Old ones dead
Tinder/OkC thread?
Rate/suggest improvements etc. Ignore those who don't rate others
Shameless self bump
>>23485864
Grow longer hair to cover your hairline and go see a specialist to see if you are balding. It's better to act as early as possible.
I am taking fish oil for now to fight baldness but i might go on different supplements later
Alright, I need some advice. Took some before and got more matches, but now I seem to just be getting bits. It's the middle of Spring Break and I'm in a spring break town and keep missing girls by a day or two. How can I make this better?
>>23486487
Pics 1 and 4 are great. Your "about" sucks. Maybe ironically quote a rap song about fucking bitches and partying so people assume you're fun.
>>23485864
Stop putting your hand under your chin in most pictures. Don't add that you play quidditch.
>>23486487
Number 1 is a good profile picture, number 2 looks a little forced. I like the rest of them, it shows who you are. Change your bio.
>>23486601
I think mine is okay.
>>23486530
>>23486601
Well, any ideas on the bio? Kind if lost in it.
>>23486641
Put what genres of music you like, add that you're into theater, since it looks like you are in theater. Like going outside? Workout? Travel? Like pets?
Give tips friends I'm really new at this and I'm so far unsuccessful
>>23486716
don't have the shirtless photo as your profile one, it makes you come off as skeevy. that aside, I wish I had a tinder so I could hit you up
Ok, since last one died and I didnt get an answer, should I upload a pic of me sitting in full lotus position with my dog beside me or would that be really lame and actually a turn off?
idk if I should list that only in my bio or if I should have a pic of it as well, since its a hobby
im a guy
>>23486731
my kik is Ishygigity if you want
k thanks I'll try and find a better picture of me to use for the profile one
>>23486716
don't listen to that other guy, keep the shirtless pic as your #1. Tinder is all about looks. I don't know how you don't get matches, this is the best one i've seen out of the 100's that have been posted. Maybe add some humor to your bio to spice it up a bit. Maybe get rid of pic 2, there's nothing interesting about it
>>23486766
no way man change the shirtless pic
if I had a tinder I would ignore because there's a hundred other dudes creeping on women with shirtless pics
you look really nice and interesting, choose a pic that suits that accordingly.
>>23486776
The shirtless pic is the only reason i looked at the rest of the pictures. Also, he should add a suit pic in place of #2.
>>23486801
nasty
I like the fourth picture the best he looks good and like he had hobbies other than trying to creep on girls with a hookup app
are you a girl or a guy? maybe we have different perspectives
>>23486817
>>23486766
I dunno maybe I could put a suit pic or a picture or me doing kickboxing that would be good right?
I've only had the shirtless pic for one day so I don't know if I works or not
Bump for advice
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r8/h8
>>23486716
Yours seems pretty spot-on. Not sure what the problem is. Give it some time. Probably make number 2 your profile pic.
>>23486732
Do not post that. No.
>>23487190
Get rid of being sober and being a vegetarian. For number 4, take a picture of you with your dog.
Should I say anything about my work in my bio? I know it shows the little tag for your work title but I'm not sure if I should say some more
Good idea to put my important sounding job title in an effort to impress or would that come across as trying too hard?
>>23487546
You should really have a pic of you smiling as a first pic
>>23488543
This would be 10 times funnier if you didn't explain they were filters.
>>23488245
Keep it vague, if you do. The worst thing you can do is cut off all conversation by answering questions before they're asked.
>>23487546
Your pictures are shit but I like your bio.
>>23487190
You're going after two different markets with MMA + Sober + Vegetarian. If you want to broaden it, just say adventurous or into fitness / self improvement.
>>23486716
I hate to say this; you're just too normal. Like you're just a normal dude and in most cases that would be great but you're vastly outnumbered. You need to show some personality, friend.
>>23486612
"I act dumb, but I'm not stupid" -- fuck that. Let me make that decision for myself.
>>23486487
Let the Bowie reference live on its own. If a girl gets it, she'll feel all good about herself and want to have a conversation.
