/vt/atv/ - Virgin Talk/All Things Virgin
Literally just a place for virgins to talk and talk about their virginity.
Possible points of interest, you decide:
>A/S/L
>Pic
>Contact info
>Hobbies/Employment/Education
>Why you think you're still a virgin (physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.)
>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all?
>If/when you think you'll lose it
>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems?
>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
>Do you try to keep it a secret?
>Have you been teased about it lately?
>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
>What do you expect your first time to be like?
>What would you like it to be like?
>Even without any experience, what are your percieved kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
>Anything else you'd like to share?
male, 26, northern germany.
got some social anxiety, some general late bloomer stuff in my bio, in other words wasted a few years with bad decisions. study/work in IT and have relevant interests. not a video-gamer though (not anymore at least). don't have steam or facebook. good-looking face, 1,85 m but sort of builtfat (90kg). what else is there to say? have hard time socializing, but can maintain a long friendship.
want to talk to a girl about this issue, will leave my email or skype if there is interest.
>Friday night
>makes this thread
Hope you like pictures of neckbeards
>>23278299
kid, when you are tired from work after sitting 8 hours at a pc you usually don't want to go partying. stop projecting your own failure or at least what you perceive as failure, while your actual problem might be somewhere else. also beards have been cool for a while now, stop using this ancient meme.
>>23278410
Beard are great
NECKbeard are not .
>>23278426
honestly, if you look at /r/neckbeardthings or whatever the fuck its called, the only difference between what is considered a neckbeard and a full beard is who it belongs to. bei it a fat hacker in a WOA shirt, a built guy in a V-neck or some durka-durka, it is usually not the beard itself that looks bad.
the thread just started and it's already been derailed
>A/S/L
24/M/GA
>Pic
Here you go. Was happy with how it turned out, and AI agreed.
>Contact info
If the right lady asks.
>Hobbies/Employment/Education
Gaming, TTRPGs, Animation, Metal. I work in retail right now, and I have a G.E.D.
>Why you think you're still a virgin (physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.)
Lots of reasons. I live in bumfuck nowhere, have a specific type of girl I'm in to, not interested in casual sex, and am not rich.
>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all?
Just the loneliness, really. Obviously I get frustrated, but I don't want to lower my standards and be disappointed, or worse played.
>If/when you think you'll lose it
I wouldn't make any presumption on that.
>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems?
Not really. It works the other way around.
>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
Nope. Like I said, I have standards.
>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
Most of the ones I know well enough.
>Do you try to keep it a secret?
Not really.
>Have you been teased about it lately?
Not really.
>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
All the time.
>What do you expect your first time to be like?
I don't.
>What would you like it to be like?
A new experience for both me and my partner. It would also be very kinky.
>Even without any experience, what are your percieved kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
Keeping it mysterious, but I like sweet, dominant chubby girls with huge tits and a big ass.
>Anything else you'd like to share?
Not really, but feel free to ask.
>A/S/L
21/m/US
>Pic
Only if somebody really wants to see it.
>Contact info
same as above
>Hobbies/Employment/Education
Lifting, kayaking/canoeing. Work for my family refurbishing houses. Just high school at this point.
>Why you think you're still a virgin (physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.)
No friends. Anxiety issues. Grew up a fat kid in a kinda dysfunctional family. Got bullied at school to the point that I stopped talking to anyone. Gyno.
Now I'm /fit/ and look alright, but i'm socially stunted.
>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all?
Of course, I feel like a fucking leper.
>If/when you think you'll lose it
Don't know
>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems?
Its not the lack of sex, but the lack of any sort of intimacy with another person that eats me up inside.
>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
No, I want it to be in a relationship, with a person I care about.
>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
One acquaintance
>Do you try to keep it a secret?
Yes, not a hard thing to do when you rarely ever speak with anyone.
>Have you been teased about it lately?
no
>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
a few times a week
>What do you expect your first time to be like?
don't know
>What would you like it to be like?
Uhh...loving?
>Even without any experience, what are your percieved kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
...somebody to love me?
>Anything else you'd like to share?
just ask
>A/S/L
31/m/los angeles
>Pic
nah
>Contact info
kik = zsasza email = [email protected]
>Hobbies/Employment/Education
i work i go to school
>Why you think you're still a virgin (physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.)
not outgoing
>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all?
not sure
>If/when you think you'll lose it
no idea
>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems?
sometimes
>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
never
>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
zero
>Do you try to keep it a secret?
of course but not with girls.
>Have you been teased about it lately?
no
>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
nop, watch 4chan with pics off
>What do you expect your first time to be like?
lolol
>What would you like it to be like?
lololol
>Even without any experience, what are your percieved kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
wetness..
>Anything else you'd like to share?
pickmepickme
>tfw virgin with phimosis
It's not drastic, I can retract my foreskin about 80% when flaccid, 60% when erect. I haven't spoken to my doctor about it because I assume I can eventually stretch it so it retracts but should I? Would a girl care that much? 90% of men here are uncut so I'm scared of a circumcision and I'm thinking of losing my V to a hooker anyway. Doesn't cause me any pain and it's pretty clean naturally.
>>23281898
This is just Jewish lobby making its part on insecurity. There's nothing wrong with you. If you keep it clean and there's no infection or obstruction, it's not phymosis, you're just uncut. In any other place in the world, people wouldn't worry about this, it's the natural way and chicks dig it. I'm not a virgin and I had many girlfriends. Don't let this be an issue.
>>23282802
Pretty sure if it's not fully retractable there is a problem with it and it is phimosis. You misunderstood my post too, most men in my country are not circumcised and so getting cut would mark me out. So if I keep it as it is I risk the chance of a woman freaking out and if I get circumcised the same would likely happen because chances are she wouldn't have seen a circumcised cock. The reason I'm cautious of stretching is that I've read the foreskin can get stuck behind the head of the penis.
Today I received my first hand-job, best day of my life.
Would you like to know the whole story or am I not allowed in here anymore?
>A/S/L
20/M/SoCal
>Pic
>Contact info
Repky
>Hobbies/Employment/Education
Student -> Neuroscience BSc
Hobbies -> Programming, Video Games, Skateboarding, Anime watching
>Why you think you're still a virgin (physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.)
Social anxiety, height and bad confidence
>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all?
Eh, it used to bother me, but now I dont really care
>If/when you think you'll lose it
No idea. Maybe I wont?
>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems?
It hurts my self-confidence, thats for sure.
>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
5/10, not quite lonely enough to pay someone yet.
>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
Nobody does. I don't act or look like one obviously
>Do you try to keep it a secret?
Sorta. I don't lie if it comes up, but it never does.
>Have you been teased about it lately?
No
>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
Too often
>What do you expect your first time to be like?
No clue.
>What would you like it to be like?
No clue
>Even without any experience, what are your percieved kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
No clue
>A/S/L
25/M/Ger
>Pic
No
>Contact info
No
>Hobbies/Employment/Education
watching movies, meeting friends, video games, programming / student / masters degree in electrical engineering finished in a few weeks
>Why you think you're still a virgin (physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.)
height: 5'6, shy, getting really nervous when talking to strangers, cant small talk at all, no confidence because of too much rejection
>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all?
sometimes it does sometimes it does not
>If/when you think you'll lose it
never, honestly, dont want to lose it in a meaningless ons
>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems?
makes me even more anxious when talking to girls
>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
I am very desperate but I would not pay for it or wanna lose it in an ons
>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
dunno, maybe some
>Do you try to keep it a secret?
I dont talk about it
>Have you been teased about it lately?
nope
>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
yes, 1-2 week
>What do you expect your first time to be like?
awkward
>What would you like it to be like?
slow and sensual with a virgin girl
>Even without any experience, what are your percieved kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
bdsm and roleplaying / petplaying
>Anything else you'd like to share?
no
>>23279121
>>23283358
you's aren't hideous so you'll probably get laid eventually
>>23284145
Being decent looking but anxious is worse, m8. People assume you have an easy life and sometimes get jealous, while in reality ALL WOMEN WITHOUT EXCEPTION see confidence issues and stuff like having no friends as a complete dealbreaker, regardless of how you look.
