How do you guys get motivated to change your life for the positive? There are hard things I need to make myself do, but I can't find it in me. Any advice?
>>16615995
>How do you guys get motivated to change your life for the positive?
The knowledge that I get to come home and shitpost on a Turkish hotdog eating board is what motivates me.
Really easy
Don't let you dreams become dreams
>>16616014
Well, that makes sense to me. Seems like you've got it all together.
>>16616017
I've identified my dreams. Doing them would create tension within my relationships. How do I get over other people making me feel wrong for putting myself first?
>>16616029
Yeah you should be ruthless about it, just cut them out.
If they don't support you, cut them out.
If they don't agree with you, cut them out.
>>16616042
Where do you find that ruthlessness? I need it bad.
>>16616056
Just have to find it in yourself, put your future above immediate gratification.
Or just move to a different city, that is alot easier.
>>16616080
I'm trying to. This is all in regards to my marriage. I don't feel like that whole 'going to the store for cigarettes' thing works.
What really did it for me was falling hard for a girl.
I lost a bunch of weight, got much stronger, started working harder in school, and even brought myself to the point that I was good enough in our shared classes that I was tutoring her. On top of that, I started reading literature and poetry, starting attending church regularly, and started learning to play an instrument.
Turns out she had a boyfriend she neglected to mention the entire fucking time, but even once I found out, the motivation I had only got stronger. It was like I wanted to improve myself even further so that I could outdo her and make her jealous.
Once that wore off I just kind of kept the motivation and it hasn't gotten weaker. I think it helps that I'm extremely narcissistic and unrealistically ambitious
