Gf just asked if she can go to a strip club with a bunch of her friends. What do
I know girls in groups can get problematic
Other men please give input thanks
>>16555733
Politely say you're not comfortable with it.
>>16555743
Tell that bitch to go and never come back.
>>16555733
wait what is your problem with it? the fact that she's going to a strip club or she's hanging out with a group of girls?
what would she say if you're going to a strip club with a bunch of friends?
yeah right..
she asked you though thats good dont fuck it up now
>>16555758
He's worried she's gonna suck some greasy stripper cock.
Cause generally a group of females in this situation are gonna;
A) get retarded drunk, and
B) get really horny
Add in the available, good looking male stripers. And the slutty group-think mentality of the gaggle of drunk bitches.
And you've got a good 90% chance of being cheated on.
My advice OP is to just show up at the club an hour in. Sure you might get weird looks, but if your comfortable in your sexuality then it's no big deal.
Then you can keep an eye on your bitch so she won't do anything shady.
You can also watch all of her lady friends, if any of them are cheating sluts you can get evidence of it and report them to their boyfriends.
Two birds stoned at once, she loses her slutty bad influence friends, and you help some bros avoid kuckoldry.
>>16555786
Also, do this under the guise of the Designated Driver
"So they can all get drinks and have a fun time."
Your just a nice bf who wants her and her friends to have a fun, safe evening.
>>16555786
>>16555795
dont do this.. way to be a passive aggressive faggot
if he feels uncomfortable (rightfully) with it he should tell her and stand his ground
if she insists on going fucking dump her
>>16555806
Why are passive aggressive tactics objectively wrong? Or is that just your opinion?
Remember when America took independence from the English? What if the revolutionaries didn't use guerrilla warfare (passive aggressive faggots) and instead stood in rows out in the fields to match the English chivalry?
They would have been slaughtered.
>>16555733
whats the difference between watching porn and going to a strip club?
>my gf wants to kek me, should I let her?
well OP, are you a kek or what?
>>16555825
you can't suck the porns actors cock watching a porn movie.
There's not alcohol involved.
OP here. Unfortunately can't be there to monitor them, I have one more week of finals before I get home. Still not sure. I don't think she'd cheat but I know the girls she's going with are questionable
>>16555819
>>comparing war tactics to relationships
>Why are passive aggressive tactics objectively wrong?
tactics.. nigga what? have you ever been in a relationship?
>she's actually considering putting herself infront of half naked dudes swinging dicks in her face
>going with friends
>women friends
>with alcohol
>actually thinking this wont end with all her holes filled
Tell her flat out, if she touches any of them you're gone.
>>16555836
Yes I have
>not comparing war tactics to relationships
Foolish kucold
>>16555832
>you can't suck the porns actors cock watching a porn movie.
well if i look back on my strip club visits i was not able to eat anyones pussy out there either. the strip clubs i know arent meant to be places where you fuck the strippers or they fuck you.
I'd tell her no way, no how, not while you're in a relationship with me. I provide an absolute guarantee that I won't get drunk in places with strange, nearly-naked women, and I'm entitled to the same treatment in return. I recommend you adopt that attitude.
>>16555841
>Foolish kucold
"i'd rather be a spineless passive aggressive faggot than man up and tell her whats what"
projecting much?
>>16555851
Are you quoting someone?
>>16555843
So you think male and female strip clubs are the same?
Tell her she has to use her own money
>>16555861
>So you think male and female strip clubs are the same?
to some degree yes. enlighten me about your experiences with female strip clubs (i.e. strip clubs for women)
I mean, I went to a strip club with my girl friends and I let my boyfriend know about. He didn't bat an eyelash because he knew I wouldn't do anything there. Because if you actually, you know, have trust between you, you don't worry about this shit. Likewise I don't give a flying fuck when he goes to strip clubs because I know he won't do anything with the girls.
By the way, strip clubs aren't like a nightclub. Nightclubs actually have more possibly of cheating. Strip clubs, the guys are kind of distant. They just go on stage and wave their dicks around, and maybe hump some chick on her hen's night. But not much else, from when I went anyway desu.
>>16555733
Why can't she just go to a regular club? Why a strip club? That bitch wants some cock in her face for sure
>>16555874
Fuck that. No, seriously, fuck that. I'm so tired of that "it's not a problem if you actually have trust!" line. A good solid chunk of trusting your partner comes from knowing they'll actively avoid dangerous situations where cheating is more likely, and a good chunk of BEING a trustworthy partner is doing exactly that. Further, even if you know deep down that you're one of the few perfect people who never would in a million years cheat (and how many people have wrongly thought that about themselves), avoiding such situations anyway is a really basic sign of respect for your partner and the relationship. Not understanding this suggests immaturity.
OP here again. There's apparently no set date. Also she "thinks" it's girl strippers. But like I said, many of the girl's she's going with are confirmed whores. On the other hand she's been very loyal thus far.
>>16555733
>"Hey anon, can i cu.ck you?"
I would have dump the bitch right after he asked me this.
If she's the type to cheat she doesn't need a strip club to do it. On the other hand, if you're not comfortable with it then there's nothing wrong with telling her so.
It's up to you whether that's appropriate for a person with whom you're in a relationship. Some people don't have such standards or concerns for their reputation. Others do. You have to decide whether it matters in the eyes of other people that your girlfriend went to a strip club.
