Trans people of /lgbt/:
What is your sexual orientation, and are you attracted to trans people of your preferred gender? (Trans man if you're into dudes, trans women if you're into girls, and both if you're bi)
I've noticed mixed responses here. Some trans people are repulsed by other trans people, some are attracted to other trans people exclusively, and of course, everything in between.
OP here, I'm going to answer my own question.
I'm a bi trans woman. And I'm exclusively into cis men and cis women as of now. I've been told this is "internalized transphobia"... but I dunno. I can be attracted to passing trans people who are clothed, but guys with pussies and girls with dicks turn me off sexually big time. I know that's hypocritical considering I'M a girl with a dick, but I do hope to get bottom surgery in the future.
I guess I could date a post op passing trans person, but the chances of me meeting one and us both being into each other is slim to none, so I don't really count it as a possibility.
And no, I don't expect to find a 10/10 cis bf/gf. I'm realistic. But I can't change the fact that visibly trans bodies turn me off to no end. I don't know what this says about me.
>>6050666
Mtf, 21, 3 years HRT
I like men mostly. Some cis girls, and ftms. Wouldn't date a mtf ever.
>>6050679
Not judging, but why? Are they unattractive to you, or are you repulsed by how the average mtf acts?
Straight ftm here. I could never date a pre-op trans woman. I want to have a dick, but I never want to do anyone with a dick. Dicks turn me off to no end. Like, they disgust me. I find it tough to watch het porn, even.
That being said, I'd be fine (even happy) with dating a trans woman if she was post op, as long as she wasn't hideously repulsive and still pretty submissive.
I'm a trans woman. I'm 23 and have been on HRT for almost 3 years, if it matters.
I don't know what my sexual orientation is. I guess I'm bi? I like cis women (of all sorts), and feminine presenting people of other genders.
I've been with cis women, one other trans woman (who passed better than me), and a couple of cis femboys (at least, I think they were cis). But I've never been a trans man, and I don't think I ever will.
I've found that they either try too hard to act macho and are super masc presenting (which is the ultimate turn off in a guy as far as I'm concerned), or they're fem but completely delusional. I'm talking the ones who wear dresses, eyeliner, have long ass hair, and still are pre everything and expect people to magically know they're a cute femboy instead of a woman. Like, come on. Nothing wrong with being fem, but if you're DFAB and not on t, of course will think you're a girl.
That or fem trans men, from my experience, tend to be gay. Considering I have tits and identify as a trans woman, hooking up with guys (trans or not) who ID as gay seems like a dumb idea.
Sure. I'm a gay trans man and although I vastly prefer cis men since I love dick, I'd date a trans man if I really liked him
I'm a bi trans girl and I'd say I'm more attracted to other trans girls than anything else. I thought I was just your run of the mill chaser guy for a while. I'd date a trans man if I liked him.
>>6050666
Bi-ish mtf
Mostly attracted to men right now, but not overly concerned with how they got that way.
Definitely like other trans women, but they're the only group I've never had a romantic entanglement with. Would definitely give it a shot if I found one attractive in that way.
>>6050686
both i guess
Het mtf here. I'm honestly a huge slut for dicks, and ftm bottom surgery is apparently not 100% there. I've been romantically attracted to trans men but the sexual appeal isn't there.
>>6050666
>not even trannies want to date trannies
toppest of kek. Degenerates btfo
I'm a lesbian trans woman and I'm conflicted about this. I feel a lot more secure with other trans women because they're more likely to understand my situation and also more likely to be accepting of my body. But when I say I like women, that doesn't include hons, which I've found a lot of fellow transbians are. I'm sure there are non passing trans women who are perfectly nice people, but still. I'm not saying you have to pass 100% flawlessly all the time (I'd be a hypocrite if that was the case), but if you literally look like an average man who threw on a dress with no other effort I'm not gonna be into that. As far as personality and looks go, I've had the best luck with bi trans women.
mtf and bi. would date an ftm gladly but would be more hesitant about another mtf, but I won't rule it out. ftms tend to be more well adjusted than mtfs, although I dunno if I'm any better.
Straight people don't like their own gender, I don't see why it's a problem or "internalized transphobia' because you do.
>>6050666
I'm straight and mtf, I'd date ftms.
