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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.

Avoid asking these common questions:

>Is it normal for me to go to a club/bar by myself?
Yes. Stop overthinking this.

>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.

>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.

>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing

>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.

>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>

>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking

>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.

>Frog
Also piss off.
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>>16594188
Here, to elaborate on this, for example, I saw her the other day and we caught the last bus home together.

My stop is a lot earlier than hers, and as soon as we were coming up on it, she was all "oh, it's so far home for me" and "I wish I could just go to bed now".

Am I overthinking it or is there something there?
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>>16594217
We can't tell you for sure. Just ask her out if you like her.
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As a random question.

Out of curiosity

Ladies: How you respond to being broken-up with? What's your usual routine? What exactly is it you do to get over someone? How long does it usually take for you to move on?

Gentlemen: Same question. What are the things you do to forget and move past a girl? On average, how quickly before you try to see someone else?
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Girls, is it inappropriate to ask a girl about her pierced belly button if the topic of piercings comes up? Like what she decorated it with or if you can see it?

I think I offended my friend by asking. Was it wrong what I did? I can somewhat understand if I'd ask the latter, but are both just as bad?
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>>16594225
We had a (sexual) relationship in the past, it would feel kind of unnatural, wouldn't it?

I've come to realize I still have feelings for her, but I'm wondering whether I'm reading things wrong or if there might be something within her too.
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>>16594247
We can't tell you for sure. Just ask her out if you like her.
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>>16594264
Thanks for your helpful replies.

Wondering if any girls could address this though.
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>>16594270

At this point you're reaching for an answer that you WANT to hear. It's impossible for us ANYONE to tell you anything more just based purely off a few lines of text. Human beings--of either gender--are not that cut and dry and we're not omniscient.
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>>16594233
Guy here, just got out of my first relationship, various sports help, listening to musc, of course I've seen a tendency for guys to get drunk and party hard to forget, same probably might be said for girls, I'm not sure, but it's only temporary, the next day you'll still reminiscence

I don't know how long will I wait until I start looking for a new relationship, maybe a month ir total or a bit longer, I'd say that just texting or chatting with other girls might help forget
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girls, I really don't want her back, even if I could, she had some nice traits, but still,
give me your your opinion, was I wrong or was she just some immature girl I fell for?

she's 20 socially awkward school girl and without any relationships before and I could probably believe that because I was the only fucking guy she'd follow on instagram out of like 4 other class mates and a cousin.

this girl and I have liked eachother for like 6 weeks now
today she made it incredibly obvious that she's into me so I did what I thought I should do and express myself.
She kept telling me how she's not sure about relationships and feelings and whatever and all that stuff and I reasoned, tried to reason at least because what the hell do you do in these cases.

Now, while the reasoning was going, it wasn't really getting anywhere because she made it incredibly hard, we were trying to find a point where we can still continue this thing somehow, while she knows I have feelings for her, while she's pretends she's not interested in relationships and still continue to talk to me.

So, what I did was told her she was kind of abstract with the idea of relationships so I told her to at least let me help her out be more realistic about it and if it doesn't work even then, then what the hell get some wisdom out of it.

So 3 hours later, she was reasoning how I meant that we can still go in a realtionship and if you wont like it you'll just get the wisdom out of it.
Basically, she wasn't understanding, or maybe not wanting to, but I couldn't read that off her. So what I did, I kinda had a small break down and I told her that my feelings started to drop because you're showing your true self right now and I'm not liking it because she's literally stubborn by definition.

And then she holy shit over reacted so bad and told me I'm immature how my feelings can change that fast and called me low and deleted me from facebook, instagram and basically everything.

like holy shit bro
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Girls, is it a dealbreaker if a guy can't see when a conversation's over?

I have a tendency over text to go down a new topic entirely when anybody's responses start to slim down as if conversation's over. I don't notice in the moment, and I only realize after I've sent the text and don't get a response (for a long time or not at all)
It's probably not limited to text, and I assume I do it in face-to-face conversation too. Alternate question, though it's not a gender-specific one: what can I do about it? How can I tell before it's too late and I fucked up again?
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>>16594291
She does sound really immature imo
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Ladies, I have a job where I'll change into a singlet and shorts to exercise
This female friend sometimes gives me a huge smile, a massive grin or opened mouth when she sees me like that

I'm not even that buff, but she'll still stare at my arms

What's happening there?
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>>16594291
>So 3 hours later, she was reasoning how I meant that we can still go in a realtionship and if you wont like it you'll just get the wisdom out of it.
>Basically, she wasn't understanding, or maybe not wanting to, but I couldn't read that off her. So what I did, I kinda had a small break down and I told her that my feelings started to drop because you're showing your true self right now and I'm not liking it because she's literally stubborn by definition.

Err.... having trouble following but basically

>you confess to girl
>girl has reservations about relationship
>You spend THREE HOURS trying to convince her to try it out
>You then flip-flop and tell her this entire thing--which you initiated--has caused you to lose interest

You don't see how that could be taken as fickle?

Doubtless her response was immature, but I'd be pissed at you too for wasting 3 hours of my life to be honest <.<.
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>>16594282
Fuck you guy, tell me if she wants to fuck or not.
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>>16594293

Just actively try to be more cognizant. I've got the same problem. Over the years I've trained myself to notice that moment when people's eyes are about to glaze over and change the subject.

Yes it's hard, but once you get there, it becomes second nature. It's a social skill that needs to be worked at like any other.
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>>16594320
Sure, but what about calls or texts? You can't see their eyes there.
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>>16594306
She mirin u breh
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>>16594335

Eh, I still write walls of texts at people, but it's a lot easier to police myself as it's easier to limit myself to exact amounts of replies.

I.E. A maximum of two 5/5 wall of text per year, and only on things that are MAJORLY important, but not important enough for a call. Otherwise, no more than two sentences about anything trivial, and only so long as the topic is interesting. Emoticon's are pretty useful for just chopping out massive swathes of text and making you sound a shitload less serious and verbose.

Calls, the call is done when the call is done, you can hear it in someone's voice when they're distracted by other things and want to move on.
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To all females,

I was browsing a thread here in /adv/ about going a porn video. Would you really do it?
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>>16594394
I remember some girl said she was pressured by her sorority to take part in some orgy porno, where they all fucked some frat they were trying to get along with. Supposedly it was uploaded on some porno sites.

I really hope it was a troll because that shit just strikes me as so fucking hollowing.
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Just a question, I'm from yurop, we also have these frat systems, probably similar to ones in the USA, but i've never really understood a thing about them , can someone give me a quick rundown on things?
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Alright let's see if anyone can tell me what the fuck I should do:

Best friend runs up to an old high school friend (female). Tells me: "she asked about you"? So he got her phone for me and we started chatting after pratically 6 or 7 years.

Everything goes well, we share a few old stories and updates on our lives. I decide to ask her out, she tells me not now because she has to do an exam but definitely another time.

Fast forward a few weeks, we're still talking and sharing a few laughs. I decide to ask her out again but plan the date almost a month later. She says yes.

Fast forward again. Have a brief conversation with her and she brings up the date. She tells me she can't make it due to an very important interview she has to do (told me she was called days before our date and literally couldn't postpone it). Proposes the next week so I agree.

A couple of days later SHE MESSAGES ME (I'm putting this in bold because I think this is a very crucial part in all this) and asks me how I'm doing. We have a nice chat and I tell her "so for this weekend, let's do X on Saturday at place Y". She agrees and tells me she will let me know when her train will arrive around that time.

I message her Friday (so the day before the actual date). She says she hasn't checked yet. I read her message so she knows I read it (using Whatsapp). A few moments later she sends me "I'm sorry, I'm having massive problems at work". So I wait for a few moments and decide to ask what's up.

