How's your relationship with your father, /lgbt/?
>>6499355
We're alright, but I don't think he knows I'm gay. My family is starting up a plumbing company soon too so I'm not sure how this is going to work out. But he kind of has that "no fucks given" type of personality.
But my dating life is abysmal and coming out when I'm not in a relationship is pretty pointless so I'm pretty much stuck
Good, but I'm deeply closeted.
>>6499355
I get along with him pretty well. He's a little all-around unstable these days and I don't know where I'd fit an official fag confession in, but I live on my own and only talk to him three or four times a year so it's all good.
My father wants me dead and from the way things are looking, he'll likely get his wish I gather
who /deaddad/ here
How do I have a relationship with ash?
>>6499355
i lived in a state of closeted fear because of how my father would feel, only to find out he really doesnt care and just wants me to be happy. i wish i had known that for longer so i wasnt /repressed/ for so long
>>6499355
My dad talked about sitting down my mother and telling her I as gonna be gay given my behavior at 2.
So basically I was treated like the youngest baby girl with three masculine brothers. I'm mean I'm snowflake though and have been since 13.
But yeah my father was over protective but gave me the space to be what I was, he was all about letting black boys have a complete emotional range because the world so does not give the space for that.
Doesn't stop him being gruff, not emotionally communicative and blue collar though. He's my bestie even though he doesn't like my chiperness :3
>>6499493
>tfw this is probably the reason I'm gay
Never knew my dad. And my ex-boyfriend (a shrink) often told me that my faggotry and love for older men, is probably the result of growing up with no male father figure influence.
>>6499498
B-but Ashen One...
>>6499545
Meanie
>>6499355
He died a long time ago and I never really knew him.
Sometimes I worry that I'm not a real homo and that I'm only gay because I didn't have a strong father figure in my life, but then I realize I legitimately like guys.
To my knowledge, he practically doesn't exist.
He's dead.
>>6499355
You fags need to be disowned , take your poz loads to hell .
>>6499355
He was a hippie and made me call him by his given name
This, and other reasons, are why I don't consider him my father except by blood.
He'll always be "John" to me. Nothing more.
Can barely stand each other and I'm disgusted by his views on lgbt people... especially trans people.
Then again i think most of his views on things are pretty fucked regardless.
>>6499463
Nah, mate... unless you're dying from disease... keep kicking... best way to spite someone that hates you for being you is to keep being you and being alive.
>>6499355
HABEEB IT
If he never called me again I dont think id care.
Would miss having him take me around in his car when I needed him though.
He doesn't get the whole trans thing, but doesn't oppose it because he just wants me to be happy.
Really good actually we think a lot alike. Therefor we get along well. He does not not know about this thou.
>>6499355
Distant and slightly tragic. He was pretty absent most of my life, either working or drinking, and when he drinks he gets very belligerent and dismissive. I didn't really feel a lot of love from him even though i very desperately tried.
He supports my tranny ways and loves me dearly but i can't help but get this "you could have been more" vibe from him. It doesn't help that i dropped out of high school with 2 credits left, but that's crippling suicidal depression for you :^)
>tfw qt vulnerable broke dropout trans girl with daddy issues
at least I'm aware of how easy i must look
My dad thinks it's his fault for making me gay because he jerked me off when I broke both my arms when I was 14.
>>6500466
Most recent interaction with the sperm donnor, hey deadname when are you going to give me granbabies like your brother? Him obviously forgetting I'm an infertile mtf who hates her birth defect and would never ever have penetrative sex as the person penetrating.
I'm actually glad he's out of my life.
Didn't even call him on fathers day I normally do.
>>6499355
I resent him and have done so since maybe as early as middle school. He feels he's unwanted and unappreciated. He wants me to do something with my life.
>>6500458
>It doesn't help that i dropped out of high school with 2 credits left, but that's crippling suicidal depression for you :^)
Nearly happened to me too, senpai. Only real reason I graduated was because of some advantages I wouldn't have been able to swing at a normal school.
It would be very poor if he knew i was a tranny faggot
Really fucking wierd. I decided recently that since my parent werent really accepted me being trans id give it up, and now im all settled as a dude. But then my dad called me ma'am and it caught me off guard and then i fucked up yet a fucking gain and told him it was a phase and now hes gonna believe that but now i kinda wanna go back to being fem and its bullshit drama.
