Insecurity thread?
Insecurity thread.
Let's just vent about stuff we hate about ourselves.
i hate everything about myself, my dude
>>23459841
I hate that I am overweight slightly. I am not fat but I have man tits that poke out of my shirt and the fact I am a virgin in college is intimidating. I absolutely hate the fact everyone thinks I'm such a bad person becuase I listen to metal. Basically I hate my life
Flat chested female checking in, wish my titties were bigger.
>five head
>dark skin
>shit voice
>always stuttering and fumbling around
>can never do anything right to the point where I pissed off a prof due to my constant mistakes
>antisocial, anxious, and depressed as fuck to the point of struggling in community college classes and unable to get job due to fear of being overstressed from a simple job at a grocery store
>fear of driving so still haven't gotten license
>want to die but can never gain the courage due to fear of what will be death
>>23459901
Nothing I love more than a cute girl with a flat chest.
Any face pics you wanna share?
I've been married for five years since I was 19, I could tell my wife was unhappy being trapped in a relationship so young... So I took the ring off of her. Now I feel insecurity every time she leaves. Is my dick too small? Am I fat? Am I ugly? I feel like a whiner because it's obvious she still loves me
>asymmetrical face
>crooked/missing teeth
>small lips
>chubby but losing weight (still hate body)
I guess that sums it up.
>>23459853
Well man, the virgin in college thing is tough. I was, too, and I always felt so inferior or like some disgusting outcast. Hell I had never even kissed anyone. Everyone else seemed like they had tons of experience, except me, and I always felt like no one would want me because of it. I hope you can overcome it and not let it eat away at your ability to be social. As for the metal thing, I'm not sure why people would give you shit? Who cares what people listen to. If that's what you like, then live it up and bang your head.
Good luck man.
I hate that i'm too scared to embarrass myself on the internet like >>23459921
>>23459940
My social life is impacted becuase being a metalhead automatically makes me an asshole apparently, but oh well i am debating whether or not to drop out (probably won't) becuase my major is trash. Also every girl I end up liking either has a boyfriend or isn't not interested in me. No girl likes me at all
>>23459841
I've had two surgeries to remove my gynecomastia and I'm still humiliated at the thought I might have bitch tits.
Sad, too. I was in great shape (military). Had the surgeries when I got out and then gained weight from depression.
All the glandular tissue is gone but the tits came back. I'll an hero one day but not today or tomorrow.
>>23459841
I hate that I've never taken the opportunity to be in more relationships. I've been told by many girls that I am very attractive and I've never taken the opportunity to go out with any of them until I met my current gf who has been with multiple guys. I guess I never really thought of myself as attractive in the eyes of other people and now that I'm in a relationship I feel like I'm inadequate, like I'm not doing enough somewhere and I don't want to break it off with my current gf because I love her and I know I won't be able to find anyone else like her. Not to mention that we did break up before and her had some casual sex with a guy and shortly after that we got back together, and what did I do in the time we were apart? Jack shit that's what. I've never been one for casual relationships, let alone sex, so I feel kinda gross for being with her knowing this, but at the same time I don't want to lose her. Just the other day I was banging my head against the wall asking myself "what the hell are you doing?" I don't know if I should follow my heart or follow my instincts. I don't want to hurt her but I don't agree with the things she's done. We've talked about it several times but it never changes the way I feel about it, I can't stop seeing myself as some kind of moron for not doing one or the other. I don't want to go around having sex with every girl I see but I know that it would be naive for me to expect the same from other people.
>>23460072
You should leave her anyway. She fucked a dude immediately after you broke up. Eject, nigger. You feel inadequate and she senses it, too.
My entire body.
I got so fat that despite doing great losing weight, I'm going to be disgusting either way.
And even though I've been working on this for a year now, this past month and a half I've felt this hopelessness wondering why I'm even bothering when I don't care about living longer.
I went into this with the goal of seeing my belly button again and being comfortable enough to finally find a man I enjoy spending time with, but I won't be able to do the first part without tens of thousands of dollars and the second I'm just going to be too ashamed by my body to be with someone.
