>next to every single one of my friends
>quiet, imposing, confidently talking, always the head of the group, very serious
>next to my gf
>anxious like a retard, constantly smiling, talking in a weird tone of voice, throwing all the spaghetti out
How can I be more consistent?
Because you are results oriented with every interaction with her. Give less of a fuck if she is having a good time, enjoying her time with you.. likes you. She is there.. you won, brah. Consider her as just another friend but with benefits and not on a fucking pedestal to be worshiped.