Mtf here. Honestly no preference whatsoever. cismale, cisfemale, ftm, mtf, whatever. Which isn't to say I don't have standards as far as attractiveness - it's just that if you're attractive, we'll figure out a way to have fun with whatever parts you've got ;).
Honestly, I'd call myself pansexual, if I didn't think that sounds super douchey.
>>6052830
>Honestly, I'd call myself pansexual, if I didn't think that sounds super douchey.
This
>>6050666
MtF, straight, sometimes grills are hot but i don't think i can see myself in a relationship with one cis or trans
I've never been attracted to an FtM and am probably predisposed against them. That said i've never actually met one or seen any? I don't think i'd straight up not date him if the situation came up. If they ever create good dick surgery doe im all over that shit
>>6052771
i think the problem is when you wont date someone of your prefered gender who is trans?
Straight ftm and literally all I want is a qt transgf, she would know the struggle and I have no issue with height (I'm manlet 5'7") or if she still has her peen or not
bi sub mtf leaning towards dom guys
had feelings to a cis-guy and a pre-op transguy so organic penis preferred, though strap-on is still acceptable
i don't generally see women as potential partner unless they are dom and don't expect any musc stuff from me, including the idea of me being the penetrating role. being too fem might trigger disphoria so prefer andro to musc leaning presentation.
i don't get along with trans-women who like to use their penis to penetrate their partner as i usually will end up associating them as cross-dressing men which i suppose it is disrespectful so i will avoid them. will accept if they use stap-on instead of their penis.
im mostly into afab people which is kinda weird i guess, nothing even to really do with the genitalia i dont think
but ya i have a cis gf and i also think trans guys are hot
trans f btw
Bi trans woman that prefers other women. Honestly, I feel like I'd be more comfortable with other trans women than I would with a cis man or woman. Haven't been with a cis girl before tho so I can't say for sure.
As far as guys go, I'd be open to dating a trans man but I'd be worried about finding myself attracted to them because of their residual female traits. Can't really say for sure if I'd be romantically attracted to a cis man. Also open to femboys but a LTR would inevitably have problems if they weren't on some sort of HRT.
Basically attraction level, goes trans women >/= cis women > femboys > trans men > cis men
Comfort level is trans women > trans men > femboys > cis women > cis men
>>6050666
I'm bi so I really don't care. Then again, I just avoid most people anyway so it hardly matters.
>>6050666
Transwoman here. I wouldn't have problems dating people of any gender, as long as they are well adjusted mentally. Good looks are preferred, as everybody does.
The group I'd like the least to date are cis women, not because of her body, but because I've had plenty of bad experiencies with cis women.
Also, I prefer cocks over pussies. But again, nothing wrong with dating a woman with a pussy, as long as she is fun and a good person
>>6050666
I'm MtF and while years ago I probably would have given the "eww icky" response, these days it doesn't make a difference to me (as long as she isn't a ridiculous hon).
>>6050666
Straight trans woman. I'm more attracted to cis men sexually (I guess I like cock lol) but more attracted to trans men romantically (because I find it easier to relate to them and I feel safer/more secure with them. Not that trans men can't be shitty or whatever, but still...)
I don't know where that would leave me. Maybe I should be in an open relationship with a trans man where we're both allowed to fuck other people and sleep with cis men on the side? Yeah I know that sounds slutty I don't really care tho
>>6050666
I personally cannot stand female sex organs. I therefore can only date men and trans girls who do not want SRS.
Trans people don't find trans people attractive because deep down you know you don't look male or female and your visage is insufficient to fool yourself much less others.
Why would you want to date another monster?
>>6059131
Because another "monster" is more likely to understand me ;_;
I'm a filthy transbian, lmao. And I'm like... 99% into butch women. Femme women are cool I guess but I'm pretty much never into them, and on the RARE occasions I am they're more andro leaning.
The reason this is relevant is because it's part of the reason I'd probably never be into another trans woman.
There are a few cis butch lesbians that literally look like grown men, but they're far and few in between in my experience (and one of the ones I met like this was quite literally intersex, so there's that...). At most they usually look like teenage boys, and imo in most cases you can tell they're girls unless you're blind or something.
