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DnD group has ended up with friend's obnoxious, attention seeking hamplanet girlfriend a la pic related.

Want to stay in this group which is otherwise good; any ideas on how to deal with this without being a dick?
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>>46934457
Pavlovian conditioning using skittles.
If she does something good, give it a skittle.
Do not attempt to feed it something without sugar.
It may merely agitate it and cause it to stampede.
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>>46934457
Deal with it.
Don't be a dick.
Simple.
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>>46934609

Seconding.

>>46934556

Or we can try this because he saw it in the Big Bang Theory so it must work on nerds in real life, right?
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>>46934457

Sounds like the ugly and hamplanet part aren't your problem, anon. Easiest solution to your problem is just to let this phase run its course by not feeding her ego and letting her leave of her own accord once she gets bored.
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>>46934556
How do you get rid of bad behaviors?

>>46934609
Yeah I got that far, the deal with it is what needs figuring out
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>>46934609
Pretty much the best answer your gonna get. Inless the entire group gets sick of her and throws her out, your options are either deal with it and play or walk.
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>>46934457
Honestly find a group without women. In 20+ years of playing rpgs promiscuously I can say with some confidence that 75% of females who do rpgs are attention seeking, low self-esteem "nerd girls" who are toxic and ruin the experience for all.

If you cant find a better group, find something better to do with your time
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>>46934747
>I can say with some confidence that 75% of females who do rpgs are attention seeking, low self-esteem "nerd girls" who are toxic and ruin the experience for all.

Honestly that describes about 50% of the male RPG players I've met so far
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>>46934457
the only solution is to bring a hotter chick in and shame the fat one out. Every adventuring party needs a healer or someone to make food.
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>>46934649
It does work in real life, if you're being subtle. The entire education system is based off of it (Albeit in an extremely long term sense, thus why it doesn't really work in that example...)
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>>46934457
I'm sorry for your loss in advance.
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>>46934457
>good group
>group members condone single member deciding to let an unsuitable significant other join without consulting group first.

You're not in a good group then m8.
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>>46934836
You're not wrong but it's still more often the case with females than males.
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>>46934951
Not in my experience. Guys are worst then girls on average in the rpg groups I have been.

Then again you and I are not a large enough sample anyway.
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>>46934836
Those are better odds.

I mean its kinda just the female nerd thing in general. For whatever reason, there are more guys are earnestly into nerdy shit. Yeah there's plenty of autists and other horrendous examples of the human race, but at least they tend to actually dig the underlying thing.

On the other hand its a very small group of women who are earnestly into the underlying thing. Rather, soooo many of them are just disgusting sexual pariahs looking among the dregs of male society who a) have low enough standards to fuck them and b) have low enough self esteem to lavish praise upon them and treat them like princesses
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>>46934656
>Yeah I got that far, the deal with it is what needs figuring out

have you tried being less assburgled?
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>>46934747
I have never actually seen the type of girl nerd you just described. And I played with a lor of girls (about 1/3 of the people I played with were girls).

The only actual girl I know that fits your description doesn't play rpgs.
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>>46934747
In my travel I've had it closer to 20%. Maybe I'm blessed with good fortune or maybe I just pick my groups carefully.
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>>46934747
>>46934836

I have 2 females in my game and they both play great, you're just unlucky.
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>>46935118
Nah.. i'm an rpg gamer snce 1978. Oldfag... i've had lots of female players over the years. Even married one. I've had exactly 1 that was a problem and she was convinced to try it by her bf who was one of our group mates when she warned him she had no interest. We've had other girls join for exactly the same reason but they DID have interest and they did fine.

I generally feel like the idiots who do most of the comlaining about girls infiltrating their He Man Women Haters Clubs are likely the cause of the problems they're experiencing, anyway... including OP.
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>>46935235
Or just young. Oldfag here too, and my experience with female players has been good like yours too.

Big difference though in that we lived in the pre-SJW era. The types of godawful tumblr types I see LGSes these days make me get why young whippersnappers might lose interest in rpg-gals
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>>46935293
Hadn't considered that.

FWIW, I have twin daughters I'm bringing up as gamers. One absolutely loves fantasy, scifi (well... so much as Star Wars soul be considered such) and superhero genres ore than the other but they're both good gsmers. My son is a great tactician and planner in our gakes, too. Family game night has been awesome since they all hit 10+ in age.
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>>46935478
My typing sucks on my tablet when i'm in bed and my wife is pressed up against my back so i'm trying not to wake her...
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>>46935503
I hope one day I have a loving gaming family like you, anon. Until then -
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Ry_tVopQUw
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OP, talk to her in a non-threatening situation (that means "when you're alone"). Ask her if she's having fun and likes the game. If she's nice about it, just tell her there's been this thing on your mind, that she does X. She might perceive it in one way, but you do it in another, can she see why that would be annoying?

