Havent see a femdom/malesub thread in a while.
come in and discuss kinks, share stories and find a play-partner.
I'm an experienced dom that is looking for another sub. My current sub wants to try dom, and we would love to add in another girl.
kik: chadmodry
>>23361086
I'm a male sub and it feels like there are so few other male subs or femdoms.
>>23361119
I constantly see male subs on /soc/
I can agree with the femdoms, though.
>>23361119
well i feel more like that there are tons of malesubs but only a few femdom( at least on the internet). and well if you meet a femdom a lot of them are actually not that awesome. at least thats my experience
>>23361134
>>23361141
Maybe I don't notice that many other male subs because I'm not looking for them, but seems like vast majority of male would rather be dom. Also every fem dom I've chatted with just wants to peg which I am not down for.
>>23361153
well i guess still that most guys are dom, since its like more of a "natural" thing that guys lead and stuff, but well most girls also tend to be sub in my experience and there are actually tons.
well i agree with pegging thing, i also dont like stuff in my ass
>>23361086
kik: white_n0sie
that feeling when femdom turns me on but it would be shameful to disclose it to anyone
just see how pathetic it sounds "male sub"
>>23361169
i am actually guy and second i dont have kik only skype, sorry mate
I'm personally attached to the sexual side of "being taught" or "pleasing the other". I'm pretty submissive and innocent when it comes down to sexual activity and when a woman can be the leader...a boss...it's amazing. Especially when they know how to use their voice. Ugh, hearing good boy makes me wild.
>>23361199
I get slightly girly or young-boy-ish when I get aroused by the right girl. Or guy I suppose.
I find smart, powerful, and decisive girls as one the most arousing things in the world.
Shame there are too many guys that are looking for the same thing and not enough gal's to fill that "supply/demand".
Skype : MoaningTwinkBoy
>>23361185
yup yup, plus irl everyone sees me as a dom meathead:/ gf would never be into it
pic not me, but my gf and I do a lot of bondage and chastity cage play.
she likes to be tied up and fucked, but I like it even more.
I love being fully restrained in her bed ties and forced to pleasure in any way any part of her body while I have a chastity cage locked on my penis. If there's something I don't want to do, such as eating her out on her period, or giving a rimjob. She asks me if I want to increase my chastity sentence from 2 weeks to 4 weeks, then I meekly agree and begin to work on satisfying her body. Having my penis locked in a chastity cage makes me so much more horny, and way more willing to try out new sexual activities. After 3 weeks without an erection. She finally got me to agree to let her use her strap on on my poor virgin ass. I almost came from her fucking my ass, but I held it in because I didn't want her to think she could keep my penis locked in a chastity cage and use the strap on to make me cum instead of letting me fuck her.
I'm usually locked about half the week, and she loves how submissive and eager to pleasure her vagina I am when the chastity cage is torturing my poor cock when it attempts to get hard when she strips in front of me, but only lets my tongue into her warm tight pussy.
On the other hand, when I'm unlocked, I'm pure violent sexual energy. I completely manhandle her. I dominant her roughly, moving her around the house exactly how I want to fuck her, giving her no choice in the matter when my penis is free. When I fuck her, I make it hurt for all the teasing she did to my locked up penis...and she absolutely loves it.
I don't see how 2 switches in a long term relationship with lots of toys could be a better sexual life. She's definitely marriage material. We met in our early 20s when we were both virgins, so we have that beautiful purity between us as well.
26/m here, had a slightly dom girlfriend a year or two ago. Looking to get back into it.
>>23362977
Beautiful eyes but random pic.
>>23361086
I could never get a girl to punch me in the face and call me a little bitch so that I could get pissed off enough to play switch and fightfuck her across the room. Whatever, now I have ED.
23/m
Still my dream to find a femdom to make me their sub. I'd do whatever she asked no limits.
kik:frownan
>>23361086
Well, as low as my hopes are, I'm a 23 M sub from Northern Europe. If there are really any girls on here interested in this, I can be added on Skype as reasonablydepressed.
>>23361086
I just wanted to be pounded in the ass with a strapon, I want you to use me like men have used you, I want you spank me, and fuck me. I deserve it. afterwards though I want to fuck you just as hard and cum deep in you're pussy. that's how I see sexual equality
I'm attracted to powerful authoritarian women, but I absolutely cannot stand this whole pathetically obsessive bondage culture that is attached to such things. I don't want anything to do with the sex toys or the stupid names and labels. I wouldn't even really consider myself submissive as a man, I'm just very attracted to women in positions of authority. It's the element of mutual respect that I want in a relationship that isn't found in this femdom world
Part of it is that most femdomming has some degree of financial domination to it, and most of soc are NEET kids who think "BDSM" means "fuck a girl while calling her 'mistress'"
>>23364617
Case in point.
>>23364644
Holy shit, second!
Why do strong, driven women who want a relationship with a non-sub man not exist? I don't want any of that RP crap, an genuinely forthright woman who isn't just abrasive to people for the sake of asserting herself. Discretion and will, sexy combo.
>Dredd
Fuck yeah that movie. Anderson was hot on so many levels.
>>23364678
Kinda relate to your feelings.
I find extremely sexy when women do manly things, wear manly outfits, are slightly muscular, have high sex drive like men do, and dont hide it. Tomboys are my thing, I guess. No butch pls.
>>23364678
>Dredd
Vasques in Aliens, or Linda Hamilton in the Terminators is a good example too
>>23364744
I feel you, but at the same time I don't want to be emasculated or be treated in a demeaning way by a woman like this. I suppose I have an absurdly complex and specific conception of the romantic and sexual dynamic I would want to have with a woman of this nature.
>>23364744
>Tomboys
I played rugby in college and we would practice drills and workout with the women's team since there was only one coach. Those girls were amazing. Tough, hot and still very feminine. My kind.
