What's with this epidemic of male loneliness? And why is there no corresponding female epidemic?
>>16853823
the top few percent of males date multiple women
There are plenty of lonely women in the world, lol. They're just not on 4chan.
You are not asking for advice
>>>/r9k/
Boys being raised to be "in touch with their feelings" (i.e. sad saps with no confidence).
The undoing of marriage through shitty laws for men lead to a reversal to prehistoric sexual dynamics (lots of women for top men). This leads to betas getting either no sex or raped in family courts (with still no sex). Btw it also leads to tons of bitter women unable to settle down now that sex is available without commitment. So everybody loses on average, but some (Chads and cuckolds) end up winning
Really instead of complaining about this you should be becoming part of the top men as it's not gonna change soon. I know this is 4chan where everyone is >6 feet, has 8 inch dicks etc. but seriously since realizing this and focusing on myself, improving fitness and social game and ditching empathy and morals, I've gone from having a lay count of 2 (both LTRs) to double digits within a year
>>16853844
>tfw 6'5 and 8 incher legit but too introverted to realize my chad potential
>>16853844
Don't forget women working, sexual revolution, etc.
Are you guys serious
Do you not realize that is statistically a single woman for every single guy
>>16853873
See
>>16853825
Women would rather blow Chad in the club bathroom than be in a relationship with that 7/10 guy
>>16853877
I don't think there's been an undoing of marriage. Most people I know want to get married, lol. Hell, *I* want to get married.
The fact that you're a loser that nobody wants to date isn't relevant to general trends.
>>16853883
>I don't think there's been an undoing of marriage
factually and objectively wrong
>is there no corresponding female epidemic?
Of course there is but girls don't cry about it on 4chan. They either buy into feminist propaganda that a strong woman need no men or learn to live in spinsterhood without crying about no bf/no sex and blaming chads and stacies.
>>16853849
work in porn
>>16853823
the corresponding female epidemic is the lack of marriage to high status "dateable" men
google it you'll find lots of articles about the declining marriage rates and women struggling to find long term partners
http://www.vice.com/read/youre-single-because-there-arent-enough-men-253
http://www.foxnews.com/opinion/2015/05/01/why-men-wont-marry.html
women can find short term partners easily, but are having trouble with long term ones
>>16853896
Men have been marrying loser, no career women for millenia
Now women are realizing what feminism really entails
>>16853902
its honestly funny how feminism in the end has benefited the top few men so much, shit all over the lower status men though
>>16853903
Screw having a traditional wife who doesn't want to work though
>>16853896
>women can find short term partners easily, but are having trouble with long term ones
maybe if they were a little less obnoxious theyd last longer.
>>16853911
maybe if you didn't have disdain for women you'd be able to find dates.
>>16853910
I mean.. if I had the full blown traditional wife I would be completely fine with that. I mean real traditional. cleans the house, takes care of the children, does all the chores, cooks 3 meals a day and makes lunch, loyal for life, only need one income to have a nice lifestyle since one income families are the norm.
that sounds like the perfect setup to me. its the modern "traditional" housewife that fucking sucks, where you struggle to make ends meet on your income and she doesnt do shit and cheats on you.
>>16853914
3/11/1952
12/1/1453
9/8/1165
is that enough 4 you?
>>16853918
ah, the ol' reddit datearoo....
Watch an /r9k/ thread get 100s of posts while actual /adv/ threads get ignored.
>>16853883
>I don't think there's been an undoing of marriage.
There has been, Google dropping marriage rates or whatever
>Most WOMEN I know want to get married
Most men I know want to get a model sex slave girl who loves him unconditionally. What you want is not always what you get, moreso now that men are waking up to what a terrible deal marriage is.
>>16853823
Back again, my serial-reposting friend? I'll give you points for rewording, I guess.
The reason for the epidemic is that the old mechanisms for pressuring the less-functional boys in our society to grow the fuck up have started to fail. It's the one great sin of the geek community: the haven for people who were targeted unfairly by those mechanism also became the ultimate enabler for fair targets. Safe from pressure in our bubble, they never made the changes they so desperately need to make, and now they're wondering why they push people away.
Why is there no corresponding female epidemic? On the contrary, there is one, and it's been around for even longer. Probably longer than you've been alive, which is why you don't notice it. But every time you hear someone ask why all the good men are either taken or gay, you're staring it in the face.
>>16853910
But she did the household stuff etc. Nos you just have a fat hag who goes to zumba classes... and doesn't want to work
>>16853896
>the corresponding female epidemic is the lack of marriage to high status "dateable" men
Dateable men are not necessarily high-status. They just need to have their lives together, relative to their expected stage of development.
>>16853936
This would be true on literally any populated board.
>>16853945
It's statistically proven that women rate 80% of men as below average. Women are literally hard wired to all compete for the same 20% of men. No such corresponding factor exists in men.
>>16853939
>le man up meme
Women actively work to deprive men of jobs etc through feminism and then bitch about no good guys. Plenty of men were fine with women staying at home raising kids. Would women be ok with men doing the same?
Also see
>>16853948
tl;dr women are complaining about a lack of chads not a lack of men
>>16853951
>http://www.vice.com/read/youre-single-because-there-arent-enough-men-253
if you read the article linked by anon earlier the complaint is literally about not enough "worthy" men
>>16853946
Yeah, but /adv/ used to be slightly better till the last 3 months.
because men will follow around any girl that has a vagina like a lost little puppy begging for a treat
if guys stopped being so fucking desperate and trying to get with every girl possible, then those girls wouldn't have those hundreds of options to pick from and skim the top. hell, just look at /soc/. because really, why should I get with the 4/10 channer with a busted face when a "Chad" is available too? out of pity? fuck that.
Lets just cover some basics:
- Sex is usually between a male and a female, both are involved.
- Ugly people have at least the same amount of sex as attractive people, perhaps more due to lower standards. There are studies to show that.
- Lonely males and lonely females do not interact, they do not like each other or even acknowledge each others existence, they want to get with healthy people.
>>16853948
>It's statistically proven that women rate 80% of men as below average.
I know the "study" you're talking about. Utter junk. But even if it were not, the data doesn't support your convenient little conclusions.
>>16853961
And the hell of it is, most of the /r9k/ threads seem to be posted by the same guy.
>>16853974
I don't understand why anons keep replying to the bait. Like they know it's going to help in any way, but they can't help themselves from posting.
>>16853951
>Plenty of men were fine with women staying at home raising kids. Would women be ok with men doing the same?
Does it matter? Even the men in these situations wouldn't be fine with staying at home raising kids; they want to stay at home, play vidya, fap to animu, and bitch online about how no one respects them. I wouldn't trust a man like that to be a competent parent. Why would I fault women for not trusting in such a man's competency either?
>>16853979
Maybe, but it's the closest thing we can do to pressure him i to growing the fuck up. He retreats to his enablers when he starts to get uncomfortable, as his kind always does. But even that slight discomfort, tiny fraction of what he needs though it may be, is something.
there is.
Have you ever looked at Cosmo? Or watched a chick flick about some girls in their late 20's? Probably not because you're dudes.
As a woman, I hear plenty of "OMG I am unlovable I will never find someone who loves me" or "I've never had a boy interested in ME, they only want to use my body and then throw me away".
also, assuming that there is a similar number of women and men- it's impossible for there to be a significant number of single men without there also being a significant number of single women. Those women arn't dating themselves.
The actual problem is expectation. The uglier member of each sex wants someone more attractive than who suits them- but women have better upward mobility in this area. A hotter guy may date an average girl, but it's more rare for a hot girl to date an average guy. Because of this, the spectrum is skewed and there are a lot of hot girls who are single and a lot of average/ugly guys who are single.
Consider also that the whole idea of "there are guys who like you, you just aren't satisfied with them!!" Can be applied to both genders in nearly any situation, NOT just women.
Yes, anonette may have 3 guys who have a crush on her, but if she isn't attracted to any of them, they might as well not be there. They might as well be fat fedora neckbeards for all she cares. Just because that option is there doesn't mean it would make her any happier than being single.
The EXACT same can be said about your average lonely joe. There are PLENTY of fat, feminist, bitchy single mothers. Why doesn't lonely joe date on of them instead of being lonely? It's because being with them would be WORSE than being lonely. It's the same situation as anonette, but lonely how's too busy lamenting being friendzoned by her that he doesn't understand that he's doing the exact same thing.
Having standards isn't a bad thing.
>>16853936
What "quality" /adv thread should be given attention to, anon?
