No tinder threads.
Also, what the fuck. I've been going about tinder (and okcupid) trying to set up dates by asking girls out for dinner at restaurants. Works alright, but kind of iffy.
All of a sudden I've tried asking "Hey, we should hang out/have dinner at my place ____night if you're free" and most of them are saying yes.
Confused because there are attractive women too, mostly Asian because I'm weird. I thought women didn't want to meet guys at their house for the first meeting?
>>22745050
yeah I usually offer up coffee dates so girls will be comfortable and I don't seem too presumptuous, but maybe girls get sick of that and just want a low key hangout date. Have you gone through with any of these first dates at your place yet?
>>22745117
Just one so far. I literally just started doing it a few days ago. We made out but that was it, and that's fine. I wasn't really expecting the date itself to actually happen. I have even more lined up, which is a weird change because I used to be a big recluse.
>>22745136
a few days is a pretty quick turnover rate, you're a tindering madman. I'm actually kinda taking a break from tinder cause having dates lined up all the time seems cool but you might get burnt out after a while. But yeah good for you for getting out there, it's a crazy time to be alive when you can just summon girls into your life through a phone app
I've started using this as my opening message; "Hello how are you? Would you ever consider taking a 29 year olds virginity?" about 40% respond and 15-20% have actually met and fucked me. Before using this approach I would get responses from maybe 1% of women by asking them questions or suggesting meeting for coffee or drinks. I really was a 29 year old virgin and simply gave up and began being blunt. 5 months later and 10 girls fucked I've come to the conclusion that women really are stupid sluts.
>>22745136
It's hard as fuck, especially when you live in a small town, but I met my girlfriend going on seven months on okcupid
>>22745282
maybe you're a stupid slut for letting all those girls bang you, have some self respect
I'm a fairly attractive 19 year old female using tinder to meet guys because I'm socially awkward. Nobody ever hits me up to chill even though I have over 2k matches. I don't understand why guys complain about no girls using it, you guys suck at replying too.
>>22745850
looks like at least 2 guys are hitting you up, maybe you should talk to them
>>22745850
2k hits
holy shit!
>>22746078
hitting up =/= talking
All that means is her matches. Doesn't mean they're conversing.
Good profile for a black dude?
>>22745850
I would hit you up on that but you probably live on the other side of the world.
>>22745850
I'm wondering what pics get you so many matches.
>>22745050
And yes OP, being blunt gets you girls. Also *fistbump* for the Asian girl movement
I need to ask this: do any of you match with someone you've swiped, but wonder really hard why you'd do that?
>>22745282
Fuck it, I'm stealing that line. Starting now.
>>22745282
I just cant understand the appeal of sex with an inexperienced 29-yo... I'm surprised this works. Do they straight up say yes?
>>22747718
I just sent it to a bunch of matches, got blocked by all but one. None of them were even above a 4/10. Such is life.
>>22747819
lmao, the tindertroll strikes again. What the fuck did you think was gonna happen?
>hey uh I'm like the least attractive person imaginable
>omg have my vagina
>>22745850
>>22746078
>>22746079
>>22747022
>>22747291
I do reply to everybody, I had screenshotted before I reply. They all like live over 25-30 miles I don't drive and apparently none of them do either.. The only guys who have wanted to meet me message me when I'll post a moment and be smoking weed then they try to mooch like niggah if I wanted a mooch I'd get a boyfriend not tinder. This is what I look like, I'm from upstate New York
>looking for an actual date with Tinder
>finally hit it off with someone who looks good, matches my interest, and enjoys talking to me
>stupidly decide to look her up on Facebook
>find her
>her political beliefs are the complete opposite of mine but we've never talked politics
>don't know how or if I should approach the subject
>don't even know if I should keep pursuing
>don't know if I should just make this a fling and get some action anyway
I just got this app a couple weeks ago and it's already got me in a dilemma.
>>22748097
Tell her that you don't appreciate her feministic beliefs.
>>22748135
Nah it's got nothing to do with that. Neither of us seems to care enough on that subject just based on attitudes. It's a few other things though.
>>22748083
gotta stop chatting up bums. But yeah I dunno what's wrong with you, maybe you don't sound enthusiastic enough over text and people think you don't like them. I used to stop talking to girls if they weren't all "hahaha" and throwing exclamation points and smiley faces around
>>22748097
hedonism is the only philosophy on tinder
>>22745050
Okay /Soc/ I'm gonna need som advice..
So basicly I'm Socially retarded okay, but I've actually manage to get matches.. (i donno how) And when i "talk" to the girls i've matched with, i CAN NOT keep up a conversation.. the only thing i do basicly is asking questions... so...
Advices?
Advice? I've gotten a few matches and met up with one, but I still want to do better
>>22748188
>No I'm not Jim from The Office
TOP FUKKEN KEK
>>22748175
proper tinder message format:
1. Answer question posed in previous message or react to what was said.
2. Ask new question that makes sense within the context of your conversation.
3. Dryly humorous or interesting anecdote about how the question relates to you.
LAME EXAMPLE:
"yeah my day's been okay, just working and normal day stuff. Are you going to Bastille day this week? I tried to go last year but I got hit by a car like 3 blocks away baka"
>>22748188
you fuckin suck man, that short sleeve plaid shirt sucks, your incessant TV show references suck. This isn't a job interview you don't have to be as mundane and pleasant as possible
>>22748149
I get that I guess, but like I get 100-200 miles on every moment I post and only like 1-2 messages. 5-10 messages if it shows cleavage or marijuana. Maybe it's the fact that in a white girl with dreads.