>>23364774
Doesn't help that S2 of TD was total shit, beginning to end, so bad example in my mind.
A R K A N S A S
I just really want a dominant girl to please~
But there will never be anyone in Arkansas ;_;
>>23364780
Antigone was my type of woman regardless.
>>23364814
Do you, son.
>>23364774
>>23364776
Are you me?
>>23364853
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kijpcUv-b8M
>>23361153
where did you meet them ?
has anybody tried femdom dating ? is it a false ?
>>23361199
>Ugh, hearing good boy makes me wild.
yes ! so much.
>>23364617
the thing is : sexuality isn't fair and will never be.
young guy (19) looking for a dom. with my last gf we did some kinky shit, like she would use a strapon and whip me and i LOVED it. kik me @john__graham
>tfw no redhead perverted mom to make you drink her pee and clean the creampies of her alpha lovers from her pussy then ride you and bury your face in her tits
someone shoot me
tfw no one will keep your cock locked in a tiny cage so long you'll do whatever she wants no matter how degrading it is just to even earn getting hard.
Yep
>>23364617
>>23364667
>>23364662
>>23364617
I laughed and then felt bad
I guess I'll post some of me in here on the off chance.
21/m/uk very masochistic although from what my "fiends" have said I'm also just naturally submissive. best way to describe my maso-ness would be wanting to be used as a a punchbag for my dommes frustrations, if she wants to teach me through violence too that's always fine and torturing me just for the hell of it is perhaps even better. Apart from CBT pls no CBT. It goes without saying that I would always want to be there if feet needed cleaned or if one needed a to sit but there was no furniture to sit on
27/m/PA
Love forced fem, foot worship, pegging, bondage, spanking, verbal humiliation, cucking, chastity play, and facesitting. If you're a woman into any of this and want to chat/meet, contact me!
email: [email protected]
kik: nemotrap
The dom side of my gf has been gradually surfacing lately. I didn't know how much she was into BDSM until we each made our own, nothing but porn and kinks tumblr accounts.
I like an assertive woman, especially in bed. Takes out a lot of "figuring each other out" sex and gets right to the "toe curling, legs shaking, OMG" sex. I love it when she grabs my hair and grinds on my face. I even enjoy when she uses a butt plug on me while giving head. That being said I also like to slap some ass and pull some hair. LSS....I also like to dominate sometimes and sub sometimes. And "sometimes" could be in the same session. So my question is how do encourage her without losing a party of my sexual being along the way?
The thought of a little girl cutting off my penis and eating it. And then milking my prostate every day to eat my cum. That my sexual organs are reduced to nothing more than food for a happy little girl. All while having me please her and make her cum as much as possible or whenever she wants.
>>23361153
yeah I like pegging
also if you're a good sub you'll know that what you want doesn't matter and you'll let your dom do whatever she wants to you
>>23366946
What's your favorite thing to do to a sub? What do you like them to look like? Do you do aftercare or hang out with them in a non-fetish way?
If any femdoms are reading, skype is coinoperatedboy0
>>23367102
nice rugby socks lad
>>23367102
Coin operated boy. Clever girl.
(Sorry. Fellow male sub here.)
>>23366993
favorite thing to do to a sub is slap their ass
I like subs to look feminine or cute, big and manly is ok but I'd rather be the physically dominant one in the relationship
yeah definitely do aftercare and hanging out normally. I'm also the generally dominant one, not just sexually, so I'm always making decisions, buying gifts, etc. I like to spoil my sub and take care of them
I want to keep this thread alive, so, here's a story.
A couple of years ago I'm at a big weekend long house party with friends. The location is somewhat secluded so we had a fair amount of privacy. I know about half of the people there, the other half I'm meeting for the first time.
Towards the end of the first night as most people are starting to fall asleep or settle into really chill conversations I see this girl wandering around in a bright neon-green bra, holding a whip, looking frustrated. I asked her about it. I don't remember very much of the conversation but I do remember saying "You look like you're hunting for something." and she said "Mmmmmyeah. I am." I asked her if she was good with the whip and said I had never been whipped before. She said "Let me show you."
We went into a room and she told me to strip my clothes off. I did. Then she told me to put my hands up and against the wall. I did. She was still wearing the green bra and very tight vinyl shorts. She came up behind me and said "I don't know you. How hard can I go?" And I said "I don't know. Please make me want to do it again." She grabbed my waist, pulled down my underwear, and started lashing me. She would alternate between slow, sharp lashes, and fast little ones. It hurt. At one point someone entered the room to get a bag they left in here. She ordered me not to turn around. She drew some blood but I could tell she was holding back. She snuck up behind me while I was expecting another lash and grabbed my cock. I had one of those "I didn't know I could even get this hard" type boners. She squeezed it really hard and said right into my ear "Did you know you were a masochist?" "Not... really."
Next thing I know, her arm is around my neck and I'm in a legit choke hold. I black out for a second or two, and by the time I realize what's going on I'm on my back and she's sucking me off. One of the best, meanest, sloppiest blowjobs I've ever had.
I'm a male sub snap me I'm fukin hammerd at davidrees7
>>23367245
You sound fantastic. When did you start to realize that's what you want? Have you done a lot of pegging before? How do you usually find guys?
Me and ex gf used to do pegging all the time
>>23367335
>Me and ex gf used to do pegging all the time
pegging != femdom
femdom != pegging
I need to be told how to fuck myself sometimes. Give myself over with no limits.
Supahuman32 if any doms want someone to use
Looking for a femdom in Phoenix. I enjoy so many things. Humiliation and pegging at the top of that list.
>>23361086
I'm sick of male subs. I've never had the problems I have with male subs with femsubs. Male subs just want want want, they use you until they get what they want then they just fade away, femsubs are so delightful and just give and give until you're pleased, they sit there and they wait, ever eager. Male subs just talk to you when they're horny, and I've only ever built real connections with the fems I've dommed because of this.
