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I so desperately want to be a lesbian. how do I do this/cope with this as a man?
stop looking at porn so damn much
if the feelings persist in a non-sexual way arrange to speak with a therapist who deals with gender issues
>>16633036
>i want to be a woman that gets with women
why not be a man that gets with women? you have a bigger dating pool and dykes are typically ugly and manly
>be man
>want to be lesbian
>like women
>profiteering motherfucker
>>16633046
I just feel feminine but attracted to women as dumb as that sounds.
>>16633050
Then just become a Dom's fuccboi
>>16633054
I'd be down with that if I knew how to do that.
>>16633057
There are plenty of hook up services
>>16633066
sounds like im missing out on something.
>>16633050
Well it's not like it's impossible for a straight guy to feel feminine or for a transsexual to like women
But when you say you feel feminine do you mean it turns you on to think of yourself as a hot girl in your sexual fantasies? Because that's probably just you having such a low opinion of your own attractiveness that you have to insert a hot chick in place of your own body to get off
also if you're genuinely a feminine guy and like girls.. good luck to you, you're going to need it
And if you're actually trans and like women I hope you like your women with penises because they all just bang each other, lesbians want nothing to do with them
>>16633079
Nope. I feel feminine. I want to wear makeup and the whole schtick then go pick up chicks as unlikely as that sounds. Thats sorta why I'm asking. It's kinda fucked to think you could put lipstick on then go pick up chicks. I wanna be them not just screw them. super weird. was hoping somebody figured out how to deal with this already.
>>16633088
Do you want to be a hot girl or do you want to be yourself who is a hot girl? Also if you could choose between being a 10/10 man or a 5/10 woman what would you go with
>>16633093
I'd be a woman cause those sex organs appeal to me more. I don't know why but I hate my body. the sex organs I have disappoint me and I want the others, but still want to have sex with women. I dont need to be a hot girl, I just need to be a girl.(sounds fucking dumb). I'm a very masculine man. I'm not even unattractive but still all I want is a female form.
>>16633100
Sorry senpai but you're a tranny
It sucks, I know. But you can make it! Hit up /lgbt/, not to talk to people, it's a really exceptionally shitty board, but look for trans help general in the catalog. The OP will have lots of links to info. You can also post there for trans advice, but fair warning it's pretty slow
MTF general will also have helpful links in the OP but the thread will just be a drama filled tripfag circle jerk along with lots of miserable moaning and whining and you don't wanna get involved with any of those losers
>>16633050
I'm going to tell you something from my life faggot, so listen up.
For a fairly long period of time, I had myself convinced I was transgender. I did some fairly deep research, asked some chatroom people about it, I even "came out" to my sister.
I haven't transitioned, and probably never will.
Why?
I realized that I didn't actually like traditionally feminine things. Makeup, dresses, pink shit and all that stuff bores me to fucking tears.
Now some people might jump in here to say that that doesn't necessarily mean I'm not a woman inside. Maybe they're right, but the point is that that realization sent a shock to my system, and forced me to do some introspection on a deeper level. Here's what I realized:
1) I was insecure about my attractiveness. One "advantage" that I think women have is that there are fairly objective standards of attractiveness for them. If you want to be an attractive woman, then there are steps to take to make yourself attractive. For men, it's not so clear cut, because women are simultaneously frustratingly vague and infuriatingly precise about what's attractive.
On some level, I wanted that precision. I wanted to know where I stood.
2) I was only interested in the female body. This is related to above, but when all this started I was in highschool. I went to an all boy's school, and never got laid. I had SERIOUS blueballs. Part of me wanted to do whatever it took to get close to the female body, and that included becoming female.
3) I wasn't comfortable with masculinity. I've never been that aggressive, and I never really enjoyed the physical jockeying that guys do. I'm not the most athletic person, and I'm short, and blonde. With all of these together, I'm not really alpha material. The idea of being a woman appealed to me because I was tired of having to compete on grounds that I was clearly disadvantaged at.
>>16633110
Realizing all of this put things in perspective. If I transitioned, then I wouldn't fit in any better with women than I do with men, and I'd be at a dating disadvantage unless I spontaneously became attracted to redditors. I decided that I would be proactive in developing my masculinity, and in hindsight, I think that was the right decision.
OP, no matter what you do (because you're obviously hinting at getting sex reassignment surgery) you're going to need to make personal, internal changes. If you stay a man, you'll need to man up, start acting alpha, and stop being insecure. If you get a sex change, you'll need to learn to interact with women in their terms, and that's if you're even passable. If you're not then you'll need to get really comfortable with tumblr.
Ultimately, I realized that I wasn't 'a woman inside' or any of that. You led this thread off talking about your sexual attraction to lesbians, so I'm inclined to think you aren't either, but who knows, maybe getting a sex change is the right choice for you. All I know is that I needed to change who I was to be happy, and it sounds to me like you do to.
I chose the option that didn't cost me thousands of dollars, turn me into a pariah, and estrange me from my family.
What will you do?
>>16633110
Hey I was just browsing and this anon posted some legit food for thought. Listen to it
so? become a trap and frequent /lgbt/.
/thread
Why don't you just be a girly guy who pursues women
This works for me with Asian girls
>>16633100
I'll post one last thing anon, and then I'm going to bed. Hope you see this.
Everyone has a feeling of wanting to be desired. Many men never know what it's like to have someone desire you, and find you viscerally attractive. (this is related to #1 in>>16633110)
I worry that many of the people that get surgery to become transgender are men that fall into this category. They don't feel sexually desirable, and don't know how to become desirable, so they pursue it in the only form they understand: women.
If you really think that desperately pursuing some mythological ideal of femininity is what you need to do with your life to be happy, do it. All I'm asking is that you really do think it before you incur the costs on yourself before you try to find some fairy tale ending in a bottle of chemicals.
Happy new year anon
>>16633110
>>16633111
>>16633224
you don't need to throw all that shade at trans people. You can't assume your experience is the same as theirs, or that what's right for you is what's right for someone else