>>23284337
You know literally nothing about girls
>>23284337
I feel you bro, same here
>>23284145
Yeah, you're right.
But social anxiety and lack of confidence is worse. I'd rather be 5/10 and confident.
>A/S/L
24/M/UK
>Pic
I'd post 1 on 1 but not in a group too worried
>Contact info
if someones interested then sure, skype and kik
>Hobbies/Employment/Education
Uni finished now in a job
>Why you think you're still a virgin (physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.)
Physically fine no real reason maybe too skinny, emotionally I'm pretty distant but make strong bonds with few friends but they are close like family,mentally issues with anxiety and maybe some slight depression but its mostly just a problem with overthinking things that someone else normally lets go, biggest problem is i'm obsessive with how my actions affect others, so some empathy sacrificial complex, I'm not important so its cool
>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all?
Nah not really used to when younger but I've gotten used to it, rather sort myself out than have someone, wouldnt be fair on them otherwise
>If/when you think you'll lose it
when older say 26 I guess, sorted self out a bit more and maybe something like a ons or some girl at a party whos a friend of a friends mate
>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems?
nah more just a symptom of a bigger thing
>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
nah don't wanna pay but I'd like to date someone rather than have a ons to lose it, lame as that sounds
>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
Maybe one and hes a sort of brother to me so he can relate and junk, hes a good friend
>Do you try to keep it a secret?
of course its personal business and I don't try and share it, but if I was asked by a close friend i might let slip
>Have you been teased about it lately?
maybe a little bit about the idea im innocent
shit part 2 needed gosh darn
>A/S/L
22/m/Ireland
>Pic
nah
>Contact info
If anyone wants it, sure
>Hobbies/Employment/Education
neet atm, looking for work
>Why you think you're still a virgin (physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.)
A combination of looking less than average and not feeling ready
>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all?
Yeah, I feel it distances me from friends that do have sex
>If/when you think you'll lose it
When I feel comfortable enough with myself to let people near me
>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems?
I felt like a lesser person when I was a teenager because of it. Since becoming an adult, there's no real hindrance
>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
Not desperate. Avoiding sex. Wouldn't pay for it
>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
I've only told a few close friends. The rest most likely assume I am
>Do you try to keep it a secret?
No. If someone asks, I've no problem telling the truth. I lied about it while drunk though
>Have you been teased about it lately?
In a playful way, yes
>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
Not videos, but I visit /s/ and /gif/ a couple times a week
>What do you expect your first time to be like?
Disappointing for both of us
>What would you like it to be like?
Within a committed relationship
>Even without any experience, what are your percieved kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
I've got a little thing for asians
>Anything else you'd like to share?
Nothing I can think of atm
>>23284490
>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
very rarely I prefer images or mostly stories, maybe a few times a week or none at all depends on mood
>What do you expect your first time to be like?
nervous heartbeating like mad making sure I can make her enjoy herself and trying not to go off soon, like to at least get her off rather than myself
>What would you like it to be like?
a bit scary but happy, like she would actually want to be with me and not as a favour or as a fetish, ideally in my head its mostly warming up, giving oral, getting her off then me then her again
>Even without any experience, what are your percieved kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
a bit all over the place, I'm a switch so its mixed but I'm into stuff like edging or doing whats asked even if its domming, spanking is hit too desu
>Anything else you'd like to share?
not really if anyone is curious please ask away, I'm a skinnyish pale semi neet but not really
I want to find a Christian wife who's also a virgin and then have sex. It came to me in an intense trip and I've been avoiding hook up websites since then and turning down party chicks when I go out for fun. It's all I can think about, literally seemed like the best thing this life has to offer.
>A/S/L
20/f/US
(before you read F and roll your eyes hear me out)
>Hobbies/Employment/Education
In college, unemployed, next to no interests. All I do is watch tv and shit my life is so bland but nothing interests me.
>Why you think you're still a virgin
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vaginismus
I'm literally too tight to penetrate, and no kind of treatment has ever worked. Can't use a tampon, cant even be fingered. Nothing goes in.
To add insult to injury, I'm also paired up with an extremely stupid over sensitive clit, which usually results in pain rather than pleasure, so even that doesn't work. My whole vag is basically defective.
>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all?
Extremely. Not many people wanna date me for this reason, because most guys want to have sex with their girlfriends eventually, which I understand completely. Also the extreme sexual tension of being a sexual being and wanting to have sex and experiencing that kind of pleasure but never being able to in any way shape or form is rather maddening.
>If/when you think you'll lose it
obviously I can't and never will. I will die a virgin.
>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems?
My ultimate dream/life goal of having someone love me and spend their life with me.
You know, basically just my whole meaning of life and reason for existing is being hindered by this.
>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
Wouldn't do any good even if I were.
>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
Pretty much all of them.
>Do you try to keep it a secret?
I just don't talk about it, but I wouldn't say I'm hiding it either.
>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
every so often, it always ends in disappointment and frustration.
>>23277873
Meh I'm bored
>A/S/L
female/Canada
>Hobbies/Employment/Education
browse 4chan all day, binge watch tv shows, movies, read, draw, tennis, badminton, still in school
>Why you think you're still a virgin (physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.)
Social withdrawal, the underlying cause being family issues. I'm quite reclusive.
When the opportunity to have sex has arisen in the past, it's never been the sort of guy I'd give in to. Needs to be someone I have a stong connection with.
>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all?
Not really, just feel kind of lonely sometimes
>If/when you think you'll lose it
I don't know, could be soon if I decide to give up on my quest for a good connection.
>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems?
I guess it's just the intimacy
>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
Nope
>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
About 5 of them
>Do you try to keep it a secret?
Not really, I'd be open to admitting if someone asked.
>Have you been teased about it lately?
A little by some slutty girls
>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
Usually twice a day.. haha
>What do you expect your first time to be like?
Loving, sensual, vanilla for first time
>What would you like it to be like?
^
>Even without any experience, what are your percieved kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
For porn I like beastiality, rape, molestation, bondage, edging to orgasm, tentacle and other hantai
I'd be into being lovingly dominated, not a fuckslave, just getting put in my place. Crawling on all fours nude towards my fully dressed boyfriend and he makes me give him a blowjob, makes me swallow. Also being hoisted over him knee with skirt pulled up and given a forceful spanking with his hand.
>Anything else you'd like to share?
I'd be happy to if anyone has questions
>>23284721
>What do you expect your first time to be like?
If by some miracle it does happen, probably with extreme pain and discomfort, but relief that I can actually do it to make my boyfriend happy and want to stay with me. I'd bare through the pain though and just wait for it to be over.
>What would you like it to be like?
Normal. Like any other girl would experience. Where I'd actually feel pleasure and all my parts actually worked.
>Even without any experience, what are your percieved kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
being dominated is the only real kink/fetish I think I have. The fantasy of it all is nice. Turn ons are neck/ear kisses. I've also enjoyed grinding/dry humping type things. Closest I've ever felt to actual sexual pleasure, I think because there was so much padding between us and nothing was touching me directly.
>Anything else you'd like to share?
Ever since I got the diagnosis I've wished I were dead. I'm too chicken shit to an hero though so I'm just waiting around to die of slow painful loneliness instead.
>>23284721
I think you can get surgery for that?
Would you be willing to let a guy fuck you and just bear the pain for the sake of satisfying him?
Or you can always just suck a lot of dick and take a lot of spankings.
>A/S/L
18 TX
>Pic
>Contact info
Kik: InVelvetDreams
>Why you think you're still a virgin (physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.)
Women hate sub 8/10, socially inept men. They view as a literal scum.
>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all?
All the time
>If/when you think you'll lose it
Never
>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems?