If she starts talking shit, you drop shit on her in a non-aggressive way: "I haven't been having that much fun either, and it's mainly because you do X."

Good luck.
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>>46935595
> first actual advice on thread that provides solution
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>>46934457
Take a break from roleplaying and do something relaxing like fishing or cycling. Maybe learn a new skill, I dunno.
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OP, you haven't mentioned anything actually bad outside the player existing, so you are automatically the shitlord until you provide proof otherwise.
That said, either sit at the table, play and have fun, or back your shit up and leave.
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>>46934457
Between the layers of fat, my penis plunged into unknown depths...

Hitherto this solitary darkness hath been exploreth not by man, nor beast, mayhaps not even by its keeper. A surprised, and vulnerable gaping void met my expedition, an unforgiving maw, though damp and warm, I did not feel caressed, nor the comfort of walls, and despaired at the loss of any sense of direction.

Yet soon, my short descent into madness ended, for the very blubbery encirclings collapsed around me, and I was trapped, and at the mercy of the dungeon's keeper. The ground shook beneath the frontier, rumblings and terror of long forgotten mythos awakening, and soon I found that I was drowning, my breath lost in unholy waters, viscous and foul smelling.

Unable to escape, I battled the beast of the keeper with all my might. Principles and compromises were meaningless in face of such a foe, my taste forever corrupted by the dungeon's sacrifice. There was no hope in sight, no redemption, and so I ordered the final assault, releasing my precious people to the dungeon holds.

The keeper, satisfied for now, quaked in relentless mutterings of apostasy, and as the folds came creeping back, I stepped back and surveyed the war effort. Many lives were lost that day, and lo, never had I wept for my discretions, but looking back, I promised myself never to return to this plane.

>OP's pic related
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>>46934457
> "How do I coexist peacefully with women I'm not attracted to?"
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>>46938768
>not telling fat people to stop straining the health system
Energy In - Energy Out

it's that simple people.
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>>46935876
>obnoxious, attention seeking
Not OP but those two bad "traits" have destroyed many good groups before.

Plus, he asked for tips to deal with the situation, not how to remove the landwhale you idiot.
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>>46935144
>One guy have 2 females on his game

>the other tens of thousands should be just the same!

You are a strong wizard.
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>>46938817
it's funny how subjective they are, too

maybe the rest of the group doesn't share OP's opinion.
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1. Find a new group

2. Deal with it

3. Be very subtly antagonistic if you can and remain mild mannered overall
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>>46934457

Step 1 : Go to the Gym
Step 2 : buy tank tops
Step 3 : Smile to her, she'll wet herself at the simple sight of your delts
Step 4 : Fuck the Girlfriend
??????
Profit
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>>46934747
It's strange, in ten years of gaming I have encountered the opposite, even LARPing (probably because I avoid the personal oog drama there).

My first group was pretty split on the gender divide, one who is an amazing GM usually plays male characters to avoid problems they have had in the past with that guys.

They seem more story focused an intent, an the only one who was really a drama and attention whore was my ex wife, and even she got better at table etiquette.

Honestly it's the quality of people you associate with, I've played with big girls who play small beautiful characters. I've played with pretty girls who play intentionally ugly brutes. And everything in between.

The moral is, play with friends. Also, other people don't owe you their appearance. Some people are fat, some people are skinny, some people are ugly, some people are beautiful, and some people have BO.

BO person is usually a problem, be it a function of their biology or hygene. If hygene, they can correct being gross.
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>>46934747

Are you implying you've played in 75% of every single game on the planet that had women in them, including those that were running at the same time? Jesus Christmas dude that's hardcore.
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I fucking can't believe I found a use for this reaction image!

Also, what's with all the fat people, dudes included, dying their hair unnatural colors? Do they honestly think it'll distract from the obvious?
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>>46939269
You can thank tumblr for that
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>>46938817
But the thread title makes it seem like it's the ugliness that's the real problem. Not to mention the inclusion of a picture of the girl in question.

This honestly feels like OP is trying to get a fat hate thread started.
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>>46934457
>without being a dick

Too late.
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>>46938910
But why?
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>>46940010
You know how little boys sometimes bully girls they like because they don't understand how to express their feelings otherwise?