>>16853993
Stay dry, pupper
>>16853993
Stay dry pupper
>>16853823
you got something to back up that statement?
there IS a study that shows everyone across the board is lonelier than previous generations
http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/features/the-loneliness-epidemic-more-connected-than-ever-but-feeling-more-alone-10143206.html
there is a multitude of reasons why, why you think men seem to be lonelier probably has to do with the fact that you're not assigned a wife by your parents anymore, and women don't have to settle for you. Instead of bettering yourself you spend all day jacking off to anime girls.
So yeah. Deal with it or git gud.
I think lonely women don't show their loneliness as much as men. Also, I think lonely women feel the need to hide their loneliness.
She doesn't outwardly say it, but my best friend will go out a shit ton more after a break up, start experimenting with drugs more, etc. when she starts getting lonely. But then after a few months, she usually crashes and calls me sobbing about how she's actually depressed and lonely and can't handle being alone so she just acts radical and impulsive.
Pretty much every at least average looking female I know does this. I have done this (i am grill too). Some girls turn to social media and start acting "more desperate" online. Look at all the camwhores on /soc/, do you think those women are fully functioning social butterflies? We see tons of chicks posting their bodies and being sex symbols for guys to like at their finger tips. And honestly, I bet most girls would love that attention if they were feeling lonely.
With women, loneliness comes, it leads to low self esteem (feeling like an ugly old cunt), then we desperately try to fight it through validation of other people. And let's face it, most guys will get right on that vulnerable female shit.
I'm not saying it's right, but that is what female loneliness is.
>>16853992
>lonely hot girls
This meme again, baaah its so hard being attractive.
Women ignore that nice 7/10 for Chad and then complain about le no good men
>>16853992
>hotter guy may date an average girl, but it's more rare for a hot girl to date an average guy
yeah well MY real life experience tells me you're full of shit. who's right? give me some hard numbers, you bitter twat
>>16854006
not to mention that there are other aspects beside physical attractiveness, like social status, or even a sense of humor
when's the last time you saw a hot guy with a huge dumpy broad because she's high in social status?
>tess
that's an outlier and you know it
>>16854006
>give me some hard numbers,
8000000003
>>16854005
Again, the same can be said for any dude who doesn't want to date below their league.
>>16854006
Um, scientists couldn't possibly do a study on something like that since beauty is technically subjective and not really a quantifiable entity.
I'm honestly basing that off of my own experience.
Most hot guys I know date hot girls, but there are plenty who date "average looking women". People usually comment stuff like "huh, she's with HIM?" Or "you think he'd go after someone more attractive..."
It's rare to find a hot girl with an average guy unless the guy has a ton of cash.
>>16853992
So why doesn't anontette get with joe?
>>16854016
In my personal analogy anonette was out of joe's league. Assuming they're around the same level of attractiveness, then yeah she should date him.
But even if he doesn't- the point is that you can't use "well SOMEONE would date you" to discount the experiences of single lonely women because the same can be said for single lonely men. If the attraction isn't there, then it just isn't there
>>16853887
That's true. I always thought the idea of a less radical feminism provided some form of comfort that guys couldn't get
>>16853823
You don't find a soulmate by being a little bitch.
>>16854022
Isn't that reason valid if there's an objective double standard at play? For example, very overweight people wanting someone much less or not overweight?
>>16854024
It might also help that in most cultures it's socially acceptable for females to be much more friendlier with each other, especially including physical contact like hugs. If a person is getting ample affection from their group of friends, romantic affection is much less important, and so being "alone" is much easier.
>>16853844
>ditching empathy and morals
Are you a serial rapist now or something?
>>16853955
>>16853896
Problem with that Vice article is that women think education/degree=smarter, better person.
I'm pretty self-taught in a lot of things and it's easy to just not be a dumbass if that's what these girls are looking for. But i get the feeling that when women got "educated" (women's studies degrees notwithstanding), they wanted to find men who are even more "educated" - read: higher earning - than themselves, or something like that. Not much unlike women will not date a man their height or shorter, they do not want a man making less than them. Truly, hypergamy at its core.
They say men are the shallow gender because they want a pretty girlfriend or wife, yet women want a handsome husband who's actually so much more. But men are the real shallow ones. Right.
>>16854062
this is the problem. women never date down, but at the same time women are being propelled through college at a rate much higher than men and are being set up for white collar work at a much higher rate than men, as well as being hired at a much higher rate. there's too many women at the top and not enough men, and women only look up. meanwhile the men working construction and blue collar get shit on from above.
>>16854062
I will say though that men could help the situation a lot by having standards higher than "she has to be pretty". Fuck, I'd love an 'average' (not completely unattractive, but average) girl who has her shit together and works hard to earn her keep. But that's just me.
>>16854071
The funny thing is that these educated women still rely on men to build their computers, pave their roads and fix their cars. They treat them like the scum of the earth, but I never see women working on construction sites, fixing plumbing or repairing an air conditioner.
I'm totally down for meeting a girl who is intellectually stimulated. But even the "educated" ones are not always as open minded or mature as they'd love to believe that they are. It's OK, nobody's perfect. But that article man, talking down on men who don't have BS degrees in business or medicine like everyone else, as if that's all there is to life. Give me a fucking break.
thers no epidemic, go out and socialize
>>16854062
Throughout history the lowest social class has had it bad. It's been the case for over a thousand years and I highly doubt it's going to change anytime soon. Complaining about it endlessly will do nothing. If you want out of it you will need to change yourselves.
>>16853999
>there is a multitude of reasons why, why you think men seem to be lonelier probably has to do with the fact that you're not assigned a wife by your parents anymore, and women don't have to settle for you.
There's certainly something to the idea that women don't have to settle for him anymore, but the death of arranged marriage as an institution isn't why.
Among other things, in the Western cultures that OP almost certainly comes from, the practice of arranged marriage died out centuries ago. The phenomenon of women not having to settle for the bottom 10% of men is far more recent than that: most robots would date it to half a century at most. More to the point, they blame it on the sexual revolution, and there's a certain intuitive appeal to that, but I'm coming to think that this is misplaced.
Two other big changes came at about the same time that I believe explain the phenomenon better. Women's entry into the workforce is, as a phenomenon, only a decade or two older than the sexual revolution itself. Some even believe the former was necessary for the latter to come about. Whether or not it was necessary, however, it gave women options: survival could no longer come down only to the choice of marriage to a 1/10 or life as a prostitute. There was a third way, and compared to the other two, it was way more appealing.
But by itself, that's not quite enough: it explains why 1/10 men are in this position, but it doesn't explain the recent uptick in 1/10 men. For that, I believe we have to look at another phenomenon from around the same time period: the self-esteem movement.
It still sounds strange to say that, despite being convinced of it. For all the bravado that the modern 1/10 puts up, very few of them have any self-esteem to speak of. Entitlement, yes, in a certain legalistic sense: on a purely intellectual level, they think they've earned the benefits of a society that they think provides men with women. But they don't feel it.
(continues)
>>16854103
It's time to level up to the upper class, boys!
>>16853823
>What's with this epidemic of male loneliness?
You're spending too much time on 4chan
>And why is there no corresponding female epidemic?
You're not spending enough time on Tumblr. see pic related for evidence
>>16854103
>not having a cushy generic college degree makes you the "lowest social class"
Good one lol
Females are programmed to be attracted the the top 20% of males. Throughout all species, females are the genetic filter - they decide who gets to mate. Males have to be living forms of art just to have a chance of getting their dicks wet. In ducks, the male has aesthetic colourful feathers while the female is bland. In peacocks, males have beautiful, big, colourful feathers. In spiders, the male has to perform a dance, if the female likes it, he gets to mate, if she doesn't, she kills him, literally just weeding him the fuck out, so that he won't use up any more food because he won't reproduce anyways because he is a subhuman that can't dance. In humans, males are smart, strong, big and live for long. Females are emotional, irrational, weak and get out of prime and become useless very quicly
The reason marriage exists is not because females find the majority of males attractive, but because it was the social norm. Anthropologic studies have shown that in the stone age and before, most males (84% if i remember correctly) didn't get to reproduce. Now that women have been liberated, they express their genome fully as it is no longer oppressed by a political system, and you can see the 80/20 rule coming back.
http://lookism.net/Thread-Incel-Epidemic-Social-Media-IQ-and-Eugenics
>>16854120
You guys are blinded by defensiveness.
>>16853823
there is a corresponding female epidemic.
I know a lot of women who act just like fa guys here do. I'm lonely af too.
>>16854126
What ever where you implying by your use of the term "lowest social class" other than the fact that we were a part of it somehow? And how else is somebody supposed to react when they deny that statement?
