Virgin thread. Discuss if and when it's gonna happen.
OP here, honestly zero clue as to if/when
It's never going to happen for me because I can't bring myself to fug and people usually don't want to be with someone that isn't going to eventually give up the goods.
>>23488411
Why did you shave your facial hair, Australian dude?
It made you look older in a good way and gave you a bonus qt point or two.
>>23488411
It'll happen dude, i'm a 4/10 and i've been with 4 girls that i'd say are 7, worrying about it won't do anything, confidence is key man.
>>23488408
Just got my first spells, but I'm weirdly calm and serene about it. I feel like my 20's were a waste for many more reasons than sex, but it's about discipline and making a life for myself. I'm a tall, big, decent looking guy so it's still about choice, finding someone I want to be with and can relate to. It's not about getting a bar floozy, though it never really has been.
Reflecting on life, I realize that anyone who says they never can and never will is just being maudlin and creating a narrative for themselves. It's easy to be a failure and depressed and defined by that. It's difficult to pursue a better version of yourself, depression (which I do have) and all.
>when it's gonna happen.
Never, not because I don't want to but I doubt that any girl in this world want to have sex with me.
I'm sure it'll happen eventually, but I'm in no real rush, not sure what the big fuss is about losing it ASAP.
idk, i just have no game and I say random things
>>23488411
you look like a lesbian
>>23488796
I really doubt that girls over 18 are virgins.
>>23488796
If that is you in pic related I hereby relinquish you of all of your virginities
>>23488796
Random things are great though no?
Hard time believing you because you're very attractive.
>>23488812
youd be surprised
>>23488813
lol thanks
>>23488814
I like to think so, but ususually it has nothing to do with said topic
also thanks, I understand that I am decently attractive, but when I am around someone I am interested in, I clam up.
>>23488796
>>23488826
more photos please
>>23488796
Anal and oral still count, dear. Stop getting guys hopes up, you know how attractive you are I am sure. If you lived anywhere near the 843 I'd probably even take your bait and ask you on a date.
>>23488826
Maybe it's just me but I like people who say random stuff (not all the time).
I can understand that, there's no magic cure to stop that unfortunately. Debating whether or not I should post a pic in here. hmm
>>23488826
That's pretty normal, actually a lot of guys think it's cute if you get flustered.
I don't think you'll have that issue for too long, just be patient; you'll find a guy who can deal with it or likes it!
>>23488826
>youd be surprised
Do you have girl friends that are also virgins?
>>23488834
Well I actially dont tihnk oral counts
>>23488837
yeah im just awkward, i just try to make conversation
>>23488796
What's shakin' good bacon
>>23488902
You have a "type"?
>>23488848
i hope so
>>23488863
nope
>>23488904
hello!
>>23488913
You wanna get a coffee some time? We could discuss cat pictures, or depressing Charlie Brown pictures.
>>23488926
I love cat pictures, not so much depressing charlie brown pics
31/M
Honestly have no idea. Think I might be too far behind where I should be to catch up. I think that most girls looking for a one night stand want someone that's pretty good at sex. I think me being a 31 year old virgin is a pretty big red flag too, so if I start dating a girl and she finds out, I think I'll probably be dumped.
I look pretty average but I don't make a lot of money, although I do live on my own. Never dated much either so that's one more thing I need to figure out too.
>>23488796
I have found my future ex wife!!!!!!
my last shred of hope is gone
i have no reason to live
i'm fucking done
>>23488938
> I think that most girls looking for a one night stand want someone that's pretty good at sex
Sounds like a bit of projecting your own insecurities. Maybe you need to put yourself out there more and not be so afraid of failing?
>>23488936
Luckily I came prepared with both.
>>23488408
I was thinking of getting it back next week.
32 and counting. Yeah it ain't happening. It would involve a series of unlikely events in a cascade: me socializing, me asking a girl out, we hitting it off, me getting over my insecurities enough to be intimate with someone.
I just wish I had some calling, some passion which to pursue, if I'm to miss out on such an important part of the human experience.
>>23488913
Whereabouts are you from anyways?
>>23488938
Brotheranon. Usually you would have atleast had an intimate encounter with someone before you make the decision to develope feeligs for them. Unless it's strictly platonic.
>>23488902
Damn I knew you'd done one or the other. Anyway, it does count. Sexual contact with genitals counts as...sex. They call it oral sex for a reason. I am not judging you, just saying.
>>23488986
Be careful what you say to my future ex wife....
>>23488966
What do you call a crush, then?
>>23488955
Probably. I'm not even sure where to begin trying to find a date in the first place.
>>23488991
>>23488991
Anon, what part of that was rude in the slightest? Just so we are clear.
>>23489013
I don't crush on women often. I just have a huge boner for the redheads. And your lipstick.
>>23489018
" I knew you'd done one or the other " a basic assumption that my future ex wife is some kind of whore. Or has been. Schaff...
>>23489047
>>23489018
>>23489013
Oh you guys, always scaring off the cute ones.
>>23489047
Your first quote is responding to a 31 year old male. You have messed up. And to address your second one, I never claimed her to be a whore. Your insecurity is showing, friend.
>>23489013
Tinder, OKC, just put yourself out there by talking to people. Although I'm a virgin myself (it's not too big an issue for me personally) I had a lot of social insecurities especially around women because of being overweight. I spent about 3 years working on myself and have way more confidence.
Imo you need the "I don't care" type attitude if that makes sense. A girl doesn't vibe with you, whatever, there are plenty more. Maybe you should start checking /r4r/ on reddit. I send out replies to people i'm interested in and this weekend got about 5 contacts, only 1-2 I would meet up with but thats after sending dozens of messages.
I don't even know if this is helpful or not anymore lol
>if/when
implying anyone near where i am would want to fuck an ftm with a clitdick
i'm dtf but finding someone not weirded out by my hormone'd body, into my kinks (kind of optional), and who is willing to be reassuring about my insecurities regarding intimacy is impossible, especially here in utah
>>23489072
I said it was a basic assumption. You need a dictionary, brotheranon. I apologize if you can't understand your own language
>>23488965
well agree to disagree !
>>23488965
no point in saying
>>23488863
guys arent the only ones normally virgin at 18, though its likely less than 50% with girls
>>23489114
It appears you do not either. If I assumed she was a whore I would have said she was. You are assuming you know what I assume.
>>23489071
I don't think it was going to work out anyway anon.