Yes
>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
It doesn't mean anything if you have to pay for it
>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
Everyone
>Do you try to keep it a secret?
No
>Have you been teased about it lately?
No
>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
Almost daily
>What do you expect your first time to be like?
I won't have it
>What would you like it to be like?
Anything the doesn't involve another man or my butt
>Even without any experience, what are your percieved kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
Someone desiring me as much as I desire them
>Anything else you'd like to share?
JUST
>>23284775
Bro at this point it's obvious you're trolling. Like really? Everyone knows you're a virgin? You're full of shit.
>>23284775
You're a pretty good looking guy. Most girls would probably give you a rating of 8 or above. Literally all you have to do is talk to some girls.
>>23284721
>>23284762
can you even masturbate or is it sore?
even something like extended foreplay doesnt help in the slightest?
>>23284743
>I'd be into being lovingly dominated, not a fuckslave, just getting put in my place. Crawling on all fours nude towards my fully dressed boyfriend and he makes me give him a blowjob, makes me swallow. Also being hoisted over him knee with skirt pulled up and given a forceful spanking with his hand.
100% what I would like to do if I had a gf who is kinky :)
>>23284807
Anyone I come into contact with on a regular basis knows.
>>23284812
Literally not true.
>>23284836
How? Do you tell them you're a virgin? You don't look like a virgin, so the only way they could possibly know is if you told them. People in rate threads have given you 9s and 10s. You're a pretty good looking guy. If you just talked to some girls, you'd be able to get laid pretty quickly.
>>23284847
>People in rate threads have given you 9s and 10s
Literally where?
>A/S/L
23,F,Japan
>Pic
>Contact info
If anyone's interested to talk.
>Hobbies/Employment/Education
Sports, Food and Currently a student.
>Why you think you're still a virgin (physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.)
Too calculative about risks, don't want to feel physical pain and bleed everywhere in a place I'm not comfortable with. Maybe I just don't think I can handle being in that istuation with another person for too long either.
>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all?
Sometimes I don't know if I value virginity or not.
>If/when you think you'll lose it
Eventually I will, maybe it'll be with someone who I do not care for.
>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems?
When dating most would steer clear. Maybe I will get too attached and clingy?
>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
Nah
>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
Most of them do, it's common to be a virgin even after 18
>Do you try to keep it a secret?
Don't really care.
>Have you been teased about it lately?
Nope.
>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
Yeah, few times weekly.
>What do you expect your first time to be like?
Not too painful to the extent where I'd be uncomfortable walking the next day.
>What would you like it to be like?
Preferably with someone I can trust enough to have common sense.
>Even without any experience, what are your percieved kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
Roleswitching things
>Anything else you'd like to share?
I don't think so.
>>23284855
In one of the rate threads you've posted in, or maybe it was in one of the threads you made, I don't remember.
>>23284889
That never happened my man.
>>23284857
Even without any experience, what are your percieved kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
>Roleswitching things
ayy good taste
>>23284771
If there is one I'd consider it. Problem is that it's mostly seen as a mental thing. Like my body wouldn't do this if my brain would stop freaking out. But I can't stop it, I don't feel like I'm freaking out or anything. Hell I almost had sex once and was completely in the mood, felt safe, everything was going fine just as soon as his dick touched the outside of my vag I just clamped up tighter than anything. Don't know why. After a while he went soft and we just gave up trying. Thats as close to sex as I've ever gotten
I would gladly suffer through the pain for someone who loved me, but its like, you can't even get in there in the first place. It's so tight you cant even get in there no matter how badly you wanted to. Its almost as if there's never a hole there to begin with, just a solid wall.
I've given a blow job before, and I'd gladly give as many as it took to keep a guy with me but I just think 99% of guys who aren't completely asexual are going to want the real thing eventually. And I just can't seem to provide that.
>>23284820
On rare occasion if I'm doing something just right, though I still have yet to pinpoint exactly what that magical situation is, I experience some pleasure during masturbation clitorally. Only thing I do have for that formula is I have to be clothed. Nothing can touch my clit directly, otherwise its just like that kinda pain when you're rubbed raw. Despite the amount of time I've been going at it.
Like I said, best experience I ever had was grinding on an ex back in high school. Being with another human being helps, so foreplay is definitely mandatory but I have never had an orgasm. By myself I've got about a 15-20% chance of actually having some amount of a good time with it, but its always anticlimatic.
>>23284913
goddamn that must be just pure suffering
like everytime you get turned on must be a nightmare
I guess the best help is buildup and not teasing directly, maybe just the outside over clothes or panties.
try something like nipple play or someone kissing your neck, nibbling a earlobe or something.
>>23284900
It's super common, but also superr funnn ayyy!
>>23284834
Yeah (*^.^*) Makes me wet thinking about it
>>23284721
>>23284762
Oh anon :( I'm sorry to hear about you're situation, hopefully you find someone who will accept and love you.
>A/S/L
20/m/aus
>Pic
K
>Contact info
if you want
>Hobbies/Employment/Education
3rd year science student
>Why you think you're still a virgin (physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.)
socially inept and not good looks
>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all?
Yes
>If/when you think you'll lose it
Dunno
>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems?
Sometimes
>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
Not atm
>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
Probably all of them, just by looking at me
>Do you try to keep it a secret?
Yes but there is no point
>Have you been teased about it lately?
No
>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
Every second day
>What do you expect your first time to be like?
Nerveracking
>What would you like it to be like?
Good
>Even without any experience, what are your percieved kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
latex, mostly other vanilla stuff, light femdom
>Anything else you'd like to share?
No
Another Saturday shitposting
>>23284955
Checked.
I'm starting to enjoy seeing your face.
This is a problem.
Stop posting so often.
>>23284913
Maybe this is messed up but I'm kinda turned on by this, like I'm kind of into domming (omg spanking) so the idea of penetration hurting a girl, making you cry is hot af.
>>23284943
its so so so so so not super common, but is super fun so yay back
>>23284955
how the hell has no-one wanted your penis in them?
>>23284929
It is. Thankfully my sex drive is about as broken as everything else. I'm either horny all the time or don't even remember sex is a thing for long periods of time. It's night and day, I just don't know what flips the switch, though at least for the most part my sex drive is rather nonexistent. Just every now and then I get put in the mood and for the next week or so is just pent up sexual frustration hell until it dies down and I forget why I was even upset. You can probably guess where I'm at in this cycle right now.
unfortunately its like one of those unfulfillable loops. "I can't get laid until I have a long term partner to help me work through this, but I can't get a long term partner because no guy wants a chick he can't bang, but I can't get laid until I have a long term partner to help me through this, etc, etc, etc."
>>23284975
I wish I could be into pain, but I'm also a huge wimp. Even though my life is nothing but pain.
>>23284990 it isn't? I always assumed it was...
I don't know which one I like more though, being sub then taking lead and being more dom or having my domincea taken away from me. Eitherway I try things online and away from real people and real physical stuff.
>>23284913
Shit man, that's terrible. I hope you find someone.
> I just think 99% of guys who aren't completely asexual are going to want the real thing eventually.
I know that there are people out there who are ok with this, so don't give up hope
>>23285003
ah the old cant get a job need experience, need experience cant get a job.
maybe look into a light fwb situation then I guess, or explain upfront to the guy but be very clear, alot of guys would struggle desu but there might be the odd one more understanding.
sorry you are stuck in horny mode now femanon
>>23285012
onlines the only experience I really have too , but id say switch is more me than a sub, something like making the other person happy I like either doing what she asks and being dommed or her telling me what she wants and I dom her for it.
kinks are weird
>>23285003
I feel really sorry for you. You realls seem like a nice girl that is worth to wait for the right moment. Since being a 25yo virging I wouldnt mind to wait for that, waited so long anyways. I hope you will find a good guy who will help you getting comfortable and doing things slow as you need it.
>>23285012
you seem really nice, you are into the things that I would really like to do >.<
>>23284721
you'll find someone who understands your issues and is willing to deal. After all, relationships aren't just about sex.
