So, I've learned that my boyfriend is extremely manipulative;

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2016-02-09 04:05:29 Post No. 16785279
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Anonymous 2016-02-09 04:05:29 Post No. 16785279 [Report]

So, I've learned that my boyfriend is extremely manipulative; he'll blame me for having a "bad mood" when I set a boundary or that I'm cheating on him because he "hears things" in the background when we're on the phone, and that there's "someone's hand" when we're on video chat.

Today I told him to get help and grow up, that's when he said that I was blowing it all out of proportion. -- I'm sorry, I'm just not going to take defending myself of being accused when he won't listen anyway.

He'll even go as far as to say "I don't see the point in being a relationship if we can't see each other often." and I told him, "Fine, then leave." and he blew up at me.

I am so tired, /adv/ - but I won't break up with him because I feel that this is just a bad bump in our relationship...one that I fear that we'll never get over.

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Anonymous 2016-02-09 04:08:00 Post No.16785289
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Anonymous 2016-02-09 04:08:00 Post No.16785289 [Report]

>but I won't break up with him
Then there will be no useful advice we can give.
This is not "a bad bump" behavior. This is obsessive, paranoid, jealous behavior. That doesn't "go away". No matter how much you think you can, you're not going to be able to "fix him" or "work it out".

He will always be this level of crazy. It will not stop. When you're both 60 he'll scream at a young waiter for "hitting on you" because he asked if you'd like something to drink.

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Anonymous 2016-02-09 04:09:20 Post No.16785296
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Anonymous 2016-02-09 04:09:20 Post No.16785296 [Report]

>>16785289
Lovely.

Thank you, kind Anon.

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Anonymous 2016-02-09 04:11:10 Post No.16785301
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Anonymous 2016-02-09 04:11:10 Post No.16785301 [Report]

>>16785279
>I won't break up with him because I feel that this is just a bad bump in our relationship

totally reasonable.

>one that I feel we'll never get over

Completely unreasonable. A bad bump is by definition temporary. If the bad bump isn't a bump, that means you have a bad relationship.

Sounds like you are afraid to be without a boyfriend, even if he's paranoid and manipulative.

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Anonymous 2016-02-09 04:16:26 Post No.16785322
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Anonymous 2016-02-09 04:16:26 Post No.16785322 [Report]

>>16785301
In a sense I am.

I mean, right now I'd love to dump him, but then he turns it around to make me the bad guy and that's where I have trouble.. Because I'll get phone calls and texts and Facebook messages and.. It'll be a clusterfuck.