Help me cope /adv/ its been 3 months since I last talked to my ex, we were together for 3 years before she decided to leave me for someone else. She's happier than she's ever been judging by her photos on Instagram. I know that I don't even cross her mind anymore. She was my first girlfriend, and I was hoping my last. She picked me up when I was a sophomore in high school, I was all alone, no friends, suicidal, all that good stuff. Now high schools over, and I'm all alone, I didn't make any friends in school, and no one gives a shit about me. I need someone in my life. I can't be alone any more. Every day is a struggle not to blow my brains out. I've had depression since I was in 5th grade, and now I don't have anyone to help me keep going. I just can't anymore, no one would even care if I was gone. How can I find more people who actually give a shit about me?
>>17239251
Also, I don't have a family that would teach me how to drive or buy me a car, so "just going out" is extremely limited
>>17239251
Hey anon.First off keep in mind the possibility that she may be posting those Instagram pics,knowing you will look at them do she can make it look like she's getting on fine without you.Second,how were you before you met her?Were you able to get on okay on your own?Also it sounds like you may have needed her more than she you,happens a lot.If you feel that you need a relationship to be happy,that means you aren't happy in yourself.You need to work on yourself before you go into another relationship.Do you get much of a chance to socialise?Work?Clubs?
>>17239251
Get help for yourself. Being someone's "savior" is a recipe for disaster. It gets old quick. You have to fix you for you, no one else can do it and no one else can motivate you to. Become someone people want to be around, to do that you have to deal with your mental health. Bad metal health is the opposite of sexy, but it can easily be dealt with. It'll probably hurt but it'll be better in the long run.
>>17239284
No. I was terrible before I met her. Like I said, no friends, abusive parents, I would have for sure without a doubt killed myself if I never met her. She also needed me, for very similar reasons too.
Everyone at my work thinks of me as a funny guy that brightens up the place and makes everyone laugh, but no one ever wants to hang out with me outside of work, either that or they genuinely don't have the time. But either way, outside of work I am completely alone, and it kills me.
>>17239318
I'm sorry to hear that man.That's where your problem lies.Being on your own,in your experience,is associated with a the bad shot from your past.You need to become comfortable being on your own,because we are all alone at some point in our lives.I've never had a girlfriend but I am able to cope just fine alone.If you don't learn to cope you will develop a fear of isolation,and you will bring that same fear into your next relationship which will in turn negatively affect it.At the same time you should make time to make friends.You have an exciting prospect,a blank slate to which you can add new friends and meet new people.Embrace this.Also I can relate to how people see you as the funny guy.When people try to interact with me I only reply in humour which is funny but doesn't let people see how much of a great person I am.Let people see more sides to you,and you will become more attractive to hang out with.But don't completely lose your funny bone :)
Every time I get someone to like me they either never want to hang out, or they're a girl and I end up falling for them and I end up even more hurt.