>>22748400
100-200 likes*
>>22747431
Maybe I need to change my bio to get guys to want me?
>>22748419
the bio doesn't matter and your style doesn't matter, you're severely underestimating how much guys want to have sex with anyone/everyone. There's only so much time in the day though and guys have a lot of matches to talk to also. If you're really struggling just put yourself out there and take the initiative to ask a guy out
>>22748476
You're not understanding, I do ask them out but everyone's so far away it never works. I'm in the middle of nowhere
>>22748592
oh okay, sorry I guess I dunno how new york works. Sounds like you got a lifestyle problem then rather than a tinder problem. There are guys out there with cars who are willing to put in the effort to come see you though, I've done a 20 mile drive for a tinder girl before
>>22748693
>20 miles
>far
Man that sounds great. Being Coloradan is suffering.
>>22748727
yeah I thank god every day for living in a good city. I was kinda lowballing that number though, I forgot about the time I drove an hour out of the city to have sex with a truly obese girl off tinder, think I blocked that experience out of my memory for a while
Could use some opinions/answers about tinder, if anyone would oblige. I'm 20/f if that helps at all. I have lots of them, I apologize for the wall o text
I'm confused how tinder works for starters, I tried it a fuck long time ago for like a week, but deemed I wasn't hot enough for it yet.
Now I feel a bit better about my odds, but I hear they changed shit. Like you gotta pay to swipe or whatever. Fuck that noise.
Also is it directly linked to fb, like one click and bam you can see my whole profile regardless of if you're my friend or what? And am I gonna get barraged with friend requests from random people? If I make a fake account but with my real picture on it am I gonna get b& from tinder/are guys gonna skip past me because I obviously won't have any friends or anything like that.
Also would you recommend me even using it at all, if I'm not looking for one night stands? Furthest I'd go outside a relationship is probably a handjob. I really just wanna meet people, get out there a little, and expand my social circle. And since I'm under 21, you think its gonna be harder to find places to meet at since I can't go to any club or bar?
Lastly, how long would you be willing to wait to meet someone? I'm skittish about online dating, I'd want to talk to someone online for probably longer than most people before I'd consider meeting irl. My experiences in the past with online dating is guys give up if I don't wanna meet irl after 4 messages.
>>22748954
It just uses FB so you dont match with your brother if he's friends with you on facebook.
You can link your instagram, which will give anyone who's looking at your profile access to the first 20(?) pictures, along with your ig username.
Everything is still free.
In my experience, girls who go to tinder looking for friends dont get as good a response, as its mostly a hookup app.
Just be aware of the mindset, yeah most guys want set a date right away, and if you dont get to that point, they will move on.
>>22748984
you should really get a new favorite shirt man, that's the most swaggerless article of clothing I've ever seen. You look like a 40 year old IT professional
Do you guys swipe right on every girl ?
>>22749547
nope, probably like 80% though
>>22749547
Nope, I've only swiped like 20 so far in the week I've had it.
>>22747819
lol
So the whole logging in with Facebook thing really intimidates me. So I made a new one with my name spelled wrong and only one picture, and the only matches I've gotten are bots.
>>22750274
only one picture is probably the issue. should have at least 3 or 4 pictures.
What the fuck does this mean? Is it a hidden meaning or is it a real blind date.
Weird desu
>>22750295
Quit being a bitch and go for it man.
>>22750410
What if she's uggo?
>>22750416
dont go on a second date. durrrrrrrrr.
>>22745050
>that fucking feel when you are going to school in a small country town and can't use tinder w/o risking a plethora of STD's and gossip
I've probably gone on like, 20ish dates now from Tindr. Hooked up with about 7-10ish, (depending on your definition).
General advice:
>Don't try so fucking hard on your profiles. Be weird/interesting/amusing.
>Don't schedule things out more than four days. It'll fall through.
>Don't carry on convos forever. Nail down a time/date/place
>I've had the most success going out for drinks, figure out whatever girls you are matching with will like to do
>Don't reveal a bunch of personal details before hand -- save that for the date. (see first rule of advice)
i actually kind of hate casual dating and just want a relationship, but good luck dudes.
as for girls, i dont fucking know just have a vagina or something
How long am I supposed to wait before messaging again?
>>22748083
girl Im in buffalo where are you at?
>only matched with 2 girls
>one disliked me later, the other has gone silent
So I matched with a girl, had a conversation, then reset my account. We rematched on my new account. Should I bring it up as a joke or just start as a new conversation
I guess hitting 500 isn't bad
>>22752508
Do you just swipe right to everyone?
keep in mind, if they swiped right they already like you, so you basically just need to prove you're not an axe murderer
get their number as fast as possible, when texting, set up a date pretty soon after you start talking (within a day) and definitely take charge on scheduling
>Come down to (bar) tomorrow night around (time)
use some of these as opening lines for decent success.
>"hey, you look like the kind of girl that wants to be pushed up against a wall and fucked"
>"truth or dare?"
>"you have to be truthful and give me you rnumber"
>"i dare you to give me your number"
there's a few more but i cant remember them right now
>>22751341
from what i hear okcupid's probably your best bet for something long term
>>22748083
Wanna kik? Brooklyn here
>tfw really interested in getting into tinder and shit and just having fun every few nights with the possibility of finding a girl i really click with
>tfw still live with parents and pay rent to them so i'm saving up to move to some other city
>probably wont have enough for a few months and i'll need to line up a new job anyway
>>22745050
The one and only girl I've asked out on a date (only has been her,seeing her fairly casually), I offered her to come by my place.
She came over, I cooked us tasty dinner, she loved my cats, made out a bunch and she stayed the note.