>>23460039
That's shitty too, anon. I only recently knew this was a problem some men have from being on /fit/ and a few other guys around here mentioning it.
It's even worse that you've had surgery before. I imagine it's quite a painful procedure, too?
>>23460153
It's actually a really mild procedure, senpai. Find a good doctor in Costa Rica and you can get it done for about $3,000 out the door. Top notch medical care, too.
balding
chubby
go in autistic rages
moobs
5'8''
always depressed
addicted to fapping
early stage of gum desease
cuts on my wrists
unable to interact with ppl irl
dat enough?
> small tits and shoulders but a bit chubby, if I lose weight I barely have any chest left
> lower part of my body is always bigger that the upper part, was this way even when I was skinny (even when I was 110 for 5,2 I couldn't get rid of my thicks thighs but you could see my ribs)
> cellulite
> nice ass when I bend over, flabby otherwise
>>23460153
In Tailand is is pretty cheap as well. You can get rid of your skin apron for a fairly cheap price, then move on and enjoy your life.
Duuno if you will be able to get preggers after that, because maybe your abdomen skin won't be able to stretch to carry a baby.
But yeah, all your problems might be fixed with 1 year hitting the gym and 5000 bucks surgery in a third world country.
Wish mine were so easily fixable, to be desu.
>>23460225
Post pics.
For science.
And stuff.
>>23460225
Your body shape sounds amazing. Thick thighs are literally the best thing ever. That is all.
>>23459841
My insecurity:
28 years old and still live with my parents.
Skinny 19 year old dude. I try and eat as much as possible yet I'm stuck at 120 pounds been this weight since I was 16. Also I'm a virgin and too afraid to approach girls, I can act normal when I finally get to someone a bit by introducing myself and approaching new people is a disaster.
>>23460236
Not gonna do that, sorry
>>23460247
If I had bigger tits, maybe I wouldn't mind my thighs but because of them my body shape feels... unbalanced, when I look into the mirror I see a chubby kid
>>23460267
i wish i could eat all that I want. i refrain myself, and still chubby and moobs. I'd kill for a metabolism like yours, sailor.
About girls, we are the same.
I'm chubby and most people would say I have a drug problem. Average looking at best too
>>23460290
What kind of drugs?
>>23460283
Idk being smaller than everyone sucks ass but I guess its better than being overweight, maybe you should workout?
I'm a woman, 21yo and super insecure about how much I look like my dad... People tell me I'm pretty n whatever but to me we look so similar that its weird
>>23460298
Coke and just about any opiate I can get my hands on. Went cold turkey in summer and my fuck did that suck
>>23460309
I would sell my soul for opiates. Any tips on how to score? Not looking for a doctor. Silk Road?
>>23460298
most drugs make you go skinny, but anon is chubby, so probably the weeds.
Also hi, I have a moobs problem too. Why the fuck does it happen? Is is some hormonal dysfunction or wtf?
I'm not circumcised.
I've always been insecure about it and I panic in locker rooms when I have to change in front of other people. I actually have a pretty big dick, but I still get very nervous when a woman encounters it for the first time.
Also, I'm getting old (37) and younger women don't find me attractive anymore.
I know this all might sound lame, but it's my own personal weird baggage
>>23460281
If you have big hips and thighs, you don't need boobs. You aren't unbalanced unless you have 4 inches of gut and no boobs or something.
>>23460306
You should post pics. I'll tell you if it's something to worry about
>>23460341
Agreed!
>>23459841
I hate that my beard still doesn't grown thick even though I'm almost 27. I look like a stray dog without at least a bit of beard, which really sucks.
>>23459921
>>23460347
>>23460236
>>23460320
Look for shady looking people who look a little out of it, pinprick pupils. Look up poppy seed tea, go to shady parts of town, ask prostitutes/escorts
>>23460341
>>23460355
Well, thanks, I guess
>>23460201
>>23460226
The thought of just going to some other country freaked me the hell out.
I have a hard time just getting out of the house or talking to people. I'm going to have to work on a lot after literally being hermit for around 11 years of my life. I fucked up so much oh geez.
