New tinder thread cause last on was pretty full!
looking for some help with my profile, also am I not getting many matches cause i'm ugly or is my profile just bad?
>>23902055
you need some pics with friends
you look like a loner and women want people with social skills generally
>>23902246
thoughts on pics with other girls?
rate me? Mainly need help with my bio.
>>23902055
you're a good looking guy, just get some candids and some pics with friends. Maybe a pic of you doing a sport.
>accidentally hit like on a crossdresser
>>23902281
now i know im not one to talk but i feel like thats's too many selfies. personally i think 2 and 3 are the best ones and i'd scrap the rest. and you definitely got the looks.
How's mine looking?
>>23902055 Just try not to be self deprecating right off the back, talk about interests or conversation starters
Am I doing good, /soc/?
>>23902055
you are such a qt, i love your glasses n nose
just wanted to say!
>>23902367
never been complemented on my nose but thank you!!
>>23902350
looks solid to me, don't really know how I'd improve this. not a big fan of pic #4 but that's probably just cause i don't like aviators in general.
How's my bio?
Also, good general conversation starters?
Rate, I think I need some better pictures
>>23902552
your issue is youre a rams fan
>>23902055
pic 3 should be numba 1, i wouldn't use the first one at all tbqh
>>23902281
pic 4 first, then 3. delete 1 and 2
no one cares about your youtube channel
mentioning you live alone is weird and might get u robbed which would be a fun story
mentioning tattoos in your bio is bad because people who are into tattoos will not be impressed and people who aren't will be turned off
literally learned almost nothing about you from your bio too so
>24 year old kissless virgin
>would like to use Tinder to meet girls because obviously nothing else i do ever works
>legit ugly, get rated usually 3-4/10 on soc or reddit, maybe 5 on a good day, weird face, emaciated, etc
>need to have pictures with people but I have no friends so I wouldn't have any
>supposed to have a "creative" bio but i can't come up with creative stuff beforehand, i'm way better with on the fly "observational humor" (like i think i could do well messaging a girl, but i wouldnt even get to that point)
>supposed to be able to succeed with 50-100 guys trying to get with every girl, most of whom (both guys and girls) are good-looking
Rate i guess. I get matches, i guess i need advice with the getting to meet with the matches i guess. All criticism is helpful.
>>23902703
post a pic and we'll tell you how to look better
>>23902947
I guess i guess i guess i guess i guess. Im too drunk too post.
>>23902947
>everyday
nope
that aside, if u want to meet ladies you have to ask them out to do something and you need to message them right away (if they're already in the app, they're way more likely to respond to messages)
the trick is not spend a lot of time messaging, because she'll lose interest. like ideally propose some sort of meet up within 5-10 messages. actually suggest an activity. if she's not totally boring she should have shit in her profile that can help you pick something. i mention going to art museums in mine, and have a photo of me at a gallery, so someone could easily be like "do you want to catch first thursday this week?" or something (first thursday is like a city wide art walk day, and admission is free or cheap to all the museums/galleries).
just don't be boring.
So talking to qt girl on Tinder, she is only around for a few months (studying here, is actually from another country) and she goes "hey how about we meet up for a drink to see if we like each other? I prefer talking face to face"
And ofc I'm like,"im ok with that and give her some dates for when I'm available, and my number for whatsapp (I hate talking through tinder) but I haven't heard from her in 4 days, while I see her online frequently.
Is it desperate/thirsty if I contact her again? I mean, I have other potentials that I'm talking to but this girl is really cute, and if she is only here for a few more weeks and she wants to meet, it sounds like she is dtf..
Maybe I'm overthinking it and she found someone else already. baka
>>23903148
"hey wanna grab a drink tonight"
easy
>>23903153
Genius.
>>23903162
good luck m8
Thoughts on what to change? I have like 600 matches in two months I've had it, but not too many girls to my standard
>>23903246
get off tinder and go find girls to your standards then?
>did tinder for weeks
>got matched with about 20 girls
>only 4 of them responsive and not bots
>decide to allow men and women
>rarely swipe right to guys, but get a match every single time I do
Am I only attractive to one gender?
>>23903259
maybe youre only attractive to other hobbits =p
Used to match well a year ago, now that I'm single again I'm matching obese undesirables.