Couple days later, she came back and we had pretty wild sex.
Now its even more frequent, and we go on real dates and shit.
I dunno, its easy if you're a good cook
>>22752508
>>22752917
kinda looks like he did... 500 shit matches are pointless.
>live in smallish town
>decide to make a tinder for shits and giggles and possibly get dick sucked
>get about 20 matches in first day
>solid 16/20 are clearly bots, respond with the same lines
>other 4 don't respond or unmatch me without responding back
I was genuinely excited with all the matches I had to
19/F - zero luck with tinder. I've been looking for dates rather than just hookups, but even when I was looking for hookups I wasn't matching with any cute guys and the ones I did match with ended up being extremely creepy.
I just want a guy to give me affection and let me cling to him... is that too much to ask for
neet life is getting boring
>>22753711
also, I'm super shy and guys never message me first... so that might be part of it
>>22753711
gib skype pls
>>22753718
dun wanna post skype on 4chan
>>22753728
Snapchat?
>>22753711
Zero luck here too.
Then again some of them might as well be bots and catfish and sluts just wanting to hookup.
>>22753711
use okcupid instead of tinder for that
use tinder if you're ok with hook ups as the start of a potential relationship
>>22748419
I tried being pseudo interesting and acting like a cute little flower with guys but then I just stopped giving a shit and now guys are all over it, so there's that I guess
>>22752997
>>"truth or dare?"
don't do this. girls see right through it and you'll be put on the same level as that weirdo in high school who goes around asking girls for "free hugs"
>>22754349
>>22754363
it works fine, this is tinder after all, everyone knows what it's for. its also just a generally simple question that requires a very brief response
>>22754349
that bio is much more entertaining to read and i'm more interested in at least meeting up with you know. its better to be goofy rather than sincere on tinder
>>22754377
doesn't work fine if they unmatch you for it, which most girls I know do
>>22754389
hmm, sounds like you're the exception rather than the rule.
i assume you've had more success with other methods?
>>22754396
I'm much more likely to reply to someone if they don't use a cheesy line or "truth or dare" level shit. hell, even just a question is better than that
>>22754412
oh, didn't realize you were a femanon
alright, what kind of responses do YOU prefer?
>>22754424
oh
and then i paid attention to the user IDs and noticed you were
>>22754349
whoops
>>22752917
>>22753527
I don't swipe for every single girl, the majority of them. Granted I have slept with 19 so far so I'm not doing badly, had tinder for quite a while though so thats not just a few months worth.
ID different because on computer
>>22754349
i wish i got paid to play with dogs and be pissimistic
R8 or h8 soc. Will follow with pics in next post.
>>22754769
>>22754769
>>22754779
what a fucking loser
>>22754792
Thx
>>22754699
did you actually click with any of them?
>>22754779
>>22754769
definitely drop by the tinder subreddit. hate reddit all you want but they give very good advice for improving profiles and what pictures to use
>>22755067
Dated one for 6 months actually but she moved away and we both agreed long distance was not for us.
>>22747819
I sent to my only match yesterday. No reply. No reaction.
I unmatched her just now.
Yeah that wouldn't have worked. I got trolled, well done m8.
![Screenshot_2015-11-08-21-05-42[1].png](https://i.imgur.com/D9BXdy9.png "Screenshot_2015-11-08-21-05-42[1].png")
had like 15 matches that answered, the rest didn't. 6 meetups
advice?
>>22748083
What is it with no young people driving anymore?
I'm 24 and I own three vehicles. Looking to pick up another one in a few months.
>>22755245
most "millenials" (although i hate the term) dont put much value on car ownership unless they're car enthusiasts. also insurance is expensive as all fuck.
>>22755234
see
>>22755072
Can you guys help me choose a tinder main pic?
1/3
I've been using Tinder for a week now and only have one match.
I'm not considered ugly by a long shot. Maybe it's because my profile is shit?
Can anyone give me hints? ;_;
>>22755328
Honestly? I don't think bio matters too much, and I'd keep mine no longer than 2 lines or so
On tinder as a guy it's incredibly difficult, every guy swipes right on every girl so the girls have a lot more options and can have higher standards compared to real life
To get matches be at least an 8/10, or have a great body
>>22755328
Be funny man. I had the most stupid bio and it got me 300 matches in a couple weeks. I don't find myself attractive, ive been told so and also told otherwise so idk. But I made my bio like the dumbest random shit that came to mind and I always open with something stupid and I have tons of conversations and matches.
>>22755574
What was ur bio?
>>22755611
Just a bunch of inside jokes with friends mashed into a bio.
>>22755632
It's stupid but it works. A bunch of girls think its funny and it starts conversation.
>tfw one of the few ways to find girls that could possibly be into a sex-positive relationship is through tinder
damn
>>22755315
>>22755324
>>22755331
Bump pls
How do you guys start the conversation? I'm 19/m, and I get a decent amount of matches, but can't ever get past the general greeting/early conversation, or can't get a reply at all. I've tried casual chat ("Got any plans for the weekend?"), I've tried striking up a conversation based on their bio and interests by asking questions and what not, and I've tried "clever" pick-up lines that friends use and get to work. I'm not entirely sure where to go from here, because I'm not having a problem matching, just getting any sort of traction.
>>22756222
I've always just said "Hi". I've go no time for whores who think I'm there to write them stories to keep them entertained. If I don't get a reply, whatever. Keep swiping. Only kind of messages I get are "hi" or "nice beard". Something generic like that.
>>22748188
>Vandelay industries
Think you're slick dont you
So whats the best way to open to girls? like actually good ways, I'm terrible at online stuff, fine in person.
