Tell me about unrequited love, anons
>be me
>fall for qt
>qt seems interested
>act aloof and disinterested
>qt moves on
>be sad
I took a leap of faith and carried on loving her, hoping she would come back, till I died.
>be ugly
thats it
>>8005730
it's not an intense pain. it's just the feeling of wanting to be closer to her than you know you will ever be.
>>8005737
that infinite capacity for illusion
Loving, regardless. Contra friendship, reciprocity isn't necessary in love. Just love, anon. Love them the way they are, distant. Stop trying to change people in order to make them fit your idea of a happy life.
here's my unique take on it.
i've been with the same girl for three years and she talks about marriage and shit all the time and i know for a fact that i don't love her but i'm too scared that i'll never find another to break up with her so we'll probably end up married and she may never in her life know that i don't actually love her at all because i'm very good at settling.
i suspect i wouldn't be able to love anyone regardless since i definitely don't love myself and they say that's the first step. unfortunately it's tough to love myself when i do shit like see above. a endless loop.
>>8005730
smell nice and have a decent haircut anon. das it
i though that love would last forever: i was wrong.
>>8005779
why does love morph into hate what the flow of feels turns out to be unidirectional? do you really love that person or do you love the idea of them loving you?
>>8005771
I love someone who stopped replying after I told him that I love him. It's been 3 months and I'm still waiting for them to reply. I don't love myself, though.
>>8005734
Why?
>>8005788
societal standards kind of exclude one-sided relationships from the canon of love.
it's true that nothing is true and etc. but let's be real here. if we gave unidirectional affection the same credit as mutually loving relationships society would crumble.
>be me
>22, good job, have a great qt3.14 stalking target
>#blessed
>>8005734
Iktf my nizzle
>>8005802
they don't have the same credit but let us try to make outcasts' lives slightly more bearable
>>8005798
Why what?
>>8005793
I love you she-anon/gay anon/transgendered thing
once u embrace capitalism u gonna be too busy for that kind of shit, i just don't give a shit about pussy anymore, i'm like gay for capital, still gonna get a wife eventually so someone can inherit my shit, but i don't care if i'm in love or not or even if she's hot, just as long as she'll be a good mother to my kids
She closed her eyes and opened her mouth, leaning back on the cushion, one felted foot on the floor. The wooden floor slanted, a little steel ball would have rolled into the kitchen. I knew all I wanted to know. I had no intention of torturing my darling. Somewhere beyond Bill's shack an afterwork radio had begun singing of folly and fate, and there she was with her ruined looks and her adult, rope-veined narrow hands and her goose-flesh white arms, and her shallow ears, and her unkempt armpits, there she was (my Lolita!), hopelessly worn at seventeen, with that baby, dreaming already in her of becoming a big shot and retiring around 2020 A.D.--and I looked and looked at her, and knew as clearly as I know I am to die, that I loved her more than anything I had ever seen or imagined on earth, or hoped for anywhere else. She was only the faint violet whiff and dead leaf echo of the nymphet I had rolled myself upon with such cries in the past; an echo on the brink of a russet ravine, with a far wood under a white sky, and brown leaves choking the brook, and one last cricket in the crisp weeds . . . but thank God it was not that echo alone that I worshipped. What I used to pamper among the tangled vines of my heart, mon grand pèchè radieux, had dwindled to its essence: sterile and selfish vice, all that I canceled and cursed. You may jeer at me, and threaten to clear the court, but until I am gagged and half-throttled, I will shout my poor truth. I insist the world know how much I loved my Lolita, this Lolita, pale and polluted, and big with another's child, but still gray-eyed, still sooty-lashed, still auburn and almond, still Carmencita, still mine; Changeons de vie, ma Carmen, allons vivre quelque part oû nous ne serons jamais sèparès; Ohio? The wilds of Massachusetts? No matter, even if those eyes of hers would fade to myopic fish, and her nipples swell and crack, and her lovely young velvety delicate delta be tainted and torn--even then I would go mad with tenderness at the mere sight of your dear wan face, at the mere sound of your raucous young voice, my Lolita.