Now the important part: I immediately tell her the following: "we can postpone the date if you want". I decided this would be a correct move since I have to show her my maturity regarding her situation. A conversation of 2 hours follows. She completely opens up to me. Tells me she's been crying on and on for 3 days. Tells me how terrible her collegues are and so on. At the end when she's about to go to sleep she says "I'm hoping we can see eachother soon..."

So lady anons, where the fuck does this leave me?
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>>16594436
What was she crying over exactly?
You definitely have a chance. Just wait it out.
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>>16594485

She was crying over stuff which involves her work and is very important to her. I'm sorry I can't get into details for you-know-which-reasons.

This is the last place I'd ask but I really like this girl so much. I have no idea how I lost contact with her over the years but it happened. A funny thing btw, I was thinking about her and decided to find her on FB. That happened literally a few days before my best friend bumped into her.

I'm not mad but I do feel a slight sadness that this didn't go through. On the other hand I realize that this isn't something a person tells to someone in order to make up an excuse for not going on a date (unless women REALLY can be this evil).

Also, how important are emoticons in all this? Her last words involved in "blowing" a kiss and wishing me goodnight.

(Jesus christ I'm fucking pathetic lol).
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>>16594233
If you have a number of interests and goals in life, then breaking up doesn't effect them. You just continue as before. That said I've never split up with somebody while still having a high opinion of them, so maybe I'm talking shit.
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What are some drinks I should order for a girl at a bar? I know everyone has specific tastes, but are there popular drinks among women?
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>>16594206
How do you recommend going for the first kiss, if your sitting next to each other on a couch?
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>>16594520
Wait, how long ago was this?
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>>16594570
I've only kissed one girl
and I was laying on her lap and we were talking to each other.

And then she was like "I can't believe you haven't tried to kiss me yet"

Good times. I don't know if this helps.
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>>16594656
i think i have to go for it
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There's this guy who seems to express some interest in me. Thing is he's insanely beautiful. I think I'm attractive, but then I look at him and I feel like a potato.

Uh, what do?
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>>16594763
>express some interest
need more info than that. How does he express that interest?
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>>16594233
I've never been broken up with, so I don't know for sure. Sometimes people become part of your life in a seemingly irreversible way, and it becomes hard to do anything, because some part of everything is them. It's somewhat like mourning a death, yet on a way smaller scale.

>>16594234
Belly isn't really inherently sexual. If she's told you about it, you're not wrong to ask about it.

>>16594291
You don't understand women. They are not logical. You didn't tell her what she wanted to hear. That being said, games are immature, so you're better off without her.

>>16594293
If you don't get a response, oh well, just don't "?" or "pls respond" and it's good.

>>16594306
You want to be told that she's into you, but we can't possibly know that. If you like her, ask her out.

>>16594394
I look 12, so no.

>>16594560
Generally women like sweet drinks.
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>>16594767
We're not actually close at all but he's always finding a reason to talk about trivial things, and I tend to catch him staring at me.

Regardless, sometimes I do wonder if I'm imagining that this means he likes me. Then I end up overthinking everything.
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Women
What would it take for you to notice a sweet guy. Like be into him romantically. What would you look for in a guy like this who youd date. How would he ever garner your attention assuming he isnt incredibly attractive. Its a lot easier to have an interesting personality when you can be douche bags to people.
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Alright, I dated a guy for 4 years and we lived together for 3 of those years. We broke up earlier this year (it was my choosing) and I kindly fucked off out of our friend group. Now that some time has passed, I'm seeing our mutual friends again/happened to become decent friends with his sister (I promise this wasn't intentional). Hearing about him all of the time has started stirring up a ton of emotions and I frankly want him back. He's been dating someone new for like 4-5 months or so, though. How do I squash the overwhelming desire to weasel my way into his life? Can I keep my friends and move on from him at the same time? As much as I miss him, I'm not trying to wreck his relationship or cause him any issues. It's been like 9 months, I can't keep feeling this way.
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Ladies, is it OK to send a Christmas card/email to a girl you haven't had contact in over a week?

This one girl I met early this month hasn't made any contact with me in over a week, and I hate prying, but I am a worrying type so I would at least want to send a Christmas greeting to her email at the very least.
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is riding the cock carousel during college etc then settling down with a beta provider on agenda
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>>16595098
Well they are beta providers lol. Dont expect to settle down with a chad provider though. Riding the cock carousel means you cant get in line for them.
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If you have trouble holding a conversation with a certain girl, I mean if she tends to just shut down all the topics you try to talk about, after one or two lines, is it a clear indicator that she doesn't like you? I mean if she talks "normally" with others mostly. Does it mean she's in no way interested in you? or could it be something else and I still may have a chance with her?
Yes I can talk normally with any other girl. This one makes me nervous but either way I think she's the one not talking. Although she sometimes (but rarely) does initiate the very short conversation with me herself.

Also, at girls too, what do you do if a guy asks you about your friend and maybe tells you he's into her, how do you react?
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>>16595098
Do men only care about wealth and power in order to gain sex? Does anyone have free will or are we all just a chain reaction?
You can keep asking those types of questions, but you're not going to get a satisfying answer. You'll just eventually believe someone else's or look for your own.
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I don't know any pick up lines nor do I know how to flirt, do have a sense of humor but don't know any jokes, I'm not good at starting a conversation nor do I know what to usually talk about, I'm also very shy so approaching people is difficult for me.

Do have a gigantic fuckload of willpower.

Am I good to go on dating girls?
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>>16595161
sorry for not answering directly your point but i used to be shy approaching people too and i noticed that talking the most mundane stuff with strangers helped me. Just make yourself say something to strangers. Even if they react the wrong way just think "well at least I'm the nice talkative one". Most people like talkative open people who are nice. The shy ones are the other people who you talk to but aren't nice back. You don't need to hold a conversation, just say something maybe humorous about the weather or if you are on public transport or anything.
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>>16595129
>>16595153
which one of you is the op?

and neither of you answered my question
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>>16595129
>riding the cock carousel means you cant get in line for them

could you roll that out a little
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>>16595161

Those are ALL things you pick up as you gain more confidence and experience.

Trust me. I would know. I started off too shy/afraid to even answer doors or speak up to order food at restaurants.
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Girl wants a dick pick but I'm pretty insecure about it. Not because of its size but I've got this not so much deformity but a condition called pearly penil papulus
What do
Yes I'm a virgin
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>>16595181
You dont bring home a slut to mom basically. They are only to have fun and bang. When Chad is looking for who he wants to be the mother of his child, hes not going to pick someone off the cock carousel when he has plenty of women throwing themselves at him who didnt.
Then again were talking about a Chad provider. These are the guys who only took dips in the sea of pussy put in front of them. The kind who ride the pussy carousel dont really end up chad providers. Just washed up chads. Basically used goods as well like their female counter part.
>>16595171
The answer is yes. There will always be a beta provider who'd do anything for a girl. Hell you could have done some sick shit in your past but really theyd take anyone.
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>>16595210

Photoshop

>for real

I'm not joking. Just edit that ish out and send her your willy nilly. Truth be told, she won't even notice when it comes time to suckin', probably wouldn't notice it anyway, but just play it safe.

