So my new co-worker is a total chad who is actually pretty cool. He was asking me about who I had been fucking recently, and I told him I'm a virgin. Now he is hellbent to get me laid at a party sometime.
Here is my issue.
>I'm kind of socially retarded, never been to a party. Not robot tier, but cyborg or failed normie at minimum
>not horrible looking
>0 self esteem
And the icing on the cake is that I actually don't want to get laid. It is very unappealing to me. I've gotten a couple blowjobs from my only gf, but that ended about a year ago. It was meh. I jerk off all the time, but the idea of actual intercourse is honestly repelling. What's wrong with me? It's hard to get a boner, and I know I'm not gay. I haven't realized how little I care about sex until now. I don't know what I'm supposed to tell worker bro? I don't want him to net a grill for me and then have me just say "no thanks", but I honestly don't know what's wrong with me.
tl;dr don't know how to communicate the fact that I may or not be asexual without sounding like a faggot.
Bonus points to anyone who also tell me what I'm supposed to do at a party.
>>17276311
>>I'm kind of socially retarded, never been to a party. Not robot tier, but cyborg or failed normie at minimum
>>not horrible looking
>>0 self esteem
Given that your chad friend seems like a bro-tier dude, just ask him for advice
If it doesn't work the first time, alright, you'll always have a second chance.
>>17276311
Wow I wish I had a Chad friend that would try to get me laid.
You should just go with the flow on this one. Of course it will be awkward since it's your first time but gotta get over it and you may like it after
it sounds more like you may or may not have some intimacy issues that are stemming from your social anxiety and self esteem issues.
I was the same way, thought I was asexual for the longest time but it didn't make sense because I was still attracted to other people.
Just as soon as the thought of sex came up I'd freak out.
But yeah, you're going to always have issues with this if you don't learn to overcome your social anxiety and issues stemming from your self esteem.
Take him up on his offer to go out, have fun and don't think too heavily. You don't have to actually have sex with any of the girls he throws your way.
Work slowly, talk with people that work at grocery stores or retail to get more experience. Then slowly start talking to other people.
>I jerk off all the time, but the idea of actual intercourse is honestly repelling.
To what? Porn? Imagination? Math? Or is it just the sensations?
>It's hard to get a boner
Yet you still jerk off all the time.
If you had no sexual attraction to other people I think you would know. Finding the prospect of actual intercourse repelling is not sufficient and could be due to various issues.
I agree with >>17276340
>>17276311
don't trust him from what I heard most chad will tell you they will help you but they end up sleeping with the girls you were trying to get with. you can't never win.
>>17276359
Mostly sensation. I say it's hard to get a boner over normal things like porn. Tits and ass simply don't stimulate me. I could be at a stripclub (which I tried) and feel nothing. My first gf only happened because I didn't know how to say no. Horrible 2 years. She dumped me because I was too uncomfortable and would ask her not to touch me in public. It was okay in the end because she had a fair amount of mental illnesses.
>>17276340
I wouldn't say I have a very hard time talking to people, as long as I don't have to initiate it. That and the part where my life is pretty boring. I've had a hard time being enthusiastic about anything for as long as I can remember. I don't like people but I don't like being alone. I find being attached to fictional characters fills the gap just right.
I'll try going along with it, but I don't think it will go great. Especially since I'm not really able to indulge in any substances like I used to. What do people like in other people? What make people like someone and what makes them dislike them?
>>17276381
>implying i'll try to get with anyone
The whole point of this post is I'm trying to avoid that situation while trying to not be a sperg.
Just tell him you don't have sex before marriage.
>>17276423
Isn't that kind of frowned upon?
>>17276402
I respect that but I am just warning you because that's what usually happens when you trust guys like that. chads might have good intention but they suffer from sex addiction and they betray you sometimes. I think he will leave you alone if you let them know your virginity does not bother you and that you like the way thinks are.
>>17276449
Frowned upon by whom?
People you don't like or care for?
>>17276464
I don't know, I thought that it was looked down upon by the social norm nowadays. Am I wrong?
>>17276475
Stop caring so much about what other people think.
>>17276482
>stop caring about what other people think
>what other people think is what makes them like you
This is gonna take a lot of work, isn't it?
>>17276498
If you wanted people to like you, you'd become a likeable person.
People who are highly anxious, self-conscious, dependent, needy and "taking" are not likeable.
So, if you want people to like you, you have to respect your own opinion as much as theirs, or even more so than theirs, so you can contribute something to them, rather than you merely reacting to their opinions.
>>17276311
believe in the chad that believes in you.
you're in denial about being laid, or you don't know how cool it is to have a loop in your belt and be that nigga.
It will help your esteem, you want esteem dont you?
I just hammered the fuck out of that post