>>16854126
and ur a fucking fag :))))
>>16854131
I'm quite confused. I used it as part of a sentence, I was implying the meaning of that sentence (I'll avoid repeating it). I think the completely normal way to react would be civil discourse, it seems so obvious to me I'm surprised it's a question.
>>16854111
(continued)
How could a movement that tried to make everyone feel good about themselves, in the name of helping them succeed, wind up thickening the layer of gunk at the bottom of the barrel?
The problem was twofold. One was that it tried too hard to reach everyone. First they tried to provide everyone with opportunities to find respectability within themselves: access to different kinds of interests, to draw out hidden talents. This didn't work, because they could only provide access to so many things, and even though they were leading the horses around to many different water troughs, some of them just wouldn't drink. So instead they shiften to an irrational model, where everyone should feel great about themselves because reasons. It was bullshit, and they knew it, but they accepted it for the same reason we teach Newtonian physics to children in lower levels of school: an oversimplification that lets you move on to other concepts in the shorter term, then come back to fill in the gaps later on.
The hope was that by the time kids realized what they were being spoon-fed, they'd have come out of their shelves and found their talents on their own: a foundation for a rational and healthy model of self-esteem, to replace the irrational model. But to keep the illusion up as long as possible, you couldn't put pressure on the kids to get out there and discover new things, or meet new people or anything of the sort: they had to be allowed to grow "at their own pace". Most of the 1/10s were kids who abused the concept of "at their own pace" to mean never at all, out of laziness or out of fear. A few others simply figured it all out too soon for their own good, before there was even time to develop something you could hang a healthy self-image on.
But however the timing came about, the result was the same: people figuring out that healthy self-esteem needs reasons to exist, but not finding any reasons in themselves. And so they hide and hate.
(continues)
>>16854134
This. This is why no one wants to date you. At least you can see now, right?
>>16853825
>>16853827
>>16853835
>>16853844
Especially this,
>"Really instead of complaining about this you should be becoming part of the top men as it's not gonna change soon. I know this is 4chan where everyone is >6 feet, has 8 inch dicks etc. but seriously since realizing this and focusing on myself, improving fitness and social game and ditching empathy and morals, I've gone from having a lay count of 2 (both LTRs) to double digits within a year"
>>16853896
>>16853902
>>16853903
>>16854001
These guys paint a good picture.
But for all of people's pseudo science in thread, I'll add my own experiences after going from bottom 50% of men to top 50% of men.
The only difference between the 80% of average men compared to the 20% is work. That's it - effort and work. You all - men and women - love to tell yourselves that the difference is genetics or upbringing or wealth or [insert reason here]. There is one reason and one reason alone - you are not willing to do the work to be in the top 20%.
Some people are born there. 99.99% are not. So let me ask you this:
>Are you going to the gym 3-4 times a week, researching routines on the interest, cooking food, researching nutrition, and learning how to perform maintenance on your body?
Then why do you expect women to be more attracted to you than to someone who does?
And that's just one small example of the hundreds and thousands of ways we could all be working to improve ourselves and reach for what we want. But 80% of you don't do it. And that's you. Not your genes. Not your parents. Not society. You.
None of choose how we're born, just what we do with it.
>>16853823
>What's with this epidemic of male loneliness?
because women don't have a high sex drive and they are more picky.
And why is there no corresponding female epidemic?
because males have a higher sex driver and that makes them seek women. also they are less picky.
>>16854143
I'm still not even sure what you're getting at. You're telling a hard working, self-sustaining individual that he's part of the "lowest class" because he doesn't have an education? Or am I missing something here?
I wasn't complaining about how society treats me. I'm complaining about an article that just helps show that so many women have so little appreciation for a man now unless he's "college educated".
I get women not wanting to be with a guy who has no income, no education, no future. I get that. Telling a man he's a loser and that women would have to "settle" to be with him because he's not the tallest, richest, most intelligent man ever is where I draw the line.
>>16854145
(continues)
But the low self-esteem is, in many ways, incidental. The real problem is they they aren't getting out there, whether that's due to laziness or fear. It affects all areas of life that involve social dynamics of any kind, really; women are just the scapegoats for something larger and more complex. But you've got these 1/10 men whose lives are absolute wrecks, and seek women to fix it for them. But aside from the fact that this only ever works in fiction (the Manic Pixie Dream Girl trope), they're also putting the cart before the horse: women want partners, not patients. Your average 1/10 could jump four or five points on the scale, or even more, if he built a life for himself before seeking women, but they don't want to do that. They want to be given everything, just like they think others are given everything. And so they stay at the bottom of the heap, never really understanding why,
>>16853873
that is not how it works in the animal kingdom and that also applies to us humans. only the top males get to reproduce with 80% of females. what is happening is that only the top males are getting all the women.
>>16853972
> - Lonely males and lonely females do not interact, they do not like each other or even acknowledge each others existence, they want to get with healthy people.
Out of everything in the thread this stood out to me the most. Makes perfect sense when I wonder why lonely females hated me so much in the past.
Replying to it so it doesn't get lost.
>>16853887
that is because they get to fuck chad once in a while they might not get commitment but they still get to enjoy the pleasure of sex and get at least a day with a hot stud.
>>16854156
Interesting compilation anon.
>>Are you going to the gym 3-4 times a week, researching routines on the interest, cooking food, researching nutrition, and learning how to perform maintenance on your body?
Not terribly interested in this stuff, I'm happy where I'm at.
I do understand how women can have a double standard that they demand this when they themselves aren't willing to put in the same.
Why accept less if you're coddled so much that you don't have to?
>>16854168
Fucking redpillers.
Your vision of the animal kingdom is not inly grossly oversimplified, it also carries no evolutionary validity. Different species run a massive gamut of mating strategies. Even among out closest living evolutionary cousins, we can see that whole gamut in action, from the hypersexual bonobo ape to the hierarchical gorilla to other species, some of which even practice things akin to monogamy. Our own evolutionary history is simply too muddied for evopsych billshit to even apply.
>>16854180
>Not terribly interested in this stuff, I'm happy where I'm at.
>I do understand how women can have a double standard that they demand this when they themselves aren't willing to put in the same.
>Why accept less if you're coddled so much that you don't have to?
I'm trying to be nice here... thank you for proving my >>16854156 point.
Look at your backwards, twisted logic that boils down to:
>You just don't want to.
There, we've solved the male loneliness epidemic.
>You just don't want to.
>You're not terribly interested
In what? Improving yourself to the point that hot women throw themselves at you because they see how hard you work and the good result that it brings in your life?
Oh OK. I'm glad we solved that.
>You just don't want to.
It's not about being coddled. it's not about double standards. It's about a very simple fact:
>you just don't want to.
Exercise is scientifically proven to improve mood, physical health, mental health, emotional health, sexual health, and increase life expectancy.
>Not terribly interested in this stuff
Oh. OK.
>>16853827
Yeah, guys on /r9k/ like to go on and on about hypergamy or whatever but there are tons of single girls out there looking for a relationship, they're just usually not the 7/10+ that most guys are looking for just like most single guys aren't the 7/10+ that most girls are looking for. Pretty much everyone is looking to play out of their league.
>>16854188
You seem a tad butthurt over the fact that not everyone wants to become a gym rat.
Just because somebody doesn't dedicate their life to exercise doesn't mean they are a worse person, and I've had plenty of interesting conversations with people who chose to pursue something else like an artistic, creative or professional endeavor over body building and getting all the hawt bitchez.
Where YOUR logic falls apart is that you assume that just because somebody doesn't work out regularly, it means that they don't work hard or have any value, period. But this is patently false.
(not the guy you responded to btw)
>>16853823
Arguably "foreveralone" men are just as hypocritical as women who describe themselves as "foreveralone" despite having (undesirable) boyfriends, judging by what I've seen of /r9k/ most of them aren't that hideous looking, if they were truly that lonely and desperate for female companionship they'd have little difficulty finding a girlfriend if they were willing to date 300lb landwhales or mentally unstable single mothers
>>16854188
Why are you so butt hurt that I'm not interested in joining in on the coddling?
You don't have to try to be nice, just be nice anon. Unless you don't want to- nobody's forcing you.
>>16854193
>Exercise is scientifically proven to improve mood, physical health, mental health, emotional health, sexual health, and increase life expectancy.
>not everyone wants to become a gym rat.
Keep twisting that logic. Keep intentionally misrepresenting. People can see what you're doing to avoid confronting the truth of the situation you know.
