Hey /lit/, I've lost my ability to fall in love with girls/women for over a year now...
Is there any book I can read that may rekindle my heart?
Infinite Jest
>>7721965
How old are you
same, all i think about is getting money, having a gf doesn't pay the rent
>>7721965
you never had it to begin with probably
Sounds like you wanna kiss boys
same tbhfam
not only the ability but the desire to do so as well.
>>7721993
nothing gay about wanting to bang tight BP
Ehhh, if you are having trouble falling in love, then stay away from books. You'll quickly realize that very few women are as interesting as a good book. :/
>>7722025
>expecting females to have genuine interests
>expecting anything but a relationship of condescension
>>7721977
Same, I haven't even been reading novels for the past couple of months, just things like Graham's Security Analysis and Bogle's investment books.
>>7722042
>not enjoying a master-slave relationship
Not OP but I have pretty much lost my sense of humour and act very coldly towards people I don't know to the point where I have isolated myself from a girl I am very attracted towards. I think she may have been curious about me when we first noticed each other, but the last time I said "hi" to her she just stared past me and didn't respond. Felt so bad. If anyone is willing to read a spaghetti-tier greentext and offer some advice I'd appreciate it as /lit/ seems fairly balanced when it comes to dating and girls in general
>>7722072
go right ahead
>>7722072
As a kissless virgin, I can't really offer any useful advice. Yet I would be happy to read the greentext
>>7722068
>not actually reading through to the end of chapter IVA of the phenomenology
>>7722083
>>7722086
Any advice / guidance is welcome. If you are a FEMALE then please say so in your reply. If you are a MALE pretending to be a FEMALE, please make this known.
>work in a small office in central NY
>be a quiet and private (no social media etc) person
>since I turned ~17 several attractive girls have had crushes on me (context)
>notice a cute girl from another office
>she enters almost every day to print something off
>printer is right beside me but behind me so I can't just look up and say hey
>most people print something off and grab it
>she (used to) stand there for like 20 seconds before leaving
>asks me a printer-related questions since I'm nearest
>notice she has a really cute smile
>one time the fan nearby blows a piece of paper onto my desk
>she smiles the same cute wide smile and says she mustn't have secured it properly
>say "oh, it's okay" in a neutral voice
>google her name (it's on her company's website)
>discover she likes the kind of semi-obscure music to the type I like
>discover (via linkedin) that she attended a top college and was very likely privately educated and thus wealthy
>feel intimidated as I'm from a "broken home"
>weeks go by with her appearing less frequently
>she hasn't printed much off since Christmas
>she doesn't turn up for work for like two weeks
>walk to the bathroom last Friday
>she exits one of the bathrooms and I wait for her to exit a second door so I can enter (see her through the small window)
>usually we just look at each other briefly with neutral facial expressions
>both of us smile, I rarely smile like that but it's instinctive and I say "hi how're you?" and she says "Hey"
>planned to ask her out when I pass her this week
>be Monday
>filling up a glass of water in the busy office kitchen
>someone is at my side
>mutter "sorry" and move aside to let them reach the sink
>fill my glass and turn and see her standing there
>looks at me briefly with a blank expression as if to ask "what are you looking at?"
>she fills her glass and rushes to a meeting
>be Thursday
>haven't seen her since Monday
>listening to music with headphones
>hear her talking enthusiastically to an old guy who manages the office
>she says something and he says "it's a great day, the sun is out"
>she says in an energetic voice "oh, is it!?"
>get up and walk to fill up my glass of water
>return and she has left with her paper
>yesterday
>leave the bathroom and walk up towards my office
>she appears and stands at the head of the stairs to let me pass
>most people, including her female colleague, who is indifferent to me, usually says "thanks" or at least acknowledges me /anybody if I say "thanks" for letting me pass
>she stares down past me without expression
>I say "hi you alright?" (I realize it's spergy to say it twice)
>she doesn't react, just keeps staring past me without me with a blank expression then walks down
stop jerking off so much
stop watching so much porn
its THAT easy you dumb teenager
>>7721965
Probably reading less
>>7721965
Red pill:Love is a lie. There is no such thing. It's a chemical reaction in the brain that makes hairless monkeys want to procreate. If you don't get horny anymore, you have problems. But if it's just love you can't feel anymore, then you're just growing up. Kind of like realizing that Santa was a lie.
Blue pill:Stop bitching. Go to gym. Get more testosterone running in that body. Dick will come hard. Love will follow.
>>7722138
i can relate. are you a kissless virgin too?
>>7722169
No, I'm not.
>>7722173
>ree
I am 26. Two years ago my gf dumped me and since then I've been alone. I've isolated my self and all I do is work and read novels. The first year after we broke up I was full of life and willing change, be more confident and fuck whatever moved. I was disappointed after not getting results and now I don't want to leave my room
Is this normal? All I think about is making money. I've become a workaholic or something like that. I got a promotion and a big ass raise, but I still feel like a loser.
>>7722138
u sound like a creepy sperg, it's not going to end well, when u finally get the balls to ask her out you'll find out she has a big black boyfriend from some expensive college
>>7722173
i only asked because its seems like you're overthinking and overanalyzing her signals in the way i usually do, and i'm a KV
>>7722180
>normie has to live the reee lifestyle for a while
boohoo no sympathy here
>>7722184
Hmm. The first part is likely to be true, the latter not so much.
>>7721965
>rekindle my heart
>reading ebooks
plen
>>7722193
well dont say i didnt warn u when u go out to lunch with her and she drops the "my bf" bomb on u half way through ur organic salad
>>7722138
Holy fuck man, you put so much meaning into small actions. Get your head out of the weeds.
>>7722138
It doesnt seem like you did anything to offend her so Im not sure why shes acting strangly. But if youre interested in her literally just ask her out. Like we all have to do it. Its scary and hard and all that but like so what.
Next time you see her just say "Hey I was wondering would you wanna..." like its very simple if you just do it
>>7722206
she might have seen all the views from him on her linkedin or other social media, i don't have any social media but from what i understand u can see logs of the ppl who peeped ur shit and what searches they used to get there
Try being romantically aroused by males and sexually by females.
Life is hell.
>>7722214
lmao yeah I thought the same thing. Like what if she looked at his pc while he was getting water and he left her name in the google bar or something lol
>>7722205
trying to read ppls minds over little actions like dropping a piece of paper is the road to schizophrenia, i wouldnt be surprised to see mr greentext office guy get hospitalized in a few years
>>7722205
Any practical advice? I accept your observation.