Thoughts on using a "just woken up" picture? I feel like I'm cheating & will be a dissapointed otherwise
>>23903541
for the love of god, please don't use that pic if you want any matches
>>23903246
>600 matches
>none to your standard
lol
>>23903558
Haha thanks
>>23902674
It's more of a subtle warning that I'm clinically depressed during Sundays in the fall
>>23903561
I didn't say none... I said not too many
>>23903613
then why the fuck you right swipe?
>>23903623
Easier to just swipe everyone, I'm not sure how y'all are helping, asking for help on how to improve it lol
>>23903650
i mean what can we say to this? dont right-swipe then complain about bad matches. maybe you arent high as your dream standard, idk
FMSUF
Had to put together this crappy collage since Tinder pixelates the fuck out of my pictures in edit mode.
Bio translates to:
1,90m (6'3"), studied know-nothing, passionate cook. A child of the Rhine and a son of the cathedral.
The last part is in the local dialect of my hometown, the Dom/cathedral is the most famous landmark of it - it's a songtext, has nothing to do with religiousness and is just telling people where I'm from.
I've had tinder for about two years and have 350+ matches. I've gone on a lot of dates and even had a girlfriend who I met on it (lasted half a year).
Basicly, how does this profile rate and what should I change? I've got a good looking picture, a friend's picture, and a smile picture.
>>23903654
.....that's why I'm asking for critique on my photos
>>23903761
mirror photos are a left-swipe for many people but you look pretty good so not sure if thats a problem in your case
I changed mine around and added a bio based on a little advice from previous thread. Anymore that should be worked on?
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>>23903259
It's the skinny build anon. A lot of gay men like skinnier men. I have the same problem. Guess I need to hit the gym more.
>>23904019
My profile btw
>>23904044
Second half
>>23904044
>>23904076
Cut down the number of "testimonials". It was funny for the first 3-4, after that it just turned boring and obnoxious real fast.
Got a general dating site problem.
I really suck at opening lines.
Something strange is going on, I just signed up to Tinder again after maybe a year off. I swipe right on maybe 10% of profiles, gotten around 20 matches so far, but most of them have unmatched almost directly. What's going on? Have girls started to do the "swipe right on everything and later unmatch"-strategy that guys used to do?
If someone has a picture of themselves in front of a sign that says "Cat Cafe", is it going to look appealing or unappealing if you are a dude? I keep getting mixed signals on what woman thing of guys who have or like cats
>>23904410
They're probably bots.
>>23902366
THE CRINGE IS STRONG WITH THIS ONE
>>23903899
replace pics 4 and 5 cuz they are terrible. get a pic with friends, one with an animal and one with an average looking woman. the order should be 2-3-1. that way she's forced to check your profile and the other pictures to see your face. otherwise your bio is on point so you'll be good to go.
Pls
>>23905246
He's obviously doing as a goof. But don't feel bad man, humor is hard to understand when you're autistic
>>23905415
Cuz who needs the free sex when you can tell quotes from your favourite childrens movie to horny girls and invite them over to fight with plastic swords. Yeah dude I don't think he's joking. He's the dark lord of cringe. Maybe if you ask him nicely enough you can be his little bitch, rule the galaxy together and drown in all the pussy it can offer.
I was in the last thread. Going on a date tonight, fourth day in a row. I'm so tired...
>>23905593
Stop posting the amount of matches you have
It doesn't mean shit, even judging by those girls there it's pretty easy to tell you have shit standards
>>23905617
You don't seem to understand that most guys swipe right on everyone and then they choose who to talk to. I'm also here to give advice.
Thoughts? I get matches sporadically at best, nailing down a date is really the tougher part
>>23905571
Are you so desperate you're actually angry at someone for having fun?
>>23905674
I usually ask them out the same day we we start talking. If the date is set a few days ahead, it's okay to not talk for a day or two. Just make sure you message them the day before to remind them. Say "looking forward to tomorrow :)" This way, you don't let the conversation die or get boring.
>been using tinder for a month plus
>not one fucking match NOT ONE
>swiped right on about 10 girls
Feels GREAT
Ok serious fucking question. I've written up two tinder profiles and I need to figure out which one to use.
Profile A:
>I have a lot of free time at home due to my job. I like sandbox video games such as Factorio, super hero tv shows and movies, and chatting with friends on the internet. I'm looking for a long term relationship and still dream of having a large family.