Well, manchild isn't just a word.
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>>46940053
I think implying OP wants to fuck the hambeast in question is pushing it.
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>>46935478
You're a hero
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>>46939147
Learn to fucking read.
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>>46939921

>The moment you start critiquing other people is the moment you become a dick

I guess we should just smile and nod along with her?
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>>46939716
Could you keep immersion with a thing like that around?
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>>46939057

100% this. It seems most of the problems people have with their groups on /tg/ come from bad group selection. Being a DM isn't just putting the story together and playing the monsters. Its also about making sure the group of people you bring to the table will actually enjoy eachother's company. When I'm setting up games I don't bring Hunter, an extreme racist, and Tyrone the token black friend to the same table. I also don't throw in newcomers like OP described without first making sure that they will work with the other players both IC and OoC.
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>>46939716
>fat hate
>>>/tumblr/
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>been playing the same game for two years now with mostly the same people
>god-tier GM, huge world, great players who are character driven and actually play people with emotions, goals, love, and loss

>join evil campaign
>wonderful Asmodeus cult serving a high level cleric
>dismantling a good nation that hunted Asmodeus worshipers to near extinction
>fun DM
>awesome rules (Kirthfinder)
>no lolrandum derails

>starting as a player in a campaign with my nigga
>he's a Danish guy from across the sea who loves to voice act, is pretty great at it, and makes awesome Victorian fantasy where lands are blanketed in darkness and evil things lurk amidst the shadows

>living the dream.wav

Sorry, fa/tg/uys
I don't know that feel.
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>>46939716

Landwhales tend to be vile people, anon.
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>>46940355
Better tell the fat hate threads all over /fit/ and /b/ (often literally titled "Fat Hate") that they should go to Tumblr.
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>>46941130
You should go back to Tumblr if you give a shit.
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>>46941140
Fat hate threads are boring and not /tg/ related.
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>>46941182
So stop bringing them up, lardass.
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>>46934457
> any ideas on how to deal with this without being a dick?
Be aggressive. B-E aggressive.
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>>46934457

>Normal functioning adult answer
Wait until she actually does something objectionable, then discuss with other members of the group, most importantly the GM using complete sentences and full arguments.

>4chan answer
Immediately begin sabotaging group from the inside. Complain on /tg/ in two weeks when your friends no longer want to talk to you. Make a REEEE sound when you inevitably get kicked out of your group
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>tfw a player has a disability that slows the game down (stammering, ADHD, anxiety, etc.)
>it severely diminishes the quality of the game but there's nothing anyone can (or will) do about it
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>>46939716
I personally would not go to a game where I had to sit in a room with someone that disgusting for several hours.
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>>46941334

Just find another group. It's not your fault (or theirs either) that they have a disability. I know it's awkward to say anything about it, but if you cannot enjoy a game, then you just can't.
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>>46935645
I know, it's like finding a pot of gold, with four-leaf clovers and a unicorn
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>>46934457
Does Hamplanet shower and bathe herself adequately enough to avoid BO?

If No -> That's your angle for trying to get her out of the game. Intense BO is one of the few things everyone dislikes and nobody can ignore.

If Yes -> Dunno. Maybe you'll just have to tolerate her.

Why does your bro have a hamGF tho?
Maybe if you can find a way to separate the two he'll solve the problem for you.
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>>46934457
Is she doing anything disruptive to the group? If so, treat her like you'd treat any other disruptive player.

If she's not, what's the problem?

I've gamed with a lot of chicks and they're not really any different from dudes.
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>>46934457
I don't think kicking people out of a group is the solution.

I'm thinking, How would I like it if I got kicked out of a group, for racism or perversion or autism or whatever?

I wouldn't like it

So thus I think kicking people out of groups is a bad idea. Even if they're tumblr.

The one exception tho is if the person is banhappy and wants to ban things they don't like. Then you have to be pragmatic about it, banning them will lead to less bans overall.
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>>46935080
The way I see it, if women can get free attention and praise and people doing things for them, then I don't blame them for taking it.

The fault lies in the white knights, betas, and anti-sexists that'll put up with womens' behaviour even when they aren't being helpful or fun.
There's not even any self-interest there.
I'd understand entirely why you'd defend and be nice to a girl if she is being helpful and nice to you. That's just good sense.
But why do ppl defend and be nice to people who are actively ruining the fun?
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>>46939269
Warning coloration.
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All women suck in rp groups, just deal with her being shitty for your friend till she quits.
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>>46934457
This has a 4chan solution and a real world solution. Which do you want? Half the solutions here are not really useful. Forcing them to brake up or being manipulative just causes more problems. If it's her looks, nothing you can really do but leave.

>I'd hit that, though the hair is the first sign there is a problem.
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>>46939716
Fat hate threads are great anyways, and can very easily be /tg/ related.
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>>46934457
Wait... Is she not wearing a bra? Can we get an X-ray to be sure?
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>>46942665
You're correct, no need for someone to x-ray that.
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>>46942665
>Wanting an X-ray of a great unclean one

Not sure if Nurgle or Slaanesh worship.
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>>46938724
what the fuck
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>>46942695
Maybe a little of both, but definitely Slaanesh
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>>46938724
9/Moby
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>>46942638
>I'd hit that, though the hair is the first sign there is a problem.

