Girlfriend always wants to have sex and sends me lewd messages/pictures of herself when I'm in class or out with friends. Unfortunately, I have a low sex drive for a guy and can't keep up with her. What do?
Break up with her so she can date a real man
have third party black men come in and take care of her for you.
>>16550442
Inject testosterone.
Just fuck her.
>>16550450
Asked her. She only wants my dick.
>>16550473
cück
>>16550442
Oh my god I fucking hate having this problem. Fortunately I'm with someone who would never judge me for this sort of thing but it's just a real drag. I have anxiety problems too so my desire to have sex has to be higher than whatever level of anxiety I'm at, which is frequently very high.
>>16550442
Do you fuck her a lot? Learn2foreplay and make her orgasm more.
My girl has me send dick picks which I hate, I'm already insecure about my size and I'm pretty sure a penis looks unappetizing. If you're confident try sending her a few lewd pics yourself.
Super beta thread of the day.
>>16550442
Break up.
You are clearly not enough man for her.
move weights around more often. It helps
I've been dumped for this reason. Twice.
"you want to have sex too much" "there is more to our time together than just having sex"
I didnt know wanting to fuck the brains out of the guy you like/love was sooo fucking bad.
Now i'm too scared to date again and just masturbate furiously several times a day.
>>16550581
We can fug whenever you want :^)
>>16550581
It is called controlling yourself. Yes being attracted to a person is great but if all you want is sex the person will lose interest....yes guys.
For all the virgins on /adv/ trust me guys it is truth. Used to be a virgin, got a girlfriend and wanted sex as much as possible. Shit went downhill because it became predictable and not as excited as it used to be. Eventually you start going through the motions.
You need back off sometimes and just relax. Let the person miss you before going all in with your intentions.
>>16550621
Casual sex is fine and dandy. but i've been single for over 2 years now. Would rather have something more than just the d of a stranger
>>16550635
Sitting there pretending to be someone i'm not is not ideal.
Boning in the morning and once or twice during the night doesnt seem like a big deal to me. I could go for lots more.
It's a problem i seem to have inherited from my parents.
They say when they were younger they used to have sex 4-5 times a day if not more. Even now they go at it at least twice a day.
Honestly, if i had to sit there acting like i'm not interested in my partner, masturbate in secret, even for a few days, i would be miserable.
Communicate this to her and work through it if you can. If not, you know the drill.
>>16550674
Most guys don't want to go 2 times a day. That is 14 times a week and 60 times a month. Understand that sex isn't a quick time thing and you can move on. It is very draining for us guys and puts us off for a while.
Not to mention if you have too much of something, its value diminishes. Limiting sex will make each time more special and rewarding but having it everyday twice a day will cheapen it. "Oh shit I gotta bang her...sigh".
Most guys mentally want to go that many times but physically once the nut is busted we don't want anything to do with the person. Come back to reality and grow the fuck up.
>>16550716
LOL
Telling me to grow up.
That's funny.
I'm perfectly grown up. I just obviously need to find the guys that don't fit into "most"
>>16550727
Laugh it up but you are being immature. Most people have to compromise with their partner. Expecting your partner to be okay with sex in the early morning and late at night is simply ridiculous.
I suggest you see a therapist because you don't seem to understand such a simple concept. You sound selfish as all hell, like it is all about you.
>>16550716
Agree with this, maybe early on a dude will want it all the time but it won't stay that way once the relationship goes beyond a few months. After that it becomes more about quality over quantity. It's better and more memorable when you really want it, rather than just being in an 'eh, that sounds alright' frame of mind. So this is something maybe the OP can try to subtly communicate to his GF; maybe even create a bit of physical space so the pressure to do it isn't always there. The idea is that men should be up for it 24/7 but seriously fuck that, I'd much rather have a few really awesome sessions a week than a dozen decent ones.
The other aspect relevant to OP is that these things vary from person to person and are an important part of relationship compatibility. If you two really are wildly mismatched you either need to reach a compromise, or start looking for someone new.
I can relate to >>16550581 and >>16550442 but I am a guy.
It isn't draining at all for me and I can go quite a few times a day. I am not trying to boast here or anything, it can put a real strain on a relationship to have a really high sex drive. Reaching some sort of compromise isn't easy and sometimes just not possible.
Yes, communication is key here. You can find some practices to really tire your partner out, use toys and whatever else to help you with that. It works, but you have to make it work and put some effort in. Making a girl orgasm multiple times in a row is pretty easy if you have technical help and there is honestly nothing hotter than that to me.
Put some effort in and you can satisfy anyone. And yes, even multiple times a day.
However, I can also dial it back and not act on those impulses/desires.
I always considered myself to be pretty weird in that regard and still do to be honest.
>>16550739
For me that time span is rather "a few years", I have tried it and it never subsided. I haven't found a limit yet and I won't anymore.
>>16550735
Sex is important in a relationship.
If one person isn't pleased or if another is getting too much, it wont work. Someone might cheat, someone might resent the other.
A passionate person cant work with a stagnant person. This i have learned.
I'm not selfish, I love pleasing my partner and showing them how much i care for them.
Being with someone i love or deeply care for, i want to be connected with them. I'll do anything for them. But, just being next to them arouses me terribly and it's not something i can control. nor do i think i should really have to.