>>23485864
"yes it's a real sport" don't assume I don't know anything. It makes me mad. Also most of your photos look like you're drooling. Control that.
>>23488543
You're super adorable and as the other commenter said, the pictures would be much funnier without an explanation.
>>23487546
Two of your pictures are obviously from the same time and place...this makes me think you don't have a social life or are ugly irl (not really but just being totally honest for your benefit). I had this issue at first with my OK profile but got more hits when I added more varied photos.
>>23488572
>pictures are shit
am i a mong?? please elaborate...
>>23488635
couldnt decide which one i wanted but ill get rid of one. i kinda have a social life but i dont have any really good pics with friends so im just doing the staged selfie thing kek
>>23488572
I dunno the only not normal things I can think to show is me doing MMA maybe. I study insects I could show that but women hate insects
I dunno
>>23488703
the MMA picture would be pretty cool. I'd definitely go with that.
I would only mention the insects thing if it comes up in conversation, but that's just me
>>23488693
They're all blurry and pixelated. I can't even tell what you look like.
>>23488703
There are some cool looking bugs. I would talk to 50 bug dudes before I would talk to an MMA dude.
Can you put some kind of stupid pun in your bio? Can you put some long ass description of your favorite MMA hold? You need to say something that catches attention.
There's nothing wrong with being an average dude, it just doesn't stand out.
>>23488731
oh sorry about that idk why they showed up blurry in the screenshot.
>>23488756
I feel like you might do better on OkC because you're a personality sell, not a face sell.
Not that you're bad looking. You're an average dude. But there's a lot of those on Tinder.
>>23488731
My humor is so retarded and warped by this website
Maybe I coule write a joke that would make normie girls laugh
I might show my bugs who knows I just want to get laid
>>23488766
i'll take that into consideration. on the other hand i know some of my friends (both girls and gays) would bone zone me which is why im on tinder in the first place. plus ive got an above average body so ill take my chances.
>>23488773
I don't know "I might show my bugs" made me laugh pretty hard.
Unless you're in really good shape, don't post MMA pictures because we will all judge you.
>>23488791
cool so why aren't there any pictures of your above average body? Because I assumed you were marshmallows.
>>23488804
because a zyzz pose pic from the same photoshoot as the others would be autistic af
>>23488773
hopefully you're not too far lost you cant think of some normie humor. thats one thing i can do when talking to people.
>>23485864
I don't get it. My profile is amazing. I feel like my matches per day doesn't match to how good it is. Commrnts?
I sperg in style, bitches!
Need advice! I do fine on tinder, good pics and bio, can arrange dates. Problem is I'm 5'5 which is short as shit. I don't give a fuck about it, but I know girls do. If I put my height in my bio I get basically no matches, but then I have the problem of telling girls my height before the date (I ain't one of those deceiving fatties who will turn up unexpectedly fat/short).
Whats the best way to broach the subject without making it seem like I give a shit?
I remember getting on Tinder when it was brand new. Some guys I knew had tried to help me get girls numbers in real life and no one seemed interested in talking to me to begin wtih much giving me their number. Pretty much everyone I knew, male and female, were meeting people off Tinder. Not necessarily the really rich or muscle bound guys either. I mean yeah it's about looks but there are people in every league on it(although when I intially used it there were mostly just really really attractive people who came from wealthy families or were college for careers that would make them money). So they all told me how
It took me over a year of using it to get a non-bot match. I was right swiping every single person too. But people who are in worse physical shape than I am that I know manage and yet I couldn't get matches. I'm not a model but I know worse looking guys who meet girls or get matches even if sparingly. I don't think I really get Tinder, and it honestly makes me mad because I don't have much luck in real life and this seems so much easier for most people I know.
When the guys and girls who put me on it asked how it was going and if I needed any help getting responses or numbers and I was like "well I don't really get matches that aren't bots or immediately disappear...." and they insisted it was because I was being selective and needed to lower my standards. Then they didn't believe me when I explained I literally used a bot to right swipe every one. Which was true.