>>23489154
I was touching base on your assumption that because she is attractive, she must have obviously engaged in sex at one time in her life. You just misunderstood what I was saying. The point being moot, considering I never actually accused you of anything to begin with.
>>23489124
>no point in saying
I guess? I meant like general area, not exact location. I'm just curious.
>>23488408
was stupid enough to reject about 5+ chicks
still a virgin
>>23489181
Lets guess where she's from :D
>>23488801
That's fine if you think that, but either way I want to get laid by a girl so in the end it's not really an issue, is it?
>>23488796
Ok
>>23488944
bls stob with these words
>>23489183
What?
>>23488523
I still think of it as a big deal, maybe that'll change /if/ it happens
>>23488503
Meme
>>23488499
It gets itchy lol
>>23488957
Lmao why
>>23489195
what what?
>>23488796
attention seeking.. lots of interesting guys, even here, would chat with you and take virginity and stay with you
>>23489202
>>23489195
>>23489183
i think i got what you were trying to say
i was talking about myself
>>23489177
Oh, we're both just trying to take the piss out of each other aren't we? I guess you're okay and not the huge faggot I thought you were.
>>23489192
Southern U.S.
>>23489232
I thought I was being funny, brotheranon. We can agree that this girl is atleast level headed in the respect that she values a conversation. Everyone deals with affectionate emotional anxiety differently. I have the same problem she does, a lot of the time.
Fucking palm tree captcha three times in a row
>>23489235
I am going to say, VA, USA.
>>23489208
Where are you located?
>>23489264
I can say for sure she does not live in South Carolina, if nothing else.
>>23489259
No, you were doing pretty well. Might need to tighten up your form a bit, but you put on quite a good show.
Probably never. That much intimacy freaks me out.
>>23489235
bingo!
>>23489195
>bls stob with these words
the truth resonates with me that i have nothing to live for
>>23489301
Nice. Dunno why but you looked like a Southern Belle.
>>23489348
haha i dont really act southern at all though
>>23489209
>>23489202
Lol all good senpai
>>23489324
No
You have heaps to live for, you're in your 20s lol
>>23489363
the get up does give off a churchy vibe with the red lipstick and the high neckline. Not that that's bad.
>>23489363
What do you mean "act southern"? If you mean like a typical redneck, that is not how most of the population of the south "acts".
>>23489363
Y'all like fried chick'n
>>23489371
I do go to chruch
>>23489381
I was mostly emo goth girl growing up, which is basically what I meant by "not southern".
>>23489393
'N' pickp turcks
>>23489368
i'm 25 and still khv. there is no hope, i never once had an opportunity
>>23489408
Idk anymore southern memes because I am aussie
>>23489410
There's 30 year olds in your situation too. Technically you have 5 years, and even then there are worse off. It's not like you're ugly or anything. I am also KV, and I hate it but I still have time
idk how this happened at my age considering how much I go out of my way to try to get laid or get to know people but it doesn't really matter. I've been considering kill myself for a really long time for a long list of reasons anyway, and I've been in therapy(which doesn't help) my entire life for various mental health problems
>>23488796
How the fuck? Also you're a girl. You don't really need "game" or to be good at flirting. Guys aren't really going to care about that. You probably just can't tell if someone is interested
>>23489429
Will you be streaming an hero?
>>23489404
I can accept that, I have never been very "southern" myself. Although, people up north tell me I have a southern accent. This one insanely attractive girl liked it. but she had a boyfriend at the time and I moved before I got the chance to do anything. Plus I ended up getting a girlfriend while living there, so...
>>23489425
yes i am remarkably ugly
time means nothing, i've turned anyone away or anything
>>23489177
Not that anon but it's not even just that she seems to be attractive.
I literally know no women in their 20s who are virgins unless they are that way by choice. And even some of those I know have still fooled around with guys they knew or dated(had/given oral,etc)
>>23489439
No? Who would even give a shit?
>>23488796
Lel, when you're that cute you don't need game.
Saying random things would make you adorable to be honest family, unless it's really crude / grotesque.
>>23489466
Knowing now that she is a church goer. Maybe she follows some religion that protests premarital sex? Or like she said herself. She just gets a strange anxiety. Myself, I have the issue of overanalysing the effect it may have on my relationship with them. As it has in the past.
>>23489477
People will pay money to see fucked up OC... You haven't used the internet for very long have you?
>>23489486
Yeah I just got to the post about her being religious so that probably has a lot to do with it(and some of the people I'm referring to in that post if not most are religious even the ones who have done everything but full intercourse)
>>23489499
I'm 27 and my family has had computers and an internet almost my entire life.
But money isn't useful to me if I'm killing myself so how would that make any sense
>>23489516
It will make me money, brotheranon. This is what is important. Give me your kik or skype and i'll find you. We can get the ball rolling.
Would getting pegged by a dominatrix count for losing your virginity? Because I think i'd be more into that tbqh.
>>23489268
are you trying to murder me?
Colorado, but I travel for work usually.
Hopefully sometime soon! I'm 19 and I feel like life is just passing me by at this point I'm missing out on experiences. I don't consider myself ugly either probably like 6/10 so average I guess. My problem is introducing myself to people, I have plenty of dude friends and am acquainted with some girls too. Also I have problems forming intimate relationships, I usually don't talk about my feelings other than posting about them in feels threads. All I want is a girl to make memories with and form a nice long term relationship. Even dealing with random bullshit from a significant other is something I really want to experience. Hopefully I can pull myself together soon.
>>23489536
THIS. I do not give a fuck if other people say "err a relationship is a waste of time there's good and bad" well I want to experience all of that, and make up my own mind on relationships. I feel like I'd be good in a relationship, I'm generally nice but dnt take crap.
>>23489525
Don't think so.
>>23489548
Shit sucks dude I dont what's wrong. anytime a decent looking chick shows any interest in me I go full autist and usually end up ignoring them. A nice relationship right now sounds pretty nice, am I right?
>>23489560
>anytime a decent looking chick shows interest in me
I haven't even had this happen to me so I have no fucking chance. Even if I showed interest I would either be chicken or super autistic. My looks don't help me either.
>>23489567
Well, what do you look like?
>>23489567.
When I am at the store getting dinner. And the Rustle Stover skinned chicken is sold out. I settle for maple leaf prime. I regret it every time...
