>25
>never had a proper kiss
>never had a handjob/blowjob
>never touched a boob/vagina
>never been drunk
>never been high
>never been on a date
>unemployed
>starting to get fat
>ugly
Why do I suck so bad at life.
>>22791344
Because you're fully aware of the problem but take no action to change your life
did you have a hard major in university?
>>22791353
Bingo.
>>22791361
Didn't go to uni
I was almost exactly the same until this year. Only I'm female. And I had been drunk. Only difference now is that I lost my virginity to a stranger I met online, (massive regret seeing as I met someone I actually care about now) and had a drunk kiss with someone in a club.
Mind you these things only happened because I went to uni and therefore met new people.
You're not ugly. Actually you look like a more attractive version of the douchebag I shared a flat with. He now has an 8/10 gf. Don't let yourself get fat. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. It'll happen for you but you clearly have to do something different in your life for it to change.
>>22791575
should note that I'm not any more happy for these things having happened. They're really not a big deal but I can understand the feeling of having never experienced these normal things.
I read and I thought it was about me. I'm in the same situation, kind of diferent because I'll be 25 next week, never touched a vagina but I sucked a dick, I'm bicurious but I don't like to be that. I would like to be like everyone else to meet girls, but I'm shy with girls and they scary me
you are the only person that can do something for yourself. nobody is going to get off their asses for you
brit,
pls just go
You want the hard truth? Its because you don't fucking care, I've been there before. You wanna see a change? Get some initiative and go fucking do something
:(
fem 25 here. .go shave your face. . post a full body hard cock pic. .
>>22791353
This
You have good features but need to burn off body fat. Do that and you'll get some confidence and will be fine.
I'm 22 and I've won over girls in the past but I've tried really hard to become better and seem attractive to people and nothing really seems to work.
I don't know how to "get a life" because nobody even cares to be around me.
>>22791344
your pretty cute, id fuck you
just get on tinder and get yourself laid
order a pizza and ask the delivery guy if he knows where to get an eighth
and get a job so you can afford to take people on dates and use drugs
good luck
>>22795610
I don't really get any matches desu. I deleted the app.
Get high af and internalize how shitty your life is and that you're the only one who can do something with it. Take matters into your own hands and stop waiting for change to come on it's own.
At least if you have friends, start getting drunk with them.
>>22796284
I dont have any friends lol
damn
>>22791344
>Why do I suck so bad at life.
Is that what you really want to know? Do you want us to shit all over you and confirm your abysmal self esteem? Do you want us to tell you you're not that bad? Or do you actually want to improve your life?
>>22796656
All 3
>>22791344
I know just how you feel
except I have a job, I'm not fat, and I drink myself to death frequently to forget how absolutely useless I am at meeting females
>>22796908
You look like you could do alright with the wimmins, friend.
>>22796910
Of course, people say that at first glance
But I'm anxious, incredibly introverted, have no social skills, don't like the idea of casual sex, live in a place with no girls who like anime and video games, and am sexually submissive
so yeaaah
life sucks basically
>>22791344
You messaged my on snapchat once. You were a creep and a pervert and when I didn't reply you blamed it on how "ugly you are", and made me the bad guy, like I was shallow. You're just an asshat. You don't want to work on being a better, more mentally stable person and you blame that either on everything/everyone around you, or you blame it on being "ugly". I hate how much you whine on soc when you're really just an insecure attention seeking douchbag irl. "Someone fix my problems for me pleaseeeee I'm too lazy and content with being worthless and rude." Brandon is better than you.
>>22796935
Oh boy
>>22796921
welcome to my world
>>22796973
I want to leave
>>22796985
Guess what... You can't.
>>22796985
Everybody here does.
>>22797011
whelp
>>22796935
I don't even use snapchat that much, so I doubt I would have added you..
>>22797076
Uh huh. Well, you did. You were a POS.
>>22797115
POS?
What was your snap name?
>>22791344
Because you allow your simple fears to dominate an otherwise empty life.
Live for yourself not others.
Stop pulling the same bullshit you know won't lead anywhere.
Don't be a pussy.
Man up
Welcome to life.
The end.
-don't like it, suck my fat cock
You care what people think...
TIP: People are pretty shitty.
>>22797746
True.
>>22791344
Where do you live and can we go on a date? I'm being completely serious.
>>22791353
Sorry OP... but this.
Bottom line is you're just too lazy or scared.