>Just because somebody doesn't dedicate their life
One hour, 3-4 times a week is dedicated your life? Is your life only three to your hours per week long? I have 24 hours in just one day. Weird.
> it means that they don't work hard or have any value, period
Nope, never said any of that. That's just you trying to twist your way out of the simple fact:
>You just don't want to.
>Exercise is scientifically proven to improve mood, physical health, mental health, emotional health, sexual health, and increase life expectancy.
Why would a woman chose you over someone who has better physical, mental, emotional, and sexual health than you?
They wouldn't. Stop trying to twist it up with your silliness. You understand. Stop wasting your own time, for you own sake and accept what you can easily see is in front of your face.
Or you can keep calling me butthurt. It won't change who I am vs. who you are and what we get in real life.
>>16853951
Jesus, I'll take being lonely over being with any of the men in this thread, holy shit. Y'all ignorant. You want something badly enough, go fucking get it. You don't go get it? Guess you didn't want it, tough shit!
Personally, I like working, and I like making my own living without needing a man. It's nice to have one for the sex, as long as it's good, but a lifetime of being burned has made me incredibly wary and picky.
Guy I'm seeing now, well, I'm fucking done. I feel lonelier than I did when I was alone, so I'm peacing out.
>>16854193
To us "gym rats" people who complain about not being attractive to the opposite sex and yet refuse to take steps towards improving their physical attractiveness such as exercising are like people who complain about not having enough money to buy the shit that they want despite having ample opportunity to go and get a job to earn money to buy aforementioned shit that they want
>>16854206
it's usually the same guys who complain about "hurr women get all the guys I get no1 :((( they only want Chad" but refuse to get with, say, a chubby black girl. they do the exact same thing but refuse to acknowledge it
>>16854206
>"red pill" says that a woman will be happiest if she marries early and raises a family instead of having a career and that riding the cock carousel will eventually just make her a bitter and lonely spinster
>random femanon posts about how having a career and a lifetime of sleeping around has made her jaded and lonely
Not that surprising unfortunately
>>16854231
my experience has been the opposite desu. work has made me more fulfilled than I can imagine, my coworkers are like my best friends, and if I want a boyfriend I've got options, but for now I'm enjoying taking it easy with guys. I used to be lonely as fuck but then I worked on self improvement, got back into kickboxing and self care, things like that. it's made everything so much better. you can change your life anytime, you just can't be a lazy shit that expects it to fall into your lap
>>16854205
>keep twisting that logic
I never fucking denied the benefits of working out. But the fact that some anon said "eh, not big on that stuff" has you going on your little rant here is just laughable.
>people can see what you're doing
lol
>one hour, 3-4 times a week is dedicated your life?
You talked about guys who work out so hard that bitches "throw themselves at him". Here's a tip though, to get the type of shredded body that women really go nuts over, you're going to have to put in more than 3-4 generic workout routines a week unless you're already tall, well built and handsome.
>nope, never said any of that
You implied it with your little ramblings about how anon is not terribly interested in going to the gym, therefore he's not interested in improving himself at all:
>In what? Improving yourself to the point that hot women throw themselves at you because they see how hard you work and the good result that it brings in your life?
>Why would a woman chose you over someone who has better physical, mental, emotional, and sexual health than you?
I see women get with average looking guys all the time. Your entire premise is built around the idea that every woman ever has only ever cared about getting with a /fit/izen type of guy. But there's men everywhere short tall fat and skinny who have girlfriends, wives or otherwise fulfilling sexual lives.
>b-but women would STILL rather choose a fit guy over an out of shape guy!!
All things equal? Sure. Here's the thing though, more often than not "all things equal" does not apply in the slightest. If gym-guy has anger issues and is somewhat of an alcoholic, he's not always going to be considered more attractive than a skinny fat guy who has it together and doesn't struggle with emotional issues.
>but science said that
I'm telling you things I've seen play out in real life. Take that as you will.
>who I am vs. who you are
Someone with a superiority complex because he works out. K
>>16854215
>>16854205
This chauvinistic attitude actually makes "gym rats" less interesting / attractive to me personally.
I understand the appeal, but looking fit is not an ultimate measure of attractiveness, and there are other ways of getting food than money.
>>16854205
>It won't change who I am vs. who you are
We're one in the same, you're just a little confused in that you seem to believe you're worth more.
>>16854193
> You seem a tad butthurt over the fact that not everyone wants to become a gym rat.
You don't have to be a buffed up gym rat, smart slim guys do fantastic as well.
>>16854259
>smart slim guys do fantastic
I understand you may personally have had this experience, but I'd just like to point out that my experience has been the opposite.
There are quite a few fellows at work that have it together and are visibly putting in effort, with very little to show.
>>16854255
>I understand the appeal, but looking fit is not an ultimate measure of attractiveness, and there are other ways of getting food than money.
This is exactly what I'm getting at. A variety of things make a guy attractive. Confidence, wit, humor, intelligence etc. all play a role.
I'm not even suggesting it's a bad idea to work out but anon jumped to all sorts of conclusions when other anon said he's not terribly interested in working out, which is why I called him out on his incredibly narrow view of people.
>>16854268
The 'smart' part is required, in all senses (clothes, intelligence etc).
>>16854281
>what is subjective
You might be thinking of the word popular, not smart.
As in top 20% popular.
>>16854254
>>16854255
You are both missing his point. Although he also didnt really made a good job explaining his point of view.
Working out was only one example where you could put in work. There are plenty more! Build a stable career, be as creative as possible and share your creativity with others, learn to be charismatic and a good talker, do some other sports that you could like, maybe a teamsport and become a teamplayerguy, join a band(learn an instrument first), improve in that aspect of life you think is most important to yourself and your goals. Pick one, two or everything from above, pick stuff that isnt on this list. You need to do stuff to get stuff, its that simple.
>>16854292
I know it's subjective, that's why I give up on going any further into it.
No, popular is not the correct word. Maybe that's some local slang you have?
>>16854295
>Working out was only one example where you could put in work.
Which is what I said, here:
>I've had plenty of interesting conversations with people who chose to pursue something else like an artistic, creative or professional endeavor over body building and getting all the hawt bitchez.
All I got from his post was that working out is the only sensible way to get women and if you disagree you're in denial.
>>16854306
>And that's just one small example of the hundreds and thousands of ways we could all be working to improve ourselves and reach for what we want.
How the fuck did you miss that part of it?
Seems pretty clear.
>All I got from his post was that working out is the only sensible way to get women and if you disagree you're in denial.
>just one small example
Uhhhhhhhhhhh
I hate to admit it because I usually picture myself as aloof and ultimately flexible, but fuck me I've been lonely lately. It's even worse now because I'm stationed way away from home, and yes there's cool friends to make, things to do on weekends, family back home to face time with, but I can't help my lonely itch. Wtf is wrong with me?
>>16854295
I'm sorry I wasn't clear in my own point. (I honestly wasn't)
>>16854180
Nothing wrong with putting in effort to make yourself happy. And if you see something that interests you, by all means put in effort towards it, but only if that makes you happy.
What I find interesting is that many people seem to get really bent out of shape when you suggest that there is a double standard involved.
There's nothing illogical about taking advantage of that double standard.
There's also a good reason to try and keep it somewhat hidden...
But only if you're interested in maintaining the status quo, which is not a reasonable position.
>>16854322
You're on 4chan.
>>16854331
I know bro, but still
Even if I was home I feel like I'd be in a funk. I'm gonna buy a bunch of good books to read and see where that takes me, imma start with the sequel to Hatchet, I just learned there was one
>>16854314
It got lost in the ramblings of how working out makes you superior. That and you assumed because Anon doesn't want to be in the gym, he isn't interested in bettering himself period.
>>16854180
>Are you going to the gym 3-4 times a week, researching routines on the interest, cooking food, researching nutrition, and learning how to perform maintenance on your body?
>Not terribly interested in this stuff, I'm happy where I'm at.
>I do understand how women can have a double standard that they demand this when they themselves aren't willing to put in the same.
How many "No Fat Chicks" T-shirts do you own, I wonder?
>>16854303
You're welcome to elaborate if you change your mind. I suggest that changing the word to popular is a much more coherent idea.
It means appealing to the arbitrary whims of society, and it does require being smart, but being egotistical is much more important.
>>16853915
You know a "traditional" housewife is in charge of the budget so she takes all the money and gives the husband a stipend?
>>16854353
Not him but this sounds sweet as long as we both get the same amount.
>>16853823
I see ugly 3/10 guys with solid 8/10 girls all the time. Maybe your personality just blows. Women go for funny and friendly guys, whose personalities make them become attractive.