So many hons claim they're just "butch lesbians". Stop deluding yourself. Possibly less than .01% of trans woman can pull off a butch look and pass. If you wanna do it, fine, but don't pretend your aesthetic is even close to that of 95% of cis butch lesbians.
And yes, I know I'm a transbian too. I'm not claiming to be perfect, but I'm also not cutting my hair short and wearing flannel and growing out my body hair and pretending that I can still look remotely female that way. Like it or not, it's very hard to be gender nonconforming as a trans person and still pass.
>>6059216
Also, lots of pre everything trans men look like butch lesbians (I'm sure saying that is rude, but let's be real, it's true). I've been really into a few trans guys thinking they were cute butches, but as soon as they said they identified as male, my attraction fizzled into nothing. So I wouldn't date a trans man either.
I'm into women, but not necessarily pussies (although I strongly prefer them to dicks). If I met the one in a billion trans women who was butch and somehow managed to still look like a woman, I'd definitely be wiling to give that a shot. But I feel like I'm more likely to win the lottery and then get struck by lightning immediately after. That's how hard it is to look "butch" as a trans woman.
I'm sure admitting this will get me the AG label but whatever. I don't know how to describe my sexuality other than "into vagina", and I'm mtf. Cocks are literally repulsive, including the one attached to me.
That being said, I don't really care about gender identity. If it's possible to be "pansexual" and still just into one set of genitalia, that would be me (minus the fact that pretty much all pansexuals are shit). I don't care if you're a girl, a guy, or even some weird shit like "genderfluid" or "non-binary". If you have a vagina, you're good to go.
>>6050710
Honestly this guy really gets me. If he wasn't planning on getting bottom surgery, I'd be into it. (I guess I'm pretty submissive. I dunno, never really tried BDSM or anything.)
Very drunk Trans woman here. I'm a kink lace and lipstick lesbian at heart and a rave girl. Haven't yet started HRT (year away FML) but I've always loved and been very attracted to bisexual women. I always can spot them it's like a sixth sense. Almost all my female friends are bi chicks just by chance*.
I think it's because they see my soul and I know I can share intimacy and love the way I want during sex and they'll just...they just get it. and we can talk about how attractive girls are together and talking for me is a huge thing.
cis women generally are actively disinterested in me, and "my nonsense". I totally get it too. They can all eat a dick literally and it doesn't concern me. I can't be their friend as a boy, I have never really tried yet as a woman. My peers are all GIRLS and I need WOMEN. They make my skin crawl almost as much as gays or jersey shore creatures. I'm a 125 lbs pretty boy (I could do ballet I am graceful :) Like yeah, I'm not Jacob from Twilight stop assuming *I* want to fuck you. (I mean I would but...you're a cunt)
I've always been largely indifferent to the existence of older gays and lesbians of all varieties desu especially butch lesbian archetypes and "flamboyant" guys respectively. It's the same feeling of indifference when I see a horse or someone walking a dog on the street. I see it. My brain thinks about it, and I immediately forget I ever saw them. Especially couples holding hands and stuff.
Other trans women disgust me. I'm not saying your souls disgust me, obviously I'm friends what I'm going to become soon...but from a sexual perspective, I would be more okay (which isn't saying much) if a gay dude was hitting on me. Being a tranny is gross to me. Fuck it though I'm going to be one just not try to love one.
I know 2 girls who have a fetish for trannys during threeways so it's not like NO ONE will ever love me :)
>>6059131
Because they're still human beings.
And the only monster here is you, a prejudiced bigot.
>>6059393
>>I know 2 girls who have a fetish for trannys during threeways
Do they exist? cis women that are into trannys??
I abandoned all hope of finding something like that, I've already settled for men and the ocassional transbian.
DO THEY REALLY EXIST??
I think you're lying
Mtf here. I'd consider dating another trans girl but she'd probably have to be non-op and okay with using her penis (not crazy about it but okay enough to use it without having a mental breakdown) and have to obviously pass to some extent... not expecting "most beautiful woman in the world" sorta shit but not to look or act entirely like a neanderthal.
But in all actuality I probably never would on account that I think most trans people (including myself) are utterly fucking mental and mixing mental with mental isn't ideal and I doubt it would end well.
