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Help me unfuck my life please
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Help me unfuck my life please
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Explain what's wrong with your life
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>>16581515
no friends, haven't had friends ever.

i'm just tired of spending every day alone, and at 25 y.o. maybe that ship has sailed and i'll just never have friends
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>>16581522
Fix your insecurity first before thinking about friends.
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>>16581526
i don't even know how to make friends how am i supposed to know how to fix my insecurities. i thought having friends might help a little with that
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Go on....
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>>16581532
Honestly, look for someone to help, a professional if possible. Don't you have any relatives?
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Unfuck you say... How did you fuck up your life? Hmm? Maybe your life is beautiful, all is in perspective. I can tell your stress is in it's form. One day a person will come to you... I feel this, for I was the small. Now, I'm a custom bike builder, with a hot girlfriend. All it takes is a little faith.
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Wise you are
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Yes, he is one of many things, this Yoda.
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I'm pretty much in the same boat. 24, no friends, not even an online friend. I wanted to do so much stuff, and now I'm realize it's too late.
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>>16581604
What kind of stuff? Why do you think it's too late?
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>>16581609

Go to anime conventions, go to concerts, hang out and play video games, just stuff people do in their late teens early 20s. It's too late because people my age have mostly moved on from that stuff. I go online and the vast majority of people are 3-6 years younger than me. Everyone my age has friends and a job and is settled. They don't want to meet new people, they don't have the energy to stay up all night fucking around, they are moving on with their lives. Shit, even I'm moving on, and stuff that interested me a few years ago just doesn't anymore.

It's sinking in that my chances in life are gone, that I'll always be alone, that everything I wanted to do I should have done when I was 19, and now I've missed out.
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>>16581604
>24
>too late

Lol you can turn your life around at any time babyboy. I was homeless sleeping in my car at 24, and now look at me, posting on the internet on a connection I've paid for myself, in a room I've paid for myself, i came back just a few minutes ago from getting food with some friends I've made in a car i bought myself.

Fucking idiot manchildren think that highschool and college is the only part of life where anything is possible, it really aggravates me. I'm 29 and didn't start my career until i was 26. Many, many people start far later than that. Some people live almost their entire lives in misery and turn themselves around when they're old ass men to live their happiest years in life in the end.

Get over this self-pity shtick, in the end you will suffer far more being sad than we ever will by feeling sorry for you.
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>>16581633
Dude you can still go to anime conventions and concerts at 24, the problem isn't that. 24 isn't even old, I'd understand if you were mid 30s and looking for someone but that's not the same. Maybe you're insecure about doing those things though ?
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>>16581672

You turned yourself around at a late age; great for you. I'm not you. For ever success story like yours do you realize how many people fail? Do you know how many people live their lives alone?

The fact is highschool and college ARE the times when you have the greatest potential and the most possibilities. I couldn't do it then, I can't do it now.

>>16581678

I could, but I'm not going to get the enjoyment out of it that I would have 5 years ago. I'm not going to get the enjoyment out of it alone then if I had someone to go with.
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>>16581709
Dude see a therapist or someone, because it's only going to get worse if you don't act now.
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>>16581717

I don't think a therapist will help.
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>>16581733
And doing nothing will?
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How can I possibly help you?

I don't even know you.

How about talking to a therapist?
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>>16581532
do you fap with porn all day?
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>>16581508
HOW TO FIND FRIENDS

Don't look for them. look for activities. Join a gym, join a club, take a non-academic class (cooking, art appreciation, auto repair) at a local community college. You will be in the presence of other people doing the same things, and so it will be inevitable that some chat about what you're doing will go on. Eventually someone will suggest that the class/team/people on line go get coffee or a drink after. And because these people are doing the same thing as you, you probably have other things in common.

And that is how, by doing something else, you fall into having friends.

(Incidentally, some of them are likely to be - or know - people of the other gender.)
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>some guy hijacks your thread
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You should know what you're actually doing. Meeting people in real life is not like it is on the internet.
> Looks: People are superficial. You habe to look nice. That doesn't mean things like your face or so but a good hairstyle, good clothes and things like that. Get on /fa/ and get your looks straight.
> Work: What you do defines who you are make it interesting.
> Anime Conventions will only get you to people who also don' have control over their life.

This might be harsh but if you really want to change your life you really have to change your self. You will have to leave childish things, ideas and such behind. Get an example, like for example Ryan Gosling: Look up how that person dresses, watch interviews, see how he talks. Watch his movies. Become more like him because he is the kinda guy everyone likes and the girls go crazy for.

>>BECOME A MAN JUST DO IT.

Its hard but it's absolutely needed.
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>>16582488
>you have to try to become ryan gosling

should i just give up now
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