>>7722206
I really don't think it's that easy. I feel I have to have a strong strategy since I only get one shot at this. I think it may be too late by now. Objectively considering the situation she is from a wealthy background, has friends who are refined and likely from a similar background, works for a guy who is only a couple of years older than we are and is wealthy, successful and popular. I have my own ambitions and don't think she will make my life rainbows and lollipops. Also as someone else said above I seem like a creepy sperg. In the workplace I'm quiet and do my work quietly without engaging in workplace banter etc. Therefore I don't have much to offer her, materially or socially. In a private conversation with me and one more person I can maintain a conversation and people I talk to privately always take a liking to me. This isn't me being braggadocios I'm just stating facts. But when I walked upstairs and her female colleague (same age) was standing there to let me pass I said "hey, thanks" and she always either smiles politely / formally or says "thanks" even though she likely thinks I'm autistic. This girl however just blanked me and pretended I wasn't even there. I mean it felt like a conscious act of hostility on her part. My (over)analysis tells me that she may have initially felt curious about me and may have identified me as a potential person she could talk to and get to know, but my perceived coldness and apparent disinterest in social affairs and so on probably implied to her that I think nothing more of her than I do anybody else I don't work with and that I'm just some boring predictable autist with no social skills. I mean I was all hyped up on friday to stop her and say "hey, I hope this isn't innapropriate but would you like to go out with me some time?" but that look she gave (didn't give) me just deflated me. Goddamn.
>>7722251
>works for a guy who is only a couple of years older than we are and is wealthy, successful and popular
she is fucking this man, and u sir r out of luck, stay cucked
>>7722226
I'm not a diagnosed schizophrenic and I don't have many schizophrenic tendencies or thought patterns. But really I mean if it was me hoping to get the attention / gauge the interest of a girl I liked who sat near a printer and didn't seem to notice me and who had an electric fan pointing in their direction then allowing a piece of paper to accidentally float onto their desk so that they could turn and see me and react with an emotion which revealed how they felt towards me would be a good idea.
>>7722251
>I mean I was all hyped up on friday to stop her and say "hey, I hope this isn't innapropriate but would you like to go out with me some time?" but that look she gave (didn't give) me just deflated me. Goddamn.
wait hold the fuck up u god damn nerd, ur going to ask her out, without any specific event in mind no less, without ever having any conversations with her? and somehow u think she doesn't have a bf? dude, this is not going to end well, just telling u now.
>>7722265
do u know how to read greentext u fucking reddit piece of shit? the girl dropped the paper, not our autistic stalker
>>7722267
Why isn't it? There are so few opportunities to have a conversation with her that I felt a direct, frank approach was necessary. It would involve a risk on my part and I feel that she, as a somewhat quiet and sensitive-seeming individual, would at least recognize that I was risking humiliation by asking her. In the recent past a girl told me in a sad voice, after I told her that I didn't have a girlfriend, that I didn't "try hard enough". She had a crush on me but was dating a guy I knew at the time, who I could've probably cucked but I didn't want to. Also I'm a very quiet person and the workplace is quit busy, silent and formal so me following her to the coffee machine and saying "howdy what's your name!" or some small talk would be so obvious as an affected enthusiasm on my part that I can only imagine she would cringe. I was going to ask her out and then suggest we go for a walk together one Sunday afternoon since we're sitting down all day at work.
>>7722272
I am the guy who wrote the greentext and whose post you're replying. Also I'm not stalking her in any sense. I don't even have facebook to look her up on there.
>>7722251
>I really don't think it's that easy.
It is.
> I feel I have to have a strong strategy since I only get one shot at this.
You dont.
Thinking that way is stupid, Ive done it. And like you said "it might already be too late" or whatever, thats because you think that it has to be planned out. Just go with your gut, you want to talk to her and get to know her so do it.
Youre not a sperg weirdo for wanting to talk to a girl or finding her interesting stop letting a 4chan joke meme buzzword describe you.
Also have some fucking confidence. Who cares if youre not rich or didnt go to a nice school, or arent popular. As long as you entertain someone, pay attention to them, and show interest then they will most likely be interest back. Women, and men for that matter, arent as shallow as you think.
Most people dont realize that its not everyone else that cuts them off its them cutting everyone else off.
Idk what her deal was and neither do you. But theres a good chance she was interested in you and because you dilly dallied she thought you didnt care and shes being cold.
Im telling you if you just muster up some courage and say what you wanted to say it will be fine. The worst that could happen is she says no and she prints less. Youd move on, learn a valuable lesson on carpe diem and the company saves money on ink. Win win at the end of the day
>>7722278
why don't u ask her about her fucking job first? what is she printing? who is she printing it for? blah blah blah, then even if she disses ur date idea u still got some extra organizational information, then if she's friendly to u about it, ask her some other shit...moreover, don't ask her for a date on the weekend, ask her to go get lunch with you during work somewhere local, then u can pry into her personal life and find out about her bf's 10 inch dick
>>7722282
bro stop being a fucking egomaniac, you never even talking to her for 10 seconds yet u think her whole world revolves around u, maybe her boss just yelled at her right before u passed her in the hall, or some crude black guy was yelling shit about her ass on her way to work and now she's pissed, who knows, maybe it had nothing to do with u
>>7722288
What about this guy >>7722267 who seems to think I'm a huge spaghetti-spilling-from-his-fannypack sperg for even considering this? Confidence and assertiveness is one thing, but I understand that in my case it may seem just creepy and desperate.
>Idk what her deal was and neither do you. But theres a good chance she was interested in you and because you dilly dallied she thought you didnt care and shes being cold.
This comforts me but (for whatever reason, narcissism, class warfare or fear of rejection etc) I really don't want to see her again and say "hey have a nice day" or something entry-level like that and have her just stare at me and smile in a patronizing way or say "hey" in an "Oh jeez please don't make this awkward" kind of way. Also she is already printing less. I barely see her any more. But thank you. I am pretty much living the Bernardo Soares experience right now and although daydreaming and fantasy is fine the walls keep caving in and it sucks to be confronted with reality.
>>7722138
jesus fuck i saw you in /adv/ as well atop asking us you sperg
>>7721965
Congratulations, you're a man now! You're free! You are as god now, if you could only see it.
Seriously, falling in love is a total drain on your life. Now you can smash pussy if that's what you want to do, or you can be careful and deliberate about selecting a wife if that's what you want. Rushing into selecting a wife (falling in love, whatever) is the absolute worst way to deal with women.