Basically im a little flip flopping bitch and its affecting my life
>>6499355
He loves me, we watch pro-wrestling togheter sometimes and he wants me to succeed in whatever I want to do. But I think that the fact that I shave, have long hair and look like a complete faggot dissapoints him sometimes.
My parents were not accepting initially, but two years later it's like they've literally repressed the fact that I'm trans.
I'm 22, have been on hormones for four years. I pass as a woman often, although I'm still in boy-mode because I'm insecure and I'd like to get FFS/VFS before moving forward.
I went out to lunch with them near the beach yesterday and my dad fucking asked me if I wanted to go for a swim.
I have C-cup tits dad. No thanks.
>>6500466
nigger what
We had some rocky times before and after I came out/got outed, but we basically got along and I had a lot of respect for him. He apparently reacted badly initially in private, but not directly to me. After that he seemed to get used to it, was nice to my boyfriends, etc... They'd both known lots of gay men during their lives, but it's different when it's your kid I guess.
This was a long time ago too, so it was probably much more unusual then than it is now.
I think my parents would have been freaked out far more if they knew about the drugs I was doing and the other shady stuff I got mixed up in than they ever were by my love life - not that I went into all the details on that either.
Compared to pretty much everyone I know, I have to say my home was stable and supportive, so I have to find something else to blame for my craziness...
My dad and I rarely talk. Not because of any problems or spite, just because he lives several states away and we are both really bad at keeping in contact with people.
My stepdad is annoying as shit sometimes but pretty alright.
They both have their ups and downs as dads. They both love me and I love them both.
Not sure if they know I'm bisexual or not. I'm not likely to tell them unless they got me drunk and the topic came up because [spoiler]I'm dating a girl right now[/spoiler] so no point in 'coming out'.
>>6499533
Nigga, that's kawaii as fuck .
>>6499533
You sound a lot like my ex. He was just frickin fab. Like he would dance instead of walk.
Thats how i found out i dont like being the manly one.
I recently learned that back when I came out in high school my dad thought it was a phase so he just forgot. I don't have the heart to tell him because a. he's developing dementia and will probably not remember it anyways and b. if he thought that was a phase thing it's not worth explaining
I love my dad but I also think he's a fucking asshole for financially abandoning my family during high school (you know, when you have 3 kids getting ready to go to college - great timing) and then leeching off my mom for the past 5 years. He's in no place to hold a job now so he can't help at all (not that he would - once we're 18 we should be able to pay for college ourselves, apparently). He's basically only alive because my mom is a fucking saint and keeps him on her health insurance even though they're separated (hopefully divorced soon) and he's fucking some woman 10 years younger than him (he's 65 so the age difference isn't actually weird but he's so mentally deficient right now I don't know why you would want a relationship with him. Probably cuz he works out and doesn't have a dadbod like all the other men his age).
I appreciate everything he did for our family financially when we were younger, but other than that he didn't do much "father" things. I've been talking to my brother and sister about it more recently and we've all felt that we never really connected with him. It wasn't that he wasn't home either cuz he had weekends off. It was just that when he was there he didn't try to really spend time with us. The only thing he really did to spend time with us that didn't always include mom was take us to the movies, but really that was because he wanted to see a movie and didn't want to go alone like he normally does. Other than that he was just kinda there.
My siblings and mother and I have also discussed the possibility that he may have Asperger's, which would likely not have been diagnosed when he was a child and also his dumb-ass hick family would probably deny it.
>>6499355
Left when I was 1. Not even a nigger.
>>6499355
Not even a nigger and he left when I was 1
Excellent.Only became close when I got older but we get along very well and frequently get into deep discussions. Him and my grandpa are the only ones to accept me in my entire family.
Also I find the "daddy" fetishes absolutely repulsive and anyone who has them needs therapy.
>>6499355
Haven't been in touch with him regularly since the divorce. He can't be bothered to be in the country, so I can't be bothered to deal with him without financial motivation.
Way I see it, he fucked me out of all the usual teenage stuff by retiring early, so he can go fuck himself.
>>6499493
Here!
I was also physically and mentally abused by my remaining parent so I have issues out the wahzoo
>>6499493
Me. I think it contributed to my faggotry as well.
>>6501667
good thing i have a mommy fetish then
>>6500959
>Not showing off your great rack.
>>6502079
What if she wants her future boyfriend to be the only one to see them?
Good because he doesn't know I'm a faggot
My relationship with my dad is confusing. I mean, he made it clear when I came out that he didn't support my lifestyle, but every now and then he talk about how he doesn't really mind it and won't treat my future boyfriend any different than my sisters' boyfriends.