>>23285003
Be strong anon : // pain is a terrible mental block but man do you have it tough..
Did you try using toys and all to help relax and train? Or is the pain way too much?
>>23285024
Maybe that's the switch sorta mentality. I only do it because it'll intensify the experience for the person I'm with. I feel like I've won the lottery when partner/online person looks like they're having more fun after I change the roles.
>women think they can give blow jobs and still be considered virgins
>>23285047
> I feel like I've won the lottery when partner/online person looks like they're having more fun after I change the roles.
can relate to that but making the person happy makes me happy so its like a feedback loop at times, hard to find girls that are into taking the lead or being more proactive .
can be a headfryer at times, if they starfish its makes me wanna die inside
>>23285078
Starfish?
I think because of the cultural setting here or where I'm from too, I sometimes come off as too direct. Or maybe the think I'm all dom.
>>23285098
basically a girl just laying there doing nothing and expecting you to do all of the work, its mostly very pretty girls that are like this.
its a nightmare, its not meant to be a trial its meant to be fun between two people not work.
Maybe too direct idk dont knw where your from so cant tell but a girl being direct can be seen as a dom in someway, I think the idea of a girl not being a sub isnt too huge.
>>23285119
Studying in Japan, from another part of Asia which has similar values. Girls are definitely prefered if more sub in nature.
I was assuming it was that but unsure hah, but even when it's online, some guys just sit there and jerk, while I'm the one working with the camera, angles, views and still trying to say sexy things hahahaha it's too much work and I want to give up halfway.
>A/S/L
23/m/tx
>Pic
no lol, im fat and bald
>Contact info
no
>Hobbies/Employment/Education
vidya, delivery driver, highschool
>Why you think you're still a virgin (physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.)
outside of not being employed untilr ecently im fat and have a small dick, i'm bi but don't want to bottom and gays are even bigger size queens than women are soo
>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all?
yeah, i can't talk to people about sex at all. but i don't hang out with nymphos so it doesn't come up much.
>If/when you think you'll lose it
when i find the right person
>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems?
probably but i couldn't really say
>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
i'd prefer losing it with someone who doesn't care about my shortcomings and finds me attractive for them but who knows, i might save up money and get a hooker
>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
just my best friend who is a qt so of course he can't relate, he has dick handed to him on a silver platter
>Do you try to keep it a secret?
i don't bring it up if i can avoid it
>Have you been teased about it lately?
no, i don't bring it up to anyone who isn't cool about it
>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
yes, constantly
>What do you expect your first time to be like?
awkward and uncomfortable unless i find the right person
>What would you like it to be like?
a genuine moment i could look back on and reminiscence on rather than something i cringe about, i have enough of that shit
>Even without any experience, what are your percieved kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
we'd be better off as a species if more people were honest with each other abotu this stuff. i know there are people into people like me but they couldn't be honest about it or else they'd face ridicule.
>Anything else you'd like to share?
no i just need to anonymously vent
>>23285143
yeah well if its japan its defs more expected to be sub.
even the whole asian porn of the girl screaming or crying is just awful to me. two people having fun and you can actually see that between the two is heaps more better.
>>23285143
if I had to do that much work for someone and getting no real feedback back id give up desu, surprise you didnt do that.
Japan must be cool I imagine its super busy with people everywhere and bright at nighttime.
heres quiet windy and a little rainy, more bar and a fire.
>>23285160
Sometimes feedback stops after the initial few minutes, so then it's either be a dick and give them blueballs, or just try and make the best out of it and try not to feel too bored.
I live in a more quiet area of Japan, but it's still really great. Dating in japan hasn't been the best though.
>>23285191
do you switch it up on the fly or is it more like a dom guy you want to sub for him a sub guy you want to dom?
surprised the dating is tough there but cultures are different I guess, lotta work work work.
I'd give em blueballs kek
>>23285218
Most guys will ask if I'm a virgin, and I don't feel a need to avoid the question or lie. But most of the time they're not to keen after.
Or you get the kind of people with borderline rapey feels after you tell them that. "Want me to be your firstt caaawwwwkkkkkk?"
I think I'm more of the latter, but in the midst of it if I feel the person giving off vibes I'll switch.
>>23285024
unfortunately my social lifes been downhill since high school. Went to a college none of my friends went to, don't know how to make friends in college. And this whole age group seems so centered around a quick bang and then never talking again than actually socializing/dating.
Whats funny though is when you say that, a light fwb situation, an exact dude comes to mind for me. A guy I knew in high school, a very good friend who loved me (probably the only person who ever actually loved me) whom I turned down because I just wasn't physically attracted to him. Which at the time was important to me, because I was 16 and getting to that age where I started wanting to have sex, but I loved that kid in every other way. He was real sweet and well, like I said he's the only guy I ever actually genuinely felt the love from.
He's long since been over me, but we're still friends and keep in touch. When I think about it, if I were to trust someone who I wasn't necessarily dating with that job of trying to take my virginity, it'd be him. But he's in the military now, hopping around all over Europe currently, and I think he's been in a long term serious relationship for a while now.
Lately I wonder if I just would have dated him and fucked him, even if I wasn't really physically attracted to him at all, if I'd be having this problem now.
>>23285041
I do too, but it probably wont be until my late 20's-30s when everyones having that "Shit I should be settling down and not fucking a new person every night, I'm getting too old for this" crisis. Right now everyone in their early 20's is just like "I don't wanna be tied down, I just wanna fuck someone and be done with them in the morning"
>>23285047
I have a couple vibrators, though none of them are really internal. But its all just too intense. even the lightest touches just seem to be too much. And even the lowest vibration on a half dead battery seem to be too much for my clit :/
>>23285254
ah i see basically two extremes but with maybe a rare nice find from time to time, seems tough.
>>23285257
try not and beat yourself up to much over that regret, i guess maybe try and make a friend and explain the situation overtime or maybe try with a guy you already know in some way, like a friend of a friend etc.
its gonna be tough but you could find a guy to stick round im willing to bet, plus the idea of building it up and working with a person overtime to achieve this seems nice in a sense, no offense.
would be just a nice happy feelin you managed to help someone thats a fwb or more etc
as a guy it seems a bit insane you've never had one when we can crank them out like 4 a day, even 12 or more if you wanna be raw and crzazy sore.
must be suffering, in a fucked up way its nice to tease about that as well
>>23284857
I mean, I'm headed to Japan in August if you'd like to hang out. I'm a pretty gentle guy as a side effect of being fairly large.
>>23285291
Well you wrote that people make it a fetish, it's pretty much just that...
Anyways want to exchange contact info? Would like to talk more
>>23285257
But do you only get off with clit stimulation? You did mention having fun with the heavy padding. I think my libido would drive me mad, or I'd venture into more anal stimulation. As always, mental hugs for being strong.
>>23285306
I'm leaving Japan in late August so maybe we wouldnlt actually get to hang out. Would you still want to exchange contact info?
>>23285348
sure If you like, whats handy skype or kik?
even have a steam
>>23285357
I mean sure, wth. I probably wouldn't even get there until September. I'm getting a month off interim, but I'll be in Washington for most of that.
>>23285348
yeah only clit. Like, wow this is kinda embarassing to describe but, in this situation we were making out completely clothed and I was straddling him and we were just grinding and he would like thrust up into me.
That was the closest I've ever felt to cumming. I think it was a large part just mental stimulation, but there was still soft grinding into my clit between all the layers of clothes. It was gentle enough to feel good, that's my best guess. That time felt pretty damn good, which kinda made the rest of my life worse in a way. Knowing that kind of feeling existed but never being able to achieve it again. I almost wish I could have stayed in blissful ignorance.
Dry humping just seems so idk immature and awkward though. Like I'm embarrassed to admit I like it.
>>23285400
I've just realised as well that say you manage to recreate it or actually get someone to get off and finally have a orgasm.