I do this all the time. I'm right under 7" in length but I've done some creative "reconstructing" to make it appear around 8"

Women aren't good at telling sizes or lengths or widths or really anything.
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>>16595225
Its not the length, just googlepearly penil papulus
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>>16595210
>pearly penil papulus
Holy shit. Just looked that up. Are you human.
Def turn off and something you should discuss with her in a serious conversation. Not just as a sext.
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>>16595240
Thanks for the ego boost
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Any of you want to go on a date?
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>>16595215
Any advice for sub 8/10 males? Are all sub 8/10 doomed to be beta providers or vexed with a sub 3 wife?
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>>16595247
This isnt the time for ego boosting. Its the time for serious talk with you partner about things that would turn them off.
Imagine if a girl had a roastie.
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>>16595210
>pearly penile papules

Found this image. Best of luck.
>inb4 mustard gas
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>>16595255
Yeah well I'm not sure if I'll even go through with this shit considering she doesn't ege know that Im a virgin and once she fins out shell probaly be turned of either way.
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>>16594233
My husband left June 4th this year, after 2 years of marriage and 4 yrs of being together.

I can tell you for the first month I was distraught and wanted to make it work, but then hindsight started kicking in and I had more clear memories of his mental/emotional abuse.

So basically, I'm so over him right now it's like I never knew him, and except for our beautiful 17 month old daughter, I would completely forget him. But, I have to see him every other weekend, so he can't completely disappear, haha.

After 4 years of feeling more like a FWB, and less like a gf/wife, he's emotional history. But mine's a unique case. Some women never get over their ex's.
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>>16595195
>Those are ALL things you pick up as you gain more confidence and experience.

This might be difficult since I have a hard time learning from mistakes, and I'm easily embarrassed due to being emotionally sensitive, and I don't know if it complicates things but I also have dyslexia.

I fucking hate this shit.
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How important is a matching sense of humor in a relationship?
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>>16595405
Pretty important. How are you going to be able to laugh at shit together if you don't have the same sense of humour?
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>>16594815
Just socialize with him, you've got nothing to lose, unless the guy's an asshat.
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>>16595250
Often
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>>16594570
See how receptive she is to you just putting a hand on her face and looking her in the eye. If she doesn't shy away, you're good to go.

>>16594830
Most of my relationships have been with preexisting friends. That's what I'd recommend, I suppose.

>>16595075
Go for it. I give/get messaging from people I haven't talked to in months. I wouldn't consider it weird.

>>16595142
>is shutting down an indicator that she isn't interested
Probably. Or maybe not. Ask her out! If you're wiltering between the two of you anyway, you're not losing anything.

>how react to guy saying he likes my friend
If I had a crush on him, a little disappointed. If I didn't want to pursue him and think he'd be a good match for my friend, I'd happily set them up. If I think they wouldn't be good, I'd be hesitant about helping them.

>>16595250
Sure!
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>>16595345
Good for you anon
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>>16595431
>I wouldn't consider it weird.

And yet some people do.
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>>16595457
Well I wouldn't say that it would be hugely offensive. He's not saying, "Hey why haven't you contacted me in a week??" It's just a friendly "Happy holidays." It can reopen the conversation if she doesn't want it to be over, and if she doesn't open a conversation, it's pretty clear to him that she is done.
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>>16595345
wow youre deep in the depression phase. denial is the best part to watch though because its funny to see what people come up with. Its easier to paint your ex as a monster when you get hurt by them, just be sure not to be a faggot who does this infront of your child. Mothers bad mouthing their divorced father is one of the most psychologically traumatizing thing to kids and has been linked with high crime rates, general lack of respect for people, and a host of other bad things.
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>>16594570
indirect teasing cute shit. Hesistate and stare into her eyes. Make it obvious that you could go for it but that you could have other motives. If shes into it she will keep her head in a position to where you can go for it if you want Its silent communication and tactic consent that people are so bad at.
Also no that if you fuck it up and actually stare at her without wanting kiss her because you noticed a mole on her cheek or some shit and she feels rejected because you didnt kiss her your chances with this girl are gone. Use this technique carefully.
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This is a rather general relationship question.

So I've been dating this girl for the past few months. Its my first real experience with a relationship. Also I tend to have mild to high anxiety.

So I tried calling her and she was at a bar getting drunk with her friends. The second I heard this I got a massive jolt of instant anxiety, like it was tough to breath and speak. I know that she can do stuff like drinking and partying and thats fine, and i'm not trying to control her actions or anything, but how do i get this fucking anxiety to stop? Is this jealousy? I don't know guys. It's just really tough. I tried rationalizing it in my head that she can do whatever and she likes me so she wouldn't do any stupid shit like cheating on me. It literally doesn't affect me but i still get anxious whenever i think about it. Do you think this is just my inexperience with relationships and other peopl talking?

Maybe this is just my anxiety coming back. Shit. I might need to start taking pills again.
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Girls,

>matched with a girl on tinder
>Was quick and to the point
>Asked her if she wanted to hook up
>yes
>got her snapchat
>snapchat, flirt, things are looking good
>Ask if tomorrow will work
>Never get reply
>wait a day and ask if she's still down
>Nothing
>Confused
>wait a day
>Got nothing to lose, ask say maybe we should start with coffee first, then have "fun" afterwards
>She agrees
>Ask if I can get her number to text and workout details
>No reply
>on her snapchat story she has a video of her and friends all singing in just yoga pants and bra's

So do I just bail and assume some other guy has gotten to it first? Or should I just be up front again and ask if she wants to fuck or not.
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>>16595513
Wow, such kind and wise words. As you know me so well and have called me out, I'll be sure to change my horrid ways straight away.

On another note, what gave you the impression I am depressed and in denial? Is it because no one is supposed to get over someone else that quickly?

I wouldn't be so quick to judge those you know nothing about. But then again, this is the internet. What am I thinking...
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Girls, what are your thoughts on guys who are also perverts to some extent?

I'm obviously not talking about "I'm a pervert, deal with it" type of guys who shout it out loud and proud or some shit like that.
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Ladies, what's the best way to sweep you of your feet if I were walking past you?
Like, how do I break the ice and not come off as a creep? Is it in the smile? Should I offer some of my chips? Help her with her heavy load?

Pretty women, how they make a man sing.
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>>16595751
What are you talking about then?

>>16595767
Talk to me like a normal person would.
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>>16595098
Nope.
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>>16595767
honestly just act natural. people will interpret you as a creep if you perceive yourself as one.
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>>16595708
Ask to fuck in a humorous way
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>>16595161

>willpower

hell yeah dude. blast through. move in for the kill. but dont overstep your boundaries.
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>>16595405
Extremely important
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>>16595751
Pervert is way too general. So the general answer is if your perversion meshes with my perversion it's a huge plus. If they clash, that's not good.
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>>16595789

Alright not a bad idea at all, any humous ways to blatantly ask if someone still wants to fuck?
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>>16595777
>What are you talking about then?

Pretty much just sexual fantasies, fetishes and kinks.
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If she's mirin' you that's good, yeah?
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To both: Do hook ups and dating vary from country to country?

It sort of feels that way to me, or people are lying/bragging way more often than usual.
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>>16595845
That's so vague. Everyone has sexual fantasies, what matters is what it is. Some is more offensive than others. What's on your mind?

>>16595850
Yeah, why would it be bad?
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>>16595859
Both of those
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>>16595861
So she finds you attractive?
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>>16595885
Or maybe she thinks you're absurdly ugly and couldn't look away.
Generally one checks out people that they think are attractive. "Miring" is short for "Admiring" as in "She is admiring my attractive body" Which is pretty safe to say that she finds you body pleasant to look at.
We aren't psychics though.
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>>16594409
Oh wow
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>>16594318
Stop being a bitch and ask her
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>>16595900
My body isn't even that buff though
Managed to catch her looking at me one time and quickly look away
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>>16595845
Having fantasies, fetishes and kinks is normal though
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>>16594234
I don't see why she would get offended it's not like you said anything to offended her
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>>16594291
You don't need that in your life anon
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>>16595972
Are you straight? I don't think you have any position to say what a woman is going to consider attractive.
I've considered skinny skelly mode guys attractive. I've considered fat guys attractive. I've considered DYEL entry level guys attractive. I've considered max level jacked guys attractive.

