My ex contacted me out of the blue last week. We talked some and he suggested a casual meeting over coffee sometimes. I said that it's fine.
It's been six days now. I'm starting to think that he isn't even going to call me, and that he just wanted to test me somehow. (Although I'm hoping that at 28 he'd be too old for such.)
So it's been soon a week. I just feel like, that cause he dumped me, if he reaches me out after like three weeks, it would give him the signal that I was waiting for him and always ready to be there for him when he wants me to.
So, how long am I going to wait before never ever looking back or answering anything?
Bumb.
But you clearly are waiting for him? Maybe you should be honest and let the dice fall as they will.
>>16794708
Well, of course. But I don't wanna be played or used one way or another or I don't wanna him to think that he has the upper hand.
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>>16794784
>I don't wanna him to think that he has the upper hand.
but he does
yeah he might have been desperate one night and just took a swing at you to see your reaction. Obviously things started working out again for him
If you need a date in the Pacific Northwest say something
>>16794543
Did you guys set up a time to meet? Why not? You don't just say "Okay." You say, "Okay, when?"
Why would you finish the conversation without setting it up?
>>16795499
I just answered saying that I'm okay with the thought of the two of us meeting.
>>16795513
So hot sex and the occasional dutch oven on V-day?
>>16795513
And why didn't the two of you set something up? If he didn't say anything about the coffee after that, you should have asked about it.
If you want to ask him when to meet up, call him yourself. Don't wait around. Take the initiate.
>>16795529
Yea, what she said!
to be honest you probably fucked up by not being more actively aggressive. it sounds like you're a very passive aggressive, timid person.
honestly, you sound like a pushover, that might have been what ended the relationship, your inability to make any advances in the relationship and in turn making him feel like he's the only one actively trying.
it gets annoying always being the one to do things in a relationship, if you're never making an effort it feels onesided. at least that's the vibe i get from you, is that you wait for him to make the first moves in everything. that's not how a relationship works, you have to work for things every once in a while instead of passively waiting for them to come to you; doing so makes the other person feel wanted. if you still want him, prove it to him by pursuing him.
get rid of the whole 'he'll have an upper hand' mentality, since you seem to want to be with him anyways. things will work out if you really want them to, but you need to call him and see what happens. he's most likely testing you to see if you're actually willing to pursue him for a change.
tl;dr: stop being a pussy and show him that you can actually do the pursuing for once. he's probably tired of doing it.
>>16795546
Oh God.
I was the one always chasing him. He often didn't even bother to reply. Or forgot. Or was busy.
If someone has the history of ignoring, it's him.