>>22756309
I got rid of it because I'm learning nobody on tinder watches Seinfeld
>>22755245
Depends on where you live. If your city has good public transportation, you don't drive.
Also, has anyone in Peoria, IL (or just Illinois in general) had any luck on Tinder? There are so many bots on that it's exhausting.
Any 30 year olds having luck on Tinder? I know it's the big thing for youngsters but for senior citizens like myself is it worth messing with? I've had a lot of luck on OKCupid but I've never used Tinder because I don't use facebook.
> You are going to be a soldier? Thats pretty attractive to be honest. Unless you are joining ISIS or something. Because thats not hot.
> Lol thanks
WHAT NOW.
>>22756586
Ayyyy I'm in Peoria. I've met some of my best friends around these parts on Tinder, and made a couple great hookups, but never any kind of lasting romantic relationship.
>>22757029
Make a move, ask for number or meet up or something, if not move on
Or you can just move on anyway because forced conversation isn't worth it
>>22757056
Shes literally said a total of two words to me. You really think I should ask for her number?
>>22757069
I mean, tinder is for quick meetups, so if you want to keep talking to her just go for it, she obviously doesn't care for the conversation to make any attempt to keep it going, but she didn't unmatch you so she's probably waiting for you to be more forward.
That or again, just drop her if you don't want to deal with grinding teeth to be able to talk
>>22757105
>tinder is for quick meetups
I hear people say this, but it seems like most people actually meet people and talk to them on Tinder. Thats been my experience as well. Im just confused by this vocal minority that talks about Tinder like you should be talking to people and meeting them within like an hour.
>>22757040
Wish I had better luck like you. Shit feels barren here. So many bots, so little real people. Even less people swiping right on me.
Tinder recommended for virgins? Or should I let it stay in Torpor?
Never liked the idea and/or thought of One Night Stands really.
>>22757161
For me on average, a conversation lasts maybe 30 minutes before I get her number. If you're good you can do it in 15.
>>22757194
Okay, I feel ya on the 30 minutes to number. But, I mean, 30 minutes until meeting?
>>22757234
I dont try to plan a meeting that soon unless they want it. Typically I plan to meet 3-5 days out. Really though once you get the number you're set. The idea is to move off tinder asap, and the rest will be fine. ideally you'd grab their number and set a meeting date at the same time.
Got 1 gf for 3 months. Friends now.
Fucked an asian girl working here. Fucked her with a generic viagra. She wanted to be my gf, but she was too ugly.
A good app.
>>22756586
I'm in central Illinois and female, no luck. No bots, just rednecks.
>>22757452
I've actually noticed quite a few women on Tinder who describe themselves as "country". Guess that could explain some of it.
I don't think they'd be into me for a number of reasons.
>>22757452
>>22756586
I'm in Chicago, male, and have had little bots. I've met with 3 girls with varying success
>>22757161
I don't mean "hey lets meet and fuck within the hour", that's for tinder success stories, it's not that common, unless maybe you're incredibly attractive.
I'm not saying you need to try to do anything like that, I'm only saying that Tinder is a lot more fast paced than other dating services. By design its very much based on forming a quick judgement of someone and deciding whether or not you would potentially meet them. Also by design its very easy to just discard a match so they can't talk to you anymore, if you don't like them.
The girl you were replying to is either terrible at conversation or doesn't want to have a drawn out conversation on Tinder, which is normal. The fact that she responded is a good thing, but try to make a move to get her number fast, you can decide from there if you want to talk to each other a lot over text at that point, although I'd recommend trying to tell each other about yourselves in person, gives more substance to the date.
Basic point is, try to move from tinder to texting as fast as possible. Getting her number doesn't mean you have to ask her to fuck you immediately, you can take it at your own pace knowing she likes you enough based off of a first impression to give you her number.
>>22758076
this.
it depends on the girl, some of them give you their number and then they dont text you until a day before the date.
others will text you periodically over the next few days trying to flesh out who you are.
one girl whom I went on multiple dates with only texted me on the day of the date, but we talked for hours in person.
>>22755331
dear god, cut your hair hippy.
/soc/ is pretty misleading. Most people get way higher rates in rate threads than they should. I wish people would be giving me 2-4 instead of 6-8, because that's how people actually see me on tindr and IRL
>>22758685
it's just messy
So I swiped right for like two maybe three hundred girls. And I have 15 matches after two months, I need to have super nice pic or what. In real life most of the girls are saying that I'm 7 or 8. There is just so much more competition on Tinder or what ?
>>22761154
Might be a pic, might be your profile. If you're swiping right to only really attractive girls then they're probably going to be a lot more selective even if you've been told you're 7/8
>>22761187
Well Am I ugly. My profile pic is something like that ?
just pay a hooker for christ´s sake
>>22745282
Fuck, dude. I spent so much time learning guitar during my early teens for pussy anf I could've just been doing this? My life is a lie.
I went in strong
>>22761467
Came out knee deep in puss
Been using tinder for a week till I run out of matches every day at a 60km radius, and I haven't gotten a match. Actually that's a lie, I got one match, but she deleted me 2 days after I sent her one message.
Get so many matches its not even funny.
>>22761324
Guitar is still a viable way to go. I'll never forget the night where my roommates through a party, and I was in my room trying to record a song real quick when this girl came in with a glass of wine to listen. We hooked up within 5 mins and I wasn't even angling.
>>22763666
*threw
>>22763617
OH FUCK, HE'S RETURNED!
>>22763692
I have returned in the dark times as prophesied to return soc to its former glory! I'm surprised someone remembers me.