Amen to that.
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>>46943876
I never understood why people dye their hair, except when it grays because you are growing old and don't want to look old. Your natural hair color will always suit you best, unless you are some freak accident of nature.
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>>46934457
I thought that was a man with a wig on at first. Might still be.

Anyway, you can be a dick just be subtle about it. Nothing trolls women harder than nuance cause they think they're the only ones that can do it.

FOR EXAMPLE what edition are you playing? Cause if you're playing Pathfinder oh this is so easy... just claim whatever bullshit she's playing is OP in your experience, and don't outright tell her she can't play it, just have her feel completely out of control.

Offer her some shitty third party class no player would be caught dead with. She's playing Magus? Offer her "the spellblade" or "archon".

Tweek her archetype if any and make it blatantly worse.

Have your monsters save-or-sucks target her but act like it's random. Roll dice and every one in a while target someone else but just make it up and than when convenient target her.

By the end of two sessions she will be so aggravated she will either quit or have to make a new character sheet because she ended up dying. And you know she's going to cry to her cuck boyfriend so just tell him "I wasn't singling her out, you saw it man... I rolled dice to determine who monsters attacked, I offered her alternative class features, I'm trying my best to be friendly to her."

But you're not.
Never be with a woman.
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Why is this shit even on /tg/?

It's not even advice on cheesing the character optimization or something like that.
It's just plain people complaining about their inability of solving their social interaction problems without consulting or bragging about it on the anonymous Taiwanese movies board.

How is this shit /tg/? How are incessant complaints and passive-aggressive insults even remotely related to /tg/? How are they any different from asking for dating advice or bragging about the party you were invited to?
You aren't discussing the game, you are discussing people instead, and the worst thing is, you aren't even discussing anything of worth, you are just complaining and gossiping.

Well, guess what, YOUR GROUP IS YOUR OWN FUCKING BUSINESS.
If you want to discuss your social relationships and inability to defuse social situations on your own, do it anywhere but here.

I'm here for celebrating, discussing and criticizing my hobby, not some random-ass people's blog.
Storytimes at least entertain me, and people there people discuss their IN-GAME RELATIONSHIPS, NOT THEIR OUT-OF-GAME SUPERFICIAL BULLSHIT.
THERE IS NOTHING ENTERTAINING ABOUT YOUR INCESSANT PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE BITCHING.

If you can't discuss the hobby, and can only discuss people, why the fuck are you even here?
I despise people like you. You are like a gossiping hound, who constantly talks about celebrity actors' private lifes and scandals surrounding them, but when it comes to discussing actual movies they starred in - you can't say anything for shit.
You're not here for the hobby, you're here for gossip-mongering and insulting people behind their backs.

You could've prevented this, /tg/. But instead you chose to enable these pricks who can do nothing but bitch, complain and discuss the shortcomings of the others', contributing absolutely nothing to the actual /tg/ discussion.

tl;dr DEAL WITH YOUR GROUP ON YOUR FUCKING OWN, AND DON'T POST ABOUT IT ON /TG/ OF ALL PLACES

I'm out of this thread.
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>>46942638
She's like 300 pounds.
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>>46943972
>I don't understand this extremely common occurrence. My disinterest must be because I'm normal and everyone else is weird.

Bright colors are attractive. It's not very complicated.
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>>46943972
I find unnatural hair color exotic and erotic even though those who wear them sometimes turn out to be toxic attention whores and drama lamas of any weight or gender.
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>>46945361
I'm talking about sex not marriage.
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>>46947161
Poisonous Dart Frogs. The bright color warns you that they are poisonous. There is another frog that looks like it but not poisonous. Still not worth the chance in most cases.
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>>46934457
Has she played a session yet?

If she has, the other players probably want her out too, bring it up with them.
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>>46953027
As far as I can tell she has not done anything and op is just retarded.
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As a fat guy (270lbs) I don't understand why anyone would date a fat person.
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>>46934457
She's hot
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>>46953360
It's their fetish.
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>>46947161
Here's the rule of unnatural hair colors: The brighter the shade, the worse the person.

People with darker, less distracting colors are okay sometimes.
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>>46940328
It's almost as if socially competent people can find each other, and help the marginally socially competent people fit in.
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>>46953532
I guess.

Maybe fat women have it better off.

I'd probably be confused as fuck if a healthy woman was interested in me though, I don't see how anyone could find someone 110 pounds overweight attractive.
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>>46953631
Well, I'm married to a woman who is fatter than me, quite a bit so. She's more like 80 pounds overweight.