>>7722304
If every single person lived by that guys logic there would be a lot less couples in the world. Theres nothing wrong with just asking someone out without knowing them. Though >>7722295
makes a good point, say hey would you wanna grab lunch or something or ask her questions if you feel like you need to introduce yourself first.
and listen to >>7722302 as well. For all we know her looking at you weirdly could have nothing to do with you.
Theres no sense in daydreaming and fantasizing about something you can do. Shes been within your reach you just didnt take the chance.
Also you shouldnt be scared of rejection, if it happens it happens and it will hurt less next time it happens
>>7722295
Because when I'm sitting there doing work I can't just spin around and say (in a voice everybody will hear) "hey what are you printing?". Also she's been working here way too long for me to ask about her job.
Also for context. A guy in a nearby company asked a female colleague of mine out within like two weeks of us moving to this office. She said no but it's forgotten now, but still. I mean when we pass what can I say? Usually it's from a distance and I adopt a pose of non-betaness (looking her in the eyes, not giving the "white guy" smile) but it probably just seems like vague scrutiny to her. Also the people in her company don't talk to the people in mine. Just last week her female colleague came to ask for technical support from one of the tech people and as she was leaving he said "excuse me, I don't know your name". So it's not as if any casual display of intrigue on my part will be normal given the context.
>>7722302
I don't think her world revolves around me, apologies if I framed it that way. I suppose I'm just scraping for signs that she may have been interested in me at some point. But for a Friday afternoon it was strange how she just blanked me completely despite the fact that the day before she had this lively, enthusiastic conversation like three feet away from my desk with this old guy. I really do feel she was drawing some line she hoped I would respect or something, but maybe that's just insecurity on my part.
>>7722328
dude u sound creepy as fuck, if i had identified someone like that in my org i would get them fired before some shit hits the fan, last year some creepy sperg was contacting all the girls on social media and asking them queer shit about their zodiac and if they were "romantically compatible" luckily he left voluntarily without forcing the issue
>>7722319
My questions change as the context changes.
>>7722323
What is the likely outcome in your opinion if I, as a quiet and private individual who keeps a distance between himself and other people, ask this girl out and receives a surprised, awkward "ummm, no thank you", and then tells her colleagues (who also visit my office daily) and they start thinking or perhaps fearing that I'm some unhinged obsessive sperg? I attended a shitty highschool and became very introverted to the point where I had zero close friends for quite some time and was generally viewed as a sort of unpredictable sperg who should either be pitied or ignored. I'm not trying to justify any cowardice on my part but I have this image of myself as a weird creepy unlovable guy and it is very hard for me to talk to anyone without thinking they sense this or will sense this if I don't adopt some sort of careful post. Girls have liked me in the recent past which gives me confidence but still I suppose I am extremely self-loathing and repressive because of it. I hope I'm not a narcissist and I believe I accept the lived experiences of others not to qualify as one, but it scares me to think I'll be like this forever.
>>7722357
See this is what makes me not want to communicate sincerely with anybody. How am I creepy in that post? I am trying to provide relevant context in the hope the advice people are kindly giving me will be accurate and informed. I'm not like the guy you're describing. I would never reach out to people like that. There is a guy I work with who spams my inbox with ~2,000 word emails about time travel and string theory and stuff like that but I don't think I'm like him at all. I feel I am self-aware, despite the autism I may seem to suffer from, I just overthink things and allow my mental disposition to influence my perceived reality, especially re: the motivations of others.
>>7722328
>I can't just spin around and say (in a voice everybody will hear) "hey what are you printing?".
but u can spin around and ask "want to have a long walk on the beach with me this sunday?"
lmao oh god
>>7722322
>>7722374
I wasn't planning to spin around and say that, I was planning to pass her in the hallway as we sometimes do and (one she had passed, not to block her way) say "hey, sorry if this is inappropriate (thus showing that I am self-aware and not creepy), would you like to go out with me sometime?"
And if she said no I'd smile and say "ok, I understand" and leave her alone, and if she said yes well then I had a plan ready for what we'd do. I had a girlfriend in 2014 and she still texts me sometimes asking to catch up etc, so it's not as if I'm some literal aspergic weirdo stuttering over every girl I pass in the hope they'll be my pure waifu.
>>7722387
well try it and see what happens, probably just be some shit like "oh, sorry, my boyfriend tyreese is coming down from yale for the weekend, so i can't"
>>7722402
on the other hand if she really is fucking the young charismatic guy who is your and her boss, then ur fucking dead meat, lol
>>7722362
I think youre looking into it too much and for some reason youre expecting them to think that stuff about you. As long as youre good looking and youre not being weird about it its whatever dude.
>>7722387
No to "would you like to go out with me" more casual, "Hey would you wanna go get lunch or would you wanna grab some coffee after work?"
>>7722138
>printer is right beside me
>but behind me
where is the printer, asshole? is it orbiting around you?
>>7722406
Asking to go for coffee after work just isn't my sort of thing. I mean I realize it's practical advice and probably quite common but from me it would just seem like I'd read it on a pick-up site or something like that. Also sitting down in a crowded place for even longer after a long day at work with someone who may or not be autistic would probably seem like a bad experience in the making. I was going to say "some time" so that she wouldn't feel too pressured, and if she said "sure" I could then suggest a walk (I really do think a walk is a good idea, I really like walking and think it's a nice public setting in which to exchange private thoughts and so on).
But this is likely to happen next week:
I am working at my pc. She enters briefly to grab something from the printer.
1. Here I can turn my head and notice her vaguely then double-round (like someone doing a double-take in a cartoon) to look at her until she looks at me, with the intention of seeing if she smiles and what that smile communicates.
OR
I pass her on my way back from lunch or from the bathroom and she again waits for me to climb the stairwell:
2. I can say "hey how're you?" which isn't really a question which demand an answer and is more like an elaborate "hello", while smiling in the hope she responds with something.
3. I can say something else (what?)
4. I can ask her female colleague and friend if she thinks "her colleague" ("oh X?") would mind me asking her to go out sometime, in the hope that news filters to her colleague who can at least ask herself how she feels about me should her colleague tell me "I don't think she's looking to date anybody right now" or something like that to sort of soften the blow.
>>7722421
It's right behind me but it's a large printer and to use it a person would be standing effectively behind me, outside of peripheral vision, requiring me to turn approximately 300 degrees (which just isn't a movement I can justify) to look at her.