>>8006025
"Lolita," I said, "this may be neither here nor there but I have to say it. Life is very short. From here to that old car you know so well there is a stretch of twenty, twenty-five paces. It is a very short walk. Make those twenty-five steps. Now. Right now. Come just as you are. And we shall live happily ever after."
Carmen, voulez-vous venir avec moi?
"You mean," she said opening her eyes and raising herself slightly, the snake that may strike, "you mean you will give us [us] that money only if I go with you to a motel. Is that what you mean?"
"No," I said, "you got it all wrong. I want you to leave your incidental Dick, and this awful hole, and come to live with me, and die with me, and everything with me" (words to that effect).
"You're crazy," she said, her features working.
"Think it over, Lolita. There are no strings attached. Except, perhaps--well, no matter." (A reprieve, I wanted to say but did not.)
"Anyway, if you refuse you will still get your . . . trousseau."
"No kidding?" asked Dolly.
I handed her an envelope with four hundred dollars in cash and a check for three thousand six hundred more. Gingerly, uncertainly, she received mon petit cadeau; and then her forehead became a beautiful pink. "You mean," she said, with agonized emphasis, "you are giving us four thousand bucks?" I covered my face with my hand and broke into the hottest tears I had ever shed. I felt them winding through my fingers and down my chin, and burning me, and my nose got clogged, and I could not stop, and then she touched my wrist.
"I'll die if you touch me," I said. "You are sure you are not coming with me? Is there no hope of your coming? Tell me only this."
"No," she said. "No, honey, no."
She had never called me honey before.
"No," she said, "it is quite out of the question. I would sooner go back to Cue. I mean--"
She groped for words. I supplied them mentally ("He broke my heart. You merely broke my life").
I once knocked a girl out for rejecting me. Good thing nobody saw me. Fucking cunts I swear
She wants to be friends again, I don't want that.
Now I am avoiding her, but I don't know how long that can go on.
She told me she didn't love or wasn't ready to do it. We stayed as friends, after a while I managed to stop feeling like trash and convinced myself I didn't really need her.
Last week we went to a symphonic orchestra concert and half-way though she held my arm and didn't let go of it until we each went home.
Now I'm just confused.
>>8006095
>>8005899
thank you
>>8006054
don't do it, friendzone is beta as shit
>>8005734
>act aloof and disinterested
this never works anon what were you thinking
>>8006095
same here. The moment you realize you're not trash at all, but she is not desired by me anymore.
>having an unrequited love
>past the age of 18
>>8005944
the older I get, the more I think and feel like you.
>>8006243
it's called growing up, dude, you're becoming a man...
>>8006225
it's like a warehouse for unwanted stuff. Rather get thrown away than be put there in her pity.
I'm in love but he keeps ignoring me due to his fears of me getting bored with him like all the other women. Fml
>>8006225
Yeah I know.
I would really love to have her again though.
>>8006266
that's the nail that keep you there. Hoping for a possibility which will never come. Move on man. Statistically, we are all the fucking same, controlled by trend and meme. You will find someone else who is exactly like her, I can guarantee that. Let logic guide your way, don't let your short-sighted dick do that.
>been working on myself to become more confident and outgoing
>she gets a boyfriend
>he's literally a beta autist who is obsessed with trains
>>8006226
No idea. It's a stupid habit I have. One time a girl showed obvious interest in me and the next time I saw her I wore an angry facial expression and stared at the ground when walking past her. I liked her a lot but this was my reaction. I'm fucking stupid.
>>8006280
There isn't really anything keeping me there other than not knowing how to deal with it, I've known her for so long too.
>>8006281
Fuck, that's embarassing.
I'm incapable of feeling love because of my mental disorder.
>>8006239
you ave no feels m8
My heart hurts anons
>>8006260
>he fears he'll get bored. That's why he doesn't want me.
>>8006281
I know that feel. The only difference is that my crush fell for a guy who has an unhealty obsession with LoTR. He made one his former roomates, one of my friends, watch the movies in order, for 2 weeks.
since when did /lit become /adv?