Clearly you live at parents house. Don't think, just do. Walk into ten local restaurants and ask to start as a waiter. or send applications for data capturing. or join fucking amway. (don't).
Each step will make you a better version of yourself.
A shit ton of people lose their virginity while drunk.
A Shit Ton.
There might be something in this getting drunk lark.
Dude, you go drink and you'll find pussy, but if you suck at grills, just learn to listen and don't do the creepy shit that turns em off, like telling them all about your virginity and laughing at your non funny quips.
hey another feel bad thread which i can relate to, like the third or fourth one today.
>never going to get a gf club
i think my sanity is slipping. well it was a good run guys. i tried, no luck.
>>22799552
England, you?
>>22799954
Aw, dammit. I'm in the New one.
>>22799957
Aw :) can always chat online if you'd want?
What the fuck have you done for last 13 years exactly? Unless you were abducted or some shit I have 0 doubt it's because you're a repulsive human being this happened.
I find you attractive, OP. I'm a guy but I would give you a hand job if you want.
Or if you wanted some money, I could pay you for things ;)
>>22800762
This is why the internet is bad...
>>22800781
>>22800762
>>22800750
Became a shut-in and become worse and worse overtime. Developed terrible anxiety/depression.
>>22791353
This, you're 25 you can go buy a bottle of liquor and get drunk anytime but you haven't
While we're on the topic of loser general, how do people generally go about meeting new people?
The problem is I am pretty much completely socially isolated right now, I work a very solitary job that doesn't entail talking to co-workers, I have no friends and the only hobby I have that gets me out of the house isn't really a good way to meet people my age.
>>22800829
Tinder is just plain awesome.
Just be nice and sociable and you will meet plenty of women.
>>22800797
>Anxiety/Depression
>Excuses
Cool. 100 years ago you'd have been on The Somme and ask for no more than a cup of tea after. Pull your fucking head in m8.
>>22800833
ehhh
Is there a secret trick to meeting people on? Iv decided to get facebook and start using it but my only match in 5 days of getting it was a spam bot. Do you need to be very attractive? Are there general buzz-words I should be using?
>>22800847
Just be pleasant and ask about their lives, bitches love to talk about themselves.
>>22800847
Oh you mean to get them swiping you?
The info is all bullshit, just the main pic needs to be of you and a cat/puppy. Jeez man, they cant help it, it's like fucking kryptonite.
>>22800844
It's not excuses. I get incredibly ill when put in certain situations. If you've never experienced anxiety, then you can't comment about it. It's the fucking worst feeling.
>>22800911
>911
Kek.
>>22800911
I'm your age and spent my first 6 years in Sarajevo, was a refugee and live humble now. No problem socialising or getting out of the house. Don't be a bitch.
>>22791344
>never been on a date
>never had a proper kiss
>never had a handjob/blowjob
>never touched a boob/vagina
Go out
>never been drunk
>never been high
Make friends, party
>starting to get fat
>ugly
Lift weights, drop to about 10% bf, learn to groom yourself, dress better
>unemployed
Not American but I imagine getting a job at McDonald's isn't that difficult. Nothing big but it's a start
Literally all your problems are fixable
>>22801005
Not OP, but same problem, minus the being fat part. I don't go to the gym or do any sports, really, but I'm in a good shape.
>Go out
How? Where? With whom? What do I wear? How do I act? What do I do? I literally don't know anything about those.
It's true that all his problem's are fixable, but it's not that easy. We're talking about people with life crippling mental illnesses and we're acting like they can change their lives with the flick of a wrist.
I was in OP's position, (kind of. I mean, I was 23 when I got better, so I haven't endured it as long as he has.) and the only reason I got out of it was encouragement and guidance from my instructors and peers in college, and that I had a friend who stuck by me for months afterwards (close to a year) who constantly encouraged me and told me what I needed to hear in order to overcome my self-defeating behaviour. (There were a couple other things at play too, which I'll discuss later.) All in all, that was about three straight years of positive re-enforcement I needed in order to make that change.
Even if you're naturally socially adept, you can still subconsciously sabotage yourself based on the fact you feel like you don't deserve the common things most people have, such as healthy relationships, whether sexual or platonic. As a result, an attempt at changing your life can wind up putting you further down the hole because your brain intentionally fucks you over. You can tell a man to go out and meet people, but you can't tell his brain to stop playing tricks on him.