I didn't find my bf attractive at all until he made a particular joke, that I can't even remember now, and I realized how clever he is and suddenly I got wet every time I saw him.
Work on your people skills.
>>16854455
>coolstorybro.jpg
Ug, I actually read the entire thread.
Look, "personality is more important" is wrong. Girls are crying about how they don't want some rich muscley chad and the problem is "men don't want to be men these days". Guys are telling other guys to "try harder" and "practice socialising". That's bullshit.
Males, you want female attention, increase your money and your looks.
Girls are going to jump on me and say they value confidence, humor, charisma, "personality". YOU CAN'T HELP THAT. A boring/creepy/shy/low-self-esteem guy will never change. If you COULD change your personality, then there wouldn't be any losers right?
When you get out of retail and enter the real workplace you'll get it, you'll start noticing that people in their 30s, 40s and even 50s do things that seem like a middle school kid. Because people don't change.
So for the lonely girls, fuck off. You say you'd accept a less attractive guy as long as he acts like the perfect BF, but all the good-personality guys are already taken and there won't ever be any more.
Lonely guys, make good career choices and start bulking, eventually a girl will look past your spergs.
>>16853823
We gotta weed out you weaklings somehow.
Seriously though how do you have trouble with women? I'm from everything to dick size to height and I've never had trouble.
>tfw I don't kniw tfw no gf
>>16853823
Because whenever women complain about being lonely, there will be a mass of men that won't take her seriously because she's a girl and the dating game should be supposedly easy for girls.
>>16854601
>make online account
>500 messages in 24 hours
>reject all of them
>im so lonely
>>16854345
>you assumed because Anon doesn't want to be in the gym, he isn't interested in bettering himself period.
But is that assumption incorrect? That's the real question. Few people who neglect their bodies are ever interested in putting in the effort to maintain or improve much if anything else.
Not going to read every post. However, I'd like to throw in my 2 cents to all you lonely dudes.
( I'm not posting a pic as I have a professional job and don't need co-workers knowing I visit 4chan. )
I've been told I'm a 9/10 or 8/10 and a few 10/10s. By women. Many women, will flirt with me and such. Now here's the kicker. I'm a-sexual, ( not just saying I am... I REALLY am. ) ... I have zero sexual interest, doesn't mean I don't enjoy looking at hentai / porn / erotic drawings writings. But when it comes to my own needs. I can jack off and be fine for months. I only jack it for health reason frankly.
Its pretty sad to see how angry everyone gets over lack of girlfriends or boyfriends. As some might say ( I'd be swimming in pussy. ) ... But I just don't care, want or need it to live and be happy. Sucks for all of you wanting sex so bad you dwell into a depression of self hate and anger, when life has so many other interesting fun things to experience.
You can get the same sensations you gain from orgasm if you find the right hobbies or things to do. I've had better and bigger pleasure from sky diving for example or rock climbing. Then thinking of dunking my dick in some girls pussy. Seriously...
Fuck girls if that's how they make you feel. Why give them more power?
But do whatever you want. Its just a suggestion. There's more things worth doing than dwelling on something that dominates your own ego.
>>16854651
>I have zero sexual interest
>doesn't mean I don't enjoy looking at hentai / porn / erotic drawings writings
my fucking sides, youre jusst making up an excuse for 'i cant get pussy so theres better things in life'
>>16854656
k anon, I'll remember your witty insult while you wack off to bestiality and cry on /adv/ little with feels.png as your opener and can't get a gf or bf. Since either way you are a nobody.
Wasn't direct at you but take it personally.
Best example of a loser crybaby right here fellow anons.
>>16854666
>while you wack off to bestiality
>is hentai fan
a y y
>Since either way you are a nobody.
and who the fuck are you?
>>16854617
>Few people who neglect their bodies are ever interested in putting in the effort to maintain or improve much if anything else.
Based on the messages promoting fit in this thread, I'd suggest that such people have neglected forming anything resembling confidence and a cohesive world view.
So I'd say yeah, that assumption is fairly incorrect.
>>16854605
Haha those are just the girls with really high standards though, and those are also the girls who are at least 7/10.
There are a lot of lonely, average looking girls who probably have too low self esteem to even consider making a profile. They just stay low and hidden
>>16854870
>they'd just rather blow Chad in the club bathroom
FTFY
>>16854934
>they'd just rather blow Chad in the club bathroom
As opposed to putting up with your bullshit? Yeah. Most of them would. Women want a lover, not a son they can fuck.
>>16854353
>You know a "traditional" housewife is in charge of the budget so she takes all the money and gives the husband a stipend?
No, only in Asia. But those are subhumans anyways.
Men control all the budget in western traditional families.
>>16855003
>Men control all the budget in western traditional families.
No, that phemonenon it also rather new, as it turbs out. Seems to have mostly taken root just post-WWII.
>>16855003
>Asian
>Subhuman
Go back to /pol/, you don't belong here.
>inb4 "you mad chink?"
>>16855098
The smart play is for the most financially astute member of the couple to handle most financials while the other monitors the process.
Fuck tradition. Adult circumcision is "tradition" too but I'm not down with hacking deenda. Operate as effective adults. Tradition is for people too stupid to think for themselves.
>>16854156
Self improvement only works if you're average/slightly below average. If you're a 5'1'' ugly manlet with social anxiety no amount of self improvement will save you.
>>16855187
It can't hurt. I've met shorter guys than me (I'm 5' 5") with money and muscles. No hint of any napoleon complex or self-esteem issues from them either. It can be done and it's totally worth it.
>>16855187
They can do well in the shadowy scene, they just need to control the social dynamic. Nobody is looking at your body when it's all trippy clubs, luxury and inner-corporation politics.
>>16855328
>it's totally worth it.
Is it?
>>16855001
So lover means consumer... Are you really that disposable?
>>16854206
>y'all ignorant
>peacing out
I would bet a million dollars that you're white and you have a Tumblr.
>>16854171
The best way to get a gf is to make people think you don't need one and don't care whether you have one or not, but that's a sign of confidence and self-assurance.
>>16854156
Isn't that a quote from Mewtwo?
>>16854124
>Anthropologic studies have shown that in the stone age and before, most males (84% if i remember correctly) didn't get to reproduce.
They haven't. Women are certainly more selective than men, on average, and higher-status individuals always have been and always will be more reproductively successful (again on average), but the current thinking is that prehistoric bands were substantially more egalitarian than that. So are most h/g bands today. So, for that matter, are most chimpanzee communities! The trends you're talking about do exist, but both human and primate mating strategies are substantially subtler and more complex than you're giving us to believe. In fact, there's recent evidence suggesting that agriculture and stratified society may have substantially reduced reproductive equality for men!
I'm not trying to be belligerent, but I'm curious what studies you're referencing, how recently they were done, and by whom. Our picture of prehistoric society is constantly changing and has seen some dramatic upheavals in the past couple decades.
>>16853873
>someone jumps into a thread with no idea and assumes something
I've not been to this board for very long but it's really starting to remind me what normal people are like. Doesn't think before they open their mouths. And you had to enter a captcha.
>>16854870
>There are a lot of lonely, average looking girls who probably have too low self esteem to even consider making a profile. They just stay low and hidden
Except there are still a ton of lonely average looking girls on dating site.
>>16854353
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pRKmhjZy7hw
Totally wrong.
>>16854353
That's the way it worked in Scandinavia. The 'husmor' is in charge of hiring staff for a farm and everything except for the direct day to day control of farmhands. Usually a position that commands respect and has a lot of control concerning finances and decisions. Generally she also did housework since management wasn't a full time endeavor. She also decided on the social and political stances in the house. Since society has moved away from the kind of family structure that demands management like that the duties are more about housework than anything. And eventually the modern day where for no reason other than sexism housewives are looked down upon.
As if it's not a perfectly valid choice and has major statistical advantages when it comes to family planning matters. Fairly rare to be able to support a household on one wage now.
>>16855943
>So lover means consumer...
By your definition, I suppose that's exactly what it means, but women don't want to be co sumed in that way. To use another set of metaphors, they want partners, not patients. They are not interested in being your manic pixie dream girl who shows you how to live.
Are you really that disposable?
>>16855187
>Self improvement only works if you're average/slightly below average. If you're a 5'1'' ugly manlet with social anxiety no amount of self improvement will save you.
Your defeatist attitude hurts your chances of dating far worse than any of the others, followed by your social anxiety, your looks, and your height, in order of decreasing severity. The first three are all fixable. Your wounds are almost entirely self-inflicted.