>>8005730
finding your soul mate is one thing
keeping her is another thing entirely
i miss you khadijah
>>8006297
Do you consider it good or bad? Are you speaking of romantic love or all the other forms of affection? Can you find joy in other things?
>>8005730
Jessica Raine Moser aka Booger Chan.
>>8006344
I'm sorry bro
>>8005730
I'm a short and ugly man with a disagreeable temperament. Unrequited love is likely the only sort of love I'll ever experience, as I only seem to become more repulsive and less sociable as I get older. But don't get me wrong. I have no self-pity. I don't mind having to appreciate women from a distance. My image of them is hardly ever ruined this way, allowing me to maintain a sort of romantic outlook most people seem to outgrow early on, and I don't have to deal with the inevitable messiness most people deal with. It's possible I tell myself these things in order to cope with my position in life, but, whatever the case, it's what I believe. Unrequited love isn't so bad - at least not if you don't allow yourself to be overcome with a desire to be with the person you love. In my experience, when being with the person you love seems an absolute impossibility, you don't develop that desire to be together that makes so many people miserable.
>>8005771
Same here. My girlfriend is pretty crazy and I might end up marrying her just to not have to go through a break up that will last over a year
>>8006623
terrible filename. fuck you
>>8006630
fuck
>>8006635
:(
It's how I feel about myself
>>8005730
>Tell me about unrequited love
A forbidden fruit in which you will never taste
>>8006344
I do know that feeling.
Great literature thread. Hi five m8s!
I had an experience with the so called "love at first sight". It was awful.
Four years of suicidal misery over a girl i barely knew. I still have no idea what she did to me; we never kissed, only held hands and danced for a while but i guess my sweaty cold hands turned her off and for the first time i wept; for the first time in nine long years i wept and i balled my poor bloody eyes out like a pathetic dirty hobo denied of a well earned lunch, and oh boy that was the first and the last time I've fell in love. It's a bittersweet thing.
The anima is a lying whore. Woe be to the man who finds her real world counterpart for he is now trapped. She is the soul image which should remain unattainable. She's a white girl who showed me mercy. Who saw passed my flaws. Who clipped my wings and brought me back to earth. Because of her I cried a million tears and wrote a million sorrowful songs. It wasn't me who lied to the devil you see... I tried so hard to be free from all my mortal sins.
We fell apart. What I'd give for another start. A path back to heart. A new place to begin. God save me from my sins. My bones rattle in the wind.
I tried. Come back. Waste this life with me. No chance. Betrayed. There's nothing left to say. Drown the stars. Kill the gods. Cut out my dying heart. I tried. Come back.
And I cried at the loss of possibilities. My formative years now become barren ash. She a ghost. Her toxic vapor wringing tears from my tired eyes. Indifference. That's the final death. She's indifferent to you. She's fallen in love countless times since you last spoke. She belongs to the world and you to her ghost.
Unrequited ain't the right word. She gave you a million chances but the butterflies made you sick so I drowned them with hundred proof liquor and made a fool of myself because of it. Now I write in the off chance that she sees my name in print. Looks back at who I was and who I became and that indifference dies. The rotting flesh nourishing new life. I used to know him when we were young is what she'll say and my words and songs will shake her guts the way her cold gray eyes tore mine apart.
No anon this path lies ruin. Get out and live your life. Settle if you have to. Don't do as I have and torment yourself with the memories of a long gone friend.
>>8005771
>i suspect i wouldn't be able to love anyone regardless since i definitely don't love myself and they say that's the first step.
nope. i hate myself but am very much in love
>>8006095
>Now I'm just confused.
Get money. Seriously, if she loves you back she'll feel validated and special and you'll both be happy together. If she doesn't you'll be rich with an ego to match and you'll be even more convinced that you don't need her. Just beware in case she doesn't love but tells you she does.
There isn't a problem in the world that money can't solve.
Unrequited love is just masturbation.
>I have feelings and I'm sensitive, where's my girlfriend?