It doesnt mean your vagina is now magically open and the problem is gone forever, but that amount of effort has to be reproduced each time simply to get off.
you choose a good pic for suffering, don't know how I could handle it if it was me taking hours and hours to jerk off and even then not being able to for years.
>>23284913
Have you heard of this story before?
Once upon a time there was a virgin who was going to have sex for the first time. He went to buy condoms, and didn't know which ones to buy.
Because he was nervous about how long he would last, he bought the extended pleasure condoms so he would last long enough for the girl to cum.
So, he brings the girl back to his bed, puts on the condom, and starts fucking her.
But he cums shortly after entering her, and she doesn't feel anything.
The boy put the condom on backwards, so he rubbed the numbing cream all over her vagina instead.
>>23285384
Skype's good, I don't use kik very often but that's okay too.
>>23285395
What will you be in Japan for?
>>23285400
But dryhumping is really fun, maybe just because we're all virgins. It's kinda like cuddling imo.
And you definitely can feel like that again, may just take a while before you can meet someone to have fun with.
>>23285445
Found a copy of the greentext
http://greentexted.blogspot.com/2013/11/wrong-condom.html
>>23285426
Yeah, that's why I'd prefer to lose it with a long term boyfriend or something than just a fwb or even worse random stranger. I'd hope that at least if I got around that mental block with this person once, it'd be easier to do it again. But who knows knowing my luck it will be like starting over from scratch each time.
Or maybe I'm causing my own disease. Like the stress and anxiety of having this problem is whats keeping it there, and maybe if I do just manage to get it to work once it'll be a massive confidence boost and I'll cure myself. I don't know, thats the shitty thing about these mental problems. Only I can fix it but I don't know how, and theres no step by step instructions someone could give me because everyone's different.
>>23285445
lol I wish that were the problem
>>23285456
Hah no offense but thats kinda the reason I'm embarrassed to admit it, seems like only virgins are into it lol. Maybe it is just the waiting game, but dammit I've been playing this game for years. Combined with the fear that I'm running out of time, since the rest of my friends are getting down into that "potential marriage" phase and well, I'm not going to be any more attractive than I am now in my 20s. I'm in my prime but I'm stuck.
I wanna get on with my life, I want off mr. bones wild ride already lol.
>>23285456
Work, for around two and a half years.
>>23285573
I'm really sorry to hear all this anyways, I do hope you can get the problem sorted, seems more worse than my normal situation of it.
I think the best bet would be a fwb over a bf because its still personal but the guy might still end up being okay with someone else and helping you out at the same time, mentally it could be a issue but I think when you get to know the person and spend time with them and maybe if he doesnt judge you for it that view will ease up less and less.
maybe after a few months of trial and error it could be seen as fun rather than a rush for you to get off you know.
hopefully it works out in the end, I'd say focus on other parts of your body as well to help.
>>23285580
What's your contact info?
>>23285573
I've had exes who liked dry humping too, but maybe that's just them being nice to me. I don't know.. mr bones won't need the rush so don't be too rough on yourself.
>>23285665
Mitchell Alan on Skype. It's the one with the sheep.
>>23285573
To be blunt, if you were the kind of person worth taking those step for, then I would be into it.
Obviously I'm a virgin too, and I'm nearly wizard status so the idea of sex is terrifying. The only girlfriend I ever had I couldn't get and stay hard. I was fantastically self-conscious about my weight (since lost most of the bad stuff) and didn't feel like I deserved her.
Someone who I could have a relationship with, be with physically (cuddling, making out, dryhumping, oral) but without sex sounds fantastic. I won't like though, I would want to be attracted to them, get along with them and just generally be compatible, you know?
>>23285573
I'm saying maybe numbing cream could help you out.
>>23285680
makumaku1212
On mobile so the icons didnt load.
>>23285691
I feel ya. Like I said, I think the problem lies with the age I'm at. Older people like you get it, and are more likely to be willing to take it slow if you really liked someone. It just seems like the average 20 something is too fast paced to even take the time to like someone. If sex isn't on the table within the first couple weeks, then fine theres plenty of other people, ya know?
Ultimately, like I said in my main post, my whole goal and purpose in life, the way I measure success, is to love someone and have them love me back. Pure and simple, sappy and disgusting lol. That's all I want out of life really, everything else I couldn't care less for. But since love and sex do go so hand in hand, I'm really scared this is destroying my whole existence. As far as I'm concerned my life will have had no meaning if I just end up dying alone anyway.
It's been 4 years since I had a real relationship, since I felt a real connection to someone. And I've only recently been able to get a guy to even look at me since then too (although he ended up just wanting a one night stand). So for the most part it's been 4 years since a dude's even shown interest in me. It doesn't make it any better really.
>>23285705
oh i get it. Maybe that might help with the super sensitive clit thing.
>>23285754
Where did you go for college? Try finding a Grad or Professional student.
>>23285807
A very small college, my major is predominantly female too :/ finding men in my future career will be like a needle in a haystack.
>>23285754
The love you take is equal to the love you make, you know? Sappy is the best kind of relationship in private and anyone whose ever been in a real one knows that.
If you're willing, just some simple chatting/contact is cool for now. If nothing comes of it, fine, seems we're both mature enough to keep living out lives.
>>23285827
Why does it have to be a man in your future career?
Why shit where you eat? Branch out woman
>>23285827
go find a friendly lesbian to help you out
>>23285741
Either way, you got the right guy.
>>23277873
>>A/S/L
26/M/Florida
>>Pic
ok pic related
>>Contact info
nah
>>Hobbies/Employment/Education
being out doors. medical. college.
>>Why you think you're still a virgin (physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.)
because im a depressed person and my therapist seems to think i have self worth issues. (im not worthy of somebody loving me etc)
>>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all?
honestly, sometimes it does. I want a family but I'm such a screwball it probably wont ever happen.
>>If/when you think you'll lose it
dont know. hope i do.
>>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems?
never.
>>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
absolutely not. fucking haram.
>>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
anybody that asks me gets a straight answer. it doesnt bother me if other people dont like my answer.
>>Do you try to keep it a secret?
nope.
>>Have you been teased about it lately?
never. well, only on the chins.
>>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
yes. idk. couple times a week?
>>What do you expect your first time to be like?
nothig physically special, but mentally special because it would be with somebody i cared for.
>>What would you like it to be like?
read above
>>Even without any experience, what are your percieved kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
oral. but pretty much willing to try anything.
>>Anything else you'd like to share?
nope. not unless u ask.
>>23285832
Oh it doesn't. I just know theres that whole study of most people meeting their spouse at work thing.
Not likely in my field.
>>23285847
I actually think that would make things worse. I think part of the reason I have this problem is because I was, idk what words properly describe it, kinda sorta maybe molested by a girl in my youth? I've been nearly 100% unattracted to women ever since.
Sexual trauma is a big cause in this disorder. Though I was never penetrated in that experience.
>>23285879
Also, can your major lead into a professional field?
If it can, go to an information session and get to know some of the older students who are there,
>>23285879
>Though I was never penetrated in that experience.
>I was never penetrated
>penetrated
the fuck bro? was it a tarp?
>>23285879
wasnt aware of that happening to you sorry,
If It's any consideration I'd help out if we were friends.
ever tried that just ask a friend and see, it would be someone your comfortable with a maybe a few drinks helps calm nerves all round.
>>23285908
Well I mean that nothing went inside me during that time, she didn't stick anything in me, objects or fingers or anything.
But it was another girl my age who forced me into doing sexual things with her. I didn't want to, it felt wrong, but she threatened me. I was too young to really know anything about sex at the time either, so while I did feel at the time as though something was wrong about it (probably because she made a big deal about me keeping it a secrete), I didn't really comprehend what exactly had happened to me until later. I still don't even know exactly what to call it.
