/adv/, how do you cope with wanting to be in a romantic relationship with someone (not even a particular person/character) that will never, ever exist?
I just can't anymore. I've appeared happy through all of middle and high school, love socializing with my friends but it's just in the back of my mind, whispering that I'll never be happy.
I've finally broken. The drop that spilled the glass was a lonely drinking session at home and I just can't pull myself out of the depression like I did before. I realized that I will never, ever be happy or loved (I've never been in a romantic relationship, but this is a very complex situation) and just don't care about life anymore.
I just want the suffering to end.
It's difficult to say you will be alone for the remainder of your life. Nobody can predict the future. Someday you will have a fat slob wife and kids and you'll be pissed off even then but you'll have to do it. Until then I suggest just taking a chill pill. And stop drinking, you underage twat.
>I just want the suffering to end.
Everyone suffers to one degree or another. The truth of the matter is you'll suffer even in a relationship. Sure you may feel happiness and joy at first but eventually that will wear out and you might want to leave her or vice versa. In middle school you'll be constantly changing relationships and don't think that just because your "peers" are talking about all the sex they get that it is actually happening. I can assure you it is not.
What is true is only you can remain hopeful about your situation. I wouldn't recommend going out and trying to "fix" your situation as that will only further your suffering. Instead work on yourself.
As someone who knows what its like to have no romantic prospects for literally my entire life, it gets pretty depressing. For awhile its been more of a dull ache, where it doesn't make me want to kill myself but its kind of made numb to the idea of ever being in love or in a relationship. I don't know if being numb to the idea of love is the best way to handle a situation like ours but it sure makes life more tolerable. I just focus on my friends, my family, and above all else, myself.
Overall, there's nothing you or I can do to wake up tomorrow and find someone to love and to be loved by. However, I keep going. I keep going because I don't know what else this existence entails, so might as well keep living this life. The enemy I know is better than the enemy I don't and all that jazz.
Find ways to make yourself happy without a girlfriend or boyfriend, its the only way. And when the time is right, maybe something totally unbelievable will happen.
>Find ways to make yourself happy without a girlfriend or boyfriend, its the only way.
I used to! - from 13 to 17 I thought jerking off to fetish porn (related to my emotional issues, some people might figure it out) was the pinnacle of existence and never tried pursuing anything.
Then I started playing Counter-Strike and that captured me for full two years, but after I've racked up almost 2000 hours in it it's become a bit boring.
Also, I have a trip of a lifetime coming up. 7 days in Prague with all of my friends. Figured I'd mention that.
There are people in your life who care about you and want to help you, anon. Please let them help you, by telling them that you need their help.
If a friend is trying to get you to see a doctor, please recognize that this is the action of a person who cares about you. Someond who didn't care, wouldn't try to get help for you. If I was your friend in real life, I would probably feel afraid that I would let you down, and so would look to a doctor for backup.
Tell those closest to you that you need help *now.* Tell them so that they can be good friends to you, as they already wish to bd.
I went to therapist a few times.
Told her 95% of the stuff, but the remainding 5% I am taking to the grave - I'm not comfortable revealing them online, much less to someone who interacts with my parents... she thinks I'm fairly happy.