Even working out didn't seem to help with the pics. People kept saying to take better pics but I don't know what is a good or bad pic and I also don't really think pics are accurate indicators of what someone looks like either. But every time someone took a pic of me it'd be the same thing.
It seems a lot more convenient than real life if you actually get matches though.
>>23490808
err
*they all told me how great it was and insisted I get on it too
I mean shit even the least attractive guys(and girls but I mean that doesn't really count; my former roommate used to brag about how every single guy she right swiped was a match and she was pretty average looking) I know get a match or two every other day and that's being selective. So I don't know what could possibly be so wrong with me.
>>23490818
its different for girls
I dunno man I've been trying for a few weeks and im not bad looking im the one with the shirtless pic up there dont feel bad its just the nature of the game and women are fucking retarded sometimes
I don't even want casual sex i think that sounds gross i just want a cute mentally ill wife to play games and look for ghosts with and have no other methods of meeting women
Every single fucking girl that shows up on this app though is fat as hell rip
>>23490867
yeah but for me
and dude I actually stopped to look at your profile as I was intiially scrolling through and man there is no reason you shouldn't be getting matches. shit you're better looking than some of the guys I was talking about who manage better than I do(and certainly more fit than some of them or me for that matter). I mean you're not super good looking but you're above average plus you're pretty fit. Honestly, I don't know why people try to act like having a shirtless pic is a bad thing since that seems to do nothing but help most of the guys I know who are in good shape.
One of the girls who tried to get me on Tinder but eventually told me to give mentioned that shirtless pics are fine as long as you look like you're doing something and it's not just a shirtless selfie in your house.
Although I will point out that a lot of the talk I've seen about crafting tinder profiles both online and with people I know suggested minimizing selfies and only using one if you need any at all. One of the most successful guys I know was tracking and charting the frequency of his matches with which photos he was using in which order and had a significant drop off when he used a selfie as opposed to not. But that's anecdotal evidence obviously.
I know it's different for women. I even acknolwedge that in that bracket. But I feel the need to bring examples like that up because a lot of people think gender has nothing to do with it. Not that I'm saying dating is easy for women. But I know someone is going to take it that way because that's where this always goes.
>>23490914
lol I'm no social butterfly but looking and acting sorry for yourself with a grainy selfie will not get you anything on this app my man
show some pep, you gotta have some redeeming qualities/photos to show off? women are really choosy online
especially the "kill me" at the end its funny to us but no one not even mentally ill people will think thats attractive
>>23490944
Ehhh, I used my webcam camera because my phone camera makes everything look fisheyed and weird if that makes sense. I don't have any options besides those two and that shit is somehow still the better option.
I also have zero redeeming qualities btw. I am crazy, depressed to shit, too morbid, always tired, and am terrified of people. Welcome to my special hell.
Oddly posting basically the same shit got people to add me from ideal mate threads on here when they were a thing, I dunno if they still are.
>>23490914
>>23490971
you need to see a psychiatrist before going on tinder
>>23491055
Medication does nothing my friend, I have tried countless types
>>23491159
He's talking more counseling. Shoving countless drugs into your mouth isn't the greatest idea without proper mental care first.
Also tinder won't help you be happy, I know that one first hand. The best thing you can do is find the toxic things in your life, eliminate them and focus on the little things that are important to you
>>23491312
Honestly my biggest issue is being real fuckin lonely, with every friend I've ever made basically ditching whatever friendship we had for their relationships, and having absolutely no romantic prospects of my own.
>>23491328
Are you actively trying to see your friends or just waiting for them to ask you to do something with them? If you don't put the effort into seeing them they won't do it either. If they drop you because of a relationship they weren't good friends either.
With the lonely thing, I'll give you the advice my friend gave me.