Then, last year, he straight up fucking told me that if I married a guy, he won't attend the wedding because he can't condone that lifestyle. My mom said the same thing.
>>6499355
Haven't seen him on 9 years.
>>6499355
What's a father??
>>6499498
And so it is that ash seekth embers
>>6501086
Yep. I'm really lucky desu, he was physically abusive growing up and emotionally abusive but like he just didn't have the emotional literacy to deal with his feelings.
He still allowed me to be the sugarplum faggot I was though, he never called me a faggot or a sissy, he let me be a crybaby, he never shamed me except when he called me a whore once for being on like dating sites at 13 (I never met up with guys or posted pics) and watching porn.
He's calmed down over the years because he is so old, we lunch together as often as possible :3
>>6501108
Lol well glad you realized that
He was cool before I came out, like he was a bit of a dick at times, but he was mostly cool. After coming out he mostly pretends that it isn't even a thing. Like he entirely ignores everything to do with me being trans and if I bring it up to him he tells me he doesn't support what I'm doing to my body. I'm pretty sure he's mostly disappointed I don't want to be his manly-dude son and is really scared HRT will make me die young, but seems mostly okay with me wanting to be a girl, like I asked him to pick up some disposable razors and he got me the pink ones whereas my mom(who is more outwardly supportive) always buys me the blue boy razors. I pretty much just mooch off him and my mom though and he doesn't really give me any shit. Doesn't talk to me much either though, but he's a pretty quiet person most of the time.
>People actually fell for the coming out of the closet meme
I hope you guys don't do this. Would it be really worth it?
>>6505569
Yes.
Go away travolta. Living a lie is degrading
>>6507109
But that lie would make everyone happy maybe excluding you but...
>>6499355
long story short, my family dynamic proves freuds point of how homosexuality developes in males. my mother is the bread winner and my father is a people pleasing nice guy.
>>6499550
Iktfb
>raised by single mother from age 12+
>oldest of 4, only sisters, no brothers
>distant from extended family and uncles, no father figures
>few to no male friends growing up
I don't want to come out because I don't want to be a stereotype.
>>6499355
Strained because of his alcoholism. He knows he's the guy who no one likes in the family and I can tell that it bothers him, but I have a hard time getting emotionally close to him.
The moms is great but she kinda ignores the fact that I came out to her. It has never been spoken of by her. She was almost mad that I did it cause it got her in a bad mood. She's usually the selfless and caring one so I expected her to be better, honestly. It'll take time.
My brothers were fuquin awesome about it though. I'm glad to have them.
>>6499355
fine, unremarkable. we get along well but im probably closer with my mom.
>>6502196
it sounds like the boyfriend bit was him admitting that he's going to be a bastard to anyone your sisters go out with too
>>6499355
His father died when he was young and since he always said pretty homophobic things I thought he would disown me for being a tranny.
As it turns out he's helping to pay for transition now. Wish I didn't wait till my early twenties because of the worry.
Really good, actually, because we both want to maintain our father-son relationship. Gonna visit him and my brother next month. Things worked out for me, legbutts, and I hope they work out for you, too.
Weird, wasn't great when I was a teen because I was way more antisocial, when I came out it got awkward like he doesn't know how to treat me and right now it's also a bit tense.
>>6502091
>future boyfriend
>trans on /lgbt/
Anon... I don't know how to tell you this but they are only into girls.
>>6499463
You need to pop his ass. Yeah bitch, snatch his ass in a bear trap. He'll be up hangin from a tree so high, people won't find him for days. Glock glock! Know what I'm sayin?
>>6499493
Me. Mine died before I came out but he was fine with my sister when she came out so....
>>6509724
But anon, I'm trans and I want a boyfriend I'm also clearly on /lgbt/. What do you have to say about that?
>>6499355
he left my mom when she was pregnant with me
>>6509938
>Implying you're real.
>Implying you just haven't found out you're a transbian.
I have been on /mtfg/ to learn a couple of things, one is about being a catty bitch, the other is that no MtF wants a bf.
>>6510163
I don't visit mtfg, kouhai. Moreover, how do you explain MtFs who marry men? And MtFs during the Stonewall era being associated with gays?
>>6509898
As a father I would be okay if my daughter came out, not okay if my son came out. No father wants a gay son, at least with a lesbian daughter you don't have to worry about guys trying to pick her up.