>>7722441
lmao holy shit i feel like a full blown normie reading this asspained bullshit lmao
>>7722447
>requiring me to turn approximately 300 degrees
how in the fuck can u possibly turn more than 180 degrees to look at something? if it's past 180 degrees turn the other fucking way dummy
>>7722450
How is it asspained? I mean if this was highschool or college I can see how this would seem autistic but it's a very pressured and formal environment in which a smile is often just a police and professional means of communicating a desire for a mutually pleasant work experience without implying any erotic or romantic attraction.
>>7722454
My bad, I mean like 65 - 70 degrees then. I use a swivel chair.
>>7722441
>Here I can turn my head and notice her vaguely then double-round (like someone doing a double-take in a cartoon) to look at her
dude you just went full r9k
>>7722456
wait a minute, is this whole shit a big troll? ok u got me, damn, i gotta stop reading this site, ur sincerely a master ruseman, shit
>>7722441
Ok sure scratch the coffee.
Again, youre kinda planning it out a lot which is pretty normal because I do it all the time so telling you not to is hypocritical but whatever.
Regardless, going in the the mindset that if this situation arises then Ill do it is good i guess. My favorite is 4 to be honest. Do you know any of her colleagues on a personal level? or anyone at all thats associated with her because if so what you said would be perfect.
Or just finally talk to her when she prints like you said
>>7722462
I don't mean I'd do it as fast as people do it in a cartoon, I just mean I'd feign an initial vague and disinterested glance and then feign a specific emotional impulse to turn around and notice her again, thus communicating to her subtly that there was something about her lacking in everybody else that drew my attention and so on.
>>7722467
I am not trolling.
>>7722471
I don't know any of her colleagues, and most are in their late 30s. Her female colleague is also our age but is clearly as indifferent towards me as my colleagues. I have some evidence to suggest she thinks I'm aspergic but really I don't dwell on it. I feel like asking her would also communicate to the girl I'm hopefully asking out that I can get on well with her colleagues and that I'm not trying to trap her in some pit of despair that I myself currently occupy alone. Also the printer option is just too unreliable considering that she has gone from printing things pretty much one-to-three times a day to not even coming in to make coffee in the mornings any more. She used to enter the office with her female colleague to make coffee together and sometimes they'd talk and seem goofy, but things seemed to have cooled over on all fronts.
Are there literally any females lurking right now willing to give some advice?
>>7722480
Please stop saying aspergic and autism. No one in the real world thinks about people as being walking bumbling autistic fedoras.
>>7722490
I'm translating the word "creepy" into "autistic" for the sake of respecting the parlance of the board.
>a woman will never truly surprise you
>a woman will never stun your misogyny into shamed silence
>you will never try to grab onto a woman's soul and be frustrated and surprised at how small you are compared to it, and how impossible it would be actually to encompass it
>you will never fascinatedly but begrudgingly content yourself with at least being near to her if you can never possess and enclose her
>you will always be the flame that stupid tiny vagina moths flock to, or at worst a flame never lit, but either way they will still be boring puny moths
>you will never actually feel awe for a woman and complete your dick's yearning for a transcendent experience
>your in-built worship for mythic feminine majesty will always come face-to-face with the disappointingly small reality of actual women-in-the-world, like plato glancing back and forth between the cosmic travel brochure's glittering image of a monument's ideal form and its embedded reality in material existence, a kitschy bauble covered in pissant graffiti and surrounded by fat americans with sweaty necks
>>7722138
>this level of autism
how
>>she smiles the same cute wide smile and says she mustn't have secured it properly
>reply with "it's alright. so what are you printing anyway?"
>talk
>???
>>google her name (it's on her company's website)
You just fuck it up for yourself whenever you do this.
>that last part
Are you sure you aren't just daydreaming or a schizophrenic?
>>7722502
>last part
What part exactly? Also no this is all an accurate depiction of what happened.
How is this autistic? I want to make a good first impression and plan things properly before I embarrass myself or waste her or my own time.
And yes I agree that I should have talked to her previously but I didn't and that's my fault. I unironically accept that. I just want to know whether there is literally any point me doing anything about it now or whether this particular shit has long sailed.
>>7722441
>then double-round (like someone doing a double-take in a cartoon)
LITERALLY DID PIC RELATED
Thank you for these posts anon, feel better about myself now.
>>7722497
Dammit, and I was having a good day.
I experienced all this, and then she went off the rails and became disgusting. I hate my brain for conceiving of something better than what exists.
>>7722514
Any genuine advice intended for my benefit would be greatly appreciated.
>>7722513
>What part exactly? Also no this is all an accurate depiction of what happened.
That she was just standing and staring out into nothing, ignoring you completely.
Autistic because everything you've written is in excruciating detail over tiny events and actions.
>I want to make a good first impression and plan things properly before I embarrass myself or waste her or my own time.
What is your definition of a good first impression?
No ship has sailed just yet, my good spergfriend.
>>7722513
She probably found out you are a creep who google her instead of talking.
>22
>mainly interested in other peoples girlfriends
help me
how do i into single women?
>>7722532
She was staring into nothing. I may have been guilty of doing something similar, though if she ever said anything to me I'd have at least acknowledged her. I walked up the stairwell, notice she was waiting for me to pass and then took two steps in my stride. As I approached I looked up and noticed her gazing without expression (or with a serious expression at least) past me. As I was three or so steps away, about to stride past, I said "hey, you alright?" in an admittedly quick way that may have not sounded like a sincere question but which sounded at least like a casual "hey", but she ran her tongue over her top teeth without opening her mouth and stared by as if not noticing me and then walked down the stairwell.
>>7721965
Just fuck dudes
>>7722541
Read "Journey to the End of the Night" and stop worrying.
>>7722542
>but she ran her tongue over her top teeth without opening her mouth and stared by as if not noticing me and then walked down the stairwell.
Anon why are you making up stories on a Tibetan masonry tutorial service?
>>7722554
>Tibetan masonry tutorial service
Tone it down or I'll go Bardo Thodol on your ass.
>>7722532
Also I really do hope no ship has sailed, but if I was a girl I think my ideal partner would be so attracted to me that despite any mental problems he would possess the strong will and ambition and assertiveness to just overcome that and approach me. If I was curious about a guy and made subtle attempts to make conversation and he just acted cold and indifferent with occasional signs that he was curious about me in a detached sort of way I think I'd just be turned off eventually and see him as some sort of sexless weirdo who is either too shy and cowardly to approach me or so indifferent towards me that I should direct my affection to a more suitable mate.