>>16853857
Husbands used to be able to rape their wives legally in Canada until the 70s/80s, forgot the exact date.
>>16853823
Does male lonliness correspond also with the hatred of women, because it kind of seems like it reading through this thread.
Maybe you should just open your eyes, besides the media brainwashing people into behaving certain ways and life experience, women and men aren't really different.
Go on 4chan.
>dude only the hottest guys get le gurlz!!!
>gurlz all want le same guy!!!!
Go outside.
>fat, scrawny, 4/10 males holding hands with decent looking babes and vise versa
>short guys chatting girls up in bars and going home with them
>>16856483
>go outside
things that never happened
>>16853873
Stats and reality mean nothing in the face of the emotions of a bitter, lonely man.
>>16856410
Sorry, what definition?
I was referring to how you mentioned you'd rather perform tricks in a bathroom on someone you imagine is better than have a relationship with someone on your own level.
>>16856640
Hey! You might find the first reply interesting.
>>16857359
Junk stats only mean anything to the emotions of a bitter, lonely man.
>>16854295
I'm someone whos about to finish biz school, am currently a bass player in 2 bands, have been playing hocky sice I could walk, cycling, gunsmith/shooter, has 30k inna bank at 22y/o not counting stocks and bonds, and got to sit at the table with the company prez, cfo, and other important mafuckas last week, why have I never been able to get a girlfriend? I don't go arround flaunting all this shit, but even my friends are starting to be shocked Im going to turn 23 with my virginity.
>>16856483
>outside
the fuck is this magical land of possibility?
>>16857495
How many women have you asked out? How did they react?
>>16857502
2, I've always have been friendzoned. I'm just an average looking czech/welsh dude. The problem probably is my fraternal twin is better looking and better at hockey and music than me. Dude gets girls thrown at him but his problem is he is some moralfag who wants a nice innocent girl.
>>16854559
Tbh this guy is right. Used to hate myself, banged a lot of sluts, still hate myself. You don't change on the inside.
>What's with this epidemic of male loneliness?
it does not exist.
>>16857546
>it does not exist.
It does, in a sense: there are certainly a lot of lonely men out there, and it's pretty easy to argue that there are a lot more of them than there used to be. But the real epidemic is of undateability: the NEETs and shut-ins, the redpillers and MGTOWs, and the creepers and manchildren. These are people who are not ready for relationships or even sex, but hormones being what they are, they obsess and whine to no end. They are aware they don't measure up, but literally cannot see themselves doing anything about it -not because they can't do it, but because they just don't want to- and so they go about blaming everyone and everything but themselves. Which, of course, makes them even less desirable. And this really HAS reached epidemic status.
I think I found the right thread for my question.
Tipping each others fedoras
-Does it make you gay or not?
>>16857484
>stats agree with my agenda: This is reality!
>stats disagree with my agenda: This is junk!
Are you sure it's men that are bitter, or are you just buying into "junk stats"?
>>16857634
>it's pretty easy to argue that there are a lot more of them than there used to be.
easy to argue but fundamentally untrue.
>>16857634
>They are aware they don't measure up, but literally cannot see themselves doing anything about it -not because they can't do it
Why do you assume that there's always a solution for everyone? Do you really believe that any life is salvageable?
In many cases, they don't measure up due to factors that are either genetic, or were determined during adolescence and can't be changed. If these people felt that there were real solutions to their problems that are realistically achievable for them, then they would love to have them.
It's kind of a numbers problem too. There has always been a bunch of people, male and female, who weren't getting laid/married. Even the ones that were getting married, it was to the daughter of one of the other serfs who was probably a 5/10 aka average at best. Only an irresponsible father would marry his daughter to someone who couldn't support a family and/or didn't bring any resources into a family alliance. Plus, since families were large, it was efficient to keep a couple of unmarried old maids around to take care of the parents when they got old, or nurse the sick, or basically be an unpaid house slave until they died, if they didn't have any good prospects. Then, from the prehistoric times through the Middle Ages and even up until the Victorian period, there were always plenty of wars and conflict to "burn off" the excess male population. This would hit the lower status males the worst, since it was generally frowned upon for non-officers to be married. Now that we don't have those systems in place, all of the old maids that would have stayed home to take care of their parents/relatives and the unmarriagiable guys that would have bit the dust in some war or been a shepherd or sailor in the middle of nowhere, are still around to bitch on the internet about "tfw no gf/bf".
>>16853823
>Women are naturally selective and have high standards for physical attraction/sex
>Men naturally like to fuck a lot of women, and are less selective than women
>Men and women can generally have casual sex without any real negative personal consequences
>The most attractive guys have no reason to limit themselves to only one woman
>>16857634
>talking shit about MGTOWs when they are doing you a huge favor by telling you to self improve and warning you that the dating game is rigged against you.
MGTOWs exist to study female nature and to spread the knowledge. After that is up to you to decide what you do with that knowledge and we do this because we generally care about men because men are committing suicide at an alarming rate by marring women.
>>16856483
that is very rare and it is always the opposite the guy is usually the most attractive in the relationship or the same level of attractiveness.
>>16857674
>easy to argue but fundamentally untrue.
Then where have all of these men been for the last ten thousand years? That's as far back as we have records, and they contain nothing like this. Ever. Anytime. Anywhere.
>>16857727
>Why do you assume that there's always a solution for everyone? Do you really believe that any life is salvageable?
Partly because people have agency. They can and do, through their choices, make meaningful changes on their lives and their environments.
Partly because love and atteaction are complex things. Literally anything can be compensated for, and that can be done in myriad different ways.
>In many cases, they don't measure up due to factors that are either genetic...
...and less impactful in this day and age than at any other time in history...
>... or were determined during adolescence and can't be changed.
They can be. All of them.
>If these people felt that there were real solutions to their problems that are realistically achievable for them,
And that, right there, is the "realistically achievable" but. They are, indeed, realistically achievable. Outside the comfort zone, yes, but that is not the same as unrealistic, and it is certainly not an excuse.
>>16857666
>Are you sure it's men that are bitter, or are you just buying into "junk stats"?
Are you honestly trying to tell me that men are not bitter? I hate telling people to open their eyes, but for the love of God, man, open your eyes. This very thread reeks of bitterness, and there are dozens like it on this board. Hundreds, if you expand it to the whole site. Reading this thread, you stand in the center of a hurricane of bitterness, so thick you could eat it with chopsticks, and you tell me that men are not bitter?
>>16857900
>it is always the opposite the guy is usually the most attractive in the relationship or the same level of attractiveness.
Dennis Kucinich. Celine Dion. Literally any supermodel. Thousands of others. You lose.
>>16857813
>MGTOWs exist to study female nature and to spread the knowledge.
They exist to make shit up, blame women for their own failure, and sink into a quagmire of self-pity. Their message is fundamentally poisoned by its raw narcissism; we may coincidentally agree that self-improvement is a good and necessary thing, but they are no allies of mine.
>>16853992
>>16854006
>>16853992
>>16854014
i often observe that girls are with guys below their attractiveness level. unless you have self confidence, (shocker) you tend to not think you're hot. people get with partners who are thought to be good matches.
>>16857980
>men are not bitter?
All sorts of people are bitter when it suits them. But are you certain that it's not you in this instance? Because so far you're just rejecting statements that don't seem to appeal to your agenda without making any sort of argument to justify your prejudice.
>>16853823
Because you're only looking at cute girls.
Of course cute girls will never be lonely. All men want them, after all.
But once you look at the ugly, fat, annoying women, you'll see the majority of them are either complaining about being lonely, settling for whoever can take them, or just giving up and shipping gay guys in whatever series or anime they watch.
>>16857813
MGTOW has nice data and some good points, but until now I haven't seen they purpose any viable solution to female hypergamy or their emancipation
>>16854295
Can people be shy without it being a personal problem? (inb4 pointing out i'm being pedantic)
>>16854455
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/humor-sapiens/201504/good-in-bed-funny-men-give-more-orgasms
>>16858259
>purpose
The purpose is to help relieve confusion. The Disney story which leads many men to unwittingly enter into a Bad Deal (marriage or other heavily-invested relationships) is fueling suicide rates as per
>>16857813
There isn't a solution to hypergamy because it isn't a problem. It's a logical decision for females to make give the circumstances.
The problem is the delusions that enable these circumstances and the cowardice of all of us to stand up to it. After all, challenging the status quo is dangerous.
Live comfortably and contribute to death and destruction of humanity, or stand up and face adversity from that same thankless humanity in order to benefit all. It doesn't seem like there's no logical choice here, but I think one of them resonates more with each of us, and that's nature.