It just seems that men can never really be subs in the same way that women can. idek, maybe I've just been burned by male subs too much.
>>23367968
If a man is actively wanting to be submissive, they're just perverts looking to get off. A man will only be truly submissive if he's apprehensive at first and needs to be coaxed into surrender. A man needs to have power in the dynamic first before he can submit
>>23367968
That's interesting. Are you a femdom and bisexual? I've noticed that just in the way that guys talk about it. I'd like to say that I wouldn't be like that. I don't think I would but I've never had an ongoing femdom relationship. Not because of ghosting - it just never worked out that way.
Do you prefer your subs to seek you out, or are you the one who approaches them?
>>23368091
>Are you a femdom and bisexual?
Yes.
>Do you prefer your subs to seek you out, or are you the one who approaches them?
either or. I've had more like finding subs posting my details online and letting them some to me, that way they know what I want and who I am up front.
>>23361086
I have a question. (If you think I'm lying, just don't answer, but I want to know.)
I want to try sub, but I have a very large penis. Does this create any issues with the role, if the dom isn't able to take it all?
Any dominant ladies in Boston?
>>23368122
Where are you from?
>>23368226
Why does that matter?
submissive guy looking for mistress on skype (cowiek2)
>>23368129
>implying she wants to put your penis inside her
>implying she would even use your penis at all
if it's too big, she can make it smaller.
>>23368252
Well, this is /soc/, so I'm gonna take a wild guess that s/he liked your post and wanted to find out more.
>>23368129
If it's a good dom it's not a problem. Just find a size queen if it really matters that you get full insertion.
>>23368342
>complain about male subs
>male subs still want to know more about me
sounds right.
Maybe you guys aren't having luck with femdoms because of your age (or the age you're looking for).
Anyone who knows me longer than a day can tell I'm a naturally dominant type of person, yet I spent most of my life engaged in the submissive side of things. I think it's because I was insecure, and subbing frees you from rejection. But as I moved further through my life and career, my natural dominance emerged. It took time, though.
I think career/experience has a lot to do with a woman's capacity to be dominant. Once I became a nurse, I got my first taste of power (try holding a dude's dick in one hand and a foot of lubed up plastic tubing in the other, or gently but firmly directing someone to pull down their pants, lean forward, and put their elbows on the table). Now, I'm getting ready for law school, and that's a different level of mindfuck. I can't wait to wear a blazer/pencil skirt and just fuck someone's world up.
I'm pushing 30 and only recently developed a real taste for it; 21-year old me could never wrap her mind around the idea. Just give it time.
Oh, and 95% of guys don't want dominance, they want theatrics. They expect to be spanked by someone in a corset and high-heeled boots and yell "mistress", which is why femdoms don't often self-advertise openly. It's better to stay in small, tight-knit circles of friends/fuck buddies.
>>23368402
You asked why, I was just giving you a most likely answer. Even if you say you're a full lesbian, there'll be guys who think they can turn you straight on here.
>>23368409
>>Oh, and 95% of guys don't want dominance, they want theatrics. They expect to be spanked by someone in a corset and high-heeled boots and yell "mistress", which is why femdoms don't often self-advertise openly. It's better to stay in small, tight-knit circles of friends/fuck buddies.
Its not my fault i love musicals, gawd.
>>23368402
What if she isn't a size queen? Me and my gf have been wanting to try some new stuff, but a big part of the problem is that she's a natural sub, and tends to switch to following my lead every time we try sub/dom switching.
Any advice? Like, anything I can do on my end to be a better sub?
>>23368457
Maybe try doing everything she tells you to? probably be a good start lad
>>23368409
How do you find partners?
>>23368457
Two things that helped me get comfortable in the beginning were blindfolds on my sub and playing a role I was comfortable with. However, I was in a position of authority in my day to day life, so channeling that was easy. I don't know your girlfriend. If she's not into it, you can't really force it.
What helped the best honestly was participating with another couple who were deep into the lifestyle. Much easier to learn when you're doing hands on training. A lot of times, couples will only work with other couples, not with single men.
>>23368409
I'm a 20 year old male sub. I'm basically screwed, right?
>>23368517
Huh, I'll see if she'd be into that. Thanks for the tip.
>>23368512
Back in the day, it was alt.com or one of the now defunct yahoo groups or online communities. Also depends on geography. In large cities or anywhere with a large segment of older people (stay married long enough and you'll get kinky to keep it interesting, so Florida has a huge kinky community that absorbs young people). Alt.com is still around, but I don't know how active it still is. Unfortunately, being a guy on your own makes it really hard to break in to. Couples or girls have no problem. But once you find someone, a lot of it is done by word of mouth/social networking (not social networking sites, but actual networking where people recommend/connect you to others).
>>23368530
If you're a male sub with no ties to anyone in the kink community, then yeah, it's hard to get anywhere without paying or going with a male or tranny dom. But hey, might as well pay and see if you genuinely like it. Ladies who really enjoy it sometimes make a living off it, not because they don't value you, but because it's nice to devote all your time to it.
>>23368572
Yep, I've literally no clue how to find those things. I'm woefully naive, and am primarily interested in an actual relationship with a domme. Sex is just a... weird thing for me.
>>23368620
Sorry, man. People assume men are just empty-headed horndogs who give zero fucks, which is truly unfair. There is so much stigma and shame surrounding NOT wanting to conform to the ho-hum traditional sex roles. Again, I'd try alt.com. Be open-minded. Honestly, a few sessions even with a male or tranny could be helpful to you. It could make you more comfortable with the whole thing and give you a better sense of what you want. Just because it's sex doesn't mean it's meaningless, and just because it's a dude or tranny doesn't mean you can't still find comfort and satisfaction in it. If you don't want someone sticking their cock in you, say so. It's totally normal to have a dom not put ANY of their own parts inside you and stick with toys/whatever you're comfortable with.
