How does masturbating affect female sex drive?
Fapping lowers the male sex drive, everyone knows that, but does it help with girls?
I masturbate badly, meaning I try but I can't orgasm. Would it be better to not do it at all??
>Fapping lowers the male sex drive
for like half an hour.
>I masturbate badly, meaning I try but I can't orgasm.
that's sad
>Would it be better to not do it at all??
yeah, because it's less sad. It'd be even better to buy a vibrator or dildo or whatever it takes.
>>16590766
then what is all this nofap stuff and advice threads telling guys to quit masturbating?
>>16590746
Women also have a refractory period, it's just much smaller than what it is for males.
It'll lower your sex drive but not quite as much
>>16590773
a chauvinist cum cult.
>>16590769
I have a vibrator, and that's the only way I can masturbate at all. I just can't orgasm.
>>16590775
So there is nothing I can do about it?
>>16590746
It doesn't affect a woman. A woman can have sex repeatedly. So for example, take a matriarchal society trying to reproduce as quickly as possible. A man has sex with a woman, but then has his refractory period. The woman is ready again after just a few minutes, so she can have immediately have sex with another guy. Ad infinitum. It's biology, see?
>>16590809
So there is literally nothing I can do about it?
>>16590819
>>16590794
You haven't found the right spot that makes you feel so good that you orgasm.
You need to buy a vibrator or something and experiment with yourself.
Take a nice long shower or bath. Really treat yourself well one evening. Maybe watch some kind of light porn that sets up a story to get you going (optional, not everyone is into porn, but it may get you in the mood). Then just start exploring your body.
You're doing yourself a HUGE disservice by not knowing what turns you on and your erogenous zones are. Knowing them is another step towards knowing yourself, and should you ever find a significant other you wish to step past the level of friends, telling him what your zones are and letting him please you is one of the most intimate and trust building things you could ever do.
>>16590859
I HAVE a vibrator. I couldn't even come close without one. Pun not intended.
I do watch porn, the specific kind relevant to my personal kinks and fetishes (as near as I can, some of it is some straight-up DeviantArt shit and most of the time they don't overlap).
My goal here is to either become able to settle for the men available or be happier without them. The goal is to get out of the spot where I am: directly on the border, where I want A man but none of the ones I COULD have.
Stop wanting men, wanting them more, whichever. I just want this feeling to stop.
>>16590869
If you are that crazy woman posting threads no wonder you are crazy, can't even make yourself come.
If not listen to this
>>16590859
If that isn't working try different stuff. Different situations, different moods that sort of thing to find what works for you.
>>16590869
To stop wanting men is going to literally fuck your mind up. Even on a social level.
Explain what you mean by
>become able to settle for the men available
Do you have high standards or something? Are you only attracted to highly aesthetic individuals? There's nothing wrong with having standards and certain things you are attracted to, but you also need to have a sense of reality.
It's not entirely impossible for you to get the guy of your dreams, but it's highly unlikely to find that person in your lifetime. You'll need to lower your standards just a bit (but don't discard them). That doesn't mean you should aim for neckbeards, but maybe some guys that only meet SOME of your minimum standards, and if they fall short in other areas, it can be forgivable as long as it isn't TOO far out of your range of acceptability.
Don't try this shit with "be happier without them." It's impossible because you'll see guys that checks all the marks on your list and you'll always think "Damn, I wish this guy was riding me" and you'll remind yourself of the biological attraction we have towards the opposite sex. You can't get rid of it. Forcing it will turn you into a literal autist.
>>16590892
>If you are that crazy woman posting threads no wonder you are crazy, can't even make yourself come.
Pretty much, I guess. I cut a few lines to my ankle just now and calmed down enough to think straight.
I don't have access to a bath or a shower with a lock, though, and my vibrator isn't waterproof.
What kind of situations or moods do you suggest? I can't even get off on the stuff I DO know I like.
I mean fucking hell I've spent the past hour and a half trying to look up smut of star wars villains being physically violated in zoologically improbable ways.
>>16590898
You know that feeling when you're KIND OF hungry but everything in the fridge looks unappealing? That's the feeling.
I'm only sexually attracted to the least threatening men available, and being sexually attracted to me or worse yet, aroused, automatically makes a guy threatening.
