Are there any anons here that have a really hard time ejaculating during intercourse or even by getting head? I seem to last hours or never cum at all.
What is wrong with me? It's getting to the point where I just dont like sex anymore because the girl always ends up asking me
"What am I doing wrong?" - referring to her. sometimes even during sex (after over an hour of fucking) which completely kills the mood and then ill definitely never cum.
What remedies can I take or what exercises or pills or ANYTHING I can do to help reduce the time it takes for me to orgasm?
Also my dick for image purposes.
stop trying
just relax. if u try, it won't happen
don't even go into it looking for an orgasm. have fun and enjoy what else u can find to do with your body
Same problem here. Cant orgasm by bj and strugling or not finishing at all during sex, my only solution to this problem was giving my girl a strap-on and getting fucked silly by her.
>>23811247
Probably not what you want to hear, but it's likely related to you being circumcised.
Hot dick btw. It looks great.
Are you on any medications? Difficulty coming can be a side effect.
>>23811298
Tried posting in adv but it would let me apparently I have posted too many times and had to wait
>>23811293
lmao I dont think I want to try that yet
>>23811284
I have tried relaxing before I even thought this was an issue. I just fucked just to fuck. And I never cum. Ever. So its not the lack of relaxation.
>>23811294
possibly but I never had a problem cumming in less than 20 minutes when I was 15-21 approximately and thanks!
>>23811307
hmmmmm interesting. I never thought about that. But I cant give up porn I dont think. I dont have a lot of friends anymore for various reasons and I dont have the most amount of money and I have a lot of bills to take care of so I dont like driving places because usually that means spending money I dont have so I just go to work and stay home. Lately though I have just been going over to my old coworkers place just to cuddle anf fuck the shit out of her but thats about it. So when I am home there is nothing to do but masterbate and watch movies masterbate and watch movies
Holy shit OP has team rocket in his pants.
Its okay, i have the same problem, i cannot cum from head at all. Ive been sucked off by girls, guys, and trannies and let me tell you, i dont think i'll ever cum from head. And most chicks have no problem taking me to the base. (however i do get a lot of teeth)
Pic related. Following OP's trend.
>>23811308
No I am healthy. I dont take medications, I dont have any allergies, I have a really high metabolism is the only thing really different about me than most
>>23811293
>strap-on
>>23811328
>I dont think I want to try that yet
Lol, that's some interesting advice, but actually you could try wearing a butt plug during sex. Nothing scary or huge, just something shaped to apply pressure to the prostate to help you along. They make some great vibrating ones too like the Lelo Bruno if you're willing to spend a little more money.
>>23811330
I have only found one girl my entire life who doesnt mind giving me head for over an hour. I dont blame any girl though who would get annoyed at that fact. Any girl who can go down on a guy for that long or more deserves a fucking medal. You sir are lucky fucking a girl who can do that for you
>>23811247
>>23811356
I suppose the other question is, is cumming directly from sex really that important of an issue to you?
You mention sex specifically, so I assume you have no problem climaxing when you jerk off, so would it be acceptable for you to do it the porn way and fuck for a while, then pull out and fap until you cum over her?
>>23811247
OP I used to be like this, first few times it took me 2+ hours to cum, could definitely not get off from head. girls would get bored/get sore. Now I can finish in 20, or finish in 5 depending on how much I go for it.
I never enjoyed sex like the first 10+ times at least, it was just going through the motions thinking it was the most overrated thing.
First you need to relax. Anxiety about not being able to get off makes it in turn, harder to get off. Second you need to be comfy in a relaxed environment. Long term GF is gonna be way better than a casual one night thing. Like another anons said don't make getting off the goal, just make it about feeling good exploring your bodies.