>>23368415
I'm getting flash backs of all those male doms who always message me trying to dom me.
>>23368457
Then give up on getting full insertion if you've got a massive dick? I mean a god dom will still make do, I'd just insult you about your penis size, saying that even with such a huge masculine dick you're still a useless pathetic sub and even more of a waste of a male specimen because you can't even be alpha. There's ways around everything if you're creative enough.
>she's a natural sub
thats your problem. You can't make someone naturally submissive into someone dominant. If you want to try to be "a better sub" take away any kind of control you have access too, that way she CANT follow your lead, because you're not able to give any direction.
Full restraints and a gag ball.
>>23368530
if you're looking for someone your own age, then yes.
>>23368129
Nah, no issue. Although it is presumptuous of you to assume you'd be putting your dick your dom. For me, that would be a rare reward and treat you'd have to earn.
A large cock just means more surface area to torture. It's fine, seriously.
>>23368662
As a 22-year-old guy, alt.com is absolute horseshit for my area, and its a huge bummer.
>>23369275
>>23368662
>have to pay for premium to see a nearby user's profile
Jesus wept, fuck this.
I am a 24yo black male and all I want is a white woman to tie me down and use me for her pleasure.
>>23369342
Hadn't heard of alt, signed up like 30 minutes ago.
deleted my account as soon as I saw I couldnt message people or even see their profile. what the fuck. How do archaic sites like this still survive?
>>23369418
Yep, I made a tenminutemail throwaway just a few minutes ago and did the same damn thing as you. I'll just keep being lonely, fuck this.
Why don't any of you use fetlife? Is it shit?
>>23369471
I do use fetlife, I love it. I'm lucky my local scene is so cool. Shame its all old people or straight female subs. My munchie group (And every other group, actually) is run by a fucking kick ass older femdom, I love her. She's a total amazonian.
>>23369500
>>23369471
I just made a throwaway to check it out, and I'm personally put off by the site layout. It's impossible to search for users by area/gender/interests.
>>23369618
>It's impossible to search for users by area/gender/interests
Yep, they do that on purpose. Fetlife is more like facebook, you're supposed to add people you know; they don't want it to turn into a dating/hook up site. Fetlife's main use is to connect with your local scene, you search for groups in your area, which post events that you attend, meet people through and make connections that way.
I actually prefer this, as there are some incredibly dodgy BDSM players out there and I know the group has everyone's best interest and safety at heart, they're quick to kick out troublesome users.
HOWEVER, I know there are some extensions you can download that let you search for people via their details, but this can get you banned on fetlife. Just check out some local groups and look through the members list.
>>23369618
It's because it's not a sex site you're supposed to just find people in your area and then go get the hook ups done irl
>>23369693
>>23369654
Ohhh god, here we go. Turning my throwaway into something actual. Let's see how long I can stick it out before dashing away with my tail between my legs.
So many comments about how men can't be proper subs, so I'm a little intimidated about posting...
I mean, I understand being motivated by physical urges, but the aftercare should be something looked for as well. I know I would feel a lot more comfortable if I knew that a domme was going to hold me and rub my back or pat my head after a scene.
Then again, I'm kind of the clingy sort of guy, even with my friends. Yay for insecurity and crushing self doubt.
Male sub, if I didn't make that clear. Prefer gentle dommes...
>>23370450
>I mean, I understand being motivated by physical urges, but the aftercare should be something looked for as well. I know I would feel a lot more comfortable if I knew that a domme was going to hold me and rub my back or pat my head after a scene.
>>23369471
I actually just started using it to find groups in my area and it's going well. I went to a few munches and happy hours and while there were a ton of older people, they actually introduced me to a lot of the younger crowd. I met a girl the other night who is a dom and I'm hoping that can turn into something. I guess we'll see.
Since I'm still looking:
23 M, DC metro area
kik: DCsub
>>23364792
I feel your pain.
I live here too.
>>23368122
You should visit the gentle femdom threads on /d/ Maybe you can find someone there.
It's hard to find femdoms that like traps.
>>23361086
i just wanna be bound to a bed and have a girl ride, sratch, bite and choke me...feels bad.
>>23371192
They're pretty opposed to sharing contact info in those threads. You pretty much just get a single serving of discussion.
>>23371634
Nah, you can post your contact info there if you want. There are also the maps where you can upload yourself.
>>23370122
Good luck! It won't work for me, because I don't really care about finding my local scene or want to know/be friends with other kinky people. The ones I have met have been weird and I'm just not interested
>>23371309
This sounds like everything I want to do
>>23361153
Relationships work best with one partner being dominant. Women are naturally more submissive, which by default puts the responsibility to be dominant to the male. And because dominant females are so rare, male subs are forced to live their submission vicariously through being dominant.
Also why don't you like women fucking you in the ass? Are you a faggot or something?
>>23371900
>This sounds like everything I want to do
i knooow right? it's hot.
but kinda hard to find girls that "use" you in that way for their own pleasure.
Would a femdom consider a malesub as romantic partner? How is it like dating a femdomme? Are wimpiness and weakness considered attractive characteristics?
>>23363035
Everyone has a limit.
>>23367968
So they are submissive only by body? I feel it's not a sub's place to be thinking about what he wants.
is it weird to be a female virgin who is into/wants to be a femdom? I'm not trying to become the top domme in an underground sex dungeon or anything like that but I've had a bunch of people say this to me and I feel like it's shaken my confidence. I know the best way to become comfortable/more experienced is to try stuff like this out with a boyfriend or something but now I feel like there's an expectation from people of what they want a femdom to be (a divine bitch basically) and I'm just not really at that point, so now I'm worried of just making a damn fool of myself. I just am excited by the idea of domming men and the idea of being a sub is a bit boring to me.