So the goal here is to either stop feeling the need for a man, or to make the need outweight my fear and disgust of men in general.
>>16590916
Why does it matter if there is no lock, not like people will walk into people showering and if they do then you have bigger problems than this.
>and my vibrator isn't waterproof.
Then buy one that is, might as well shop for other stuff too get several different sizes and shapes. Or try your hands in the shower or in the bed or at the chair or outside or in public or to porn or in the night or after a jog or drunk or what ever.
>>16590819
>>16590869
There are several pills on their way for female arousal problem sufferers.
It is something like 30% of all women that have little or no arousal at all, so you are not alone OP
>>16590937
>not like people will walk into people showering
you don't fucking know my sister.
I've tried doing it high, drunk, awake, asleep, during the day, during the night, and the blue corn moon. I just can't get off.
Don't the big penetrative ones stretch your cunt out? I'm bat shit insane to begin with, what kind of a guy will want me with a loose cunt.
>>16590916
I didn't say to use the damn vibrator in the shower or bath. You can find those, but they are slightly pricier.
The bath is just to get you into a relaxed state. If baths don't relax you, then something that let's you just zone out and clear your mind so your focus is just on yourself. No distractions.
How much have you tried to really explore yourself? Really tried every spot? Try applying that vibrator on areas that you may or may not have tried before. Maybe even consider getting a second one (might as well get a waterproof one) so that you can have one inside you and one stimulating your clit at the same time.
You may need both types of stimulation. It'll only cost you some cash to try, and you'll upgrade your hardware too.
Let me give you a personal experience. My gf has VERY specific requirements to even have a chance to come:
>needs a vibrator directly on your clit at all times
>her legs and feet cannot touch the ground at all or she will never come
>can come without penetration with just vibe on clit
>can very RARELY come from just PIV (one in a million, we don't even try anymore)
>comes in about 5 minutes if all requirements are met, has like a 4 minute orgasm
So as you can see, sometimes we might have different requirements in order to get off. if you're just doing standard things, you'll never find out much.
>star wars villain thing
You weren't getting about the deviantart shit, but that's not really something you can think about while exploring yourself. That's like some voyeur stuff.
>>16590928
Gotcha. Well, give up on the "giving up on the feeling to need a man" part. It won't work. Not as long as you are human.
If you are sexually attractive, you are sexually attractive. Just accept that you could be desirable to someone. That some guy might want you because you are that appealing to him. Does the thought of that not do anything to you?
>>16590968
No, at least if you don't intentionally strech it out. And you probably want to start with smaller ones anyway.
Masturbate anyways are you 12? What is she gonna do, tell mommy? It's not about the shower anyways, it's just a comfortable place to do it, just get to know your body in a healthy way.
Maybe you just need to shove your fist into your ass or buy
>>16590966
the girl viagra.
>>16590968
And no, the stretching thing is a myth, for the most part. MAYBE if you had a dick in you like 24/7, then it's possible. But you would need to be using one that is MANY times your size, probably to the point of pain. Remember that your meat hole is going to be naturally stretchy to accommodate dicks of various sizes.
>>16590977
If I was relaxed, why the fuck would I need to masturbate??
I EXPLICITLY NEED TO CUM TO CALM THE FUCK DOWN.
G-spot, u-spot, clitoris, penetration, anal, if you think you can suggest a spot I haven't tried, feel free to share.
>That some guy might want you because you are that appealing to him. Does the thought of that not do anything to you?
The thought of some guy wanting to fuck me regardless of whether I want to fuck him makes me feel very upset, unsafe and disrespected.
>>16590993
>I EXPLICITLY NEED TO CUM TO CALM THE FUCK DOWN.
Ye and that would work nicely if you actually knew how to come wouldn't it.
That's why you start from the easy situations first.
Females:
-Easy to find someone to fuck you unless you're hideously fat.
-Hard to get yourself off.
Males:
-Hard to find someone to fuck, unless you're naturally gifted.
-Easy to get yourself off.
brb, gonna go get myself off for the 5th time today
>>16590982
A place where I can be interrupted at any time at all times is not a place I can relax or get comfortable.
>>16590986
>naturally stretchy
Have you ever seen a post-birth cunt?
They're not made of goddamn rubber.