>>22763724
Also there are a lot more dicks than I remember.
>>22745050
I might ask someone out to coffee, however, the colder the state, the easier the women are I've found. Sometimes you don't need the coffee/dinner date.
>>22763724
I've been in this pit since the beginning, there's no turning it back. I'm surprised I was the first to point you out. How's the collection?
Met with a cute petite girl between classes and she wants to hang out with me more. I'm having an identity crisis because women are suddenly saying yes to me
>>22763730
Yeah, it's a fuckin' atrocity.
>>22763753
It went 36 strong before I offered them all up to everything is terrible. Been wanting to get back into it but been busy with school and work. Plus there is a lot of competition for Jerry collection in my area. Its a pretty baron Jerryless place out there.
>>22763783
You're doing God's work.
>>22755245
Because these days it's fucking hard to get your license
3 months just to get my permit ffs
>>22748083
Also you're ugly as shit desu senpai, I bet your hair smells like doo doo you wannabe Rastafarian hick
>>22763754
Go full douchebag and fuck the shit out of her. Worry about what it does to your self image later.
>>22758698
Confidence is much more important than how you look.
Plus, you can make yourself look a lot better by changing how you dress.
I do some high risk activities and i have pictures of it. I was thinking for a bio;
"Swimming with sharks is easy, talking to girls terrifies me."
Or something like that....I'm debating whether it's cringe or not?
>>22755324
>>22755331
either one of these mate
>>22748083
A below average girl gets over 2k matches.
Guys.. try to right swipe in only your league. This way we don't get this shit happening.
I like to keep mine pretty awful so they know what they're getting into
Any advice?
>>22766997
Only my league? So no girls I don't judge well enough for me?
I think not. How about I give everyone a chance to get with the dong machine.
>>22751477
Vernon. Kik?
Is tinder bugged on windows phone ?
>invite girl over at night
>says sure
>after that she says aren't I scared she might be a serial killer
what the fuck
When it comes to Tinder bios is it better to go for actual info about yourself and interests or just keep it short and funny/stupid?
>>22768141
Women are statistically much less likely to be serial killers than men. Have some faith brotha.
Aight, I have a birth defect, so my expectation rate isn't that high. I've gotten a load of matches on my first tinder account(and actually talked to them a bunch), but I've gotten bored and redid it a couple of times. This go around I've gotten a handful of matches, but none of them have replied.
What's a good opener? And any way to improve my profile?
>>22748083
"Fairly attractive"
>>22768292
You act like a fucking bro. Tone it down a notch. And ditch the main pic.
>>22768609
Yeah, I was having second thoughts on the gun bit. I'll ditch the main one, any ideas on the type of pic I should have for it?
Tips for getting nudes and swaps on this?
Much appreciated. Will share wins.
>>22768635
Guns, beers, fishing. None of that's going to get a pussy wet.
>>22768648
Just meet up with her and take them yourself.
Hot stuff coming through!
>>22768685
Aight, then what do you recommend?
>>22748097
What are your political beliefs?
I got bored
UH OH! Tinder has web profiles now.
http://www.gotinder.com/@unscot
>Check my Tinder right-swipes after workout
>mfw 11 new swipes
These fucking spambots.
I don't even know if the grills here in Norway use Tinder or some other app.
>place I work at is having a silent art auction fundraiser
>since I'm staff I get in free with a plus one
>don't have anyone to take
>ask guy I met from tinder and he says he'd love to
>anxiety kicking in that our first time meeting being at a black tie work event won't go well
kill me
Bio that got cut out -
Parents said I could be anything, so I became everything.
I feel like people have become so obsessed with showing other people all the fun that they're having, they're forgetting the whole reason for going out in the first place.
Friend of animals, hero of children, champion of the people
I'm also a damn good cook
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I get matches, they never really go anywhere.
>>22772604
Delete your main pic, cut your bio in half.
Fucking christ you guys... (script chad here.)
Stop making these threads into OKcupid threads and thinking its about your damn fucking profile information (bio).
It literally does not matter what you say on your Bio, its about how you look, and how you can capture their attention by being direct, being efficient, and yes, by being damn good looking.
If you are not good looking, you won't get matches, FACT.
If you do not know how to open the girl, get the number and set the date within the moment you match with her OR the moment you text her after getting her number... You will never meet the girl.
Matches aren't shit, its about meeting the girl.
If you do not have the certain vain qualities girls expect from social media standards, guess what, you have to put in the hard work by actually approaching them in real life.
Stop blaming your bio, or certain angle pics or Type of pics... If you are good looking enough does not matter, they will message back. Then it is up to you, to take advantage of her emotional state when speaking to you and setting up the date.
>>22772704
and this pretty much sums up most of the questions here on why you are failing on tinder...
The other big part of why most of you guys fail, is because you do not take yourself seriously.
Most of the pics I see here ( the serious ones) , you do not take yourself as a seductive male, most of you guys portray the image to girls by being the goofy , funny guy, which would end up either flakey dates, or being friend zoned.
Be seductive.
>>22745050
I have a problem:
I match with girls and they'll send me a message like "You're cute you know" or "You're eyes are amazing" or a heart eyes emoji.
I won't respond to them for two weeks and then they unmatch me. Some of these girls are attractive and it pisses me off.
What gives?
Well just when I thought tinder couldn't get any worse they remove moments and past active status (deliver/read receipts).
This app has been going downhill since March.
>tfw being Asian and no girl giving you a chance
I suffer from simply being part of an undesirable male. No matter what pics I use or how confidently I speak to these girls (IF I even get a match at all), being Asian already results in closed doors.