You're spending too much time on fit if you think that you are required to be a certain level of fit in order for any girl to even think about being attracted to you.

You're worth a lot more than you think.
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>>16594206
If I put my ear against your vagina, can I hear the sound of the ocean?
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>>16594763
Try spending some time with him
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>>16596021
It's actually the sound of space because our uteruses have a direct link to the moon.
Common misconception though.
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>>16596032
I thought this was the sound of space

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ygI-2F8ApUM
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>>16596059
Only the second half.
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I've heard that if women gather in numbers greater than a dozen, their periods will synchronize and they become a beacon for the coming of Gagrus the Unclean One
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>>16596089
It's true. Once I was in this huge line for the bathroom at the movies and we all got our periods right then and there
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>>16595405
It's one of the things I look for in a person
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>>16596105
How important is the cock?
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>>16595585
Imo it's probably because you're inexperienced and you're probably scared something bad will. That being said just take it one step at a time and you'll find being in a relationship can be great. Hope this helps anon and good luck.
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>>16596013
Thanks heaps for your amazing words :) and yeah, i like her
Glad that she seems to consider me attractive
Only thing is she's been acting a little aloof with me now, what should i do?
Take care
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>>16596128
I'm guy so I would said it's not important
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How do I tell my friend she's a shitty texter and she should up her game? Should I?

A few months back when we first met, she used to fill my screen with messages and faces. Now the max is two words. Talked to her about it once and she said she was continuously busy and tired. Now it's the holiday season, and there's no way she still is.

I don't want to drop her without a word, so how do I tell her without burning bridges?
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>>16596159
>Talked to her about it once and she said she was continuously busy and tired.
>Now it's the holiday season, and there's no way she still is.
Are you aware of how stupid you sound?
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>>16596191
I guess you are not aware that she had legitimate reasons for it. Just take my word that she spent every waking moment working and even pulled allnighters to get her work done. I've seen her be that busy. It visibly wore her down over time.

Now stop acting like I'm dense and give me advice.
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>>16596196
My point is that the holiday season is often the busiest time of year for people. I guess you aren't aware of how stupid you sound, and evidently are.
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When is a good time to call this woman I've already talked over the phone with twice and been texting regularly every day ever since I got her phone number? I mean, I'm fairly certain she can stand me rather well.

I was considering calling later afternoon as the last two times I've called somewhere around 10 in the morning.
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>>16596197
Always happy to help others enable their superiority complex.

So I should just let it slide now? Assume she's too busy buying shit to give more than just quick responses?
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>>16596209
You know, I don't really get why this bothers you so much. If you don't like how she texts, stop texting her so much. If you have something you need to tell her, call her instead. She's got a life outside you, why don't you have one outside her?
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>>16594318
Based on your very first post about the bus. No she doesn't. If she did she would be suggesting you stayed on the bus. She's bored.
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>>16596215
It's a slow few weeks, and I don't have too many friends. I just want to stay in touch and be a bit less lonely. Not that I have nothing to do here, but texts are low-effort and easily done inbetween everyday life.

And why I'm so concerned? I've been ditched and cut off multiple times by multiple closest "best" friends. It sticks with you, and it's probably going to happen again.
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>>16595861
>What's on your mind?

Overall afraid to ask for sex in general.

I don't ever want to push and absolutely fucking never force sex either, but my shyness also gets in the way as well.

Obviously not expecting it on the first date or the second, but it IS a natural thing and all, there's nothing wrong with wanting sex, is there?
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>>16596149
Bump
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Is it really normal to have a lot of sex in a relationship?
The impression I get from the internet is that people tend to start fucking within a few weeks of dating and from then on do it most times they meet.
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>"Do I look fat in this?"

Girls, what do I really answer?

Lying makes me feel like shit.
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Hey girls
this is gonna be a long one sorry.

Okay so I moved into a dorm complex of about 200 people who are constantly partying but you hardly ever meet someone by accident so there is a facebook group to swap tools or food and organize events.
So this girl I did not talk to before came over to borrow my smartphone charger ( no euphemism here) and I just put it into her hands and told her to drop it in the mailbox later.
Next morning she thought it necessary to text it was there and started asking about my studies and what I do in general.
Now there has been some late night chatting for the last few days.
I am just confused because usually it takes way more effort and stupid mind games for women to open up to me.
She could easily ignore me or pretend to be busy or sleepy at 2 in the morning.
instead she extensively answers everything I come up with.
I am a 5/10 she is a 8/10 btw.
Is she just a decent human being or should I charge rapidly?
What would be the next step?

pic related
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A friend of mine was friendzoned recently by a grill he liked very much. He introduced us a week ago and she was really flirty, we exchanged numbers, she texts all the time etc wants to hangout. I kind of like her too, but I have respect for my bro, what do you think is the best thing to do here?

to both genders
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>>16596273
haha this is such a trope by now no sane woman would ask this without knowing you know they are teasing you.
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>>16596305
Tell your friend you want to fuck her and to get his ass into high gear bc she's eyeballing the fuck out of you. Just be straight up with him. If he's not a bitch he'll understand.
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>>16596313
true
but be a bro about it
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>>16596207
Bump
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Guys:
If your gf was to hand-make you a gift, what would you like best? What would you want her to make you?

Girls:
Have you ever made something for you bf that he loved? What was it?

Already bought my bf a present for Christmas but I really want to make him something, I'm just stuck on what I can make. I'm going shopping tomorrow for supplies.

Any ideas?
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>>16596262
My bf and I didn't sleep together until like a month and a half into our relationship. I'd already stayed at his place before that, and then it just happened. We then fucked every time I went over (a couple of times a week), at least 4 or 5 times.
We've been together for 2 years now and very, very rarely do we have days when we only fuck once, if that.
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>>16596405
a scarf, if you are in a cold region
my crazy ex made me a scarf, i still wear it because its warm as fuck
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>>16596095
I can confirm this. One time I was getting my nails done and this girl comes in next minute me and every girl in the shop got our periods as soon as she walked in.
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>>16596405
I usually make just a little something for my boyfriend for the holidays.

Last year, I painted him a durable box that I put all his christmas gifts in. He likes shy guys and other little nerdy stuff, so I found stencils and spray-painted the box. I wrote a little note on the box with a paint pen too. He uses the box to put his old, but cherished, gameboy games in.

This year I'm making my boyfriend a bulletin board out of corkboard and paint. Using the same technique as: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uTnBglFxeGw

But I did Mega Man because that's his favorite 16 bit game.
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Yo am i fucked? Huge red flag? I honestly dont know if seeing a therapist would help, i mean it just feels like how i am...

I dislike touching and that includes kissing people, it just feels weird/uncomfortable. If i'm drunk i can touch people and even like hugging and stuff. Therefore the only time i have sex is when i'm drunk. I guess i was sort of neglected as a child and no one ever hugged me or anything/lonely ,maybe thats it?
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I don't care how heavy a woman is, how big her butt or tits are, as long as she's comfortable in her body. I'd have no problems being with a thicker girl but I do have problems being with a thicker girl who whines about her whine yet does nothing about it.

Want to lose weight? Great, join me at the gym, we can work out a cardio/weightlifting plan and diet. Don't want to lose weight? Great, I'm happy you're comfortable with your own body. Want to lose weight or gain weight but all you do is talk about it? Acta non verba: do something about it, shut up, or get out of my life.