>>16854455
>coolstorybro.jpg [2]
>>16858364
sorry, not purpose, propose
i feel like lowkey girls want a guy to be worried about, a guy they can go to their friends and complain about since nice guys are supposedly "boring"
>>16853823
There is. But men and women go about solving this problem in two very different ways that are more self destructive for men than they are for women outside of the most outlandish and disgusting situations. Men are also more likely to just fucking end it brutally, whereas women linger. Men are also more likely to complain about loneliness, where women are more likely to complain about bad relationships. It's a weird paradox.
>>16854455
We find people we imagine superior to be funny as a defense mechanism in hopes that they won't commit violence against us. Either that, or we have an arbitrarily developed framework of personal humor, which you don't. Your bf isn't actually funny at all. It's good that you're able to find a positive way to view someone so evidently intimidating though.
>>16858189
Kek
>>16858495
Not always. I have a nice guy now who is wonderful. The key is him not fawning all over me like a little bitch and doing everything for me. That's where the "nice guys" go wrong- they're TOO nice. Women don't want to be treated like goddesses graced from heaven all of time, except for the ones that you don't want to be with anyway.
>>16853993
SaTy dry, pepper
>>16858488
Still addressed- hypergamy is not a problem, it is a logical result. The problem is the delusions that lead to it. see: >>16858364
>>16858558
>I have a nice guy, and I admit he is wonderful, probably more than any of my competitors could gain, but he still needs to validate himself because there are always options.After all, I could use the "TOO NICE" excuse if it becomes inconvenient...
FTFY
>>16857519
2.... fucking wow.
>>16854651
Maybe people just want intimacy with another human being you soulless freak.
It's not about the orgasms, otherwise apes would have gone extinct the moment their arms were long enough to reach their genitals
>>16858139
>All sorts of people are bitter when it suits them. But are you certain that it's not you in this instance?
I would certainly hope not, seeing as I've got almost no skin in this game. I was a creepy kid, but I came to my senses in high school. Fucking sucked. But I got myself a girlfriend, I survived all of college with her long-distance, and we've been happily married ever since. I've got no reason to be bitter.
But I could certainly have taken that path. This was back before terms like redpill and MGTOW were even coined, but I see people here every day who are where I was before I woke up. Often they even use the same words. That's why I come here: I'm under no illusions about saving souls, but a nudge is still useful.
This entire thread is why I turned to whores instead. Fuck all of you.
>>16853993
Stay dry, pupper
>>16858915
hypergamy is a problem, it could be nullified by getting us back to arranged marriages.
But nobody wants that, right.
Being womanless(not just 'single') is still better than marrying someone you don't want,
>>16858915
what are the delusions that lead to it
>>16859682
>hypergamy is a problem, it could be nullified by getting us back to arranged marriages.
The Western world abandoned arranged marriage as a common practice centuries ago: long before the so-called "hypergamy" "problem" ever took shape. You are barking up the wrong tree entirely if you are looking for causes or solutions to your undateability.
>>16859248
>Maybe people just want intimacy with another human being you soulless freak.
Maybe, but not the people whining about this sort of thing. They're quite keen on sex, of course, but intimacy? That's for beta cucks.
>>16858495
that is true nice guys are not going to giver her the drama she craves and she wants a guy who is unpredictable like a bad boy. also the bad boy will not be afraid to initiate sex and give her rough sex. If I was you I would just continue to ignoring nice guys they have nothing to offer but kindness. you ladies need a bad boy who is going to fuck you rough and give you excitement.
>>16859267
>I was a creepy kid
Creepy is code word for unattractive. You still haven't made any attempt to substantiate your position.
But if you have a gf, I do understand the motivation to keep up appearances. I would say you're doing everyone a disservice by doing so, but your blatantly dishonest approach (repeatedly avoiding subjects) should give anyone reading this a pretty good idea of the nature of your message.
Good luck-
>>16853823
Militant feminism and male shaming happened.
A bunch of delusional, fat, ugly liberal cunts decided that it's a guys fault for not wanting to have their beef queefed inside a hamplanet hogmonster' nasty sweaty unshaven meatflaps. So they collectively began a perma-period and began to punish men in general with marches, campaigns and the Internet.
Now boys are taught that it's ok to be sensitive and cry, wear guyliner and grow their hair long, consider their sexuality "fluid", while being taught that traditionally manly characteristics and traits are to be shunned or even feared, such as growing facial hair, working on and driving fast cars, weight lifting or hunting. Problem is that most girls actually like the idea of being protected and lost in a man's masculinity, so they shy away from feminine guys.
TL;DR modern day guys are pussies so man up. Girls already have one pussy and don't need another
>>16855187
Danny Devito.
I think the OP picture summons it very well. Women are not into settling.
>>16854156
I can't get to the top 80% when I'm 5'6". I'm screwed.
>>16860269
Top 20%* I'm stupid.
>>16854156
This. I don't think it has anything to do with women only wanting to be with guys that are "chads" (fuck /r9k/ for even coining this term, it's a fucking stereotype). You simply have to give off an aura of confidence and not be a complete social fuckup, which comes with experience.
Most people here like to pretend that they are looking for something real, but in reality they have poor self-esteem, a negative outlook on life, and hunt after girls that are physically attractive/communicate with them because they are desperate. That, or they have have a cringeworthy, idealistic view of relationships.
I go to the gym. I go outside and do things with my friends. I play a sport and have hobbies that require human interaction. I am more focused on the future, who I want to become and what I want to accomplish, more than what is going on around me now.
Low self-esteem destroys potential. Having faith in yourself, dispipline, and dedication to achieving your goals even when others don't will take you far.
Most women and men are insecure. If you are able to analyze your own thought processes, see how they influence your subconscious, and putting your effort into stomping them out will put you ahead of them. Not only that, but it will improve your personality and make you much more attractive as well.
You don't have to be good looking to be attractive (with the right makeup and demeanor, Ive seen average looking girls shoot up a few points in my eyes and are more appealing than a physically beautiful girl who is unconfident in herself in my eyes).
Sure, I have better genetics than most. Then again, I may be lying about that and its just my ego/warped sense of self-perception telling me that. Or its just the result of the effort that I have put into improving every aspect of myself.
Improving yourself isn't about changing what you say, its about changing the easy you feel and ACT.
It doesn't matter who you are, but you must work hard and set yourself apart.
>>16860269
I'm 5'6" and pretty successful in life and with girls. You must be doing something wrong. Maybe stop poisoning your mind with /r9k/ ?
>>16860319
How many girls have turned you down over your height?
>>16860269
One of my best friends is 5'5" and has a golden personality. He's a smart person, gives the impression that he does not care what other people think of him, and is just a great guy to be around in general. He's with one of the most attractive girls that I have ever met, and they have been with each other for several hours a day the past year. She just happens to be short, too.
>>16860332
Who the fuck cares? I'm 6'2" and used to get turned down because of my pushiness/social awkwardness.
Once you develop your game it's smooth sailing.
>>16860333
>She just happens to be short, too.
I'm afraid of getting with a short girl and making short kids who will be equally as insecure over their height.
>>16860332
No idea. Probably none or next to none? When a girl turns me down I don't go all aspie and ask her why.
>It's my height isn't it? Huh? I knew it! Life is so unfair!
Height is very low on the list of things that make up a guy's attractiveness.
>>16860361
>Height is very low on the list of things that make up a guy's attractiveness.
Is this a joke?
>>16860337
Why the fuck do you care what other people think? Insecure people will always be insecure people unless they change on their own, if they want to be jealous of you then just let them feel inferior. You know why? Because you know you would've worked hard for it and earned it.
>>16860368
I don't want any of my future sons to go through what I've gone through with my height. The self-loathing, suicidal thoughts, etc.
>>16860361
>Height is very low on the list of things that make up a guy's attractiveness.
It's not the be-all-end-all as these self-defeatists make it out to be, but it is important. Being tall is the ideal. However, you can still be attractive even if you're short if you're adequate in other areas.
>>16853873
That statement is only valid in a society that enforces female chastity and monogamous marriage. Bereft of those conventions we become more like most animal populations, where a small minority of the top males monopolizes virtually the entire female breeding population.
>>16860366
The only joke here is you.
>>16860382
It's not even in the top 10. The important things are confidence, being interesting, funny, successful, having good style/hygiene, good looks (yes, face trumps height every time), not being a jerk, and so on. All a lot more important than height.