>>22773086
>tfw left swipe almost every Asian guy I see
post face
>>22773086
Same situation. I feel ya man.
>>22768577
Meaning? If you're trying to insult me or lower my confidence it's not working..
>>22773239
It's true. You're a little below average. If you were a man in the same league on this app you'd get almost no matches. Not trying to hurt self esteem but saying you are fairly attractive is over selling yourself.
Can someone teach me how to get women to engage in talking on this thing? It always seems that all I get are answers and no actual things to dicuss. Even when I write out info about me with my questions, the qeary is never returned.
I can get if they arn't interested but some are going to great lengths to tell me about themselves and give all the emojis and crap when I tell them about myself, but never do they follow up with intrest.
Could someone tell me what I am doing wrong? Or should I just take these interactions as a dead end road with them?
>>22774493
You need to set up a date fast. Within like 10 messages fast. You need to let them know you are interested, when you are free, when they are free ask them if they want to meet you irl.
You dont use these things to get to know people. You use them to meet people. Thats it. Get to know them and have conversation in real life. Over texts it just gets boring very very fast.
>>22774507
Rodger that. Thanks.
>>22774507
I wouldn't say so, but I live a strange life if I am feeling like it so I usually have shit going wrong to be self deprecating about.
I wouldn't say setting up in a date in 10 messages is nessecary, but getting their number in the first conversation is absolutely mandatory. Otherwise you're getting deleted when they swipe again.
What are my chances of getting an actual date vs a hook up as a sad fat girl
>>22750461
>my m8
Freindzoned af lol
>>22774686
as long as you have realistic standards it's probable. there's nothing more frustrating than seeing a 250lb girl who won't settle for anything less than a 6' tall beach God with a masters degree.
how do i get girls to respond. Couple months later and still waiting for this girl
please help me
>>22774824
>>22774835
you can't expect to drop one line and have girls instantly come over unless you're an athlete or a model. Those are outliers. You have to at least be clever about getting the girl to come over
Hoping to get help with my bio. It reads
-6'1 and some change
-professional grabber of top shelf items
-amateur Netflix watcher struggling to go pro
Thoughts, comments or critique?
>>22772704
>>22772735
nail on the head desu
>>22767120
I dunno I'd talk to you and I'm pretty picky (as a guy) about new guys to talk to.
But of course maybe that just means your profile is doing its job?
Idk if this is good advice, but I get too bored with tinder, so now when talking I basically say whatever random shit comes to mind and it usually goes somewhere. I think I got pretty good at tinder convo lol (I'm weird af but apparently it works).
Rn I'm prohibiting myself to ask stuff like "what do you do/study" cause I was really getting tired of the same talk with everyone (unless she starts this topic and it feels natural, idk).
Moved 2 weeks ago to a big city, 2 dates here so far, both of them I think I went out without we both not even knowing what each of us do and other "usual" information like that.
Last weekend I went out with this girl to go to a restaurant but we ended up not finding it, we were both planning on going out with friends later (and inviting the other one) but we eneded up ditching them and walking around the city the whole night talking (from 8pm to midnight) and doing whatever came to mind along the way. Then went to her house and stayed together til pretty late just watching cartoons and making out (no sex though). It was a pretty great night.
I'm seeing her again tomorrow!
>>22768141
It's a joke. Tone down the asperger's for one night.
>>22768292
despite your birth defect you are still a cutie and i am sure you will find somebody
i disagree with this anon
>>22768685
(who seems like a dick)
i feel like you're not playing up the bro thing, that's just you being yourself, that's all you gotta do really
unfortunately, as you know, online dating is all about first impressions, and because of your birth defect a lot of people aren't going to give you a second glance so this might be a real handicap for your dating scene. however there are other ways to meet people, like at bars and shit, and as long as you show that you're owning it and not ashamed of it, that's the most you can do. my advice is to keep trying, keep putting yourself out there, and show off those tats my man
i feel like your pics show you chilling with your bros, going fishing, just living the normal life. that's what people want to see, and if they don't like it fuck em
>>22772704
>>22772735
I think this is pretty solid advice lol. Lemme try to add to it from a pretty average looking guy's point of view.
>It literally does not matter what you say on your Bio
BUT what you say can help with the conversation if she's into you, cause sometimes they message you first based on that if they are into you (I usually use witty one liners I come up with, works well in that sense).
>If you are not good looking, you won't get matches.
You don't need to be THAT good looking (I'm not and I'm getting dates). The thing is, you won't get those 9s and 10s if you aren't, deal with it (6-8s are gr8 though). Adjust your expectations.
>If you do not know how to open the girl, get the number and set the date within the moment you match with her OR the moment you text her after getting her number... You will never meet the girl.
>Matches aren't shit, its about meeting the girl.
Learned it the hard way, cause was talking to too many girls and getting too many numbers cause I was getting lost in it and not setting up dates quickly.
>If you do not have the certain vain qualities girls expect from social media standards, guess what, you have to put in the hard work by actually approaching them in real life.
Solid af. Only 9-10ish girls I've got in life were to being ballsy irl.
>most of you guys portray the image to girls by being the goofy , funny guy, which would end up either flakey dates, or being friend zoned.
I disagree in part cause I'm goofy/clowny af and it works. But I'm more "weird/asshole goofy" than "friendly/nice goofy", so there's that.
But a long time ago I'd be funny and talk a lot and it wouldn't go anywhere. What I pretty much started doing (and it worked) was somehow making it clear what my intentions are between that.
Like weird jokes followed by mentioning they are qt af or by saying something whenever I see an opening or whenever I can add some double meaning to whatever they are saying.