Profile B:
>As a nerd, girls always rejected me growing up. Since I've developed fantasies of getting even. Slapping them, spanking them, choking them, tying them up, humiliating them, putting the haughty little sluts in their place. I've haven't acted on these fantasies, but that might be about to change.
A is how I am in real life more so. B is how I am online when I'm sexting with girls.
The thing is, I've never had any success with girls irl, but "personality B" has made plenty of girls cum over the internet, gotten all kinds of nudes, and had quite a few girls even fall in love with him.
I've never associated that kinda talk with my real and face though on a public profile, and I'm kind of nervous about doing so.
So which do you think it should be?
>>23905933
That depends. Is personality B how you get your jollies? In other words, is it really a part of you, or is it just a role you play on the internet and you really don't give a fuck about it?
I ask this for several reasons but I want to hear your answer first.
Which profile pic? This is the one I have up.
Or this one?
>>23906074
this one
>>23906072
You look bored in your first picture, and the second makes you look like a smirking prick. Smile with your teeth, goddammit. What is with everyone thinking they're too cool to smile with their fucking teeth? Both of these are bland, poor-quality too-close-up headshots. Take a picture outside with a nice background.
The fact that you can't dance is a horrible opener. At least indicate that you're willing to dance. If you aren't willing to dance then don't mention it at all.
Girls love to dance. Even girls that say they don't like dancing are full of shit; they all love being led in a slow dance. Dancing is the vertical expression of a horizontal desire, and this is a Tinder profile.
>>23905995
Well I'm not sure. How I get my jollies is part of me.
However it's not purely a reflection of what I want, it also reflects what I've found girls want.
>>23906084
Was trying to go the self deprecation route but I'll take your advice. Have ugly ass teeth which is something I don't wanna highlight. I agree with your other statements though. Here's my full bio. Anymore thoughts that I can put into practice?
>>23905246
>>23905415
>>23905571
>>23905783
The best part is I've been talking to them more and now at least one of the girls seems like she actually wants to meet up to lightsaber duel. I'll report back if it happens.
>>23906183
Alright fair enough.
First, Tinder is a hookup app. Yes, it can be used for dates, yes, you can get a meaningful relationship from it. Mostly, people are looking for easy, guilt-free, responsibility-free decision making on who they'd like to date. Add in the fact that women have a tremendous numbers advantage, and about 60-99% (depending on the person) of someone's decision on whether or not to swipe right is going to be your photographs: are you good-looking enough or appear interesting enough to warrant any further time and energy? The women on Tinder WILL have many times more matches than you do without even putting in a tenth of the effort; they WILL be talking to several other men. You have to keep that all in mind.
Secondly, you need to consider the kind of girl you want to attract. What are you using Tinder for? Do you want to meet interesting people, go on fun dates, and possibly and hook up? Then personality B might be the right choice. If you're going to try and get a long-term relationship out of it, or at least something more meaningful than a hookup, then personality A is the way to go.
That being said, Tinder may simply not be the right venue for personality A. Girls aren't looking for stability and family on Tinder - it's just a fact. Personality B will get you more matches and push you further along no matter what you're looking for, and there's always the chance that the girl gets wet from personality B and yet is happy to see that you also have some A in your blood. But if you really want the kind of girl that gravitates to personality A, then maybe you should use something other than Tinder.
I asked my question to measure your authenticity. If you don't believe in what you're selling then no one will buy it and you won't be happy even if they do. You gave me an honest answer, so you could go with either "personality". Set a goal before setting out on the road and stick with it.
>>23906185
Your teeth might be ugly, but a big confident smile can shine past that, easily. Unless you've got brown teeth or they're falling out or something, a big smile means fun, happiness, and confidence, and girls want fun, happiness, and confidence.
Which, in itself, is a great reason to stay far away from any self-depreciation. A woman's intuition picks up on the uncertainty: you're not confident enough to be totally, boldly confident, so you fall back on the safe path of sarcasm, of ironic self-depreciation. Don't talk about what you won't do or what you're bad at. Talk about what you love and what you're good at - and mean it. When you write your bio you should be thinking "DAMN EVEN I IMPRESS MYSELF SOMETIMES".