I picked her because out of the 10 girls or so that I ever dated or got serious with she was the most fun, the smartest, and /tg/est. The fat is a minus but everyone has flaws. I drink too much (not every day but more often than I should) which to me is around the same tier of bad.

Develop yourself and have confidence; some people will automatically shut you down but there's plenty of interesting people out there who won't.
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>>46934457
>friend's obnoxious, attention seeking hamplanet girlfriend

you could have just said girlfriend, anyone who isn't a fedora-wearing whiteknight faggot knows any woman feigning interest in /tg/ stuff will be obnoxious and attention-seeking
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>>46953925
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>>46954119

ah here's the inevitable fedora-wearing whiteknight faggot now
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>>46954147
ah here's the inevitable retarded faggot that call those that see that he is moron a whiteknight.
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>>46954208

keep on protecting those m'ladies e-honor ya fedora-wearing whiteknight faggot
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>>46954325
>>46954147
Do you even know what white-knighting is, or are you just pretending to be retarded.
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>>46954437
>protecting those m'ladies e-honor

which is what that faggot is literally attempting poorly to do
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>>46954437
As you can see here >>46954476 he does not know what white-knighting is and he is retarded.
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Be the best player you can be. Seriously, what you need right now is model behavior.

If she's really as obnoxious as you say, she'll leave sooner or later, likely as a result of some sort of drama. You want to make sure you are blameless when that drama starts.

If you want to hasten this, bring another, more well-adjusted girl into the game, one who isn't like the hamplanet. Assuming your other players aren't the kind of mouthbreathing toads who will drive her away, her presence at the table should deprive the hamplanet of attention and gradually drive her insane, until she embarrasses herself badly enough to get ejected by majority rule.
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>>46934457
You sound fucking charming. Maybe you should quit the group and make everyone else happier.
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>>46956149

no but women in my tabletop games though
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I have a related question. My gaming group just added a new member, and this socially maladjusted assburger dude who has been in the group forever seems intent on being rude and driving her off. He's a real garbage person, and the rest of the group really doesn't like him that much. How do we let him no we don't want him at the table anymore?
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>>46953631
There are thin girls who get off to guys MUCH fatter than you.
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>>46956569

You don't? Long term person is obviously legitimately interested in the game while she is obviously just there for the attention, the sooner you get her away from the table and into the kitchen making snacks the better.
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>>46956652
Ok, now give him a non retarded reply
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>>46956652
But this guy is a real creep. An absolute hateful piece of shit that no one likes. There has to be a way to get him out.
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>>46956799

He's probably just justifiably worried about all the drama that she is inevitably going to bring into the group, I mean she's already got you trying to kick out the truly dedicated members for her vapidness.
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>>46956918
No, this was a unanimous decision. You really aren't getting it. This guy is just a disgusting dumpster fire of a human being. He has no redeeming qualities. He's just a self-absorbed dick who adds nothing.

If anything, he's the one who starts all the drama with by being a closed-minded territorial autist who thinks he should decide who gets to play.
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>>46957043
Bullshit. If this were a guy you'd have a rope handy to hang him on. I see threads EVERY FUCKING DAY about kicking players out of groups, treating people like shit, losing friendships over God damn D&D.

But now all of a sudden you won't do it because it's a girl. Not even a pretty girl. You're beyond pathetic.

Pic semi-related because this is essentially what you're defending but I'm sure by next week you'll be making a topic of how to rudely throw some poor guy out of your shitty 5th edition game because I don't know, he wanted his warlock to have special plate armor or whatever.
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>>46957043

I don't know anon, that just sounds a lot like someone reeeeeeally stretching for a reason to remove a loyal, steadfast player and replace him with some vacuous bint that'll sit on her phone facebooking instead of contributing at all. I would highly recommend sticking with the actual player and maybe trying to help him with his minor faults instead of being a jerk.
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>>46957204
This is next level ass pain.
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>>46957177

Is this about ethics in tabletop gaming? Are a man's rights being violated?
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>>46953631

You'd be surprised.

It's true that there are a lot of women who won't give a guy the time of day if he isn't fit, but it's also true that there are a lot of women who dig men who are overweight or even on the lower end of obese. Confidence is everything in those situations: there are plenty of guys who are overweight or obese, so she's going to be choosing on the basis of personality.

The latter number grows over time. Women who've had time to grow up and get to their mid-to-late 20s start to sort out what they really want vs. what they think they're "supposed" to want (the same thing happens to men, though it usually hits in the early 20s rather than the late 20s) and become a lot more accepting.