Porn IS a big problem, especially if you jack off with a death grip, it desensitizes your dick and watching changes your brain chemistry, to observing sex rather than being an active participant. Realise that the chick you're with now is letting you use her to get yourself off and you can bend her/twist her/pull her just like a bop it. Grab her hair if you want. Pull her close using her hips. kiss her lips when you feel like it. That might all sound redundant but the point is making sure you know you're in control in the moment and it's not just this mechanical race to the end. You're not an observer/ Go at least one week without watching porn ideally. Sex in missionary with her legs up works best for coming quickly, build up a rhythm
>>23811380
See this is the weird thing.
It gauges on how horny I am to how fast I can cum
For instance ill chart it out I guess...
5 - Really Horny - 1/5 minutes climax
4 - Horny - 10-15 minutes climax
3 - Moderate - 15-30 minutes climax
2 - Meh - 15 - 30 minutes climax
1 - Out of boredom - 30 minutes - hour
Now all of those also depend on what mood of porn I am in the mood for which I dont know until I pull up xhamster. Usually just click the top rated for 1 day and see if anything catches my eye, if something does then there is a good chance I will cum in the lowest range of minutes I illustrated above.
However if I dont see anything that catches my eye I have to go searching for something that I want to cum too which is what usually causes the high amount of time it could take.
I guess I am picky because I have the option to be. But thats how I have been doing it for awhile now.
So maybe it is Porn that is what is causing me to not be able to cum. I cant even masterbate with a girl around sometimes and I dont know why.
Do you know your length/girth? Larger ones are known to have issues by the time they hit 20
>29 year old male
>5.5 inch long dick
>6 inch girth
>uncut
>hadn't been able to cum from intercourse since I was 22
>can only cum from oral sex
>couldn't even cum when old ex gf talked dirty as fuck while I fucked her butt hole
Sometimes I wonder if I should just become a monk.
>>23811247
Similar problems here. If you jerk a lot with a tight grip maybe get one of the more realistic fleshlights and practice with that hands free for the different sensation.
Though I'm convinced stuff like this is performance anxiety esp if you can cum from jerking and have come from oral. If it's a regular and ongoing problem and you think something is wrong with you there's def a psych component there.
I have the exact opposite problem, I cum in seconds.
At least your partner gets some fucking out of the deal.
>>23811247
Considered you are a homosexual? Serious question. It is not normal for young guys to have such problems, so go see a doctor nonetheless.
Also the bigger cock, the easier it is to cum, I have had major problems as 7.6x6" but found a girlfriend that really turns me on and lets me cum in her ass.
Good luck
>>23811644
I am 28 and ive had this problem pretty much my entire 20's. I dont think I watch porn more than the average male or masturbate more either. And again, I am not gay lol
>>23811929
post some more pics of your glorious dick
Jeez, how big are you? Looks huge but maybe its just the angle
>>23811601
Same here. A minute is like a marathon for me, usually it's 20-30 seconds. I've gotten to the point I usually just eat my wife out and make her cum then go to bed. No sense in her having to clean up for 5 minutes for 20 seconds of intercourse
>>23812040
8x6
>>23812111
A damn nice size so you have nothing to worry about in that department.
I don't have much advice other than to try not to think about it and just enjoy the feeling.
If you obsess over the possibility of not cumming then it'll just be a self-fulfilling prophecy. I've had a similar issue.
Try foreskin restoration to regain some sensitivity.
http://www.norm.org/whyrestore.html
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/brian-earp/does-circumcision-reduce-_b_9743242.html
>>23811247
I'm the same way. It's hard for me to cum. Whether it's just jacking it or sex (and that's with girls and guys). Idk what it is, but it takes forever for me to cum.
Maybe it is too much porn/masturbation.
I don't see a problem with a guy lasting for hours. I hate it when they can't go twenty minutes without release.
>>23811247
Stop looking at porn and masturbating.
If you're on antidepressants that can have a huge effect.
Also, find better condoms or don't use them.
>>23811294
literally means nothing, he just needs to stop jerking it so often
>>23811247
My best bet is you have conditioned yourself to only being able to get off with your hand. Google nofap, It works and I'm not going to explain it to you because there is a plethora of info on it.