>>22745050
Male Anon here. Is it really so bad to have a picture of you with a woman on your Tinder profile ? I don't have very many recent or good pictures of myself, the most recent ones that are any good have me with a girl I consider closer to a sister than anything else ( hugging me, which I know looks problematic) There are others of us in a group, but she is still right beside me, leaning into me, or hugging me.
I'm not really meeting any women at school, and I don't even have the time to pursue anything but random hookups anyways( which also means the chances that someone will take a picture of me while I'm off actually doing something is pretty low). Beyond a picture of me playing a gig and a selfie the only decent a and recent photos I have have my friend hugging me.
Is it that much of a red flag for getting matches?
>>22754349
Instant left swype
>>22768141
>be me, walking alone at night with girl on a date
>she's looking for this park she says it's pretty nice but she doesn't know where it is exactly
>anon what if I'm just taking you somewhere to steal your organs
>are you?
>maybe
>I'd avoid the liver then, it's not gonna be worth much
>HAHA any onther recommendations?
>yeah, avoid the lungs too
>kidneys?
>well, there are two, one gotta be fine
>haha, I'm actually taking you there to steal your heart :)
Actual conversation just to help you with this >>22776145
>>22767384
swap your pics around
>>22764185
>confidence is much more important than how you look
this is an app for hookups not relationships, confidence is important but not much more than looks with hookups. This comment seems pretty ignorant in my opinion
>>22773239
>if you're trying to hurt me or insult me it's not working
>is obviously insulted
>can't accept the fact that your nappy dreads and septum piercing aren't "fairly attractive"
m8 I don't think you're hideous it's just you're not attractive. If you were you wouldn't be in this predicament.
>>22775667
Anyone able to comment
>>22776241
thanks for your input.
As for your statement about being
>I disagree in part cause I'm goofy/clowny af and it works.
Now i know you're saying you dont really do the goofy clowny personality, so this isn't for you, its more for the masses.
Here is the reason why the whole alpha male, dominant, seductive thing works.. is because its much more efficient. You are able to qualify girls a lot faster, approach a lot of girls faster and see if you actually like the girl in the first place, or just the efficient way to fuck the girl.
The goofy/clowny approach is usually = indirect, meaning let me weasel my way into sleeping with her by telling jokes, being the funny, non threatening guy.
The seductive approach is = direct. "You look adorable,who are you.." straight and direct approach, see if you like her social calibration, her response, see if she is dtf due to your personality and looks etc...
For me its all about being efficient, and not wasting my time. Funny/clowny guy approach takes forever to even find out if the girl has a boyfriend or just doesn't like you. The seductive/dominant/direct approach, can quickly find out if you are both congruent for each other.
To me its all about not wasting your fucking time.
Genuine question about tinder. When you make set it up and make you're profile or whatever does it take you're age from facebook automatically or can you set it yourself?
>>22779332
>Not making a fake facebook profile solely for the purpose of tinder
Its like you don't even internet.
>>22778255
What this guy said.
I used to go for the clown method but recently I've just used "we should seriously fuck" line.
It works surprisingly well. Had a dead conversation trying to use nice guy/clown technique on a girl she stopped answering. Hit her with that about a week later and now we're setting up plans to fuck.
Picture related.
I have had no success with girls on Tinder above 21. What are some good ways to open a girl who is 21-24, attractive, and has no bio? The hot ones never have bios, presumably to make it more difficult. Pick up lines work well for younger girls but not the older ones. And for that matter, how do you open MILFs? I matched a few of them as well and got no response.
>>22782849
By approaching them in person.
View tinder, or any dating site as a supplement to your daily approach in person. Use tinder as something to entertain you, while in person approaches is your main way to build your lead list for the weekend.
stop relying on tinder fellas, it makes you look weak and afraid to even talk to a girl in person due to your lack of social calibration.
It goes both ways btw, most girls i've met on tinder are practically socially inept or awkward, just as the same reasons why YOU can't approach in person either.
Girls are just as beta as most of you guys are. This is field tested, directly flirt with a girl, and you will see they are mostly awkward as shit or basic.
>>22783743
breh, did you ever release videos or something? I recall you saying you'd do something like that a while back. Be cool if u did
>>22783749
Been so busy with fitness promos, competition coming up and just bought a new house..
I failed on my delivery, i am sorry.
The best i can do for now is to chime in once in a while, but surely in the future I will deliver.
>>22783773
I'm thinking of cycling later on. Sick of my body, life's not going the way I want it to either. Trying to change my mindset and I want to start talking to more girls and such.
I have way too much anxiety too; if only phenibut worked all the time.
Appreciate your advice btw, thanks.
>>22783743
I understand. Before Tinder girls in their early 20's with one exception is the age group I had gotten with, I still make other approaches. I just want to know how you talk to different age groups on tinder specifically. I suspect its just my attractiveness not being enough to get away with pickup lines when it comes to females a little older than me. Or maybe something different is better? How do you get responses from someone who is older than you are?
be me, have tinder a year ago. talk to some qts but nothing ever comes of it. a year later, need something to do on a particular day so i redownload. first match is with a really nice girl who i connect with instantly. we meet up at my place a day or two later, she succs my dik and now we're dating.
tl;dr sometimes ya boi god is lookin out 4 u
pic related
That's just sad. Tinder seems like nothing more than a tool for women to select men to fuck them.
Maybe I'm just jelly because I'm not part of that 10% that get all the pussy, feels bad man that my best chances are to get a girl that has sucked a hundred cocks and now has "to settle for me" because her looks are fading.