My definition of a good impression is seeing someone for the first time, as in looking into their eyes and their looking into mine, and acknowledging some impulsive attraction towards them while also noticing that they are attractive, somewhat well-dressed and possess a "look" in their eye which suggests some depth or liveliness instead of superficial enjoyment or a sort of stolid gaze. But really I've already given her my first impression and ever since then I can only imagine her mental image of me, or the collection of thoughts and emotions associated with my name triggering her brain into identifying me as she would some abstract concept, would not be a fond one and would probably be indifferent at best at this point.
>>7722564
>Bardo Thodol
Is that a character from your unpublished novella about a man who wakes up one morning with a plastic knob on the back of his head?
>>7722554
I am not. She didn't do it seductively, and her mouth was closed. It was like she was staring blankly into space just idly running her tongue over her teeth and pretending I wasn't there.
>>7722125
Chapter IVA?
>>7722569
Good thing you're not a girl so you don't have to know what you would think. So don't.
It isn't like you puked on her or something, your "first impression" is basically non-existent still. If you actually ended up talking to her, and she liked you, she wouldn't care about the few interactions beforehand. Obviously if you're a total sperg and off-key on jokes and so on, you'll just solidify the minor awkwardness you've done so far. And honestly it sounds like you're quite a weirdo, yes offence. I can't imagine what you'd be like in person based off your posts so far, they're all so surrealistic.
>>7722571
>what is Google
>>7722588
Well what do you suggest I do?
>>7722288
By Far bst post ITT
>>7722589
I googled him but still made the post, because you know, fuck me for trying to mess around.
>>7722593
Talk to her. Next time she comes in to print something, ask her about something, doesn't really matter what*
>"hey did you see Deadpool?"
>"yes/no, why?"
>"oh I thought it looked interesting but not sure if I'd actually want to go see it"
*no autistic questions
Crime and Punishment
>>7722617
But isn't all of 4chan really just r9k?
Hopeless Romantic Anon can I add you on social media or something? I need to know how this ends
>>7722625
>Hopeless Romantic Anon
who are you referring to?
>>7722621
'lonely weirdo' =/= /r9k/.
>>7722628
Very Descriptive Anon That Loves Office Worker*
>>7722615
There is zero opportunity for me to talk to her in the printer scenario now, since she only comes in rarely and to quickly pick something up and leave. She used to loiter but no more. If she comes in I will make a point of noticing her and smiling, though my "neutral" smile involves me pressing my lips together which may appear to people as the "white guy" smile (pic related), i.e. either expressing insecurity on my part or a general disinterest in genuinely expressing any emotion towards them or something.
This is why my idea was now to just stop her and quite frankly ask her (without being all smiley and cutesy, but also not too seriously or sort of intensely) asking her if she'd be interested in going out some time. I know it'll probably shock her regardless of how she thinks of me if she does indeed think of me or has thought of me at all, but still it's my only remaining idea. I would ask this after we have passed so I'm not like physically cornering / blocking her.
>>7722402
Nigga You Are fucking obsessed with Nigger Dicks. Every Single post of YoUrs ITT is about cuckolding or about Tyreese/Tyrone/Ten Inch Dicks
What the FUCK is wrong with you? Get a grip you cockmunching faggot, Jesus Christ
This is what happens when people take polack memes seriouslz
>>7722625
I don't have social media but I'll post another thread on here or on /adv/ if you would like should I go ahead and do something.
>>7722634
Do I really come across as a weirdo? Also I'm not all that lonely, in the sense that I have my own private ambitions which takes up a lot of my time and I'm not looking for any girl to go out with me, this girl just caught my eye and makes me feel excited about her existence in a way I don't feel all that often.
>>7722645
>If she comes in I will make a point of noticing her and smiling
Why not just talk to her?
>though my "neutral" smile involves me pressing my lips together which may appear to people as the "white guy" smile (pic related), i.e. either expressing insecurity on my part or a general disinterest in genuinely expressing any emotion towards them or something.
Then don't do that, you god damn autist. Do you come to /lit/ regularly? I can't imagine someone being like this while still being interested in /lit/-related subjects.
>This is why my idea was now to just stop her and quite frankly ask her (without being all smiley and cutesy, but also not too seriously or sort of intensely) asking her if she'd be interested in going out some time.
I give up. Good luck with whatever you do. And don't drop the soap when you're inside.
>>7722656
>Do I really come across as a weirdo?
No, people are just assholes and are gonna hope on your case no matter what. Remember where you are lol.
>>7722497
Had all the 'You Will Nevers' happen to me. Try harder you fucking loser. Life isn't for quitters.
>>7722664
>Why not just talk to her?
I've already explained. I'd have to turn 160 degrees and then find some reason to say grab her attention before she picks up the piece of paper quickly and leaves. If I do all my colleagues will notice and due to the silence of the workplace they will then hear me spill my spaghetti as she stands there confused and embarrassed. It's too public. It's like proposing marriage in a busy mall.
>disinterest in genuinely expressing any emotion towards them or something.
Then don't do that, you god damn autist. Do you come to /lit/ regularly? I can't imagine someone being like this while still being interested in /lit/-related subjects.
I am one of the board's more frequent posters, I imagine.
>And don't drop the soap when you're inside.
But why would doing this lead to my imprisonment?
>>7722675
But the feedback seems overwhelmingly to insist that I am an aspergic creep who should have made small talk and realized she was out of my league. I posted this on /adv/ a bunch of times and the response was similar to this thread, a mixture of autism accusations with some people telling me to just do it and ask her out already.
>>7722692
Then try as I suggested and say hey when she enters and ask her some whatever question.
>I am one of the board's more frequent posters, I imagine.
Strange.
>But why would doing this lead to my imprisonment?
Because you sound like a creep and you might end up locked inside if you tried to pull off something you thought was good or "safe" and then in reality it's like you assaulted her.
Do you think she is out of your league? And you said earlier ITT you're not a kissless virgin? I don't understand who or what you are.
>>7722692
then why haven't you JUST DONE IT instead of posting autistically here until the end of days
she'll probably say no but nobody goddamn cares. Your coworkers don't care, she won't care, nobody will fucking care. This isn't highschool. You're boring compared to other people and no one will gossip about you, because nobody fucking cares. Asking people out isn't some rare do or die scenario like hollywood makes it out to be, it's a smalltime human interaction.
You're paralyzed by your fear of some social ostracization failure state but NOBODY CARES IF YOU FAIL BUT YOU
fuck!