I have huge ham hands with callouses all over them from being a mechanic for most of my life
Not to mention the hair all over my chest, stomach and back despite only being 19. I had a nearly full beard in 10th grade
>>23460377
Opiates seem like the perfect way to go out: flying on the moon chasing dragons and then an heroing via firearm before the high wears off. Your last time alive will be spent in chemical bliss.
>>23460409
I prefer to just pass out and have a great sleep. They do make everything in life seem better for a while though
>>23459901
Flat chest is best though.
Me, I hate my poor eyesight have to wear glasses and also I'm not very smart, didn't do well in school and doomed to be poor.
>>23459841
>Perfectly average dick (6")
>Perfectly average girlfriend (6/10)
>Perfectly average income ($18/hr)
>Perfectly average house (2 bedroom)
>Perfectly average car (2006 camry)
>Perfectly average weight
Just end it now
>>23460387
can someone please tell me what the hell this thing is (in the photo)
>>23460489
Aliens from Sesame street
Maybe next time use reverse image and don't be such a bag o' fags?
>>23460503
>4chan user
>straight person
pick one
>>23460539
Good point
Nice ID
I'm 21, 5'6", still haven't gotten into college yet because I only just recently figured out what I wanna spend my life doing, and got cucked by the only person who "loved" me.
Being socially awkward as fuck really doesn't help me make friends, either.
I'm a 20 year old male.
>slightly overweight
>hate my voice
>5'6"
>low self-esteem
>shy, but overcoming it
>horrifying allergies
>sexually confused
>head's in the clouds
>no realistic dreams or aspirations
>unmotivated and depressed
>no known actual talents
>constantly tired
>very forgetful
My friends probably think I'm super boring. I put up a front to make everyone think I'm happy, but I haven't been in quite some time.
I only recently became more outgoing within the past two years and I'm still discovering who I am. I'm lost.
>>23459841
I've spent so much of my life pursuing academia through post-secondary school, that I can't stop being an academic.
I tend to use niche words no one needs to know or cares to know.
I'm always pensive/stoic, and I have a hard time letting down my guard and just being goofy.
Nobody will ever love me because I'm boring.
I tried to go to school for two semesters, dropped classes and was academically dismissed. I know I want a college education but I either have to appeal or go somewhere else.
I have a weird body, I'm rapidly losing my hair, I was cheated on in the only two relationships I've ever had. I work in a warehouse with third worlders and I drive a shitty car that causes me anxiety. I'm badly agoraphobic, now being exposed to the world but it doesn't make my decisions smarter. I'm unhappy most of the time but nothing I do works to alleviate that whatsoever. I think I'm unattractive and the proof is really in the puddin. I have no social life but it seems like people don't even want to be around me. I'm constantly seeking validation where I can find it and it does no good.
To summarize it all, I know I'm not a very valuable person and I know I don't have any future. I don't know what I'm living for. I have mountains to climb and I struggle to find the motivation. I have no lot in life and I have to fight just for the chance of being anything other than the bottom of the chain.
>needy
>get attached and worry to much
>5head
>worried people will just leave me because I actually suck
4chan is probably the worst place in the world for this kind of thread
>>23460451
i have some news for u, bud. if u live in the states, you're doomed to be poor no matter what. meritocracy is a sham
Man, I just got broken up with because I don't know how to balance my time out between school, work, friends, hobbies, and my former relationship. I was trying so hard to work with all of them and even sacrificed some of them just to work on more of the others. It sucks because all I need is more time in the day but I can't get that. I just want to cry because I want her back. 5 years and it's over. We're still friends but it just doesn't feel right... Yes, we still smoke, hang out, etc but I feel as if I see her with another guy, I'll break down.
>>23459841
>quick tempered and hostile under pressure
>160lbs, 6ft
>pale as a sheet
>can get along with any type of person but only because i've studied the behavior of most demographics to the point where I can put on a different mask for the occasion
>can never take off said mask and open up
>gigantic hands/feet
>fear of death that permeates everything I do and sucks the enjoyment out of it
>unable to trust romantic partners, will stalk them online/ read their journals/ poke through their phone
>pansexual but in the closet, have dug myself into a hole of engaging in homophobic banter with my dad to fit in with him so now it'll look like i'm betraying the family and being two faced if i ever come out
the only thing i have going for me is 8/10 facial aesthetics but that means nothing when you as a person are shit
>five head
>no eyebrows
>crooked nose
>bags under eyes
>pectus excavatum
:'(
My standards are unrealistic.