>>23285913
It's fine. Like I really don't think it fucked me up all that badly. There were a couple years after I started to learn what sex really was, but still didn't understand the full logistics of it, that I was really fucked worried about all sorts of dumb unlikely/impossible things. Like for a while I convinced myself I was pregnant, until I was fully explained the process of pregnancy and how that was impossible given what happened to me, and then I was convinced I had AIDS for a while when I learned about that. But around middle/high school it stopped bothering me. I accepted it as a thing that happened. I don't really blame that girl all too much, since I assume the only way a 7 year old girl like her would know about that stuff is if it was being done to her before. Which I assume she had it much worse, and it was probably her really sketchy live in uncle I remember being creeped out by the couple times I went to her house. It wasn't right what she did, but I understand she was 8, and probably didnt fully understand what she was doing herself.
Im ok with the incident now, I've accepted it, I'm ok talking about it. Its just something that happened to me. I don't think I give it any power over me, but perhaps my subconscious differs, and thats whats fueling this vagina lock down. IDK. On the surface though it doesn't bother me much at all.
>>23285982
>whats fueling this vagina lock down
>mfw you're not a guy. oops.
>>23285982
well Im invested enough in your life that you better try and sort out that problem before its too late okay.
even get into edging for gods sake
>>23285879
I believe the spouse at work thing is true, yeah. Basically you meet them in school or work, the two places where people will do 95% of the socializing in their lives.
I'm still around if you want to...lament isn't the word, commiserate our common predicament? One aged virgin (though not inexperienced) to another.
im going to sleep goodnight and goodluck vagina chan
>>23286037
lol oh ok I see your confusion now lmao.
>>23286075
I'll do my best. I'm trying to get out there, but its hard to meet people around here. Online dating has been fruitless thus far as well unfortunately. Everyone's either stupid far away or not my type. But I'm still pluggin along I guess. Like I said before I'm too chicken shit to an hero so I'm just gonna twiddle my thumbs and hope for the best.
>>23286087
Its how my parents met. But yeah the gender ratio is like 3-10 in my field, so its unlikely that I'll be coming in contact with many single men there.
>>23286162
>An hero
You should try becoming a hermit or silent sage or something like that first, then if that falls apart you can cut your losses. Where located?
>A/S/L
25/M/Finland
>Pic
right here
>Contact info
>Hobbies/Employment/Education
Intern at infodesk/office,
>Why you think you're still a virgin (physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.)
Bland looks, don't know how to flirt, can hardly ever come up with anything to say except "Hi how are you?"
>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all?
Occasionally.
>If/when you think you'll lose it
I've gotten rid of the worst anxiety but still doesn't look realistic
>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems?
It's one of the little things that just add up.
>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
Yea, too bad there are no escorts here, or I just don't know where to look.
>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
Few of my coworkers
>Do you try to keep it a secret?
Not really, no-one ever discusses such things with me.
>Have you been teased about it lately?
No and given my temper it's a good thing.
>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
Every other day, been trying to cut it off and just use my imagination instead.
>What do you expect your first time to be like?
Awkward
>What would you like it to be like?
I just want to get it over with
>Even without any experience, what are your percieved kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
One-piece swimsuits, I also like women with authority.
>Anything else you'd like to share?
>A/S/L
>22 /M / USA (ny)
>Pic
>Contact info
>Hobbies/Employment/Education
I work in a liquor warehouse.
>Why you think you're still a virgin (physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.)
Emotionally and mentally. I know that I am not a bad looking guy. I was very close to losing it, was too nervous, felt kind of rushed by her and couldnt get hard, girl told me to put my clothes on and then she stopped responding to my texts a couple days later. Self esteem destroyed.
>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all?
Yes.
>If/when you think you'll lose it
If I find someone who will be patient and give half a shit about my feelings
>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems?
Yeah, but only the intimacy part and with the right person I could get over it.
>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
I would not pay to lose it. Im desperate enough to be talking about it on here. I have no illusions about it, I know this wont get me laid really just venting.
>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
They all must know because I never talk about sex when everyone is talking about it
>Do you try to keep it a secret?
22 year old male virgin is not something you want to be in any social circle.
>Have you been teased about it lately?
No
>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
Not very often. It makes me feel bad about myself but sometimes I indulge and then feel even worse.
>What do you expect your first time to be like?
A disaster
>What would you like it to be like?
I dont care as long as she likes me for my personality and wont hurt me like last time
>Even without any experience, what are your percieved kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
I dont know.
>Anything else you'd like to share?
I work 7 days a week and have no social life and there is no end in sight to this nightmare. At least im not homeless.
>>23277873
18 male northen spain (basque country)
Love pc games. Really like minecraft because it really helps me creatively. Nobody knows tho
Studying graphic design and product development
Phisically I'm ok, see pic, really tall and slim, not really fit tho
Emotionally I fear I may not be ready yet, I've gotten an oportunity but chickened out in the last sec... It may be because I still love a really cute and lovely Irish girl that studied with me, who had to go back to ireland... Don't know what to do with that...
Mentally... Well I'm really awkward when it comes to girls, makes me cringe myself to see how I've acted in the past.
It sometimes bothers me because it seems like it is not really socially accpted
No
Hell no not desperate at all, and I'd need an emotional link with the person I'm loosing it with
Don't know, my close friends and familly i suppose
No
No
Yes, once a day
With a person I have an attachment to, awkward but fun
See avobe
High socks, i know, weird as fuck
Well, about the irish girl... I thought I'd never see her again, but two weeks ago I was having the time of my life at a party.. And i fucking saw her. We catched up and I remembered how i was in love with her to the core. She told me she had to go back to ireland the next day. After we went our own ways, i sepparated from my group, spent ten mins crying over it at a bench, an hour walking to the bus stop and cryed all the way to my destination.
Feels good to take that off my chest.
Opinions or something please?
>>23283358
You're a good looking dude, go out more and eventually a girl will approach you if you don't first.
>>23284721
Less guys mind then you think, I wouldn't.
I honestly knew a girl with the same issue in uni, she had a boyfriend and seemed perfectly happy
>A/S/L
23/M/Uk
>Hobbies/Employment/Education
Graduated, working full time. I draw and play piano as hobbies. Also read and write when I have the time.
>Why you think you're still a virgin
I was very socially awkward as a child. Not to tell my life story but when I was young I was bullied a lot in school and my parents, who are good people, hit me. Took me until I was about 18 to get over being nervous around people. I am now a naturally outgoing and friendly guy, but lost time is lost time and its definitely made me shy around girls I like.
I also have a minor acne problem on my back (which is currently getting sorted) which made me self conscious whenever I was in a potentially sexual situation.
My job doesn't lend itself to meeting new people and I am shy around girls I like. It doesn't help my friends largely like to hang out with each other and not go out. I like to imagine going out for a drink by myself and meeting someone, but who'd really want to talk to guy out drinking by himself?
>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all?
Am I worried I'll die a virgin? No. I'm worried Ill die alone. Its less about sex and more about wanting to be with some one for me, not to get all Disney on you.
>If/when you think you'll lose it
I honestly don't know. I've had opportunities in the past for sex so it might happen eventually but I imagine it might get embarrassing since I'm a virgin.
>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems?
Not really, maybe confidence wise when talking to girls I like.
>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
Nah, don't feel right about that.
>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
Dunno how many have guessed.
>Do you try to keep it a secret?
Yeah, kinda.
>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
Yeah I do, I try to control it though (Dont wanna be "that guy")
>>23288830
>What do you expect your first time to be like?
Honestly, just worried about ended to fast or the girl not enjoying it. I've accepted it'll probably be embarrassing (no one's good the first time) I'm just hoping not too much.
Unless my first time is with another virgin but I dunno how likely that is.
>What would you like it to be like?
Intimate. With someone I liked.
>Even without any experience, what are your percieved kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
I like strong women, emotionally I mean. Umm suppose I'm a bit of a leg guy. That's about it off the top of my head.
>Anything else you'd like to share?
Seeing all these posts makes me feel a little less hopeless that I'll find someone. I feel a little less like a "odd one out"
>>23285741
you still around? is this your skype?