>>23489581
Check the IDs I am the first post/OP
>>23489567
Maybe you just never picked up on it? Maybe fuck a fat girl, I've considered it but I don't if I can keep a boner with a fatty. Well maybe you should get some contacts or new glasses if you're no confident about your looks and workout. I would workout but I'm a lazy skinny fag.
>>23489581
Its op
>>23489585
I don't know what you're talking about m8
>>23489589
>fuck a fat girl
I don't get this meme
Anyway, I get complimented on my glasses a lot. So I'm not changing that. Working out will only do so much.
I'll never get it because I don't plan on living past the age of 22.
>>23489599
Fucking someone even a fat girl will boost your confidence or something, idk. Then keep em I guess. I've heard hobbies help you meet girls. I've met guys and girls doing the shit I take part in but still haven't sealed a deal with any girls.
>>23489616
Know any women into weather lol
Didn't think so, especially in australia
Vidya and sports is too broad of an area but I guess it's something. I like hiking/bushwalking but I don't do it enough
23
Cocoon mode atm. Dropped 90% of my friends because all they wanted to do was be doritofinger fedoras and I've grown out of that. Lost a bunch of weight and I'm going to start lifting next week. Got promoted to assistant management at work (construction).
Six months of bulking and fuck it. I'll be older but at least have all my shit together and can start fucking dumb 18 year olds.
Gave up on the idea of a relationship a long time ago.
>>23489588
Ah, you're not that bad actually.
It's more of a confidence thing, I'm sure you could do a lot better than your making yourself out to be.
It'll happen, just don't stop trying and give it time.
>>23489627
Bitches love hiking I think. You gotta expand your interests nigga. Get into photography, play an Instrument, draw or some shit. Girls like guys that can do a bit like that, as long as you can bullshit it you're in. Unless you're an autist like myself
>>23489524
Leave me the fuck alone
>>23489567
yeah neither have I and I actually go out of my way to talk to people and have had tons of people try to help then end up telling me I'll never have someone show interest and I should do something else lmao
>>23489644
Nice dubs
I have no idea what I'm doing
>>23489647
I can play two instruments, I just don't anymore because I'm a lazy fuck.
I don't wanna force myself into interests though.
>>23489589
>>23489616
Fucking a fat girl isn't a magical solution when you can't even get fat girls to talk to you like me either.
Probably not for a long time. I don't wanna just lose it, wanna lose it to someone I care about not just some random fuck just to say I did it.
But the problem is I'm an antisocial nerd who would rather be at home playing the vidya than go anywhere that would include socializing with females.
Also the fact that being a cripple has made getting hard... well... hard
>>23489668
Talking to fat girls is easy, I feel like Leonardo DiCaprio or some shit around them. I feel confident but is fucking one even worth it? Thats what I've been contemplating lately
>>23489665
When you're in a social setting, find a qt, strike up a conversation, if it works and you reel her in ask for contact info after and you're set.
What I like to do is pretend I'm talking to another one of my guy friends.
Also chekd
>>23489665
You must be into music? If you find a girl with similar interests it makes it a bit easier
>>23489681
I feel confident too but I literally can't get people to speak to me at all in real life unless they have.
But I'm also autistic and schizophrenic and have been in therapy my entire life and I'm told that's probably why. I honestly don't understand how people progress past just platonic talking or know someone else is interested without blatantly being told anyway.
But Idk man I don't think I could keep it up with one either(especially as someone who actually works out).People always say the solution is lower your standards but I've tried talking to people I'm not attracted to in any way whatsoever and it just does not work. I can't imagine sex would be much better.
>>23489687
lol it really doesn't at all
>>23489699
You workout? How has that worked it must make you feel at least a little bit good about yourself. Just get some hobbies and work on social skills, that's what I've been doing. Girls love talking about themselves just keep asking questions then say something about yourself after every few questions, but what do I know I'm just a virgin. If you're schizophrenic maybe find a girl that's sort of in the same boat as you? And for someone being Interested, they'll like things of yours on fb and Instagram, they laugh at your gay jokes and smile a lot around you. I can usually tell when girls are into me but I go full autist when it comes to flirting and anything alike.
>>23489685
Yeah, like I have the confidence to do that. Pretending it's a guy sounds good though
>>23489687
Yeah I like music. Again, it's very broad though
>>23489687
Who doesn't like music? I've yet to meet anyone that doesn't enjoy some form of music.
Worst common interest seeing as "liking music" is just too broad imo
>>23489744
(Girls like the same band(s) as you) my favorite album is... What's yours? Fav song? Ever see them live? Just ask girls lots of questions about whatever topic your talking about.
>>23489755
If you're into the same bands or genres it makes things a lot smoother...
>>23489744
>>23489757
Yea, and don't over-exaggerate or anything like that, just be yourself and if she likes you great!
If she doesn't, her loss.
Always have that mindset d00d.
What's the worst that's gonna happen? She's gonna slit your throat?
>>23489735
No. I don't even feel bad about myself and don't udnerstand why people think I do. I feel fine with myself but I just have no idea why things are so difficult.
I only started working out all a few years ago because literally NOTHING was working for me. Couldn't cold approach women. Couldn't have guys OR girls wingman(and in fact they would usually get mad or frustrated and tell me to just not bother) at bars or concerts or social events. But I've never had any one even willingly talk to me much less be attracted to me. Even the people who helped me were people from message boards because people don't have any interest in me at all in real life it seems.
It hasn't helped at all to be honest. It doesn't make me feel good even slightly to be honest. It just makes me really tired and stressed out to lift weights and I don't enjoy it at all or care about my "health" or being fit beyond it helping me with women which it hasn't. People keep saying I should be "doing it for myself" but if I were doing it for myself I wouldn't be doing it at all because it's not something i care about and I still get ignored by women I don't even really find attractive. I have no fucking idea how any of this works and whenever I try to explain this to people they thinks it's a gimmick or some act for attention(which makes no sense since me talking about this seems to make people angry if anything)
And I mean I've never had a hard time finding things I alreayd have in common with women but that doesn't make them want to speak to me at all. it literally doesn't help. I've been rejected by girls I had a lot in common with for guys who they had absolutely nothing in common with
Ia lready fucking ask people questions about themselves and they just act like I didn't fucking say anything and I just don't fucking get it and it makes me want to fucking stab someone
Even girls with similar mental health have told me they are above talking to me
There's literally no pattern or logic to any of this.