You don't have to act like an arrogant douchebag in person. I'm not advocating pickup artist shit or negs or whatever. The point is, in this venue, with this app, you have about 10 seconds to send a positive, confident signal. That means all cylinders have to be firing at maximum volume.
Let's break down your bio. First, your "can't dance" thing has to go, as I said earlier. Reword it or drop it.
>Physicist, ambitious, like talking about spacey stuff.
Physicist is cool, spacey stuff is a little vague but okay - maybe hone it down. The word ambitious is definitely not specific enough. Ambitious how? Do you want to get tenure and be a professor? Do you want to be the next Albert Einstein? You have to bring out the big guns here and say "I want to build rocketships!" (perhaps not quite like that but you get the point).
Alternatively, drop ambitious altogether. Describing it in an interesting but succinct way may be difficult, and you don't want to bog down the bio. If you're asked about your job in messages you could use your ambition as a topic to continue the conversation and talk about your interests.
Music interests are a pretty standard profile staple, so whatevs.
1/2 motherfucker
>>23906374
I hate the word avid in profiles and furthermore your descriptions are vague. Let me hit you with a comparison:
>Avid reader and avid gamer
>Harry Potter is my homeboy and I will kick your ass at Mario Kart.
What sounds more interesting to you? Do you feel the lack of personality in the first and see the fun that is waiting to be had in the second? You passed up on an opportunity to be a fucking boss by just brushing against a topic. Don't be shallow, dive sharp and deep. Do you like books besides Harry Potter? Yes. Do you like games besides MK? Yes. That's not important -right now-. Right now, you're making a first impression. You're starting a conversation. Every word of your bio should beg a question.
>Play guitar, play soccer, play the universe
"Play the universe" - trying to hard. What about the guitar do you love? What about soccer do you love? What experience can you hint at? Why do you play the guitar, what got you started? Make it pop.
>Looking for anything really
NO.
NO.
"w-well I guess I will settle for a-anything that c-comes my way..."
Zero confidence. Either drop it entirely or replace with EXACTLY what you're looking for. Yes, you're afraid you'll be swiped left by girls who feel they aren't quite what you're looking for. You'll be swiped left by far, far many more girls for not having any standards, I can guarantee it!
>I am a master of pleasant and unpleasant conversation
The first half is boring, the second half is weird. I wouldn't want to talk to a master of unpleasant conversation, why would some random chick that doesn't even know you?
>Making out is also nice
I feel where you're going with this but you said it with the aplomb of a deflated balloon. I also highly recommend against starting out with "I'm a physicist" and ending with "and I like to make out". Being a nerd is fine - it's actually gaining popularity, and you have actual prospects. Being a 14-year-old is not fine.
Hopefully, all that helps!
>>23906329
>Personality B will get you more matches and push you further along no matter what you're looking for
This is what I figure, especially because "B" is a lot more noticeable, doesn't blend in to all the other guys as much.
It feels kinda weird though to put yourself out like that with your name and face, even though I've done that sorta thing anonymously a bunch (I'm something of a sexting addict).
>>23906424
It's up to you, and depends on what your goals are.
On a random personal note, I've written both erotica (put online for free as a fun side-project) and I'm a published author. I've steered fans of my free story to my published story to generate sales and publicity. Of course, my actual name and likeness are associated with my actual book, so it was a little scary doing that at first.
After about a year I realized something: nobody gives a fuck. Plus, I sold more books.
If you're waffling, I will say this: go big or go home. If someone finds out, so what? It's who just who are, and it's not like they're on Tinder to smell the roses, is it? Don't be so afraid of yourself that you become paralyzed and make no decision at all.
>>23906442
Some people are telling me "if you go with B you'll end up with a bunch of slutty freaks." They're saying that like that's a bad thing...
>>23906449
Well, you might. If you're trying to hook up with women, well, that's just a bonus.
If you're looking for a solid, stable relationship to last the test of time, you might have trouble. Like I said before, it's possible to find that "lady on the streets, tiger in the sheets" type, but they're not overly common. Again, if you're looking for type A, Tinder is just the wrong tool. Tinder is very well suited for B.
Also, make sure you bag it before you tag it, my friend. STDs are on the rise, it's no joke.
>>23906457
Well it's more than that. I like slutty freaks as people. I've had some good friends (no benefits, I'm a virgin desu) like that even when i was a teenager.