"Don't bother trying to date someone else until you can feel content dating yourself"
Take yourself on personal 'dates' and try to have fun. once you find yourself enjoying being you, you'll meet people
>>23490689
I'm pretty much as tall as you are. I had the same problem as you, but really, it isn't like you need to talk about it and tell it as long as she doesn't ask. If you put it first in your bio it is like a mark, but you dont need to put it there, because it is not necessary as long you are confident. Girls often realise that if they know you longer and see that you are still alpha in a group.
I can't get any matches, I'm a retard. Pls help me /soc/.
>>23491465
Pictures with friends, preferably on a night out or something would help
>>23491482
better?
>>23488976
Your bio is weird, nigga.
>>23491378
Even if I asked friends to do things they'd always ask if their partner can come too, or just straight up say no because they'd rather hang out with whoever they are dating.
Besides, I do things alone and have fun, I just exclusively enjoy solitary or small group things that don't really lead to meeting anyone period.
>>23491465
Put 3 as your main as you're actually naturally smiling and comes off way better than the selfie. It'll put off anti-gun girls but seeing as you're at the range anyway I doubt you'd want to start seeing those type of girls. You might also meet a girl who will go shooting with you.
>>23491378
lmao I think it's total horseshit whenever people say this.
I enjoy hanging out and doing things by myself and I'm pretty happy with myself despite all the things i struggle with and yet I've never been able to make friends in real life. Much less get a date or even a phone number successfully.
>>23486817
The impression I got from these posts are that you are both girls yet you are both looking for different things in guys. These days all sorts of people use Tinder and the guy you're both talking about said he wasn't having success with the non-shirtless pics so he was trying the shirtless one. Yeah, I imagine it's better to look good without being shirtless if you can manage. But for people not having any success but who are physically fit it could meant he difference between no matches and a handful.
Although to be honest being more physically fit never helped me. But I know plenty of other people it has helped by showing it off.
>>23491536
yeah. id personally get rid of the chipoltle thing because its super lame imo. but then again maybe some girls do like that kinda stuff. idk.
Is OKC worth coughing up shekels for a sub? I've had minimal luck... I got one conversation with someone over half a year. I deleted my old profile and made a new one.
Should I be upfront with the fact I have autism on my profile so people know what they are getting into? Or hide the fact until last second? Should I hold off on photos of myself because I cant take a good picture with my webcam and look super spergy. I am getting a hand-me down phone soon with a camera and might be able to get an angle where I look less like a tard. Should I delete them all and wait until then?
https://www.okcupid.com/profile/xX_d20rollit_Xx/
Here's my OkC
Got a lot of likes but not from any girls or cute boys that I'm into. Also, I'm having a lot of trouble finding anyone that has the same interests as me. Everyone seems to have pretty shit tier tastes in movies, tv, and video games. I honestly can't imagine 5 minutes with them.
I get alot of matches from feminists and alt hippy chicks.
>>23491418
That was my understanding as well. In person I can show that the height means dick to me, but over tinder it's impossible.
I think I'm still gonna have to ask their height....I have had the shock of meeting a secret fatty. I'm sure its the same for a girl meeting a secret shorty. I will not be like fat fucks.
>>23491328
If your bio on tinder is any indication of your personality in real life then I can see why your friends ditched you. Jesus man get your shit together. People always complain about loneliness and depression, but don't look at the causes behind it. The 'be yourself and you'll be happy' shit is a lie. Start improving yourself.
>>23490689
>Problem is I'm 5'5 which is short as shit.
I don't have your problem, but I have a suggestion. Find a venue where the shorter guys tend to go, as that's where the chicks looking for that will also gather. I realized this when I went to a club in my city recently and saw there were a ton of short guys, and there were girls hooking up with them. I didn't even know this was a thing, but it makes sense. So take your problem and make it not a problem by basically owning it, who you are. For example, I'm tall, but I'm skinny as fuck. However, my success skyrocketed the moment I stopped caring and being insecure about it.
![Screenshot_2016-03-16-20-13-50[1].png](https://i.imgur.com/YmDcwx6.png "Screenshot_2016-03-16-20-13-50[1].png")
Could use some constructive criticism
>finally get somebody to message me on Tinder
>cant even bring myself to read the message, let alone reply
I am just to keep browsing /r9k/, fuck this
Been real slow despite Spring Break. You folks see any obvious fuckups?