I'm the opposite. I always seem to ejaculate pretty quickly. If I was a straight guy this would probably be a pretty big problem.
As far as OPs problem, I have no idea what that could be. Are you taking any medication? That can sometimes have a pretty major effect on that kinda stuff.
>>23811247
I'm 31 and this has always been the case for me. Even if it's great sex. Even if I'm really into her. The thing to do is stop worrying about it and stop thinking of ejaculation as the definition of sex. Learn to just enjoy the playing and teasing and fucking and have fun with the sensations, even if they end with winding down instead of orgasm.
The key is to talk and be open and enjoy sex for what it is, not desperately try to live up to some meaningless universal standard of what's enjoyable.
There are loads of women who rarely orgasm, however good the sex is. There are men like it too. It's not some flaw or fault or something anyone's doing wrong.
TL;DR: stop worrying about what you're not and enjoy what you are: a guy who can fuck all night.
>>23811247
I sleep with a guy that has this problem, sometimes I think it's me.
Watch porn while having sex, that'll do the trick.
Yeah, I can barely ever cum from a blowjob, and with sex it's difficult. When I'm fucking and I'm having trouble getting an orgasm, I have to go apeshit on the pussy, really pounding as hard as I can, and then it'll come. I'm uncut, so circumcision isn't the issue for me. Oh well, at least I'm no one pump chump, kek.
Stop fapping evert fucking day! it work for me
>>23811247
9/10, would suck to completion multiple times
I have this thing, where if I get a hardon, and then let it rest for around 20 seconds, and then re harden it, I can no longer ejaculate with that hardon without doing a "full reset" so to speak where I let it go fully flaccid and wait like 20 minutes.
As in it will just stay hard and keep going like a meat dildo. I guess its a fairly handy trick really, annoying when it happens and i didn't mean for it to though.
I know your feel OP, ive only ever been able to cum during wet dreams. Currently consulting a urologist but I really do think they'll be able to find anything physically wrong with me.
you guys all need to chill
1. get some messages by a professional to actually physicly relax + don't fuck/fap for ~2+ days
2. find some nice candles with a smeel you like
3. get your partner to message you put on relaxing music for you
from then on forward
4. try some butt stuff nothing to do with being gay/bi/straight can just help a little bit also you should be relaxed enough to try it anyway otherwise repeat 1-3
5. if all else fails just get yourself a sexualtherapist may be you have some psychological blockades that you are not aware off... it will be worth it.
>>23818611
sorry forgot to add this comes from a guy who can fuck until he passes out....
>passed out after 8 hours straight... the amount of loube wasnt fun...but those hippy girls can take it...
after doing 1-3 I am normally fine after 2 weeks in hard cases I just use 4 as a neat little trick but the sex isnt better its just to get the frustration off for me. continue 1-3 and normally manage to go from nothing to 1,5h and up to 20-45min
Get you a girl that is actually tight and not a loose saggy pussy. If you can fit three fingers in at all, drop her.
>>23818655
If I can't fit three fingers in I can't fit my cock in :|
Certainly not pleasurably for either of us
Dont know bout you guys,but sex feels better than cuming. I wish i could last for hours ...
Although i do understand the frustration of not finishing.
I got the same thing. To a point where one of my exes felt like she wasn't good enough for me. If I masturbate I can do it in 2 minutes, sometimes even in 30 seconds.
It can be a burden, but also an option to truly enjoy the time together and do lots of shit.
I would just have fun with that aspect and keep doing it til you cum or die trying
same, it's probably because you desensitized yourself from masturbation, at least that's what happened to me, lost virginity only at 18 and I have been watching copious amounts of porn and been a chain masturbator for like 6 years before that
>>23811247
Please let us know what works I have the same prob
>>23811247
It's because you're gay. Face your reality you faggot, you weren't meant to breed.