>>23906537
Well shit dude it sounds like your decision is already made. Go B - they're your people. Why are you hesitating?
Outdoorsy. Animal lover. Tattoos are bomb
Currently in the process of becoming a Viking
Past that partying and bar phase so you know it'll be easier to chain my ass down
How's that for a sober, non normie dude with an alternative look? I don't see very many alternative chicks in my area though... mostly conservative college chicks
Been at it a couple weeks now, zero matches. Just remade my account for a fresh start. I know I probably need better pictures but these are pretty much the only ones I have of myself.
>>23906617
>Past that partying and bar phase so you know it'll be easier to chain my ass down
I would only put this if you strictly want women that aren't into parties or bars at all, because that's an easy left swipe for those that are.
Outdoorsy tells me very little; be more specific. "I enjoy hiking" is bland and everyone says that, so avoid that too.
Be more specific with "animal lover". That sounds boring. "I fucking love penguins" - there you go. Now you have a personality.
>Tattoos are bomb
Unless this is some inside joke/meme I don't know, fix the grammar.
>Currently in the process of becoming a Viking
That's cool, go for it. If you want to double down have a picture of you with a viking helmet or posing on a boat or something. If you want to play it borderline controversial you could change the wording to "transitioning into a viking" instead of "becoming".
>>23906628
Alright I'm gonna. I'll let you know how this goes.
Gonna take some time to get my facebook (don't have one rn) and pics sorted though.
>>23906570
Alright I'm gonna. I'll let you know how this goes.
I don't have facebook or good pictures of myself, so that will take some time.
>>23906628
Pictures:
1) Ditch the sunglasses, pretty much every online dating place says your first impression should be made without anything blocking your face, Tinder included. You'll get more matches. Also, #1 Fanatic may be sending slightly the wrong message.
2) Interesting, but it isn't followed up with anything in your bio and it's a shot from behind. I'd replace it or move it to the back if you don't have anything better. Remember, you want to be the main feature of the photos, not the rock.
3) This shows some personality - it's good. The problems is that your body language is all wrong. If you've got your bike, take a photo with your hands out of your pockets, one on the seat, one on the handles, something like that.
4) I can't see you at all. Posing with a drink is fine - that says something about who you are and how you like to relax - but again, you should feature in the shot, not the drink.
5) Fun but nerdy. I have a bias for this so...could go either way. I think its positioning is good, plus or minus a slot if needed.
6) You have an excellent opportunity here - chicks dig pets and pet affection (unless they don't like cats, then you're fucked, but it's a calculated risk). But again, you are blocked in the damn shot. Hold your cat, be the cat. But it shouldn't be a photo of your cat, but of you! with your cat.
I like your bio - it's obviously very you - but it screams nerd with the combined lung power of ten thousand raving zealots. Many chicks will go "huh?", roll their eyes, and swipe left. If you don't give a fuck and you're aiming for the chicks that will laugh and swipe right, keep it, but expect many fewer matches.
>>23906666
Good!
Hey, if you have to, go buy a cheap tripod; cell phone attachment separately. You can get a shitty but perfectly functional tripod for $20-30. Works wonders for taking a photo in an interesting spot without it looking like yet another damn selfie, and you'll also have a tripod for your own use in the future
>>23906684
Thanks for the input! Issue with the sunglasses is that they're my prescription glasses... With transition lenses. When I'm outside, they're sunglasses.
>>23906697
>Thanks for the input!
No problem.
>Issue with the sunglasses is that they're my prescription glasses... With transition lenses. When I'm outside, they're sunglasses.
Well shit, I dunno man. Do you have an old normal prescription? Otherwise that's a tough one. In any case do your best to make your first shot one that features you straight on, ideally smiling/having fun.
>>23903737
is that dan rusanowsky?
updated my profile quite a bit, thoughts?
So, how can you distinguish anyone on Tinder for dating from anyone there for hookups?
>>23906836
It sure is.
>>23906836
Gotta get the puck sluts somehow. Be cooler if it was with Burns or Couture though.
>>23906901
ask them
Any help here? I figured pupper was sure fire for a least one match but none so far.
>>23903384
Started getting heaps more matches by deleting that first pic all good lads
Need Advice.