The reality is that there are millions of women who each would make you feel just as satisfied and fulfilled* as the one you adore. Obsessing over one is just a self-delusion to make it feel like you're only letting yourself be rejected by *one* girl, rather than *all* of them (after all, in both cases you are equally alone).
*of course nothing actually fulfills and once you can get pussy you stop caring about pussy; it's a sucky paradox to be sure
>>8005730
Love is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. Break the cicle, rise above; focus on science
Good ol' Rick & Morty
>>8005737
Go to bed Kierkagaard
what if the person you like isnt of legal age? and you're not like super creepy older than them but there's a decent gap? do you play it cool until it's safe to make a move or le tthem know that youre interested and see if they want to wait? or do you just /b/ it up and go for it?
>>8005771
There's always divorce anon.
>>8006054
dummy, you can never be friends again as long as one still has feelings for the other
>>8006281
At least you got her anon!
>>8007237
Common sense says don't be a creep, creep.
>>8007237
Find a woman of legal age. Yes, 16 > 21, but you really don't want to face the legal or social hassle of being known as a pedo.
Just read my diary senpai
>>8006630
i fucking hate you. i want to die.
>>8006287
I know this feel.
>>8007237
That depends on the age, 16 is somehow ok, 13 generally isn't. And the age gap up to 10 years is generally fine, especially if the girl is around 20.
>>8006630
and yet i see short not qt dudes get girls because they're not assholes and do interesting things with their lives.
fix your personality.
>be maudlin about a crush not working out
>go to a friends 21st
>make out with her
>think 'oh this could be a good distraction'
>send increasingly flirtatious emails and messages
>go around to her house, make-out, drink copious amounts of wine
>she wants to take it slow so no sex
>fall asleep on the couch
>leave after making out some more, she smiles at you and bites her lips as she leaves
>realize that you like her, adore her, want her
>suddenly her messages become terse
>invites you over and tells you she's not ready for a relationship and is going to go overseas
>kisses you at the door for five minutes when you go, says 'this is the last time'
>cry during the walk home
i'm sleeping with two other girls at the moment but i just cannot fucking get her out of my mind what should I do should I try again or leave sleeping dogs lie
>>8005730
Love is not dead. Much like anything else human
It lies, asleep, landmines of emotions to be stepped on
By those lucky few. Pulled out, beaten with a stick, some
Exploding violently, taking limbs
Some being carried around as a measure
Of how they survived, of how they got their reward (those smug bastards)
Most never step on it at all;
Those who haven't found it after sufficient time groping in the dark
End up giving up the ghost, and move onto
Another field
As they say, the grass is greener on the other side of the fence
For me however, never experiencing love is like slowly starving until you get used to it; calloused in a sense
Devoid of it, for the happiness that you cannot achieve is only a festering leprosy which rots and shambles
Until the tougher parts are left
Until the 'tougher parts' remain
>>8005734
You did well, anon. She wasn't really that interested -- her loss. Don't think you should grovel the next time, acting all sensitive or something.
>>8006287
Maybe you're afraid of being rejected and are preemptively rejecting them. Anyway, just stop caring. It'll all be fine then.
>be a good guy
>hook up with qt's
>they don't want more
>fall for decent chick
>now qt's wanna be with me cuz they realize I'm better than anyone else
The temptation real
>>8008150
Man, that was deep. Is your whole diary find with such profundity?
>>8008204
Dear Diary,
Today I was afraid an anon was being sarcastic to me, so I tested the waters by making this entry.
Sincerely,
Anon
>>8008195
>tips
>>8008123
You say that like a personality is something that you can pick up, bang with a hammer once or twice and it's good as new. People are easily broken, not easily fixed.
>>8006566
>I miss you, kadijah
Don't worry. New children are born, everyday.
>>8008123
Dude. Just be yourself!
>"oh I'm sorry anon. have you ever heard of someone being asexual-aromantic?"
I didn't love her then. I'm not sure I can love in that way. A psychologist told me, many years ago, that I was a malignant narcissist and am incapable of lasting bonds. Yet ever since she left me, my love has grown proportionate to the distance between us, time and space. I've fixated in her, she's become my barometer for living. The metric by which I compare all experiences, my pains and joys. Every day.