>>7722717
I am not a kissless virgin, I just spend a lot the vast majority of my time alone, often thinking or analysing and so on, which leads to my communication with the outside world (i.e. /lit/) to appear as some aspergic slash schizophrenic rant about a reality perceived poorly on my part. I understand how I may come across as a creep, and I know people who are quiet and sort of oddly distant (as if they realize they are being oddly distant but still act that way) are viewed as creepy. Which is why I guess my pose of indifference is so stubbornly upheld, in that by taking care of my appearance and appearing not to notice subtleties in speech and behaviour I won't be seen as someone who observes all of this but does nothing in response to it, or who is thinking and thinking about something in a way that would be perceived as disproportionate to the thing that was observed.
>Do you think she is out of your league?
In terms of appearance perhaps, but I don't think so. The girls who have been attracted to me in the past several years were often very good looking, and the girl I dated in 2014 was "hot" in a culturally-validated sense though I really wasn't attracted physically to her as much as I would have been had I not been so lonely. This girl however is exactly my type, and my instincts tell me that I am not far from away from being the type of guy she is attracted to. She is however from a background I simply have no experience with and her attitudes, dispositions, aspirations and perceived norms may therefore differ rather extremely from my own, and she may very well demand more of her life and of herself and her prospective partner than some quiet dude who can't introduce her to an interesting group of people and doesn't aspire for a sated "ironically rural" life and travelling to Europe on holiday to eat cheese and do that sort of thing. I have nothing against those things but it just isn't me at all. Which is why I'm being careful about expressing my interest, as this isn't some college fling and if I "make a move" it will have to be with the full intent of investing seriously perhaps in a different way of living and so on.
>>7722746
You're very strange. And I don't know what to tell you. You are who you are.
>>7722725
The reason I haven't just done it, besides the fact that the opportunities to do so have become rare, is that she blanked me on Friday when I was intending to ask her out and that many people on 4chan think this whole thing is just one big exercise in autism on my part.
>>7722752
Strange in a pejorative sense?
>>7722278
you seem apathetic. why even ask her out?
>>7722760
Yes. But I have to admit, if I met you in real life or one of my friends described you to me, I would want to meet you and mess with you, to try and see how far I could push your social ineptitude. I'm not trying to imply I'm some kind of Don Juan or king of social shit, but people like you are interesting. And that's interesting in the "I want to experiment with you" not "I think you're an interesting person and want you in my life".
>>7722746
>it will have to be with the full intent of investing seriously
you don't even know if this woman has a boyfriend
You don't know a goddamn thing about her
You're counting your chickens before they hatch
you're projecting your anima onto something you have merely skin-deep knowledge of
you're agonizing over imaginary data because you haven't lifted a finger to acquire any data at all because you're not willing to learn superficial things, you want to skip that and get straight to soul-mate tier
frankly I think your eternal delay is because you like the idea of a meaningful and important relationship with someone who understands you, and this girl is just a convenient coat hook to hang your fantasies on. You don't actually give a rat's ass about her, you just like attaching her face to your effort-free fantasy, or you would have asked her out to coffee to get to know her or something.
>but I don't like coffee!
so fucking what, tell her that over coffee and then worry about making real and true connections with her once you've ascertained whether or not she's remotely interested in you
>>7722761
I'd like to ask her out because as pathetic as this seems I am pretty lonely and talking to someone who I could potentially care for and who would potentially care about me in return, and who I find beautiful both physically and potentially as a human being whose life experiences and reactions to these experiences has formed in them a certain perspective and set of beliefs and an appreciation of beauty in others would allow me to experience the sort of "love" that most of the songs I listen to are written about, many of the movies, many of the books etc. I've never experienced that. Even with the girl I dated in 2014 there was too much between us to really call it anything but a one-sided relationship pretty much dictated by her (in the sense that I pretty much was apathetic towards her, despite talking at length and so on). I consider myself to be a very sensitive person, despite my apparent narcissism and whatever. I did not enjoy my childhood and my youth appears to have ended with only a sort of stoic stubbornness as compensation for my lack of real immediate positive memories. I've accepted all that but really a life spent this way doesn't appeal to me. Perhaps my hesitancy is down to some apathy on my part, but if so it's a learned apathy and the result of a long, gradual detachment from a world I once really enjoyed being a part of and which appeared to yield to my aspirations because of my optimism and good humour. I don't loathe myself in an emotional way all that much, but I do frequently ask myself why it is love seems like something I am simply incapable of expecting from another person despite my earnest, passionate desire to love another person and treat them in a way they yearn for someone to treat them.
>OP here
>This thread
So no book eh?
>>7722773
I don't think that's a very king thing to say, or a very nice perspective to have about other people, but I understand I suppose why you might think that way about me.
>>7722784
I appreciate your post and I do think yours is a valid observation. I described my life earlier in the thread as "Bernardo Soares tier" and I wasn't doing so to sound smart, as I genuinely think I may be so detached from the world and so invested in fantasy and daydreams at this point that I am close to becoming content simply imagining an ideal relationship and incapable of appreciating any of the things I imagine should they take place in real life due to my detachment.
>>7722645
>If she comes in I will make a point of noticing her and smiling, though my "neutral" smile involves me pressing my lips together which may appear to people as the "white guy" smile
I've read this before....
Page 1 of Infinite Jest
>I believe I appear neutral, maybe even pleasant, though I've been coached to err on the side of neutrality and not attempt what would feel to me like a pleasant expression or smile.
Knew it. You're a fraud my good man, but you made me lol heartily so good for you.
The 300 degrees vs 180 degree bit made me laugh the hardest.
read heartiste and become redpilled
>>7722814
if anything this proves that DFW was a genius that understood us robots
>>7722814
I didn't take it from Infinite Jest. My neutral smile is just potentially strange to people as it communicates no clear emotion or sentiment etc.
>>7722797
The Sun Also Rises.
>inb4 >penis
>>7722800
Of course, but then again I don't consider myself being a part of "people" so I don't really have any qualms about messing around or having those views in the first place.
The funniest thing is you seem completely oblivious to how incredibly off-putting your posts are so far. Your behavior with the girl is the behavior of someone who is shy or doesn't care, when in reality you're just bizarre as fuck. I mean I really cannot even comprehend what kind of person you are. Do you even use body language?
>>7721965
play some visual novels m9
>>7722809
>and I do think yours is a valid observation.
of course it's validI'm the same way senpai
>>7722856
Do you have any advice as to what I should do? I'm reading every post.
>>7722219
there are others like me?
>>7721965
>Hey /lit/, I've lost my ability to fall in love with girls/women for over a year now...
if you're a faggot then you can go to straight-therapy, molest a child and go to prison, or kill yourself.