>>23489795
Are you REALLY happy? I'm under the impression that you're not. Then don't workout if you don't want to anymore. Get a cool hobby that makes you stand out a bit. and are you ugly? I understand that you're autistic? I was in some special ed in middle school and in dumb classes in high school so I feel you. I know that plays a huge factor in this shit, just keep working on social skills don't be scared to small talk a cashier, waiter or waitress or just some random guy or girl.
And some of the people I met from a message board I posted on(that I'm now banned from because everyone thought I was weird and made them uncomfortable for some reason), both men and women, put me on okc and Tinder and insisted they could help me meet people those ways except that on okc literally no one looked at my messages or profile even with help and constant tweaking it that I had no real desire to do in the first place. And then Tinder seemed easier and everyone I know was having varying degrees of luck but it was still working out for most people in some way or another. But I resorted to swiping every single person right with a bot and got next to no matches that weren't bots. And the few I did never responded even when I let more successful guys or women speak for me.
I have no idea what the fuck is wrong with me because it shouldn't be this difficult for ANYONE
>>23489811
>>23489811
I'm not fucking scared to talk to anyone and I'm fucking tired of people just assuming all the time if you're not successful it's because you're not confident or unhappy
I have other hobbies. Why do people seem to always suggest like it will suddenly make me not interested in sex or dating?
I think being schizophrenic is a bigger problem than being autistic but either way when
i'm not unhappy with myself or life. I'm just mad at this specific aspect of life that I'm interested(and working out frequently has done nothing but make me want to have sex even more) in that I get tired of hearing other people talk about then tell me I'm not allowed to and that I just want to know how to this works or if it's even possible for me with someone I actually think is physically attractive.
I have no idea if I'm ugly TO OTHER people. To me I think I look perfectly fucking fine and I already posted a pic in this thread.
I've been trying to improve my godamn social skills my entire fucking life and all I've done is get angrier and more confused and everytime someone says this matter of fact like it's that easy it makes me want to cut their goddamn face open
>>23489824
Is it bad that I'm curious to what you say to people?
And I don't workout anymore. I stopped 2 months ago because it was a total waste of money and time for me personally. 2 and a half years of going 4-5 times a week was enough for me to make an informed decision that it was for me
And yet I still get people giving me shit for "quitting" or "giving up" I don't really think doing something that long term is giving up. That's more time than you should ever be dedicating to something if you hate it as much as I did.
>>23489854
You're either come off as a nervous beta, weird, too nice or all of the above around cute girls. My guess is all of the above. Act like a chill douchbag and act like you don't give a fuck about petty things.
>>23489855
I have no idea what I say. I just try to make conversation or make an observation or ask a question about people but usually I just get fucking ignored
>>23489868
I have a feeling it might be a timing issue maybe. Trying to start conversation at strange times or saying something when someone is doing something else.
But what do i know, I just know you as some poster on /soc/
>>23489780
Yes she'll slit my throat
Nah idk, I just always think I'll be too annoying or pushy when I talk to them
>>23489757
I like fairly generic shit and 80s music so it shouldn't be an issue on that front
>>23489887
Then do it
>>23488408
I'm 18 (everyone thinks I'm 25)
it'll happen at some point for me
just got my first kiss recently not because i wanted the girl i just wanted to have my first done with. girl was a 4/10.
>>23489904
Was she fat? Gross face?
24 ausfag
I'm just going to pay for it at this point
>>23489914
gross face, bipolar as fuck
>>23489864
I'm not fucking nervous about it at all. How many fucking times do I have to say this? Nothing about this makes me feel uncomfortable, scare, nervous, awkward, etc
WHy is this so fucking hard for people to comprehend?
And how can I be too nice when I literally can't get people to speak to me AT ALL
I CANNOT GET PEOPLE TO TALK TO ME OR HANG OUT WITH ME IN REAL LIFE AT ALL
I don't know how much clearer I can be about this. People are just entirely unresponsive to me ask me to go away or make fun of me for being "weird" which usually makes me angry and threaten to slit their fucking throats
>>23489939
At least you kissed someone. Been almost 5 years for me she was a solid 8 and everyone wanted a piece of her but still. But ever since i have gone full autismo beta mode. Been getting better tho you will too. Try and fuck her
>>23489949
nah, im going for pretty much anyone but lol
I hate this guy wiht the brown userid and iwsh I could put a bullet in his head and carve his fucking eyes out
>>23489948
Why so hostile? Right I get it now, you're weirdo. Should of realized that when you said schizophrenia... Keep taking your meds and CONTROL you're anger dude. And you tell people you're going to slit their throats? That's never ever gonna get you laid that will always keep people far away as possible. Just control your anger and emotions, that's the first step.
>>23489959
Youre gonna be a Virgin for life with that attitude. Control yourself homeslice
>>23489954
Good luck SENPAI good shit
>>23489962
I've been taking meds for fucking years. They don't help.
And obviously I don't say that to people I'm approaching. I don't usually get angry at all if people don't insult me or make fun of me like you were doing. I just cannot fucking stand that and I've never been able to.
Yeah just control my emotions it's that fucking easy you stupid faggot. I've been in therapy and on various meds literally my entire life and nothing helps.It's actually gotten harder as I've gotten older and people who knew me in high school have told me I get angry even easier now(I'm 27 now)
>>23489979
Take xanax or smoke weed. Although I've heard weed fucks with schizophrenic peoples heads.
Like why is so hard for people to get that I don't just walk up to random people I want to talk to looking angry or threatening them. I'm told I'm not the smartest person but obviously I already know that's not going to help and I don't do that. It's a pretty worthless thing to point because it should be obvious to everyone already.
As I said in my first post in this thread I'm going to kill myself anyway for a long list of reasons. So it doesn't matter much anyway. I'm just fucking vexed how anyone could have this much difficulty
>>23489982
>just smoke weed
Ok stop giving advice now
>>23489992
>>23489985
Maybe he should just kill himself if he want to so bad. Cuz with that shitty attitude hell never even get a number. Fuck this thread. Y'all made realize I'm not that pathetic and imma go and try and get my dick wet asap.
>>23490007
Go get em son
>>23489982
I don't take any drugs especially benzos anymore since I had an overdose on phenazepam a few years ago. I literally blacked out for 2 straight months. Had to go to physical therapy, at some point I apparently punched my dad, tried to killmyself by jumping off a bridge, was catatonic in the hospital and they told my dad I was probably going to die, etc I don't even remember any of it.