It does help to be tall. Helps you carry the weight better. If you're short, you might want to look into shedding a bit. I'm 6'1", 250 pounds, very little muscle, finally had my first girlfriend when I was 23 and she thought I was the best thing ever. She was 27 and only about 10 pounds overweight.
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>tfw all the blatant fucking white knights in this thread
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>>46958665
You look butthurt that not everyone is a /r9k/ retard. Here is hug, come and get your hug.
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>>46958804
>white knight
>le edgy animu picture
>accusing people of being from /r9k/
Fresh of the reddit boat, I see.
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>>46959262
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>>46959296
>debate
Sorry, what?
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>>46940151
Well, no be a being dick by posting her picture on an anonymous board and calling her ugly. He could have went about it another way
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>>46959385

My interpretation of "DnD group has ended up with friend's obnoxious, attention seeking hamplanet girlfriend a la pic related" was that the OP pic was an example of someone who was about the size of the person in question, not an actual pic of the person.

I may have misunderstood.
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>>46959415

that's how I took it too, we could be wrong I guess
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>>46959427
>>46959415
Ah perhaps then he isn't that much of a dick if it's just a pic related.
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What I do when i'm forced to play with people I don't care for is this- Kill their character. Find a good reason to do so and do it. Find a bad reason to do so and do it.
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>>46958665

Remember, if you don't generalize women in tabletop games, it's white knighting. You heard it here from Anonymous Man, everyone.
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reminder all these fedora-wearing whiteknight faggots forgot about dre

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KUfzMDryA94
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>>46958804

no seriously though. animu posting is seriously retarded. especially with that level of edge.
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>>46962769
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goddam hatposters shitting up an already awful thread
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>>46934457
Ignore her like an adult?
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>>46957177
I don't know why anyone is saying this post is wrong, no one would be defending this person if it was a guy.
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>>46965881
If this person was a guy this thread would not be full of retards generalizing everyone of that sex.
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>>46934457
Maybe just leave it be. She's not your bitch and not your problem.
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>>46934556
Thirding
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>>46935293
Other oldfag here. Never had problems with female players. In the worst case they were dumb as fuck, but not unbearable. Quite a few were really good players.

The worst players I've met were on conventions. If I had to give an Oscar for shitty players, it would mostly be guys getting one (like in real life).
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>>46935595
Women get mad when you tell them that the traffic light turned to green.
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>>46968439
So do men.
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>>46968552

No but women do it more though. Here, let me show you a statistic that shows research suggesting that women, more often then men, get mad when you tell them the light has turned green.
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>>46934656
>How do you get rid of bad behaviors?

Buckshot.
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>>46968755
You mean the research that you failed to post because to does not exist?
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>>46940010
something something high test
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>>46968820

No, you'll just have to Google it yourself, you white knight fedora-wearing dicksponge.
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>>46953360
They can't get anyone better looking obviously.
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>>46969175
Why go looking for something that does not exist? I am not going to find it. You retarded shoe up the butt fag goblin.
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>>46957263
>>46957451
>SJWs trying to be funny
If only they were just pretending to be retarded, they could be great comedians then.
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>>46969272
Said the butthurt faggot who is really retarded.
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>>46943972
When you dye it a horrible job like that, it looks bad. But I enjoy the punkish look.
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>>46956149
This. Nothing can go wrong if you are a good person who tried their best to be friendly and nice. Maybe they'll be decent despite their looks - or if they're horrible, you are a paragon of goodness then.
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>>46969272
It took you pointing it out for me to even get those cucks were trying to make a GG satire.

I didn't even get it. I just thought they were randomly typing words vaguely agreeing with me or something.

SJWs are just alien to me, as is this whole thread of "it's ok to treat men like shit and ban them from all nice things but OHNOES, WE CAN'T GENERALIZE A SHREK WOMAN AND MAKE HER FEEL BAD".
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>>46969469
What exactly are men banned from? Like I'm no sjw but what exactly are men prohibited from doing?
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>>46934655
>Easiest solution to your problem is just to let this phase run its course by not feeding her ego and letting her leave of her own accord once she gets bored.
Hands down the best way to deal with attention seeking behavior.

>>46934457
>obnoxious, attention seeking
I practice what I call, "actively poor listening" techniques.
If they are being obnoxiously attention seeking, I respond briefly, ask no follow up questions, avoid eye contact, and generally act polite but not engaged.
Being polite with your words is important.

Then, when she does something positive like good roleplaying, paying attention to others, and engaging more in the game than getting someone's attention, then you reverse it.
If attention is the reward they are seeking, don't reward bad behavior by focusing on it.
Instead, withhold attention when they are bad and reward good behavior with what they desire.
In my experience, this works well with children, dogs, adults with special needs, and crazy old relatives.

Point: This works best when everyone is on board.
If they can feed off the attention of one person, the effectiveness is lessened and the chief benefit is that the bad behavior simply won't target you.