>>6050666
I'm ftm and bi, but I like mtfs best desu
I'm ftm and bisexual, I'm attracted to trans and cis people.
>>6050666
MtF, 24, 5 years HRT
I have a bf, i only dated men so far, don't like women in the slightest and consider myself straight BUT there is something about other mtf. I have a mtf friend which i'm strongly attracted to and she is the first woman i think about like that...
it's weird
>>6060010
I'm one right here, cis and all, and I'd take a MtF rather than a cis woman anytime. I just prefer them, I really don't know why.
mtf here
In bi but mostly into girls, don't think I'd want to get with another mtf cause it'd remind me too much of myself. I'd totally date a transdude as long as he was around my height (5'7). I'd only get with a cis guy when I'm post-op, I'd get with a ftm pre-op tho
>>6060980
is she unpassable or has some masculine features?
>>6061119
no, she is absolutely passable. Some would even say stealth...
i thought about that but no, there is nothing masculine i could be attracted to. She's just a wonderful person and, as i said, the first woman i feel attracted to. Maybe it's because she went through the same bs, has similar interests?
idk
I'm 75% into men and 25% into women
I feel no attraction to trans people. Actually, I feel disgust - although I do not dislike them as people.
I find most trans people repulsive. We are just talking about a label that anyone can use as their own. That includes a lot of really disgusting weirdos that would make me uncomfortable being in the same room with them. Most of the trans posters I have seen are as repulsive as neck beard stereotypes that take their hobby too far. I'm not attracted to that at all.
>>6061410
i think most passing and non-batshitcrazy transsexuals think the same of transgender
>>6050666
I'm a mtf myself, and I have a mtf girlfriend.
I honestly don't know if I'll ever repeat it, although I'd be fine with this relationship lasting forever. It's just a lot of work at times trying to get her to not be depressed, but she has been doing pretty good lately. I would probably be willing to get with another tranny if she is both stable and willing to use her dick on my bum. Also cute.
While I definitely like guys and would be most likely seeking one out if I ever become single again, I would not want to date a FTM purely because I really like penis, and it's the main reason I'm even into guys or pre-op MTF trannies. Girls are nice and I have been with them before, but penis havers are just more fun for me and feel better.
A strap on or frankendick (no offense, I call the MTF surgery frankenpussy if that helps) just would not cut it.
>>6061449
Also going to add, sexuality is bi but heavily leaning towards liking penis-havers. Vaginas are okay but I can't really use my penis anymore because hormones have made it useless for penetration. I could probably get with a cis girl but she'd have to be okay with me being pretty submissive. I'm sure I'd get with just the right girl, but it's probably such a low chance to bump into one who exists and fits the right boxes that it just won't happen.
So in practice I'm bi but only into people who were not born as women, except for some rare ones.
>>6061426
Transsexual is just an outdated name. It's more than just batshitcrazy it's also fat men that wear rainbow socks or send pics of their male body. They're trans too and demand their pronouns respected.
>>6050666
MtF, gay, I'd date another transwoman, but only if she passes. I don't really care about physical appearance aside from "looks like a girl". Also wouldn't date if they have no plans for SRS, etc.
>>6061477
i and many friends of mine don't consider those special snowflakes trans
I dislike this one-umbrella bs which are the reason why everyone hates us
I would probably date another trans girl, but she would need to be OK with using her GT on me. Honestly as for a trans guy I probably would but I have no fucking idea about how sex would work, since I ain't interested in penetrating I dunno.
I know sex isn't be all end all but I just really like penises...
>>6061449
This. I am into guys and I don't mind pre-op MTFs.
But I personally wouldn't mind a hot FTM either if he was really masc because while I like dick, a man's body really does it for me too.
>>6050710
yeah. cock are scary. somehow they always end up inside you.
>>6050666
ftms are seriously fucking hot. i dont even like vaginas but damn i want to make out with like 90% of them.
I'm ftm, and straight leaning
while I've mainly dated cis girls, my last girlfriend was a trans girl, and it was by far the best relationship I ever had. Would totally do it again.
As far as dating other ftms go, dunno never been with a cis guy either, but I wouldn't mind if it happened, long as he was nice.
>>6061469
Cough... Viagra.. Cough