As I stumble home, alone again, successful in lust and sex or not, I think of her. Stale sweat of women I despise, and I think of her. A woman who annoyed me, but is now always with me, the perfect companion sitting in the back of my mind.
I have been faithful to you, Cynara! In my fashion.
In 2014 a girl asked to see my bedroom and then climbed into my bed and told me to join her since I was just leaning against the wall nearby. Eventually we tried having sex at her place but I panicked and told her I always put my condoms on in the bathroom. When I went to the bathroom I started panicking and lost my erection and barely got the condom on and when I returned to bed I just sweated and sweated until the sheets were soaked. Eventually she stopped kissing my neck and trying to make me turned on and turned over to sleep. But then she went to the bathroom with her phone for like 15 minutes so I got up and left. I wrote her a handwritten letter and put it through her mailbox and she then text me a bunch of times over the next year asking to meet up but I just ignored her texts.
>>8005730
>love
i feel this reaction image is all your post deserves, as a reply
I'm unsure what to do, I'm in love with my professor.
It's more likely that not that it is an unrequited love.
I know that he is in no relationship and the rest of his life is a mystery. We're a small department so we do talk to each other quite a bit. At the department Christmas party we sat and talked for hours about random crap after our inhibitions left while more alcohol was consumed. The other day I was walking through the corridor and I see him ahead, he sees me and stops as if waiting to talk to me. Suddenly from behind me I hear my friend call for me, I turn around to see what she wants and by the time I turn my head he's walking away.
He is the butt of jokes by students in my department as he's very much a nebbish but to me he's perfect.
I think back to when I first met him and had no idea who he was - he sat in on a lecture we had by an external speaker. He asked a question towards the end and his voice struck me down - I had realised he was from the same city as me( I still haven't found someone from the same place at me in this whole University but him) - by the time I'd toned down my accent as people took the piss regarding its "poshness", I now feel completely at home with him.
I have no idea what to do. This has been going on a year now - awkward interactions, little jokes and general communicating in stuttered posh accents while others laugh.
It'll just account to nothing - he'll bat me off as a silly undergrad and carry on with his work.
In a few years he'll recall my face randomly one day and be unable to remember my name, just like all the other students that have passed through my department.
>>8006287
me irl ;_;
>>8005944
>gay for capital
wonderful
>>8006412
>me getting bored with him
also that post was probably bait
this is probably bait too desu
>>8008476
>I had realised he was from the same city
definitely from britain
>>8008547
I am, what about it?
>>8006226
>this never works
There's no such thing as a "it works"/"doesn't work" technique with women. I've treated some girls like SHIT and they kept going for me, and I've also treated other girls with the upmost respect and they friendzoned me. It really depends on the girl. Some are masochists and others aren't.
>>8005734
You fucked up because you changed the way you behaved around her. You should have treated her the same way you did when she fell for you. By sundently becoming aloof you probably gave the impression that her advances made you uncomfortable.
I'm posting an image of my post rather than typing it directly to make it more difficult to be connected to me by alphabet soup agencies or posterity.
I have never fallen in love in my whole life, for a number of reasons, so I've never had to deal with being heart broken. But at the same time I feel like I've missed something. Like I skipped over a phase in life that everyone is supposed to go through. Life just feels so dull, but at the same time I can't stomach the idea of being in a serious relationship.
>>8008590
>bowie picture
>angsty
sounds about right.
>>8008586
Is it possible that this anon has found pure, true love? Who knew that being a pervert can lead one to the loftiest realms of feeling?
>>8008590
God I bet you aren't even 25 you angst lord.
I fell for my best friend
one day she texted me out of the blue that she had just sucked some dude's dick and I told her not to contact me again
I said I intended to be friends again and she believed me but realistically speaking we won't
>>8008476
Are you sure he's gay, though?
>>8008123
A lot easier said than done, but I nonetheless appreciate the encouragement.