>>23371192
I used to be involved in gfd threads and desu I came to despise the concept of gfd because all they wanted was normal relationship stuff, but thought they were special and called it gfd.
also Im into hardcore femdom so what would the point of me looking for someone into gfd be?
>>23372438
That's perfectly fine. It sounds like you should find someone who also doesn't have much experience and thus less of an expectation from you.
(pick me pick me)
>>23372438
i guess you just grow into it as you go on. no one is perfect from the beginning, no matter what it is.
>>23372438
well i mean there are like no requirements to be a dom, you just have to try it out and see what your are comfortable/good with. what are you into btw what turns you on about femdom since there is like tons of stuff what you can do. any specific fantasy?
>>23372438
it's just a matter of living and learning. Plus if you do make a damn fool out of yourself you can always exercise the frustration on the sub that you've made a fool out of yourself with.
I'd say as long as you're honest with whoever you are with they won't burden you with expectation and you should be able to learn together/with a more experience sub they may be more understanding than a less experienced sub.
I am a young male willing to become a permanent slave for a mistress, I want to be feminized and forced to take hormones.
>>23372488
I know we shouldn't be kink shaming in these threads but also
>forced to take hormones
you're part of the reason why people don't take the transgender community seriously
>>23368077
This isn't true at all, there's plenty of subs who know they want to live a submissive lifestyle and want it for more reasons than just to get off
>>23367968
I think a lot of it has to do with malesubs thinking that we're just hear to play it the theatrics if it for them, reenact what they've seen in porn but then fall back into a submissive role out of the bedroom, where men can be seen as more domineering forces in and out of the bedroom. It's why I'm very upfront about my intentions, and I won't play with a sub who demands to get off every time we play
>>23361086
Male sub here. I'm straight, but bi-curious. Thinking it'd be great to serve my mistress with her partner. Be forced to clean her of his seed, have her watch me suck him. Generally be subservient to you both.
Alternatively, very happy to be a good subboy for any woman. I have a chastity device too.
UK here, Kik is power_s
>>23372737
>I think a lot of it has to do with malesubs thinking that we're just hear to play it the theatrics if it for them
Yep, thats pretty much it and I blame porn for it.
The biggest thing I struggle with is the fact that every domme has wildly different expectations of their potential sub. Is willing to go on a diatride about how disappointing many subs are but not specify exactly what they're looking for.
Anyway enough ranting. Who are some nice people to follow on twitter/tumblr for their writing? I really like GeekDomme.
>>23372868
>the fact that every domme has wildly different expectations of their potential sub.
shit its almost like they're people who have different wants and desires. who knew.
every dom wants different things, expecting every dom to want the same thing is how people get into this mess in the first place.
>>23372902
way to miss the point of my post about communicating their wants. step it up ladies.
>>23372942
I could say the exact same shit about subs, it's not a dom exclusive thing to be a shitty communicator.
>>23372966
yes but i don't subs complaining about how many irrelevant messages they get and how much time they have wasted when it would be quite simple to specify clearly what you are looking for. i understand that some people like to be surprised, variety is the spice of life and all that but it's quite comical to me how they expect other people to be mind readers as if it some how lowers their stature to express their likes and dislikes.
>>23372982
>>23372942
>>23372868
how many dommes have you had experience with irl lad?
>>23373000
two, this your attempt to undermine me, lad?
> Anyway enough ranting.
>>23373016
Nah, if i wanted to undermine you I'd tell you that you can't spell diatribe and mock you for following femdom related crap on tumblr and twitter.
I don't really get how you can make such a blanket statement after having only been with 2 dommes and communication is a two way street, generally the problem with lack of communication is mutual
>>23364644
Yup, where's my Red Sonja at
>>23372797
Porn is to blame for a lot of bad sex, the best sex I've ever had was with a guy who never watched porn
>>23364678
>Why do strong, driven women who want a relationship with a non-sub man not exist?
why are you posting this in a femdom thread tho
>>23373528
mte and those types of women do exist, they just usually don't like to date whiny babies who complain about women like we're all the same.
>>23373430
You can't lump all porn-watchers in a basket.
>>23373812
Wanna explain to me where I did that? I said that porn is responsible for a lot of bad sex, I didn't say anything about all porn watchers being bad in bed, or even anything as a blanket statement at all, I watch porn myself. I'll be waiting
>>23372464
I think there's a lot of things I'd like to try out but one fantasy in particular I like is imagining I'm a woman (queen?) with a harem of subs that dote on me and let me do whatever I want with them or to them. Cute boys to tease gently, alpha-ish men that I can bloody up, vice versa and inbetween. Perhaps kinda basic. Another one, I love undermining men in positions of power so other fantasies I have relate to that. I'm one of those weirdos that loves nazi uniforms so one that I have is being interrogated by an officer and then gaining control and dominating him instead lol. (Similarly another one I have is being the leader of a unit in the army and establishing my power of one of the subordinates)
>>23373999
actually the first one sounds pretty hot, i mean there are people who like bdsm with monogamy and others with polygamy, but to be honest will be quite hard to try something like that out, especially on your first time.
well since i am from germany the naziuniform one is a bit different for me but i know there are quite a lot of people into them and well they were quite tasteful compared with normal uniforms.
btw you mind if i ask why you are a virgin anyway? are you the shy-type or havent found the right one yet?
>>23373999
heeeey, nother femdom here with a harem fetish! How great would that be?! I've talked to a few subs that would be into that, but theyve all been overseas. Also huge fan of the controlling an older, more powerful guy. shits hot.
Little femboy here c: if there is any girl/woman who wants to take control of me (and can prove that she's not fake) then please message me on kik @ femboycd :)
whats even the point of these threads are there even girls in them
Anyways I'm a 21 year old male sub
All I really want is a loving domme
I'd still want her to spank me or humiliate me because I love being her little slut
But at the end of the day I'd want us to cuddle like equals
Then again I'm more of a switch I really like to be an obedient sub but it's not like I want to be treated like shit
I wil never understand how the heck you guys would like to be subs.