I always drift away from friends.
Neurotic.
If I had to pick one to change, it'd be my inability to maintain friendships.
>hormonal acne
>bad looking skin without makeup
>5head and weird hairline with a notch in it
>used to be very fit and petite, but have gained about 10 lbs over the last 2 years. I like being more curvy and having an hourglass shape when I look at myself in the mirror, but I feel like a cow when I look at other girls now. I know my fiancé likes skinny girls with small boobs and now I feel like he's not as interested in my body.
I wish I was better about being more open with people and more friendly in general.
It's a very fixable problem and I've been making huge strides, but old habits are hard to break.
bushy eyebrows
I haven't been to the beach since I was like 17 (25 now) because I don't like my stomach or body hair & I know people judge and talk shit and I rather just not deal with it.
>I used to love going to the beach :'(
22/m
Going bald (full cul-de-sac)
5'9
Asymmetrical eyes
Unconventional, pretty big nose
Pretty happy that those are the only things that make me feel at all insecure.
Even those things I've pretty much gotten over by now.
Gotta accept what is, after all
>acne everywhere
>stupid teeth
>overweight
>thick ugly eyebrows
>fingers always have wounds
>super hairy
The list used to include a lot more, so I suppose that's progress.
18/m
Biggest thing I hate about myself is compulsively lying about everything to everyone. Best friends, parents, I feel there's no low I won't stoop to. I've lied about losing my virginity, how big my role is where I work and serious illnesses to get out of commitments.
Semi-overweight, not disgustingly so but enough to fuck up any confidence in chasing girls.
I'm not sure if there's ever been a point since I hit puberty where I haven't had collections of spots on my face, specifically around my mouth constantly.
I bite my nails to shit, to the point I break skin and hurt myself.
I've wanted to dye my hair for years but I know I couldn't pull it off to save my life.
There's more but fuck it.
I am fat and autistic and full of self loathing but I have something else to ask. My gf is also very fat and hates herself, her family was really abusive and she was constantly bullied. She is convinced that she is the worst thing to happen to humanity. How, if it is possible, do I make her happier? She is already making improvements since moving in with me but it really hurts to see her in so much pain.
tl;dr any fat self loathing girls want to share what would make them feel complete and happy?
22/f
overall I am fine with my looks. I hate my mental state if that makes sense, im very weak I feel like, and I let people bring me down very easily. I was also sick in the past and I have had comments on how I look dead.
I just want to be happy
>>23462893
me 2 anon
>>23462884
She probably needs therapy, but if you don't want to go that route, tell her she is beautiful every single day and that you only have eyes for her. Try cooking healthy meals together and doing some kind of activity together like hiking or going for walks. She might hate herself less if she knows she's making positive changes.
19/m
people hates me, i do too, don't really know why, i have a like a high sex appeal and i'm a good person, but people always hate me, i can't find a fucking reason.
I clean my face and my hands 1 time per hour, i feel like i'm disgusting all the time but i'm always clean and i smell good, it's horrible and idk what to do.
>underdeveloped chin
>flabby bod due to being NEET
>>23462228
Those can always be fixed. Do yourself a favor and get a tweezer. They're pretty cheap. Just don't overdo it.
20/m
>Overly hairy
>Gay
>No body definition
>Awkward as fuck
>Drunken mess
>>23462924
Forgot to add
>weird pale and uneven skin tone
>black body hair everywhere
>>23462897
:c, I hope you find happiness!
I'm unable to have a conversation with a person if I don't have a medium.
It's awkward.
>>23459976
You're looking at the wrong women, I'm not that attractive and I still get looks and even a few double takes and over the shoulder glances. Hell, this Christmas I had a lady offer to indulge in some wine in her bed(had to say no as I'm married)
>British teeth
Kills all self-esteem. Don't even smile in pictures
My height :(
I don't think I'm THAT ugly but sure being short sucks, girls hate me.