Not much in between.
>>7721965
Schopenhauer, you'll stop being disappointed with them, and see them as they are.
>>7722864
If you're looking for someone who will understand you, I think you need to focus 100% on honesty, never lying or acting falsely because you want to fit in with people. People will either avoid you for it, which is good, pointless to hang out with people who don't appreciate you. Or they'll appreciate you and become more honest themselves, or perhaps point you towards others who may share your aesthetic/emotional/etcetera sensibilities.
Though to amend that, I feel like it's a waste of time to reach out to everyone. You work in a post office or something? Statistically, a fellow mind will not be found amongst your coworkers. And so you must leave your tired paths, and go to, I dunno, opera houses or gaming stores or wherever your interests lie. Talking to strangers honestly may be painful, but if you never let down your drawbridge, every interaction becomes a siege.
And definitely be honest with yourself. Are you talking to someone because there's something that makes you think they are a kindred soul, or are you talking to them because they are well-groomed and symmetrical?
I think finding friendships, real friendships not the passing drinking acquaintances that pass for friendship in modern culture, is something to pursue with unashamed tenacity. Having a true friend will open opportunities, whereas pursuing some phantom dream of a 'perfect relationship' is a chase spurred on by the hounds of society and libido, rather than an informed search for happiness.
>>7722138
>17 years old
>Gets mopey because a qt stopped being interested in him
>Says that *several* girls have found him attracted
>Says he can't love.
Jesus christ you're insufferable. Get out more and stop being such a psudo-depressed faggot.
>>7722138
>work in a small office in central NY
Where, fag? I'll come beat some sense into your sissy ass.
>All this autism
Thanks for the laugh
>>7722513
the shit will sail into the fan if you try to say anything to her
>>7721965
Have fun :^)
>>7723073
>not his salvation
>not the fire inside
One job, anon
>>7723087
His salvation was shit and I haven't read the fire inside yet but it's not a romance so your retarded
>>7722653
dude, the last chick i fucked was like a fine 8/10 tier sister, and black dudes looked at me like they wanted to fucking kill me, so i figure it must work the other way around, when he finds out she has a black boyfriend, and not some thuggy "black douchebag" but a guy from a good school who is cultured and indie, he's gonna fucking off himself
>>7723073
>that may rekindle my heart
>posts Jaded
Well played, well played
>>7723094
I did, it definetly has some romantic elements sprinkled through there
>>7723155
>>wannabe Nora Roberts
>wannabe
She's far better than Roberta and you know all know it
>>7723237
>Roberta
>far better than
fuck off
>>7722797
this'n
or just become the girl you dunce
Lolita
>thread became a normalfag circlejerk with zero books
Bravo /lit/
>>7723481
Great job, Sherlock.
>>7723073
Actually this is a pretty good suggestion, most women are terrible and shows you how to love them regardless, like Gone Girl.
>>7721965
Tate no Yuusha no Nariagari, not even kidding. You're already in the process of awakening to the truth, why stop now? go all the way in.
Women are stupid and unimportant. Girlfriends are overrated and are pretty much nothing but fuckboxes for all they bring to the table.
>>7722795
you need to make friends first. you aren't ready for a relationship of this sort.
>>7721965
Try this book OP !
>>7721965
where is that guys jaw
I kinda want to chase after a women like mitya and grusenka but that would be stalkery nowadays
>>7724317
you don't need a jaw when you've got a gun
>>7722387
>sorry if this is inappropriate (thus showing that I am self-aware and not creepy)
Replace this with something else. It just draws attention to a potential problem.
>>7724491
Yeah I don't need to chew my food I just shoot it repeatedly until it's in easy-to-digest chunks.
>>7724563
nice i just spit my dip into a bowl with my food in it then pistol whip it repeatedly until it's a paste
it's the same thing as chewing when you really think about it
>>7724559
What can I replace it with?
Surely it just communicates to her that I'm self-aware and that I realize my asking her might seem strange, therefore communicating also that I know I'm risking a lot by asking her out in this fashion.
>>7722072
>she just stared past me and didn't respond.
Girls do this all the time, particularly with guys they like. They really go overboard to pretend you're not on their radar. At least I think that I'm not sure. The girls who don't like you at all will do the same thing. They go out of their way to be unscrutable.
I was in a dairy with my girl at the time and she decided against getting tea last minute and I said to the indian dairy guy 'women are a mystery'. And his wife behind him said 'no they aren't.'
>>7724593
>"hey, I like you, would you like to go out with me sometime?"
Just be honest: ask your question and state its motivation (so it doesn't seem completely out of the blue). The rest is up to her, though I agree with >>7722406 that you should probably try something more casual first, e.g. lunch or coffee.
>muh self-awareness
Sure, it may communicate that you're self-aware and possess other fancy qualities, but I think it does more harm than good. You implicitly make yourself appear more attractive if you leave it out, because a prototypical attractive person wouldn't worry about such trifles as being mildly inappropriate. Don't be ashamed of your feelings.
>>7721965
willy t. vollmann's 'whores for gloria' should do the trick
>>7722894
no there's not. You are literally the only person like that on the entire world. Within billions of people, there's noone like you.
>>7721965
Notes from Underground
>>7725141
Ok. Nice attitude.
>>7721965
How to say THH in English?
>>7725148
There is zero point in a quiet introvert from a shit-tier family approaching a girl who is from a comfy upper class background who has many friends from that background and many opportunities to date from a huge pool of men.
I think I might have fallen in love for the first time in my life yesterday but I'm not sure since I got hugely drunk and I'm spending the day vomiting every half an hour.
I didn't even ask her the number, I don't know how to see her again.
>>7722441
>21st century men
Just fucking tell her what you want to tell her, faggot.
>>7725262
What's it got to do with the 21st century? I don't want to creep this girl out and have her be scared of me or something.
>>7725316
What the fuck are you talking about? Do you even read what you type? Why would a girl be scared if you asked her out?
21st century men are faggots afraid of anything.
>>7725374
Because I've never had a conversation with her before and have adopted a pose of indifference towards her. To suddenly stop her in the hallway at our shared workplace and ask her out is likely to make her and her colleagues suspect that my detachment and quiet disposition is evidence of some creepy obsessiveness on my part if she rejects me.