>>8009182
forgive and forget meme
>>8009182
screenshot that, i want to laugh at your shattered hopes and dreams
>>8009299
I'm a female and he is straight
>tfw spent the whole night just kissing with my gf
kissing, nothing else
it was the most arousing and emotionally opening experience we've had in a while
highly rec'd
>>8009545
>>8009433
I was never under any allusions, I knew the friendship was going to come to an end that way I just didn't know when
I got over her as an object of romantic affection (getting a gf helped in this department) but I still miss her as a friend
i haven't fallen in love with anyone since i was 18 (i'm 20 now btw). it's weird and depressing honestly, usually i used to daydream about that special girl; now it's regret, loneliness, sadness, drinking and self-loathing.
>>8005771
That's the saddest thing ever. Step out of it now, while you can. You'll regret it your whole life if you don't.
>>8009567
Sorry, it was kind of a joke, exactly the cruel irony that DFW predicted haha. Actually, I can relate to that a lot. I'm also in a friendship were I definitely got feelings involved that I have to describe as romantic. At the other hand, I don't want to risk the friendship and can't bring myself to accept closeness. It's gotten so bad that the person slept over at my house and I've watched her sleep and felt like some nerves were ripped out slowly out of my head. So, it's my life that's fucked up, not yours.
>>8008445
underrated post
>>8009536
Well in that case, act quickly. I'm obviously in no position to judge this man's character, and I assume you're in the UK so maybe things are different there, but in the states it's not unheard of for professors to sleep with students. Though I assume you're not merely looking to have sex with him. Whatever your intentions, you could start by simply asking him out for coffee or lunch or something - just a casual thing, no pressure - and see how things unfold from there. But it's important you make the first step. I'm a nebbish man too, and we nebbish men rarely if ever take the initiative. The worst that will happen is that he'll politely decline, saying he has some prior engagement. You'll be filled with a lot more regret if you don't take any action at all.
It's a redundant phrase.
>>8009841
>You'll be filled with a lot more regret if you don't take any action at all.
This is what I worry about. I am a very timid person so I'm not sure if I could even ask such a thing as coffee. It's known to happen here - I know that another lecturer in the department has slept with a student before.
I don't know...
It's exam season now so I won't do anything, but maybe after that I'll try to get closer
She knows I love her. I tell her how much I obsess over her every day. She either jokes about it or ignores it. I still talk to her but I can barely get anything from her. She constantly tells me she is just boring and doesn't like anything, but I don't think that's completely true and instead I am being shut out of her inner world. I don't think she even wants to be my friend let alone anything else. But she never makes any effort to decisively cut contact or discourage me. I'm just left guessing while she humors everything I say. Yes I know I'm an idiot.
>>8006630
>r u Dante Alighieri ??
can I have an autograph
>>8007041
Or you could just realize this and find a deeper meaning in your own relationships.
>>8010088
she's an idiot too
>>8010088
she's playing u for the attention dude
cut ties, just ice her out
also it's love unless it's mutual or has been at some stage :)
>>8008900
>16
>>8008423
THIS. FUCKING THIS.
It's my punishment for liking girls with short hair.
> "You're Bojack Horseman. There's no cure for that."
>>8012318
actually there is: suicide
>>8012322
> muh sewer side
Technically, you don't cure yourself. You cure the society of you.
>>8010911
kek
Me cago en vuestros muertos que ma habeis borrao la respuesta hijos de puta
>>8012333
أعرف أكتب زي الناس أول
>>8005730
true love implys harmony, harmony implys togetherness, unrequited love is retarded
>>8006239
cuz we grow up and move on, then have actual love like men
>>8006281
>she gets a boyfriend
>>he's literally a beta autist who is obsessed with
You described my friend.
everyones writing about their unrequited love for someone else, ill tell you about some of the times ive been the object of desire
the one right now. its uncomfortable. its weird. she doesnt even know me that well, what she loves is her fantasy, and i feel like im just a prop in it. she might love an idealized version of me, actually that would be great, its something that has some contact with who i actually am, instead of the whole prop in a fantasy thing.