Other people are really the ones who matter here. As far as the relationship goes, "problems" can happen any other time they get into a group. On a more innocent note it's also not like she's neglecting your relationship by being out with friends for a night. So really this boils down to other people. For what it's worth, that wouldn't fly with me. It's not compatible with my life to have it out there that my girlfriend is going to strip clubs.
>>16555904
I mean, it just comes off as super defensive and immature to me if you think your ideals and morals are the only right way for every relationship. For my relationship, we're okay with each other going to strip clubs. It doesn't mean we don't have respect for each other. Respect is letting your partner know what you're doing and coming to a mutual understanding with them, and not going beyond that compromise.
And sorry, but it is true. If you do have genuine trust and no insecurities you really wouldn't find this as something to worry about. Trust involves knowing that even if your partner is in a "dangerous environment" (which it wouldn't be because if you were assured that they were loyal you would know they wouldn't do anything anyway) they would know how to handle themselves. Heck, my partner knows that in a place with alcohol I wouldn't drink a crazy amount that would impair my judgment, even if I am with wilder friends. That, my friend, IS trust.
If you agree with your partner you don't like them going to strip clubs simply because you don't like the idea of them seeing other naked people, that is fine. But if you're throwing a hissy fit because you can't monitor her every move and are worried about what she'll do, then yeah you don't have trust.
People say this a lot because it's true.
>>16555922
The thing is she might accidentally cheat.
Alcohol + her friends pressuring her
>>16555930
Couple things. Addressing me as "my friend" in a conversation like this is patronizing. Don't do it. Also, conflating "not being okay with your partner going to a strip club" with "throwing a hissy fit because you can't monitor her every move" is very disingenuous.
That said, I should probably clarify what I'm trying to say, because I don't think I got it across -- I've had a lot of similar conversations on here and I think my frustration bled through. I'm not claiming that my personal boundaries are right for every relationship, and I'm not calling you, specifically, immature, certainly not for being OK with strip clubs. I'm sorry if I gave that impression. I am saying, though, that blanket statements like "not having absolute trust in your partner suggests insecurity on your part" (or a problem in your relationship) are immature.
Understand: I'm not thinking of my partner here, I'm thinking of myself. People behave and even think differently in different contexts, and nobody's worldly enough to know how they'll react in every possible situation. Certainly I'm not. Like I said, millions of people have gone into situations believing they "weren't cheaters," that they simply didn't have it in them to do something so hurtful to the person they loved most, and then have woken up the next morning honestly wondering what they could have been thinking. Were they all hopelessly deluded, or can otherwise good people have triggers and faults they weren't even aware of? Maybe there are perfectly trustworthy people out there, maybe you're one of them. I hope I am too, but as far as I'm concerned, I can't know that until I'm tested, and it would be unfair of me to ask my partner to have absolute confidence in something I don't know myself.
I think absolute trust is a romantic notion and I don't say that snidely. I hope it serves you well in your relationships. But it's ridiculous to tell people they're somehow deficient for not expecting or offering it in theirs.
>>16555733
it's a bait, you say no, you're a controlling asshole she goes anyway and gets fingered. you say yes you're, in her mind, giving her a free pass to get fingered.
A girl that was worth keeping would respect you too much to even ask such a dumb question. The answer to your question is break up and avoid the drama, and maintain your self respect.
>>16556070
>I can't know that until I'm tested
Plus a trustworthy person wouldn't voluntarily submit themselves to such a test. When you trust someone with money, you're not just trusting them to keep it. You're trusting them not to take it into a casino in the first place.
>>16555733
She's one of those types. If you like that type of girl, tolerate her. If you want to worry about her doing these type of things in the future, cut your losses soon.
She's a potential whore.
>>16555733
You're fucked OP.
say no
>she tells her friends
>wow how DARE he tell you what to do, what a controlling paranoid dude lol
>you KNOW he is looking at other girls just come with us
Say ok
>you get keked
>>16555874
>hehe Im gonna put this loaded gun up to your head
>WOW are you getting defensive?
>I guess there's no trust here
>I can't believe you don't trust me
Any woman who spouts "trust" as a reason to go into a shitty situation is not to be trusted.
She has to ask for your permission to do shit? Are you fucking kidding me?
>>16555834
>I don't think she's cheat
OK so what is the issue here?
>>16555834
So what? Hopefully she's an adult who makes her own descision. If you have no reason to believe she's cheating, you're fucking up your relationship by not trusting her. I'm in my twenties, I have two close girlfriends I'll use as an example: One is a 21-year old virgin, the other 22 and has had >80 sexual partners. What does that say about my decision making and sex life? Nothing. I also have friends who'd cheat on their partner due to many different factors and situations, sure as shit doesn't mean I'd do it.
>>16556290
>poly relationship
>Im not a cheater!
>>16555733
>>16556293
Haha, girlfriends as in my female buddies. My platonic loves, y'know? English is my third language, sorry.
>>16555733
you know that the whole "no touching" thing doesnt apply at male strip clubs, right? your gf will likely have a dick in her mouth (at least) before the night is over
Lol op I hope you and her go and get std tested before you're intimate with her again.
Herpes is forever bro
>>16555909
if it's a strip club where women dance you have more to worry about from the male patrons than you do the dancers
>>16555733
its not a strip club you have to worry about it is the dance club they'll head to after they are drunk and worked up