>Self conscious about my posture even though I've been told its not that bad.
>A little chub but I'm working on it. Still hate it though.
>I feel like the moles on my face are ugly eye sores.
>My eyebrows make me look angry all the time.
>>23464506
Got kik? You sound beautiful c:
>>23464542
Kraschman
>>23462091
Hey anon, don't worry about the Expecto Patronum, I mean Pectus Excavatum, I have/had it yet I got my ex to eat strawberries and cream out of my chestbowl, kinky shit. Also I had it operated on last April and recently finished my recovery period, now I'm getting swole. If I can make it, anon, so can you <3
Also I have bags under my eyes too but idgaf, some chicks find it cute but if you're big then you're less likely to care about these things. My nose also happens to be large and ever so slightly to one side as well lol so I know how you feel. You'll be alright if you put some effort into yourself.
>>23459841
I hate that I am so mean with the banter. People think I am a judgemental cunt because I am sometimes very nasty with the banter, because that's who I am.
I also hate how I don't go out, and I'm fat, and ugly.
>>23462095
>My standards are unrealistic.
>I always drift away from friends.
Damn, that sounds just like me. You haven't posted in forever.
I wonder if it's too late for me to catch up with my peers.
I turned 31 a month ago. Virgin, only kissed a girl once for a few seconds. Only dates I've been on were with that girl which was 3 years ago. Still work in the service industry at 2 relatively low paid jobs. Just moved into my own place, but I was living with my mom for the majority of the past 4 years. Went to college, got through undergrad but dropped out of grad school.
I feel like I should be more accomplished in my 30s. I feel like I wasted my teens and 20s and now I'm paying for it. I'm trying to improve myself, but I think it's just a wasted effort at this point. Too little, too late.
>5'5"
> alcoholic
> not strong
> manic depressive
> mommy issues
> former junkie
> introvert
> paranoid in general
> such a fucking failure i tried to kill myself and couldnt even do that right
Yea i hate myself
>>23459841
I used to be somewhat attractive when I was 19.
Now that I'm 21, I'm overweight and my hairline is receding, and it feels awful. I feel like my girlfriend deserves the person I looked like when I was 19, not who I am now.
I sleep on a futon in the living room of a friends house since getting kicked out by my parents last october, I miss way too much college because I can't drag myself out of a shitty futon some mornings. My manager at my job hates me and is trying to force me to quit by fucking with my shifts in such a way where it would be criminal but I wouldn't be able to press charges without being counter-sued. I'm broke, my partner has had to buy me food for the past two weeks and I think he's getting to the point where he doesn't care enough to put in the effort anymore. My only outlets are videogames, sex and smoking but those things are losing their charm. Every time things start to look better for me they all come crashing down with another problem.
The living/sleeping conditions have caused my complexion to deteriorate and for me to gain weight due to eating cheap processed crap as it's cheap/filling. I've had to shave without shaving cream so my face is regularly pretty beaten/cut up. I work as a bartender and looking this rough does not help with tips/pay in general. I'm studying to be a chef but because I get ill so often due to effectively sleeping on the floor in a dusty cold house I get told to go home because they cant let someone so ill in the kitchens.
I blame myself for my misfortune and kick myself for not appreciating the support I've had from my friends and partner enough. I sometimes wish they wouldn't help me so I wouldn't feel obliged to not kill myself out of respect of their intentions.
tl/dr; i'm gross and perpetually homeless, kill me
>>23465057
> not strong
> manic depressive
> mommy issues
> former junkie
> introvert
> paranoid in general
> such a fucking failure i tried to kill myself and couldnt even do that right
I know those feels.
well. I won't list all..
let's say the ones I hate the most is that I'm fat and too hairy for a girl. like belly and lower back hairy.
legs too, obviously, but that's not really unusual
and my skin is super sensitive and doesn't react well to waxing and shaving but I have to do it
>>23465082
Well heres to drinking another night away fellow trainwreckbro. Cheers
>roastie
>small boobs
>stretch marks
>skinny fat
>acne
>bad teeth
>bad nose
>super awkward, clingy, overly excited annoying personality
>annoying voice
>lazy
>unproductive
>loner
tears have run out
>>23466832
Change small boobs to saggy boobs, and we're the same person.
