My boyfriend is my best friend but I don't love him in that way anymore... well, at least I don't think I do. I have infinite care for him but that thing that makes us partners is missing... He feels like just a friend.
I think it all started when I sensed he wasn't attracted to me anymore, so I started to get insecure and shut myself away a little bit.
Lately, I only give/show him the parts of me he can't hurt and so now he has slipped into just a friend tier kind of guy.
If I break up with him, he'll never want to see me again and so I lose my best friend too.
Just to clear things up:
There is no one else.
This is killing me every single day I spend with him.
>demoted to friendzone
>>16719515
Maybe you should stop being unattractive to him so that he'll get passionate again and rekindle the spark. A diet and a haircut and a change of makeup is a good start.
>>16719546
I have no interest in changing my appearance. I am not unattractive to other people or myself so I am not going to change myself for one person lol
He is highly attracted to black girls, I can't change the color of my skin.
>>16719572
Spray paint m8
Talk to him about it and be open. Ask him for help in fixing this. Be open, honest and complete.
>>16719515
so you caused this? the problem wasn't him but you? why do you think he wasn't attracted to you anymore and also didn't even give him the courtesy of a conversation about it?
>that thing that makes us partners is missing
Elaborate, OP.
>>16719515
>honeymoon phase over
>want to break up
Kids these days lol.
hes supposed to be your best friend.
>>16719601
I did talk to him about it but he is not the confrontational type, he just shut down and thought it would be better to give me space, rather than create the spark again.
>>16719634
I am not sure if I caused it or not. I found a lot of porn sites on his pc one night and asked him about it. He was honest and told me he watches porn daily. I put 2 and 2 together and concluded that was the reason we didn't have much of a sex life. All the girls he looks at were dark skinned and I am not like them. If I had to type why I am convinced he is not attracted to me physically, I would be here for too long, but I am almost certain he loves me but isn't attracted to me.
He declined an open relationship
He denied a break up
He told me he is very attracted to me
But everything else points to him not wanting me -in that way- As a result, I stopped wanting him in that way too.
>>16719572
>so I am not going to change myself for one person lol
>im not going to change myself for this one person i apparently care dearly for
you're fucked. the core of your problem is that he is not as attracted to you, and you don't want to change that. so it looks like you're losing your best friend, you selfish cunt.
>>16719671
Lol well I'm sorry but I'm not the type to try fix something that's not broken. I have no issues with my appearance. I'd rather be with someone who is attracted to me without unnecessary changes...or spray paint...
>>16719661
>He declined an open relationship
oh boy for a woman to suggest this, no wonder the relationship is dead
>>16719687
It was after I also found pages for escorts. I was trying to understand where he is at with the monogamy thing...
Congratulations my dear you have just ruined a relationship. Men watch porn to get off, if you aren't doing it for us then we will find a way to do it ourselves. You need to build up your self confidence before you get into a new relationship as this one was doomed from the beginning.
Errr i would abort op he sounds shit
>>16719712
It's like you didn't even read the thread.
Your only problem is your insecurity. He loves you, he cares about you, and the moment you feel you can't use his dick against him, you bail. Regardless of what he said. Stop being selfish and try to get closer to him instead of bailing.
>>16719724
Pretty much, all I read was "woman problems" and instantly knew this thread was another whining person trying to cling onto what they have already lost.
>>16719692
>pages for escorts
Red flag.
Dump the shitlord. He has no business looking for escorts when in a relationship. He is telling the truth, he is attracted to you, he just wants more pussy.
>>16719728
I think it's too late to hit the reset button. I've tried and I just don't feel the same anymore. I want to get married and have children and I just can't see it with him anymore. What will happen when I'm pregnant? Will he then turn to escorts during that time too? I just can't see this getting better.
>>16719741
Is he turning to escorts now? If yes, this relationship is already dead.
>>16719743
Yep those escorts you can also have phone sex and watch on cam. You can pay a higher rate to meet which he apparently didn't do. All he did was watch them and phone sex.
>>16719749
Be the whore he wants. Initiate role play, turn up at his unannounced wearing nothing but a jacket, high heels and a strap on then proceed to fuck his ass.
>>16719771
I used to be up for this but now I don't want to. It makes me feel a bit weird kissing him.
>>16719749
End it now. He disrespects you. Respect yourself and end it.
OP just leave you're a worthless cunt I bet the pussy you give sucks too.
Actually stay with the nigga both of you are retarded
>>16719782
Get someone else to peg him while you're packing your clothes and moving on with your life.
>>16719661
>He declined an open relationship
Well of course he still says he loves you, he should have left you at this point
>He denied a break up
???
What does that even mean, you aren't married if you want to break up then break up, you literally can make the decision all by yourself.
I mean you disrespect him and probably grew fat or something and he still refuses to leave you and you doubt that he doesn't love you?
Just break up if you are having such a hard time
>I got insecure for absolutely no reason
>I just "SENSED" he wasn't attracted to me
>His loss, the fucking idiot, how fucking dare he not find me attractive anymore? You know what? Fuck him. I'm done with him.
You need help.
>>16719903
She needs a horse cock dildo to un-fuck herself.
>>16719683
>I'd rather be with someone who is attracted to me without unnecessary changes...or spray paint...
Then fucking break up with him.
>>16719924
You seem to have missed the part where she completely invented his lack of attraction to her.
>>16719515
Tbh you never loved him. You don't know what love is.
>>16719942
Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me no more.
>>16719515
>i want to friendzone him but he won't take it what to do?
end yourself desu senpai
So what, did you gain weight or something? I'm no expert on men but I'm pretty sure they like their girl to do sexy things for them, try cooking him a nice dinner in nothing but your panties, or just dress super gorgeous for him when you go out, either you want the spark or you don't. You have to give in order to receive.
>>16719515
OKAY GO BACK LADY, TELL HIM WHAT YOU JUST SAID HERE AND CLEAR IT UP WITH HIM.
>>16720154
You may be thinking: well wouldn't that be very rude? Wouldn't it be extremely rude to do that.
"LADY IT IS FAR RUDER TO WALK OUT OF NOWHERE WHERE HE JUST DOESN'T KNOW WHAT THE HELL JUST HAPPENED."
>>16719749
That's basically just porn, tho. You should watch it together even.
>>16719572
If he developed a black girl fetish while you're dating and no longer likes you, then dump him. You fucking cuckquean. Why would you even date an oil-drilling fag like that in the first place?
>>16719652
This
I was in a similar situation with my ex boyfriend. I dumped him and lost him as my friend too. It was the best decision because I am with someone who loves me and is attracted to me completely.
>>16721584
*until the same thing will happen with him as well
>>16721594
My boyfriend is healthy and talks to me, we watch porn together and he loves sex. The problem with my ex was him fapping too much and not having sex. He also got boring as shit towards the end and he is still single and got uglier.