I mean last Friday, before Valentine's weekend, was the most "open" we've ever been, with both of us smiling (me a big goofy genuine smile) and me saying "hey, are you alright" and her saying "hey". But maybe she was just happy because it was Friday, or because she was being polite, or because she had a date lined up for the weekend, or perhaps she suspected that the fact I only said hey suggested I was only happy for those reasons (i.e. that I had a date or something) and that her passing by was of no consequence to me.
It's a major turning point in my self-identity to stop this girl, whose latest conduct towards me involved pretty much blanking me in a way I perceived as consciously hostile (maybe my autism), and ask her to go out sometime, knowing as I do that she is from a background which is so filled with potential (material and otherwise) that I feel like Travis Bickle storming into that building and asking out the girl in Taxi Driver (even though she said yes I mean how likely is that in real life? and what did Travis have to offer her anyway?)
>>7725374
Because they consistently get called creeps or shunned or sued for rape, real or not. We have every right to be afraid of women and their irrationality.
would anyone believe me if i said i have her nudes? she lives in donegal and used to talk to me when she was 17-18. joanna kuchta.
>>7725545
It's not totally far-fetched, sure.
>>7725555
she is famous as fuck now on social media, but before all that she found me attractive and hit me up when she seen i live in NI. asked me to come to donegal to fuck her because her boyfriend at the time wasnt good at sex. lied about my age because i was younger, she never found out and thought i was telling the truth.
>mfw all these fuckboys in my school asked me why she followed me on instagram
>i had like 30 followers and never posted a single photo, meanwhile she has hundreds of thousands of followers
>>7725575
Do you have Antonella's nudes too?
>>7725594
is that messi's wife? unfortunately not, hopefully the long lens of the paparazzi will bless us while she is still in season.
>>7725545
w8n for the deliver bruh bruh
>>7725575
You could have been famous lad
>>7725420
No one said you have to say "hi, you wanna go out with me?". Talk with her for when you have the chance and at the end of the chat tell you you'd like to her outside of work in some way, like ask her if she wants to have a coffee or something. If you invite her to walk in the park you are retarded because that's something couples do, not strangers.
You are pretty retarded for someone who plans everything.
>>7725575
What a slut.
Shame he publicly.
>>7722138
Holy fuck nigga go talk to girls and stop focusing. You sound so fucking weird.
>>7722180
you're probably a little depressed.
>>7722214
>u can see logs
explain
>>7722267
>ur going to ask her out, without any specific event in mind no less
That's not too hard. Coffee date is a great first date. Just fucking ask someone to get coffee. Then you both just walk around and talk.
>>7722328
You're boring and safe. No one likes that.
>>7725933
a chick asked me for coffee once it was weird and the coffee just made me have to fart which i had to hold for twenty minutes before i could get out of there, i don't even remember the chick i just remember thinking "oh god i hope i can hold this until i get outside"
>>7725952
I once cropdusted times square while on a date with a girl. It was hilarious because they were some rancid protein farts.
>>7725952
You don't have to actually drink coffee when you go on a "coffee date", idiot.
>>7726008
>living inauthentically
just kill yourself senpai
>>7726036
You're the one who does that if you drink coffee without actually wanting it, idiot.
>>7726008
>zizek dot wmv
>>7725967
lol i know those farts well my dude, if i eat those gatorade brand protein bars i get some silent but fetid farts man, i gassed myself one too many times with those and had to switch brands
>>7726058
I always want coffee.
>>7726107
i chug coffee at home but i hate drinking coffee in public in case i have to blast a massive turd
>Cool, a 200+ thread with supposedly a ton of good love stories suggestions
>Turns out it's just people arguing about faggot OP's life
>>7726111
You don't drink enough coffee. Your body should be used to the caffeine that drinking it doesn't cause you to shit your brains out.
How the fuck is this thread still up? No janitors to delete it already?
>>7726122
This is wrong. I've been drinking coffee since my first year of high school and, caffeine still gives me intestinal problems, I would go as far as saying it only got worse.
>>7726228
You're weak
>>7726231
You're ignorant.
>>7726241
I work in education. I'm chugging coffee all day.
>>7726248
And?
>>7726248
>I'm chugging coffee all day
So is every other human in the 21st century
>>7726264
>>7726257
Without any milk.
>>7726281
Only sub-human plebs add milk to coffee.
>>7726281
Ok I stand corrected.
>>7726291
milk is for babies and sugar is for diabetic black guys, drink ur coffee raw fags
>>7725940
This is crushing.
![[visible confusion].webm](https://i.imgur.com/SHanasq.jpg "[visible confusion].webm")
>>7725545
>>7725575
>doesn't post anything
>>7726368
Just google her name. Her instagram is full of pseudo nudes.
>>7726388
Yeah but it isn't the same
>>7726351It's also true
>>7726391
I jerked off to it. So can you
>>7726403
I don't feel like it.
>>7726404
You can do it buddy. I believe in you.
>>7725545
>joanna kuchta
lmao thats a fucking tranny an you're all faggots
>>7726418
No really, I've been going at it too much recently.
>>7724626
so basically all girls stare past you. so the girl can either like him or not like him what youre saying which is basically useless information
>>7726419
All polish women are kinda mannish
>>7722195
underrated post
>>7722542
also, you should know that autism usually leaves people incapable of taking social cues, so don't be calling yourself autistic for over analyzing social cues okay, at worst you are anxious, not retarded or autistic.
>>7727765
He's just socially awkward. He needs to interact more.
>>7722072
>>7722138
I've read the entire thread but I'll reply to these two posts.
You honestly seem like a nice guy. A little bit shy and overly sensitive, but in a nice way that I thinksomegirls will appreciate.
The fact that you've already had girlfriends implies that you can't be too much of a creep as some of the other posters in this thread would have you believe.
You remind me of myself in a lot of ways. Being bullied in high school and the associated traumaas well as other events that you probably haven't revealed to ushave left you with a near-pathological fear of rejection.
Anyway, all I can say is good luck with this broad, whatever you choose to do.
>>7727858
Thanks for the good wishes.
Neil Strauss - "The Game".
>>7727765
>you're not autistic
How would you even reach that conclusion having thread this thread?
If this is isn't sperg-tier behavior I really don't know what is..
>>7721965
read this
Also thank you to everybody who took the time to read and respond. Advice much appreciated. /adv/ have pretty much shadowbanned me from their board.
>>7728588
Why don't you try talking to her later, desu? I walk around with a blank expression 90% of the time too. Have noticed that some of the more outgoing guys and girls will try and talk to anyone and more often than not they're successful.
Maybe said girl likes reading too.
Life would so much easier if I were gay.
>>7725420
now ur just poorly imitating tao
go to bed