I have extremely low self-esteem, to the point where I severely doubt anyone who decides to compliment me,
Hi tone
>>23466867
:( im sorry youre insecure like me.
Have you ever thought of trying to improve yourself?
I always think I guess I could get a labiaplasty, implants, nose job, braces and veneers, fix my skin with facials etc, laser for my stretchmarks, and work out heaps of liposuction or something for my chubbiness...
not sure if all that stuff would help though, would probably still be ugly meh
>>23464730
oh my dude people usually think im a wanker with my incredible banter game
>acne
>hair is stupid
>bad breath
>smile (while im told is my strongest feature) shows way too much gum for my liking
>awkwardly tall, 6'3" instead of just an even 6'
>not well muscled enough
>too much body hair/bush
>dick is too thick, large ugly veins all over it
>snapped frenulum is the worst insecurity i have, makes me feel like something's wrong with me every time i go to pee
>>23466894
I regularly exercise and I have a pretty good diet, so I'm getting there.
I don't have very much money, so most of those I couldn't even try.
I decided labiaplasty isn't worth it, though, because it can cause some serious damage.
If you can afford it, go for it.
I have family to keep me from being too lonely.
My social anxiety fucking sucks, I like being a social person and just talk to random people. Unless I smoked about 2 grams of weed, I am too scared to talk to anyone. The fear that I get is like a stabbing in my gut, like if it's morally wrong to talk to strangers. I'm fit now that I've been working out, finally have a penis to be proud of, dont think I'm fucking ugly, and yet I see a girl I nope the fuck out!
>>23460072
Yea man, I'll have to agree with the other responder. GTFO. If you don't feel comfortable, and she clearly doesn't have the same respect for sexual activity that you do, then I'd say in the long run you will: continue to be miserable and uncomfortable making your life and the relationship shit, and she'll just end up trading you in for one of probably many guys that are lining up to fuck her. Youll just be her emotional pinching bag in the long run, so bail now and next time you want a relationship get to know the person better before getting in too deep.
>21/M/Aussie
>5'8"
>fucked 6 prostitutes in the past year but have never gotten laid of my own accord
>go to the gym often because it's fun but I have no self control when it comes to food which means I'm forever at this weird sort of muscular, sort of look like I've never set foot in a gym type body
>little income as well, so the whole buying food thing doesn't help there either
>shit personality, I want people to like me really badly but I guess I'm not a likeable person
>don't get along with dudes, only ever really click with women
>still live with parents
>unemployed
>no confidence, have never asked a girl out and can't imagine myself ever doing so
>won't graduate from current degree until 2019, very demanding workload, very expensive, supposedly worth it in the end because it's something that I love that also pays well, but right now it seems everyone's in front of me socially, financially, interpersonally, academically and romantically
>don't have the balls to contemplate suicide so my self deprecation has literally no ultimate avenue other than to make me more miserable than I already am
I fucking hate myself dude. At least I have average to slightly-above-average facial aesthetics.
>be an attractive girl
>tons of people want to talk to you and be friends
>try your best to hold a convo and come off as smart
>try your best to not be the "pretty but boring" stereotype
>Girls then realize they dont like you and only see you as competition
>Guys realize they find you boring/ditsy and only want to hang out because they find you attractive or see you as a sex object
>Not be able to tell anyone that you feel lonely without them pointing out that you have "tons of friends" or "lots of guys like you"
>know you will sound vain if you explain this to people.
>Spend all your time alone because you dont want to be around fake bitches and guys who only want to be around you to brag about it to their friends or try to fuck you
its very lonely.
>>23467514
same issue but without being attractive.
find someone with the same interests as you? I'm sure some people find you legit interesting if they're into the same things you are. And if it helps any, doesn't sound vain. just lonely. and you need a hug