Why do women even care what they look like if they're in a relationship? Men might be initially attracted to you based on looks, but your personality keeps us here. My girlfriend says she wants to lose weight for me, she says it every goddamn day but does nothing about it. This is a major turn off and straining our relationship. She isn't fat, she's thick in all the right places. Nothing aggravates me more.
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Is she as miserable when she is not with me as I am when I'm not with her?

Sure hope so.
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>>16596498
>Why do women even care what they look like if they're in a relationship? Men might be initially attracted to you based on looks, but your personality keeps us here.

Guy but the answer seems kind of obvious?

Because the world doesn't revolve around you.

Even if you think she's beautiful, that doesn't mean she doesn't--at least in her own mind--get judged by other people all around her. It's also a legit thing that people tend to want to emulate/feel shamed by the things they see around them. Common culture perpetuates a certain idealized image of beauty when it comes to women (be it from movies, magazines, make up, fashion and clothing, etc), and sometimes it grinds on people that they don't fit that image. To a lesser degree, this is starting to happen with some males too (you're not hot if you don't have a 6 pack and aren't yoked).

She says she wants to lose weight for you, but really she mostly wants to lose it for herself, and is halfway trying to convince herself to use you as motivation to do it.

She complains and does nothing because she's just too lazy though, and that's on her (most people struggle with dragging their asses to the gym. I know I do. I'm 20x more likely to just do martial arts).
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Normie here, about 8/10 if I dress decently.

I've always been with normie girls, most of them studying to be teachers or stuff like that, but I really want a nerd/awkward/shut in girl to try, it's been something on my mind forever but I never mert them irl.

So there's this huge gaming/anime/cosplay convention near my town and I plan to go there. I hate mangas and such but like video games casually like dark souls or diablo 2. But it looks like it's 60+% female attending and a perfect opportunity, I'll take my little brother who's 9 and chat girls.

Does it sound like a decent plan ? Any tips ? Are they all crazy with major psychic disorders like they say on /pol/ ? Will they hate me for not liking anime ? I'm swiss btw.

Since it's in 4 months maybe before that I could also go to this manga/figurines/video games shop nearby, I went once and this 4/10 turbonerd girl with pink hair was trying to make eye contact like I've never seen. Is it common in this kind of crowd ? I never talk to girls in regular shops, bookshops or street, but can I just do this here ? It looks like an alternate universe to me, sorry to sound rude but those people don't seem to follow normal rules. A friend had a video game shop and he told me he stopped because the amount of autism was too much for him and he couldn't get rid of his customers.
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>have no feelings towards a girl
>hang around with her and get to know her better
>fall in love with her
>can no longer talk to her like a normal human being without rambling and my mind goes blank the moment I see her

What the fuck is going on
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>>16596427

Some people are just like that. Don't like getting hugs, or touche or anything. Nothing wrong with you, though you may need to learn some coping mechanisms.

Considering you're ok with it when you're drunk, I'd say you're going to be fine in a commited relationship, where you feel safe. That's almost the only time it'll come up.

>>16596405
Just about anything hand-made would be appreciated. Even a simple happy holidays card.

>>16595859
Yes. Absolutely. There isn't anything similar to a dating culture like what is portrayed in the USA over here in central EU. I'm betting dating culture in France is diferent from the culture in London. That's why you ALWAYS take any advice with a bit of salt.
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Can a woman make sense of this please?

I walked into a clothing store and one of the associates looked down. I asked her if she was alright and she burst into tears and hugged me. My biological instincts kicked in and I hugged her back, then she screamed and now I'm banned from the store.

I don't know what the fuck happened: I just wanted to buy my bud a shirt.
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>>16596622
She sounds like a psycho and I have no idea how to explain that as a female.

She was probably in some sort of emotional distress (obviously) and took it out on the first person she saw. Unfortunately, you are a male and the moment someone screams sexual assault (or any behavior like it) you will always be guilty.

This sucks for you, but it's clear that she's not right in the head..
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Guys:

What can i do if I am unable to attract men? Wasnt able to get a normal relationship for years now and feel like I am invisible for majority of men

>inb4 lose weight
I am skinny
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>>16596641

Why don't you take initiative and ask men out? If you're reserved and shy, men think you're unapproachable so won't bother. Every man calculates how well they'll be received if they approach a woman, and being shy/reserved brings it close to 0%.
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>>16596645
I am not reserved or shy, have no problem starting a conversation (and do so, depending on occassions). I am almost never approached anyway.
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>>16596648
What happens ? You talk with guys and they just get cold, leave and never look back at you ?

I guess we must know how far you usually go with men you're interested in.

Also you don't need to be all giggly and excited, but if a girl I consider flirting with never touch her hair or smile when she sees me I don't bother anymore. I don't want to look like a creep or lose my time.
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>>16596598
>Yes. Absolutely.

Damn. I've studied US dating culture too much then.

What's even worse is that my English is more better than my mother tongue.
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>>16596622
Did she specifically ban you or were you officially banned by some other staff?

You could file a complaint and explain the situation.
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>>16596661
>>16596661
I usually come up to them and start a small talk (think meeting first time at a party), try to find some mutual topics and sometimes refeer to our conversation as the night continues- still they either seem uninterested or not willing to contribute or start any topic/ small talk themselves.
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I have some extra credit classes twice a week, and everytime I go get my bus, I tend to get in the same bus as a chinese girl. I know she's chinese because in the same building where I have classes there's a center of my local language to teach chinese exchange students or generally immigrants.

I think she's very cute. Would it be weird if I ever approached her in the bus stop and tried to have a conversation? Maybe I'd scare her off?
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>>16596665

Well, she screamed, then the security guy came and pulled me off of her. Brought me to a back room, told me I'm banned.
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>>16596672
I don't know how old you/they are or what kind of crowd it is but I assume any man that has a girl coming to talk several times realises there's something going on.

You might have been unlucky (they were all taken or you're not their type of girl at all) but if it happened a lot of times you're certainly doing something wrong.

Are you sure you were not looking too bored/annoyed ? There's a girl into me since about 2 years that I met around 10 times, always when her circle meets my circle of friends, she's acting like she hates me but makes sure she sits next to me at the pub/movies. I won't do anything until she stops playing shit games and acts a bit submissive.

Are you not aiming too high ? Maybe you're under average and talk only to high status boys. If you have short hair it doesn't help.

Any girl with long hair that plays with them sometimez while talking becomes at least 7/10 and it shows interest/help things to escalate.
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>>16596696
21 and the crowd is usually university related (dorm parties, various meetings etc). I dont think there is some issue with my delivery of small talk - granted its not flirty but it showd interest and being flirty within 5 minutes of meeting somebody leaves bad impression where I live.
Maybe there is a problem with that there are usually more women than men and although i am okay looking there are usually some women who are more attractive. Not really sure how i can change that.
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>>16595142
Femanon here, we're obviously on the same wavelength cause i totally shut down in front of my crush and get nervous as hell. I sometimes start trembling when we're in a room alone and just sit there running through things to say, but never say any of them in case of him not wanting to talk to me. Whenever he says something i turn around and try and play cool.

Your girl could not be interested, or she could be trying to hide her interest since that seems to be the socially acceptable thing to do. Only way to know for sure is for you to ask her.
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For maleanons.

If a cute, 7/10 girl wanted to hang out for coffee and she just got out of a LTR, what would you think?

Also, if you were an attractive male, would there be a greater chance on you rejecting a 7/10 girl?
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>>16596680
It wouldn't be weird if she recognized you. And if you're not hideous.
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>>16596727
There's a line between being flirty and open.

Nature will push a girl and a boy together if they spend enough time, but you need to create the context and you can speed up things.

Next time just ask to do something another time and give number/facebook, show you'd be interested in seeing him again. You don't need to be flirty doing that but a way to act will change the prospect of seeing you again for him.