With all that said, >>22791353 is still right. OP, you can make a difference in your life but you don't. If you're like I was, you suffer from something like learned helplessness.
Here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Learned_helplessness
A lot of people told me I could have changed my habits if I wanted to, but when I saw that the dogs in this study were acting nearly identical to how I was, it really hit home.
I'm not gay, but OP, you look good. You seem to have a healthy weight from your pic, and a large, masculine head with a slick, fair hair color. If you feel socially retarded, you can look up the right guides on the internet to help you out. From there, you'll do fine.
>>22801283
> Even if you're naturally socially adept, you can still subconsciously sabotage yourself based on the fact you feel like you don't deserve the common things most people have, such as healthy relationships, whether sexual or platonic. As a result, an attempt at changing your life can wind up putting you further down the hole because your brain intentionally fucks you over. You can tell a man to go out and meet people, but you can't tell his brain to stop playing tricks on him.
So much truth in this. How can I get out of this? Where do I find people that would help me like the ones that helped you?
>>22801425
That's a great question. Luckily for me, I had a very loyal, extroverted friend from my childhood who I mostly retained because he was close to my brother. When I moved back home and we started hanging out regularly again, (after 6-7 years) he mostly stuck by me and helped me out because I'm one of the few people he sees as loyal, kind and honest. I didn't ask for his help, he just gave it to me. It wasn't PC either. For example, I didn't want to fit in or be like everyone else, but he put pressure on me to do so . (At least in terms of what I wear, I'm still very much an individualist.) Before that, I also tried to get more in touch with my emotional side and become open about everything, which he also fought against.
Essentially, he taught me to disguise myself, which is fine, because that's what everyone else is doing. That disguise is power, really.
Another thing is that, if you go into a college or vocational high school program, it can create sort of a family experience. It took me several months to make friends in college, but had I not been in a closely knit class 6 hours a day, I probably wouldn't have made friends at all.
You might want to consider going into a journalism program, like I did. My program would force me to call people up for interviews, write stories once a week and face constant criticism. (Both positive and negative, mostly as objective as it could be.) That helped me get out of my shell a lot, and when I look at some of the other kids in that course, (so many of them were socially anxious introverts. They were also fucking awesome people who I felt kind of at home with, for once) they became so much more confident and outgoing after only one year.
>>22801425
If that doesn't work out, (maybe you don't have the money or the time or whatever) there are probably some social groups online for socially awkward people and introverts. Search online for what social groups are available in your town. It may make you feel pathetic to feel like you have to join a social group just to make friends, but you have to start somewhere, and people may judge you for it, but who cares? Most people don't know jack shit about what you're going through, or what anyone else they judge is going through for that matter. I find that when you realize how fucking uninformed most people are about their base judgements, it's a lot easier to dismiss their opinions.
>>22802238
I actually do have friends, though. I go to uni, which works out, mostly.
Also, I don't feel like joining some kind of bullshit activity club thing. It might be a destrictive opinion - is it? I just don't feel like changing my entire life just to get some hugs, kisses and hopefully sex.
>>22802265
No, that's fine. If you don't think that'll help, don't bother. You know your situation a hell of a lot better than I do.
I bless da child
was in similar situation to OP then actually started to get better/life improved. fell in love, was on my way to college, felt genuinely happy for the first time in years.
then shit hit the fan and now am back to square one. its not salvageable this time though so I suppose im preparing for the end.
adulthood/life just doesn't work out for some people and you can't erase things from the past. life is fragile. one experience can alter things forever.
I don't want peoples sympathy. At this point, I'd like to just find a quiet corner to slowly wither away in.
>>22801147
Reading some of the other posts I realise I may have been a bit inconsiderate with my advice. I was speaking from a somewhat natural extrovert's perspective so...
First stop to going out is to identify a hobby you have and find a group that shares that hobby. For example, there's a free yoga class at my college campus, all you have to do is show up with a mat and appropriate attire and that's it. If you do decide to go to the gym, you can also make friends there (but be careful to not disturb someone in the middle of their set). Look on the noticeboard at the gym for any social events there may be. Look at noticeboards everywhere you go, for that matter.
Areas to meet new people are
>park
>local college/uni
>a bar/coffee house
>the library
>gym
I'm not sure how to offer any more help after this as I've never given it much thought but, for what it's worth, I believe you'll eventually make it. It may take some getting used to at first but it's important that you take the first step
