>Be big (fat, tall) guy
>Skinny nerd wants me to smack him around a little
>Systematically programmed my entire life to believe that my size was a direct threat to the world and the people around me, that I should act small and fold in to take up as little space as possible, that I should move as if on tiptoe over eggshells and that one errant move could cause serious damage to a living being, while being jumped by the smaller guys way back when in school because they wanted to prove themselves and knew I wouldn't fight back out of fear.
>Either get to that point and hesitate, just stopping, or get so stressed that I go elsewhere and handle his pet dwarf hamster just to assure myself that I'm not dangerous - all the while worrying that I'll turn from John Coffey to Lennie.
I don't know what to do.
Help.
>>6240436
Have you considered that perhaps you are just submissive by nature and need to accept that and just go with it?
>>6240602
But what about Skinny? He loves me, loves my size; he wants me to pin him down, take control, and I feel as though I'm disappointing him.
I feel too big to be submissive.
>>6240640
>I feel as though I'm too big to pass as/get away with being submissive.*
I'm way too anxious, too.
>>6240640
Alcohol?
Get drunk with him perhaps.
Also where the fuck did you find a skinny nerdy bf?
Jealous desu
>>6240680
>Alcohol
I guess I could try. But I drink so little - the thought that I might end up being a violent drug sets me on edge.
He's a twig-like, gangly thing with a big nose, but a great guy. Met him at an RPG session, no less, a few years ago. I think I got him hooked on D&D.
>>6240720
>I guess I could try. But I drink so little - the thought that I might end up being a violent drug sets me on edge.
Don't get fully drunk then. Just drink enough to take the anxiety away.
>He's a twig-like, gangly thing with a big nose, but a great guy. Met him at an RPG session, no less, a few years ago. I think I got him hooked on D&D.
I'm still jealous, because I'm more or less the same body type as you and skinny nerds are my thing.
>>6240720
Alcohol isn't going to magically make you evil violent.
>>6241107
It did for some of my family.
>>6240436
>>6240584
Aawwwww I want to cuddle you, like I love sweet carebears :3
Speak with him about not wanting to be aggressive, it's okay Wiz
I'm also fat and tall and you're a complete and utter bitch.
>>6242570
Nothing is wrong with that, leave him alone if you've got nothing to contribute
>>6240436
Why don't you lose weight and become muscular and tall.
That way you feel in control of your size and have a more positive big body image.
If you have a lot of belly fat. That's gonna cause aromatise estrogen. Making you feel submissive.
Once you get ripped. You'll feel a lot more comfortable being dominant
>>6242608
Cuck.
>>6242618
....dude what?
>>6242626
You heard me.
>>6242633
How am I a cuck?
>>6242672
>nothing wrong with being a beta bitch
>>6242689
Not everyone in this world will be assertive
>>6242708
Some will be cucks.
>>6240436
I have had similar thoughts about my size 6' and not slightly built. I was and am concerned about unintentional hurting people. Sex, in my mind, is about pleasuring the other person, and receiving pleasure in return. I have had partners in the past that wanted me to be 'rough' and I was uncomfortable in those situations, as I feared I would hurt them. Perhaps you can find some common ground with this guy. Figure out the things that you are willing to try that he is into. It will be a little uncomfortable at first. You could even establish a 'safe word' if you want to, or ask he to 'tap out' if he is not enjoying, or is uncomfortable with what is going on.
>>6240436
post pics
>>6240640
tell him this
>>6240720
>big nose
oy vey, i guess that explains all of this, then