>A/S/L
20/m/swe
>Pic
on demand
>Contact info
meh, will give out if wanted.
>Hobbies/Employment/Education
Got a good job as a consultant, also got a spot at university on hold.
>Why you think you're still a virgin (physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.)
Combination of reasons, but mostly that I don't get to meet a lot of girls. Classes have always been minimum 90% guys and work only has ladies over 40. Also I don't tend to party much.
>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all?
It doesn't really bother me, just feels like I'm missing out on something though.
>If/when you think you'll lose it
Probably when I go back to studying or when I actually meet someone, I'm not exactly a strange guy.
>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems?
Not really, I don't have any problems with confidence or anything like that, but I'm probably not as confident as I could be.
>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
Not desperate enough to change my life or my principles, I can understand doing different things while in a relationship, but I won't become a massive partyhead or anything.
>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
I have a couple of friends (10 or so) that I hang with all the time and they know, my colleges don't know and most people other than them don't know.
>Do you try to keep it a secret?
Not really, it's not something that gets brought up in conversations at all.
>Have you been teased about it lately?
My friends joke about it in good fun, since 3 out of us 10 are virgins (1 girl, 2 guys) and we have been called "blue eyes ultimate virgin".
>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
fucking obviously.
>What do you expect your first time to be like?
dunno.
>What would you like it to be like?
not awkward.
>Even without any experience, what are your percieved kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
submission is the first thing that comes to mind, anal and deepthroat too because
>A/S/L
21/M/NY
>Pic
nah
>Contact info
PvtPrivate on steam, thats all im going to give
>Hobbies/Employment/Education
Vidya and anime(how original)Also like history. Studying at my community college for a "liberal arts degree" this fall I should be going back to a 4 year for a math degree if I can even get back in.
>Why you think you're still a virgin (physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.)
Boring as fuck. Didn't do anything in highschool so I feel like ship has set sail without me. I also went to a local college and then a community college after screwing up so I am living at home witch makes socializing and dating harder. I'm not even sure how "dating" even really works.
>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all?
Not something I think about every day but I does really bother when I do think about it. I feel like im not a real adult or man.
>If/when you think you'll lose it
I don't know hopefully sometime soon.
>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems?
Yes. Makes me feel socially inpent witch probably causes a self fulfilling prophecy.
>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
No
>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
I don't have hardly any friends either, a hang out with my cousin once in a while but thats kind of it. I also don't have a regular job outside of some work in the summer. So I don't have any regular colleagues really.
>Do you try to keep it a secret?
I probably would
>Have you been teased about it lately?
No
>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
Yes,too much
>What do you expect your first time to be like?
Awkward, hopefully drunk/high
>What would you like it to be like?
I'm actually not sure.
>Even without any experience, what are your percieved kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
I like [spoiler]gentle femdom[/spoiler]
>Anything else you'd like to share?
I dunno, anyone want to talk about anything?
>A/S/L
28/m/somewhere
>Pic
>Contact info
-
>Hobbies/Employment/Education
Traveling, cooking, literature, films, music, swimming
Currently looking for jobs while volunteer working in a kitchen for refugees that I co-founded
Magister (Master equivalent) degree in political sciences (major) and modern and contemporary history / social anthropology (minors)
>Why you think you're still a virgin (physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.)
Intense fear of intimacy. It goes far enough for me to not be able to get an erection when in bed with a women.
>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all?
Yes. A lot. Especially when there is a naked woman in my bed and I can't do anything more than make her cum with my hands and mouth
>If/when you think you'll lose it
Went to the doc the other day and got myself some viagra. Now to wait until I get a chance to try them out. At this point I don't want to lose it to some skank, to be honest
>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems?
It certainly doesn't help with self-esteem issues
>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
Never.
>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
Almost none. But my current romantic interest does.
>Do you try to keep it a secret?
Yea...
>Have you been teased about it lately?
No, since no one knows anyway
>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
Daily/every other day/sometimes not for weeks
>What do you expect your first time to be like?
Horrible. I won't know what the fuck to do
>What would you like it to be like?
Intimate. I want to share a moment with someone
>Even without any experience, what are your percieved kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
I know that I'm a light dom (i.e. light bondage, light pain, control/denial etc.)
>Anything else you'd like to share?
Should I wait two more years to check out them wizard powers?
>>23290217
>supporting rapefugees
Do you want to stay a virgin?
>>23278264
I'm with you there brah, i can talk normally with girls, but when it comes to flirting or a more spicy talk i simply don't know what to do or say
>>23283016
Phimosis isn't necessarily even a problem.
If you don't have pain and don't have issues with keeping it clean, then the only issue is cosmetic.
Phimosis is common enough and often benign enough that a fair number of doctors (Such as the late Dr. Fleiss and others too) consider that phimosis that doesn't cause pain or any issues is a variation of normal, not a disorder.
>A/S/L
21/M/USA
>Contact info
doesn't matter, people never contact anyone
>Hobbies/Employment/Education
graduating with a CS degree in 3 months, most of my time is spent in video games, programming assignments and job applications
>Why you think you're still a virgin (physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.)
was incredibly unpopular as a little kid, never developed social skills, now I'm a 21 year old guy with 0 friends and has never had a relationship ever
>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all?
it bothers me most of the time, especially now that my brother is engaged and I can't talk to him, my 1 friend, without his fiancee telling me how funny she thinks it is
>If/when you think you'll lose it
I might never, social skills this bad at my age are pretty much end of the road, I fucked up hard. If I ever get in a relationship now, she's either going to be a gold digger or is going to have to deal with decades of anxiety and mental issues built up from spending 20 hours a day alone talking to myself
>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems?
it usually fucks up my relations and opinions with women, I've seen a particularly cruel side of most women where they like to laugh whenever I get into mental or physical pain
>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
no, I'm not paying anyone, I already feel like a waling wallet
>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
yeah, if they don't already know they can probably guess
>Do you try to keep it a secret?
not really, my family thinks I'm gay though
>Have you been teased about it lately?
all the time when I see my sister-in-law, she's pretty merciless about it when she talks to my brother and her friends
>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
yeah, maybe 2-3 times a day
>What do you expect your first time to be like?
I'd hope something special like young love, but that's probably way behind me
>>23290322
Careful with that edge, you might hurt yourself.
>A/S/L
30/M/Kansas
>Contact info
-3.75 -4.00 (Har har)
>Hobbies/Employment/Education
Internet, Porn, Old games, Music, Guitar
Unemployed
High School
>Why you think you're still a virgin (physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.)
Generally very passive, not a risk taker, enjoy privacy and not spending money, haven't had the balls to fuck a hooker yet.
>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all?
Less recently than it did in the past.
>If/when you think you'll lose it
When I decide to fuck a hooker honestly. If it's not an escort, then whenever I become more independent, financially stable, etc.
>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems?
>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
Of course. Top priority.
>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
Probably most if not all.
>Do you try to keep it a secret?
Not really
>Have you been teased about it lately?
A few months ago
>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
Every day
>What do you expect your first time to be like?
Anticipation overwhelms reality. It will go fast even if it's 15 mins. Honestly, no idea until it happens.
>What would you like it to be like?
>Even without any experience, what are your perceived kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
Pigtails, dark eyes, jewish-like nose, deepthroating, small tits, tight-balloon-knot type asshole, traps/shemales, quiet, submissive, gloryhole, feet
>Anything else you'd like to share?
>A/S/L
23/m/NJ
>Contact info
kik: YM2612
>Hobbies/Employment/Education
videogames/security guard/high school diploma
>Why you think you're still a virgin (physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.)
never been a social person and never had the opportunity to get that close to someone.
>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all?
not so much the virginity, but moreso the lack of companionship.
>If/when you think you'll lose it
if it happens it happens.
>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems?
it doesn't help.
>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
desperate enough to attempt using tinder. wouldn't pay a prostitute.