It "should not" be a girl's work to create the unavoidable start of sexual tension needed to create a relationship but you can learn it quick.

tl;dr you need to spend time with someone before "love" comes, you can reduce it if you know how but a quick chat in a party might not be enough for it so you need to see them again
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>>16596795
thanks for advice
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>>16596743
I'd think she was needy and looking for a rebound.
I'm supposedly attractive, have only rejected one girl, ever, becaus she got on my nerves. Ask him out, but I'd suggest you learn how to be happy alone first.

>>16596663
If by "studied" you mean "were forced to swallow, as it was jammed down my throat" then kinda, yes. The only dating advice people offer, is based on the assumption you're from the east coast of the USA. And don't worry about language, as long as you can get your point across, it's fine.
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>>16596405
Bumping because I am in the same boat too.
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What do I talk about with a girl on a date without feeling like its a interview for a magazine
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As a male, what should I wear to attract formal (a lot of dark colours, collard shirts, sometimes blazers or formal trousers; stuff you might see advertised at HUGO BOSS, Next or luxury brands) looking women without wearing a suit 24/7?
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>>16596988
What do you mean by formal looking women? Upper class women? Rich women?
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>>16596986
Just ask her questions about herself. Girls like to talk about themselves and you'll come off as a good listener/interested in what she has to say.
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>>16594206
I know this isn't exactly addressed to the "opposite" gender but;

Girls: What signs or hints do you unconsciously/consciously drop when you're attracted to another girl? Or attracted to anyone, for that matter.

Hoping for more direct signs than playing with my hair, feet pointing towards me (because this could also indicate pure interest) etc. thanks!
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>>16596258
What does this have to do with perversion? Are you saying you consider yourself a pervert for wanting sex? Sex is a natural, basic biological function. Especially as a guy, people probably expect you to want sex.

Of course you don't force it on anyone. It'll happen in time. You don't sound like a rapist. You're fine.

May I ask where you're from? I'm curious about where you live where you've picked up the idea that you're a bad person for having a sex drive.
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>>16597070
Since girls are already friendly, it can make people oblivious. I just up my flirting skill to eleven.
I make every excuse to touch her. If she makes a joke, I put a hand on her arm as I laugh. I hug her a lot. I put my arm around her shoulder. I bite my lip while making eye contact and give her body a look over. I make sexual jokes. I tell her how stunning she is.

But- all of the girls I've actually gotten together with were doing the same back to me. They were also girls I already knew so I felt more comfortable being close with them.

Girls that I just met I get so nervous around, I can hardy keep eye contact. I ask sneaky questions to figure out if they're straight.

I haven't been with a girl for a long time.

Where are you from, anon? ;) ;) ;)
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My GF is a NEET (I work in an office and pull around 50k) and for the last few months hasn't done any chores either.

How do I tell her that I would really appreciate her doing more either around the house while I'm at work or her getting a part time job or something, without coming across super judgmental or w/e? She got laid off at the beginning of the year (it was her first job and she was only there for a week) and hasn't really done anything since.
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>>16594206

I dont know how to send messages that would make her talk. I find myself in the position of sending a message and her responding with emojis or nothing. She likes me, that is certain, but I dont know how to make her talk.

If I try to talk, I find myself talking too much and I dont want to give that impression

What should I do? Should I continue with another topic after she saw my texts. or leave it be until she contacts me
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>>16597141
That's something you need to straight up tell her, not hint at

>>16596988
Like... business women? You know they don't dress like that on a day to day basis right? It's only at work.

>>16596986
If the conversation feels like that and doesn't flow naturally, it may be a sign she's not for you

>>16596680
Start off small, smile and say hi when you see her. From there, move on to starting conversations and whatnot. That's how I've gotten to know people I commute with

>>16596622
>things that didn't happen

>>16596588
You fell for her. What is there to understand?

>>16596581
Are you seriously okay with dating immature and/or mentally unstable women? Some fantasies should remain fantasies, you know. A small percent of them may be normies, but it's not guaranteed you could get with them

>>16596523
Probably not

>>16596498
I honestly don't care what a guy thinks of my body. It's not perfect, but it is how it is. Sure, I could lose some chub and have a flat stomach or thigh gap or whatever, but I like eating what I eat and being as active as I am now, and no one's ever had a problem with my body before anyway, so why should I?

>>16596427
Makes it hard to have a relationship, don't you think

>>16596305
Ask your friend if he'd be okay with you dating her, and if he shows even the remotest sign of not being okay with it (both verbal and non verbal), cut contact with her. The longer you hold out on doing this, the more likely it will be that you'll hurt someone

>>16596273
I only say that as a joke. Do you live in a sitcom or something?

>>16596262
It took me and my boyfriend 6ish months to have sex. We don't even have it that often, maybe once every 4 times we meet? Sex is important, but not so important that it comes above spending time not having sex together
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>>16594206
Both genders:
How important is the speed of dating?
Also: How important is the first impression for you?
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>>16596262
Normal to have a lot of sex? Yes, it's good to have as much sex as you and your partner want. Everyone has a different drive, so "a lot" is different to everyone.

In my opinion, the longer you wait to start having it, the better. And then when you do start having it, have tons.
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>>16597179
Speed of dating?
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>>16597179
What does that mean?
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>>16597212
>>16597215
How long do you date for? do you expect something after 1st or 2nd date? When do you ask for the 2nd date? and so on
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>>16597218
Oh I see. I guess I don't really "date" at all, just go from friends to relationship.
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How do I stop being jealous?

Every time I am with my STUNNING girlfriend and my friends, I feel like she's being flirty with them. And it really is but a feeling because in retrospect I can't name one thing that she has done or said that's over the line. I just feel that way because I am in shock that we got together in the first place although she has done everything right to show me that she loves me. I'm usually not like this at all and I hate myself for it, but it keeps on happening.
Any way to tackle my jealousy?
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Last night I was watching tv with this girl. We've been talking for a while. We were sitting on the couch and she was laying with her feet towards me, kind of presenting them and rubbing them around. I haven't told her I have a foot fetish outright, but I've kind of hinted that I like her feet. At one point she had her feet tucked in the cushion where my arm was and she was like wiggling her toes on my arm. Do you think this means that she's open to foot stuff?
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>>16597326
it surely does mean she's not insecure about her feet so that's good
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Grills, how do you feel about sleep sex?

If your bf/husband wanted to play with your sleeping body, would you be amenable to it?
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>>16597330
How do you tell her? I know that a foot fetish is pretty taboo and many girls are turned off by it. Is it best to just not tell her?
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>>16597347
Yes yes yes. One of my biggest fantasies. I want to do the same to him too.
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I know how this shit(thread rules) but what you femanons think is attractive in men?
How to achieve that?
I have gf and want to be the best I can do for her but she's telling to be more talkative only(which I try to do tips on that are welcome too).
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>>16597347
Definitely. My bf often wakes me up with sex with his dick already inside me but a couple of weeks ago I stayed asleep for the entire thing, and woke up with cum dripping out of me.
Its the hottest thing.
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>>16597547
Stop trolling you ashy ass bitch you have no boyfriend or job bitch. Shut the fuck up with your lies. Its truly unbeweavable.
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>>16597460
Conversation dulls a lot in relationships. I suggest not talking constantly or texting too often in order to have things to talk about when you do talk.

I get that in the beginning of relationships, you want to be together all the time, but it gets boring after a while. I mean, not bored of the relationship, but things start to slow when you talk all the time.

I think that to have good conversation with someone you see regularly, you need to allow things to happen in between seeing each other to have things to talk about.