ALso xanax is for people with anxiety. I'm again not anxious at all. Just confused.
I just had to move back to my dad's after an issue with my landlord raping me and stealing all my belongings and failing out of college as well and losing my job that barely gave me hours along with my social security. So I don't actually know where to find weed where I live now since any people I know who haven't moved away since I last lived here wont talk to me.
And the place on the deepweb I used to get weed from no longer exists. And after getting burned losing a couple hundred dollars I barely have on trying another place out I'm not really willing to resort to the deepweb to find weed anymore.
I don't even like weed very much. I hate being high and just used it to stimulate me when I went to lift weights.
>>23490017
Same here with the weed now go fix yourself up. Peace good luck
>>23490022
I don't know what I really need to fix or what I can do. I don't think anything is wrong with me and I've been in therapy my whole life. I was in school and shit and working out and taking meds and people said I need to be a completely different person or to fix myself and then wouldn't elaborate on how or what this even means and I'm at a loss for what else to fucking do
People are just going to keep telling me to "fix myself" no matter what I'm doing. There's nothing left for me to do.
>>23490033
You need to stop giving a fuck. Control your emotions and anger. That's all I got. Im leaving this thread...
>>23490007
I don't have a bad attitude about it at all thought. I think it be fucking easy but it's not. I'm just speaking from experience that nothing I've done or that anyone has suggested or anyone trying to help me has made a difference. Everytime I've asked for a girls number I've been ignored. I've had girls give me their numbers without asking before but it always ends up I'm told them aren't into me "like that' which is fine I guess as long as that's clear or they tell me to text them then either never respond or tell me not to speak to them.
I'm just tired of not getting any results from anything I do. It's not like I'm not making a goddamn effort. I don't feel pathetic at all but it's very clear that something is wrong.
Female virgin reporting.
>>23489525
Does doing this count as loosing your virginity if you are the dom in question?
>>23490050
Post your face you pussy :^)
>>23490041
>>23490041
I literally CANT. I've been trying my entire fucking life. Do I need to spell this out again? I've been in therapy. on meds. I even specifically got sent to cognitive behavorial therapy and it didn't help. I've literally gotten to the point where I have had progressively less control over my anger and again
This isn't even the problem because I don't get angry at people I approach in real life because I don't get to speak to people at all.
>>23490050
what you waiting for?
And I don't see why I have to "not give a fuck"
why does it matter that I'm interested in it and have a high sex drive? Everyone else I know is interested and are only not ok with me talking about because I'm not successful. Most people I know are using dating sites or apps or talking to someone or know someone they either want to date or fuck and talk about.
So why is it not ok for me to be interested? What the fuck sense does that make? And not caring never helped either because I had not interest in this at all until I was in my 20s.
Like I said it doesn't matter anyway if I can't. I'm just curious why it's so hard for me because I don't think I should have so much difficulty with this. No one should
I don't see how that's a bad attitude at all. Sounds pretty optimistic to me.
>>23490054
No...? I like being anonymous, sorry.
>>23490056
Have you tried smoking weed? I do this for anger issues relating to PTSD. The anger only came up once I gave up cutting, so first it was all inwardly directed.
>>23490017
I don't take drugs other than weed and SSRIs,weed might help with the anger but it also might make social anxiety worse. Remember that.
>I don't even remember any of it.
You might have split personality disorder when you get angry. Don't take xanex, it's a benzo of course.
>landlord raping me
PTSD, how old are you and when did this happen? Also are you male or female, just wondering.
>>23490073
Have you ever had a bf or anything like that?
Age?
>>23490073
you didn't get the pun :(
like it was a picture of a pussy and then the overlaying meaning that you're too scared to post face
ah well
>>23489854
>makes me want to cut their goddamn face open
>slit their fucking throats
No one is going to want to hang out with someone who wants to do those things. Work on self first. Try to ignore other people. Don't worry so much about going out and being social or anything just focus on you.
>>23490060
Waiting till the time is right with me and my bf.
>>23490080
20, and yes I have one right now.
>>23490081
OH lol, sorry.
>>23490097
what do you consider the "right time"?
>>23490097
oh that's cute
everytime it comes down to it i just get nervous and up crying then leaving
>>23490073
Read my few posts before that for the answer to this
>>23490110
I did. Sorry I replied too fast.
>>23490102
I'm not sure. He's willing to wait though so I take my time.
>>23490097
>tfw no gf because my puns are too advanced
I gotta stop this shit
>>23490107
What's up senpai
You look really european
>>23490073
Yeah I'm a ware it's a benzo. That's specifically why I brought up that story about phenazepam.
I'm a 27 yo male and it happened almost exactly this time last year. I was emailing a detective about(it happened in a different state) but eventually I gave up because people kept telilng me I was making it up for attention, or that "of course you finally found a way to get laid and would still complain about it" or that I deserved it and it was stressing me out to even think about
And I don't think it's ptsd since as I've pointed out I'm autistic and schizophrenic and I've had problems like this my entire life and they've only gotten worse even with therapy and meds.
>>23490123
Don't ever stop thinking of puns.
And I don't have any anxiety at all about anything. I'm usually pretty enthusiastic to try or do things they just always seem to fall flat no matter what I do.
>>23490117
oh no prob then
>>23490085
I've been focusing on me my entire life. I don't even know what this means no matter how many times people regurgitate it. I only get angry like this wehn people make fun of me or talk condescendingly like that guy in this thread was.
I don't talk like this to people I just met. But it doesn't matter because they wont engage me at all.
I don't know what else there is to do to "work on myself" I haven't done alreayd. I'm in therapy. I take meds. I was in school/working a shit job that was the only job I could get because I was given it by people I know. I was lifting weights.
Like really what else is there to do to "improve" I'm not going to learn how to talk to people by not talking to people and I don't why people think that's always a solution for me
Also at this point I'm not looking for advice.
I'm almost certainly going to kill myself for a long list reasons(not because I can't get laid). I was actually watching an episode of Vice a couple weeks ago about assisted suicide and they were talking about how it's legal in the Netherlands after a consultiation with a doctor. It happens my grandmother lives there half the year so I'm just going to ask to stay with her and her bf in Amsterdam and not tell anyone why I'm really going.
I feel like I've attempted everything and nothing is helping. Even my psych said they could treat my schizophrenia but that meds might not necessarily help and that even if they did it would be limited.
