I am 24 and I have never had sex. I often wonder what my life would be like if I did have a relationship at all when I was younger. Anyway, I feel my mind is plagued by sexual thoughts about women. Like oversaturated.
I saw a woman the other day. Puerto rican, loooong jet black curly hair and a pretty big butt. Looked nice. The first thought in my head was "Wow, I would want to fuck her until her HEAD POPS OFF!" I didn't even think about what she would be like personality wise. A part of me wants to care about a womans personality but when I first see a girl, I often just think "I WANT TO GROPE HER UNTIL SHE FUCKING TURNS BLUE". Obviously I don't do this but it makes me feel like I don't respect women. Which.. I believe I do respect women but my minds first thoughts are often poisonous.
Like how can I respect a woman if I want to fuck her until her head pops off? Help me..
Try a hooker or escort first
L2 Control your dick.
>>16525939
You could ease into the whole woman thing by starting off with strippers. This way you'll get used to having intimate contact with a woman and get used to feeling boobs/butt. Then move onto the whores if that doesn't satiate you. That's what I did and now my woman-pedestal hangup is completely gone.
>>16525980
I feel like hnaging around whores and strippers erodes my morality though. I am very susceptible to addictive things. I don't want to get sucked into strippers and whores(no pun intended HAH)
>>16525939
The way you describe your thoughts about these women is far more cringe-inducing than the thoughts themselves.
You need to get this out of your system. Hire an escort.
>>16526010
I can't hire an escort. I feel like paying for sex like that is not... its just too fucked up. Makes me feel like I can't do it naturally.
>>16526010
Not OP.
I did. And it didn't work. Still dropping spaghetti everywhere. Didn't have a female friend (be it platonic or not) or girlfriend somce ever.
I'm only not socially awkward around.. well guys. I hope that doesn't make me gay ...
>>16526003
But wanting to fuck a chick until her head pops off and wanting to grope her until she turns blue is moral? Get off your high horse, friend. You're as much of a pervert as anyone who frequents whores and strippers. If don't want to go that route then you'd best start hitting up bars and clubs for women who are dtf. They might not always be that attractive though.
>>16526042
>>16526041
I guess but paying money just seems too fucked. I want to do things with women but I want it to be natural. Hiring whores seems dishonorable.
>>16526029
But you can't?
>>16526072
Well thats what I am trying to work on! I just want to have a healthy sex life.
fyi
prostitution is illegal in most of the united states
Sounds to me like you need to seek therapy and possibly medication. You have an astute self-awareness surrounding your unhealthy desire for women (which might be indicative of a hormonal imbalance) and is likely being exacerbated by your obsession with your lack of sexual experience.
To make a long post short, read a book by Mark Manson titled "Models: A Comprehensive Guide to Attracting Women." The title is literal. The book should probably be stickied on /adv/. You will learn virtually everything you need to know to revamp your lifestyle, personality, career, fashion, and fitness; in doing so, you will be a lot less needy, thereby irreducibly lessening your desire for the approval of women.
TL:DR Read some self-improvement shit.
>>16525939
Most straight men want to fuck every hot chick they see/know until their heads pop off. Especially if you haven't gotten laid in a while. The only way to get over it is to either become a player who gets a variety of women regularly or get in a stable relationship where you can fuck any day of the week. For me knowing I have the option to fuck a hot chick any time I want kind of settles me down where I don't think about it too much anymore
Men don't ever, ever, EVER think about what it would be like to spend years with a woman. All they think about is getting their rocks off.
Explains like 90% of marriages you see.
I'm sorry you got bullied so much in school, OP.
There is absolutely nothing wrong or abnormal with having purely sexual feelings, even aggressive sexual feelings, towards a woman. Even full-on rape fantasies can be indulged in safe ways that don't violate the autonomy of others. Your sexuality is a part of who you are, and it's ok to embrace it; in fact, it's unhealthy not to.
First and foremost I think it'd be helpful for you to talk to a therapist about your feelings, but like other anons in the thread, I think you might also get a lot of value out of seeing a hooker. From what I've heard, they tend to be more than happy to help virgins learn the ropes and work out their shit. I know there's a strong social taboo against paying for it, but I think if you'll consider the logic behind that taboo, you'll realize that it's rooted in an unhealthy and unfeasible view of sexuality. If doing something helps you and doesn't hurt anybody else, then you should do it.
Go to r/seduction or sosuave.com to learn to get laid. Yes, you can do it. Everyone gets laid. Literally nothing in your life will keep you from getting laid if you follow the advice on those two forums.
It takes time to learn, just like any other activity, so enjoy it.
>>16525980
wow, i just realized the term woman-pedestal hangup basically describes my life
thanks anon
>>16526192
>united states
welp, theres your problem
>>16527142
>r/seduction or sosuave.com to learn to get laid
lmao
>>16527523
>>16527142
i've been reading some of the articles on the latter site, they seem decent
should i stop? am i going to make a fool of myself?