Tipssss
>>23497924
Lmk if anyone needs help acquiring pussy via tinder. I get told by many model types im a 10/10. My text game will put anyone to shame i can help you guys out
>>23497942
This sounds like bait but I do need help lol
>>23497924
mirin them facial aesthetics breh
Just looking for opinions on my pics
How do I ask the girl out?
I've been getting a decent amount of likes and I've been able to chat with a few but I dunno if just saying "Hey you liked me! Want to meet at X Place at Y Time?" is fine.
>>23497252
I think 4 would work best as your main
>>23498504
I usually just ask them if they want to hangout sometime after a little conversation. That part isn't really that hard if they're actually talking to you.
Any tips would be much appreciated.
NEET here, I've got a few matches but I haven't really talked with other humans irl in months, how do I initiate a conversation?
>>23489876
>being this big of a loser
Can anyone check this out? I feel like I might be doing something horribly wrong.
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/ToroYVous?cf=profile
R8 plz
>>23500234
Serious question, is it painful being an educated, professional black man?
All other races hate you because you're a black and rank you in the bottom 5% of men. But you know that if you weren't black, you'd be in the top 5% of men.
>>23500417
I'm guessing it all depends on your profile and your location?????
For me, I've been on Tinder for over a year and have been matched with like six women. Two of them unmatched me right away, one had a decent convo with me and then unmatched, and finally the last three haven't responded to my initial message yet havent unmatched.
All in all, it's pretty much like I've never even joined the site in the first place.
>All other races hate you because you're a black and rank you in the bottom 5% of men.
The fuck you talking about?
>>23500461
What is confusing? You are black, and because you're black, you are in the bottom 5% of men, regardless of academic or financial accomplishments. Surely your poor showing on online dating has confirmed this?
Your reading comprehension is poor. I suspect I have overestimated your cognitive abilities.
>>23499331
Set the fire one as the main one, its cool. Other than that you look like a cool guy
>>23497924
Bae where you at? Seems just a little bit too cheesy, and too many full stops after Bae. Really good photos though
>>23496684
Why all the cat photos? Can show cat love through the one selfie of you and your cat
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/ultrashake?cf=regular,age_recip
What am I doing wrong.
In high school I was killing it with the ladies, I literally dated the most attractive women in our grade. Now I'm getting nothing. Is it becayse I have a good personality but I'm an ugly fuck?
I message women with something clever based on their profile, they visit me then they immediately close my tab.
>>23500550
Dude why are you so bitter? I've been on the website for 5 minutes, I was just asking if it looked good lol. And you weren't even replying to me
>>23500983
Women on dating sites just have too big of a pool. It's really dependent on luck. I met my gf the first day I used Tinder on the first week of my freshman year at college 2 years ago. She messaged me first. Pure luck, my friend. Perhaps you could join Kaneko in the flower fields?
Lads, why are girls so shit at replies. It'll be basically me putting in loads of effort to keep the conversation and all they reply with is "haha you're so funny x". What do I have to go from that? Especially when they've already said it about 5 times.
>>23501461
You need to stop making conversation and create real plans to meet in person. Its 2016, people are bored of internet messaging.
>>23490808
post profile
>>23497942
The problem is if you legitimately are that good looking then your advice might not necessarily work for the type of people who have issues getting matches. I mean it's def still worth a shot. But your looks likely excuse a lot of things that women wouldn't like or be interested in from other guys.
I knew a guy who has literally been with over a hundred women and basically matches every girl he right swipes on Tinder (although he does still get rejected and often throws a fit when he does lol). Whenever he tries to give advice that works for him but it doesn't work for that person he calls them a faggot, tells them it's because they suck or whine too much, is just generally insulting,and insists they didn't actually try or that they will never get laid.