All be it im a Dom (male, dont get your hopes up)
Though sub seems no fun.
whats the appeal
currently locked up on day 3, any gentle femdoms feeling like teasing?
>>23374218
Ask yourself what's the appeal for any girls you dom to be your sub. The feelings aren't exclusive. Different equipment obviously, but male and female subs get very similar feelings from submitting.
>>23374177
>I'm a 21 year old male sub
>Then again I'm more of a switch
make up your mind mate
You sound more lonely than anything else
>>23374218
*albeit
Inb4 you say diamond dozen
The appeal is pretty simple though, I like pain
>>23373999
>being interrogated by an officer and then gaining control and dominating him instead
Fuck yes, that sounds hot. Especially with a proper uniform on.
>>23374257
Lol that lonely part there hits the nail right on the head. Currently getting drunk and stoned by myself to deal with reality
Anyways I say that cause I really enjoy being submissive but there are def times i also want to be treated as an equal. So fine I guess that switch is the incorrect term
>>23374154
cute! I'd love to tickle those feet against your will.
>>23374177
>whats even the point of these threads are there even girls in them
>whats even the point of these threads
>posts info trying to find someone, proving the point
>are there even girls here
>ignores the fact that femdoms have been posting all day and subscribes to the idiocy that only men use 4chan/the internet
>>23374218
why do you like to be dom? Why do the women you dom like to submit? why does anyone like anything?
>>23374293
why would you think that you wouldn't be treated as an equal simply because you're submissive?
>>23374300
Damn dat hostile response
Anyways I didn't really post to prove a point by finding someone I posted cause I'm drunk and bored plus I want a domme irl not over the Internet so this is kind of entertaining.
Also like I said I'm drunk so I didn't really look through the thread so my bad
>>23374324
I guess that's the vibe I get from a lot of the tendon shit I see on the internet
It seems to be all pegging and cuckholding so basically treating your sub like a waste of human space
Which is too bad cause I just want to worship a goddess
I've always found women with dominant, assertive personalities extremely hot but I only become seriously curious about submitting to a woman over the last year or so. I'm really really interested in orgasm control more than anything else. I wish it was not impossible to find a girl online who actually has the personality and the passion to get my obedience and keep me edging for days and doesn't want money (broke-ass semi-NEET here). In person would be a goddamn miracle but even online I've had hardly any luck
Inexperienced sub looking to be dominated. Please. M 18 Kik is kyleformiles.
>>23374353
i think you need to get off the internet bud
>>23374353
Well like we said above, that's the theatrics of it in porn. Cuckolding happens, but if you're not into that find a Domme who isn't into it either? And there's plenty of cuck relationships that don't have anything to do with femdom.
Also I fail to see how pegging is treating someone like a waste of space, it can be about a multitude of things
>>23374111
oh, I imagine nazi uniform fetish must be pretty taboo (that shit is illegal isn't it?) there. yeah I dunno, the black ss uniforms are just awfully sharp looking and I have a big fetish for controlling men in power. the harem one is purely a fantasy, I know it's hard even to orchestrate with experience lol. this is random and sounds weird as fuck, I have no idea what part of Germany you're from but I love lederhosen. the suspenders seem very useful for bdsm-y things. as for your last question, i guess just haven't found the right one, I've yet to find someone else who's into me and I don't want to push it. dating and hookup sites aren't my thing either and I don't place any important on virginity but I want to wait until I'm with someone who knows what they're doing so I can at least have a fun, decent first time.
>>23374133
I love harems haha I have a whole fantasy world in my head.
>>23374280
glad you also feel the same way! too bad all the male uniform fetishists I've seen are only interested in domming.
>>23374613
is your fantasy set in an ancient Rome type setting with everyone wearing long floating toga's and you're reclining on a lounging sofa with a harem of scantly clad guys feed you delicious food and rubbing you down with scented oils???
[spoiler]Hedonism is a valid kink too[/spoiler]
I dunno if too many femanons are around, but I'd love talk some kinks if so! I consider myself extremely submissive and am into the whole range of stuff: pussy worship, cuckolding, small penis humiliation, orgasm denial, etc.
If anybody cool and non-judgy is up for chatting, my Kik is Inchworm03.
I don't know if I'm really into subbing so much as just attracted to confident/educated/intelligent/sexually aggressive women.
I guess I have a kind of submissive/passive personality, but I don't really have any interesting in BDSM, chastity or whatever.
Just attracted to women to like to lead in the bedroom and are in control; not that I would be disinterested in taking control myself.
Always wanted to try pegging, though.
>>23372438
I would prefer to train a virgin girl and teach her how to domme me the way I like.
For example, this picture. I would want her to render my penis completely unusable and when I begged/whined/complained about it, she'd shut me up with her pussy and force me to make her cum.
Even if it is a D/s relationship, like any other relationship, it's still all about pleasing each other after all.
>>23375299
>I would prefer to train a virgin girl and teach her how to domme me the way I like.
>>23375324
I have some very specific fetishes. Teaching a girl who is less experienced how to please me by catering to such so we can mutually benefit from the relationship may be easier than trying to teach a seasoned veteran. A more experienced domme might go with what she has known to work in the past and not take into account what I'm trying to get out of the relationship. (Though an even better domme will take the time to listen, knowing what this is all about). I suppose regardless of experience level, I'm still going to have to teach a girl what I like so you don't have to be some kind of super experienced domme to be the best at it. A total newbie who listens and learns could very well be a better domme than someone who has dominated several men. Make sense?
>>23375461
No, i got that. My own confusion is how I cant even begin to to express how wrong all of that is and what exactly is so wrong with so many male subs.