Maybe I am weird but I can only get off if I rub my clit with underwear on. It's too sensitive otherwise.
>>16590999
THEN WHAT THE FUCK AM I SUPPOSED TO DO NOW?
>>16591001
die in a fire.
>>16591004
Humans are terrible at giving birth; what happens is actual damage and destruction which used to often result in death before modern times. "Childbearing hips" was a popular term, because women who had them didn't have to rip open as much and therefore they were less likely to die.
>>16591010
relax and rub one out you loonie or go to a doctor and get viagra.
>>16591010
>die in a fire.
Thanks toots, that's the last thing I needed before I could go beat the meat. I might be a virgin but I've had tens of thousands of orgasms in my life.
>>16591014
I can literally set the vibrator to the highest setting and forcibly push it against my bare clit and it doesn't fucking work.
>>16591018
that's why you need to be gentle and relaxed, because it doesn't work when you are trying to rape yourself
>>16591021
>need to orgasm to calm down
>need to calm down to orgasm
What if I just cut this fucking thing off with nail clippers. Then what.
>>16591037
>need to orgasm to calm down
False
Stop arguing against the advice, this is why you are crazy.
>>16591042
THEN WHAT THE FUCK DO I DO
>>16591037
You'll have the same problem, and an even harder time dealing with it. How were you expecting us to answer?
>>16591054
viagra doesn't fucking work like that.
It strengthens blood flow, making an erection possible when an erection is not possible due to issues with peripheral circulation.
It doesn't literally make you aroused.
>>16591067
I was referring to these
>>16590966
if you aren't the op then stop being autist, if it's the op stop being autist.
>>16591080
I am 100% sure that that shit isn't legal in my country, and I don't even know how to torrent music.
>>16591086
>go to a doctor
Of course it's legal once your doctor prescribes it.
>>16590746
I would attempt to masturbate when I was younger, but it didn't feel good because I didn't know what I was doing and I got frustrated.
When I got older, after I started watching porn, I honestly did this educationally because I felt very limited in that department. I had never seen an example of sex, so how could I be a good lover to my boyfriend without watching what generally turns men on?
I found out how to masturbate by stimulating my clit. And what had always scared me while I masturbated, was actually my body peaking. I'd always stop while I was peaking because it made me feel unnatural or like "SOMETHING IS GOING TO HAPPEN AND IM NOT READY"
But I was determined. I attempted to masturbate and did not stop when I felt myself getting ready to cum. Then I finally had my first orgasm. I was around 20 years old. And I masturbated like crazy after that.
I think it made me a better lover. Because I finally found "my spots" and was able to direct my boyfriend to them. I knew when I was about to cum and yea, it totally helped me in the bedroom.
But, in the beginning, orgasming one time made me very tired and dizzy. I did not want to have sex after I had cummed only once. It felt like it'd take me hours to recover. I mean, my vagina was fine, but my head would hurt and I'd feel dehydrated and dizzy. Like having low blood-sugar.
But further along in masturbation and sex, I have kinda trained myself to have multiple orgasms without the headaches and dizziness.
>>16591093
so just keep raping myself until something snaps and it happens?
>>16591101
Stop ignoring advice.
You have done this for like 500 posts in 3 days if not more.
Pretend to be retarded and keep repeating the same stuff.
Just read the posts again if you don't understand.
>>16591107
not being able to cum is not a life-threatening situation. A doctor won't care that I can't cum.
Buying pills online is very much illegal, and I am stupid when it comes to breaking the law, so I try not to do it.
If the key to orgasming in the aforementioned post is not pushing yourself when you want to stop, then I don't know what it is.
I don't understand what I am missing. If there is something obvious here that I am ignoring, I literally do not see it. It is invisible to me.
What am I missing?
>>16591120
Probably all the posts you ignored and strawmanned.
:^)
>>16591101
Are you retarded? Experimenting with masturbation is not rape.
>>16591129
I'm going to do another cut and calmly re-read this entire thread from the start, and if that doesn't give me any more answers I am smashing my laptop in half and go for the arteries.
>>16591136
I think that is best for everyone.
>>16591141
I got advice on masturbation when you're happy, none about sating the need I have now.
>>16590916
>smut of star wars villains being physically violated in zoologically improbable ways.