So please keep in mind that if something doesn't work for someone that works for you that not everything is going to go the same for different people. Even if their methods were exactly the same. And that goes for anyone giving or receiving advice.
>>23501461
girls suck at convos (they lack sense of humor and anything besides bodies really) you just gotta make em do shit (send nudes, fuck you irl)
>>23501099
Okay, nigger.
Good luck tonight boys, I get to spend the night with a 5'2" 80 lbs Asian girl who will probably get smashed after two drinks.
>>23502303
Thanks to new wave feminism you can expect to be locked up if you even think about fucking her after shes had a couple drinks
>>23502309
We're not fucking tonight regardless, both of us are at our parents houses on spring break.
I do plan on making out with her, and get some heavy petting going. I don't move too fast on tinder, so if I see some boobs tonight I'll consider it a win.
>>23502328
Gay
>>23502330
Yeah, you're right going out with a girl and making out with her is super gay.
>>23496684
You're cute. 3/5 cat pics though. Why have a picture if it doesn't have you u in it?
>>23497924
What's the secret to texting senpai
>>23502303
Good luck
I need help. I match with guys but I can't seem to get any luck with the ladies
>>23488543
I think you're adorable. Prolly should stay away from the distorting face ones but i don't think it would matter that much. 10/10 first pic
>>23491536
I think the 2nd pic is unflattering. I say move 6 -> 2
>>23493233
Nice profile. what kind of girls are you looking for.
>>23493162
Not really. A-list doesn't get you that much. The best thing about it is to see who "likes" you, but even then the girls that do the legwork of liking are usually A) overweight or crazy, B) scams C) In another country and for some reason doing located anywhere.
If you plan on subscribing, wait until they sent you an email for a 20% off, then switch your gender to female and age to 25 years old. That demographic costs the least (a little under $30 for 6 months). After you purchase, switch your gender and age back to normal.
>>23500983
Are you actually 7' 7"?
I don't use really use Tinder anymore since I started dating this girl, but I was just curious where I could improve.
>>23504478
>Good luck
Thanks, it went well last night.
I might have turned her into an exhibitionist and a footfag though. So that's something.
>>23504912
No. That was a joke. MY job also isn't "space camp"
Is that really what's killing me? I intended that to be a joke since I'm a manlet I can make something out of it. It's not like I'm insecure about it, it never held me back before.
So I moved to a new place and don't know anybody.
How do I get pictures for Tinder that aren't just selfies? I never had whatever type of friend it is that randomly takes pictures of people when they're hanging out, so I don't have anything old I can use.
>>23506223
Get a camera with a timer and start looking candid.
>>23506223
i feel ya bro... my few friends aren't really the picture type so i just do >>23506264 the staged selfie thing. well fortunately one of my buddies has the handsomest lab so i got some dog selfies. just work with what you've got and you'll get something.
>>23505976
if you aren't insecure about it then there's no reason to make a joke about it. if you're under 6'1" then make no mention of your height.
>Friends don't take a lot of photos
>Stuck with trying to make totally-not-selfies
s u f f e r i n g
>>23488976
C3PO NOT 3CPO
There is this 10/10 who's been interested in me on okc but she stopped answering. Did I say something wrong? Was she telling the truth in that last line? I'm surprised because her okc profile said that she wasn't sex driven at all and she mentioned being a virgin once. So I'm very confused. What should I say to fix this?
>>23485864
Should i explicitly say I'm looking for people to hang out with in the bio or leave it more open? I'm trying to steer away from girls who are looking for one night stands
>>23509781
>where do you live out of nowhere
creepy
>>23509781
In general I'd say that you should not try to 'save' conversations. You could send message in a few days if you have actually anything interesting to say.
>>23509781
But I do think playing up/ joking would have been better. Maybe a "bom chicka wah wah" reference
>>23501469
This.
>>23509781
You kept asking random questions, she had short answers, started to make fun of it with the porn actress stuff and then you asked where did she live out of nowhere
Im no pro but it seems like you fucked up, dont keep it so mechanical and only you asking random stuff imo