Is this really the kind of world you guys want to live in? No more family and children, just dates and one-night stands?
>>22783838
lol, ya boi god is a good man
>>22783855
But that is the way the world is. Forced monogamy was an invention which attempted to change that fact.
>>22783921
>Forced monogamy was an invention
Your gender study course might have told you so, but the reality is that 1. world countries have a birthrate of less than 2, meaning we'll get extinct and replaced in just a few generations.
Humans need nearly 20 years to grow up, how could anything but monogamy achieve this? Just sad that no one wants to have a happy family anymore, thinking they'll be young forever and fucking someone new every week is the highest a human can achieve.
>>22784025
Thanks, Chris Christie. Now go back to your conservative hole.
>>22783855
It's not all that bad anon. Sex isn't love for women any more than it is for me so thinking of it as "settling for me" isn't really how it is. It's as likely that she tried out a hundred guys, none of them were what she wanted and she decided to stay with you because you were offering her more than sex.
Women that sleep around a lot often have really low self-esteem and think of themselves as ugly and unlovable. Hence if you make it pretty clear that you're not really interested in casual sex you'll quickly find yourself surrounded by women and then other women will see this and be drawn to you.
If as a man you can turn down sex and you can make it clear that you value yourself more than a casual fuck you'll do just fine.
>>22784025
Bioanthropology teaches you so.
>>22752508
>all them matches
>4/10's
>not a single message
Good job you fucking retard.
Used to have a fair amount of matches and dates. None of them have turned out too well save for one gf material girl but she's too busy with school to get serious. But we regularly talk and when she's done with uni we might get together again if we're still single.
>>22781366
Fake profile??? Well isn't that a great idea....I never would of taught of doing that. You're so smart, +1 internets for anonafag.
>>22783820
Just to answer your question directly, there is no difference between my approaches of younger girls to older women, absolutely none.
In short, all age groups of women are attracted to dominant, leading the interaction / relationship, seductive male. This goes for both relationships and getting fucked, you shouldn't view them any different, make your approaches exactly the same from 18 year olds to 35 year olds. They will act all the same if they are attracted to you.
Now for relationships, dumb fuck 18 year olds only care about fun, bc clearly they are at the age of that, no responsibility just fun and school. Provide fun they are yours.
For the older women, they tend to look for financial stability, future goals etc...
These advice so far is pretty common sense right? specially the relationship part.
But for the hookups, which is what you are looking for, ALL remain the same. Approach directly, lead the interaction, be dominant, this will weed out all the bullshit time, being friend zoned and go directly to what you Both want to do.
Some girls will say, blah blah blah i want a funny guy, who can keep a conversation... blah blah, basic female bullshit.
You have to view women or people in general in terms of their current state of mind. When you ask them a direct question of what they want, they are on their logical state of mind, under zero influence.
When you actually approach them and have a lot of things to influence them ie... energy of the bar/ club, how attractive you are to them, how much they want to hook up that night, etc.. All of those bullshit so called standards go out the window. All women want to get fucked, its up to you to see if you are both congruent enough through needs/wants/personality to do so.
tldr; There is no difference between age groups of approaching. Approach and speak to women all in the same way.
Same with how you speak to them on tinder, or in person, use my line of "You look adorable, who are you". Be direct.
Mirin my matches?
>inb4 bots
These fucking guys on Tinder taking pictures with Julian Edelman making me accidentally swipe.
Had a crush on this girl since I started working with her. Matched with her on tinder, did a little dance but now I don't know what to write first
/adv/ told me to fuck off to here. Which pic should be my main? Is my bio okay?
>>22788471
Go for the picture of you smiling in the chair. You look really happy in it and that's always a good thing.
>>22745050
what do i even say to these people for small talk?
I'm a sorta funny/talkative dude irl but idk how to shoot the shit online. is it ok for me to just invite ppl to go out without talking to them first? I usually invite them to come do something that i'm doing by myself anyway but no1 seems that interested in going to art museums or movie screenings
how is "IMA TRIPPY BOY NO NORMIES PLS" for a bio
>>22785656
What are some of your favorite ways to start the conversation?
>>22745050
Tinder works for four types of people (men):
1. Extremely fit people who show off their muscles
2. Guys with extremely good faces doing seductive poses with animals and good angles
3. Guys with pictures of them doing really fun stuff and being really popular and borderline obnoxious (think of a frat guy)
4. Guys with pictures of themselves being rich and professional like a doctor or attorney
If you can't fit yourself into one of those categories, get off it before you get depressed. Because the guys above are what girls that are actually worth looking at want to fuck.
Oh, and it's not a dating app. It's meant to get your penis into something.
I'm running tinder on bluestacks. And this popup will never go away if I click yes or no. Can anyone tell me how to solve this?
>>22789835
To clarify, a new one will take the place of the old popup.
The fuck is this bullshit where they now show the job you have as marked on Facebook??
>>22789835
Yo who cares about the pop-up, you better right swipe. That kid is hot.
>>22789897
Can't swipe if I can't get rid of the popup.
>That kid is hot.
I know right.
I know this is a Tinder thread, but has anyone ever had an actual date experience on any "dating" site or app? I have friends who have dated people from Tinder, and other people who say it's just for hookups, and the rare few who say it's for meeting friends.
I've tried both Tinder and OKC and either the person stops responding after a while, we go on a date and it sucks, or they're just plain weird when I meet them in person.
Are people on them just 'off'? Or are there actual people who want to date and not just hook up once?
>>22789939
Well I have tried just about everything. I am about to lose my mind.
>>22789952
It's an app to fuck. You're over thinking this.