>Uglies
>hamplanet
Have you tried not being a superficial jackass?
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>>46969419
>Nothing can go wrong if you are a good person who tried their best to be friendly and nice.
My personal experience speaks otherwise. Some people will misinterpret politeness as a sign that you like them. And if it's the kind of people that nobody likes, they will cling to this presumed affection like Muslim to the goat's behind. And become impossible to get rid of.

Obviously if the girl in OP is already "taken", this risk significantly lower. But she might pick OP as her next target should the GM break up with her (and that's matter of "when", not "if")
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>>46969525
>Have you tied not being a superficial jackass?

Works well for this guy. I pray to my Rosary and say my Hail Marys to Saint Roosh so I can impregnate a thousand women and never have to pay child support.
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>>46969568
You can be polite even if you have to continually make the fact that you don't return their affections clear. Even if it takes turning them down five times, they will get the message.
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>>46969599
That faggot lives with his mom, so no you are wrong.
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>>46945342
>I'm out of this thread.
If this is true, thank you for having the sense to voice your irritation and then shut up and leave.
Few angered anons are so polite.

Now, to answer the question:
>Why is this shit even on /tg/?
Interacting with your fellow gamers is a big part of the gaming experience, as such, some discussion of interacting with fellow gamers is warranted.
That said, even the most generous estimate would put only 25% of the "my group" threads belong on /tg/ and most of them are because /tg/ has always love storytime, especially if it involves That Guy.
The actual percentage is likely much, much lower.
And threads like this one are just sad.
Even still, 95% of these problems brought to /tg/ could be solved with open, adult communication with those involved.

But /tg/ keeps polishing heaps of coal in the hopes a gem of a story will be found.

Again, kudos to you if you never read this.
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>>46969612
Having to turn somebody down five times would be fine. It went worse than that... couple dozens rejections of various strength, new phone number and new instant messenger ID.
Like you know those screencaps of desperate lonely guys going "pls respond"? Imagine that except female, two times the size and aimed in your direction. Like, maybe it was just my luck, but it was nasty.
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>>46969599
>Works well for this guy.
Define "Works well".
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>>46969690

I have no idea who that is, nor do I care to.
However, would he be able to enjoy a gaming session that was good in all respects except there were "uglies" and a "hamplanet"?
If the answer is no, then given the parameters of the actual question being discussed, being a superficial jackass is not working well for him.
In the relevant context, at least.
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>>46942287
>The way I see it, if women can get free attention and praise and people doing things for them, then I don't blame them for taking it.
>The fault lies in the white knights, betas, and anti-sexists that'll put up with womens' behaviour even when they aren't being helpful or fun.

Do you blame the dealer, or the druggie?

Of course there's self-interest. Beta orbiters exist because of the vague hope of acquiring pussy someday.
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>>46969266

Oh, okay then.
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>>46970909
You beta fuck.

>>46969266
Then you aren't interested in evidence. You're just a sealion.
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>>46971496
You don't have any evidence. Now go be a butthurt faggot somewhere else.
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>>46971496
>Using Dan Olson for anything.
Oh that's not good anon. You shouldn't be encouraging pedophiles.
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>>46938799
It's actually not. 80% of your body's caloric expenditure is on base metabolic function and you can't do shit about that. The only answer is the same answer it has always been: eat more green, leafy vegetables and legumes, eat less in total, avoid processed foods, and jesus christ put that soda down.
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>>46971792
Actually that pic was edited to mess with him.
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>>46969385
Just my opinion I know, but I think that pompadour Mohawk type cut makes women(who are usually ARE overweight) look like attentionseeking 'look I'm different!' Cockatiels
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>>46934656
>How do you get rid of bad behaviors?

Politely call people out on it when they surface. Do it publicly and gently the first time. If they continue then have a word in private.

If their behaviour continues, talk to others in group privately. Gauge their opinions first, then gather support if you can. Confront the DM or the problem player with that support in tow (make sure your supporters are not flakers who'll leave in you the lurch).
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>>46971917
>I think that pompadour Mohawk type cut makes women(who are usually ARE overweight) look like attentionseeking 'look I'm different!' Cockatiels
My favorite idiots to mock and avoid are the ones who espouse a philosophy of not caring what others think, and then spend a great deal of time on their outer appearance to make sure everyone who sees them thinks they are different.
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>>46972053
>make sure your supporters are not flakers who'll leave in you the lurch

This is /tg/ bruh, generally most at the table are BETA shits who will disappoint you.

It's better to outright just say "I got a problem with this and it needs to stop."