i dont like it. i dont know how to manage it. we get along pretty well, there's good banter, we share some interests, i like her as a friend, but some kind of x-factor is missing for me to be attracted to her that way. i dont want to hurt her feelings but its lose-lose. we talked about this aspect of our relationship directly months ago. im letting her choose what kind of pain she would prefer, i guess.
last time i was the object of unrequited love i learned through a mutual friend years afterward. that time was similar, someone id consider a friend, but i had no clue about her feelings or their intensity. she hid it well. wish she would have said something. no relationship potential but we coulda messed around. probably better we didnt
>>8005734
>>8006287
Fuck, I do this too. I flirt all the time, but I'm literally incapable of being intimately close with anyone
>>8007351
Kerouac was a manlet. hehe
>>8006287
Self sabotage sucks
>>8010545
I'm not familiar enough with Dante to understand the joke. Can you elaborate?
>>8010029
Best of luck to you.
>>8005730
I used to worry about unrequited love. Then, I got experienced at sex, and now I feel like I'm pretty good; good enough to where I don't really offer girls much other than sex, yet they still annoy me by liking me too much.
I also used to worry that I would be too distant a lover. After long hours of pillow talk, I can control exactly how much I can let my partner into my life.
Anons, practice makes perfect. I used to be a basement-dwelling virgin even though I was an athlete (and rugby at that). Get out there, drink a few beers, and get physical. Sex is great, and it seems like it really balances a man out.
I've known this one girl for over a year now through a friend at some party. Great girl, but she didn't really appeal to me that much back then. We have this group chat thing on facebook with her and my friends. Found out she was going out with one of my friends, never really mattered to me. They broke up 2-3 months later. Heartbroken, my friend became a raging alcoholic and started shutting out everyone in his life (he recovered eventually). What's sad is that whenever i see her its as if nothing happened. She started hanging out with me afterwards, it was kinda cool. I'm not good with women so i honestly thought she liked me, but that wasn't the case. She wanted me to introduce her to one of my friends who was fairly rich and so i did. Even though i didn't want to believe it, i qas thinking maybe she was a gold digger. So they hung out, didn't hear from her for weeks until she messaged me one day asking me to meet with her. We drank a few beers but not too much since i have work the following morning. She told me about my friends and she never really felt like she liked them. I told her what ive heard from my friend (her ex) how she was hanging out at some guy every night, about how she never comes home sober every night. I told to stop doing what she's doing and told how much of a fake she was. I can't really lie in front of people so yeah. She cried and i ended up consoling her the entire night. She slept with me that night and i was so confused afterwards. (Made me miss work too). These events happened between december 2014 and june 2015. After that, i stopped talking to her and focused on my work more. Saw her facebook once in october, she was hanging out with some rich dude again. February 2016, she suddenly messaged me asking me to meet with her. She told me about how problematic her boyfriend is, how they broke up and about her final year in college. We just chatted for 3 days straight. I helped her with some of her research papers and helped her set up a desktop so she has something to work with at home. I started liking her again and i cursed myself for being so fucking stupid for doing so. A few weeks later i found out she got back with her boyfriend and now i can't forget about her but i know she wont ever like me back. Even now we still message each other for hours. I don't know what to do. Please give me some advise.
>>8014375
keep focusing on yr work anon
I don't think I'll ever know if the person likes me back even though I'm suspecting it. I'm too shy and afraid to find out.
Someone please explain to me how this is related to literature.
I cant actually imagine what it would feel like to have someone like me back
It confuses me that just about everyone will experience it and I wont
>>8014375
Hoes are but balls and chains nigger.
Seriously speaking focus on work
>>8005730
Where I'm from we just call that love, desu
>>8005739
im surprised more people don't resonate with this sentiment. but also, truly, autism plays a role in romantic failure
>>8005802
in that case, you picked the wrong auden poem
the closer i get the closer everything seems to be about to go to shit
the more she tries to come off as confident the more i want to make her feel like a little girl
i want to eat her fucking soul
>>8008126
feelings lie. you'll want to trust me on that. life is not a movie or a book.