>>23375477
How wrong all of what is? It's all about communication. What do you perceive as wrong?
>>23375477
Can you try to express how it is wrong?
You don't believe the submissive sets the limits?
>>23375517
>It's all about communication
That isnt even fucking communication! You want to TRAIN a dom in how to please YOU. That is the EXACT opposite of every facet of femdom ever. you are not there to be pleased, you are there to please your dom, you are to serve, obey, worship and adore. In no way shape or form should you EVER try to express any kind of control or position of power over your dom. You are submissive, your role is to submit. What you want isnt to submit, what you want is to dominate from the bottom, you want to power bottom, that isnt submissive in the least. you're seeking your own pleasure and fulfilment over that of your doms. As I've seen it well put on another site
>"You don't want a sincere D/s exchange with an actual person who happens to be female. You want a coin-operated sex worker, an automatic fetish dispensary robot that performs some control charade to the primary benefit of you, the male bottom."
It is literally one of the key components wrong with femdom and why the majority of male subs get treated with such hostility, because you don't actually fucking care about the dom at all, you care about your own desires. if any smart dom read that she'd run the other way and not what an iota to do with you.
Communicating would be sitting down with your dom and talking about your desires and kinks, what you would like out of a relationship and what idea's you would like to incorporate into said relationship. If, and I mean IF, these kinks align with hers which they should because no dom exists to please you and go out of her way to do things for you simply because you want them and they don't arouse her at all, because she's not a fucking vessel for you to live your fetishes through, she's a damn human being who is looking to satisfy her own personal fetishes, she will work them into your scene's/relationship. Thats her damn job as the dom. Not yours.
>>23375517
So do every dom in your area a huge favor and go see a professional dominatrix and stick to that. You can tell all the nasty things you want her to do to you and she'll do them happily.
>>23375529
>You don't believe the submissive sets the limits?
Fucking no, don't get me started on the "the submissive is actually the one in charge!!" bullshit. Both the sub AND dom set the limits, they are both equal in the relationship and any and all times, both have the right to end a scene or say yes/no to what they are comfortable or not comfortable with. A sub as no obligation to fulfil a doms kink, a dom has no obligation to fulfil a subs kink.
>>23375529
The submissive doesn't set the limits, both the Dom and the sub set the limits
These last couple of posts are really highlighting what's wrong with malesubs, and why I'm hesitant when talking to them. Not because you're all like this, but you have some like the ones above who think that they're going to be able to find a Domme to mold into their perfect idea of what a Domme is, I'm not some sex you that's going to alter myself around what you find appealing. You would never find a female sub saying this kind of thing, and if you did its a rare occurrence.
>>23375461
What you want is a paid dominatrix. Why do you guys have such a hard time realizing that women are real people with our own fantasies and desires? We're not here to be what you want.
>>23375701
toy* fucking autocorrect
>>23375299
>I would prefer to train a virgin girl and teach her how to domme me the way I like.
Yeah nah fuck off m8 you don't train me I train you.
But actually though. Not even talking about BDSM stuff but you have no idea how many weirdos I've heard, either to me or just randos talking generally, how they would "prefer" a virgin so they can "teach" them to do things they like in a relationship. That's not how any of this works. You don't coax people into acting the way you want them to. You tell them what you like and what your expectations are if you can't come to an agreement then say bye. Telling them what you want is really fucking different from ~training~ them to be what you want. Quite frankly, the fact that you used the words "train" and "a" and "virgin girl" and "the way I like" altogether in one sentence makes you sound like a flat out creep. I might be a virgin but I'm not an idiot either. I hope I never meet you IRL cause I'd hop in my car and put it in reverse all the way back to my house.
>>23375701
Fucking THANK YOU. I felt like I was taking crazy pills for a second there
>>23375725
Are you Australian or a Kiwi
>>23375744
ANYTIME it's all male entitlement that some malesubs have, these ones and the ones that think that it's humiliating to be dominated by a woman(and some but not all of the ones who think dressing up like a woman is a huge humiliating thing) are the creepy little boys you gotta stay away from
>>23374749
mine isn't set in Ancient Rome but it's funny you say floating togas because I always imagine myself in long flowy dresses or robes and capes. and yes, they'd do all sorts of shit for me like give me massages and when I got bored I'd tell them to fuck each other and I'd sit and watch. we would have awesome kinky group sex and fall asleep in a pig pile together though they would also have their own beds in my amazing mansion or castle. literally would have a throne or a big fancy chair and various boys would be my ottoman/footrest for the day. Everyone would be naked or would have like, whatever slutty clothes men can wear and everyone would have a cute individualized collar with our initials engraved on it. I'd invite my hot domme friends over and they'd bring their harem too and we'd have big fun parties and orgies and shit. there'd be a pool with a waterfall and shit would just be so cash, naked subs everywhere.
>>23375744
Nope but if you are one, HMU to be apart of my harem :^)
>>23375701
>You would never find a female sub saying this kind of thing
It's often what I hear.
Female submissives who write on their profiles and in discussions on how they set the limits on what is done to them, and the worry or horror stories about when dominant men didn't respect those limits.
The dominant isn't in as a vulnerable position as the submissive and often incapable of breaking any limit the dominant has, so while obviously the submissive doesn't hand over a note that says "do x and z, but not y to me" and then ignore what the dominant wants, it isn't as crucial to remind oneself of.
>>23375821
????
Setting limits and having things you don't want to do isn't the same thing, malesubs deserve to have their limits too and to seek out Dommes that they would click with? I'm not saying malesubs need to just be happy with any Domme they find, I'm saying that they shouldn't expect to change a woman to meet their desires
I prefer demanding lady dommes. Doesn't matter if they're wearing a corset or sweats to me. I like being bitten, marked, spit on, cussed. I'm no sissy, I just know what I like. Kik is normedsteel
>>23375821
what the fuck are you even on. Posting on your profile your limits is a good way to communicate said limits to people reading, it is NOTHING like the above situation where the ""sub"" wanted to TRAIN a female dom to do what he wanted.