My friend is engaged to a woman who almost never wants to have sex, he's lucky if he gets missionary once a week. But she is perfect in every other way.
However, as much as he loves her, he spends his free time flirting with girls on dating sites, sharing nudes and talking dirty.
I don't understand this at all, he has a high as f sex drive and is kinky as all hell but he settles for it while fighting the urge to cheat on her every day.
If i am going to be with someone, i dont want anyone to stray, i want everyone to be happy and fulfilled
>>16550739
There is no such thing as "decent" sex for me, I'll go all out, I'll do anything he wants. Anything. Excluding scat and blood. It's the level of love and trust i have with that person and wish to show.
>>16550743
I'm definitive not impulsive, i could be and in my early 20's i did whore it up a bit. That connection with my loved one is really amazing.
I'm passionate, romantic and have a high sex drive, i never imagined it to be as troublesome as it has been.
>>16550826
I can pretty much sign all of what you have said.
I didn't say you were impulsive either, just that I am lucky I can suppress it fairly easy. Might have worded that wrong though, so that's on me.
Especially the getting aroused because of just being next to your partner is something I can relate to.
Besides what I already said above, I can't really help much though. That problem isn't relevant to my life anymore, so all I can talk about is how I used to handle it back when I still dated/had relationships.
>>16550839
i've kinda given up on dating for now atleast. i came out of relationships feeling like a giant whore, that there is something wrong with me and just general shitty things. it's been a few years and i sometimes get lonely but, i feel more comfortable as a whole.
I do miss that connection though. that firey, passionate deep thing.
My boyfriend is the same. It depends how tolerant she is to your low sex drive. For me, it took huge hits to our relationship and my self image.
I think that sexual compatibility is very important in a relationship and although we are working on our sex life, I wish I knew before I got in too deep. I would have never stayed with him.
When we have sex, I just feel numb for most of it because I know he is doing it not out of passion or horniness, but because I have been sexually frustrated and starting to act like a bitch towards him. I won't lie, I have lost respect for him and occasionally I will see porn in his web browser, which makes me resent him more.
>>16550908
Being a whore is, at least how an overwhelming majority sees it, sleeping around, not wanting lots of sex with just one guy.
So unless you have been sleeping with a ton of guys to get that satisfaction, I don't think there is anything wrong with that.
But I can totally understand how this would stop you from dating or getting romantically involved with someone. There is also the fear of being judged when revealing your sex drive is that high. Some people might think you were sleeping around despite this not being the case and so on and so forth.
I also decided to give up on dating, albeit this just being something that made my decision a little easier, not really part of the reason.
And yes, a lot of guys claim that a girl with a sex drive like yours is exactly what they want, but for most of them it's just fine for the first few months. You can definitely find someone with a sex drive as high as yours though, I know they do exist.
>>16550923
As I said above, try to incorporate new things into it. Change things up, use toys and other things to help you get the satisfaction you need. If he is willing to work on it, you can most likely work something out that's okay for both of you.
However, about the porn he is still looking at: This has nothing to do with you or with him not wanting to have sex with you. I heard a lot of women saying things like "but I am right there, he could easily..."
Yes, sex is pretty great, but masturbation is different. You don't only want to eat your favourite food either, even if it comes in a lot of varieties. You need change and masturbation is just that. Sometimes one just doesn't feel like having sex, but still wants to masturbate.
I imagine you also just want to masturbate at times instead of always having sex, no?
Fuck her right in the pussy.
Sex is fun but tiring. Especially since most women can't cum if they're on top.
A good fucking takes grit and fitness.
So when a woman says "let's have sex" it means "I'll lay on my back and you just do everything while I diddle my clit a bit".
Generally the position that makes a girl cum is the one where she just remains still so the guy can hit the sweet spot while she massages her clit.
Not only that but all the foreplay falls on us as well. For guys when the boner is ready, bang we're ready to go. Women need some romancing and teasing.
I'll fuck multiple times a day, but women need to understand stand that if I woke up at 6am, I can physically fuck you at 2 am, but it'll be a shit show and I probably won't cum and neither will you.
>>16550522
>>16551156
>>16550449
Why the fuck are you assholes judging the OP as a beta because he had a low sex drive??
>>16550442
On the subject of which, how do I get my gf to fuck me in the shitter with a feeldo?
Most girls are severely grossed out by it
>>16550581
Wat. Are you in NYC? Pls come be my gf
Ive been in a similar situation
Just finger her, if you're good then thats all you need
>>16550961
I've never cheated or knowingly slept with someone with a partner. But i have had a fair few casual encounters with a person's Genitals. I'm not ashamed of that. I've never had unsafe sex.
It has been a very long time since i had real dick anywhere near my person however.
I don't think i am a whore or a slut, personally. Though i have been treated like one.
I am finding the whole singledom thing is far less stressful. The last time i was dumped for the high sex drive thing it was a nasty break up. I left it feeling like i was some gaping cunt and disease filled whore.
Since then, i made friends with plastic penis'
>>16551258
Not even in the same hemisphere, bro.
I wouldn't want to be someones gf anyway.
>>16550512
Vaginas don't look like flowers, it's the idea that counts.
>>16550961
His desire for sex is low....he has no interest in fucking me in even a primal sense. I tried toys and kinks, there is nothing going on in his pants. We're trying to work it out but my god this is so fucking boring...