>>16860381
You're using height as an excuse. You're insecure because of your mental issues. Stop trying to give us short guys a bad name, I don't want to be lumped in with trash like you.
>>16853823
>Male Loneliness
You are joking, right?
Women have created a massive fucking minefield of social nonsense. Combine that with the NSA quick hook up culture and it is a fucking recipe for disaster.
Also we have a growing number of people who were children from divorce families. Do you honestly know what family fragmentation does to a child? It screws them up, that's what it does.
We have a generation of men who were raised in divorced households or from women who were single mothers; some have wised up and swore off even having kids as a result knowing that their own kids and themselves would have to deal with the Child Support and Alimony BS.
>>16860397
>face trumps height every time
I don't believe it. I have an 8/10 face, but I would rather be a tall dude with a 5/10 face.
You seem so confident in your assertions. Where did you get all of this information from?
>>16860401
My mental issues stem from my height insecurity.
>>16860405
>You seem so confident in your assertions. Where did you get all of this information from?
Years of seeing lanky awkward dudes stay single while confident good looking 5'7" guys consistently got dates.
Height is really not terribly important.
>>16860424
Why does your single personal anecdote conflict with everything I've heard women say about height, and every statistical figure I've seen in regards to the relationship between height and attraction?
>>16860431
Because you're neurotic and obsessive and you see only what you want to see.
>>16860440
In every survey or study I've seen, the majority of women consistently prefer taller men. In every video I've seen where they go around asking random girls about height, they all say that they want a tall guy. I've spoken to many short dudes who've talked about how they've been turned down over their height and had girls tell them "He'd be great if he was taller".
>>16860431
Correlation is not causation. If you are able to overcome whatever obstacles you may have, (whether they be genetic or external) you will become become a better person in the end.
>>16860449
You're the same faggot who keeps posting this shit on other boards too.
>I'm a loser only because of my height!
>m-m-muh studies!
>i-i-it's anecdotal evidence if it goes against my beliefs!
No matter how many times you are shown successful good-looking short guys vs awkward virgin lanklets, you refuse to see what's right in front of you. All because of one reason: because if you admitted that height isn't such a big deal, it would mean you would also have to admit the reason why you're a complete failure is your own doing, and not something you can't control.
Just do us all a favor and cut off your balls already. You're not a man. You're a mouse. You have chosen to be a failure in life, so live with the consequences instead of trying to lump yourself in with all the successful short guys out there.
>>16860405
I would much rather be my short good-looking self than an ugly lanklet.
I am successful in life and with girls. Maybe it's you who are doing something wrong? And before you go all anecdotal evidence, it's yours that is anecdotal. You're a loser in life and with girls, and decided it must be because of your height. Seriously, your desperation and mental issues shine through your posts. You must be even more insufferable in real life. Nobody likes whiny cunts like you. That's why you are alone.
That being said it's never too late to change. Man up. Or if that's too hard see a therapist.
>>16860477
It's useless. He doesn't want to improve. He wants to remain a pitiful sack of shit. Too much /r9k/ has convinced him that it's not worth trying anything.
>>16860487
>No matter how many times you are shown successful good-looking short guys vs awkward virgin lanklets
That's called cherrypicking.
>>16860501
Mine isn't anecdotal. And I've seen a therapist. Evidently, it hasn't helped me with my height issues so far.
>>16860545
And what you're doing is not cherrypicking? You're taking one short guy who is a complete loser (you) and extrapolating that all short guys must be losers as well.
>>16860545
Get a better therapist then? I'm no therapist myself, but clearly you need something to help you with your massive insecurity. No idea what they usually do about that.
>>16860566
Bullshit. I've formed my point of view from seeing how women have interacted with the majority of short dudes I've met, as well as what I've heard from the mouths of plenty of women themselves. The ones who would ever consider a short guy are far few in-between.
>>16860569
He told me that he was short and it wasn't a big deal. I made the short thing not seem as important as some of my other issues, but I will bring it up again and stress how important it is when I get the chance. I din't know what a therapist could tell me to make me feel better. It won't change the fact that being short makes me undesirable to a good three quarters of women, to estimate that conservatively.
>>16860576
Why can't you just accept the fact that the reason girls find you unattractive is because you are a massively desperate, whiny annoying faggot? No girls will find the behavior you're showing anything but repulsive.
>>16860590
>Implyign I act like that in real life.
Why can't you just accept the fact that girls find short dudes unattractive? I can't wait to kill myself so I never have to argue with someone over this stupid crap ever again.
>>16860595
So in real life you act confident and positive? Hahahaha. No, your desperation is like an aura that girls sense from far and stay away.
Again, why can't you accept the fact that your desperation is what makes you unattractive? Explain why girls find me, a short guy, attractive. Explain what makes me different from you. Why I am successful and you a failure.
>>16860609
Yes, I can act confident and positive. I have been on a date before, but it was with a short Asian girl who would probably never want to take it further.
>>16860609
Not that OP, but..You can be short and good looking. A lot of females who wouldn't date a short guy would be willing to overlook it if he's fit/good looking. But average and short is going to put a lot more strain on things. I've spoken to plenty of girls, seen plenty of dating profiles outright stating they wouldn't date a man shorter than them/less than 6ft.
I wouldn't say that being short completely stops the ability to date, but it is something that works against a male.
The biggest thing for females, is face. Face trumps all. Then body, then height.
>>16860614
You're not being very convincing here. If you were able to act consistently confident and positive, you should have no trouble getting girls.
I'm confident and positive and get girls. What's your excuse?
>>16860623
When a girl lists on her dating profile that she only wants tall guys, that's never an absolute. She will forget about it when a short guy comes and sweeps her off her feet.
>>16860626
>Thinking being confident is some sort of jedi mind trick
No. just no. Confidence doesn't get you laid. Confidence only gets you laid once you pass the checklist as fuckable. If you're not on that checklist, no amount of confidence is going to get you laid.
>>16860630
>When a girl lists on her dating profile that she only wants tall guys, that's never an absolute. She will forget about it when a short guy comes and sweeps her off her feet.
Only if he's good-looking enough to overlook the height, otherwise no, complete bullshit.
>>16854159
Take solace in that these choosy choosy girls keep having their hearts crushed then.
>>16860630
Pure bullshit. As a short guy, I may be able to have some luck with girls, but they will likely be fat and desperate, and thus, not able to be as choosy as their more attractive counterparts.
Being short is literally the male equivalent of being a fat chick.
>>16860643
Try being fat, to be treated as invisible, even as the fat chicks. Welcome to how dating works.
>>16860643
As a short guy, I can pull good-looking girls who are not fat. You must be doing something wrong. Maybe try not going for the fat chicks next time but aim higher?
>>16860631
>Confidence doesn't get you laid
Get a load of this virgin.
>>16860652
I don't get what the fuck you're trying to tell me.
>>16860653
You're persistent and you're a fucking liar.
There's a general human epidemic of loneliness. Like that video that was on everyone's facebook feeds a while ago about how facebook makes you lonely.
>>16860655
Being 30, I've probably fucked more women than you have, because I understand how dating actually *works*. It's all shallow and superficial. If you believe confidence will get you laid, you're a fucking idiot that doesn't understand the game at all and naively believe that you got these chicks because you were "confident". Confidence only comes into play once you've passed that fuckable bar.
You might as well put down getting laid to your horror-scope or jedi mind tricks, because that's how fucking stupid it is. Why am I saying jedi mind tricks? Because that's exactly what it is, "You will fuck me tonight" he said, waving his hand in a cocky manner and the weak willed woman obeyed. Lmao. Seriously, I can't make this shit up.
>>16860652
>Implying you can't fix being fat.
Not justifying the shortness bitching, but only one of these things is relevant to you as a person
>>16860660
>he claims to be short and get girls
>he must be a liar because it would shatter my worldview and make me look like a loser!
Whatever. You have chosen a life of loneliness. You live in constant fear. If you only shut your eyes and ears and pretend that no short guys can ever get laid, it will remain true in that sad little bubble you live in.
>>16860673
I wasn't whining. Merely stating. But, if we're going to talk about that, then the same can be said about fat chicks. Who apply the double standard of not wanting to date fat guys, but expect fitter guys to date them. Which is why all dating comes down to being shallow.
>>16860672
I'm older than you, have possibly fucked more girls than you, and fail to see your point. Being confident is important and does make you more attractive, but of course it's not the only thing. Being insecure, on the other hand, is a guaranteed way for you not to get laid.
>>16860680
There is a legitimate reason to not like fat people other than aesthetics though. It shows that they don't care enough to be healthy.