>>23490128
They might of gotten worse because of the rape, the rape can still cause problems even if you already had problems before.
>>23490146
You can improve spiritually/emotionally and heal. Like if you relax and meditate I think these things might possibly help you greatly.
Look up Mindfulness if you don't already know what that is. I'd suggest look into Eastern philosophy and meditation. Also something called dialectical behavior therapy to help control emotions and cognitive therapy for perspective and insight.
If you can learn to take joy in small relaxing activities it will release the tension. I didn't mean improving superficially.
Also, I'd think about trying molly (MDMA) or another psychedelic that might help with feeling empathy, maybe allowing you to make a more human connection. Just something to think about, maybe not right for you but I don't know.
>>23490182
I've already been in cognitive behavorial therapy and I actually mentioned that already.
Anyway at this point I honestly don't care and I haven't tried to worry about any of this in months. I have no real interest in any of this or doing anything anymore and my intention is to just leave this world
And I've taken MDMA before. And LSD. And mescaline(which I extracted myself). I've grown shrooms before.
None of this is new to me. And I've taken them with other people. They were fun but they haven't helpe dme connect to people at all. I legitimately do not think this is a possibility for me anymore and being a combination of autistic and schizophrenic has been nothing problematic for me and other people. I'm ready to just leave this world behind and enter the void.
I'm 27 I feel i am in a similar position anxiety and depression, no friends can't meet people in open social areas, I don't think I can't relate to people my own age anymore. I always feel that people just see me as ugly and mean. Lots of people will ask me if I am upset about something I'm not I really cannot thing of a time someone complimented me.
Recently I was at a restaurant counter some kid maybe 5 and his dad were the only other people their, so this kid came up to me and starts saying "why do you look weird? why do look funny?” repeatedly, I was caught off and expected something from the father but he turned to him and just kept at it asking his dad "why is that guy look ugly/funny?" this went on for probably 3 or 4 minutes non stop The dad did nothing but gave me a sheepish look and told the kid to stand next to him and don't wander off, the dad said nothing to me, made no attempt to apologize at all. I didn't know what to do.
The whole thing threw me off so much and put down my self esteem even more.
>>23490225
Good luck to you.
I'm 23, I think I'm decent looking looking but I'm shy af. I think if I put any effort into meeting girls I could have a gf but I'm too scared/lazy/depressed to even try. It doesn't help that I'm studying something that takes up most of my time and with barely any girls in my classes. Also I'm expecting to nut 5 seconds into it my first time.
>>23489195
meme? no? I was being genuine but ok.
>>23490239
im 27 and i've only had sex with 14 women so i know how it feels.
Wish my number was higher, most girls our age are well into 3 digits
28 now, I am hoping sometime between 30-35 otherwise I will feel like it's really over for me.
The last year or two I've been a little depressed and just now beginning to mend myself by quitting alcohol and attempting to quit pornography.
Been reading some Hindu literature recently and I really feel like it's speaking to me, like I needed that in my life and I am attempting to remove the bad forces causing my internal suffering for the last decade and more.
I am trying to find peace inside myself, hopefully somebody will come into my life and see me shine, I only want to have sex with somebody I love deeply and have a connection with.
tl:dr I am beginning to feel better in my own skin, it's taken a long time but I think positive vibrations could attract the right person for me.
>>23488796
Good, a game is for players and players do not make a stable partner. Be happy that you have no game, it just means you're not a fake, genuine person. Of course, those people don't tend to be part of the crowd and the only way to get laid it seems is be part of the crowd.
>>23490073
Weed feels good but it removes your personality and ability to function in everyday life, it might not seem it to you, but you're not yourself when you're stoned.
Advising someone with anger problems smoke it will only cause harm in the long run, he might be okay while he smokes it but once that weed runs out and he hasn't a crutch to lean on then that angry person will be angry once again and probably even more angry than usual.
>>23490524
happy birthday!
Well, I'm aged 24 and living in the Vatican City, so I can't really foresee it happening any time soon. If it did happen, I'd probably be around 30.
>>23490289
Being a student you should probably focus on studies, one of my regrets is spending too much of my time in school worrying about not having a girfriend that I didn't worry about the studies.
Though I've never been Academic really.
>>23490182
Hey anon I have been looking a Eastern philosophy and to add to what you're saying, it definitely works somewhat.
Hopefully with more reading, the more I will see things differently.
>>23490531
Oh sorry, it's not my birthday, I just meant my current age right now is 28 haha.
My actual birthday is in June, I'll be 29 so I'll take your birthday wishes and save that for June so it doesn't go to waste!
>>23490537
good plan!
many happy june returns too!
>>23490050
Only proper way for a girl to post here
>>23490523
What? Most girls I know our age aren't even in the triple digits even if they sleep around or with multiple guys. One girl I know was in double digits by the end of her first year of college and even she isn't in triples(granted she actually tries to date guys consistently and ends up moving onto the next guy because they don't make a connection or whatever but she still wants to get laid)
>>23490825
>14 women
That seems like a ton at your age.But idk..
Can someone please explain why that person earlier in this thread and people in rela life tell me I have a "bad attitude" because I admit that nothing really works for me but that, especially based on other people I know, I shouldn't have a problem and should be able to meet people as well or get laid whichever and there's no reason for anyone to struggle as much as I have
I don't see how acknowledging reality while remaining optimistic is having a bad attitude at all.Seems pretty realistic and not bad at all. All I can do is keep trying different things/asking for new ideas or stop trying. Unfortunately I'm out of suggestions from people that I have explored and that didn't work. For me personally.
That's another thing I don't get. Why is it people just expect that because something works for them that if it doesn't work for another person they didn't do it or they aren't actually trying? That's not how life works.
>>23490957
I think you quoted the wrong person. I think you meant to quote the guy I'm quoting. I'm an almost 28 year old virgin who has never had anyone express any interest and hasn't had any physical contact wiht a woman he wasn't either related or being probed by in a doctor's office.
I've lost about 25 pounds now and I've shifted from cardio to lifting so hopefully soon man
just going to chime in,
attractive, successful man here. the kind any woman would love to be had by. zero interest in women who have been with more than 3 men and virgins have a distinct advantage over all others. choose your partner wisely. feminism tells you that you can sleep with whoever you want and it should be accepted. well, no good man will want you. plenty of pathetic betas will, though. so if you like spineless losers, by all means, act like an animal.
and men? i've got zero respect for you if you're sleeping with a lot of women. only shithead dudebros think that's cool. you will not be a good father or a good husband. you will not have the respect of your peers.
