How is someone supposed to be good at sex for their future partner when it's something you can't practice alone?
Should I just hire escorts?
By learning through practice with that future partner. "Good" is relative to each individual person's preferences anyway.
>>16557118
This. The learning process is part of the bonding process.
Learn basic facts about the gender you're interested in and what works in general for them.
Learn the same things about yourself.
When you meet a partner, don't put too much pressure on yourself, start with what you know and be attentive to what that person like. Work from there.
>>16557109
my first kiss she said "are you sure you've never done this? you're really good at it""
it's not rocket science, not even school science
>>16557172
It's actually chemistry.
being bad at sex is hard, it comes instinctually
as long as you're relaxed and confident you'll figure it out just by experimenting with each other.
no need for an escort
>>16557109
Let her know is your first time, then she'll know you get better. It just happens
>>16557172
Same, I just lost my virginity at 21 and she said the same thing after I was done eating her out. She thought I had a lot of practice, but it was just enthusiasm haha.
>>16557118
holy shit can you be more useless? your suggestion is literally "just be urself"
the truth is that woman gives a lot of attention to that shit so OP try it with some escorts first until you can handle yourself (it will cost 5 or 6 visits aprox)
>>16557339
Do you have autism? He didn't say that at all. He said that the best way to be good at sex with your future partner is to get a future partner and practice with them. There's no 'catch all' to good sex. Every person's preferences are different.
>>16557360
i'm not gonna argue with you because you are literally retarded if you think there aren't basic guidelines towards good sex
maybe you think that good sex is being some fetichism bdsm faggot, but for the general public there are some really basic notes that you should have.
OP should get an escort so he can actually recognizes where he should put his penis in the vagina rather than going "eeehrm, so it should go here?" in his first time. Don't say that it will not scare away his future partner if he says that, we all know that the phase when you are able to say that is before you are 17 years old.
Jesus christ /adv/ is full of new age "it depends on the person maaaan" faggots
>>16557385
>OP should get an escort so he can actually recognizes where he should put his penis in the vagina rather than going "eeehrm, so it should go here?" in his first time.
But literally who thinks that? Sex is instinctual, even animals know where to put it. You don't need to fuck an escort to know where the vagina is and that your penis goes there. Being 'good' at sex IS subjective because different things turn on different people. Some women like having their tits sucked on during, some hate it. Some need clitoral stimulation in addition to penetration, some find it just distracting. Some girls want it rough, some are more delicate.. that's not even going into the wide variety of positions available.
You're being intentionally dense if you think that just knowing where to put your penis and how to hammer away at a vagina makes you 'good' at sex, which is what OP asked in the first place. He didn't ask 'how do I know where to put my penis'.. because that's all you're gonna learn from an escort. They're gonna pretend to like whatever you're doing because they're being paid to. You're not going to learn how to read a girl's signals and figure out what gives them pleasure.
fucking faggot.
>>16557419
god fucking lord are you actually saying that OP will know instinctually where to put his fucking penis in the vagina without making it awkward as fucking fucks?
I really want to tape OP first time to see if your theory of instinctual "just b urself" penis will actually give him the ethereal knowledge about how vaginas actually work you fucking faggot
>>16557109
It's like any thing: you perform a task best when you have a theoretical knowledge to tell you the basics, the intention and the unseen mechanics but you also need experience to understand the stimuli, what the subtler elements are, to fill in the gaps and understand individual situations.
If it's your first time doing whatever and a girl says you were great or it's like you've done it before, it's easily more likely they're lying to make you feel good.
Not all do it but it's incredibly common.
They lie and hope everything will work out until the shitness of reality finally becomes unbearable and they'll unleash 5 years of dissatisfaction on you in one instant without ever giving a hint of it before.
You will need to have sex at some point to actually be good at it. For a girlfriend it's usually okay if that learning period happens with them.
>>16557419
Confirmed retard.
Humans are humans. We have instincts but we also have beliefs and knowledges that can conflict with them.
There are literally couples who've had sex with the guy putting his cock in the woman's urethra.
It is not intuitive; instincts are such a small part of sex drive that is dwarfed by however many years and ways you've been masturbating and to top it off male instincts for sex aren't actually what either gender wants: to cum fast and dissatisfyingly
>>16557436
How are you this stupid? Jesus christ. I'm not even the person you were replying to. Jesus fuck you are one of the dumbest fuckers I've ever seen post, and you probably aren't even trolling.
If sex were so hard, the population would have died out long ago.
No one asks for a walkthrough or has someone coach them through sex for the millions of years humans were evolving before electricity, and yet they still figured it out.
If you have ever seen one single porno, which I'm sure you have, then you are already starting out more knowledgeable than the vast majority of human beings that have ever existed.
