm not gay. Yeah well text him, ask him his feelings for you and express yours for him.
Girls, what are good openers at bars? I'm trying to improve my game or whatever. Do I offer to buy them a drink or something?
>>16877000
>the bar
Get drunk walk up excited in a drunken stooper and if you're good looking you'll go home with her.
If you're not good looking don't pick up girls at the bar.
>>16876982
Haha I'm glad someone thinks he sounds crush-worthy! My friends think he's such a weird nerd from what I've told him about our conversations together, but I really love being around him and he's honestly one of only a few people I've felt so natural talking with and being around. We actually don't have each other's numbers because the company has an "off-duty conduct" bullshit clause in our employment contracts, but I think I might take your advice and just flat out tell him I'm interested in a "Gee, if it weren't for the non-fraternization policy, we should totally hang out and do blah...." because you're right, he is pretty awesome. And he's not the type to report me or anything because everyone thinks this rule is dumb.
>>16877000
Hello woman, how big a deal is premature ejactulation? I've tried a lot of things, but none of it works. I usually go down on them first, and after they have their orgasm I go for mine, so to speak.
>>16877013
Hey well I have a soft spot for girls who fall in love with "wierd guys" and if he's an engineer he's no chump. Sounds like a great person. I'd say go for it, but keep in mind life isn't a Disney movie , he may not be your happy ending. Just be prepared to move on if need be. Godspeed anon.
>>16876797
Okay she just got back and said we should do something. I think I worry too much
Girls: Do you know about shrinkage?
>>16876926
Do you think her getting my number was indicative of a shift in interest after realizing that I'm 4 years older than she thought?
I mean, she brought up hanging out on her own which blindsided me and I wasn't sure how to respond so I said it depended on if she wanted to. I feel like I fumbled through the whole conversation because I don't have much experience with dating. I'm thinking I fucked it all up lol.
>>16877058
yes
>>16875432
Female, no
Should I tell her how i feel or just let my actions speak for themselves?(she's a good friend not a virtual stranger or something)
>>16877058
Not really. I don't understand dick magic. All I know is it shrinks to travel size when he's not aroused.
>>16877076
No theres also that it inverts in the cold to negative inches. And even aroused doesnt get reach max size until sex starts.
>>16877083
>even aroused doesn't get reach max size until sex starts
i don't think it's that way for all dudes.
>>16876194
I'd be so interested in doing that.
I've been told that I don't look very feminine.
This doesn't help with my already established self-image issues.
I scoffed the comment off at first, but has stuck in my mind since. I talked to my close friend about it, and while their words were comforting, it continues to bother me endlessly.
Am I crazy? I feel like I am going crazy. Feels like, after all this time of getting over my countless insecurities, my work has been for nothing.
>>16876538
A small but close social circle and no social media is my ideal. It's exactly what my boyfriend and I have.
how is this pic for dating pages/apps?
what would you assume based on it?
girl here. i asked a guy out and he said "im sorry" to me (we don't know eachother well and have only talked like once or twice very briefly). now he is acting really awkward around me and looks at me kind of sad. is there a chance he regrets saying no?
>>16877089
No it actually is. Its part of why size studies are so inconsistent.
female here
>>16877148
you are attractive; i would message you. make sure you fill out your profile if you want something serious though.
>>16876809
she doesn't like you anymore... sorry.
>>16877148
1) it's blurry
2) it looks a tad vertically stretched
3) filter out some of the yellow in an image editor to make it look less crappy
Otherwise, you're a pretty good looking guy. I can't say that I'd assume anything, other than you look pretty laid back based on your facial expression, and that's a big plus. You don't look like an average hipster douche who is going to immediate jump on my mainstream choice in music (though that could very likely change if we met in person, I'm aware).
>>16877148
long face/10. Pick a photo that shows your shoulders to balance it out. And hit the gym. deadlifts are your friend.
Girls: at what point t would it be best to let a girl know I have a belly button fetish? Moments before sex? During cuddling? Before any sexual interaction? I don't hook up with girls for this reason, I only have gf sex. I'm not creepy about it, it's just 100% crucial for sex for me
>>16877113
I'm sorry but we can't really tell you if you're crazy if you don't show us a pic of your face.
>>16877165
wtf are you talking about. Just start playing with her belly button when you get the chance.
How do I find common ground with a girl if every time I ask what she does for fun, on her days off, hobbies, etc.
she just replies with "sit around home" or "Nothing much really"
She is interested in me for sure, but seems to have self esteem issues. I am finding it hard to come up with things to say because she doesnt talk about what she likes.
>>16877165
before sexual interaction, possibly during cuddling if you're just chilling and not getting frisky, and definitely never bring up a fetish moments before sex in case it freaks her out.
>>16877113
honestly you need to take it in stride. some people will prefer you; others wont and same goes for the idea if they find you feminine or not. a simple solution is to wear a dress. everyone has their own taste.
boys and girls: how do you feel about body hair
>>16877154
>is there a chance he regrets saying no?
Possibly. I once said no, and I've been beating myself up ever since. I had had a rough week and wanted just one evening to myself, which happened to be when this girl I knew asked me if I wanted to join her. I wish I was better at letting her know that it was just bad timing, and that i'd love to go out with her the next weekend.
