Ok so I am not one to complain about boyfriends watching porn, in fact, I watch it too. But my boyfriend of 2 years won't give it up or watch it together to work on our sex life. We have sex about 2 to 3 times a month and I am about ready to walk out of the door. It's especially hard to stay when I know I can get a boyfriend who wants sex with me and not turn to porn whenever his dick twitches.
And our sex life is boring as shit.
What can I do?
What should I do?
>pic semi related when we have yet another night of friendly cuddling and not a boner in sight because he has already jerked off 4 times that day.
lose weight and then find another boyfriend.
>>16515930
No? I don't need to lose weight.
Sorry but the problem is not mine.
>>16515933
Keep blaming your personality then.
If you've talked to him and nothing's changed, find another boyfriend.
Have you told him it's threatening the relationship? Because you should have, by now. Tell him you love him, and you don't care that he watches porn, but it's affecting you and you just can't deal with only having sex a couple times a month. If it doesn't change you'll seriously consider ending the relationship.
If you've already had that conversation, or if you have it and he doesn't change, then it's time to leave.
>>16515940
We talk about it once a month. At the start I was really worried because unlike my ex's he didn't seem to want sex as often. Then I found his porn folders and he said he has to fap at least once a day to porn. It hasn't changed.
>>16515941
I guess it's time to leave then.
Last month he said he will try to stop but it will take time, but nothing changed.
What is more disturbing, he has sex like he is watching porn, it's weird. He doesn't really say much apart from grunt every now and then and pound away. I have to really try to concentrate to orgasm and touch myself at the same time.
Also I am his first relationship, before me he had a series of drunken ONS and a few prostitutes.
I have the opposite issues.
Me and my GF of 3 years have fucked 16 times since Thursday.
send help
>>16515955
>>issues
>>16515962
I'm tired as fuck, its been a very long weekend, and it feels like I've had every ounce of energy sucked out of me by that vagina.
>>16515951
Uh. Yeah. Dude's got issues. It's not fair to you to have to wait around just hoping he'll fix them.
Usually I try to give relationship-saving advice on here, since most others are very quick to drop the "it's over, break up lol" bombshell, but in this case I really just think you should bug out.
As a parting gift, maybe make him watch that movie Don Jon. I didn't love it, but it sounds like he's literally the main character, even down to the way he has sex. Maybe that will jolt him back to reality, I don't know.
>>16515923
>Sex is the only reason to leave a relationship.
You're trash. Do him a favor and get out of his life.
>>16515972
Sex is very crucial to a healthy relationship. You at least have to be compatible.
>>16515966
You are truly pulling at my heart strings anon. I would send you some money if I could, maybe even buy you a drink.
>>16515980
I can use every ounce of help I can get friend.
>>16515972
>>She follows your "advice"
>>Stays with him
>>Finally snaps and cheats on him
>>Lets it out on /adv/
>>"You deserve whats coming to you, you cheating whore"
>>16515978
What happens when his dick stops working due to age and your sex drive declines due to menopause or middle-aged morbidity?
If sex was a large part of why you were together, what then do you have?
>>16515993
Trust and a mutual understanding.
There's a reason relationships go to shit after the "honey moon phase", when sexual interest wears off.
>>16515993
By that time, sex dwindles down naturally. Idiot. Stay virgin pleb.
>>16515923
me and my ex had this same problem minus the porn. i hate to tell you this sweetheart but your bf is bored of you and wants new girls. that was my problem. just not physically attracted to her anymore. she was boring.
>>16515968
I don't think anything will help at this point.
>>16516004
But I offered him an open relationship and he was horrified at the idea.
>>16516010
well then you come date me. i asked my ex for an open relationship specifically to avoid this problem and she was disgusted. yet she had no problems going out with other guys.
did you try giving him head when hes fapping to porn and try to lead into sex
>>16516023
He doesn't like me seeing my male friends unless he is with me and even then he makes excuses for us not to go.
>>16516031
I tried that and he said he doesn't want to watch it with me because it's "weird"
Everything you've written has made this dude sound weirder and the relationship sound shittier.
I'm sorry. I think it really is over.
>>16516039
i can see why he wouldnt want you to be with guy friends. but if you offered an open relationship and he still wont fuck you or offer any other solutions then leave him. you deserve to be sexually satisfied in your relationship, especially if you are cool enough to allow him to be with other women. dump him.
>>16516046
I am glad to hear that I am not the only one who thinks this set up is weird. I thought I was going insane at one point.
I will talk to him in the morning to tell him it's over.
>>16515993
>implying old people don't have sex
Srsly. Old people bang all the time. I mean, you're old, you're not working, no children to take care of, nobody cares what you say, you have nothing to do all day. So what do you do?
Correct. What anyone would do.
>>16516058
Don't feed the asexuals.
>>16515923
Talk to him about it, and if nothing changes, leave him. Obviously you're not getting what you want out of this relationship. You're not beholden to stick around.
lack of communication, sister. You sound fed up. Consider presenting your ideas to him. If he goes along with them, awesome, but he has a say in this stuff too. If you think this is a deal breaker, walk out already. Couples counseling could work if ya wanna save your relationship.
Has he always been like this?
>>16516169
Please read the thread before responding next time.
>>16515993
>What happens when his dick stops working due to age
Honestly if porn is more arousing to him than real sex he's a lost cause, doomed to be a neckbeard on this sight fapping to /b/
>>16516169
Yes right from the start and he confessed to watching it daily and constantly even before we met
>>16516051
Oh wow. Not OP, not BF but Im all the sudden scared ill act like this guy myself when i start dating.
If I was still watching porn, it would be because im too normalized to it. Ive just watched it daily for too long. I have gotten too used to it as an effective coping mechanism.
I guess ill find out when I'm on my own and start dating. Maybe i should just sleep around to get started.
>>16516298
Perhaps masturbate without the porn. It makes a difference
Mee smells a submarine post for a feminist trying to subliminally say porn is bad and males are all addicted to the point where they cant have normal relationships.
Fuck that and OP for floating this propaganda bullshit.
Maybe if more bitches tried to connect on a human level and not be flighty,ive been wronged and ive done nothing attitude dudes might want to fuck you on the regular.
Nagging and being a cunt is a boner killer.
>>16516429
>subtle bait
Op I don't know what you should do but I want you to know that you're not alone in this issue. I have exactly the same issue with my boyfriend. It has brought me to depression and self loathing on a very deep level. If you can break up then do it. My boyfriend is scheduled to see a therapist about it and I'm also seeking help with this. Porn addictions are very real and can breed all kinds of other issues. I wish I knew 3 years ago what I know now, I would've left and not gotten to the point of feeling like a piece if shit.
>>16516058
I found a tube of KY under my parents pillow the other week. They're nearly in their 60s.