Strangely, my boyfriend and I do the most talking when we chill in my room and search through youtube, then the things we find promote conversation. Because we're both pretty introverted, and don't go out that much. But it's opened doors to speaking about our opinions, life views, music, interests, etc.
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>>16597553
>being this butthurt over anon getting sex
>anon literally said nothing about a job
>projecting
>beta virgin faggot detected
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>>16597563
I'm actually confused with this texting thing, some of my friends say that texting to your gf a lot is a must because then she'll get more used to you and some other reasons, while others and myself really, believe what you said
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>>16597583
I wouldn't mind my boyfriend texting me often. We did text often for a while, but it dulled out often. We text jokingly, but I mean, don't have deep conversation via text.
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>>16597460
I'm this poster

Well my gf, said, for her is like I don't care about her soz
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Ladies : How can I show interest to a girl a like at school?
Context : We've know each other (been in the same classes) for 2 years now, I've never attempted anything or made any moves : we've remained neutral friends and never hung out. My mindset changed a lot in the recent months and kinda started to get emotionally attached. I'm thinking that trying to go on a date would be awkward given the context so how do I progressively get closer ?
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>>16597592
ask to study with her
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I had been with my ex for 4 years before she dumped me two months ago for a new guy. We fooled around a lot with oral etc. but didn't actually have sex because we still lived with our parents.

I'm back home from college for winter break now and I've been dating a girl who was also recently dumped for someone new. We know that it probably isn't going to last past winter break because distance sucks, but we're having a good time anyways.

We've done some kissing but nothing explicitly sexual other than that. Should I try to sex her up before break ends?
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>>16597357
>>16597326
Fwiw Im pretty sure my gf has a foot fetish given that, when we hung out more than we have recently, she would often ask me to rub her feet and the way she reacted to my massages were... quite sexual. The look on her face and the way she kept asking me "dont stop"

What im saying is, she might get off on that too so go for it just dont be disgusting
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So I'm here to address the millennia old question.
Ladies how do I well eat out pussy? I have to impress my young girlfriend tomorrow and I'm barely ready. Thanks in advance.
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Question for the girls
Do all of you give owjobs to guys you love or are the ones who give them rare? I mean when you love someone
Iike giving oral but i heard many guys hate it and are discusted
So is the feeling the same fir gis when its the man they are pleasing?
My gf left me so i started eojdering what if i dont get another in my life heh
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>>16597729
How drunk are you?
>>16597713
Of course.
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Lemme at em lemme at em "Porky Pig Noises" Get a job you lazy bumbitch. Do I feel bad for you? No!!! You never worked a day in your life but you are some expert. Your bitch has no penis and noone believes him. Not our fault he's beta. He wants to argue with other women and belittle them yet if a real man talked one word to him he would shit/pee himself. Chia seeds are not working for your head and you bore me. How can long standing Americans be so ignorant. You're proud of your ignorance but are laughed at. You're dumb and that's it. Bullying is cool but when I 8miled your ass you couldn't handle the ether. Nas is Ashamed!!!!!!
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>>16597681

Sounds like a plan, any other ideas ?
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>>16597733
Well i broke up with the girl i was suppose to have my life with soo a little tipsy kaby drank a few beers and some scotch
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Anyone:
What's the best time of night to quickly pickup someone at a club?

When is early enough that the girls are sober (wastedness is a huge turn-off)
but late enough that I won't get turned down with "but the night is still young"?
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>>16597762
Well really depends on the person
Some will go at le 23:00 some will 3:00 so rely depends
I guess around 00:00-1:00
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When it comes to sex do people like being on top or bottom more? I'm curious.
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>>16597787
They like to be surprised by a bumbitch screaming her nonrealistic skills. I'll be lazy and sit around!!! I'll marry a bitch noone wants!! I'll grow hair!!Sikeee!!! I'll be pretty!Sike!!!!!!! I'll be a bum !!!!!!! Yes you are Cry me a river is your theme song and yes you are a piece of shit!! But you knew this!!!!
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>>16597787
Well depends on the person.
My experience girls like to be bottom
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>>16597729
I really need an answer to this...
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>>16597799
Anon, you're kinda confusing me.
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>>16597787
I'm more sub so I prefer to be bottom, but I love being on top sometimes, it just depends on the mood and the type of sex.
I hated being on top with other guys, but with my bf I love it. I just love it more when he's on top.
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>>16597729
>>16597838
Maybe if you typed properly and weren't illiterate, you'd get an answer.
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>>16597728
guy here but:
>take it slow at first, make out with her, suck her tits basically warm it up
>get to the clit and play with it with your tongue
>see what she likes and doesn't
>the more she's into it, the more you speed and muscle up
>bored? write your name on her clit with your tongue
>don't use teeth (!)
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>>16597859
Well my first languidge is not english
And this phone is bad so i cant tipe that well and don't really see then i misspell some words
I am sorry for my bad spelling
And i was just asking are girls that give blowjobs rare did not mean to be disrespectfull
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>>16597875
My apologies then, you don't need to be sorry, English is a fucked language.

I don't really know if they're rare, but I do know a lot of girls won't give blowjobs unless there's an emotional connection there. I used to hate going down on guys until I met my bf, but I also used to really dislike dicks and sex in general until I met him too.
Now I love giving him head.
There are girls out there who love giving bj's, they're just hard to find I guess.
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Women
Whats the best way to let you know I have a big dick. Not massive but a legit 8x6 penis.
I dont want to hear bullshit about how size doesnt matter because woman talk about penis size more than guys talk about breast size.
Hell I even have to wear compression shorts when playing sports because the women on the sidelines try to guess the guys penises.
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>>16597728
Read this. Learn it, love it, live it.
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Let me at her let me at her I needs a job nigger problem
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Anyone:
How overrated are common interests in a relationship?
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>>16597884
Hmm thanks that helps
Well emotions i like and i would never let a girl who i dont love or atleast really like touch me so i didnt want to sound like a pig who only wants bjs heh
Thanms fkr the answer
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Stacy roastie its your mom help shes gross and your dads weak
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>>16597897
A bit yes
Me and my gf had like 18/20 commons and she left me so yeah come to think of it really overrated
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>>16597897
Not overrated at all. You can't try to build a relationship JUST off of that, but they are important.
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>>16597746
I feel you man. The bottle isn't the way to go.
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Girls [spoiler] or anyone [/spoiler]

Have gf, long sex sessions, i rarely cum, she doesn't. It feels good but not much i'd say.
We have long foreplay, she doesn't want to try to be eaten out, she says she has a lot of pleasure and says it's great and getting better.
But still, she never come.
What do ?
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>>16597971
My ex never almost never came
Some gis just cant or is wery hard for them
That is where the girls cant cum mith started
The problem is when the gi thinks its your fat like my ex did
I wod sometimes last for 45 mins till she gets numb diwn there from like 6 possitions and sht like that
But oh well she didnt come
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>>16597978
I see.
Still feel like there is something i could do.
Even tho i do all what she says that turn her on.
Maybe you're right and it's the kind of grill that don't come.
Plus we can't do it too long because she has health reasons

Thanks anon
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>>16598010
Atleast she loves you dude
Mine went away
Ill give you a wisdom
Dont stop trying
Always be on top of your game cuz she might not love you forever
Thats what iearned after 4 years of a great relationship that i ruined cuz i was dumb
Take care anon
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How do I get an /out/ /lit/ gf?
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>>16598096
Do /out/ and /lit/ activities and go to /out/ and /lit/ places.
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>>16598050
I'll try, thank you for the wisdom.
Hopefuly there'll be good days ahead of you
Take care as well
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Serious question to female anons from an inexperienced male anon

Do women feel pleasure from breast fondling/sucking?