>>23490161
It's probably not as simple as showing up to the doctor, especially for a foreigner. Apparently "death tourism" is a thing.
That said, I find it weird your psych talked meds down. Schizophrenia is probably the mental disorder that benefits from meds the most.
will not ever happen. I'm too deep into my depression and social anxiety (because of a girl. oh the irony).
21/MtF/ Canada .
Just trow your skype if you wanna talk
It's probably never going to happen, and it's all my fault. The only time I feel comfortable talking with attractive women is when I'm so drunk I can barely walk, and I rarely ever go out or drink.
>>23491984
you'll never feel comfortable doing it. in fact, it would defeat the purpose if you were comfortable. do it anyway. don't be a pussy.
protip: the anxiety goes away within the first 15 seconds of conversation. right at the moment you realize she isn't going to turn into a monster and rip your face off. you will fail (at least, in your mind) many times before you get better at it so go into it with the expectation not of success, but of practice. reflect on the experience afterward and learn from it.
2 ugly
>>23491216
I don't care because if I had the opportunity I"d have been with more people as well and it doesn't make any sense to criticize someone else for doing the same(especially since I actually know more women than not my age who have been above your 3 person limit; and with a lot of them it's not because they weren't interested in finding someone they actually like and were just "fucking whores" like I"m sure you're thinking)
I don't think it's "cool" but I do personally have a desire to see what's out there and I had no interest in being the person who falls in love with the first person willing to fuck and think that's all there is dating.
Plus I knew a girl who I don't really speak to anymore(or rather she won't speak to me because she thinks I'm psychotic) who I met on a message board is 27. The same age I am. She only a few months ago hit hit double digits. It's not like she was proud of it or anything. She prefers to date long term. But I don't think it matters or is worth criticizing her over. She's a really cool person otherwise, and she's not super attractive but decently so.
Also what if I'm not interested in being a father or husband? I'm totally ok with dating long term if someone I actually found attractive liked me like that. But there is just no real reason to get married. It doesn't prove anything or mean you love someone more than otherwise. No one can ever seem to explain why I should care about marriage when I ask. And I would rather not have children because I have a lot of physical and mental health problems any children I have would be likely to inherit and I also find it hard to enough to take care of my own life. I don't think I would be capable of raising children. Much less mentally ill ones like myself. It would be unfair to basically everyone involved.
I think my response to you is well thought out and reasonable but I totally expect to just be called a beta cuck because that's what I've gotten used to.
>>23491984
I used to feel the same, generally I can't talk to girls I'm attracted to even as an adult I just freak out and be all shy and stiff, like I can't be myself.
I would drink alcohol and I wouldn't feel that, in fact I would talk to girls but they would mostly avoid me, I was the drunk guy who made other drunk people look tipsy.
I realize that I need to work on the real problem, without the help of alcohol.
>>23492068
This anon is right, I feel more comfortable when I know they will at least tolerate me. There's one girl I like who all I've managed to say is Hello sometimes, I added her on Facebook and she likes stuff like Lil Wayne and Drake, hip-hop stuff, so she won't have any interest in me but I might talk to her more than saying hello, if I can.
>>23491659
For a lot people it seems they don't help at all. We had this conversation because I've been on meds for years and have only gotten worse. They weren't trying to downplay them at all. Just saying they aren't necessarily going to fix me you fucking retard
I wasn't planning on just "showing up" I was going to move there under the guise of staying with my grandmother and her boyfriend you retard
>>23488962
drink to loosen up
>>23488408
¯\_(ツ)_/¯
online video games dont translate into pussy
>>23492068
Even if I do manage to have a conversation with some woman I still have no idea how to take things any further. I'd like to lose my virginity in a relationship but I doubt that's even possible at this point.
>>23488944
Lose some fucking weight. It's hard, but it can be done. I was a fatty until I was 21 (350 lbs). Got down to 200 and started fucking girls. Totally worth it. Do it.
21/M
Not gonna happen but that won't stop me from trying. At least I'm to the point where I no longer fear rejection.
>>23489195
>it gets itchy
Gosh darn it. Isn't there something that could be done? Some kind of lotion or potion to stop the itch? You're still cute either way though.
>>23492968
How tall are you? Did you end up with any loose skin? Good job losing all that weight, anon.
And this guy has been told by many people to lose weight. He doesn't give a shit about improving himself. All he does is whine 24/7 on this board about being ugly when he's just overweight. He's even been a decent weight before and looked good.
>>23492388
Ever thought about cosplaying Big Bossu to make the world a better place?
>>23493098
i didn't look good, i still got 4/10's when i posted pictures of when i was that thin a while ago
>>23493121
Who gives a crud what some boobs say in rating threads. If you're that much of a delicate person, you shouldn't be posting in them anyway.
It's not like you never receive comments of people calling you cute either. You just focus on any of the comments you don't like instead of the ones that are positive.
Not everyone is going to think you're handsome, not everyone is going to think you're ugly. Everyone has different tastes, so I don't know what you expect.
>>23489208
It's not that easy, I want to lose it to someone special
>>23489437
Maybe, I can when I am not interested though
>>23489484
lol thanks,
>>23490524
that makes me feel way better! thank you
>>23493098
Who exactly is saying this. If it's a guy, thanks but it does not make me feel better as much as you mean it. I hope you understand
>>23493241
lol you're still here bae
gonna need some more pictures for science though
I hope you hold onto it though because virgins are happier in marriage
>>23493272
there really isn't much to do here. no more pics, I don't wanna be like that
>>23493283
I didn't mean lewd jeez
>>23493283
Oh I know something we could do
>>23493293
oh lol
>>23493298
rated r
>>23493253
I'm a virgin woman who mostly lurks these threads.
>>23493283
>>23493241
I think that anon meant more pics of your face because you're nice looking.
And if you don't feel some overwhelming desire to have sex then that's fine to wait. But most people I know don't seem to view sex as special even if they lost it to someone they really liked. I personally usually have both guys and girls telling me to get a prosititute(although obviously this is irrelevant to you as a woman) because that's my only option and to see that sex isn't a "big deal"
ALso that last anon was right. It's better to just be a genuine person than subscribe to some bullshit manipulative way of getting partners of the opposite sex. Granted take my opinion with a grain of salt since I literally am unable to connect with other people at all.