>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
the ones that matter.
>Do you try to keep it a secret?
if asked I won't lie, but I'm not gonna openly state it for no reason.
>Have you been teased about it lately?
not really.
>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
pretty frequently.
>What do you expect your first time to be like?
no clue.
>What would you like it to be like?
loving and/or passionate, lots of cuddling, little or no talking.
>Even without any experience, what are your percieved kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
just about anything goes.
>Anything else you'd like to share?
can't really think of anything myself, but I'm open to questions.
>A/S/L
28/M/UK
>Hobbies
Video games, reading,
>Employment/Education
University/College Drop out
>Why you think you're still a virgin (physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.)
There's always competition and I'm the loser, when people see me, the last on the list of things people say is "He's fucking sexy, I want to have sex with him."
>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all?
Sometimes.
>If/when you think you'll lose it
Realistically, never.
>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems?
Yes, it feels like I'm not as good at being a human as those more experienced, this has leaked into every other aspect of my life.
>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
No, but I have thought about it.
I just don't like the idea of having sex with somebody who isn't actually attracted to me or having to pay for it.
>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
They just know by looking at me, it's obvious I'm the type of guy who never had sex.
>Do you try to keep it a secret?
Not really, if it comes up I won't deny it though.
>Have you been teased about it lately?
Nope.
>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
Maybe twice a week, I actually hate porn but it's one of the only pleasures in my life, I end up hating myself for fapping so I always tried to lean towards hentai/cartoon stuff.
>What do you expect your first time to be like?
No idea.
>What would you like it to be like?
With an understanding woman who will let me be curious while guiding me into the world of sexuality.
>Even without any experience, what are your percieved kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
Thighs, knees, feet (legs basically), shemales (not traps though, stuff like Shemale Japan), chubby girls, goth/metal girls
>>23288720
Maybe. I certainly hope so.
>>23292200
>bothers me most of the time, especially now that my brother is engaged and I can't talk to him, my 1 friend, without his fiancee telling me how funny she thinks it is
Right in the feels
>>23277873
>A/S/L
22/M/MN, USA
>Pic
without my glasses. apparently, nobody likes them. I might try contacts
>>Contact info
kik is openhat
>Hobbies/Employment/Education
current hobby is weight training. I'm pretty DYEL right now. work in progress. event dependent employment. working on college.
>Why you think you're still a virgin (physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.)
I'm not very social. I don't go out much, and when I do, I just do what I go out to do. Beyond that, I'm not at all good at picking up social cues and I'm probably in a vicious cycle of failure to socialize.
>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all?
Yes, somewhat. I feel like I don't deserve this, but it's ultimately my own failure.
>If/when you think you'll lose it
maybe when I get a place of my own.
>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems?
Not really. It's more the consequence of things, rather than the provoker of any problem that I have.
>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
I've thought about it. I don't really know where to find a person like that.
>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
I imagine some people suspect it strongly. Parents probably for sure.
>Do you try to keep it a secret?
I guess. I don't really broach the subject of sex with people, and they don't do it to me.
>Have you been teased about it lately?
no
>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
videos occasional, stories occasionally, images frequently
>What do you expect your first time to be like?
I'd like it to be at all.
>What would you like it to be like?
enjoyable
>Even without any experience, what are your percieved kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
I have a fetish for a kind of underwear
>Anything else you'd like to share?
honestly wish that I was gay. I probably wouldn't be in this thread right now if I was.
>>23292200
>If I ever get in a relationship now, she's either going to be a gold digger or is going to have to deal with decades of anxiety and mental issues built up from spending 20 hours a day alone talking to myself
that's what it is for me. I'm trying to work on myself, but I know that if I tried to build a relationship with someone, it would ultimately come out how I'm so isolated and how much I'd depend on them to be a social lifeline. I don't think anybody wants to be in that position, and I think it would crush a real relationship.
Not a virgin; just came here to scope out virgin males
>>23283358
I would totally have sex with you. I'm 5'2" and I don't really care about height anyway. You could be 5'2" as well and it'd be just fine.
In general I think a lot of you have misconceptions about women that have been perpetuated by whatever bad experience you've had so far and I wish that wasn't the case :(
>>23296385
I feel like I was lied to. while I was in school, I got along well with girls because I was always taught to treat other people as equals. But that never got me anywhere, not a thing. So the end result is that I have no idea what I did wrong. I never did any whiteknighting m'lady shit and I didn't do anything on the polar opposite end.
It's not really that I'm angry, I'm just confused and sort of hopeless.
Apparently some gay guys think I'm attractive. I wish women did though.
>A/S/L
31/M/Ohio
>Pic
>Contact info
>Hobbies/Employment/Education
Origami, video games, trivia, shitty jokes, reading/retail and restaurant work, something like a shift supervisor at both/Grad school dropout.
>Why you think you're still a virgin (physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.) No idea how relationships worked. No idea that people had sex outside of relationships. Very naive for a long time. I'm about average physically besides my height (5'7").
>Does it bother you sometimes or even at all? Yeah, I wonder if it's too late for me to get into a relationship or even have a one night stand. I'm way behind where I should be.
>If/when you think you'll lose it
No idea, although I've had more attention from girls since I turned 30.
>Do you ever feel like your virginity hinders you or spurs on any of your problems? It does make me apprehensive about starting a relationship, since I don't think any girl is going to want to date a 31 year old virgin.
>How desperate are you?/Would you pay (e.g. hooker/escort) to lose it?
I've considered it but I'm not that desperate yet.
>How many of your peers (friends, co-workers, etc.) know you're a virgin?
None.
>Do you try to keep it a secret?
Yes.
>Have you been teased about it lately?
Nope.
>Do you watch porn? If so, how frequently?
Yes. Once every few days. I work a whole lot so most days I don't have time or the energy.
>What do you expect your first time to be like?
I'll either cum really quickly or not at all.
>What would you like it to be like?
Sensual. Lots of kissing, touching, hugging, cuddling.
>Even without any experience, what are your percieved kinks/turn-ons/fetishes?
Unshaved girls, roleplaying, light bondage.
>Anything else you'd like to share?
I think if I felt like I do today 10 years ago, I'd be a much more successful person.
I haven't had sex in over 4 years I'm 21 m do I count as a virgin? Can virginity come back?
>>23296835
No, motherfucker.
>>23296835
No.
>>23277873
So Im 25 and a virgin and I've realized that for me, sex is not an impossibility and will happen eventually. Sex is not the end goal as I once thought it was. Sex will not fix me.
As a teenager and well into college I was morbidly obese and I thought that I would never have sex. This stemmed from the belief that since my body was gross and disgusting, I didnt deserve to subject a woman to having sex with me, I obviously had some mental hangups. Even realizing this I still feel this way even 200 pounds lighter. My body image has gotten worse, not better. Before I just saw I was fat and that was it. It covered up all the other imperfections the acne, the thick eyebrows, the small penis, the ass hair, the stretch marks. Now that fat is out of the way all these things are now prominent, at least to me. Intellectually, I understand that a lot of what Im seeing is being magnified and someone who wants to have sex with me wont care, but I still feel insecure about it.
This, more than anything, is what worries me. The entire time I, denied myself, hated myself, because I was fat and disgusting. I never went for relationships because I saw it all ending at the same point. Any attraction from women I saw as being only in my head, so I never pursued. Now that Im not fat and disgusting (fat, still, but im still losing) there should be nothing stopping me, but thats not the case. I cant connect romantically with women. My romantic interests only turn into friends. I can't build up attraction and I don't really know what I'm doing wrong. Im sociable and funny, and I'm not awful looking either (passable). At this point Im more worried about never being comfortable with someone intimately and never finding someone who loves me. Even if I never find my soul mate (which I don't think exists) I just want someone to love me romantically. It's being desired, wanted. That's what I crave more than anything. I don't want to live my life thinking I'm unlovable.
>>23296849
Well it sure fkn feels like it.
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