Okaaaay... if I thought I was intimidated before, now I'm really pushing my limits just to stay part of the conversation.
I don't know why anyone would want to have a "domme" that is trained for a specific sub. Seems like it defeats a lot. I wouldn't want to just have a woman get me off without me working. I want to adore, worship, and not be in charge. I get entirely too much authority at work as it is.
>>23375879
And thats a good attitude to have.
and its good to be intimidated, thats how we like you. scaroused.
>>23367968
:(
Sorry you had such a shit experience.
My girlfriend/domme have great chemistry together, but it seems like a 1:1000000 match
>expect sexy thread but instead it's dumbasses getting told
>>23375866
Understanding how to please each other and what each person wants to get out of the relationship is important. From setting limits to understanding kinks to understanding why said kinks appeal to said person. All of this requires time to learn. If both/all partners involved are not happy with the arrangement then another may be more beneficial. The point I was making is that regardless of experience level, being a virgin or not, you can learn how to do it. I think you badly want someone to fit the mold of an example so you're pushing it. I know myself quite well and what gets me off. It's a matter of finding someone who matches up with me so both/all partners involved are happy and getting off. Odds are I'm not for you. Someone else might be very happy to have a sub who knows what they do and don't want. Ego aside, before a scene, partners negotiate what they want to happen. This means training. This means learning. All involved must learn in order to make the arrangement the most enjoyable possible. It helps to have someone who is open and not jaded in their preconceptions sometimes. No offense to you or anyone else.
>>23375908
*giggle*
I don't really know about scaroused. I'm more intimidated by the general disdain I'm reading directed at male subs. It's not really arousing so much as it makes me want to hide under covers.
>>23375940
Nice try on the redirect from being called on your absolute bullshit.
>>23375908
>scaroused
wew
>>23375839
>????
You were saying you never find female subs saying things like "sub sets the limit", and I was explaining that's what I usually hear.
>I'm saying that they shouldn't expect to change a woman to meet their desires
I think that goes for people in general, even beyond bdsm. Best to find someone who is what you're looking for instead of changing someone into that.
I do think you can learn though. Teach and be taught. I know if I dominate I want to learn what she specifically desires and what her limits are. My first concern then isn't what my limits are.
>>23375940
Except you're not looking for someone who's a perfect match to you
You're looking for what you think is a blank canvass who you can make do things exactly as you want them to
Newsflash: virgins have personal preferences and desires too
>>23376032
You are correct. I have an ideal version of a domme in my head and I would like to teach someone how to be the perfect domme for me. In turn, I would want to learn how to be the perfect sub for said domme. The learning isn't one way. And yes, people are people. The reality is no perfect person exists no matter what you're looking for. Anyone I partner with would need to be taught how to please me and if she isn't willing to learn how to please me then why would I put in the effort to please her? She simply isn't the domme for me if that's the case.
As an example, in the past I was with a girl who enjoyed being fucked by dogs. I have no interest in beastiality but she did. Meanwhile she wasn't super keen on the idea of destroying my penis and making it unusable. But we both taught each other how we could incorporate the others' kinks in a way where we could both be happy.
No such thing as a blank canvas or a perfect person. It's the desire and willingness to learn and try new things. And I find that newbies often have that desire as everything is new to them and they're discovering what they like while veterans might dismiss it as 'not my kink'.
At least the discussion is on topic. All I was trying to do was demonstrate that being a virgin and a domme isn't necessarily a bad thing and in some cases can be a preference.
Being a girl's pet dog is also quite enjoyable. But I don't knot like a regular dog so I should be neutered.
I ordered two plugs for myself, but damn it all, they're taking a month to ship.
They can be here at the earliest 10 days from now.
Sucks :(
>>23374361
Define semi-NEET...
>>23374154
Damn it. Shit like this is going to turn me gay.
How do you keep your legs/ass so smooth?
I rely on my strength for a living and I have nice facial hair, so I'm not sure about hormone altering through food and such.
>>23367257
I don't believe you.
I'd like to though.
I've always really wanted to try a Dom/sub but I've never met someone who is willing to be Dom. It's always sub girls
Anyone else feel like these threads have become really toxic since the turn of the year?
>>23374613
well i dont know if its illegal, but well it has a different taste to it if you are from germany or europe than if you are from the us i guess. but anyways i dont judge. well i am from the south originally so if you are every around go to one of the beerfests because well that actually the only time people really wear those.
actually for the harem thing i kind of have a opposite fantasy(well one of many) of being owned by a girl and get kept chaste and she would invite friends to humiliate me and use me for entertainment.
>>23364644
This! Totally! I don't mind the toys and so on but I believe this is what it comes down to - This is what I'm looking for and I think some people forget about this and just label being a sub as getting a dildo up your ass!
P.S. Any Femdoms out there?
>>23376141
Practically NEET except I work roughly 6 hours/week to keep up the appearance of being employed
>>23361086
PLS JUST PUNCH ME IN THE FACE
Every girl I've been with just want to play it sweet, or get pinned and fucked like a ragdoll. Yeah, I get it, muscular dudes give off a commanding vibe, whatever, that doesn't mean sometimes they dont want to get tied to a chair and violently face fucked.
>>23365485
Oh ho, you still here? Interested uk femdom alert
>>23378044
I am, even if my Id has switched
>>23378051
>>23378044
my kik and skype are both Usedglowstick
Are there any female dommes that approach femdom more playfully? On Fetlife many of are extreme, want to be called Ma'am, and are into humiliation/emasculation. I just want a girl who will make my suck on her toes and nipples and then ride my face while jerking me off.
>>23375770
Aussie reporting in, where do I sign up.