>>23493301
>>23493306
They're among us... How spooky
>>23493306
I get it, that thirst is real.
But once in a while these threads will have a bunch of girls pictures and it's seriously the best feeling in the world. A huge relief to know girls are out there and won't judge.
>>23493345
Yeah but the chance of meeting girls like this are pretty damn low
>>23493342
i love that anime
>>23493367
>>23493345
pretty much , i dont go outside
>>23493382
even going outside I feel like I don't ever meet girls like this
but i'm also the guy who can't get people to talk to me at all outside of the internet
oh whoops you're the girl saying you never go outside. lmao well that actually supports what I was saying. Nevermind my last post.
>>23493382
I'm incredibly behind in my animeing, but I'll take that as a recommendation and move it up the list. What else ya into?
>>23493423
pretty generic desu
i just watched parasyte , i liked it.
I used to be able to date in highschool, never got as far as sex though. After highschool the crippling fear of loneliness set in, and depression. All I did until January was work and play video games. Finally decided to go to community college, and I just don't feel a desire to talk to anyone.
I don't know how I went from a social butterfly to somebody that only watches/reads shoujo ai. I think at this rate I won't ever lose it.
>>23493442
Ever watch Kuragehime? It's p dope
>>23493444
High school forces you into a lot of social situations, and you're mostly surrounded with people your own age who are into the same sorts of stuff as you. And on top of all that you've likely known most of these people for years so there's no real awkward "who are you?" phase. The real world's tough though.
At least, that's all I've got to offer.
>>23493442
i read the comic but i kinda just forgot about the tv series like 6 episodes in. I do want to see the live action movie though.
>tfw theirs no way I could ever meet a female virgin that isn't super religious
feels bad man
>>23493495
I knew an indian girl who was a virgin but she would do give and receive oral with guys she was actually dating. She's the only nonreligious virgin girl I've ever met over the age of 20.
Even she said that the fact no one had ever been into me and that I'd never had physical contact with a female made her uncomfortable and think that something was wrong with me
>>23493491
I wish I had gone to a 4 year instead of bitching out. Even in highschool everyone said people in my CC are all super distant. Everyone just wants to get out.
>>23493511
Damn. I turn 22 in a few weeks and Ive never even been kissed. I guess I'd have to lie my way into a relationship at this point.
>>23493513
I didn't go to college at all, still somehow managed to land an actual job in the end, but yeah the best I can say is make the best of it while you can. Make some cool degenerate friends and go bowling at 1am or something.
Above all else, just try and make friends. Doing stuff alone all the time gets old real fast.
>>23493542
Just don't bring it up unless you're directly asked.
>>23493543
Yeah I second this. I've lived quite isolated and not by choice. I like beign able to to do what I want whenever without taking other people I'm with into account because I'm alone.
But it gets boring. But I've personally never been able to make friends outside of the internet and people just ignore me or tell me to go away or call me a psychopath or a weirdo. All I've ever wanted was to be able to connect with someone and have someone to do things with.
I definitely recommend anyone who actually has the option of social interaction to do so. I honestly don't understand there are people who actually seek out the degree of isolation I have.
>>23493552
....but what do I say if I'm asked? It's pretty embarrassing.
19 yr old virgin.. wicked horny and lonely. Any girls who want to cam, or anyone wants to send me pics of girls, I'll do whatever you like.
>>23493543
What job do you have?
I don't know man, nobody is interested in making friends. My highschool friends are all still in town though.
Problem is since we've graduated, one became a shut in, one became autistic, one just doesn't talk to us anymore, and another just starts throwing fits now. He was my best friend too until be became a massive cunt.
Of my two actual friends, one is struggling with depression because he's scared of the future, and the other is busy with his friends.
Shit sucks, even the people I can connect with just don't want to talk outside class.
Honestly though I'm more worried about why my libido dropped so much.
>>23493586
>one became autistic
>>23493578
Own up to it.
You either are a virgin or you aren't, you really can't dodge a question like that because if you don't say then it's basically as good as saying "Yes I'm a virgin". If people try and make fun of you for it then stop hanging out with those people.
>>23493574
>I honestly don't understand there are people who actually seek out the degree of isolation I have.
Whenever I hear someone say they wish they could just sit inside and never have to talk to anyone I cringe.
>>23493586
Software engineer. Happened by chance really.
The best advice I can offer is to maybe just try and find some new friends. Strike up some conversations with people around you in class, see what people are getting up to on the weekends, try your best to not be super creepy about it.
I honestly don't know i've recently met a girl i actually get along with and i even kinda like her.
But at that point my Luck kicks in. I've still got feelings for a Friend of mine who is in my Opinion at least a 9/10 not just because of her appearance and body but because of her character which is way more important for me, personally. Just referring to her Body i'd rate her 6-7.5/10. My Mom recently died and literally today she sent a text in which she basically says that she heard of it and will be there for me wheter it is talking about how i feel or just distracting me and making me laugh, pretty normal shit, huh? Not for me. These Feelings were slowly fading away over the past few years and today they all came back. So, i dont know if it'll happen anytime soon, hell i don't even know if it'l happen in the next 5 years
Rate me if you want to, if not just don't.
Pic obviously related.
>>23493306
Fair enough, and you don't want to post face?
>>23493584
you could knock someone the fuck out with that
>>23493611
Good on you man.
I've tried to strike up conversation, most people just want to get out and don't care about talking.
Sounds like your life is going pretty nice, though.
>>23493654
Thanks bruh, it's gettin' kinda better, still browsing /soc/ though so it can't be THAT nice : )
>>23493495
I met a 23 year old virgin who was scared to lose it because the guy may disappear
year later took her virginity, still friends.
why are all these normal cool sex havers in a thread for virgins
>>23493668
I mostly lurk /soc/ like once a week. I feel that way about /a/ though, all this anime can't be good for me.
Sweet that it's getting better, hope mine does soon. Probably going to be moving soon so hopefully that'll help.
>>23493098
I have. Making the world a better place one roll at a time
>>23493696
Best of luck to ya!
>>23493345
>>23493641
>>23493724
https://clyp.it/gqmpezyc
>>23493442
Wish you were still around, anon... Always like talking with other southerners who don't really fit in.
21kv, most likely never. The truth is that you have to be muscular and outgoing to get laid. Shy and average guys usually stay celibate for life and can only get laid through escorts.
I can only hope that I make enough money one day.