Stop beating around the bush, call it out.
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>>46971829

>It's not as simple as energy in-energy out, you do not have full control over energy out

>so eat less

wut
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>>46972751

Delusional skinnyfat, pay him no mind.
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There's nothing I enjoy more than a bunch of internet tough guys talking about how tough they are and how everyone else is a "beta" or a "cuck" while they hang around in a community where everyone wants to fuck Japanese cartoon characters.
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>>46972069
My favorite idiots to mock are people who think they are making deep psychological insights about other people based on hairstyles.
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>>46971829

Eating smaller portions more frequently and regular physical activity can encourage your body to alter its fat storage prioritization. So, yeah. The miracle diet is to eat better food more evenly throughout the day and exercise.
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>>46972974

Literally what other reason for an outlandish hairstyle can there be? It's either something cultural, in which case it's all about being in step with the collective, or else it's a personal decision to be distinctive.

If someone has a crazy hairdo and tries to say they don't care what others think, they're lying.

>b-b-but im doing it for myself

Right, sure, you spend 100% of the day in complete isolation, staring into the mirror. Of course you do.
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>>46973164
Such deep insight into the human psyche. You must be a psychologist, right?
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>>46934609
I think anon is asking because they're having difficulty figuring out how to both, deal with it, and not be a dick at the same time.

You're looking at the macro level of this situation, but he is requesting a micro level break-down.
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>>46972974
>My favorite idiots to mock are people who think they are making deep psychological insights about other people based on hairstyles.
Or based on their hairstyles, attitudes, interactions with others, etc.
Not all people with outlandish hair match the idiots I speak of.
But some specifically have an attitude of:
>"I don't care what you think of me. Look at me. See how little I care. See? Look! I'm unique and you don't understand me. See?! IGNORE ME!"

>>46973164
>Literally what other reason for an outlandish hairstyle can there be?
Because they were exposed to it and like it?
Also, to some people, hair and make up is their hobby.

>Right, sure, you spend 100% of the day in complete isolation, staring into the mirror.
Hyperbole aside, this is more of what I'm talking about.
People who spend hours on their appearance care what others think, even if they aren't seek approval.
And that is fine.
But spending hours making sure your appearance will be seen a certain way by others and then claiming that you don't care what others think of your appearance makes you an idiot.

I've met people with an outlandish appearance that honestly don't care what others think and I've met those obsessed with what others think.
The ones I mock are the ones who scoff at society and then turn around to make sure society saw how cool they looked scoffing at them.
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>>46973164
>>46973560
>>Right, sure, you spend 100% of the day in complete isolation, staring into the mirror.
looking at my post I realized what you meant and how I misread it.
Oh well, my point stands.
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>>46940070
more cushion for the pushin you say?
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>>46969385
I'd like the punk look more if any of the girls who wore it were actually punk.

Punk rock girl, punk rock girl, yeah you're for me, punk rock girl.
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>>46971496

>he thinks sea lioning is actually a thing and not just a buzzword people use to quash dissent and promote the idea that their opinions should just be accepted without debate

Question: how can you tell a false sense of civility from a true one?
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>>46941334
>tfw you're the person slowing games down and you're fully aware but have no idea how to leave since you hang out with the party outside the game
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>all these retards spouting sjw and white knight to instantly win arguments
Not a single fucking time have either of these responses been used correctly this thread. Holy hell you people are stupid. This thread belongs on /b/
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Are you seriously implying that of you and all of your party members, only she's fat and/or gross? Bull fucking shit.
Here's your problem: you're playing with friends. Tabletop groups should be developed over time with strangers at FLGS or college tabletop clubs, and if you're already such a faggot that you need to bitch to strangers instead of TALKING TO THE PROBLEM PEOPLE, you're never gonna have the balls to keep a good group.
You should disband the group entirely and leave the hobby until you're able to talk directly to people like an adult.
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I dont have any uggos or anything at my group. But I am sick and tired of being the only "leader" in the group. We've got great people, but everyone is just so... passive. Even if their characters wouldnt be. There's one other guy who will take charge/bounce ideas around from time to time, but 80% of the time he's engrossed with FB or whatever on his laptop. If Im not the one coming up with ideas and deciding on options, literally nothing will get done. Even when its completely out of character for me to do it I have to be the one or the game will stall.

Just ONCE I want to be a follower guys. I dont even care if its a terrible plan, I just dont want it to be mine.
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> all those people with bad experiences with insert demographic here
Protip: Stop hanging out with shitty people that have shittier tag along friends.

For a good 75%, that means you need to stop hanging out with yourself.
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>>46974561

Pretty sure /tg/ is just /b/ with dice.
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>>46945342

>fatass detected
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>>46961071
Who gives a shit if we generalize or not? Quit being a fag
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>>46979953
>Who gives a shit if anon is being a fag? Quit being a stupid shit.
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>>46974178
By whether you agree or disagree with it.
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