I was fooling around in bed with a girl, kissing, dry humping and having a fun time, a started fondling her breasts, she took off her shirt, pulled her bra down and let me play with them. I started licking them slowly and gently biting her nipples, pausing now and then to massage them, kiss her lips and kiss her neck, then i started sucking them good, i sucked her breasts for a good 10 minutes like her tits were full of chocolate milk

I thought she would feel a lot of pleasure and enjoy it a lot. When i asked her if she liked it she replied that she liked it a little but it wasn't as good as she thought it was gonna be.

What could have happened? Was my technique bad? Does she simply not have sensitive nipples?
Or, women don't actually enjoy breasts sucking very much?

There's nothing i like more than sucking a delicious pair of tits and i thought women loved it.
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>>16598127
Some women love it some women don't
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I asked someone I have a interest in to lunch one day when we had an event we were preparing for, she freaked out and said she wasn't dressed right, she didn't shower before, we would do it another day. I asked her another day to pick a day and she was saying she was busy with national registry testing. Is she not interested or should I just give it a few weeks and ask her to lunch or dinner again?
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>>16598127

Like all sexual things, it has to be something they enjoy. Some girls feel strange about their breasts, either having a poor self-image from the media, or given shit about it by friends, or just feeling awkward about their size/lack of size.
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>>16597072
>May I ask where you're from? I'm curious about where you live where you've picked up the idea that you're a bad person for having a sex drive.

Finland.

I'm ultimately not that anti-social as a person, just really shy and emotionally sensitive.

I know rejection is perfectly natural, but I'm afraid it would hit me much harder than it would for the average person, especially if I want to go for the first kiss or something like that on a date.
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>>16594233
If your life doesn't revolve around relationships, then you have no need to 'move on' from anything. Its a minor change, and your life continues as it was.

>>16594656
Holy shit, that was nice of her. Most would just leave.

>>16594763
Enjoy it while it lasts.

>>16594849
Jealousy is a bitch.

>>16595098
Nope. Just failure.

>>16595161
>sense of humour
>no jokes
m8, having a sense of humour means being witty on the spot. Not having pre-planned gags.

>>16595210
Don't. Just don't.
Nobody wants to see your dick, they just want to have you in their pocket.

>>16595405
Women's humour will always morph into a copy of whoever they like anyway, so not that important.

>>16595850
Depends how big her dick is.

>>16595859
Maybe, but fucking is the same everywhere.

>>16596159
Women care about texts. Men do not.

>>16596262
kek

>>16596305
This is why I have no friends. Fucking tell him about it, you piece of shit.

>>16596405
A giant statue of me.

>>16596427
If you dislike it, why do you want it?

>>16596641
You can always attract men. It depends on what kind of men you're trying to attract.

>>16596743
Sure, I'd accept. I say this as an absolute Adonis.

>>16596988
Turtlenecks all day ery day.

>>16597141
You could always just dump her for being lazy. After all, if you're not going to do that, what reason does she have for doing anything?

>>16597179
First impressions are important, but not whether they're good or bad. Only whether they're boring or interesting.

>>16597287
By being more attractive?
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I fucking hate these threads its all the same fucking shit that's been answered fucking billions of times before

>muh relationship/breakup
>muh dick/cunt
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Do I deserve to be with any woman if I can't do any work due to disability reasons?
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What makes a guy a good flirt, especially on a first date? Or in a social situation in general?
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>>16598867

Say the things everyone else is afraid to
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Question for guys and girls. No other details, you find out I'm still friends with my ex. What do you think?
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>>16598869
Could you please elaborate a little bit
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What's wrong with me?

I'm a hopeless romantic at heart. I want to hold hands with someone, take them on walks around town, go on lunch dates, go to museums....but I've never had a intimate relationship ever in my entire life. I've had maybe one or two opportunities, but both were <18 years of age where i was afraid of dating while under the roof of my parents. (i'm a minority, with a liking for white women, which my parents dislike). I've only kissed one girl, in multiple settings. It was one of those senior year flings, where we would only hook-up at parties/events, never in private. This lead to my friends believing that i'm some sort of "playboy". Since then I have told lies, and just gone with the flow of the image others have put on me. The reality is I haven't even kissing another women in 3 years. I don't have issues with befriending people, or event flirting. I can read people well, and i understand social interactions. yet, here i am, still even struggling to obtain a date. My close friends have told my, physically that I am in the 7-8 range in a vacuum, and 8-10 range for those who like my "type". but none of this matters. I still have serious self-image issues. It takes me a minimum of two hours to get ready to go to class, and it crushes me.

what the fuck is wrong with me
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>>16598840
Anon. Really? Come on.
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>>16598890
>takes me 2 hours to get ready for class

trying WAY to hard, women don't even take that long, and they want a man not some foofy ass lady-boy
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Girls, for what reason would you stop responding to a guy over text? I'm trying to figure out where I'm going wrong.

Have gotten two numbers off of tinder, talked to both girls for a little bit but eventually they don't text back the first time. I give it one chance and text them again. The conversation continues again for a little, and then again no response. The second time is where I draw the line and just delete them off my contacts list and then we never speak again.
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Girls:

What do I do when my gf is on her period and has intense mood swings?

She got off birth control a few months ago, which is great because her sex drive is back and doesn't experience anxiety anymore, but the mood swings during her periods are horrible.

Usually if I just avoid conflict and give her lots of food, everything is fine. But lately she's been finding things to get upset about.

For example right now she's mad at me for being too rough in bed like ten months ago. She said she can't get over it, but then ten minutes later she'll forget she even said it and will start asking me for food.

This is so confusing for my brain and penis. Please help.
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>>16598875
Red flag
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>>16598910
I'm a guy, but in my experience girls should be the last one to respond. Once the conversation hits it's peak, let her respond one more time then put down the phone. Then wait an appropriate amount of time and start another.

It's like sex, you don't just cum then keep having sex without orgasming for hours, you need a refresh period.

Always let the girl be the last one to text.
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>>16596641

Eh, shits tough for everyone.

I'm a relatively attractive male, my prospects aren't too bad, my personality is likable, I'm charming. Girls have always been attracted to me, but through what feels like a massive chain of just bad luck or a flat out curse, my first girlfriend wasn't until 26

Tthe rare times I'd actually find a girl interesting, and she liked me back, some near cataclysmic event would happen like they'd lose a job and have to move thousands of miles away, or a family member would die... And actually,even my girlfriend ended up losing her job weeks before meeting me, and then her uncle died afew weeks after we started dating <.<

Attractive, unattractive, it doesn't matter. Dating's kind of tough on everyone. Just gotta keep at it and eventually things will work out. There's no such thing as a wasted effort, unless you give up before it pays off.

>>16596743
Me being attractive has very little bearing on whether or not I would reject a girl., it just matter if I'm attracted to her (and that includes personality).

And if I were single, If someone asked me out for coffee regardless of relationship history, I'd just assume it's for coffee and say "Sure, why not"
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>>16598890
>i'm a minority, with a liking for white women
EVERY TIME
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>>16597897

Overrated.

They're important to a large degree, but people seem to obsess over them as if they were the cornerstone of relationships.

You can always build common interests, what you cannot manufacture are common values, wants, and beliefs, and THOSE are what make a healthy relationship work.
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I'm not interested in politics in any way, is this a turn off for women in any way?
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>>16599036
There are plenty of women who also put their head in the sand. For everyone else, it will be a turn off.
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>>16599041
>There are plenty of women who also put their head in the sand.

Define "Plenty".

Doesn't feel a lot really.
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Question for girls

What do women think about when they masturbate?
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>>16599036
To any girl smart enough to stay in school, it is. Politics are flexible to your own opinions, and if you have no opinions then you have no confidence. Leading a submissive man is hard work. You know economics has a hand in politics right? Christ, just go take that three axis political test right now.
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