>>8006793
>"I hate myself but i am in love"
>le cold-but-inwardly-soft meme
>le tortured-artist meme
your whole life is a meme, that's probably because you're in your mid-20s
>>8018200
this. having been on both sides (unrequited for 8 yrs, actual relationship 3 yrs) I can say with certainty that there is no actual love without self-love
>>8007041
>be me
>girl leads me on
>hooks up with one of my friends for months without telling me
>tell her I can't pretend like everything is ok
>puts me in a shit position and tells me I can deal with it or hate her
>go to a party
>both of them are there
>get really fucking drunk
>end up spending the night in her car half way passed out drunk having to watch them make out
I want to die, friends.
>>8018412
How can you be this pathetic? Just get out, Jesus.
I used to fall really hard for girls back in highschool but then I dropped out and moved halfway across the us. Now I haven't seen anyone in 3-4 days so I don't feel attached to a single person and just spend my days fapping to yoai.
Where do I meet people that don't just want to fuck?
>>8018417
i'm 18 and in HS, so there's that.
anyone else get fucked over by some girl in HS?
>>8018446
Still man, 'puts me in a shit position and tells me I can deal with it or hate her' is enough to just break up and that's that.
>>8018513
yeah i'm certain I won't see her ever again after I graduate in a month. Thanks for the advice, anon.
>>8018446
of course, anon. we're young, naive and horny (I'm only 19). I got fucked over plenty of times in school. learn from your mistakes, practice emotional strength for times of hardship. you'll be alright x
>>8006460
>common lisp bear
>>8018420
>Book clubs
In my country those are filled which easily amazed girls. Most age 18 - 25. They read shitty books(YA) , but nothing is perfect.
>>8018543
If this was a long term gf or a wife with kids breaking up like that wouldn't be what the best suggestion for you, but you are in HS man.
>>8013205
he's italian
>>8008150
Fuck, welcome to the nhk was good
>>8008586
Don't you find them... annoying?
>This time last year we were constantly holding hands, embracing, talking on the phone, kissing, making love, discussing how we are certainly the world's most perfect pair, discussing how in love we were, nothing could ever change
>now
>6 unanswered calls
>stream of 18 unanswered texts over the course of two months
>every time I think about her I scroll up in our recent texts
>last thing she sent me ever
>'I don't love you'
Wew lads
>>8005739
Iktf bro
>falling in love
>2016
it's like you plebs don't even read.
>>8006630
You write well, although that 'In my experience' bit is just a disgsting cliche. But still, you write well and I felt like every sentence meant something in your post. Good job.
>>8005734
yeah iktf man
>finally meet with girl Ive really liked for a while
>coffee date goes well
>she says she had fun and we should do this again
>get news from friend that she said she wants to get to know me
>she said to friend that she wanted to talk to me but I never acknowledge her presence in class or look in her direction so its hard for her
>I think that makes me aloof and charming, continue to ignore her
>finally decide, message her on twitter(maybe 3 moths ago this happened)
>we exchange like 5 messages
>she suddenly stopped responding
>hasn't answered me since
>mfw I ruined my chances with the girl that i loved like no other
>she's going to Uni 2000 miles away next year
>ill never see her again
They say everyone has someone who is meant for them, and that eventually they will meet, but they never say anything meaningful between these two is guaranteed. Im convinced Ive met that person, but choked in the face opportunity and ruined whatever chance at happiness I had, and by extension--my life.
ever since ive been sitting in my room, reading while ignoring my social life other than occasionally having coffee with my bros, and trying to decide on my college major.
I guess it keeps me occupied
You guys think its plausible to double major in Neuroscience and Philosophy? Or will the work load kill me?
>>8005730
She smiles at me, as I introduce myself. We chat, and she seems to like me.
We're talking after a class. I can't help but stare at her lips, and the unusual way she crinkles her nose.
I'm looking over my shoulder. We haven't talked in a while, and I wonder if it's something I said.
I'm looking at her from across the class. I've long since given up on trying to talk to her, but a small part of me is desperate to know what I did.
I see her, walking out the door, probably the last time I'll see her in my time in college. Half of me is numb, the other half longs to know what the hell I did.I'm posting on /lit/, for the first time in years. At least this got me back into writing.
